TRANS YOUTH: What Do We Want?

[@lily_lxndr]

Second episode is up now! "Trans Youth Get Healthcare Challenge (Impossible)" Here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYrJmHmko652nNU

[@BrazenDirigibles]

yo I started at 17 too, I'm 23 now! It's so fucked seeing all this hysteria about youth transition when I was that youth once too. Thanks for talking about this I really like your stuff! You're one of the few trans youtubers I've come across who I can really relate with. Please keep making more ^^

[@rowan-priince1860]

I often wonder, as a trans man, where the girls are too. I had one transfemme friend in real life and she was awesome. She moved away and we lost touch, and I haven’t met a local trans girl since. My trans masc friends are great, but the perspectives of the trans girls I’ve met online are really valuable and help me keep my perspective open. I hope things get better and it’s easier for trans women to come out.

[@houndstoothbruises]

this is wild to me because even tho i'm trans masc, the majority of my trans social circle are all women. i'm only 23 as well so i definitely fit into the category of trans youth. i wonder what the correlation is and why i don't know any other trans mascs.

[@plantinapot9169]

...Huh. I’m being totally honest when I say I completely didn’t notice that, but you’re right! It’s like that even in my high school which has a student-given moniker of ‘the gayest high school’ and I knew five trans masc personally. I’m trans fem myself, and I’ve found tons of us online, way more so than trans masc ppl. It’s strange how flip-flopped that is.

[@patchwork_asylum]

i think its the result of toxic masculinity because trans girls get bullied more than trans boys

[@Whopperhopp3r]

I’m the only transfemme I know 😭

[@Sooyphy]

its so weird because i notice there are sooo many trans dudes in my life, but I only know one trans girl

[@acehealer4212]

It’s good to see conversations about trans youth led by young trans people themselves.

[@markrussell3428]

@acehealer4212 Really? What could go wrong with following the children. Someone with the maturity and life experiences of a 14 should be leading this issue? There is a certain level of maturity and atca minimum we think 18 is that line; for discussions impacting reproductive health we tend to move that bar even higher. 😮

[@lourdesmufert4129]

i'm a cis woman learning more about the gender and trans people, thank you for spreading this kind of information so we can understand more about gender identity, we need to listen more to trans people and less to ''intelectuals'' from internet

[@cachetelapa6923]

this!!!

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

the gender people will help you. i recommend ContraPoints entire videography. Apart from Lily's of course.

[@cachetelapa6923]

@@transsexual_computer_faery Philosophy Tube's as well

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

@@cachetelapa6923 very good gender person 🙏🏻

[@ethanpoole3443]

I certainly agree with you, but then I would also count Lily as one of those “intellectuals from the Internet” … who happens to be trans. I greatly admire the work she has been doing on the community’s behalf on this channel and have been extremely impressed with the quality of her work, research, and production quality (and this comes from a 50 year old intellectual and is by no means empty praise)! But we, as a society, have long had a tendency to miss the trees for the forest. We often do so with the best of intentions, but can you say “Oops!”. As a non-binary trans I may share some experiences in common with fellow binary trans persons, but it would be wrong of me to assume that I fully knew what the binary trans person’s life experiences were growing up and with respect to body and gender dysphoria and other aspects unique to being binary and trans (e.g. speaking ONLY of my OWN lives experience, as an AMAB NB I really only ever experienced gender dysphoria, as I was ultimately able to come to a place of accepting my physical body since it is not a total betrayal of who/what I am and I was able to accept the masculine parts of me as valid even if I identify more so with the feminine parts in many respects). The same is true if we reverse that as binary trans certainly share a good deal in common experience-wise with non-binary folk but are never going to have had the exact same life experience as one of us on the gender spectrum in-between the two binaries (or trinary states counting intersex) and thus the binary can never quite know the unique experience of not being binary. And of course neither of us may fully understand the lived experience of someone born intersex unless we just happens to have also been born intersex. It is always best to seek your data from as close to the best possible source as practical if you want good results! If you wish to know what is going on in the lives of teens and young adults, interview the teens and young adults!

[@SilentMeteorite]

You mentioned trans healthcare probably won't be too effected in Canada imminently, but there's actually policy changes currently happening in Ontario around transition-related surgery. It's genuinely hugely negatively impacting my life because they're refusing to cover my orchiectomy under the grounds of not wanting to cover "non-binary" surgeries anymore. And I'm panicking about it and no one else is talking about it and I'm honestly so deeply concerned about the direction trans healthcare is going in under the conservative provincial government here. I really wish I could provide sources because I don't want to be shouting about unsubstantiated claims. But the policy decision hasn't been finalized yet, so all I have is what the Ministry of Health has been telling me over the phone about the status of my application. UPDATE: It looks like the policy change didn't go through and my application has been approved! So while I'm horrified that this was even an issue in the first place, at least things are looking up! (I know I'm losing my heart from Lily because I'm editing this, but I felt it was important to update)

[@lily_lxndr]

Jesus, that's garbage. I'm sorry you're dealing with that!!

[@lilybain5132]

"Sleepwalking through life" I relate to this so hard as trans man, I wonder how common a feeling it is for trans people. Other metaphors I've frequently used are "walking through fog" and "being a zombie" and "being dead". It's amazing how alive I feel now I'm aware of and living my gender. I feel like a kid again.

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

FIRCK

[@group555_]

Isn't that more just a symptom of depression in general tho? Obviously you can have depressive symptoms from being trans the troubles it can give. But you might want to look into the concept of dissociation if you're interested in the phenomenon

[@lilybain5132]

@@group555_ I actually looked into that before coming out as trans. People who are pre-realisation tend to look into everything else first.

[@goosie8207]

I can relate to this. I’ve only been on HRT for 6 months but I’m more alive and more myself than I had been in the 39 years before hand. I can work to a real future and not just go through the motions of life. I’m happy you are doing better

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

@@group555_ yes it is depression, but depression can be caused by many things, or just one thing in particular, so, symptomatically, it's not strange that someone with dysphoria or untreated dysphoria would feel that way

[@Matt-wr1hz]

As a bi cis male im super scared about the western world rn. Trans people might be in danger here in america and i have a ton of friends who are trans and they are some of the most interesting best people to talk to and the thought of their rights being taken away makes me sick

[@georgehudson5019]

Good for America

[@IAmNumber4000]

@Rose Anne Boushard Get those brain worms checked

[@dailyllamapics9566]

As a trans youth I find it so exhausting just looking at how much cis people are obsessed with us. Like why can’t they just live their own lives?

[@macelikesstars]

1. love that u added trans rights baby to the comments guidelines that’s awesome lmao 2. im so glad ur talking about this!

[@gothgrrl8711]

im 25 now so i guess im no longer a trans youth T-T being a trans adult is too daunting... trans teens I look up to yall fr. You're so brave and beautiful i love you keep fighting.

[@sugonmad2402]

You're still trans youth as far as I know. In Germany LGBT and BDSM communities classify everything up to 27 as youth. After that you're not really and "oldie" either, sometimes there are groups for up 35 year olds to give somewhat of a middle ground.

[@kaboohet5432]

Thanks :D come, let us fistfight transphobes together, young and old :)

[@MossMothMyBeloved]

Young or old, everyone is still valid.

[@ZrainF91]

@@sugonmad2402 bdsm?

[@sugonmad2402]

@@ZrainF91 Just brought it up, because I have noticed that the age limits are the same as with LGBT-groups.

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

"What do we want!" "Just to exist" "When do we want it" "as soon as possible, please, we just wanna exist"

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

@@OohTarquin Sweetie, why are you so offended that we want equal rights and not be harassed daily? Genuinely asking. 🙂

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

@@OohTarquin I am sad that there are people getting harassed and physically abused and shunned by their families and you tell them to "stop playing the victim card". It's sad people as heartless like that can exist in the world and believe they are correct. And I'm pretty sure you're not using totalitarian ideology correctly. I would like an example of what you mean. Do you live in Russia and China where people are actually at the mercy of the government, or by "totalitarian" do you mean people bothering you on twitter and then forgetting about you?

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

​@@OohTarquin Trans/gay people can lose their livelihood for being gay/trans, get evicted and then assaulted because delusional people believe their existence is poison to the world. And other people (like you) ignore it. People who have publicly disregarded trans people like JK Rowling and Dave Chappelle have not only faced zero consequences, they are THRIVING with the attention. They are given so much more attention by conservative outlets. People say they're "cancelled" but check anyone who was "cancelled" and they're doing fine. Now compare that to physical violence and lack of medical support trans people get. Please do some actual research and look at the actual picture because if you only read from one side you get an incredibly biased view. And any time someone cries that people are getting fired for misgendering someone, no one can actually give any actual examples. It's starting to feel like it's just fearmongering. I would love to read what you're talking about, but I never find anything. I'm gonna need you to tell me which trans writer is "looking forward to erasing women". Just give me that link. Meanwhile I will be sad that Noah Ruiz (who was born a woman, but now looks like a man) was forbidden from going into a mens bathroom and was then beaten up by three men. You claim there's people getting assaulted and separating children while I'm giving ACTUAL trans victims of transphobia. If there's no transphobia, then why are trans people getting assaulted? How can you ignore this? Imagine getting beaten up and then told you're not a victim.

[@falliscrispy1234]

@@OohTarquin all people want is to live as themselves and be happy. It does not affect you if someone gets the healthcare they need. Maybe look up lgbtq+ suicide rates or something I don’t even know anymore.

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

@@OohTarquin I considered ignoring this but you also said people are stealing children and compared yourself to early Nazi germany, which is beyond disgusting. The nerve. But you are right about one thing, in early nazi germany the media was telling people that jews are ruining the state and are eating children.... the same thing that are said about trans people. If you truly want to compare this to early nazi germany please get a reality check and realize on which side you are on. Consequences for throwing slurs at people isn't a totalitarian ideology.

[@micoold7047]

4:25 To speak to my own experience/pet theory of being trans female, i find that it was less the stigma of being a woman, and more the stigma of being an AMAB. As it typically goes, males are much more lustful than female, and while in some case this isn’t wrong, this creates social stigma for anyone AMAB transitioning as more of a sexually perverted act rather than an actual gender identity. This is what i assume gives way to arguments made against trans women such as J.K Rowling’s “they’re invading the safe spaces of women.” Which would make it immensely hard for AMABs to not be viewed that way by the general public. anyway, thanks looking at my take and if you read this far i hope you specifically have a rad day

[@elliebq]

This is what I worry all the time (even made me think am I really just a perverted predator)

[@elliebq]

Especially when I also am bi

[@rayafoxr3]

Honestly this whole thing, with the growing animosity towards our communities, has really been wearing down on me for a while and I feel like there’s no one in my life to talk to about it. Even thinking about this video is such a breath of fresh air, and I haven’t watched it yet and I think I will when I’m more mentally ready. I know this type of trans-affirming content is already on the Internet, but it’s rare for it to just be dropped in my lap like this, since I found this channel through one of the videos not related to this and then checked out the rest of the channel. It feels so soothing to think about.

[@nunyadambidniss]

Ever thought to look in the mirror ??? You know, SELF-Reflection.

[@et9224]

I didn't realize how much demographics had changed until I went back to college. I started HRT at the same age as you in the early '00s (maybe '03-'04), and in college I was the only trans person in my college's LGBT group. I only met one other trans woman between '04-'09 there, no trans masc or enby people. I went back to the same college again in 2018, and the LGBTQ+ group was not only 40% larger, but almost entirely comprised of trans or enby AFAB people, with no AMAB trans or enby people, other than myself.

[@ashkhol]

While that’s true in some ways, that’s mostly among younger people, and mostly centred on TikTok. On places like reddit, where the age demographic is not only older, but also more diverse, the overwhelming majority in trans spaces is trans women. The most likely reason for what you’re seeing is simply how much easier it is for afab people to explore gender non-conformity compared to amab people. This allows them to realize and understand their gender identity at a younger age.

[@love-ip7sz]

@@ashkhol you say it's because afab people feel more free to explore non conformity but what they are doing is conforming to a trans or non binary gender label because they don't "fit" into all the female boxes in the mind. They are racing towards their own conformity...

[@ashkhol]

@@love-ip7sz I mean, that’s probably some people, but I really don’t think it’s the majority.

[@et9224]

@@ashkhol Can't see the other comment you're replying to, but here are some thoughts. Generally, I think it is easier for AFAB people to play with gender and come out younger right now. My guess is that trans women are coming out a little later, and also organizing in more traditional online communities than trans masc people. I also think trans women live more of their lives digitally. That is my guess, anyway. I also think that being afab and trans or non-binary is an identity which has carved out more space/social acceptance than being amab and trans or non-binary. Visibility has gone back and forth in my lifetime, I feel. In the '90s, I basically never saw trans masc people, and society was obsessed with trans women, so depictions leaned toward trans femmes. I think trans men kind of 'hid out' in lesbian communities, historically, but I would not say that relationship held for trans women and gay men. So if you didn't want to be totally repressed as a trans femme you either 'crossdressed' or just came out and started transitioning - the amab equivalent of being extremely 'butch' prior to medical transition was not an option for me. So, I think there was more of an emphasis on medical transition for trans femmes than trans mascs, and more societal pressure to be binary-adherent. I am really curious to see the numbers in 5 or 6 years when the average gen z is an adult. Then we'll see what the distribution is.

[@MyHeartIsOpen2You]

you're an og

[@SunLeaf-tp7hv]

We might live to regret it they say??! Life is so short I'm a trans woman and just started HRT almost a month ago. I'm married with 2 children and the only thing I'd ever regret is if I didn't get the chance to feel like the real me. Like honestly if you wanna be a different gender then who cares. It's just how you look, it's not gonna change your circumstances or who you are, and if it will make you happy then just do it. I don't understand why people even get hung up on this. Like even from a baptist Christian's standpoint I have a hee hee and my wife has a hoo hoo, were legally married with a preacher and didn't have kids out of wedlock. Come at me! Be who you want to be and let those old conservative entitled boomers sit and wonder why no one comes to visit them in their nursing homes.

[@magicpigeon_]

I got top surgery when I was 13. I’m fully aware this is a super special and unusual situation, but I thought I’d point it out that it does happen. Anyway it was the best decision I ever made and my life is 100% better after top surgery.

[@ponfi0275]

CONGRATS

[@nicokelly6453]

I haven't medically transitioned really (might not be something I even care to do), but even just socially transitioning made a huge difference for me personally, and it's so important that people understand how *positively* impactful transitioning can be.

[@jay-vl9dw]

honestly, I have no other words but thank you. as a trans girl, I can say that it is really hard to come out. but this video gave me hope that the world can change, and that we can all overcome this and make it easier to be who you are! to anyone who is scared or worried about being who they are, or even just having a rough time, I want to say that you can push through and I'm cheering you on! Much love to you all, especially you Lily. keep doing what you're doing!

[@fr33f4l4st1ne]

thank u. 🌸

[@pentopia11]

"I used to read the Census for fun." HEAVILY relate as someone who enumerated for the US Census for fun in 2020

[@nicokelly6453]

Same. Statistics and demographics are so fun.

[@polatouche7221]

Thank you. I'm in Quebec and my girlfriend is trans and going through the process of getting hrt. It is helpful and gives relief to hear you talk of the situation in Canada. I can't wait for her to get her healthcare so she feels better.

[@gingganggoolie]

As a fellow member of the census reading teen club, I really appreciate this look at the data around trans people, and youth specifically. Interesting how many of the young cohort identified as NB. I have some guesses why that might be, but in the spirit of good science I won't speculate out loud

[@boccibee]

I was so disappointed when last year's Australian census didn't measure anything to do with lgbtq people! (There were probably shitty reasons behind that decision but I dont know them)

[@love-ip7sz]

This is when you know the brain washing has worked, you're not sharing your thoughts and theories as to why this is happening in "the spirit of good science" that sounds almost anti science to me..

[@gingganggoolie]

@@love-ip7sz science is a process by which we test hypotheses to confirm or reject them. I cannot conduct any research around my hypotheses, and I don't want them to be taken as concrete explanations

[@seto749]

@@boccibee Eh, count your blessings. Facts gathered about any or all of us by governments will likely be used for purpose of harm.

[@unreadyspaghetti]

@@boccibee i remember reading somewhere that they didn't add sexuality bc people were scared of outing themselves to family members, and that they didn't put gender bc people kept confusing it with sex

[@clellieirwin2155]

Lily, you are very good at making videos. It seems to come very naturally to you. Whether or not that's the case, you make it seem effortless. Excellent video, excellent topic, and (unrelated) excellent outfit.

[@AnilSaulnier]

As LGBT cis youth who has spent most of his life surrounded by trans youth, I just wanted to say that y'all are the best. There is so much the world at large could learn about being comfortable with themselves if they put their fear and hate aside and stopped trying to control how people try to exist. But until then, as long as we have to fight for respect you've got an ally in me. Love you all, please take care of yourselves. You are worth it.

[@thecodeserror]

Most Trans based news: What's best for trans youth? We asked a cis person!

[@lakamokolaka]

I am excited to see this study fully broken down in all these videos. We need more studies looking into this not "my aunt on Facebook said."

[@Mariposa-11-2007]

HRT at 17, and surgery before 25? What a dream! We don't have it as lucky in the United States. Many of us have to pay for everything out of pocket... so I'm still saving.

[@bidaubadeadieu]

Wow, loved this! Informative and well-produced vid about some interesting stats! As a trans woman, I see myself reflected in the statistic that we sometimes take longer to come out; I began _considering_ taking estrogen at 17, but didn't actually start til 23

[@abirdonacreek8705]

Less go!!! Trans youth (well all youth) deserve to have autonomy of their bodies and decide what route is best for them. Your body, you way. For transphobes, the scariest thing to them is a happy trans individual. That's why I'm a youth liberationist.

[@Clairavoya]

@jshowa o Agreed, but it's also like, I think we should do our best to help people so they aren't trying to harm themselves in the first place. Also yeah drugs bad, but unfortunately people still use them :/ We just have to find a way to be able to help those people more effectively, we definitely shouldn't let others harm themselves because of their mental issues

[@kurapikakurta1997]

@jshowa oMy parents found me writing my webcomic with a trans character with it for representation about myself, and, as the homophobes they are, the best they could do was try and read it and understand and talked to me about their growing opinions. The same thing applies for things that can cause serious harm. If you’re ever worried about your child, sometimes the best thing you can do is talk to them.

[@sophiepooks2174]

@jshowa o Like school shooters and guns and mentally ill and violent cis people are the biggest danger to children and everyone else.

[@arin2747]

"I'm like a stats nerd, I used to read the census for fun. High school was rough" Genuinely the most surprisingly relatable thing I've ever heard. I feel very seen

[@mk-aka-morgan8386]

CONGRATS ON HITTING 100K OMG IM SO EXCITED FOR YOU 💖💖💖

[@b.l.8755]

I am fairly conservative but I care more about the data than my feelings and comfort. I appreciate how seriously you approached this for a general audience.

[@sleepyleftie]

The memefication of lily Alexandre is nothing but a blessing. Love this series!

[@UniverseHole]

Thankfully my transition has been smooth sailing ever since it started. I'm in high school in Canada and I haven't had many problems. Just took a long while to get testosterone. I feel so bad for those who aren't as lucky as I am. I'm SO incredibly lucky and I'm very grateful for it. It's made my life like 1000 times better overall and I want every trans person to feel the same

[@sockatoo_]

There are so many anti-Lgbtq+ laws and shit being passed in the U.S. it’s so, so sad that we’re backtracking instead if moving forward. I fall under the nonbinary umbrella. And as i fall far closer to the “Girl” side than the “no gender only chaos” side, and I’m AFAB, the anti-trans laws being passed here don’t affect me as much as all of you lovely people. I’m still *so* angry at our governments. I’m genuinely scared. That’s why it’s so awesome to see the research and advocacy for these topics, even if it’s not where I am. Trans rights, Gay rights, Bi rights, Poly rights, rights for everyone else too. QUEER RIGHTS BABY 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

[@scrumblepie]

U.S.A isn't a Democracy anymore it's "God's country on earth" I can't understand how people with nazi mindset can be so high up in the hierarchy (this nazi mindset thing i said it because of the fact that they did Adolf Hitler quotes PS: I'm referring to amy Barrett)

[@ananasdiefrucht3878]

Honestly, the anti-abortion law already shocked me, but the fact that one of the members of the court announced that they would look over other laws as well, including same-sex mariage and rights for same-sex couples in general as well as those for trans people. It's horrible how people who have nothing to do with the LGBTQ*-community can decide about us.

[@Callie_Cosmo]

I think this has a lot to do with community, my girlfriend had a group of “guy” friends and, while she always knew she liked guys, it took two of her “guy” friends coming out as trans women within a month of each other, and then a third coming out as non binary for her to finally realize and come out for herself. now her group of “guy” friends contains only one cis male and I think that’s hilarious

[@6iaZkMagW7EFs]

what i want as a young trans person is to be more like Lily. omg she's so cool

[@NextToToddliness]

Supporting y'all!!! 🏳️‍⚧️ - A pal from the States!

[@fadedtyrant1604]

That thumbnail is god-tier. Oh, the video was good too!

[@hannah-xs7wn]

I knew a trans woman from my school who graduated this past year, but we had a few brief conversations and she was so kind! My school is pretty accepting for the area it's in, and it was sweet to see others find as much joy in this person as I did. She gave me a lot of confidence to come out myself. Hello to Sophia the cellist with red hair from philharmonic orchestra :)

[@wammytammy]

Weird to see a survey that I was a part of being covered by my favourite KZbinr. All the love, Lily

[@chloewebb5526]

I want to cry every time I hear about people on my states border, up in canada, getting surgery for free... I wasn't able to transition as a teen, because my mom passed away when I was only 15yo, and it was 2000 ,so I had a lot of fear about even thinking about telling another soul that I wanted to die because of this, this feeling that I have been born in a body that I wanted so desperately to crawl out of. I didn't even understand the words to describe any of it. But just twenty years later, everything is so different already. Kids understand whats going on, and they hear about it. And even the people fihting against it are only helping to magnify the issue in general! With the internet and social media being so much more useful and widspread, that means kids get more than just the opinions from those bigoted people, they get the whole story themselves. I'm sure there are still youth being trapped in the dark about these topics, but it has gotten better, It's just insane to think of how much better things are for trans youth than when I was young, and then think of some strangers who don't know any trans people are suddenly being the ones trying to dictate the rules. Like, wtf?! No one should have to spend their whole lives trying to beat away dysphoria without the proper tools, while simultaneously playing catch up in life due to all the other issues that repressing, being closeted, and even being out can all have on some people. It gets me so upset just thinking about it. I know I'll never be able to afford any surgery, because i live in america, where medical/insurance companies are allowed to gouge us into poverty regardless of the illness or disorder... But I'll be damned if they're going to take the right of ally parents to help their trans kids get the affirming care they deserve.

[@lilybain5132]

It's a thing i've been noticing lately, but it seems like every group of trans people feels like there's less people of their specific group about (I've experienced this myself as a trans man, feeling like there's not many trans men about in my spaces, and lots of nonbinary people and trans girls/women). I don't know where this comes from but the theories are remarkably similar, that that group is having a harder time coming out lately. It's interesting and I think generally there might be personal biases going on here, which is fine, we all have different wants and needs, but I find it all very interesting.

[@naomistarlight6178]

They don't want to see all the teens who have committed suicide bc their family, community, etc. was judgmental and hateful when they needed them to be supportive.

[@RedPandaStan]

Trans youth from America here. Didn't come out til I was 16 for multiple reasons. A) I was aware of dysphoria but told myself I was a "femboy", since it was easier to accept it being a sexual thing then me thinking my whole life was a lie. Considering the closest thing AFABs have is "tomboy" which is still very feminine, I have a feeling a lot more young trans women hide under this label than young trans men do under others. B) I had never really been allowed to explore being feminine. The second I put on my first dress the realization I was trans came very quickly. But considering up to that point every time I had acted feminine I had been scorned by society and my family, I just didn't get to act feminine very often. C) Dysphoria hadn't gotten bad enough yet. You can ignore it to a certain point but by the point in my life that i came out i spent every waking moment thinking about being a woman. D) I didn't know anything about trans people. Once it was explained to me I knew immediately I was trans. E) I like men. Easier to hide in the femininity gayness offers you then to throw away all of your privilege and become hated by 60% of society. In short I just think it's easier for trans men to come out. Not only can they transition much faster, easier, and less expensively than trans women, there's also more freedom in gender expression if you're born with a vagina. At my school we have a pretty equal number of trans women and men now, but notably all the trans women came out junior or senior year when most of the trans men came out in the 8th or 9th grade. I also think that being a straight trans women means it's easier to hide in the stereotypes of a gay man for longer, which is why there are such low numbers of straight trans women in the youth. Obviously the difference between trans men and women in the adult population comes down to toxic masculinity and the more targeted hatred against trans women, but these are my rationalizations as to why the number is smaller in trans youth. Trans women just tend to come out later, there's not less of them.

[@kittypost3929]

As someone who’s questioning their gender identity, I’m glad the internet exists so I can learn more information. Your video is pretty informative and I learned something new! :D

[@SpecialK827]

Lily ur thumbnail game omgggggggggg

[@tyguy6296]

"what do we want?!" "WE DON'T KNOW EXACTLY BECAUSE ITS A MORE COMPLEX ISSUE THAT A SINGLE ANSWER!" "when do we want it?!" "BEFORE REPUBLICANS GET CAMPS BUILT!"

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

republicans in canada, damn

[@pabloni1117]

@@transsexual_computer_faery I'm just an American, so my knowledge of Canadian politics is scarce, but it seems like the Canadian right has been taking quite a few pages out of the playbook of the American right lately

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

@@pabloni1117 I'm just poking a little fun, we're all international here aren't we? ✨

[@taxirobot7219]

3:43 I really find this funny because yes, chemicals in the water were literally turning the frogs trans 😁

[@NotesByNiba]

This was so informative and well said 👏 You calling it the 'ongoing situation' made me dark-humor laugh so hard

[@astersaur]

I knew nothing about WPATH until my HRT letter stating that I meet the criteria. My T appointment is next week. (First one). How have I never heard of this? You should make a video on them.

[@tonymurphy2624]

Excellent and informative. I'm cis, but I'm also a science writer, and I've spent a couple of decades debunking crappy science takes on all manner of scientific subjects. It's notable that, in the last few years, more and more of my time has been spent on this subject. It's very difficult to stem the tide of scientifically illiterate idiots insisting that 'biological sex' is what matters, despite the fact that the term is scientifically meaningless, not least because there isn't a single definition of sex used in the sciences. Also worth noting that the idea that it's settled that there are only two sexes is an incredibly anti-scientific notion. Science doesn't do settled except in one very specific set of circumstances, namely 'this hypothesis is wrong'. Thank you for this. It's always good to have more videos to recommend, and I will be recommending this one.

[@Emily_North]

Comment For Engaygement🏳️‍⚧️

[@lily_lxndr]

Omg you were quick!

[@Emily_North]

Just saw the notif😄

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

complete gay

[@chloevitagliano9565]

"where are all the girls at" I can't speak for Canada cuz I don't live there, but here where I live I notice in trans spaces (for young people) a lot more trans guys than girls My fear is that's because we're more vulnerable, our families more prone to reject us, we're more likely to hide, we're more likely to end up in a bad place...

[@ZrainF91]

if you're interested in what it's like in canada, it's pretty much the same (i think). i'm a canadian trans girl and i've been to a couple youth groups for queer teenagers a handful of times and i was always the only amab person there. everyone who was trans was always transmasc and younger than me by at least 3 or 4 years. im glad a lot of teens are brave enough to come out but i wish i could find more irl trans friends i can directly relate to lol

[@starrydropzzz]

“What do we want?” *WORLD DOMINATION!*

[@khajiithaswares4147]

KZbin recommendations knew this about me before my parents. What a time to be alive!

[@raspberrytaegi]

ayyyy fellow canadian gang!! and fellow trans person having to deal with… the “ongoing situation”

[@Red-cl6gs]

the thumbnail for this is phenomenal ! the 2016 election may have been the begining of dark times but at least we got Jeb memes

[@seaangel1430]

Hope the situation gets better for all of you under the trans umbrella!!

[@lily_lxndr]

Thank you!

[@rcditti]

that thumbnail is genius 👏

[@transrightsbaybee]

sorry if this is off topic but ur hairstyle is so really cute and i can't wait for my hair to grow out a bit and maybe i can look like that tee hee

[@madeline-7748]

Thank you for another great video! 25 yr old American nonbinary trans woman here. Sending my love! ❤️

[@briarrose5003]

A little off topic but your voice is so soothing! As someone with with sensitive ears, it's nice to stumble upon the quieter side of youtube lol. I also love the content! I'm excited to hear more from Trans Pulse♥

[@CalamityAmity30]

Hello!, Tran's girl living in a conservative state within the US here. The data you showed really speaks volumes to the amount of support the trans community desperately needs, but isn't receiving. The legislation being passed in my state sometimes make's me lose hope for the chance of a better future. Every time I feel down, I remember that the good people always win out on these things eventually. We have to stay strong and speak out against the injustices being committed daily.

[@solarwolf678]

"The good people always win out on these things eventually" With the way the state was described it seems like the good people already won

[@Shrimpyfriedrice]

I just want to say that I absolutely love the thumbnail of this video. Just perfect, I had to laugh way too hard!

[@tomatosoup44]

Before anything, what a thumbnail *chefs kiss

[@andy4an]

this is very helpful. all of my trans friends are very similar to each other. all are nerdy gamer women past college with similar treatment plans. it's nice to see a survey of the variety.

[@overdramaticpan]

As nonbinary youth (possibly transfem? idk still exploring to an extent) this is very accurate! I feel heard, for once. Also, I like your shirt/top/whatever it's called!

[@Eatmyfrogs]

"Trans youth! What do we want?" "Rights!" "When do we want it?" "NOW"

[@Eatmyfrogs]

@@ass-master-deluxe Just equality and freedom. Equal amount of rights that the straights have and the freedom for medical care and such.

[@g3n0sc1d3]

@@Eatmyfrogs how do y'all not have equal rights though. I geniuenely do not understand what rights you dont have? is the medical thing about not being able to make your own medical decisions untill 18?

[@Eatmyfrogs]

@@g3n0sc1d3 I say medical rights and equal rights because there is no debate that with the bullcrap the court is on, the court will eventually come for LGBTQ+ rights. In the past, Trump almost got rid of Trans healthcare and I bet that the court will too. Plus, the LGBTQ+ community is constantly hated on for who they are and who they love so I want equality among the heteros. Straights can kiss in public and no one cares but a gay couple will kiss and sometimes people will be rude about it!!! ):

[@kurapikakurta1997]

@@g3n0sc1d3 I just want to be called a man. Is that too much for you or??

[@mewdancing]

@@kurapikakurta1997 no, king. It is not. 👑

[@AzaleaJane]

Seeing people get to figure themselves out and transition early in life makes me feel just a little bit better about how long it took me to come out ♥

[@francisjones1409]

As a trans youth from Ontario, I can actually confirm that they did put something in the water to turn the frogs trans. (It’s me… I’m the frog)

[@pluto545]

I love Lily's opening statement, the hoopla is not from any trans advocates, specialist, and I'll add medical or scientific personnel of those fields are not the primary ones, or even proportional minority of the ones driving this fear. It's made up of grifters, anti LGBTQ groups/politicians, TERFs, misogynists, transphobic celebrities, family values organizations (usually right wing), incels, ultra religious groups, White nationalists, other ethnic/religious extremists, and parents who don't trans or LGBTQ children (or do, espouse animosity towards them on that fact, alone). A lovely cast of people.

[@PlatinumAltaria]

On a parallel note, I think it'd be super cool if people cared about our rights after we turned 18. There is no substantial difference in the needs of trans youth and trans adults, and it sucks that I don't have access to a lot of services because I'm legally an adult and must therefore be fully independent and capable. I think there's an interesting parallel between how trans men are mistreated and how trans youth are mistreated: they're considered victims of a conspiracy to "ruin" them. But when trans girls become trans women we instantly transmute from victims to predators in the eyes of transphobes.

[@rosettaroberts8053]

"I used to read the census for fun" - Beautiful and amazing. I am a math nerd too so I get this ^-^. Also, thank you for the non-generated closed captions

[@strawberrycheesecake5502]

I think it's really cool, that they went to collect data like that and thank you for putting it together like you have done.

[@ArkonArchive]

I just found your channel and already a massive fan. I’m not going to idolize you but honestly your willingness to being open but also think critically is awesome. Anyway, I Love Your hair. I’m not telling you to do anything but damn, you aesthetically look good with longer hair lol

[@moke5813]

when i was younger i didnt want to or expect to get this far in life, being anything above 18 was not something i thought was possible but now that i actually want to be here and stay here it sucks that the rest of the world lowkey doesn't want me here, i got on a waiting list for a gender clinic in 2020 when I was 16 and now that im no longer a child i doubt im going to see any referrals or doctors though the nhs till im like 24😔 uk trans healthcare sucks balls man

[@ninin117]

bro i get all giddy when you upload

[@xure-]

Lily embodying the man, the myth, the legend, Jeb Bush, in the thumbnail is what I live for

[@federicolarosa1486]

I totally related to the census reading! Thanks for yet another great video!

[@ace.of.space.]

when you said you read the census for fun in high school... we are kindred spirits

[@TheoEifrig]

the Alex Infowars moment was hilarious! :)

[@lisa_paul]

It had been a while since I had clicked so fast on a notification

[@thefemboyphilosopher9653]

The thumbnail makes it look like the trans people have revolted in Canada and have now taken over the whole country, I love it

[@ansibleblackwind7195]

Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my thanking place. Thank you from the very bottom floor of the infinite staircase leading to the vertigo inducing panoramic view of my luxury thanking place.

[@lily_lxndr]

❤️

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

THANKING PLACE!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@WhichDoctor1]

I'm in the UK where we, for the moment, still have free universal healthcare. But I have been on the waiting list for a NHS gender clinic since autom 2019. I had my first assessment appointment in April, and I just got a letter telling me my next appointment where I may or may not actually be given treatment by them will be in January 2023. Which is honestly faster than I was expecting. Facial surgeries, which is the only surgerie I really want right now are not provided by the NHS though. I'm super lucky to have been with a private clinic and been on HRT since 2020 so I'm doing good. But I've had to spend a lot of money over the last few years that I shouldn't have had to. And for someone on benefits due to chronic health issues that's not been easy. And given the rhetoric coming out of the governing Tory party of late, both on slashing the funding for public healthcare in general, and denying the existence of trans people specifically, the situation isn't going to get any better for the next couple of years at least. If the Torys win the next election I would be very surprised if public transgender healthcare survives at all. And I'm in my 30s. I've heard so many terrible stories from young folks who have had a much worse time of it than me

[@PlatinumAltaria]

I'm in the same boat; I've been waiting two months just to get a letter back from the clinic about my next appointment. They haven't even started treating me, they've done 3 interviews. I'm pretty convinced they want me to leave. All I want is prescription medication that any cis person could just ask for.

[@awkwardways6018]

I love that thumbnail. Great vid! Keep it up :D

[@seraphir4662]

You'll probably find the additional data from the counting ourselves survey invaluable in your future videos in this series

[@chillin5703]

This thumbnail is beautiful and that's all I have ta say

[@LlamasAtMidnight]

When I first saw the thumbnail I assumed that it meant that you wanted to take over Canada

[@reillywalker195]

To be fair, though, we cishets haven't done the best job running things.

[@MunajimaMegistus]

yoooooooooooooooooo im a trans teen got here early

[@theskepticalskeptic1351]

“I used to read the census for fun” I thought I was the only one!

[@Mae_Dastardly]

To crush our enemies, see them driven before us, and to hear the lamentation of their women

[@amiller324]

I'm finding more reassurance about myself in these comments than I can ever remember finding in one place before.

[@shoutmon1337]

That's an all time favorite youtube thumbnail for me I think.

[@Colosphe]

I appreciate hearing a perspective that I'm not familiar with (trans, Canadian) and it's interesting to know about actual data instead of what I usually find as an American: anecdotes or bile. Also when you relayed your experience of medical transition, "the further I get into my transition" part gave me real "THIS ISN'T EVEN MY FINAL FORM" vibes, I'm sorry.

[@finch4309]

i’ve also noticed the difference in how many transmasc people i see vs how many transfem people i see. i go to an arts magnet high school where the percentage of trans students is very high compared to a regular comprehensive school, and i still dont know that many transfem people compared to the lots and lots of transmasc people i know (although part of that is probably that there is a larger percentage of afab people in general). i also am a counselor in training at a very queer-accepting summer camp, and out of the 18 of us in the program all but one of the guys are trans, but there aren’t any transfeminine people at all. its interesting how skewed the demographics are, as well as how they start to even out as you look at older trans people.

[@thewenzdinator]

One of the biggest concerns among people who want to make medically transitioning unavailable for trans youth is that the youth wanting the treatments will later realize that they are cis. As a young person who spent a year of her life believing she was trans, I just want to point out that at no point did I want to medically transition. And even if I did want to, there was no way I would've been able to due to my parents. It wasn't accessible. With that out of the way, there's nothing wrong with young people identifying as trans even if they're going to change their mind later. Exploring my gender was an important part of becoming who I am. Treating a person as the gender they identify as will help them figure out whether or not that gender fits them. If a young person wants to medically transition, it's extremely unlikely they aren't actually trans. The people who want to make medically transitioning unavailable are basically saying that they know the teenagers who want to transition better than the teenagers know themselves. It's important to note that this conversation isn't about young children, it's about teenagers. Teenagers are completely capable of understanding that the effects of medically transitioning are permanent. Teenagers are completely capable of understanding whether or not they are trans. If a teenager is trying to medically transition, then that means they've already socially transitioned. The teens who believe they're trans, but might change their mind later are unlikely to have socially transitioned in the first place. And once again, there's nothing wrong with young people exploring their gender. Although I thought I was a boy, the closest I got to socially transitioning was cutting my hair, telling people I use they/them pronouns, and telling my two closest friends that I thought I was a boy. I didn't even consider coming out to me parents. The thought itself was terrifying. A young trans person has to go through so much before they get to a point where medical transition is even a possibility. In conclusion, the young people seeking out a medical transition aren't going to change their mind about being trans. The idea of changing your body in a permanent way is scary, and no one is going to do that if they aren't going to identify as trans for the rest of their life. Listen to teenagers instead of trying to make decisions for them. We aren't stupid. If anyone actually read this far, thank you. I hope you have a good day :)

[@LightGlyphRasengan]

I do watch plenty of streamers that speak in full favor of trans rights, but there's not enough of your voices put on blast so I promise to listen to more trans people talk, as well as get the streamers I listen to, to play your videos

[@bonestheclown9995]

Canadian trans youth, I love this very useful and excited to see the rest of the series!

[@lily_lxndr]

Thank you!! Next one out later this afternoon!

[@Ashley_Obscuro]

I tried to explain to my fix news family how important it would have been to me to have just known what trans people were a thing let alone start transitioning. He told me he gets where I'm coming from but still thought people who talk about this stuff with kids are groomers.

[@lily_lxndr]

God that's awful, I'm sorry

[@susanleslie6178]

Sigh.