TOP REASONS WHY FILIPINA-FOREIGNER RELATIONSHIPS DON'T WORK

[@OneJuanWon]

@ 7:00-7:20 is my Filipina fiancé, she protects me from her family, however she doesn't hide it - we are very transparent and open about everything. She's been the supporter of her family being a business owner so I get the "dependency culture" that exists. We have been in an LDR since the pandemic, we video chat every day, and I've made multiple trips to the PI to visit her. She's very emotionally mature so she doesn't play games or do the tampo thing, and we never argue. We've had disagreements but we talk them out like adults.

[@michaela2838]

Thanks!

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

very generous thank you so much

[@ExtraGuac007]

6. Dating a Filipina with her own KZbin channel.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

definitely can be high risk, depending on the Filipina and the types of guys that her channel attracts

[@Jammer411]

JUST ASK GIOINTHEPHILIPPINES

[@bobkelley8291]

There is another jeepney coming in five minutes so relax.

[@25Soupy]

Ask Gio.

[@garytibo]

I was surprise this week about Maya and Gio …KZbin video are for dreamer... life and relationship are hard everywhere.

[@graemecross3182]

Is maya filipina pea?​@@garytibo

[@CarlWithACamera]

@@garytibonot me. I was Gio’s best friend for two years in Cebu and then went off to Vietnam with him and Reekay and Jason. I predicted he would drop Ging as soon as the pandemic lockdown lifted and I predicted his marriage would not last more than about a year. I also told friends a week ago he’d leave Dumaguete, which he just announced today and I’ll predict he’ll live back on Mactan next. I can read him like a dusty old book.

[@BigBrother04]

​@CarlWithACamera . If Gio was my friend, I would advise him to reconsider his life a bit. He has left one or 2 young boys behind. I know men lose custody and sometimes visitation with their kids after divorce. But at times, if you insist nicely, the ex could give you one weekend a month with your boy or more. While that is not enough, I would suggest it is better than nothing and as you bond with your boy, you might get more days. But also, when dad goes too far away, the kids have a sense of being abandoned. When they know you are a mile away even if they don't see you, they know you are available anytime, should they need you. So the dude should go back to the dude , look for a job and attempt to connect with the boy or boys. He tried women, there is no more to see😂

[@chedelatorresvlog4415]

Great video. Thanks for Sharing! 🎉❤

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Thank you!

[@NorbertFrost]

You are awesome dude! Thank you!

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Appreciate the support!

[@M.Bodark1608]

Very well explained,thank you about the money i thought it was only the foreigners .

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Appreciate that

[@Geoduck.]

Very good advise. My wife and I have been married well over 25 years and are still committed and happy and I find what you say to be spot on! For me Tampo is a deal breaker. Tampo is a selfish control tool that destroys relationships. Over time Tampo can be eliminated but both parties must be willing to work on it.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Appreciate your support

[@troobix_s]

Tampo is the same test women in west are doing. If you react in tampo - she will consider you a beta male that is overinvested in the relationship. Suyo is for simps haha.

[@michaela2838]

I really appreciate the way you outline your thoughts, particularly for what can be a very emotional topic (something us fellas can have a hard time expressing. I'd enjoy hearing your thoughts on the differences, if any, between what brought you to the Philippines and what keeps you there now (and do you feel it will do so in the future). Thanks again for a great video!

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

thank you very much for your support and kind words. Let me think more on that topic for a video. Thank you for the suggestion.

[@gregdixon5848]

Tampo is not necessarily a bad thing. Some foreigners will shut down, especially introverts, if things are going down hill fast. Time heals all wounds especially between lovers.

[@StanHasselback]

When Hugh Hefner was 84 he married a 24 year old girl. When someone asked her why would you marry an 84 year old man she said, "84 I thought he was 94". 🤣 All good points.

[@MarcBjoernholt]

I totally agree with the message of the video. Most westerners, at least Europeans, are not going to accept tampo (manipulative behavior), utang na loob (gold digging), and in Scandinavia, we don't accept social hierarchies either. Personally, I don't get the hype apart from the idea of Filipinos being "relationship orientated" and courtship culture. Those are pretty good. I think that Filipinos have no idea how large the cultural differences are.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Appreciate that.

[@Loigis]

Good information kuya

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Glad it was helpful!

[@johncano3972]

THANKS FOR THE TIPS...

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

No problem!

[@fenderbend3r]

Other than a toxic tanpo (they think suyo will prove themselves they arr trully loved), Although it is with any humankind, The INSECURITIES of a filipina makes it very difficult for foreigners with their relationship. UNbelievable how it is the cause of anything! If they can overcome that, then it is way better to deal with anything because they can talk the right way with respect and understanding. Thank you John for another great video. Appreciate that because it will somehow help and open the minds of filipinas if they are teachable and humble enough to accept this.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

thank you for your thoughts and all of your support my friend. I appreciate it.

[@fenderbend3r]

@@WatchCaliforniaExpat anytime John. Enjoy your weekend.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

@ You too

[@amigo2k10]

My mother use to send money and clothing and all kinds of stuff to her family back then and my father was the only one working at one time and thats in Dominican republic it not just the Philippines

[@25Soupy]

Of course not just the Philippines but that's the country he lives in and the country we're talking about.

[@amigo2k10]

@25Soupy no, I'm just making the point there are other cultures that do this cause it seems like we're just pointing the finger there and hear the same talking point no disrespect to John i think his content is great, but thank you for your useless input and have a wonderful day

[@elephantinrm]

No matter where your girl is from. You must maintain relationships with other women. Not to cheat, to keep your social circle balanced. It’s healthier than hanging out with only men. It also keeps your woman in place. By seeing how easy you have respectful relationships with other women. This well rounded perspective seems to do wonders on the jealousy front. For those who say she could in turn do the same thing. A woman that doesn’t only hangout with other women. Yet stay’s faithful to you. Is much more balanced and interesting to be around. If you don’t have confidence in yourself. This lifestyle is not for you. Simply stay with what’s not working and perfect starting all over again.

[@BigBrother04]

Geez. 😂.

[@mattclark7718]

Where do you tend to meet the 30+ filipinas that are in shape? And thanks so much for taking time to answer questions. Its very helpful for those of us seriously considering relocating to SE asia.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Really everywhere. That's the easy part. The more difficulty part is finding someone who is a great match. That takes time and patience

[@BigBrother04]

BGC😂

[@mountainman3088]

my LDR and I are going on 2.5 years. 10 years age gap. we talk all the time and she tells me everything she is doing. with pics. has taken a lot of work and communication

[@ExtraGuac007]

In the words of Reekay, "After her video call with you, what is she making her boyfriend for dinner?"

[@Rhandlezz]

You gonna learn one day.

[@brianandlynphilippines]

2.5 years LDR? AI will soon fill a very important role for lonely men, hopefully only $9.99 a month to subscribe.

[@Rhandlezz]

@@brianandlynphilippines LOL

[@BigBrother04]

First, 2.5 years isn't a lot of time even if you were married. Thats honeymoon and it is almost always good in those years. Second yours is online, there are lots of frictions that happen in real life and don't happen online. Third I do hope you haven't seen your lady in 2.5 years... cause it suggests one or more of these things: you don't care enough to spend money and time to go to the Philippines for a hug, or you can't afford to take 2 weeks off work and pay 2k to fly over. In either case, it doesn't sound too good and I wouldnt recommend that. Now I might be wrong you probably visit now and then but still LDR are filled with mines especially in this age of social media. Good luck but please refrain from thinking you have a model relationship to emulate. Too soon to tell.😂 Some of us have years of marriage and kids , but we still can't go about thinking we know how it works.

[@jeanclauderoget3756]

Wll done, very good info

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

thank you very much

[@billlloyd9755]

Thanks my California expat friend

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

My pleasure

[@frankmazzie4855]

HERES WHY THEY FAIL.TWO SICK PEOPLE DONT MAKE A WELL RELATIONSHIP..IMATURITY,CULTURAL DIFFERANCES.EMOTIONAL IMATURITY

[@BigBrother04]

True. Most of these guys have had 3 to 5 failed relationships in the past. They are not necessarily marriage material and often lack judgement. Like why do you feel the need to show your wife on the internet. Did you go there to start a family or a business or to be famous? 😂

[@ExpatNTraining]

Isn't it ironic that the dating advice given here on KZbin are filled with people who are married and/or have had failed relationships!

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Are you suggesting that there’s adults who haven’t had failed relationships?

[@marcrichard7251]

Well said….😊

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Appreciate that :)

[@billyjohnson9166]

When you meet the right Filipina, it can be like no other. When both people give in their own way. The reason they don’t work has many reasons. I’m in an age gap relationship and we never had a problem anywhere we’ve traveled including in the U S. Never any dirty looks at least that we’ve noticed. We even did a road trip in an RV for six months in the U S. And never a funny look. I have nothing but good things to say about my age gap relationship. I also dated other Filipinas and I had good luck with great women they didn’t work out for one reason or another. The blame never goes on the Filipina it takes two and I take the blame equally. I’ve never put the blame on my partner. Blaming others doesn’t work for me.

[@markjalessian]

The main reason for failed relationships is always the wish to change the other partner. The relationship must be based on mutual acceptance and understanding, nobody wants to be forced to change. If you're not happy with how your partner is, walk away before getting married or having kids. Learn to love yourself before trying to love someone else.

[@nows1567]

Yeah, for the sake of argument though (and my own experience), I'd say relationship don't end cos of conflict. In the west, at least where I was when I was there, it seemed many longterm relationships ended cos of this mix of gov't, big business and (female) peer pressure. If there was conflict, I'd say it was often privoked by the woman to have a reason to end things. The constant propaganda from the state that men/women relationships usually were "unequal" and a source of oppression of course hardly convinced women to "stand by their man". Spice that with large subsidies, laws and regulations, etc, makibg life as "single mom" way more affordable than in the ol' days and divorce is just "one step away". Adding all the commercial dating sites, clothing companies, real estate agents, social media comlanies and what have you, and you have lots if businesses profiting from separation and divorce. I remember "my" real estate agent spilled the beans once, if it wasn't for separations and divorces we'd be out of business, you know ppl don't die all that often. They may move for other reasons, but you don't need so many realtors for that, a tenth maybe. And last, the peer pressure ladies seem to put on each other in rhe west, basically disregarding men as human beings with their own emotions and needs to belong, instead weaponizing it and be on their "sisters" tails to let them know, they must keave their guy now cos he don't deserve you and that the grass is much greener elsewhere. These are sick societies in my opinion. In the Ph., I agree it's different, it's not the gov't/business run conspieacy as in the west, but there are other factors, like family ties and narcissism. Family ties may seem good, but not if you as the foreign bf/hubby are way down the list of your gal's priorities, while her family is at the top, indeed is not gonna work a long time. Or if the "narc component" is too present, she turns hot 'n cold for no real reason, she brings up other guys to make you feel bad, she goes tampo for reasons unknown, etc, etc. I believe here it's called toxic, whatever, it still signals an inability to have real connections with someone, instead ut just all comes down to zero sum games, and that's in the good cases. In the bad cases you have to deal with insanity and scams. Well, I figure if they hadn't filled up the west with so many young guys from 3rd world countries, ruining the gender balance there, there provably wouldn't be so many "oldies" migrating to the 3rd world, or developing countries, if that sounds better. I figure some filipinas are just overwhelmed nowadays of all the foreigners, not least on social media, looking for romance and what not, while spending lots of dollars 😅

[@luislemos9131]

A world wide phenomenon thats been happening since the beginning of time. " Men get comfortable and women get bored " 1 be financially FIT ! 2 dont lead with the wallet. 3 Remember what Shakespeare said " At night all cats are gray"

[@Robert-Hamm]

Reality. Good work and right on target. When you pick up a 20 something filipina and you are 50 + you simply MUST accept that her brain has not fully matured yet. Its BIOLOGY. 30 to mid thirties is when brains finally become fully mature. Our brains have different visions of the future and even differences in the present according to what stage of physical development they are in.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Thank you Robert

[@ThaoNguyen-jv4up]

Im white american ( my wifes account) i remember when i used to live in vietnam age 20-30 ...my vietnamese wife girlfriend at the time i was 26 she was 20 .. well anyways my vietnamese wife will talk to the girl with a man 50+ in vietnamese....and the girl always told my wife ...." he is ugly and old and i have a real boyfriend or husband...and i love him and give him all this guys money " and then my wife would tell me and we would laugh ( while on a ice cream date or something)

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Thanks for sharing that story

[@BigBrother04]

I think most of those old dudes know. They just get what they need and are ok to pay for it.😂

[@Nicholas808-1]

You should interview Gio about his experience

[@jerrystanley6820]

So right I was married 40 years be fore coming here she died but its not magic its work now 16year gap 9 months together here guess what still work boils down to what are you willing to give and take sometimes also take a look in the mirror now and then good video man

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Appreciate you sharing and I agree we need to take a look in the mirror sometimes too. For relationships to be successful both need to work on it

[@mattclark7718]

Very good video. I think you are a very level headed person. I notice you have buisiness' in the PI. Im thinking about trying a stock trading buisiness over there. Any input on the pitfalls/advantages. Just ran across your channel. You have a talent for this.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Thanks, I appreciate that! I would need to learn more from you about the business, target market etc and I could share more thoughts. Feel free to send message on email in description or Facebook

[@25Soupy]

You're thinking about trying a stock trading business? What exactly do you mean? Do you mean for your own personal money?

[@mattclark7718]

Yes, personal money. Just training a few Filipinos to do the trading for me. American based llc most likely.

[@mattclark7718]

It would be personal capital. US based llc most likely. I would just train a few filipinos to trade for me.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

@@mattclark7718Interesting idea. Finding the right people and creating the right work culture here is the most important part. We hire full time employees that work from our offices here if you want help with recruitment and oversite

[@stephenr2195]

I'd say the biggest reason is for the majority of guys I see it's their 2nd,3rd,4th, marriage. If you failed so badly in your home country, there is a good chance you are going to fail in the Philippines as well.

[@stevenichlson6085]

Thought it was filipino law, that you have to give support to her family

[@JMgmkh]

Maybe ? But I don't believe it's ever enforced.

[@ScaleAutoGarage]

Reasonable support and i also believe it is quite nuanced in how the law is written. Doesn't mean give all that you can but that you have to provide enough for basic needs.

[@stevenichlson6085]

@ScaleAutoGarage yes true, support for food,clothing,medical needs etc.

[@brianandlynphilippines]

If all the other marriage imbalance for men was not enough NOT to marry, this law should be a flashing red flag. Why is marriage so important, when one can be in a monogamous relationship so long as there is love and happiness without Goverment Governance, let them repair roads and stuff, not own your financial and romantic life.

[@davea3329]

CA expat, you said you were previously married to a Filipina. I thought there was no divorce in the PI? How does that work then, you have to stay single the rest of your life unless you are willing to open up yourself to the risk of jail? Don't understand how that works. thank you

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Yes, I understand this topic is a little bit confusing. It is true that Filipino citizens living in the Philippines can't get divorced and can only get annulled. However, Filipino and foreigner marriages can end in divorce. But they need to get a divorce in the foreigner's country, or as in my case, a territory of the US. See more in these videos kzbin.info/www/bejne/r2q4cmZpmZuHfqcsi=t1CwGpCno03YF4rp and kzbin.info/www/bejne/hpS3mGiGr6x4gsUsi=3mbc8lUG3l0TkSvG and kzbin.info/www/bejne/fXfcpYF_bt9_iJosi=wC7v-zvAuc8XU4mX

[@mattclark7718]

I also have another question. Do you run across any 30+ filipinas that stay in shape and seem interested in foreigners? In the US, filipinas tend to have terrible diets and exercise habbits.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

yes, there are many here

[@theverdict4322]

So true on tampo just give her time.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

appreciate that

[@bazoincas12]

Did you get divorced in the Philippines? If how?

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

I got divorced to a Filipina living in Cebu Philippines but the divorce took place in Guam. I explain more here kzbin.info/www/bejne/hpS3mGiGr6x4gsUsi=0I9Co5JAUsjs6UDp

[@tonymccreath4540]

Most not have communication skills to succeed face to face. Very few can be successful LDR! Fact of life, but can be exceptions obviously, but very few!

[@haighton]

@tonymccreath4540 I totally agree !!! PS: Maybe we should come up with a different abbreviation (LDR) and other words. In a real romantic, intimate relationship, there are things 2 people cant do when there is a "long distance" involved. Can we grab a cup of coffee within 60 minutes from now at Bo's Coffee? No, we cant. Can we go and see a movie in a cinema tonight ? No, we cant.

[@graemecross3182]

questions do u think as theres is an increase in western men coming to the phillipines for the desire for filipinas to be with westerners goes down?

[@chocolatecookie8571]

10:11 new meme voice clip! 😂

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Hahaha had to listen to know what it was

[@PapaandLolasadventures]

I disagree. I been married to my Filipina for 17 years. And have many friends who have had successful marriages to Filipina. Chose wisely is the key

[@BigBrother04]

You disagree with what exactly ?😂

[@KMOinT]

1. Money 2. Money 3. Money Etc…

[@anteperic2836]

Hey guys, whether its the US, the Philippines, Europe, or anywhere else in the world... Its ALWAYS ABOUT THE MONEY! DONT BE A DUMBA$$ & think they like you cause of your "personality"

[@JMgmkh]

I'm now too old to be untrustworthy. So sad. 😪😆

[@25Soupy]

Not in the Philippines

[@chocolatecookie8571]

Is this video sponsored by life insurance company? 😆😅

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

I wish haha

[@marcrichard7251]

Are you dating at this point….?

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Yes

[@markl192]

Who cares? There's another bus every 15 minutes.

[@NotinKansasanymore]

OK, this comment may take a minute and I am looking for some advice. I’ve been to the Philippines a couple times I’m not real active on Facebook and social media, but I do have some friends on Facebook that are Filipino about three weeks ago. I got a friend request From someone. I didn’t know female Angela city in the Philippines before I accepted her request. I noticed that she had three few mutual friends with me so I reached out to one of the guys that I’m gonna go see when I first arrive in the Philippines and he said oh yeah she’s all right. She’s just a lot of fun his words so I accepted the request within a moment or two I got a hello how are you? We chatted a little bit and it was all right. I mean it was mostly one word answers from her are very short answers like sure OK oh, I would really like that. That’s funny ha ha ha but no real information was forthcoming and then I proceeded to get a good morning. Text from her random texts throughout the day while I was at work, which is strange I work days which should be the middle of the night for her asking how I’m doing how’s work going And I always got a good night and we have chatted a few times but every time I’ve brought up the idea of a video chatting. She can’t do that. She’s never asked me for money not even for load for her phone. She won’t tell me what she does for a living. I did find out that she did not graduate college. She has seven siblings. She was raised by her grandparents and that she is the youngest one, but as far as getting any real information out of her or carrying on a real conversation with her, it’s kind of like pulling teeth. I’m confused that she like me or not. Does she want to get to know me or not? should I just run help?

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

some Philippines are more communicative than others, and I would ask her directly if she is going to talk more deeply about things and if not, then you may want to consider finding someone who will. There's a lot of Filipinas on the sea.

[@ScaleAutoGarage]

why even wasting your time bro? Do you really NEED that conversation to feel complete? No video chat? Move on. I have led a scammer on for months pretending to chat this way just to see what the end result was and it eventually will end with her trying to sell you something or trying to get you to 'invest' in something. Long Con China scam.

[@25Soupy]

Do you mean "Angeles City" not Angela city? Angeles City it the Pattaya City of the Philippines. Lots of bar girls, there's a good chance she could be a bar girl that's why you are hearing from her late at night her time. I would be very careful and I would keep your expectations extremely low. I've been to the Philippines a few times you know it's best to find a girl when you move there.

[@NotinKansasanymore]

@ yeah sorry for the typo and yes, I do know what Angeles city is, which is part of my concern and the fact that she’s up in the middle of the night when I’m at work during the day and the fact that my buddy said she likes to spend a lot of time with foreigners you know, but he said she wasn’t a bar girlI don’t know I’m lost.

[@fenderbend3r]

Nope,never even talk to girls from Angeles city. It is the Louisiana or Vegas city of the Philippines. They are very liberated. Girls wearing too showy of their bodies is just a waste of your time. Dont give yourself a headache.