trans tiktoks that remind me that gender is a performance and i don't know my lines

[@caroldelaney4700]

I transitioned in 1976. At the age of 16.we have been around since the beginning of history.look at mythology.

[@elstarnor4628]

It’s wonderful that there are older trans people who’ve been out for so long for us younger people to look up to

[@DemiSuaton]

@@elstarnor4628Yeah, it’s really sweet.

[@yoru5484]

Infinite respect to older trans folk, y’all paved the path to a better future

[@CherylKasson]

I came out as nonbinary at the age of 75. It's never too late!

[@Tobithepurpleducc]

The elder trans are superior

[@dontreadthisplease2416]

If you actually look at the wikipedia page of alan hart it's pretty inspiring/reassuring. He was actually able to take T and get sex reassignment surgery. He dated women despite being afab in the early 1900s, and even ended up marrying one. (Did homophobia just not become a real thing in the u.s until later or something? Or was it just looked over because he passed as male? Probably the latter ig.) Although he wasn't able to transition until well into adulthood and faced some pushback from family, he lived a relatively happy life and spoke about how satisfied he was with his transition in interviews. He died at the age of 71 of heart failure. Not suicide. And he was trans in the early 1900s. Which seems like it would be a very difficult time to be trans. In a way though, the ignorance/lack of understanding of some people likely protected him as much as it hurt him as I'm sure almost nobody at the time really understood what a trans person was enough to have actually formed a strong opinion on it previously, unlike today where it's become a big political issue. Although he was once outed as transgender and had to move. Completely unrelated on the masc cuts...first one always seems to be what my hair ends up growing out to for a short period when I get a haircut. No matter what the original haircut was. I s2g. It angers me.

[@saltydinonuggies1841]

Actually queerness was pretty normalized for a while in the USA. In the 1900s homophobia became more of a thing. Prior to that it was mostly just people were people.

[@GummyGoober333]

I’m gonna need more buff queer bakers-

[@the-best-weirdo]

Me too bro

[@OdinsSage]

Me three

[@thatpantransguy]

That last person I totally agree! Detransitioning happens sometimes because the person thought they wanted to medical/social transition and/or they are trans but really something else. It doesn’t happen that much but it does happen and trans community we need to respect the journey of all people regardless if they decide to detransition and talk about it. Experiences need to be shared that is how we learn and grow.

[@k1tcaliber]

i love the guy with the apron “i could MAKE a croissant rn.” that’s so real

[@OdinsSage]

People starting their hrt gotta remember that you're basically putting your body through second puberty, and puberty takes YEARS. A young boy hasnt started puberty when his baby mustache starts coming in, he's several years into puberty at that point. So if youre on hrt, have been on it for a few months or even a year, but youre worried because youre not seeing the results you were hoping - take a breath. Change will happen, it just takes time. You'll get there.

[@marmoth9786]

sometimes i think i can live comfortably in my current body but then i see someone medically transitioning and my mind is blown all over again. you're saying i could look like that?? yes PLEASE

[@tiktoks.are.my.love.language]

same!!! ;o;

[@frostflaggermus]

yeah same...........

[@p1cklerickkk15]

8:40 this tiktok sounds like my dad when he was hearing rumors about me being queer (and assumed i wanna be a boy cause of how i dress, and im trans masc nb but he doesn’t know that) and he was telling me that he had those thoughts when he was younger too (thoughts about being a girl cause he said kids would tell him he looked like a girl, made it sound like he was being oppressed when he said this) but he “prayed them away”, like sir ?? are you coming out to me rn ??

[@FoxGameCZ]

My name is Alex but at work they call me Sasha because it's diminutive of Alexander. Where I am from it's mostly gender neutral. But we see a lot of guys being called Sasha in tv, mostly russian characters.

[@maddyc2025]

1:09 "-and now that I have your attention", THE WAY I WAS HUMBLED.

[@CiCodiCadno]

I only started T slightly before turning 30. Watching people like Jammiedodger who started in his teens made me feel like I was "too old". I've been on T for 2 years and pass 100% of the time. It's never too late.

[@ZijnShayatanica]

I feel that!! I'm 32 yrs old, about to celebrate my 1 yr T-aversary &... Well, my levels are low rn because I took it SUPER SLOWLY, but I've increased my dose & optimistic AF & stoked as hell for the future. I feel weird sometimes, because I feel so old & so young simultaneously? Lol

[@CiCodiCadno]

@@ZijnShayatanica congrats on your upcoming 1 year anniversa-T!

[@silvercandra4275]

8:21 Holy shit that's literally what my mom said. "You're not trans! When I was your age I felt the same way! If I was a kid these days, I would probably be nonbinary too!" I told her she's probably just nonbinary and she just noped out of there. Well... not my problem.

[@deletedddddddddd]

i know a cis male named sascha, pronounced sasha and i love it, he's awesome, but the name is just a cool boy's name in general.

[@axofbrevity]

would it happen to be Sascha Coward? if so he's fantastic

[@stxrstruck6755]

5:49 The lack of the transmasc mullet confuses me, WHERE IS IT

[@prince_caspiian]

RIGHT

[@wist.]

i grew out a mullet and it looks really good >:) also is ur pfp the guy from that webtoon? i forgot the name/his name but it was rlly cute lol

[@CiCodiCadno]

​@@wist.2 weeks late to tell you the webcomic is Daybreak and his name is Marcus!

[@wist.]

@@CiCodiCadno ahh 2 weeks late indeed, i picked it up again lol its great

[@OdinsSage]

Sasha is a dope man's name. It's up there with men named Stacey or Kelly. It just works for some reason, and im here for it.

[@ExploitSage]

I actually love my deadname in general, I think its a COOL name, and I loved that I was named after my Dad, but Lord is it NOT a girl's name, and considering I wasn't even confident enough to pick a definitively feminine name, but instead a slightly masc-leaning unisex name with a femme spelling... to avoid conflict regardless of passing or not... I def wasn't gonna try to rock a full on masc name... 🙃

[@Sprinkles-is-confused]

that last one was refreshing

[@shuut1030]

Frrr. Similar to what that person was talking about, I also had a fear of people who detransition being massive transphobes, but that video gave me a new lens that I definitely needed to see.

[@Sprinkles-is-confused]

@@shuut1030 same! i also hate the demonization of detrans people. ii dearly love them and wish them the best, very few do that whole "it wasn't for me so its not for anyone thing" and i think we need to create a better atmosphere surrounding it so they don't feel outcasted.

[@teelesynclair5902]

Alan Hart had it bad, he kept having to move on because he was outed several times and he was even wrote about in a very disrespectful way in the newspapers, and referred to as like a crazy lady 😢 despite living as a man. Idk if he did ever lose his job because he was trans or if he left himself before they had the chance to wrongfully take his job. I think it's actually really sad that his amazing work isn't common knowledge, TB was a major killer that took millions of lives throughout history and this guy helped get us to where we are nowadays where TB isn't a common disease anymore in the developed world.

[@BlackMew13]

Enby with a wolfcut here: that TikTok about transmasc hairstyles was WAY too accurate :'D

[@paigey-poo4235]

Literally me like “oh it’s masc haircuts im safe lol-AW DAMN IT THEY GOT ME ANYWAY!” Literally cut my hair like two days ago and I was like “idk maybe I’ll be daring this time and cut the layers a little shorter” and now my front pieces don’t fit in a ponytail and I’m mad at myself

[@montanalemaitre4451]

As a 28 year old wanting to get on hormones the trans man who went on it at 26-27 really spoke to me.

[@ZijnShayatanica]

It's not too late for you, friend. I started T shortly after my 31st bday - while part of me wishes I had figured shit out sooner, I'm just glad that I got here eventually. 💖

[@Klee-Main]

Sasha, some people like you just live for chaos :)

[@Iyashikei-t4u]

Maybe he likes Sacha Baron Cohen?

[@jellyfishfingernail]

help that's my name and i was so cinfused

[@Klee-Main]

@@jellyfishfingernail I’m sorry lol. I was talking abt the guy in the video

[@smokyquartz5817]

"Trans haircuts" is the kind of hypocrisy that gives the game playing away. Get whatever haircut you want. Be good to others. Its that easy. Drop this kind of crap.

[@skygiles1558]

The caption of this video is golden 😂

[@TeresaTabitha]

I used to hang out with a lot of people with eastern european ancestry, and Sasha is a predominantly a male aligned name in those communities. So for me Sasha is a gender neutral name like Erin/Aaron, Shannon, etc...

[@HiltownJoe]

Sascha is a boys name around here. If you meet a millenial named sasha around here, that guy carried a switch blade in his youth, probably still does. I never met a Sascha who is not at least a little bit unhinged.

[@prince_caspiian]

8:19 literally my mom LOL like yk u can still transition right 10:36 oh. oh my gosh. thats me. that person literally looks like me. (except top surgery) thats so cool! thats insane! wow

[@mothgirlrosie3499]

For the first vid, does everyone forget about the roman emperor Elagabalus. I mean technically it's "hearsay" but they literally felt gender euphoria for being called a woman and have shown signs of having dysphoria. They literally were talked about trying to basically do bottom surgery on themselves. They also preferred being called their partners "mistress, wife and queen." If that isn't proof of trans people existing, idk what is. (Reign was around 218-222)

[@soapenthusiast]

at 8:13 this was my aunt's way of.. idk.. supporting me? in not being a boy??? she pulled me aside at christmas and said that she used to be like me and "thought she wanted to be a boy" so she joined the army and like?? girlie... there's a name for that... but she was also so sweet about it, saying she'll "support [me] no matter what" and "[I'll] always be [her] baby" (I am the youngest of her youngest sibling so I am the baby of the baby of the family. the ultimate baby. my next youngest cousin is around 6? 7? years older than me) also, I'm not out to her??? I get that I dress masculine but I've dressed masculine since like birth???

[@axofbrevity]

11:44 if anyone coming across this thinks there's such a thing as "too late", there isn't. I started at 33. I'm almost 2 years on t and my beard is incredibly decent (i've even had a couple of cis guys upset because i have a better beard than they do), my voice is leveling out at a decently low level, fat is definitely redistributing, I get read as male even if i'm not wearing a binder. all of the changes are happening just as they would have if i had had the ability to start earlier. it's never too late. i even know of a couple of guys who transitioned WELL into adulthood, im talkin 60's, 70's, 80's. it's never too late.

[@ZijnShayatanica]

If that's you in your pfp, you look AMAZING, dude! I'm 32, about to celebrate one year on T, & while things have been super slow [partly by design]... I'm so happy & looking forward to the future. 💕

[@axofbrevity]

@@ZijnShayatanica That is me, thank you! congrats on your soon-to-be one year! I feel like people always make it out to be that the first year is when all of the changes happen but I feel like my second year had so much more progress than my first. Looking back it probably would have been better for my voice if I'd gone a bit slower but it's settled quite a bit now and I can sing without cracking it 😆 I'm rooting for you! 💚

[@svp3rstzr]

HELP THE TITLE IS SO ME (im a cis female but sometimes i forget, but i literally use any prns like idc)

[@kayla8402]

Related to the guy who's been on t 4 years at about 11:44, I'm going the other way and I'm now 40, been on hrt a little over a year, and he literally described a LOT of my conflicts. Especially the in between feeling, the impostor syndrome due to so much time in a relatively functional (but very stagnant) life, how people know me (having barely ever done anything that didn't fit general expectations of who I am), even with extremely supportive family. Brains often recognize the new thing as the problem if anything feels off, even if it's actually because those changes highlight existing features. So transitioning later can be A Lot.

[@loikira5841]

I really think my mom may be more queer than she realised. When I came out as enby, she said did say "oh I had that too". She said she had chosen a boy name, and she eventually grew out of it. (may also be dissociation bc she had a hard time as a child). We also had a discussion about bisexuality, she didn't understand that commiting to one person of one gender didn't mean you could not know you were attracted to the other gender(s). I don't remember how that went but I had the feeling she may be on the aro-ace spectum somehow. She doesn't seem to want to explore that, tho, so I dont bother her :)

[@silvercandra4275]

3:31 people keep thinking that, but the reality is that my hair is just naturally fluffy and I'm growing it out rn. I'm not projecting a tough exterior, I'm just kind of an edgelord. And I'm gonna grow my hair out way past the shoulders because my hair is pretty and I'm gonna confuse the straight guys. So yeah, I do be trying to just slay.

[@levvywatch]

5:30 funny to finally see somebody include long hair when talking about ftms. i keep my hair long by choice for that metalhead look, but i'm often told i just have skater/stoner vibes. so it's really accurate lol

[@alis.in.wonderland]

The first one is EXACTLY what I think.... You have every answer about anything you could possibly imagine... and you use Facebook or whatever as a search engine and never actually educate yourself, probably for fear of being wrong and having your beliefs shattered 🤦

[@tobigrantlbart]

In my country I often forget that Sasha can be a girl's name. Like when I see a girl character on tv I am always like:"Oh yea it's a thing" and it ain't this uncommon of a name yk

[@H1GH___A1R7]

I’m can be trans one day and not, being abrogender. 😉✨ edit: wrong I'm trans again.

[@theo8037]

the only sascha i know irl is a 16 yr old boy, amab

[@tau_particle]

i actually only know males called sasha, and where i live it's a pretty gender-neutral name, and even a bit more on the masculine side... and i think it's a pretty cool name😊

[@dizzydots4786]

My mums cousin is/was trans (idk if they've passed or not. She was at my parents wedding ceremony) She's a trans woman, Martina I believe. And I'm a genderfluid / trans masculine. My ma apparently expressed gender dysphoria. (Ma's long since passed, over a decade ago, so I'll never truly know) What I do is, by maternal lines; My Granny was a paranoid schizophrenic, an addict and abusive. My ma was a recovering addict, gender non-conforming / trans umbrella with undiagnosed OSDD/DID and possible bipolar, ontop of neurodivergency. I am a genderfluid trans-masc person with DID, AuDHD and other neurodivergencies, currently seeking a Bipolar screening, and looking into gender care clinics. I want to be androgynous enough that I'm asked "are you a boy or a girl?". That's my fluffin DREAM. Pure androgyny. Idek where I was going with this whole commemt lmfaoooo 💀 TLDR, Cisgender, Hetersexual, LGBTQIAA+; You are valid and recognised, and I really hope you are safe and loved, or are able to access safety and care asap. You are allowed to be you, and I promise - You are beautiful, handsome, pretty, cute, gorgeous, astonishing (positive). I hope that your beauty is also true on the inside. Make others feel happy and safe the way you want to feel happy and safe ~SetLore ❤

[@danielwols]

the phobes either have very low info and maybe don't want to learn new stuff or just have very specialized info in other stuff

[@MelonGecko]

I know a cis boy named Sasha. We were really cool. Should've got their number to keep the friendship alive, but it died. Sasha was super awesome though. I started running faster so I could keep up with them and hold conversations lol. Shoutout to you Sasha!

[@A_DAM_PROBLEM_ANDREW]

8:12 I told my mom about my dysphoria and how I hated being a girl and the femal things I'd get when puberty happened and she said she felt that way when she was younger and it's normal to wonder what it would be like to be the other one. So either she got confused of what I meant and didn't understand it how I was meaning to explain it, or she has some things she might need to think over lol. I did end up going back into the closet though and played it off as being a Tomboy.

[@theinvertebratequeen]

Hi everyone! If anyone here uses neopronouns (or understands them a lot), can I ask a question? I've been arguing and defending the use of neopronouns with people but I don't use them myself so I don't fully understand all of it. I know some people have more 'niche' neopronouns like fae/faeself which seem less understood by people than ones like xe/xir. I wanted to ask who uses the pronouns for you and when? I have been told before that some use they/them for strangers and then their friends or people they know call them neopronouns like fae/faeself. However, is it often that way? Lots of people have been arguing with me saying it's a 'mockery of gender' etc to try and 'force' people to call you by a less conventional neopronoun (or any neopronoun, really) but I've never witnessed anyone personally 'forcing' their neopronouns down anyone's throat. I just thought I'd ask in case anyone can answer - sorry for a long comment!!

[@notfamedtvpersonalitydrphil]

As someone who uses it/they and all neopronouns, most people use they/them for me but some of my close friends use my neos! 😊

[@meIIohi]

I use any pronouns and any neopronouns but people usually just use he/they for me. I'm really the only person who uses neopronouns to refer to myself. Though if my friends use neopronouns I try to use a mix of their neopronouns and other pronouns (if applicable) for them!!!

[@A.Nerd.]

last week i'm pretty sure I saw a trans woman in a nearby Macy's and i felt so happy that she could be who she wanted to be ❤

[@therealsilly]

9:27 is so real ive decided to keep my birthname cause its cool but it’s feminine 😭

[@boingooingo3317]

I got a wolfcut recently, and honestly love bc 1) i can say that i have a wolfcut which sounds cool and 2) it looks p fluffy so that's cool Probably shpuldve gotten it in winter tho lol summer's p hot

[@beanstheclown]

If I ran into Sasha I'd just assume he was Russian or Russian heritage.

[@Dyno_tron]

9:10 this is so true like I swear my mom said that it’s everyone’s dream to take testosterone like to

[@TheHumanIssue]

I just looked at my passport that has an old photo of me before i started to change my hair and stuff to feel less fem and I looked completely different. It was kinda affirming in a way.

[@shilohgrayson]

The last tiktok was very interesting. So, I think I understand it. Some people detransition because they miss the body they were born with, but they still don't feel cis. Did I get that right?

[@bestwitch2931]

Oh yeah Sasha is a cool name for a boy it definitely rocks with a kind of Alaskan Canadian vibe for some reason I think of brother bear and like indigenous people though when I hear it tho

[@GeeIsSoSillay888]

3:32 they called me out so hard right there and then lmao

[@Eastonthemoth]

5:39, OR you're not allowed to cut your hair lol

[@_ArthurChase]

Sasha was Nijinsky's nickname

[@south452]

Gender is a performance and I did NOT sign up for it. cough hii questions to boost the algorithm !!!! since people do that on other channels like this I watch I might as well fill that niche here :3 1: favourite bird? 2: what’s the most recent video game you’ve played? 3: cold weather or warm weather?

[@prince_caspiian]

1. ooo ummm finch probably 2. splatoon 2 3. depends haha i like the inbetween seasons (spring and fall)

[@thecrowsinthegarden]

1. Crows or any corvids really! 2. I played Sims 4 not even an hour ago lol 3. I'm not really a fan of either

[@sunny-my9ng]

1: blue tit 2: firewatch 3: cold weather :)

[@celiairis3894]

1. It's probably a raven! 2 . Pokemon Legend of Arceus! 3. Cold weather!

[@ocs_2447]

I feel so called out rn😭3:40

[@itsarkansaw843]

1:08 I love the hair :0

[@dallassegno]

D$

[@Joebama87]

:3

[@jaycoleman8062]

I always go to Wikipedia for facts. LMAO

[@max_the_mantis5173]

Sasha is also a german fbi man from the video game Psychonauts. ❤

[@bobthebadbucket9061]

When I hear sasha, i think heavy weapon not girl

[@Dianasaurthemelonlord7777]

New Sub:3

[@SG80games]

5:20 STAAAHHHHPPPP

[@keyboarddancers7751]

14:07 Mistaken for a trans woman? That's insulting! Performative pronoun culture can be confusing.

[@catchandkill]

3:35 Im so desperate for this hair but I literally have that straight 1a hair so i cant make it fluffy or anything- (in my partner's words "LMFAOO YOU GOT THAT STRAIGHT ASIAN HAIR!!")