toxic parent doesn’t respect your boundaries

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[@JennifuhhGilardi]

Actually you sure are able to tell toxic parents they don’t deserve to see YOUR child, and never forget it

[@Starry9593]

Exactly, you always have a right to tell them no

[@ilikemetoo3088]

Yesss you​ said​ it

[@cgt212ify]

This when I move away and don’t tell anyone but my closest friends and telatoves

[@hannahllewellyn163]

Agree

[@anthonylazzara9785]

I love how true that is

[@blackstardust1674]

My grandma is the complete opposite. She always said it’s great that you are socializing, I am always here for you. I always feel guilty but she never makes me feel guilty.

[@snerixx]

We love those types of grandmas 🥰

[@bass.beats.basics]

W GRANDMA FRFR

[@lost.cities]

Dam. Ur so lucky, my moms side is nice but my dad's side.. i hate her and my whole dada side . Bruh I'm gonna rant on a random comment that is very unnecessary and not asked for haha again so I'm just gonna go

[@blackstardust1674]

@@lost.cities I am sorry both my grandparents are amazing! They also get along and play cards together and we always do the holidays together. Also no problem rant as much as you want on a random comment! 🥰

[@_g0n3_]

@@lost.cities same my mom’s side is great but my dad’s ehhhhhhhhhh….

[@krystlepoulin6382]

Toxic grandparents often mistakenly believe there is a law allowing "Grandparent Rights" for visitation. Those rights only apply if one parent wants contact and the other doesn't. If both parents agree to limited or zero contact, the grandparents have zero rights to overturn the parents' decisions.

[@tiffanysalling4272]

believe it or not there is such a thing. California has this and grand parents can sue for visitation rights - but its rare that a judge will sign off on it.

[@Random_Girl_Is_Here]

Fact that she doesn’t knock before coming and shows her disrespect😂😂

[@Playtime072]

If you don’t live there knock.. After I moved out of my parents house I would knock and wait to be invited in.. It’s called respect..

[@dietotaku]

the fact that you said this when my mom JUST came over for my son's birthday last week and walked right in without knocking... i was expecting her so i didn't think much of it but my dad still knocks and waits for me to let him in...

[@beeziebubs2756]

Remember kids, not even family members are allowed to stomp all over your personal boundaries. You shouldn’t be forced to hug gramma, aunt sharyn or uncle Bob, or even your own parents if you don’t want to.

[@Brothersam]

Soooo.....when a child grows up into the world and has bad relationships because they've never learned how to express themselves emotionally through physical means, that's ok to allow them to fail? Forced hugs are necessary; in times of great stress or sorrow there are moments when someone doesn't WANT a hug, but they NEED that close physical contact. Hugging, in a loving and nurturing way is a way to show emotional connections between people. It's not just a social thing, it's a bond that forms through close contact. The smell of a perfume or cologn, the grip or softness of an embrace. Nothing beats a grandparents hug after not seeing them for a while; or the gentle caressing hug of comfort from a mother after you get hurt. Or the tough but sweet hug of your father as you both cry because of a fight, an accident, or a passing of a loved one. To set up boundaries like this sometimes, just because a child feels uncomfortable, is unhealthy in some aspects. It's ok to learn boundaries, but it's also ok, in the right manner, to force some physical contact between people, especially when it's a child who doesn't fully understand why there needs to be a hug. Sometimes I didn't want to hug my older relatives; but looking back now, at all those that I haven't seen in ages and those that have passed, I think back fondly to those hugs. Hearing them laugh gently as they understand it's family that makes us happy in life.

[@gordo20]

​@@Brothersamexactly. and people should never treat their mothers like this...

[@Brothersam]

@Gordo I can't say never because there are some mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, and infinite relatives that are cruel, manipulative, vile, twisted, and evil towards the family attached to the child. It may not always be directed AT the child, but it could be channeled THROUGH the child to use them as a tool of destruction. Sometimes families need to be cut off if they are harmful to the healthy upbringing of a child. In my opinion, it always goes mother, father, child. To child grows to adult, to adult meets adult, to adult, adult, and child against the world. It doesn't mean you push your mom and dad, or other family away; but it does mean you re-prioritize your levels of importance to bring your partner, as long as it's a healthy relationship, and child to the front and center. Technically, everyone else can fall to the side, because your main goals should be each other and your children; THEN, after that's taken care of, you can focus on your EXTENDED family

[@beeziebubs2756]

@@Brothersam don’t fucking force physical contact on someone that doesn’t fucking want it. Forcing a child into physical contact with an adult when they don’t want to isn’t teaching them how to express their emotional through physical means; it’s teaching them that heir boundaries don’t matter over what an adult wants/expects from them. Teaching a child to allow others to stomp all over their boundaries just because isn’t the lesson you think it is. Don’t fucking touch a child that doesn’t want to be touched.

[@silvxrjae]

@@Brothersamthis doesnt apply in all situations though. sometimes forced hugs inflict the child in a negative way, rather than positive. giving kids a choice when they’re young sets up a healthy foundation in setting boundaries.

[@silvxrjae]

we recently cut off my grandparents and my nana was EXACTLY like this. show up unannounced and act privileged, like she was the main character. gaslighted us. guilt-tripped. she was terrible to my mother as a child. she even threatened us with “grandparents rights” when she never even made an effort to love us. she was horrid. glad we cut her off.

[@JennifuhhGilardi]

Grandparents rights are literally not even a thing, as ruled by the Supreme Court so jokes on her regardless

[@silvxrjae]

@@JennifuhhGilardilmao. she was hella petty

[@PixelMochi]

@@mariehoude513 You need to relax , because did it ever occur to you that they're obviously not from the country you're from?Grandparents rights are NOT a thing in the US.

[@thecelticcrone7927]

I have a [unisex] nickname for them…I called mine the GrandMonster. 😂😂

[@alyssariceYT]

​@@PixelMochi pretty sure Marie was asking for reassurance because they're currently going through court with grandparents rights. They weren't doing anything that would make them "need to relax"

[@goreyval]

it doesn't matter who you are as a relative, if someone doesn't feel comfortable hugging you- you respect that.

[@noneyabiznazz]

I will never be ok with having a 9 year old child that wants "high five only affection ". Something is very wrong (and likely ongoing) in a home that has young ones whom cannot bear to be touched more than a hand slap ...including their mother! I think it's insane that everyone is saying a 9 year old should have such boundries respected. If my child ever asked me to not touch them and only give a high five when I felt the desire to tell them I love them I would be on RED ALERT that something or someone has caused some trauma. A hug from a LOVING momma is just the beginning of what is NEEDED in their life. Fix it right then. .. figure it out and get on the road to recovery in therapy or something from the moment they tell you they are uncomfortable with you or anyone else touching them out of the blue. That's no way to live life and no way to be a child. Ugh my stomach hurts with all yall thinking it's perfectly normal to go high five only with a 9 year old. They need a hug and likely grandma cause moms not ok if the kids are this way

[@scavenderbird]

​@@noneyabiznazz OR some people just don't like hugs. Doesn't mean that they have some sort of trauma. You sound like a type of person who would say: "You were probably r@ped" to an asexual person

[@a_j_all_day7382]

​@@noneyabiznazz if my kid says "don't touch me" and someone tries to touch them anyway, best believe you will never see that child again until the child requests otherwise.

[@marissahalker5383]

​@Utubekeepschangingmyname people are different. And autism exists. If someone doesn't like touch they don't like it

[@GreenPent]

@@noneyabiznazzI had a stroke reading that

[@DBfan106]

Reminds me of a moment only a few months ago that I was really proud of myself for. my niece's kid is about 2 years old, earlier this year he and his parents were leaving and when he got to me he didn't want to give me a hug, so I asked, 'can I get a high five instead?' he grinned and gave me a high five. when I was younger I would have been hurt and sad about this 'he didn't want to hug me' would have really hurt my feelings. but I'm proud of myself that I learned, grew, and respected the fact that he just might not want to hug certain people.

[@YourVeteranREALTORS]

This is great! I don’t particularly love physical contact, so I rarely hug unless I choose to. I think that also makes hugs more meaningful because it means I truly wanted to hug someone.

[@that_pan_chick8650]

This is the EXACT reason I went completely no contact with my mom. She would take my daughter for one night a week and tell people she was raising my kid for me. She would call her “my baby” I knocked my mothers teeth out when she showed up with a cop telling them that she was the mother and that I was a disgruntled family member. My mom is now in jail for a number of reasons and will NOT be seeing my daughter again.

[@Soulxstar]

Sorry to say but your mom is insane

[@addichilds2009]

That is so horrible, I hope you and your child are ok now ❤

[@EmJJ86]

Wow that’s incredibly messed up! I’m angry for you reading what she did, I hope it hasn’t affected you and your daughter too badly xx

[@lifeasrini]

The only part of that story that's good is the part where you knocked her teeth out ... Well done ❣️💐

[@pheonixriver]

Oh my 😳😯.. *Jinkies*

[@genera1013]

"You don't get to tell me I can't see my grandchild" As the parent, and legal guardian, yes they can. They can even call the cops because you technically just broke in.

[@mandeekeefer6151]

Exactly! And because my mom and my mother inlaw can't respect boundaries, they don't get to be involved

[@candacel3305]

The messed up thing is that some US states have grandparent rights where they can see your kids, whether you like it or not.

[@alicep5475]

Exact thing I had to tell a very emotional mother of one of my students just a few weeks ago. She was scared to tell me that she's changing the documents in school, to not allow her mother to take her daughter from school, cause she was being very hurtful and threatening to take away her legal guardian role. That mom takes care of her daughter, it really shows. So, if you are a parent and a legal guardian, you are allowed to keep toxic people out of your and your child's life. Even if they are family

[@redribbon2]

​​@@candacel3305 ikr

[@tabitas.2719]

​@@candacel3305 Those usually apply once the parent no longer has custody (or has died), to give them a chance to stay in contact; however, as long as the parents are alive and well, they get to say. I was recently educated on this. :)

[@lala-kiki]

YES! THANK YOU! I'm someone who is pretty uncomfortable with most types of physical contact, I only let my mom hug me and even that happens like rarely. Thankfully, my mom respects my boundaries and always asks first.

[@Rubyroo0725]

Painful watching this one. I grew up with that and much worse. Protect your kids. If they tell you they don't want to see grandma, don't just dismiss them, ask questions. Be observant and don't ever choose your mother over your child in this situation. The damage is real. ❤😢

[@bodyhairpositive9485]

I hate adults who pressure and guilt trip children into hugging them. It's disgusting.

[@Starlight_16]

Yeah, my second didn't want to go to my MIL (or many ppl really) as a baby/toddler, so we never made her. She eventually would seek out hugs with certain people, but not until she felt comfortable and ready. Thankfully my MIL understood and never ever pressured her.

[@thatperson2478]

Hugs are part of it and make you build a bond with family as a child. You don't get to choose if you can leave the dinner table early either.

[@maura_edwards]

@@thatperson2478 personally, while I can see where you’re coming from, I disagree. As the video said, the child in question had other ways to bond with the family, like high fives. The grandmother refused to accommodate to the child. Even though children are still kids, they can say yes and no and stop. There’s other ways to bond and not realizing and accommodating is ignorant. PS I know this is a fake situation, but it can and does happen

[@lavender_bee103]

​@@thatperson2478 can't choose to leave the dinner table early 💀 bro really thinks that controlling every aspect of a kid's life is bonding... bonding is letting your children set boundaries, especially with physical things. also, if someone is done eating and doesn't want to talk anymore then they can leave the table, there's no point in keeping them if they're just going to sit there and do nothing.

[@dragonire_dino0856]

​​@@thatperson2478 you should never force somebody to hug you or someone else especially if it's your kid. Some people just don't like being touched and that's completely okay. There are more than one ways to bond and show affection that doesn't include touching somebody.

[@Tahmora]

"you don't get to tell me I can't see my grandchild" lmfao watch me.

[@wym.jayus.]

Fr tho

[@Kirylyn]

Pretty sure she can Get a RO since mummy dearest has no qualms just walking into the house even after being told NO

[@thelongestcomment2001]

Exactly

[@waroftheworlds2008]

Calls the police department. Yes, I have an uninvited guest that won't leave. Can you come trespass them for me?

[@jaeydnheeren]

no cause literally, i will bar people from seeing my future possible children if they dont respect boundaries

[@SvetlanaDostoevsky]

My prayers go out to you. I recommend changing the locks if she has a key, that way she won't be able to get is without you letting her in. The whole mindset of "you're my child so you belong to me" or thinking that your child ows you something for bringing them into this world, is absolutely disgusting. If anything, your parent owe YOU.

[@bambiblack292]

At that point I would call the cops for trespassing

[@jkdonnie23]

"boundaries are stupid and don't exist in my children or people under the age of 18." - My parents

[@yashvieanchalia9996]

same it's soo infuriating

[@ShuYaminoSimp]

Tell them if they were below 18 and a person told them that they should not have boundaries what would they respond with? I did that to my toxic parents and they left me alone

[@rayhaansurtee4086]

W ur parents

[@funnynoobking3959]

“THIS IS MY F***ING HOUSE YOU DONT PAY BILLS I AM THE ADULT AND I CAN ENTER YOUR ROOM WHEN I F***ING WANT” -My stepdad

[@Axe_84]

To relatable

[@bethlanious4092]

When my kids were little and we’d be leaving a family members house I’d always say, “go give so and so a hug.” And my daughter was always kinda shy about it until one time she just stopped and I’m like “come on. Go on.” And my BIL said “no it’s ok. Don’t force her if she’s uncomfortable.” That struck me so hard and I never forced her to give hugs ever again. She’s now almost 16 and the only person she hugs is my mom out of respect. I was always so thankful that someone brought to my attention what I was doing. It essentially telling ur children that if someone wants physical contact, they are not allowed to deny that contact.

[@addichilds2009]

That’s amazing that you realized what you were doing and stopped, a lot of people aren’t capable of that.

[@bethlanious4092]

@@addichilds2009 Thank u. I appreciate that.

[@Caveman_brain]

Man I wish I had this. My parents would always guilt trip me into hugs and saying "I love you" to family members I had literally just met. Not only did it make me have trouble saying no, but it also made "I love you" almost completely worthless and something you have to say as a social transaction, not because you want to.

[@sss49838]

Thats amazing

[@mintyblossom3930]

That’s an amazing thing tbh. It’s so hard for some parents to understand that their children are not theirs to control and we have thoughts and feelings that don’t include them. If I ever didn’t give my dad a hug, it’s hard to explain how bad things would get

[@Vitya568]

The hug thing with the child, the way the mom made a substitute for it. I am so thankful for that little showcase, i dont like hugs either. They make me very uncomfortable, so i'm glad some people know how to handle that correctly

[@KathiEOSp]

I don’t get grandparents saying shit like, “You don’t get to tell me I can’t see MY grandchild!” It’s NOT YOUR KID! HOW do you not get that??

[@Emotions-Error-]

“She doesn’t like hugs so we use high fives as a replacement-” “Oh- is that right? Is mommy telling you you’re not allowed to love grandma?” Made me realize my family is kind of toxic cuz that would happen a lot at family gatherings but my mom would tell me to hug them if they wanted it even though she knew I didn’t like hugs

[@PsychoSplash]

Is it still like that??

[@Emotions-Error-]

@@PsychoSplash not as much now she allows me to stay home cuz ✨social anxiety✨

[@guitargirl1517]

My mom still does. And I'm 23 💀

[@gissela-gk3oz]

ngl I don’t like hugs I only like them from people I am really close to I don’t like it when my friends try to hug me

[@madplayz4077]

​@xXQueenXx👑💋 what a beautiful thing ✨️social anxiety✨️

[@dwolly4453]

you know she’s a good actor when you want to drown her through the screen

[@nightflame69]

Right? I’ve actually had family like this. Restraining orders can work wonders

[@Sealington]

yes, i do agree.

[@THEREALDuoliongo]

​@@nightflame69 ah yes, i just imagined the grandma in this video having a restraining order against her, so satisfying

[@torrellallen3165]

Yes fr. I get so heated watching her videos😂😂 then I have to remember it’s just a skit😂😂

[@Airytheone]

yes lol

[@the_dead_knight3]

The mom CAN tell whoever they want that they can't see your child, it's HER kid and it's HER job to protect and nurture them

[@notnow2230]

This is way too relatable. Family members will say “ oh we are family it doesn’t matter!” IT ALWAYS FUCKING MATTERS

[@nikkidimick947]

You absolutely CAN tell a toxic grandparent NOT to see YOUR children. Ffs.

[@carnifaxx]

In some countries (I'm not sure if that's the case of USA), grandparents can take it to a court and get some sort of legal access to your child (the point of view is that if the child has a relationship with their grandparents, parents cannot just completely block it for "no reason", because the child has a right to know their relatives and continue with the relationship).

[@InsanityVirus]

​@@carnifaxx pretty sure that's not the case in the US. Might get morally judged, but on a legal standpoint, they really have no leg to stand on. I think the only time they do is when they're trying to become a legal guardian, but that's only if after some major shit went down like hard abuse.

[@HaYlEeXx19]

Cept if the state has grandparents rights

[@supagirl277]

Yep. Screw the parent who believe they literally own their proginy

[@nikkidimick947]

@Carnifax grandparents rights are hardly given. Especially if both parents are physically alive.

[@ultratog1028]

"Well if grandma doesnt get a hug I will just take back this present" "Actually we are teaching our daughter that they don't have to let themselves be touched by other people if they don't want to. Give her the ability to not be a victim."

[@Nuckabuc]

Daughter grows up and does hardcore OnlyFlans. When asked why she states "I wasn't shown enough affection as a child. One bad day when I was eight I told my mum I didn't want to be hugged. To this day she only gives me high fives. At my first wedding, the birth of my first child, when my dog died, bad break up or a failed an exam. High fives only. From a boundary I established when I was eight... So now I gobbles whatever wobbles, do the Dubai and try not to cry, and whenever the work is done everyone gets a high five. Thanks Mom! " 🙄

[@banewhyse]

​@@Nuckabucum

[@Nuckabuc]

@@banewhyse what? She's not a victim. 🖐🏾 High Five?

[@banewhyse]

@@Nuckabuc you're talking about the 9 year old??

[@dusksunsetio6042]

@@Nuckabuc Why are you pissed that a 9 year old doesnt want hugs and making up a scenario about her having an onlyfans when she grows up? The hell is wrong with you?

[@deborahholland7274]

I do not visit my granddaughter unless I am invited by one or more parents. This is a boundary I have set. I get to see her at least once or twice a week,its amazing quality time and respects everyone's right to privacy and boundaries.

[@szigtema]

The number of awful parents who are absolutely MIND BLOWN upon learning that their bad behavior, both as a parent & a grandparent, is ample reason to be cut off from those grandkids they feel SO entitled to, is just such delicious karma.

[@helRAEzzzer]

Upon hearing, "your boundaries don't apply to me," I'd kick her out, even if I had to call the cops, and never speak to them again. I've cut family off for less.

[@recycledwaste8737]

Based and "blood don't mean shit" pilled.

[@nakedowl1]

I got some version of this from both my parents, all my siblings, and one of my adult daughters. I cut ties permanently with all of them. My only regret is not doing it sooner.

[@trystenbelanger5275]

You sound like you had a sad life. I hope it gets better for you.

[@chesneymigl4538]

The problem is growing up hearing that, you believe it. So many not good things happen when folks think rules don't apply to them.

[@caidalee1994]

“You can’t tell me not to see my grandchild” before she’s your grandchild, she’s my child. My word is last.

[@cosmicreef5858]

Or that they are THEIR person. You protect THEM. THEIR lives THEY have the last word!

[@DeathnoteBB]

“I can, actually, since you don’t own either of us.”

[@juliaithinal4835]

I think you mean first. You word is last means you don’t really get a say.

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@juliaithinal4835 They meant “final”, as in the final word, the last word

[@juliaithinal4835]

@@DeathnoteBB man, English is confusing. Iv spoken it my whole life and still don’t get it.

[@ListerMean]

Your videos cause me deep emotional pain from having had to live through many of these situations myself. Not a criticism. In fact quite the opposite. You capture the essence of toxic people well. It’s almost scary. I don’t know whether that speaks to your talent or your experience but in either case I’m glad you make your content

[@llamaporg282]

One of my friends who have autism had to go through a similar experience. He is not comfortable with psychical touch until he is the one that initiates it. His aunt even after knowing this would always guilt him into hugging even when he was very stressed. I’m sure she meant well but even at Christmas I could see some red flags as well as the experiences he shared. I asked him if it was okay to share his story and he agreed as he wanted to give this message. “Make sure to surround yourself with people that respect you and your boundaries, communication is key to any relationship, romantic or otherwise. Even if they mean well it’s still important that you don’t make yourself so uncomfortable things just so you don’t disappoint” any way everyone have a wonderful day ❤

[@bruhmoment5974]

'one of my friends who has autism' i think you mean 'one of my friends who's autistic'

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

"You don't get to tell me that I can't see MY granddaughter." and the answer is "well she's MY daughter and I'm HER mother so YOU can just either respect that or leave." You're the parent and you make the rules.

[@dee_dee_place]

I would have left it with "Oh the hell I can't" & then I would have thrown Grandma out of my house, slammed the door in her face, & locked it. My Parents would call my Sisters & ask, "when can we see the Grandkids?" My Sisters would then set a convenient time for them to get together. I just don't get people who do this. Either they have mental health issues or too much damn time on their hands- ugh for the latter reason.

[@Hushlittleone]

@@dee_dee_place I don’t think most 70 year olds have jobs…

[@Hijklmnop]

My grandparents just say there coming over and don’t even ask first! Then when they show up they act like b**chs! They insult me on my weight, appearance, the way I act and speak. Like b**ch nobody asked y’all to be here if you don’t like it then leave 😓

[@arakwar]

@@Hushlittleone Then they should stop being lazy, stop expecting everyone to pay for them, and get a job. What a bunch of entitled people.

[@ishan_13730]

Well the Grandma is the mom's mother and she doesn't need permission from her daughter for anything

[@lethalprincess2087]

And when she forces you to say, "Good morning," and then immediately deem you a rude child if you don't, despite the fact that you just woke up and can barely open your eyes yet 💀

[@lethalprincess2087]

@@Eli20156 I understand that. I'm Autistic, so I don't like to be touched that much, which results in me jumping and flinching a lot as well. My parents thought I was raped or something and never told them, but it was just because they didn't know I was Autistic 😆😅 but we ended up getting a formal diagnosis after my dad's death, and my grandma has yet to come to terms with it 😑🙄 so I get it, parents and grandparents can be strange at times and just downright terrible. But whenever I see stuff like that, and they act badly towards me, I just say, "Thanks, now I know what NOT to do with my own kids, you intolerable piece of crap-" and dw, I never called them crap before, but in my head? Bet. 💀

[@lethalprincess2087]

@@Eli20156 but I'm sorry she says that you ruin her day.... That's not true when she was asking for a problem by doing something she knows you don't like. Her day was ruined the moment she thought it was a good idea to provoke you. Again, she was asking for it. You didn't do anything to her. And it's also okay to sleep when you're on meds. I'm on two rn, and one makes me very, very tired, while the other one quenches my appetite and apparently loves to give me free headaches I never asked for. But it's okay. You're allowed to sleep, and she shouldn't be giving you jump scares like that. That's what horror films are for, not your parents.

[@janb.9046]

My mother 100%

[@hayli209]

That’s all the older people in my family ☠️

[@coffinbug]

LMAO my grandma would always tell me i was impolite even though 99% of the time i was a very polite kid but she would say "you weren't enthusiastic enough" 💀

[@awg7068]

I am SO happy to see the younger generation holding up healthy boundaries!!

[@The_official_Elle]

As someone with anxiety it’s very hard for me to set boundaries, the fact that a nine year old can express her wants and needs is very heart warming ❤ love your vids

[@IsomerMashups]

"You don't get to tell me that I don't get to see my granddaughter." "Actually, I do. And the fact that I'm justifying your exclusion rather than calling the police is a privilege I'm choosing to afford you."

[@Alita_N99]

Oooh i like that 👍

[@GreyPunkWolf]

Exactly. Trespassing and harassment are legally reprehensible, it's literally mercy to not call the cops in situations like these, because they'd definitely be on your side as soon as they show up at YOUR place.

[@GreetMyMeat]

“You don’t get to tell me I’m not allowed to see _my_ granddaughter.” Actually, I do. Get out

[@ruqayah7232]

Like literally YOU GAVE BIRTH TO HER😭😭😭

[@raileighsartain7306]

Im glad my mom never treats me or my brother like this, she always respected our boundaries and im confident that when we have kids that she'll respect her grandbabies boundaries too, things like that make me happy that my kids wont have to deal with my biological dad when they're born, it truly messes with your confidence in setting and enforcing your boundaries

[@girlgamer2804]

I do this with my nephew. Whenever we see eachother or say goodbye i ask for a hug or a highfive

[@Half-Homo-Homosapien]

as long as you don't force it after he says no that is not the same thing

[@user-kz7pe8di7e]

I’m glad most new parents will teach their kids about respect and boundaries because previous generations have never heard from mutual respect and it shows.

[@chesneymigl4538]

Yes! And that's the generation doing the most complaining about it. Sorry! Your entitled ass doesn't get to just do whatever you want to me anymore. Guess that makes me a snowflake.

[@saturneditsss]

true

[@_OddFrogs]

i was minding a young child not long ago and he was trying to show me something that was high up but the point wasn't coming across. I went to pick him up so he could better point it out and I immediately asked him first "is it okay if i pick you up" I know it snot a big deal but it felt important to me growing up always told i have to hug and kiss EVERYBODY when arriving or leaving a venue and it didn't matter if i liked it

[@soulsreaper7145]

@@_OddFrogs yeah u woulda been way better off if u never even went to them gatherings. maybe they shoulda shunned u instead of showing u love. i bet that woulda done wonder for ur mental health. how miserable ur parents are for making u show affection to loved ones. even though its been proven that baby's/kids that receive physical affection from humans turn out much better then those that are treated like a lab experiment.

[@kittycat6007]

You know what is weird, thinking logically i find this so true but i still feel like this is too much to ask for myself and like it's wrong :c i feel selfish for asking boundries and think no what do you mean boundries? She needs to listen to the grandmother! And when i see comments like that i feel so glad there are few who can see the logical side of this and act upon it to change things and not accept it because i guess i can't...

[@Zero-dead-]

People who force kids to hug them are weird people. Like why are you forcing or coercing a child to hug you? If they say they don’t want to hug you, then they don’t want to and you should respect that. Just because they’re little humans doesn’t mean you’re allowed to disrespect them.

[@thatperson2478]

If it's your grandma you should hug them eventhough you don't want to. You have to get used to physical affection and not fully isolate yourself. Imagine being an adult and never having hugged people, not even close family. That is some intimacy issues coming right up.

[@Andrew-it7fb]

​@That person Forcing physical contact on a child can cause intimacy issues.

[@mr.snippy]

I ALWAYS hated that growing up. And then as an adult, having family members force their kids to hug me was so absolutely unbearable. The kid didn't want to hug and neither did I but the parents would be pushing and forcing and the whole thing was just so awkward.

[@lavender_bee103]

​@@thatperson2478 forcing a child to go against their boundaries is abusive and only allows for the child to be taken advantage of later in life, or even worse, makes it easier for a pedophile to hurt them. if you dont see why that is, you shouldn't have children.

[@Panzystubbedtheirtoe]

One of my major fears became a major fear of mine because of a forced hug lmao 💀💀💀

[@elliotpayton1033]

As someone who hates being touched by other people (without permission), THANK YOU.

[@Crystal2cute4u]

I need a freaking part 2 asap

[@thelongestcomment2001]

My grandmother was always the one protecting me from these kind of ppl. Love her Thx for the likes beautiful ppl

[@ggmochie2615]

i love your name and pfp lol they're great xD

[@thelongestcomment2001]

@@ggmochie2615 thank you!

[@GUSTYKidKrowlostinFolklore]

Awe glad to hear you have a great relationship with ur grandma!

[@thelongestcomment2001]

@@GUSTYKidKrowlostinFolklore Yea I miss her. She passed a few weeks after I made this comment unfortunately

[@GUSTYKidKrowlostinFolklore]

@The longest comment Omg I'm so sorry for ur loss stay strong sand I'm sending lots of love to u

[@H.G.Halberd]

"You cant say that i cant see my granddaughter" "yes i fucking can"

[@themonsters5467]

Look up grandparent visitation statute if you live in the States. Had one of my grandparents threaten to get the court involved. Great way to burn bridges.

[@orangesfpop]

@@themonsters5467 depends on the state tbh. in California, parents have the right to deny a grandparent from seeing a grandchild unless either parents are unmarried/married with separation. If they're married and together, grandparents cannot go to court for visitation status. but yeah, shit stinks with awful grandparents

[@amandaaument3004]

Lol, actually, grandparents apparently have a right to see them. I found this out this week.

[@mikewyer33]

This lands hard. Well observed. Boundaries are so important (and so hard to maintain for someone who thinks they don't apply to them)

[@Nobody_To_Be_Found]

“911 what’s your emergency snerixx ?”

[@izzyq9200]

This may sound weird but, you're not entitled to affection from your relatives. If you make your daughter, son, grandchild, etc. uncomfortable they are not required to smile, respect and love on you.

[@sadespain01]

This

[@alakazamlover4908]

amen ^

[@milkshakecalico3877]

Honestly this video resonates with my parents so much- I feel discomfort on a whole new level watching this lol

[@szigtema]

100%

[@RialVestro]

The fact that sounds weird to people is why I prefer weird and hate what is considered normal.

[@mikalamcgowan]

I was shy and didn't like "peopling" when I was younger. My great grandma (who had a cleaner help her around the house) would tell her cleaning ladies that the pillow on the floor in the corner behind the chairs was for me, that was my spot, and not to move it. I didn't know she ever did that for me until she was gone, the pillow just showed up in the corner one day and I never thought anything of it. She was an amazing lady.

[@randomnumber27]

Nah man that's just adorable sorry for your loss tho

[@Persphone_cabin]

this series makes me feel rage like no other I love your acting

[@LoveValentineXO]

I've never been comfortable with hugs, but it's part of the culture I grew up in and I've just had to learn how to be okay with them. Now that I'm an adult, I'm only just now learning it's okay to not have to hug. Some days I don't feel like it, so I decline hugs.

[@k_rodeo]

I have really bad sensory issues and hugs make me want to curl up into a ball and cry sometimes. Respect your child’s boundaries. They deserve to have their own bodily autonomy.

[@scarletthuin6662]

I’m the same

[@vonraven947]

Same boat but my mum is like in the video

[@BartoniusAustinius]

Weak bloodline

[@ernimuja6991]

Some things can be taught out of a child, it just depends on if it can be done or not. Some parents give up on their kids at the first sign of struggle and settle for low expectations.

[@jasonpark1556]

Oh no hug give you breakdown😢

[@melissadonnell9208]

I remember as a kid, we would go to Sunday dinners at my grandparent's every week. When we would leave I'd have to give every one a hug. Which most times didn't bother me. Except when there would be friends of my family, people I'd never meet. Even though I didn't know them, I still had to hug them. Now when anyone demands hugs from my own grandkids, I ask my grandkids if they want to hug them. If they say no and the person insists, I tell that person to back off. Everyone, children including, has the right to decide who touches them in any way. Even if it just a hug.

[@justwantit1000]

It was so drilled into my head at a young age that we were suppose to hug people leaving. It was so drilled in that I would even hug my teachers good bye Everyday! It wasn't until middle school that I broke that cycle and now I'm very limited to who I hug or touch. I still feel obligated with some people but now they get "side hug"

[@Princess_Peach-ei2wv]

That’s when you get a restraining order 👏🏽

[@Icarusa-dk5pr]

It is insane that this is exactly how my grandma on my moms side acts

[@ShootingStarStudio]

It is considered socially acceptable to call first before you just go to someone’s house regardless of the relationship…

[@am_Nein]

Yup. The only other exception I feel is if your REALLY close to someone (and it's fine on both ends) to just pop in and say hi.

[@Annie_Annie__]

My MIL did the thing with the hugs. She said it was a rule in her house (most family events happened at her house) that the kids couldn’t arrive or leave without a hug and a kiss. My kid was only a toddler, but he could express easily that he didn’t like hugs or especially kisses. Our solution was “bonks”. We’d gently bonk foreheads together. Almost like cats. He loved it. My MIL *hated* bonks with a burning passion. She equally despised handshakes (“This isn’t a law firm!”) and fist bumps ( said it was “trashy”. I suspect racist motivations). Anyway, at the end of one get together, while my partner and I were saying our goodbyes to others, our kid said “no” to MIL about hugs and kisses. So, in a very angry and aggressive way, she grabbed my kid, didn’t hug him, but instead squeezed him until he couldn’t breathe. He, of course, burst in to tears as soon as she eased her grip and that’s when she very forcefully kissed his cheek. She then told him “Maybe now you’ll learn the rules in Grandma’s house.” My husband and I didn’t go to see her for months after that. Which is a big deal because they live only 2-3 miles away and we were usually there at least once a week. Eventually we had a sit-down with MIL and FIL and explained that our child would have his bodily autonomy respected. He may have been only a toddler at the time, but he was fully capable of saying “yes, please”, “no, thank you”, and “NO! STOP!” We told them that they could _ask_ for hugs, but if he said ‘no’ they had to respect his wishes just as they would those of any adult. FIL completely understood and when my kid said “no” to hugs, FIL would come up with alternatives. Started with handshakes and high-fives, then to “toe-touches”, then to things like “well, if it’s no hugs, can we dance?” And they’d dance a different way each time. MIL, on the other hand, sulked and refused to touch my kid, her grandson at all. Ever. He’s a teen now, doesn’t remember or know any of this, but she *still* won’t touch him unless he asks first. Even if the grandkids are all lined up for hugs, she will hug the rest, but tell him that it was good to see him and not touch him. He thinks it has to do with him being the eldest boy out of his cousins. I don’t clarify anything for him because it better he think that than “your grandma is so spiteful that she got mad at me and your dad over a decade ago, and is still taking it out on you.

[@aloevera5600]

Wow, I'm not gonna lie it's really upsetting to hear someone treating a toddler like that. Childism is way to common. I'm glad you stood up for him, we need more parents like you!

[@BeautifulBelladonna]

It's sounds like your MIL is spiteful as all hell. (Also, the way you said it, her hug on your child could be interpreted as assault)

[@christinap-c]

Grandma with the r*pist vibes. I wonder if she ever learned that SHE could say no?

[@bethanysmith5856]

She did what in full view of multiple members of the family? I hope she realized that what she did could have ended with an assault and possibly all rights to see him terminated.

[@tenaoconnor7510]

I think you should tell him before he finds out from someone else. Lies and omission of the truth will hurt more in the long run. He will wonder what else you haven’t told him

[@kyleanderson449]

The moment you walk in uninvited is the moment you fly out the door.

[@reneesjewelerydesign]

Unfortunately sometimes when you express boundaries the toxic grandparents lie to dcf to make your life difficult. That was something i had to deal with when i told my mother i wasn’t comfortable with her teaching my daughter to call her mommy

[@Foxfairy5]

Teaching kids about body autonomy begins with teaching older family members boundaries. Your child doesn't owe Grandma a hug if hugs make them uncomfortable. Learning about consent begins in the home, especially considering that sexual abuse of kids is often someone the family trusts.

[@kauffrau6764]

Agreed. Boundaries are fundamental in life.

[@akirababe1570]

So. Much. This.

[@sarah.the.clumsy]

I told my mom that my son didn't have to do hugs if he didn't feel like it. And he didn't want to that time. Next time I was on the phone with her she kept on about how he needs to be better behaved if she was going to visit again.

[@NeyamStar]

Yup

[@brambleberryproductions1235]

CSA, like all SA, is opportunity. I wish more people understood that. I never had to get hurt.

[@luner_eclipse_studios1719]

Remember that 'blood is thicker than water.' That line doesn't mean family, it means people who will shed blood for you, care about you more than people who won't even spill water. Boundaries are important and by not letting people have boundaries, you are practically running yourself into a retirement home!

[@montannaswearingen8867]

The saying goes "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb"

[@Queencrazy1997]

​@@montannaswearingen8867 I'm glad you said that, it drives me nuts seeing the butchered version of the phrase

[@irot9791]

Thank you, I grew up hearing "Blood is thicker than water." used wrong and it annoys the hell out of me. I came to realize everyone that used it then is no longer in my life for a reason.

[@dragonxlove]

I’ve always seen that whenever the people that use that phrase to get something out of another person, would never do the same for you.

[@Tha-mountain]

My fav response “maple syrup is thicker than blood too”

[@LaLaLaLaLaElmosWorld]

“ you don’t get to tell me that I can’t see my granddaughter” yes she can.

[@anyabishop9241]

As a kid with sensory issues relative never listen to it And then Say I don't love them.

[@PsychGirlRaven]

Why is she able to just walk in your house? Change the locks ASAP. She would t be anywhere near a child again acting like that in my home. Such an accurate depiction of toxicity.

[@ilikemetoo3088]

Exactly​

[@kelsys2512]

I'm guessing its unlocked because they're having a party.

[@Bananas904]

She probably left the door open, expecting party guests.

[@KMXC17]

My family’s pretty good about respecting not hugging my sister. We’re all huggers except for her, so we do high fives or something like that. Every now and then I’ll ask if we can hug and she usually says yes, but if she’s not feeling it it’s no biggie. Respecting boundaries is very important and I’m glad I learned that at an early age.

[@keshaartis8365]

This is what I'm trying to teach my kids by modeling it. "Respecting boundaries is very important". They're young and doing pretty amazing at it so far, in regards to personal space.

[@KMXC17]

@@keshaartis8365 that’s good! When I was little I struggled with it because I LOVED hugs, so my sister not liking them was really hard to understand. But at some point my sister pointed out that she didn’t like hugs the same way I didn’t like tickling. That was really when it clicked.

[@vladimirzaika3594]

Ignoring and banning is a solution for such kind of people

[@saramister3310]

Its a shame i have a number of ppl in my family that act like this but I have to do what they say bc I have to "respect my elders"

[@blankbenefit449]

Glad my family doesn't hug at all. Thought of forced physical contact doesn't sound too appealing.

[@morgancason7156]

Well typically hugs are usually consented to since well one person opens their arms and you go in for the, so hugs aren't supposed to be forced like at all

[@Sasu123456789x1]

Trust me, being forced to hug someone you really don't want too is the worst 😕

[@PsychGirlRaven]

It’s really uncomfortable.

[@morgancason7156]

@@nadabanana7516 that makes sense

[@barutie-patooty6253]

Hugs are supposed to be consensual. What you described was not hugs

[@caylarose6658]

As soon as my parents or my husband's mom says "MY grandchild" I stop them right there. Yes your grandchild, but they are MY kids. What me and dad says goes, nothing else

[@davidspearim5552]

You know it's weird it's because sooner or later when you get old you're gonna act just like them

[@katiekind1757]

My parents were both put through not-so-good parent relationships. My mom’s mom didn’t have enough time for her( also not very kind to her ) and my dad had to go through parent divorce and a bad father. (Hence why we never see my real grandpa) but they also turned out to be chainbreakers, stopping physical punishments, caring more about me, and giving me opportunities they never got. Sometimes I get mad at them, but I’ll be sure to always be glad for them after learning how awful some parents are.

[@gaim_goddess3090]

My family is very Italian, so very physically affectionate. But my grandmother cried her eyes out when I told her I don't like being kissed on the neck when being hugged, that it makes me uncomfortable. She cried and cried saying that I don't love her anymore. My great uncle on the other hand did the hug and kiss the neck thing, and I told him not to kindly, and he just completely accepted it and just asked if it was okay to kiss my forehead instead, which was a completely acceptable compromise for me. Some family just really sucks, other family is kind and understanding.

[@kyrcamille9106]

W uncle

[@amazonbox8717]

That grandma makes me feel physically angry

[@uswish.]

Bruh neck kissing is kinda sexual I don’t want any of my family doing that to me 🥴🤢

[@yuhyuh1471]

@@uswish.well that’s cultural it’s pretty normal in Europe, but they just have different boundaries in this case.

[@deearr420]

"You can't tell me I can't see *my* grand daughter." Yes, I can.

[@Iamapotato174]

People who do this need to learn boundaries and manners

[@infamous_orb]

Okay but I'd immediately get a restraining order.

[@Bombaaq]

Oopsie I accidentally called the police on grandma

[@caseybarnes4221]

I mean- she did enter without an invitation... so she's a trespasser

[@Bombaaq]

@@caseybarnes4221 does that mean I can legally shoot grandma? I mean- ummm I’m definitely not going to shoot grandma

[@gardenmedia1701]

​@@Bombaaq this is simultaneously horrid and hilarious at the same time. Please stop.

[@RhyperiorRanger]

Bruh you gotta stop being so good at this. Your acting is so convincing I have to catch myself from getting mad 😂 Oh god I can already tell my mom is gonna be like this when I have kids 😭

[@koriandrbloodoranges]

Establish Boundaries ASAP. Don't let there be a moment's peace where she doesn't "have to follow them" that's my advice. But hopefully you find what works for you!

[@elainewitman4041]

My youngest isn't a hugger unless she wants to give you a hug. There are a few people who she will just go up and hug.

[@BionicSniper6X6]

This is exactly how my grandpa acted toward me. He had no respect for boundaries, like, asking me to take selfies of myself saying "It was for family" Only to find out he posts them online without my consent.

[@metruly]

RELATED TO THIS SO MUCH OMG

[@rachellovett7735]

Growing up I was always told to hug family members when I see them and when they leave. When I got nephews, my parents told them the exact same thing, I ended that “tradition” right there. I would walk up to them and ask if they wanted a hug or if they wanted to hug me. They said no for years, and now they hug me. It feels much better when it’s on your own time.

[@chesneymigl4538]

Gah! So creepy! It sets up that they kids have a harder time saying no to "other" hugs too. *shudders* I hate my family

[@rachellovett7735]

@@chesneymigl4538 Yeah, for years I thought I had to say “yes” to every hug. When I found out I could say “no”, I did. I used to give hugs every day, now it’s every week. I love hugs, I just feel much better knowing I can say “no” if I want to.

[@candyrose3651]

I was that auntie too. I schooled my parents and sisters when they tried to pressure the niblings to hug or kiss me. Now, all of them usually like hugs. If not, they'll often give me a fist bump or high five instead.

[@hurricanebubbles]

@@candyrose3651 I did this with my kid. If he didn't want to give or be hugged I asked if he wanted a fist bump or just a wave. Guess who gets a hug every time she sees her kid now that he is 19 almost 20? He will go out of his way to say "hey were is my hug" if I forget. But will respect my boundaries if I say I don't want one at the moment (I have sensory issues sometimes) and will even do the same if his girlfriend doesn't want one. He tells her ok just let me know if you change your mind, and will go do something else. You owe no one physical contact regardless of the relationship.

[@LexKaiNix]

If a parent won’t respect their own child’s boundaries, don’t expect them to respect the boundaries of their grandkids. Narcissists be narcissists 🫠

[@lunakitty847]

You're a great actor and i have never wanted to punch someone in the face more.😂

[@stellamobley7938]

I feel so strongly about this video. My son has days that hugs or high fives are okay, and days that they're not. He expresses love verbally and waves. It's not everyday, but those who love and respect him also respect his boundaries and he's younger than the daughter here.

[@jonimosely1289]

“You don’t get to tell me I can’t see my granddaughter daughter” yes i can, as well as the JUDGE.

[@sarahnowlin7825]

The hug part is so relatable. The only person I'm comfortable hugging is my mom, and family gets so mad talking about how disrespectful I am, I'm 15 also so it's funny I'm better at boundaries then half my elders lol.

[@MrsEvilRX]

My husband doesn't like hugging. He only hugs me and hugged his deceased grandma. His mom hated me for it. My grandma surprised him once early in our relationship when she was leaving he went stiff as a board arms at his side and eyes as big as saucers. I think my mom filled her in because she just pats him on the back now. Same gma used to always swat me on behind as a silly gesture but it always made me feel uncomfortable. I think I was 10 when I finally said to her "please don't touch my butt" I think she stopped after that. Middle nephew never was a hugger so it was high fives and fist bumps. I will admit I did try a lot until my hubs pointed out that maybe he's just like him. It took that for me to finally get it.

[@rubyangel2900]

The pain that this kinda truth brings out....

[@artornis606]

Its weird the kid doesnt like hugs but my mom is exactly that grandma so I really get it.

[@firemoonlily]

As a kid, I got a spiteful sort of glee from looking this grandparent in the eye when they said “you don’t get to keep this birthday present”, and going “okay” then walking away. End of transaction, you keep gift, I keep hug, everyone’s happy right?

[@hercules1476]

Aggh, the thing about obligatory physical contact with your relatives has always bother me. Me and my family are mexican, so is a very common and old practice for women to salute the man in the family (or even strangers) with a kiss on the cheek, and if you refused or went for a handshake insted, you are told that is rude. I always hated it. Imagine as an extremely introvert 8 year old being forced to kiss the face on an uncle who's name you don't even remember and is basically a stranger to you. I would have loved for my mother to defend me like this on those situations.

[@Joannapinka17]

Same for island people. Meeting strangers who come to your house and you have to kiss them on the cheek. I don’t know this person and they’re not here to see me so wtf??? My family lost their ever loving mind when I said no to kissing some lady that was sitting in the kitchen when I got home from school. Now I don’t kiss any family members cheeks when I go to visit and they can’t make me 😂 they wanted to play games but now I’m farrrrr across the country and see them every few yrs

[@thatperson2478]

That's just custom. Are you so disgusted by people? You really should have more physical contact then.

[@lavender_bee103]

​@@thatperson2478 this guy really is in every comment section taking their unresolved issues out on strangers 💀 go touch some grass and grow up. people are allowed to have boundaries, it's not a hard concept to understand unless you're a complete idiot who only knows hate.

[@sydneyslaughter7163]

Same, but with hugs. Even when I was a baby I hated to be touched, but people tried to do it anyway. Luckily my mom managed to negotiate it to brief hugs, like a couple seconds max, so that helped. But I would’ve preferred not at all.

[@lilydreemur7718]

ARGH nice to see others with the same opinion 😭 I’m also Mexican and i honestly hate it, I feel it’s disgusting and just don’t like it

[@ccalexander1924]

My mom has 0 boundaries. She doesn’t like the word no. If I ever tell her no on something I get the silent treatment and the guilt trips and she tells everyone I’m the one who gets angry all the time and when I’m done with my mad spell she guesses we will talk. She has been a terrible mother my entire life.

[@claeab255]

*"911 what's your emergency?"*

[@melisandeperalta6146]

I appreciate this so much. My mom apparently noticed when I was younger that I don't feel comfortable getting hugs, so she always gives sideways hugs. I never noticed that she was doing this or that I felt this way because she accommodated me from a young age and never said anything. I always grew up thinking mom hugs were just special. I'm almost 30 y.o. and only know now because I heard her talking about it to another family member. She thought I knew.

[@Xeo_From_Hell]

I wish my parents could’ve done this for me.

[@izzyash2031]

Thats sweet I wish ppl were more like this!

[@kolerebooted5658]

It's a hug :/

[@melisandeperalta6146]

@kolerebooted5658 It has to do with physical contact. Some people like myself don't do that well with it. It could have to do with trauma, or it can make a person feel uncomfortable, and in some instances, it can feel like a violation of sorts. It depends on the person.

[@heidikickhouse-]

​@@melisandeperalta6146 it can even just be neuro issues with tactile sensations, or the worry someone has that they smell badly, so many many reasons and God bless the parent who doesn't force kiddo into an explanation she has no vocabulary for.

[@EnyaTheDrakaina]

Actually, yes she can tell you your not allowed to see your granddaughter. As a legal guardian she is very much allowed to do so. Parents please don’t let your parents (if toxic) treat your kids the way they treated you.

[@GreasyTrout]

I never get immersed by skits like this. But this one actually gives me feelings of disgust and anxiety. Ignorance is a pest that annoys me to my core.

[@Scopetheman]

I hate when people just say it’s fine when for you it’s not

[@tymberanderson9804]

My MiL is similar with the hug thing, I told her I’m not a hugger in the nicest way I could and her response was “for me you will”, she’s hated me ever since I put my foot down about it.

[@dee_dee_place]

You need to tell your MIL, "And for me, you WON'T"- ROFLMAO!

[@akpokemon]

Your writing and acting is insanely realistic. You don't act better as one character over the other as part of your bias--you are very convincing in every role.

[@KoiKoi211]

My grandma is a little bit like that, she thinks shes allways right and sais things before thinking even once about it

[@deldingleqaun2931]

family is important

[@rebeccajayne2707]

Not as important as respecting someone’s boundaries!! 😂😂

[@Whatareyouyapping_about]

those are the most disgusting kind of people. this child doesn’t like hugs and the grandma decides to purposely makes the child feel guilty or feel like she needs to go way out of her comfort zone to get a birthday present

[@dee_dee_place]

A lot of people work on a quid pro quo mindset. When I do something it's because I want to do it & in return, I would appreciate a heartfelt thank you. But even if I don't get that TY, I did what I did because I Wanted To, & I had no expectations of reciprocity. I can't stand people who always expect something in return- eg: well, I did so & so for you, now you owe me- ugh. My Parents knew my personality. They NEVER DEMANDED anything from me because if they did, I wouldn't do it; even if it was something I really wouldn't have minded doing if they ASKED ME to do it. Does that make sense? Demand It = I refuse to do it. Ask Me = I most likely will do it. My Mom even teased me once by saying, "Make you do something, Make. YOU. Do. Something; nobody makes you do anything, ever." I was 9 at the time.

[@goreandhoodies3626]

And that will teach the child they have to please the other person in order to get gifts and that their no doesn't matter ....anyone with a brain can see how that will affect them later in life

[@dragon22214]

​@@darkopzwho cares what other cultures not my problem letting people set boundaries is ok

[@anakinlowground5515]

@@darkopz y’know the rates of child SA are going up, and if the kid is made to think you should always do what your family tells you to do, even if that family member is abusive, then that makes the child more at risk of SA. Teaching children they have the right to their own boundaries makes them less susceptible to SA.

[@emilyjohn2034]

@@darkopz no telling a kid they can’t have body autonomy is how you gets kids who don’t feel like they have control of their body and end up getting assaulted and abused.