TRANS MEN ARE NOT LESBIANS | BUTCH VS TRANSMASC

[@WHU-lz7gq]

As a butch lesbian i agree with you. I am a woman who is very masculine but i am very happy as a female. When people tell me im trying to be a man it makes me feel angry because i am a woman dispite how i look and act. When i was a teenager i thought that i was supposed to be a man because i didnt fit in with any women around me. I had never seen a butch lesbian before so i felt like i either had the choice of accepting that i was a woman and going feminine or becoming a man. It wasnt until i saw other women like me that i knew butch lesbians existed and everything made sense. I have a lot of transgender friends and i understand and respect their identity and i really appreciate when people talk about the distinction between butch lesbians and FTM transgender people. I love this video it's great 👍

[@johannakuster1564]

I love what you write. Thank you. Greets from a butch-loving femme.

[@ShiningAroha]

For 22 years, I identified as a lesbian. I figured it was too late to come out as a trans man because I had lived some of my adult life as a woman...I have been out for 3 months and have realized that I am attracted to both cis women and trans men.

[@aktdoa]

i realised i was bisexual after starting testosterone!

[@ShiningAroha]

@@aktdoa Ah, so I'm not the only person to feel that way. I figure it's a natural process of becoming my real self.

[@erinsymone1645]

So you are exclusively attracted to females and are thus still a lesbian.

[@xbduf4gb]

So nothing’s changed. You’re still a lesbian.

[@xbduf4gb]

@@aktdoa Only because testosterone artificially increased your sex drive.

[@sahirahvasquez6211]

I started testosterone very very recently (like 3 days ago recently) and in the hour leading up to my appointment, I had a very sudden jolt of anxiety- I wondered if I was faking, was like "why am I doing this, what's going on", and was questioning whether I'd regret the decision. The thing that sticks out most sorely to me though is that *I am not a woman*. That's plain as day. I indentify as nonbinary, but I'd rather be read as male over being read as female. And I have no gripes at all with any of the permanent changes that taking testosterone will cause. And when I tell you how happy I felt after taking my first shot...that can't be faked. I'm not a woman. Whatever I am, I'm not that.

[@purpledaydreamer9682]

Congrats to you! I feel very similar. I started 2 weeks ago today and it took me a loooonggggg time to make the decision. But the relief and joy I felt the second I started T was the sign I was waiting for that I made the right decision :)

[@pvltergeist]

The first time I tried to pursue T, I got cold feet and didn’t try again until 6 years later and even then I was STILL questioning if I was making the right decision. What stood out to me was the vocabulary I was using, asking myself why I couldn’t just “pretend” to be a woman. I started T three weeks ago and I just feel so… settled. Congrats to you! You’re not alone.

[@aktdoa]

congrats on starting testosterone, that’s amazing! i’m glad you were able to push through the anxious moments, even i had those before starting T and it can be really difficult to work through those types of thoughts (especially when so many people are hellbent on convincing trans people we’ll regret our transition).

[@aktdoa]

congrats on starting!

[@aktdoa]

as soon as you recognise “hey, i don’t think a cis person would even consider doing this (starting HRT, getting surgery etc)”, BAM all the anxiety goes away

[@briannamay5459]

My experience as a trans woman. "Why do you have to transition?? Why can't you just be a feminine gay man??" "Cuz I'm not a gay man, I'm a straight woman. Duh"

[@AnaLuisa-ls9gi]

I wouldn´t date a trans woman. Y´all are man.

[@johannakuster1564]

I disagree in this point: yes, it can be threathening and hurting for butch lesbians to be seen as men. The womanhood in a butch is precious, very special, and holy and it is to be honoured as it is.

[@TheCozyRedhead]

Thank you so much! I deeply appreciate this video. Not alot of creators touch on this topic. I’m happy there’s now a video that touches on this topic. I appreciate your help in explaining these things. It’s very helpful. Keep up the great work!👍🏾 😊❤ Happy Holidays! 🕎🎄☃️

[@aktdoa]

Thank you for the recommendation! I hope I covered the topic well and answered some of your questions 😅

[@cc2345]

I have been a tomboy my entire life. At the ripe old age of 21 I feel like I might be transmasc. I feel like a man but I dont want to be a man exactly. This was very helpful thanks

[@Abi-pd7be]

Lets have this conversation again in fifteen years.

[@SquierMarr]

Honesty this is the best explanation from a trans man on this topic ive seen. Very rarely do trans men take seriously into account butch as a gender or that many butches are non binary in some way. Most trans guys try so hard to distance themselves that they really oversimplify. For me i think honestly the only thing that reslly distinguishes me and a trans man is that my gender identity is less immoveable and binary. I have some dysphoria, but not as much as i think trans men do, and i identify as more nonbinary or with butch as a gender. If you have a lot of dysohoria and you feel consistently mentally binary male, you should absolutely transition if you want to. I think we have a lot in common and theres no real need to deny that in order to validate anyones transition. If my identity was more 100% binary i would transition too. I mean i often consider it.

[@omniacontrariasunt]

thank you so much for making this video, it's very needed in my opinion, even though I really don't get why this is such a hard thing to understand. happy holidays to you too, I hope they'll be great for you :)

[@aktdoa]

I’m glad you enjoyed the video!

[@Alex_...34565]

wow i just saw your first trans haircut video before (first video i saw of you) didnt expect your voice to drop THAT much XD

[@aktdoa]

been on T since 2017, i hope it would’ve dropped by then!!

[@113nightbird]

Great video Dakota! Merry Christmas! :)

[@aktdoa]

Thank you!

[@audreytan8881]

This is very clear. Thank you!

[@helenalovelock1030]

You pass extremely well. I would never know you were transman

[@3bah4y]

I just saw a TikTok of a “he/they butch transmasc lesbian on T” and the comment section was filled with people saying, “omg I’m a lesbian and on T too!!” I couldn’t believe it.

[@TheFinnDude]

What do you mean? Transmasc lesbians exist. Butch lesbians that take T exist (just look at Stone Butch Blues). And pronouns don’t equal gender.

[@theSupercasa]

The height thing: straight men are also very much sensitive about their height. They are HELLBENT on appearing 6 foot. If you call them "short king" they will get absolutely furious. And it’s not like transitioning makes you any taller, does it?

[@_Cloudevil_]

Tramsmasc and transmen are not the same thing tho

[@aktdoa]

yes, in this video i use some blanket terminology to avoid confusion

[@ashleyashleym2969]

I agree, but another difference is that not all trans men are masculine, some trans men are androgynous and some are feminine. Butch also seems to imply being a lesbian as well; and trans men and butch lesbians also differ in that butch lesbians are attracted to women, trans men can be attracted to anyone (and no one as well, asexuality is a thing a trans man can be too). This would also apply to masculine cis women as well though, their sexuality could be anything as well. People dont get that its the gender, its not the expression of it, it's the gender itself.

[@Abaddon3016]

As a gay guy I got no problem with you claiming to be a guy to me your one of the bros . But what are your points on gay guys not wanting to date transmen? Or the obstacle trans men would have in sports? I have never met a trans man and is just curious of how you fit in the dating life of the gay community. Which tends to be hypersexualize.

[@stutteringtom1]

Internalized homophobia misogyny and stereotypes

[@averyintelligence]

Yea, she seems very lost. She also doesnt realise hetrosexual men dont have youtube channels about being trans. No hetrosexual man is wasting their time making videos like this.

[@aktdoa]

good thing i’m not a heterosexual man! i’m bisexual actually :) hope this helps

[@averyintelligence]

@@aktdoa that would make sense considering you must have a hard time accepting lesbian thoughts. Must be easier to say bi. So you can keep running away from the thoughts that bring you distress. Also must be easier for you to be with a man when people think you are gay. When really you would struggle to find males who would date you if you still identified as butch/tomboy female. I know u know this but u desperate to run from the reality. The reality is hetro men/boys see u as ugly when u was living as a woman. Am I lying?

[@averyintelligence]

@@aktdoa Men are not threatened by you. So you're not an issue. Do trans guys realise that when people complain about trans people they talk specifically about trans woman?. Really n truly men see you as weak and not a threat. So there's that. And most woman simply see you as a butch Les who can't cope with reality cos you have so much self hate

[@RB-hl3ux]

😊great video😊

[@aktdoa]

thank you!

[@lyonclaws5737]

transmasc can be, but trans men are not :p

[@coolrabi9534]

👹i wanted to be first bruh. Guess I am second

[@coolrabi9534]

Im such a degenerate

[@aktdoa]

second isn’t bad, you’re still on the podium!

[@jasminbampton2002]

I’m a girl who is a full on tomboy who has her hair cut short and I’m not lesbian or bi I’m totally straight and not trying to medically change to be a man so it’s not true whatsoever that every women or girl who’s more masculine then feminine/girly is gay please get your facts right and don’t label us all together just because some are thanks

[@aktdoa]

i said in my video multiple times that there are masc straight cis women who are simply embracing masculinity in their own ways. hopefully next time you use your listening skills!

[@poggoid7336]

He literally made very clear that not only lesbians will present masculine, but any women can do that by saying that this expressions rely on a very personal basis, but that this is diferente between any masculine woman and a Trans man.

[@veronica_bohemian]

🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦

[@actxce9220]

Did u even watch the video

[@jasminbampton2002]

@@actxce9220 yes and he said that any girl/women that dresses masculine is a butch lesbian which is different to a trans man all I am saying is that’s totally not true at least in my case because I’m not butch or lesbian or bi even thou I’m more masculine then feminine and to not clump us all together just because most are ok

[@danielgillespie7899]

Transgender movement: Misogyny? Check. Homophobia? Check.

[@aktdoa]

Where’s the misogyny? Or the homophobia? Point out to me where I said anything along those lines is this video.

[@danielgillespie7899]

@@aktdoa Saying you're not a woman is an act of misogyny. Saying you're not a lesbian is an act of homophobia. What's wrong with being a woman? What's wrong with being a lesbian? And before you even try and claim that you just don't "feel" like a woman and/or lesbian, let me stop you right there. For you to not "feel" like a woman and/or a lesbian you would have to know how other women feel about being women and how other lesbians feel about being lesbians. Which is impossible for you to know because you're not them. As a gay man I'm sick of the transgender movement. I'm sick of the homophobia. And I'm sick of women LARPing as men. You're not a man. You're not. Get over it. There's nothing wrong with being a masculine woman. And this is where the homophobia comes in. Your movement tells young gays and lesbians that being a masculine woman or an feminine man isn't acceptable. That homosexuality itself isn't acceptable and is an act of so-called "transphobia". And that gays and lesbians need to be "fixed" by transitioning. Or at the very least they need to be compelled to have sexual relations with trans people. The homophobia I observe and experience from the transgender movement and so-called "transgender" people is so much worse than anything I observe and experience from conservatives. You are part of a disgraceful movement and I look forward to its inevitable demise. For your own mental heath I would encourage you to start to examine why you have such a problem with being female. Because you're not running towards something. You're running away from something. Figure that out and you'll be a lot happier. And please stop encouraging other gay and lesbian people to follow in your mentally unhealthy footsteps.

[@veronica_bohemian]

Transphobic movement: Ignorance? Check. Stupidity? Check.

[@aktdoa]

I never said there was anything wrong with being a woman, a masculine woman, or a lesbian. I only stated the difference between what masculinity means for a trans man and for cis women. Would you say the same to a trans woman, or a drag queen? By your logic, aren’t they just “LARPing” as women? Sounds to me like you’re just looking for something to be mad about. You’re “sick” of this, “sick” of that; if you’re so tired of seeing transgender people, pluck out your eyes!

[@xbduf4gb]

@@aktdoaThe trans movement is erasing women and lesbians.