Toxic Parents Who Kicked Me Out at 18 and Cut Me Off, Showed Up at My Son's Birthday Party...

Toxic Parents Who Kicked Me Out at 18 and Cut Me Off, Showed Up at My Son's Birthday Party to Beg for Money and Later Tried to Take Me to Court for $50k I Never Stole.
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[@89wolfcub]

Inviting your estranged parents over to your house for your kid’s birthday is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard…

[@Afrogirrl]

Exactly

[@mnomadvfx]

Exactly. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@RoundShades]

In my opinion, he should apologize to the guests, in the same tone he told the story at the party. He should be apologetic that it was on that event, but not about what he said, and they should know it

[@PieManXD]

@@RoundShadeswow talking makes me need to say sorry

[@Exuls1s]

Wife is litterly naive. She try to invalidate his feelings and the fact the she told the op that he's "self-invovled." SHE should be the one apologizing, shes sheltered.

[@bellasmom2597]

No she is being obtuse. Intentionally pretending she doesn't understand. She is toxic

[@caffeinedelusions]

As I recall she DID apologize, on a couple of different levels, and then was 100% behind him when the lawsuit came up.

[@nr1fan4all]

Uncle Kevin is the type of relative all should strive to be

[@Spawnofsatan97]

Uncle Kevin is the best relative ever, may he rest in peace

[@adrianflores7269]

He's the MVP in the story

[@Moge14]

Uncle Kevin was the definition of uncle: Brilliant and kind

[@marshallm4551]

My uncle Kevin was super nice, unlike the rest of my aunts and uncles. I haven't seen him in 10 years, though, because he married my dad's sister, and they have a terrible relationship. He was going through cancer treatment last time i saw him, so he might have passed now 😢

[@McArlecchinoFps]

Rest in peace uncle kevin

[@taylordaenzer4852]

It's not really your fault it's your parents fault for kicking you out and accusing you for stealing the money that you didn't steal in the first place they should pay for their actions and go to jail.

[@odiodiodi1939]

He should sue them for their actions

[@Rj-ij6ko]

Honestly…knowing how these awful people treated Op, just wanting him to INVITE them is bad enough, but the gf actually thinking he should APOLOGIZE for how he acted is just…mindboggling. Yes its good she saw sense but..still.

[@Afrogirrl]

I mean he explained his traumatics life story at a 3 year olds birthday party 😂

[@ViyonaSankhe]

​@@Afrogirrl you didn't have to use that emoji it's giving off the wrong tone

[@nikokillam7553]

@@ViyonaSankheno no, he’s trying to be condescending and is giving off exactly that tone, just sad he’s gone straight to being condescending rather than trying to explain his thoughts

[@Ruhrohraggy23345]

She’s loco

[@RequiemPoete]

Wasn't the time nor place. He dragged those guests into his family drama.

[@weirdlan.d3144]

Op's wife was very self-involved in this whole situation even to the point of ignoring op's explaining his abusers were trying to abuse him again. 15/100 wife!

[@artsy_anxiety0_o]

15 is an overshot tbh

[@Kkell0x]

I'm absolutely pissed at the fact, that she realized she overreacted, but instead of taking action, accepting responsibility, opening up or literally doing ANYTHING she was ready to die on the hill she, by her own admission, climbed unjustly... OPs parents are trash and I'm glad everyone will see it.

[@SuperSid456]

I was good that they talked but if her anger cooled off she realised her mistake as well she still waited for him to initiate that apology 🤔

[@kimberlydanbom4937]

These people are scummy as hell 1. They kick their own kid out on their birthday then again they were 18 so it’s legal 2.As soon as they show up they demand money for stuff they don’t deserve 3.they sued their own kid for something that never even happened

[@georgegarvey7338]

His fake azz friends are no better either.

[@muhrichard8634]

yeah it's easy to be as scummy as these people are when they're entirely fictional

[@iccarus1975]

wow, you listened to it, congratulations

[@kimberlydanbom4937]

@@muhrichard8634fictional? Honestly that’s believable

[@user-nq2oz8tf2l]

@@kimberlydanbom4937 Yeah this one is pretty tame compared to other stories and even my own experience. That reply must live a very sheltered life.

[@222daley]

The wife sucks imo she’s not respecting boundaries

[@gotenblack2542]

ya op should have not forgiven her so easy

[@lep33]

🎯💯

[@shortangel333]

Op shouldve traveled back to the 1950s to teach her a lesson

[@user-zo1on8cv9y]

@@shortangel333damn right

[@123honeybee2]

@@shortangel333 what the fuck is wrong with you

[@Maninawig]

Goes to show that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree... unless the tree yeets it a few states away

[@renadu30]

I choked on my drink at the second part, thank you, that made my day XDD

[@Maninawig]

@@renadu30 glad it brought you some joy.

[@glimmerofhope3074]

😂😂😂

[@TheBluntkin]

That’s brilliant 😂😂

[@sliqyplayz8072]

So true

[@GloriousRock]

God people can't just keep their bad parents away or tell their SO at the start of the relationship, "hey I have a bad relationship with my parents. Do not talk nor bring them up, this is a divorce-able thing and will result in loss of trust if you do, please respect this if you wish to continue this relationship"

[@blainetate743]

Sometimes It’s not as simple as one may think. He probably didn’t think he’d ever hear from his parents again; what would the point be?

[@SealandPK]

He had told her at least that they kicked him out with no support and they didn’t talk. He was also the one to bring it up with her that they contacted him. She just strongly encouraged it and was biased in her decisions. Yes some spouses will go out of their way to contact their spouse’s estranged parents but this story is not that.

[@Johanliebert123]

Thank God i have good parents ❤️

[@legiontepes3474]

Lucky you. Mine sucks.

[@TDArulesclub4]

Lucky you. My dad cared more about his girlfriend (also his cousin which I won’t get into) more than his own children and my mother loves her religion and faith more than her own daughter’s.

[@tausifchowdhury8180]

​@@TDArulesclub4 Mormon or Evangelical? Also, sorry for your situation. Truly saddening

[@hippyhappyhippo]

When trying to 'reconcile' or have a meeting with a long lost relative/friend, don't invite them to a party. Meet them privately where you can hash everything out in the open and not be distracted by other things happening or ruin the event they've attended.

[@juanleal8418]

Wife is too sheltered, she dont know better, she just acts like a child. So immature

[@gotenblack2542]

now this is just me but i dont think op should have forgiven the wife so easily form the sounds on it she was forcing op to bond with his family so she can have a family i get her past but trying to Make the op bond with people that ruined his life is not the way

[@chrismccloskey2502]

Spot on. Absolutely flabbergasted how this story/comments are completely ignoring wifey's actions. That cold azz'd blanking of op would have drawn a sit-down about immediate separation, without therapy, at the very least

[@cloudydays6374]

I think she should go to therapy. I don’t think the marriage is doomed or that this calls for divorce since she acknowledged she was wrong though

[@chrismccloskey2502]

@cloudydays6374 she acknowledged. AFTER...forcing the situation...blanking op for a week...arguing/fighting with op...you are way more forgiving than me. Therapy at very minimum, and that would not guarantee continuation of the relationship

[@gotenblack2542]

@@chrismccloskey2502 true

[@artemislove2941]

it’s almost like. that’s how arguments work. you acknowledge your mistakes. they’re going to therapy, that’s actually not the minimum. the minimum is saying sorry. actively going to couples consuming is important. none of yall ever get married please because you couldn’t handle it

[@Spacemanct]

They came to their sences when they found out you were rich.

[@genkrow5014]

His wife is someone who has always had people at her birthday, and always has plans on her birthday. Maybe one day, she will get a birthday that nobody shows up, nobody plans anything big, and it's generally just forgotten about, then we can see if she overreacts.

[@brakis18]

These stories never make sense. My parents hated me and I hated them and they through me out but one email after a decade and I let them in. Then you have the wife, knew what she did was out of bounds but couldn't bring herself to speak or apologize without him doing it first. He either has horrible taste in people or the AI is just getting ridiculous.

[@abdullahakhtar9824]

Probably a fake story

[@Cath-Dad]

They called you every name in the book but they can't call you a liar.

[@maebell227]

Once u bring them in they will never leave

[@nikkihorn3852]

Like bed bugs

[@Spawnofsatan97]

Nta sever ties with the parents frfr, they are some money leeching back stabber, and Ops wife need to get a grip and op doesn't need to Apologize to his wife, either she gets a grip or get a divorce

[@artemislove2941]

feel really sad you jump straight to divorce instead of communication after a fight. never get married.

[@cavey001]

Such a sheltered little wife. So naive.

[@Eat_shit--die_mad]

She wants him to apologize for shattering the brief guise of them all being one big happy family, not the speech

[@krypto1976]

The wife putting HER feelings about how she feels about HER relationship with HER parents ahead of his feelings, emotionally forcing him to make up with 10 yr estranged parents is a very not ok situation. The fact that she was so stubborn as to not apologize after 6 days, even though it only took 2 for her to realize her wrong doings makes me think that if he said no and stuck to it that she wouldve done the stupid thing of inviting them herself without his knowledge which wouldve nuked the marriage.

[@CG-yb6zj]

The wife missing out on having her bio parents to natural causes and raised by her grandparents is NOT THE SAME as OP having been TOLERATED all his life then KICKED OUT soon as it was legal. She still had people who loved and raised her. OP had NO ONE, and his own parents made clear they HATED him. If anyone's selfish, besides OPs paerents, its her and her want for the "picture perfect" life instead of being happy with the present and ended up inviting drama when she blatantly ignored the warning of her husband who knew these people she DID NOT. And she's to be trusted to lead their son correctly after stewing for days in the guest room when she knew she was wrong instead of taking accountability till later?? Nah

[@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115]

Do the parents honestly expect their son to lend them money after they kicked him out???

[@PixelProRBLX]

I think he should leave the wife.She was literally invalidating his feelings.He deserves better.

[@berserk-pr2jd]

Fight and feud is normal in Married life. There is a kid in the house. They were mature enough not to do it in front of the kid.

[@JTScottOfficial]

Saying she spazzed out is an even worse idea.

[@KasaCheem]

wholesome uncle i aspire to be

[@lordofuwus7735]

Uncle Kevin is the epitome of a Gigachnad

[@maxpowers9129]

The wife is a real piece of work. Her emotions were not important in that moment, and she should have realized that. What mattered was the way the actual victim of parental neglect felt. She pressured her husband to play nice with his abusers and then acted like her feelings on the matter were more than the feeling of the actual victim. Then she decided to do serious damage to the relationship when he stood up for himself. He shouldn't have apologized at all. Instead he should have ordered her to immediately apologize to him, or sign divorce papers. There is no way I would remain married to somebody who would put me through that then have the nerve to treat me like the badguy.

[@sandrasausville9103]

You should have never allowed them in your house or life ever!! They used you then and now they want to use you again.

[@IFAMILYIH]

Wife needs to be divorced tbh she went days without talking to you WTF

[@hashwindersingh1474]

Hey people need space sometimes.

[@amoghlad9792]

OP should have discussed this stunt with his wife

[@mriddley]

8:35 the only birthday i remember from.my childhood was my 7th and that was because i didnt get a party that year (money was tight) and all i got was a pair of shoes i say this because getting mad at someone "ruining" a childs birthday is just stupid while yes kids have fun in that moment they ultimately forget the wife needs to be upset that two parasites just tried to force their way into her family's life

[@loveluna9653]

It's not just about the kids. It's also about the guests. She will remember how her husband trauma dumped on a whole bunch of ppl on what was supposed to be a happy celebration. Making everyone uncomfortable. It'll be know as the trauma dump party rather than a birthday party.

[@natashakreutz1]

Why would you ever want to make amends with your parents if they wanted to kick you out at 18

[@JamesEmbasan]

This OP and his wife (when they have the time), should consider 'adopting' grandparents for their son. There are a lot of lonely elderly people out there who would love to be close with a family- I know this from experience. I grew up with an additional 'adopted' grandmother, who was a childless, widowed neighbor and we all absolutely loved her.

[@tedcruzwiththetopdown5411]

OP got that scorched earth policy

[@sadiewashington2855]

Wife sounds like an AH as well as the parents.

[@AlvaroParra-ov6zj]

wtf 5 days without talking about the issue, that woman is terrible.

[@LODintheshadows]

Nahh, wife saying he needs to apologise to parents. Red flag, she doesn't think his trauma is worth while and is invalidating it. She snaps at him but he gives same energy back and he's the bad guy. Rocky roads there

[@KingdomOfItaly793]

When his parents were leaving the party he should’ve smiled and waved. That would’ve topped it

[@natashakreutz1]

Hell no .....she is totally overreacting b/c of her own sit. She should understand your feelings if she's on the same page as sticking to you for better or for worse.

[@lukasbauer8177]

The only slightly bad part that og did was how he said ‘he’s only 3 years old, he won’t remember it’ like I can remember when I had my second birthday and maybe your son can still remember the vibe and stuff but otherwise he didn’t deserve any of it

[@alexdale2387]

If your wife is gonna be like that, take full custody of your son and divorce her

[@149mattyman]

The wife is a bad wife. She was to self interested to relise what she was doing to OP, and OP had a ton of patients to deal with this. On top of that; when she calmed down from being angry, she waited for OP to come to her about it? My girl! You overlooked your in-law's abuse of OP! That's a very crapy thing! Put on your big girl pants and be an adult!

[@user-xr5oz5dk9c]

I'm I the only one not in therapy? Ironically I need it more than most.

[@TheIronwil]

I’d have a SERIOUS problem with my wife if she failed to back me like OP’s wife did. I can sort of understand her not liking OP using their son’s birthday to deliver his speech. I was horrified that their first meeting in 10 years was at OP’s son’s birthday. Both of these decisions were idiotic. So OP could have apologized to HER, but no one else.

[@blender4464]

I have a seriously hard time believing that the wife is mad at him after learning that they literally came to ask for money. Nothing here sounds like normal human reactions

[@SealandPK]

You don’t invite people to try to reconnect to a big event.

[@AdrielDoesGaming]

The parents are horrible people for treating OP like garbage. Also I wouldn't trust the wife after she completely disregarded OP's feelings and invalidated his experience with his parents

[@DukerGamerz]

Tbf Op should have discussed the stunt he was about to pull with his wife.

[@amoghlad9792]

​@@DukerGamerzAgreed

[@gigga143]

NTA… it’s a shame that not only do you have AH parents but your wife is an AH who doesn’t support you or have your back. she’s a horrible excuse for a wife. i’m so sorry OP, it’s a shame you ended up marrying someone just as bad as the abusive parents you had.

[@shortangel333]

Divorce her

[@aleksandarvil5718]

*DIVORCE THE WIFE!!!*

[@jessicathompson236]

NTA. Your wife literally took those toxic pieces of craps side. You did nothing wrong.

[@jansdavisbelerts1196]

When the kids are smarter than the parents

[@1989jo]

No I wouldn't apologize. If you do it makes something that's not a problem into a huge problem

[@BluffMello]

That's really selfish of the wife to get mad at him over that. I mean you cannot ever Force somebody to reconcile with people who were horrible to them, I get it her grandparents were nice but that no way in hell means that every set of grandparents is going to be like hers, her logic is ridiculous. What's good with having horrible people like that back in the family? And just for a 'complete family', its all lies. Family is what you make of it, not looks.

[@LadySeraphineCC]

Jeez what is it with parents kicking their kids out at 18????? They assume these kids already know what to do in life. I can't imagine doing that to my daughter. As a Filipino. We stick with our families longer. We're usually much more closer with our families too. No, we're not without our toxic family members. But at least most of us don't kick our kids out at 18. These shitty parents think they can come back and demand to be taken care of. Don't treat your kids like shit and then expect that of them. 😬😑🙄

[@gamer61701]

If your relationship consists of watching Netflix a couple nights a week between therapy sessions, get the f*** out of it.

[@Panwere36]

An eccentric uncle with a heart of gold was what Kevin was. I think the inheritance has a lot to do with the family situation, and that is something I hope the OP investigates. The parents still are bad news and have issues.

[@onepieceisking5493]

The fact they expected to get away with such a lie and lawsuit just to get the money they wanted shows how greedy, stupid, entitled and vile they are. They didn't change at all. If anything they got worse in order to be dumb to lie for a lawsuit, let alone escalate things to get what they wanted after op denied them. I'm not surprised that they blocked op after getting op to take down the post that exposed them to everyone.

[@joshlyerla6991]

My only question is like how do you know no one was uncomfortable if you never addressed it with anyone? Like not saying bro is wrong but if you’ve never even asked how can you be so sure

[@dmr4450]

OP's wife is a disappointment. But besides that the lesson from this is to always go NC with toxic people. They destroy everything they touch including other people's relationships.

[@deusexmashugana365]

So OP's wife manipulated OP into inviting his shitty parents, then invalidated OP's feelings by freaking out on OP over a gentle roasting of his parents since they were being scumbags, gets offended when he accurately called her out for being self-involved, and then she wasnt even mature enough to stop ignoring him even though she was clearly in the wrong (and she clearly knew it). OP, are you sure you want to be married to someone like that?

[@noishi4658]

His wife romanticized his parents because she barely know them. Really stupid thing but a lot of people tend to do.

[@Heiura]

I wouldn't even insult the wife , because the wife too is hurt so ... Yeah ... The only real issue is the parents and the family

[@smorphous8928]

It’s kind of selfish for the wife to expect Op not to shame his parents after SHE invited them when Op didn’t want them at his party. It paints a clear picture that the wife doesn’t care about past trauma and only cares about letting bygones be bygones, no matter how fake or estranged the relationship is.

[@BigWhite1996]

Divorce your wife

[@dietsodalite3716]

Hiw are husband and wife going to ignore each other over this?!

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

like the song....lalalalallaaaaa 'you can't always get what you waaaant'

[@bullbuster944]

Divorce strait away

[@loridunn5754]

These are the parents from Joe Dirt 🤦

[@billylukito5522]

yeah, just divorce the wife

[@TheGrandy123]

It is understable how you reacted emotionally. You are a humanbeing. Next time wait for her to calm down and explain her calmly. Write everything before to make sure not to forget what you want to say. You did great. Good luck

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

tell wifey-poo she can be a single mommy in a few months. wifey-poo is one of these people with their heads up 'sacred famblee' butt so far they can't see the truth. I do think perhaps the party wasn't the time for it.

[@gamer61701]

Don't ever let a woman tell you that you have to apologize to anyone for anything

[@christinesinclair6938]

The OP of this story should have just told them to kick rocks as well as "you should have thought about wanting to know your grandkids before you threw me out like used cat litter ten years ago." Situation averted.

[@epimetheaus1214]

Someone let me know when the divorce update drops.

[@theasianmeme2456]

try listening these stories with "red sun in the sky-lofi" on loop

[@boredpersonstory553]

The Wife is the biggest AH. SHE wanted the parents there even after knowing what they did to OP SHE is the only one offended by OP standing up for himself SHE is the self involved one The Wife is a big ass baby 🙄😒

[@cherrylove528]

Why people invite estranged family members on birthdays, weddings , holidays etc and in their own home is beyond me.

[@scottwilson3117]

Having a happy family is not all it's Crack up to be.

[@vamp6767]

Somehow reddit seems to be a mean marketing machine for therapy and couples counceling. 90% of the stories mention that. It's like "Big Psycho" is sponsoring them 😅

[@lilinoemuller-afong2557]

You should tell your wife what would you do if your parents kicked you out and not talk to you for 10 years

[@johnpatricklim4509]

story 1: divorce the ex-wife....deal with the child support...but at least this will give op peace...

[@DukerGamerz]

Sad you jump to divorce instead of talking it out. I will give you a quick advice, Never get married.

[@amoghlad9792]

Bro liked his own comment.

[@lindagailor589]

I understand his parents are garbage, but he used his own son's birthday to involve complete strangers in his drama with his parents. That makes him the ahole. I would have been so uncomfortable if someone did that to me but would have laughed at it to cover that too at the time. He needs to deal with his parents another time. His wife is completely right to be mad. He owes her an apology and some therapy as well.

[@poohbear_loves_Tigger]

The wife is to blame and same with his parents

[@skulllord4504]

Why do ppl go back to parent's like them once you cut them off should be for ever and your wife is really manipulative and playing the victim red flag.

[@SynthwaveCrusader]

First mistake was allowing the parents back into your life. Wouldn't be in this situation if you had blocked them first.

[@tedbutler1761]

why oh why did you try to get in contact with those toxic parents , you understand if you had stayed NC this all my never had happen , hope you learn your lesson, once arseholes always arseholes

[@SeniorCharry]

Whose side is the wife on? Some people are just built stupid.

[@764notmyname]

Dude, inviting your estranged parents was your first mistake. Also, your wife was really siding with them in the beginning and thought you owed them an apology for telling everyone that they kicked you out when you turned 18. At least she understands now. Also, your parents really tried suing you? How dum or they? At least your told everyone in your family how they turned their backs on you when you needed them and now they are trying to get on your good side because of your money and job.

[@Im_Just_Here248]

8:41 yes I do think he’s the AH for this part and no one can change my mind. He was selfish about this part and you are crazy if you say otherwise. He was self involved and then insulted her

[@GodofLightning-dn6nt]

I agree that uncle kelvin is the goat

[@jas6940]

0:48 wtf would OP use the sons party to reconnect with the parents why would that make sense to them 🤨 I haven’t gotten through the whole story but whatever happened at the party is on OP

[@seilvox]

I can understand your wife being embarrassed about everyone else being dragged into it, even if they seemed to be laughing, they could've been just being polite. But her demanding you apologize to your parents is an absolute bitch move on her part. They don't deserve an apology at all after what they did, and your wife demanding you apologize to them after everything is a massive red flag.

[@etrememasters1]

Doesn't talk to him for a week what a fuckin child.

[@Cheshyre.]

Kevin is his second cousin, not his uncle.