Trans Guy Gets a Makeover

[@rabbitven0m]

For those who don’t have the cultural context-there are no gendered pronouns in Tagalog so it’s really common for parents to struggle with English pronouns even when their kids aren’t trans! It is so so sweet to see Ash’s mom try her best to be validating with something that is already a challenge for many native Tagalog speakers.

[@amosbehavedcalm]

Another thing is that our non-gendered pronoun is "siya" which sounds like "she"

[@Hullyeah]

CAN CONFIRM! My momma is a wonderfully full-blooded Filipina lady and has now lived in the US longer than she did growing up in Bacolod city. Growing up in her house, it's been an endearing "struggle" as she's constantly, gently corrected on her use of pronouns. Absolutely no malicious intent-- just two cultures she's embraced that sometimes bump into each other at odd angles.

[@GRA5S]

I can speak basic English like most Filipinos in the Philippines, but I always forget to genderized pronouns. It's always automatically 'he/him' for some reason.

[@neptune7625]

Oh this is so good to know thank you!

[@drizzzlecloud]

and this is why we have the "maamsir" 🤣🤣 only pinoys would know

[@thejonnycakes]

Ash, we all love you so much. One of the kindest, most thoughtful guys out there. I can't wait for the world to watch this.

[@ItsAshPerez]

Jonny nooooo you’re gonna make me internet cry

[@NotANewsiesReference]

Jonny, you're so sweet

[@amymccutchan8119]

Jonny you sweetheart

[@Octobris]

And you are not ;D

[@NotANewsiesReference]

@@Rexonow Well, no ! Ash is a guy. He told you that at the start of the video, didn't he?? You should really open up your ears and listen better.

[@notflooftasstic]

I lost it when Ash's mom called him a pogi boy, and that was what he hoped to achieve.

[@andrineslife]

The second his mom says "pogi boy" I started sobbing 😭❤

[@dragonbowlsupper]

that's when I started bawling

[@moonie2954]

I was definitely crying before it happened, but boy did the tears fall faster after that!!

[@SunriseViewer]

Exactly!

[@kaylyn4010]

Immediate tears

[@ch3micalrat]

Admittedly, I haven't seen any of Ash's content since the Buzzfeed days. I had no idea he was trans or what he's been up to but dude...I am so freaking stoked for him. Back at Buzzfeed it didn't seem like he was being himself (obviously). It's like he was visibly uncomfortable and playing a character and this complete 180 just makes me so happy for him. He's glowing and seems so comfortable and himself and happy. This video made me tear up and I cannot wait to see more of him on this channel. Also why is nobody saying how HANDSOME THIS MAN IS!! I thought he was cute before transitioning but this newfound confidence is definitely boosting him. So excited for you dude.

[@Ebbagull]

100% this! My thoughts exactly! It's like something was stuck and rigid in him is now loose and set free? It's really wonderful to see! 🥰😭

[@Aledale581]

100% agree!!

[@rachellecham]

I'm pretty sure ash was a writer for the show good trouble

[@elizabethblackmun1232]

i was half watching like cool that they brought on a trans guy no idea who he is tho and then was like wait. i recognize that face. i've seen this person before. OH THE EX-BUZZFEED NETWORK STRIKES AGAIN

[@swillcocks8502]

love the section with ash and kwesi talking, kwesi's excitement for ash's journey was so incredible, i wish everyone ends up finding friends like that.

[@whales2983]

i know!! kwesi is such an amazing man and a good friend to all the try guys, but seeing how appreciative he was to be a part of ash's transition was so heartwarming. he may not understand what it's like but he understands the gravity of that journey and that is so special to have as a trans man.

[@jacrsea]

Yesss, making me tear up

[@Rbwr4]

Lookin very hydrated my man

[@ChazzleDazzleVideos]

Yeah kwesi seems like a standout dude and he says some wild things sometimes that just make me lose it lol.

[@kamcalste]

The way Ash's mom struggles with his pronouns, but is still so unbelievably supportive, made me tear up a little bit. I think it shows that, even if someone struggles with the language, they can still be a huge ally and someone who wants to be understanding and accepting. This is such a good show!

[@Kassowari]

This. XD You can tell it's seriously just a language thing and her being like "ah!" each time is so funny. I don't know much about tagalog either but I know a lot of languages are gender neutral which adds a layer of difficulty.

[@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat]

It is amazing to see her trying her best, especially since her mother tongue doesn't have pronouns in it, and its very hard to break a habit you had to form from learning a second language On the other side very one brand for a filipino mom not to say their kids name first. They will call you everyone else's name before they say your if they are talking to you. I've had my mom cycle through my siblings names before getting to mine, then turning to one of said siblings and doing the exact same thing to them.

[@jackie8357]

Her support was so lovely, you could feel how much they loved her dad and the smiles through that kind of loss

[@sallygardner8644]

I’m literally sobbing over her pure Mom love 💕. Her using all the pronouns in the same breath is SO real life for even the most supportive and loving people to the trans people in their lives 🥰🥰🥰

[@redeye1016]

Of course it means that - that’s why getting hung up on people who slip up is unbelievably stupid. Most people are trying their best (not all - most!)

[@stephaniebaker1975]

Seeing Ash is like seeing an old friend. I absolutely loved watching him around 2015 and it’s wonderful to see him on yt again!

[@penumbrazewolf]

same- even the skit he did with Keith brought me way back!

[@Dipandpip666]

Yes me too! And as a fellow trans man this is so wonderful to watch, such lovely experiences shared

[@jasmineariza2516]

Agreed, he is a breath of fresh air! All of the OG buzzfeed crew is amazing to experience again.

[@SamanthaGobert]

Amen!! And I had no idea about the transition! What a beautiful surprise

[@DJ-sz5xq]

Same!!! it's soooo nostalgic

[@morganlovescupcakes3]

"I still get my boy and my girl -- they just kinda exchanged places" 🤧 that mom is so precious! It was amazing watching her with so much joy seeing their child for who they really are

[@jillian9069]

Kwesi saying "you being Ash is all the world needs" is so touching and heartwarming..I am so excited to watch the rest of the series. And I lo e that Ash has other support men around him as he goes on this vulnerable journey with us. ❤

[@Sarahdamonster]

I imagine it was incredibly validating for Ash too

[@chiaravasquez1376]

Wtf I am actually sobbing. The way his mom called him a “pogi” boy without knowing that was what he was hoping for? Beautiful. Cookie’s love and acceptance fills my heart with warmth and hope. This was beautiful. Ash, you’re glowing. And Kwesi is right: you being Ash is all the world needs. I can’t wait to see more of Ash’s journey!

[@_evelynjoy_]

Oh god I absolutely lost it.

[@nbunnysnowboard]

I started tearing up at that moment as well 🥹

[@afaid2850]

Same I'm sobbing uncontrollably

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Tangent here but that reminds me of Bretman Rock saying he grew up with his Filipino grandma describing him as ganda and pogi always both at the same time.

[@lilleilei169]

seeing his moms acceptance and the love between them had tears rolling down my face at full speed

[@wolveswithtea]

Petition for this series to be extended longer than 3 episodes. You can't sum up learning how to be a man in 3 episodes and I'd love to see more about Ash learning what the male experience is with a fuller season

[@xEllieRose]

I wish it was more than 3 episodes as well!

[@chaosbitses7047]

They could also expand the series in the future into learning to be a woman, and learning to be nonbinary!

[@LaurenGH88]

THIS

[@ikka7787]

YES I agree!!

[@ashleydetarbirt7737]

Yes! I could watch a hundred of these!

[@solarmoth4628]

“What if you want to be a CEO?” is such a funny, niche concern in response to your child being bisexual.

[@presentlycrescent]

Kwesi’s compliments during the suit fitting made my day Never thought that “you look hydrated” would be such a lovely thing to tell someone And him going on to be so supportive and sweet? Ugh, love that man and his kindness in supporting another man on his journey into manhood

[@tsedaleforbes9532]

No shade to Zach and Keith at all, but the Kwesi and Ash combo is literally such a powerful thing to witness. So much strength in this conversation!!!

[@MayzieGK]

Right? Kwesi had me tearing up. Love that Ash has so much support.

[@macnkeebs]

you took the words right out of my head. i think every conversation was genuine and real, but there's such an added layer of authenticity that kwesi gives off whether in his chaos or his calm that you feel through his interactions. as if, even if cameras weren't rolling, that's still the same kwesi energy every time.

[@GeorgiaGrown90]

@@MayzieGK between Kwesi & Cookie and the way Zack looked on the verge of tears at points hearing ash talking the barber shop, just the best. SO happy theres so much support for Ash.

[@jj-if6it]

love to see an 'alpha' like kwesi be so supportive and non-toxic

[@GeorgiaGrown90]

@@jj-if6it funny you say that. Wouldn’t it be alctually the “alpha” thing to do to support and encourage your “pack”? lol

[@danidynamite2]

I wish Ash had his dad to walk him through his new life, but seeing Zach and Kwesi (and everyone else on the channel) looking out for him is so heartwarming.

[@sisterseverus]

I love the skits with Keith as the kind of "That's cool, son" oblivious dad

[@danidynamite2]

@@sisterseverus yeah those are pretty awesome too

[@uncannievalley]

Genuinely, it’s so beautiful 😊

[@karenesq419]

agree so adorable, truly a try fam

[@ek3282]

Honestly this is so healing to see so many people from the buzzfeed days, still together, supporting each other, coming into their own. I love it so much.

[@tessy4018]

Peak “good for him” content, I love it

[@deafpiglet]

Couldnt have worded that better than myself.

[@julianlopez2558]

As a transman with an unaccepting father, navigating the world of manhood alone, thank you try guys. Thank you Ash for sharing your story and being so vulnerable because so many of us share similar feelings but suffer in silence 🫶

[@kyothinks]

Ironically, men suffering in silence is one of the traditional markers of toxic masculinity. I hope you're able to find your people--people who can tell you that it's okay to be yourself just as you are, and people who you can share your feelings with and be vulnerable with without fear of judgment or reprisal. All men deserve to feel heard, seen, and accepted, and no one should have to struggle with difficult feelings alone.

[@JoJo-tt8xz]

⁠@@kyothinksas a straight white man brought up without a father, I’ve also struggled with this.. Genuinely, could this be a trend among men lacking someone to teach them manhood? Does the same thing happen for women and their mother figure? 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

[@goose.biscuits]

@@kyothinks it's funny watching this and reading the comments. I'm crying and being an xennial cis male there is a dark part of me saying "stop crying pussy" because growing up crying as a man was so frowned upon. I could get as angry as I want without much thought but the moment you cry you get judged.

[@kyothinks]

@@goose.biscuits You're not weak for crying. I hope you know that. It shows that you have empathy and that you're able to see this from someone else's perspective, and that's so important.

[@kyothinks]

@@JoJo-tt8xz Honestly, I've also seen it a lot in men who DO have a father in their lives, so I think it's unfortunately a societal ill. I grew up without a mother, and I struggled to express my emotions "appropriately" for years until I finally saw a therapist who helped me unpack why I was angry all the time. It turns out that not being allowed to express your emotions safely as a child really messes you up as an adult!

[@imaginefun13]

"New Guy Tries" is such a good concept

[@jessicaswim2744]

I would love to see this mini series get more episodes!

[@purpleheart3431]

AGREED!!!

[@mohmohlante5809]

Agreed I love this series so much!!!

[@emjellybeans]

i just want him to be a try guy 🥹

[@ImJustDucky93]

I just really love Kwesi. Very quick with the compliments while also being completely genuine with them. Quick to give answers to Ash in a way that he would understand. Kwesi is just awesome in this video...Bless up. Ash.."Is there a man hug?" Kwesi..."This is it right here."

[@CorwinFound]

Trans guy here and I've always been very free with compliments, but when presenting as a woman it was usually to women. Since transitioning I've had to relearn some habits. Even with a close friend, "That shirt makes your boobs look great," just hits differently as a guy. Would not recommend. But now I compliment men a lot more and the reaction is sometimes a bit heartbreaking. A friend came back after 6 months overseas and I told him how good he looked. Really fit. He literally got teary and explained how hard he'd been working in the gym, putting on about 20lbs of muscle, and I was the only person who had noticed or said anything. Men deserve to feel handsome. They deserve real compliments. I think it's sad that masculine culture has made that an extraordinary and maybe broadly unacceptable thing to do. I think it's part of why men struggle with how to appropriately compliment women; they've never had it modeled on the receiving end. So yeah, Kwesi giving genuine compliments seems really different and even extreme, which is a sad commentary on masculine culture.

[@chaimeansteabro]

Ash's mom getting emotional and trying to get things right i am crying

[@alphastormeex9468]

As a trans person who recently came out to older extended family from the south (they are trying), that touched me ❤

[@sarahsheldon668]

I started bawling when she came out for the reveal, she is so sweet

[@potatocasseroli]

Yeah I was tearing up until the “you pogi boy” part and then i was full on bawling

[@haileyj6902]

same bruh

[@ThePixieixie]

me too!!

[@Carmen-do9ci]

As a very bisexual girl, Ash was my crush in buzzfeed for so long, and now he is my newest crush again, haha. He just rocks whatever he wears and is an absolute sweetheart. I'm so happy he's surrounded by people who love and support him, i can only hope to have that acceptance for myself one day. We all love you, Ash!!

[@MissCaraMint]

He does like fine as hell.

[@mb-the-enby]

I was also a very bisexual girl who had a crush on Ash back in the day. And now I’m a very bisexual nonbinary trans person who has a crush on Ash. 😘

[@Carmen-do9ci]

@mb-the-enby when everything changes, Ash's chokehold on us still holds🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

[@ItsAshPerez]

@@Carmen-do9ciHAHAHAHAH

[@Maguire708Julie]

SAME

[@simashakeri95]

The part of this video with Ash's mom was so poignant and heartwarming. She's clearly trying so hard and the love she has for her children just exudes from her entire being. I think it really dispels that stupid transphobic rhetoric that's like "if you don't magically know someone's pronouns they'll get you cancelled by the language police" because it's so obvious the issue is respect or lack thereof, and no trans person in their right mind would be upset with people who clearly love them and are clearly trying stumbling a few times along the way. Great video guys, really warmed my heart.

[@sisterseverus]

Exactly! She had 30 years of Ash from before, things are ingrained and almost automatic. She's re-working her entire thinking when it comes to her child, but it's clear as day that is 100% there for him and in his corner

[@jasmint3207]

And she's not refusing to use his chosen name and pronouns, she just gets it wrong out of habit. Big difference

[@KetchupRocket]

Not to mention English isn't her first language, so having to relearn what has become reflexive takes a lot. I always rather someone well meaning and try with slip ups than pure disrespect.

[@simashakeri95]

@@KetchupRocket Yes exactly! And her native language doesn't have gendered pronouns so it's even tougher. I am a cisgender woman and thus have been using she/her pronouns since I was born and my parents still hit me with the he/him sometimes by accident and do the opposite to my brother because Farsi is like that too - no gendered pronouns.

[@TwitchyMoth]

Habe been out and transitioning for 8 years now. My parents still occasionally slip up 🤷🏼 happens. Is totally alright

[@Alice-jq6rd]

i love Ash asking about the unsaid rules of gender. there’s so much of gender that is just assumed or peer pressured and it’s so refreshing to see the quiet part talked about out loud.

[@veronicalijeron4504]

When Kwesi and Ash were hugging and Kwesi said “this is it right here” to Ash asking what a man hug is 🥲😭🥹

[@frankeyunfiltered9049]

Kwesi seems like he'd be the absolute best, most supportive friend.

[@kara8862]

I ACTUSLLY TEARED UP

[@fumble_bee626]

I CRIEDDDDD DUDE I WEPT

[@sannimarttinen8720]

Kwesi is the absolute best

[@ilanaclaasen3384]

"You do this with Eugene?" "Uhmmmm we don't touch"😂😂😂

[@mariee.5912]

😂😂 sounds right!!

[@Lunasent]

Yup, Eugene is allergic to feelings.

[@Vampirelilianfitzroy]

Lmao Ash knows Eugene is the barometer of “effortlessly cool dude”

[@Acm518]

Am I the only one who had no clue that Ash has transitioned????? I haven’t watched buzzfeed videos in so long but I watched every single one back in the day and recognized him immediately. I totally love this and I’m only 1 minute in ❤

[@christinaluo]

same but I'm so happy to have learned and rediscovered ash via try guys

[@bbrooklyn]

Same! I had no clue and when this video popped up on my recommended I clicked so fast. So happy for him😭❤️

[@Szaisthatyou]

I had no idea I was shocked looking at the thumb nail like when tf did this happen

[@Ebbagull]

I also had no idea! For some reason I felt giddy through this whole video 😂 Masculinity suits Ash so well, and seeing him find his own brand of it is wonderful! 😁

[@cookiekhoala]

Yeah I had no idea either but glad to see Ash again.

[@wunna_bella]

Omg this is the first I’ve seen of Ash in a long time, pretty much since the buzzfeed days, I had no idea he was trans ! What a beautifully honest video ! I’m so glad to see Ash on my screen again !

[@sumofitsparts1824]

My son-in-law is transgender. My daughter brought him home to meet my husband and I about 14 years ago. We liked him right away but we were naive and had a lot to learn. We messed up pronouns and worried about how they’d be perceived. We had a lot to learn. They married 6 years ago in a beautiful heartfelt ceremony. My husband and I couldn’t possibly be happier for our daughter and the man she so deeply cares for. Love is love! 💕

[@celinepope]

❤

[@ngairepowell2022]

This is so lovely to hear. My husband is transgender and I'm sad to say my parents were not accepting of him, they did not attend our wedding. But he is the best person I've ever known and we have been happily married for two years now, so my parents just get to miss out on being part of our lives.

[@propogandalf]

​@@ngairepowell2022I have a dumb question. Did you consider not telling them your husband is transgender?

[@jeon_artemis]

​@@propogandalf For me, I wouldn't have told my parents my partner is transgender only when I was ashamed of that fact. If my partner is comfortable sharing their identity, I am too. I will not hide my partner's true identity just to seek acceptance from transphobic ppl.

[@ngairepowell2022]

@propogandalf no I didn't, firstly my husband doesn't hide who he is, he is very open about being transgender. But also, I started dating him before his transition, so I think it would have required an explanation either way if I was dating a women who then became a man before our wedding. The funny part is my parents always wanted me to marry a man, so you think they would be on board 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@sushidashi6152]

The sudden Gong Yoo confession while crying from Cookie Perez, is so funny 😂

[@KetchupRocket]

That's the most mom thing ever ahahahaha perfection

[@SuperHumanM-dv9lp]

Such a mom move fr

[@karenesq419]

true and i see the gong yoo resemblance

[@MagisterialVoyager]

Is your mom mom-ing enough without fangirling fine men? (My mom loves Il Divo hahahaaa.)

[@ace.of.space.]

that was so funny and cute of her

[@ciararyan8268]

Ash’s mom being accepting and loving of BOTH her trans children is amazing

[@MelodyMarsIRL]

Last time I saw Ash was on Buzzfeed... this was insane (positively) and so heartwarming to see. Incredible seeing how many ex-Buzzfeed Creators we grew up watching have blossomed into their truest and best selves.

[@FullMetalMakubeX]

Everyone needs a friend who supports you like Kwesi. "You being Ash is all the world needs."

[@mistbored]

really grateful to ash for being willing to show all these pre-transition clips and pictures, i know he’s been online but still it’s so hard for your transition to be public. you can see in every comparison how much happier he is as a guy, and im so glad the try guys are supporting him/shining a light on the transmasc experience! it makes me so happy as a trans guy to know that the creators i love are supportive of me and my people ❤

[@sebentin]

THE THUMBNAIL 😭😭😭 SOOO BUZZFEED

[@kywhitehead_]

It's so perfect

[@myrthemeijer8507]

I legit had to do a double take lol

[@aleks-33]

Cant wait for the shocked comments from ppl who havent heard from Ash in years 😂

[@Azsweettea]

I was scared for a sec

[@briannam3140]

i know in order to be successfully on yt everyone has to give in to the clickbait a little but this one is so clickbaity it’s cringe

[@starzies]

Omg I haven't seen Ash since peak buzzfeed days! Not to be parasocial but I'm getting the warm and fuzzy feelings of seeing an old friend. Glad to see you're doing well, Ash!

[@aspirin4289]

as an asian trans guy on 1 year of T, this was such a love letter to the fish-out-of-water experience i had (and am still having) with navigating a different place in the world. ash, thank you for being so vulnerable and genuine - this video was healing in so many ways

[@squaaaaresyll]

so cool to see other asian transmascs out there! almost a year on T for me :) I completely agree, the video really resonated with me

[@aspenho4101]

​@@squaaaaresyllheyyyyy!!! congrats :DD

[@MoneyChanger02]

20:09 as a cis man, if i was asked to help a trans man in this way, like Kwesi, I would be so pumped. “Oh, you’re asking me to nerd out on stuff I like AND you’re recognizing MY masculinity? I’M IN!”

[@sierraestrellita]

No joke, this is the show that is pushing me to get second try next pay period. I am so so so in love with the pacing, the editing, the vulnerability, and the support that everyone at the Try Guys is giving and getting through this series. I love it

[@anchiekins]

you know what, seeng the reel of ash’s mom in their insta made me sign up for second try! the 3rd episode is up there now!

[@Anaaewp]

same!

[@norsemaiden1108]

I have the subscription, but with my busy schedule I tend to still watch a lot of try content here. However, I was so grateful to have access to parts 2 & 3 over on 2nd try. I immediately went and watched them. So good!

[@jesstse3336]

Got the subscription so I could watch this early haha, honestly worth it just for this.

[@ezbkovn]

First of all - I had NO idea that they had transitioned, i’ve been off of this side of youtube for a few years. Wow! you look amazing. So happy to see you growing into your confidence in this new chapter of your life.

[@theexpotition]

Ugly snot-bubble sobbed when Ash's mom called him a pogi boy. Seeing parents portraying true unconditional love for their trans children is also so incredibly healing for me in my own life. I've loved Ash's content since his time on Buzzfeed and was thrilled to see him pop up here. I'd love to see more than just 3 episodes with Ash!!

[@a_o011]

6:20 as a women I've always been quiet. I grew up with 3 boys, silence has always been normal for me. So going to the salon to get my nails or hair done is awkward for that same reason. I'm expected to have conversations when I just want to sit in silence. So seeing Ash unlearn a lot of social norms women pick up is fascinating.

[@Millidoomsly]

Omg the way ask me every 2 minutes if I’m okay, gosh let me be in silence for a minute!!!!!

[@40ounces]

I’m transmasc like Ash but also autistic, my default state is not wanting to talk and every haircut ends up feeling like an interrogation if the stylist is chatty 😭 the bathroom thing was also funny because “don’t interact don’t even look at other people” is just how I go about life, even when I was being read as a woman

[@pleasestopscreaming]

I am so glad my stylist is also not a talker. We can just sit and vibe. That place is loud enough!

[@danica5235]

omg same, like im here for a service, not to make small talk

[@cutepiku]

Lol I am a cis white women, one of my sisters is a hairstylist and she's been doing my hair since I was about 12 (way before she became a professional) and I'm just used to kind of nodding off when getting my hair done because it feels nice. The last time anyone else did my hair was for her wedding and trying to talk to a person and not just sleep was so difficult.

[@sol_sunnyy5472]

"You look like a Pogi boy!" and knowing how much Ash wanted to feel that/hear that, is sooo sweet🥺💕🥺😭

[@thxruni]

Ash's mom was so wholesome. Her being so happy for the son and being to accepting is so wholesome to see. It made me so emotional when she said I wish dad was there to see you. :')

[@samr1978]

I bawled when Ash's mom said he looked pogi.

[@otasatic]

I just realised I also had a bisexual bob 😭

[@samr1978]

@@otasatic It's a thiiiiing hahaha

[@newuo141]

Bob to pixie to navy cut transition 💁‍♂️

[@cartonriley]

6:20 "Ash dies in Silence" absolutely HAD me 😂😂

[@Coramichelebooks]

I’m sobbing at Ash saying over and over how he hopes he looks Pogi only for his mom to tell him he looks pogi when she saw him and then try to explain it like he hasn’t been waiting to hear it the whole time 😭😭😭😭

[@kennedy3100]

I love how many hugs Ash asked for during this episode cause literally me

[@espyan6110]

I would have watched this if it was a 4 hour documentary. This journey is so special and I feel grateful to of gotten to see a part of it.

[@iluvpotato]

instant tears when she called him pogi boy

[@Skellyrox17]

Kwesi saying "you're building the world you want" is so powerful and lovely. Ngl, I've always wanted to do the "men hug" greeting

[@readtheroom831]

I know! “Men hugs” look like so much fun! 😂

[@Tyraaa80]

“Is there a man hug?” “This is it right here” Basically saying, you giving a hug is a man hug. It was a subtle response but validating and impactful to Ash’s experience. So poetic to me.

[@TedEhioghae]

Stop appropriating the male gender. Being a man is not a costume.

[@RatKingShriggy]

Ash describing his cutting his hair as going "bisexual bob - lesbian - lesbian - trans" the shorter it got is so real, i did that too!! i cut my very long hair into a bob but i still wasn't happy so i kept getting shorter and shorter haircuts until i got a masculine cut and i was like, oh this is it! the way he said it made me laugh too

[@kaitlyndoucette8891]

I haven't cried this much while watching any YT video since Eugene's "I'm Gay" video. This was SO incredibly touching and you are SO freaking pogi. Thank you, Ash, for allowing us into this journey with you.

[@gabbym333]

Dude that video made me SOB back when it came out. So phenomenally beautiful and powerful.

[@PCpixelated1]

As a trans man, seeing someone going through the exact same struggles as me means so much. Thank you ash for sharing this, it is incredible.

[@KyraPro]

Did I cry during the Kwesi convo? Absolutely.

[@KyraPro]

and the reveal.

[@soshiangel90]

I have missed Ash's filming style so much. It's so unique and funny and I am so glad his inclusion in the try guys let's me see his voice again.

[@BoneappleKitty]

That thumbnail is crazy. Very 5 minute crafts core😂😂

[@Meg_Sprite]

@@BoneappleKitty Don’t worry, it’ll make you cry happy tears

[@daniellejordan4551]

It's perfect with the Shein hammer and dumpster tool belt.

[@kywhitehead_]

I could not keep myself together when Ash's mom started crying, what a sweet moment

[@kimberlyosborne965]

I know ugly crying on a Saturday morning, here we go 😂😭

[@biancamarcal9496]

This is incredible!! this concept of a "new guy" merging with this whole new world that Ash now gets to share with us is so kind, and so smart. Aboslutely in love with this series! Can't wait for the next episodes to hit youtube

[@Lukamom]

I am here for this. Wow. I am not trans or gay. Just a boring straight mom of two boys… but this really hit me to my core. It’s genuine. I watched Ashley “ try” things on buzzfeed and always loved her energy. This Ash has the same loving energy and I cannot wait to watch him grow ! Thank you for bringing this to us.

[@jouesrosies]

Liberal feminism really roted our brains. Women labelling themselves as “boring” because they are not mentally ill.

[@mayhem875]

I haven’t cried this hard in a long time. I am a cis woman and being able to see into a man’s world, the real mans world, through Ash’s eyes is such a privilege. And seeing the other men of second try come together around Ash is so beautiful. I watched the whole thing on second try and wept every time. Thank you so much for letting us into this part of your life

[@z_bennet4208]

especially when they are good men. gives me hope really. you know theyre a safe space.

[@terroglacier981]

As a fellow trans Filipino person, this means the WORLD to me. I’m genderfluid and about to start T, the pogi thing made me sob. Ash’s journey with all the questions, watching his mom be so lovingly supportive, it’s all so sweet. Thank you for this

[@ronnieejayy]

ash has always been one of my favourite buzzfeed creators/personalties it’s so nice to see him flourish and come into his own surrounded by such love and support 💘

[@EmIdc]

When his mom called him “Pogi boy” I cried like a baby

[@kaitlynthinks]

soooooo happy to see parker york smith!! he is one of the male style figures i as a nonbinary person love to follow!! great job getting him involved!

[@charleston1789]

Was not expecting the crossover and love it!

[@AmarettoRawr]

Same! Parker is amazing; it's great that people like him are visibly showing men that you can be masc AND enjoy fashion.

[@Teajay21]

Yes I saw him & recognized him but I couldn't plave him for a sec then I did & got excited! I love following him he gives such great advice in a warm way.

[@avocados1707]

YESS SAME

[@ViRoseLaBianca]

Big brother Zach is so sweet 😭

[@briannamurray312]

Zach in the background of Ash's haircut - He looks so sad hearing that Ash wishes he could ask his dad some of these questions, what a supportive friend 💞

[@ImJustDucky93]

I legit got goosebumps and started crying when Ash's momma saw him in his suit. The way she speaks to him, is just so wonderful. She is what every parent should be. What a beautiful moment between a mother and son.

[@saradefelice5188]

Ash, your mom had me crying like a baby. That is the kind of parent I hope to be. Loving, supportive, encouraging. What a beautiful moment for the both of you.

[@LemonZest]

Knocked it out of the park with this one. Everyone is so genuine and vulnerable. Had no idea what the video was about when it started and then I'm crying at the end of it. This is good content. Thank you Ash for letting us inside your journey to manhood.

[@vanilla_cream5198]

honestly as a transman who didn't really have anyone to learn how to "be a man" from this video was really therapeutic! Seeing a fellow tman go through some of his first "male" activities was so sweet i definitely cried a little bit I'm just so happy to see trans people like myself thrive and experience life with people who care about him

[@jayelyyn]

i finally cried when ash's mom called him a pogi boy... and when she said that love and acceptance brings the family closer to eacher other & makes their futures brighter. that's what having kids, friends, family is all about. loving them for who they truly are.

[@andrewherrington3723]

This made me so happy for Ash. It's lovely that he is surrounded by supportive friends like the other Try Guys. And damn...he looked GREAT in that suit.

[@athenapromachos3027]

Oh it's amazing. I'm so glad for him. And he ate and left no crumbs in that suit.

[@Metalcherrytree]

There’s honestly not any FTM trans representation in media that’s this in depth, this detailed, or this vulnerable. From a trans masc person, thank you.

[@CorwinFound]

Me too! It's so amazing to see a trans guy talk honestly about the real struggle to find masculinity without the toxicity. I personally think trans guys have so much to say to cis men about the magic of real masculine vulnerability and strength, if they would just listen.

[@MiddleAgedMartianDog]

As a transfemme transitioning later in life - who spent a lot of time thinking about masculinity before my egg cracked - I really value this too. Both because trans representation at a time when solidarity and visibility is so important and because introducing cis people to explorations of gender is helpful for everyone.

[@LevWantsHisOwnName]

So happy to witness Ash's journey!! And to hear their mom say "You are so handsome!" and "You look like your dad!" is something every guy loves to hear from their moms. It's the ultimate support, especially if your mom is all you got. I started tearing up because, unfortunately, a little over a year ago, I lost my mom and it hit me that I don't get to hear things like that anymore. But I smile because I got the chance to hear her say that. And yes, it's perfectly ok to not talk at the barber and just look at your phone 😂😂 Keep hanging in there, Ash! It'll all come to you in time. Can't wait to see how this all goes! 🤜🏾

[@DropThatRamen]

Trans Girl here who luckily got to see this video pop up in my recommendations. I dont regularly keep up with the Try Guys so this was a pleasant surprise. Im so excited to watch this! I know so little about what transition is like for Trans Men so I'll get to learn alot watching this. Congrats on the Transition Ash!

[@sisterseverus]

I love Ash's mom. You can see how much she loves him, and supports him. And I really love her reactions when she slips with pronouns and son/daughter. She corrects herself, she accepts being corrected. It just shows that it's an adjustment for EVERYONE involved, and that it's ok to make mistakes. All that matters is how you handle the mistakes. Ash clearly wasn't offended because he knows his mom loves him and is there for him

[@EH-ck6xl]

As a transman who doesnt have cis men in his life to turn to for mentorship this series is so important to me. Please continue this; this is giving me a safe space to learn all the info i never had a source to gather from

[@nicolasnamed]

YEAH LET'S GO TRANSMEN REPRESENTATION!!!! For those of you unaware, this is probably the most mainstream transmasc representation I can really think of so far. Mainstream media does NOT like acknowledging we exist. Thank you Try Guys! Always been an inspiration on my own path 😊❤

[@lucawb2003]

Elliot Page? (Unfortunately) Buck Angel?

[@alphastormeex9468]

​@@lucawb2003 I wouldn't count Buck Angel... Elliot Page though is good! :) although he is the only "mainstream" rep I can think of if you don't count Misia Butler in Kaos. He is a newer star but did amazing in that lead role. Point is, there is much less trans man representation in multiple spaces (entertainment, research, public discourse, etc)

[@Kassowari]

I would hazard that while Elliot Page is def highly visible, it's rare to have this much open, honest dialogue that includes like... a comfortable mention of old names, old life, etc. Its really great.

[@nicolasnamed]

I was trying to remember Elliot Page's name but couldn't right at the moment I made the comment, but even still he might be the most visible *celebrity* that's a trans man but I was talking more about representation in media (TV/Film/News/Online Videos/etc.). Like, it just means a whole lot seeing a trans guy so visible talk about his experience to an audience and see the transmasc existence accepted, uplifted, and normalized.

[@dylan_was_taken]

We see you, you're a bro, welcome to the sweaty balls club!

[@sarahhaybron9894]

oh my god, congrats Ash!!!! i used to watch buzzfeed back in the day so i vividly remember you! i had no idea you transitioned, but i’m SO glad to see you feel like you can be yourself

[@4822PoundsofHam]

Interestingly enough, I didn’t feel like I could grow out my hair UNTIL I transitioned. I was very uncomfortable being seen as a woman with long hair. But as a dude with long hair? Perfectly fine. Now it’s long enough to touch my shoulder blades, even with my curl shrinkage, and I can’t imagine it any other way. After finishing the vid, this shit is gonna make me bawl. I’ve been on T for 4 years and I’m still figuring out so much. I’m the only trans guy I know. This is gonna be so wonderful.

[@texeoghea]

fellow trans guy and total same about the hair thing. doing "feminine" things in general has become far more comfortable for me now that it's from a place of defiance rather than obedience. being a girly girl was uncomfortable- but being a man with long hair and wearing crop tops for the first time after getting top surgery is awesome

[@VS-re1sr]

This is something I find so interesting about trans: many seem to feel threatened by association with their assigned gender until they feel comfortable enough in their own skin. I think it is beautiful to watch someone experience the joy of letting go of that burdeon.

[@idfkmantisold]

I felt similar with anything associated with femininity, rejected heavily before my transition, but years into my transition became more and more comfortable with those things. It took me about 4 years on T to even use nail polish for the first time, painted just one nail and nearly had an anxiety attack, now I paint them all the time and don't think anything of it. Ultimately I really don't care if people see me as a masculine man or a feminine man, I'm just happy to be a man.

[@Michelle-DiPalo]

Ash is the most adorable new Try Guy. He was my favorite during the live Halloween costume video, along with Jonny. Can't wait to continue watching his journey.

[@JamesG123b]

I’m 21 years old and I started taking T in February of this year. I grew up watching Ash on Buzzfeed as a teenager, and this video has been so deeply touching and relatable as a fellow trans masculine person to check back in and see that he has grown and changed in many of the ways I did, and also faces a lot of the same insecurities and hardships that I do. Well done on this video, cannot wait to heal my inner child watching more of this series! Thanks guys!!

[@ruuoxi]

wait until you 40. until your hormones are stable. don't be a lab rat.

[@Arnnya2]

Fellow trans guy from Brazil who also transitioned in 2020~ hey, wow, I'm feeling some kind of catharsis watching this video. I started watching the Try Guys on Buzzfeed before transitioning and also knew Ash from back then. I remember watching the announcement of the new Try team and realizing Ash transitioned and was just so, idk, happy! And now this kind of video that is SO relatable, changing your appearance as a transmasc can be challenging since everything we learn to do as one gender suddenly don't fit quite right anymore. Learning to navigate gender is tough in general... I just wanted to say I feel very represented by this video and I want to see so much more content from Ash here! Lets grow and be our more authentic selves. ❤

[@carlosmiramontes5159]

Kwesi, thank you for showing up for Ash the way you did in this video. As a non-binary person, I feel so touched and healed to hear your love and support for queer people and the journey they’re on.

[@gogogodzilla85]

This is f*cking beautiful. Watching Ash learning, watching his Mom support him even with the struggling with pronouns, hell, even watching the boys treat him like they would any other person, it's all just so wonderful!

[@BlackRaven0211]

Me, a 34 year old woman, without kids: Im proud of you son @ Ash Perez. And for all trans kids, im fucking proud of you

[@stillnotstill]

Omg thank you. What a wonderful birthday present.

[@kaixavier2]

Thank you!

[@Sunnipoo]

Thank you !! ❤❤❤

[@chatonraleur]

​@@stillnotstill Happy birthday 🎉

[@AlejandraCamposGua]

Amen!

[@sammerrill8780]

This is stunning. I've been feeling like I've hit a roadblock in my transition and this video was great. It's so nice seeing trans people living their lives and having conversations about their experiences in such a natural and comfortable way. Also Ash's mom seems so sweet 😭 watching them together is so wholesome

[@katev4827]

Kwesi is the best. What a great man. I love that Ash has this whole support network.

[@thegingerx]

Ash feels like he’s been a Try Guy for years. Loved this video!!

[@Clear_Night4]

As a millenial I obsessively watched Buzzfeed in it's golden era, I dropped off about halfway through College, but Ash was one of my fav cast members and I really missed his personality, temperament, and smile! Love them 🥰

[@maceheath]

I haven't watched this channel in so long, I had no clue he was trans. This was such a heartwarming watch

[@natsdentureadventure]

I am so happy for him. Watching him for years on buzzfeed, on the try guys, it’s easy to say this is truly who you were meant to be. You seem so much more lively & free ❤️ so happy for him😭❤️

[@WhitneyKerr]

This is the best video Second Try has put out. What an important conversation.

[@lifeinabottle7314]

Ash's mom is such a precious gem, I'm literally crying with her 😭😭

[@shinywatermelona]

I’ve watched buzzfeed videos since 2014 and Ash has been my constant favourite and I always loved seeing him. I’m so happy for him!

[@auntlynnie]

I never connected Ash to his dead name ( didn’t recognize him). He’s so talented and thoughtful. I appreciate him sharing this SO MUCH.

[@livelaughstuck]

I'm literally in tears. I'm trans masc, and I feel there are so few compassionate looks at masculinity and the process of becoming a man. To see not only Ash's joy in manhood, but his friends' and the guests and professionals' joy in manhood, and their joy in *his* manhood is beyond heartwarming. Thank you so much for making this series and publishing the first episode for free for us.

[@hannahh4994]

20:38 "You just being Ash is all the world needs." This video is so great. Congrats Ash! And thank you for sharing your experiences.

[@benhillard919]

"From Try Guys to trans guys, nerd love a lot of things but the one thing they love most is correcting people! This is 'Um Actually!'"