Transgender kids are just kids after all | Amber Briggle | TEDxTWU

[@juligrlee]

I'm a 75 year old trans person. I survived but I really don't know how it happened. There was no support. I was angry, very angry. I was secretive. I was always who I am. It sure would have been nice if my parents, siblings, neighborhood, school, church could have known who I was and allowed me to be who I was rather than be a square peg forced into a round hole. I wouldn't have been kicked out of my house, kicked out of school, and a failure on many different levels. My success? I survived. I am now who I want to be.

[@clockworkkirlia7475]

As an eighteen year old trans person, I am incredibly impressed, Juli. You did what I'm trying to do, but you did it in unimaginably worse circumstances than I'm doing it. I wish you didn't have to go through all of that, and I'm so sorry that you did. Yet you succeeded, survived. Your story gives me hope.

[@cypresswolfe]

Im really sorry you had to go through this

[@apollicino1705]

I'm studying trans* folks, and am interested to talk to folks about generational differences in people's experiences. Would love to chat via email, or video chat if you are up for it. Not sure how to private message on here, but you can find me on FB.

[@virginiahall9054]

I was in my early twenties and started transition about 45 years ago. I remember because it was before Watergate. It was difficult. The thing we had to do was to simply move to a new location and start over. College then, and now, is a good place to transition if you are over 18--lots of health services. The mother in the talk, by affirming her love, is allowing the child to be spared so much useless suffering.

[@pastaman06]

As a parent to a child who is transitioning I only know from the parental p.o.v and wish you had the support back then. I'm 35 and lucky to have the children I do. You story is an inspiration for others, you struggled through the hardest of times but came through it to be you and I, for one, salute you. xox

[@leoas6951]

Thank you, thank you thank you. I'm a 14 year old transgender boy, and I'm about to come out. When I told my parents I was a boy when I was two and a half, they didn't believe me. They didn't met me be authentic. They continuously blew me off. Now, puberty already started for me and I'm suffering with dysphoria. Thank you for listening to your son before it was too late.

[@kitten_582]

People will love you if you love yourself

[@ratwoman248]

hope ya came out bro

[@kaikailer]

Hey man, I know it’s been a hot minute, but I hope you’re doing okay.

[@amiracaroandyeeeeet.2779]

Hey, how you're doing now?

[@mxjay-jnoah4291]

Please reach out to your areas LGBT support centre/hotline- your community loves you and wants the best for you. If your wanting and needing something right now, in the short-term download LGBT amino and interact with like minded people! Follow Trans and LGBT KZbinrs for some affirming and euphoric content! You are enough you are loved! Check out Ash Hardel and Jeffery Marsh! There are always going to be people in this world are hear to support you and want the best for you, you just need to seek them out :)

[@timothycrouch7815]

Well Done MOM. My son, Alexander, waited to transitioned until after high school because he did not want to upset grandparents. I knew he was different since the third grade. At 21, he attends college away for the first time because he wanted to be on his own. I lost my child throught-out the teen years, 11 to 18. long story short....support your kids...teach them living is important.

[@TheNemkris]

is he still alive?

[@atlantic_love]

@@TheNemkris If you read closely, yes.

[@leeanneleland959]

Sex, what is between ones legs, is determined by chromosomes in the first trimester. Gender, what is in the brain, is determined by hormone levels in the late second and on into the third trimester. Usually they are somewhat in sync but sometimes not. When they are not a trans child is born.

[@Fish-vs6jf]

@tango1986 Wow, saying "you made that up" without providing any sort of reasoning is such a great argument!

[@bgreaud]

I would like to counter your conclusion with science. Nature has already done what you said could not be. Androgen insensitivity syndrome (AIS) is when a person who is genetically male (who has one X and one Y chromosome) is resistant to male hormones (called androgens). As a result, the person has some or all of the physical traits of a woman, but the genetic makeup of a man.

[@i.l.l.l.l.]

You literally just made all that up lmao

[@DaleVMGoVNNdotCOM]

Wow. Just wow. Why are you like this?

[@yadaKiKhula]

@@bgreaud so it is a medical condition, right?

[@teacupglitterinfested1525]

I feel that this woman cares about people like me and I feel represented so thank you.

[@laetitiaknight]

Thank you for choosing your son's happiness over some stupid social construct and thank you for loving and supporting him so he can grow up to be the amazing man he is destined to be.

[@sweeneytodd9001]

That would be the construct that says that gender is a binary and is set in stone. Neither is true, God in her infinite wisdom created many different people and we need to be curious and delighting in learning about these differences instead of policing them and holding to false beliefs that we may have.

[@sweeneytodd9001]

No, but you were asking in a public forum.. which means it's open for anyone to reply to, but whatever.

[@Keith-sw6vl]

God is not female..... HE and HIS SON JESUS are MALE. stop the blasphemy

[@chloealexa189]

Nate and others of same............ Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity. There is no limit to stupidity. Space itself is said to be bounded by its own curvature, but stupidity continues beyond infinity.

[@thorham1346]

Your god doesn't exist.

[@dannyboi981]

God damn I wish my mom was like her

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

Mom has dementia. I wonder what it would be like if I could explain it to her (without her continuing to forget); I just decided to go through the pain of the misgendering and deadnaming [she doesn't know]...probably would forget anyway if I told her.

[@surrealidiot8789]

Sameee

[@kw2080]

My boy thought he was a girl at 2. I’m glad this lady wasn’t around him at that age.

[@BenHuttash]

Wonderful talk, I love how this mother is fighting for a better world for her son. Her message to advocate is especially important, all people deserve fair treatment in society and equal access to opportunity. The fact that we are having to fight for a person's right to urinate and defecate is atrocious. Historians of the future will look back on the social conservativism of today as if it were the dark ages.

[@ThunderJimmy]

Mmmhmm, this I agree with.

[@krestonosets68]

Her son has reproductive function which works as reproductive function. It is like your brain tells you that you eyes are ears.

[@atlantic_love]

@@krestonosets68 Go away.

[@krestonosets68]

@@atlantic_love A level of argumentations from left-liberal ideology supporter. My cat is smarter.

[@krestonosets68]

@@atlantic_love I am a coward? Write me your phone number. Don't be scared, I will talk to you nicely and politely about your mental sickness, shame of your ancestors.

[@markhagen2915]

I myself would never become a trans, but I have no problem with transgenders. If I had children, and they want to be a different gender, I won't stop them.

[@daddydiesel7177]

Even if they were 6 years old?

[@wintershock]

@@daddydiesel7177 I think it’s fine to let a young child to express themselves until they are sure what gender they identify with. If a young child wants to express themselves through masculine, feminine or androgynous clothes then that’s fine. Making a child go through hormonal changes before they are at the age where they can make that choice for themselves isn’t ok.

[@soldierboy8796]

Not a good idea man, be a father and lead them down the right path.

[@asaabrahamagulnik574]

@@daddydiesel7177 Yes

[@daddydiesel7177]

@@asaabrahamagulnik574 I hope you never have children

[@specsa.1426]

The cost of gender norms should never be human lives.

[@cayliea320]

If only more parents were like her. 💕

[@chiuansheng]

Caylie A No! This is crazy. I was a tomboy. And I wanted to become boy in 6 because I always play with boys! But luckily my parents didn’t like this crazy women. Just let me be myself. Didn’t told me I need be boy or girl. Because how did I know? I’m just 6 years old!

[@stonecat676]

That argument is dead, because in order to get puberty blockers, the kids have to pass tests that prove their persistent desire to transition. And no, puberty doesn't start until 10-12 for girls or 12-14 for boys, so a 6-year old kid has no need for puberty blockers. At least educate yourself before joining the conversation.

[@milesthemothman7650]

Exactly

[@michaelperez9966]

@@stonecat676 You're talking about children. It's irrelevant that a 12 year old can prove that they wanted to transition for a certain amount of time because they can't fully comprehend the decision their making.

[@LucienLeeSeoul]

@@chiuansheng How old are you now? 7?

[@billsf94131]

Great video. Your child is fortunate to have a loving, caring, intelligent, and understanding mother like you. The tide is turning and once the hateful bigots die off the world will be a much better place.

[@RedWolfCid]

you know, by saying 'once the hateful bigots die off', you kinda sound like a hateful bigot. is this ironic?

[@notcishet]

no theres a difference between privileged and oppressed and the power dynamic. is it bigoted for me to want nazis to die? lmfao.... please dont ever compare oppressed and marginalized people to their oppressors

[@chloealexa189]

@David Vanpatten I

[@chloealexa189]

A Stellar Mother doing the most appropriate thing for her Son. Too bad many of the people replying are completely Ignorant of Transgender studies. I knew I was, at the same age, yet in 1940 it was not known in a nice way, how to deal with it. You are doing all very well, He will be all right with your backing.

[@kaejade9184]

I am a 13 year old transgender male. My parents say its just a phase but. I don't think phases last years. I've know since i was 8 that I was different, I kept it inside. When I was 10 I was scrolling a long my suggestions and there was this video called "I am Transgender" so it sounded interesting. I didn't know what Transgender meant but I watched. By the end I was bawling my eyes out, not because I was sad. Because I found a name and definition of what I was. I asked my best friend to call me a him. But I told nobody else. I got sadder by the week. When I was 11 I first came out as Trans* on Facebook, my mom told me to delete it. Then when I was 12 I gave her a letter crying. It explained what I was feeling. She still didn't listen. That same year a week after my 12 birthday. I started self harming. Really badly. My older brother found out and threatened to tell. So I stopped. Now mostly everyone knows me as Jax/ Jaxson. And I am excepted by most of my school. Sadly I am mildly depressed, have anxiety and think about suicide. I never want to kill myself but it just is there. My family still deny to call me Jaxson. But my parents know about my facebook that has my preferred name. I save people every day. I talk them out of suicide. To any one who is struggling. You are not alone. You are loved. If you need help, please kik me: Special_Potato666

[@smesaric]

What is the difference between being transgender and liking things that the opposite sex usually is more associated with liking?

[@nadjadrawssomething1789]

+herobrine_trolo The difference between a trans person and somebody who has interests in things that are stereotypically for the opposite gender is that a trans person doesn't need to like stereotypical masculine/feminine things. Trans people feel like they are the opposite gender not that they like things the opposite gender usually likes. Imagine you wake up tomorrow and you would be in the body of the opposite sex, and everybody would view you as the opposite gender. You would still identify as the gender you are now, would you? That's how trans people feel. (Sorry for my mediocre english.)

[@smesaric]

Why do trans people want to be the opposite gender if they still like the same stuff? Gender is just physical so why do they care if people call them a he or she?

[@puddypudding9609]

herobrine_trolo pronouns are very important. She is used for girl and he for boys and you have the connection, each time you hear someone calling you he. You have the feeling that they see you as a boy, because they do and its feels wrong because you know you are a girl (vice versa). Its the same as if someone called you a goat, it feels weird and wrong.

[@GeeklyGraceGeeksOfTheWorld]

Hey, I totally get this. I'm also 13 and I currently identify as nonbinary and have been exploring the different nonbinary identities for while, trying to find 'me' in one. I'm too afraid that people are going to think it's just a phase or that I'm just being influenced by the people I hang around, so much so that I have told almost no one. I think I've told my best friend who has helped me through this so far and casually hinted to a couple other people I trust. It's seriously good to know there are others out there like me.

[@shawnbay2211]

What an amazing mother! We deserve more like her!! Her son was so open and clear to her exactly who they were without hesitation. He’s got so much trust for his mother. She didn’t even patronise him for being a boy from such a young age - just the benefit of a doubt. She’s honestly so supportive and responsible for her children!! I stan her, and parents like her raising proud families for their children.

[@kahaula32]

Wow. I wish I had a parent like her. Alas, I did not. And sadly, I was born in 1961...and kept growing until I was six foot four. I have been profoundly depressed since junior high school. Thank God things have changed

[@rangerma5]

You are an amazing person regardless!

[@clockworkkirlia7475]

I'm sorry that you've been depressed since, and that you never had help. :/ If it helps, I know an actual model, a cis girl, who is very nearly that height. It doesn't make you any less feminine and you can still be who you are. Things have changed, and for the better. Here for you.

[@DaleVMGoVNNdotCOM]

Just take yourself out of the equation then.

[@chrisshade]

Remarkable message. Extraordinary love. For the haters, I quote Brené Brown, "If you're not in the arena getting your butt kicked too, I'm not interested in your feedback." Don't let the modern day Pharisees trap you or your family in legalism or judgment. Perhaps all should remember the Great Commission and the second of two commandments, "Love your neighbor as yourself." You (and your son) are enough. As is.

[@i.l.l.l.l.]

LMAO HE THINKS THIS IS LOVE

[@silkice.]

People who say that trans people will never be the gender they identify with are like people saying that adopted children's parents will never be their parents.

[@angelicasbestversion3301]

Fantastic! and this talk is even more relevant today!! Thank you so much for sharing.

[@BlackZephyr]

I just want to thank you for being such a positive light in your son's life. I've only just started my transition at age 30, and even as an adult it has been rough (e.g. I cannot get a job in Texas). I have harmed myself and have contemplated suicide for many years as a teenager when I did not know what was "wrong" with me as I struggled with my gender identity. As a child? I can only imagine how many more obstacles a trans child faces. You are such an incredible person. I know it's not easy (initially) to be the parent of a trans child. You are doing such an amazing job. I wish more parents/people like you existed in the world. I hope your son continues to thrive. I hope he grows into an amazing young man. I hope he gets to see the world change in a way that no longer treats him as an anomaly. I hope he gets to see the world change where we do not debate whether or not people like him or me deserve to exist in public spaces. I hope he gets to see the world laugh at the foolish history of the nation debating where trans people can us public restrooms, and look back and think, "what a silly time that way." I hope he can exist without prejudice, without footnotes, without asterisks. I hope he can just be.

[@paull.rogers4562]

Outstanding! This is about something more than where do people go to use the bathroom and whatever genitals they have. For the ignorant, until you meet someone who is transgender or someone who is born with both sexes, yes, that is a real thing, and listen to the pain that they go through and be open to try to understand them, you won't. Congratulations to the boy for being fortunate enough to have great parents who love and understand him! Not all are fortunate. And to this wonderful mom, much respect. I hope that people will quiet down that ignorant, discriminating voice in their heads and really listen to you.

[@kingjoshua8476]

Paul L. Rogers *transgender, not transgendered.

[@paull.rogers4562]

thanks,

[@paull.rogers4562]

There is proven fact that people can be born with both sexes. I met one person who is intersexed. There are people who are born with extra limbs. It is my belief that people can be born with the wrong sex organs. I went to school with a boy who with the exception of his privates, he was a girl. We are not talking about that guy who wants to be a 6 year old girl or the woman who wants to be a cat. Yes, I am familiar with those stories. It is one thing to be born in the wrong body and another thing altogether to have a fetish. What you want to do is to try to use those extreme cases to justify your prejudice. You are entitled to believe what you want. You are also entitled to be an asshole.

[@eugenecampos1456]

Paul L. Rogers The confused parents lying to the little girl certainly will confused them and when they grow up it will certainly confuse them more, that it might led to a tragedy, because the parents didn't tell her the truth.

[@paull.rogers4562]

They are not confused. Why do you care? Hate sucks.

[@ScarletFox039]

TT_TT The saddest part of all is not anything this woman said, but that the auditorium is half empty and the willful ignorance of the world today! Already the comments in this video turn to hate without even truly hearing and understanding what she is saying!

[@chrisshade]

Having just given a TEDx Talk, I learned TED only allows 100 attendees at a TEDx event. Like you, I thought the camera angle was a poor shot, but know it's nor reflective of the content, but TED rules (which are surprisingly confining).

[@ScarletFox039]

+Chris Shade (underwhoseshade) OK phew, made me kind of sad seeing all those empty seats. What was your TED talk? I love to learn.

[@janelleloh3437]

Ikr they're saying how the mom chose it but she totally didn't

[@chrisshade]

It's titled, "Education Is None of Your Business." I describe it by saying, "Consider these words from retired superintendent, Dr. Jeffrey Turner, “The real challenge for education today is we are running a 19th-century system, using 20th-century accountability, and expecting 21st-century skills.” Politicians have unsuccessfully tried to force education to fit into a business model, but kids aren’t widgets; and to that end, I say, “Education is none of your business.” To overcome, we must have innovative district and campus administrators and teacher leaders seeking to push past the tipping point. The session begins by highlighting why schools have operated an institutionalized factory model for well over a hundred years with politicians and big business interests mandating education to fit into an obsolete factory model. After an examination of how education policy got to this point, participants are challenged to consider what is needed to tip the scales from the heavy-handed “business model” of education to a model designed to meet the needs of the 21st century through the creation of content, not the consumption of it." I expect it to go online in about three months (end of August).?!

[@ScarletFox039]

Fascinating. I think that goes hand-in-hand with trying to standardize education across the board when we already know that everyone learns differently and has different interests. I think we've all said in our schooling days "why do I need to learn when I know I don't understand it and I'm never going to use it?" For me it was a philosophy course I was required to take in college for a computer science degree. It was apart of making my education "well-rounded." To this day, I can't even remember what was even said in that class or what grade I got in it. I also think that one potential way to at least solve the problem of everyone learns differently is to have more engaging education. I've seen a few TED talks about how a child can learn and retain information way better from video games than from reading a text book as one example. I'll have to check out your talk, thanks for sharing!

[@TheSnyderWeb]

I don't have kids yet but when she said she explained to a kid at the swimming pool that her child used to be a girl but changed into a boy, I thought OK i'd be mad if some mom just walked up and explained to my child "oh yeah he used to be a girl but now he's a boy". Right now it's not that understood and I'd want to explain that stuff to my child myself, not have some random mom explaining it when I maybe didn't feel like it was the right time or something. Like I wouldn't want to be mean to her because she's going through enough, but I would not be happy with her.

[@MMacAttack]

That was my first thought How dare this woman swim up to a child and say this stuff to a child This is a crazy woman destroying her child

[@spazzrazkid1117]

wow she is so passionate i love her lmao

[@nuvostef]

Mrs. Briggle, you ROCK! Excellent talk and I applaud your courage and how you handled MG. You’re a breath of fresh air.

[@keepitreal2150]

As a parent you dropped the ball on many chances to guide your child right you let the child lead when you should have

[@fgfanta]

This didn't age well. Is she the Amber Briggle who has recently been in front of the senate commitee on state affairs, telling baloney about science?

[@karenmarieh.j.3842]

If so, does that change anything about her story of being a Mom to a Trangender child?

[@capecarver]

So you turned your own kid because you had a delusion. Wow.

[@melbussard8323]

That was quite possibly one of the best speeches I have seen for transgender advocacy. I am looking into public speaking for transgender advocacy and I would love to talk to you about your experiences. I think it would be very beneficial.

[@melbussard8323]

If you see this comment, feel free to send me a facebook message. facebook.com/mbussard1

[@SubToUnicorn]

who? me? crying? no.. never. (this is so touching, thank you for speaking up)

[@elissa_h]

I want to be honest...I watched this because it was part of your contest. I'm so glad I did, it brought me to tears. I love the live you have for your son and I can relate❤❤❤

[@jeremylee5990]

A mother leading her daughter down a path of personal destruction-child abuse on parade.

[@vancetoepke5022]

This hits this transguy right in the feels. If only my mum accepted me like this...

[@ttmike42]

Everyone who sees you knows you are a woman.

[@soldierboy8796]

You're a female.

[@atlantic_love]

Just know that you're not alone. Hopefully you have stayed your journey.

[@brigitte870]

Your son is clearly not only being raised by a loving family but he's going to be a "SUPERSTAR" like his beautiful inside and out, MOM!

[@AlexJaneson]

Nope, she’s just gonna be a depressed and infertile woman

[@catherinemenzies606]

Look at rhe wild eyes. She wanted a boy and got a girl

[@jokeen1197]

I loved this so much!!! I am so proud of you Amber and tell MG he is the coolest. Much love from the entire family!!!

[@hudsonnative351]

Omg your such a strong brave woman/parent who shows unconditional love to her son. I admire that I'm not a parent but someone who's slowly embracing who I am .

[@user-ld7uj9pv8e]

Children are children. This woman insane and fed misinterpretation. Doing what's right is to not impose an interpretation of trans on a child.

[@Luinta]

You're misinformed. She's not putting this on her child, she's listening to her child. You do know that there are decades of research and work that's been put into understanding trans folk and figuring out what's best for them medically and psychologically right? are you saying your personal ideas carry more weight than professionals, who tend to agree that allowing a child to explore their identity is healthy, and that should they continue with persistent, consistent, and insistent declarations of their gender, it's vital to listen to them to avoid forcing them to undergo the trauma of the wrong puberty, and the irreversible consequences of that? I'll take hte experts to your assumptions any day. This woman should be proud of herself for listening to her child, and being rational about it by talking about hormone blockers, and giving her son enough time to decide for himself, when he's older, how he wants to precede. All she's doing right now is allowing him to be comfortable being himself.

[@ricocujo7542]

Bogus. What research are you referring to? I haven't found any research with legitimate evidence. Not once.

[@teacupglitterinfested1525]

This mother did make a point that the suicide rates are very high. Thank god she's speaking for kids like me that have tried to kill themselves and she loves us.

[@Taywht]

I'm glad her daughter didn't want to be a pony.

[@klimtkahlo]

I personally find confusing the whole thing, and definitely difficult for children going through experiences that go outside the norm. Just have a hard time understanding discrimination. Why should people be bothered by an individual choice that does not concern them, does not have any negative repercussions on them... Live and let live. Treat them like people and yes love them unconditionally.

[@chloealexa189]

Yes they do, yet not from people as yourself. The greatest ignorance is to reject something you know nothing about.

[@chloealexa189]

Well Bono1470, you say you know yet you show your ignorance by saying it. As an Israeli scientist used the proper terminology, of the fact that we Trans have Intersex brains. If you have half a wit you can check it out and find out how much you fail to know.

[@MisslanNusse]

XX and XY does not define sex characteristic. A person with XX chromosomes that is feed with testosterone from a fetus state will develop fully male sex characteristics and vice versa. Biology is not something simple and deterministic. The smallest changes can have detrimental effects. Just read this article from Nature (high impact science journal) where the topic of sex characteristics is discussed. www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943

[@klimtkahlo]

+Nils Anlind this was an absolutely awesome article! Thank you for sharing!!! Learned a lot!!!

[@virginiahall9054]

+Bono1470 Other than chromosomes, is there anything else that prevents abandoning an assigned gender?

[@rogerhayden694]

Let's not forget that supporting your child living this lifestyle is supporting giving them a 40% chance of committing suicide. The idea that their problems would go away if everyone else pretended that they were the gender for which they claim is nonsense.

[@nancyceausescu9139]

Roger with respect you don’t know what you’re talking about. Ignorance is bliss though. All the best. Xx

[@ricocujo7542]

Roger is correct.

[@lastminutewonder9602]

She was a biological girl u can’t let her choice her gender!all kids don’t like there name and want to change!

[@cristinab6624]

Last Minute Wonder lol you don’t get it

[@russell1627]

forty-one percent are attempting suicide? I wonder why! Deeply disturbed you are.

[@gelatinous6915]

Its almost like people like you are medically denying bigots

[@ricocujo7542]

You are medically denying yourself.

[@clairegeary9227]

Before I go off into my rant I'd like to say I am transgender. Most people (especially children) who believe they are transgender are confused, I've talked to a number of people and they say the reason is they feel more guyish or girlish; this is NOT a basis for transgenderism. Yes you should dress and act how you prefer but it has taken a negative spotlight to actual transgender people whose brain doesn't match their body due to the overwhelming numbers people believe their are. These numbers are far, far smaller than what social media or misled concepts make them appear to be. It is a real problem for these people that need to transition.

[@jdl2180]

???

[@imogen1]

This is unsubstantiated by the facts, and I'm sorry (if you really are trans) that you're dealing with this level of internalized hate. You're just feeding into the catch 22 that is cis people not considering us valid unless we IDed as a child while not considering trans children valid. You really shouldn't speak on topics you know nothing about, and you shouldn't try to erase other people just to make yourself feel more valid. It's revolting.

[@jdl2180]

You are a great parents and person. Thank God for that dream! What a brave child 😊

[@HypaspistOrange]

SEX. IS. NOT. ASSIGNED.

[@HypaspistOrange]

a doctor does not "assign" sex. they see if you have male parts or female parts. they don't give a shit whether you identify as a genderqueer asexual helicopter

[@sweeneytodd9001]

lol sex and gender are two different things and neither are binary.

[@HypaspistOrange]

Never said anything about gender. Gender is a made-up, non-scientific term so it doesn't matter. There are only two sexes for the human species. Period. It's the realm of biology, not feminist dogma

[@sweeneytodd9001]

You are sorrowfully mislead.. maybe someday you'll be able to wake up and smell the bullshit... The brain is an organ and it can be misaligned with the body... it's a good thing that people don't need the permission of others to be who they truly are.

[@MisslanNusse]

The idea of sex for any species is a human classification. It is something we use to make sense of how the world around us work and to be able to make progress and develop new tools. The scientists that have spent many many years researching sex characteristics is now strongly doubting the sex binary. This is not feminism, it is biology and science. Source: www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943

[@giraffypeace5894]

what a beautiful talk show. May those with transgender children or family members who are transgender hear this and stand with them. I transgender friend, I love you and I always will.God chose you to carry this burden because he knew you could.others have other different burdens.carry the thorn without feeling shame or afraid. Apostle paul did carry his thorn and God told him his grace will be sufficient to him and so God's grace will be sufficient to you also. Remember you have us as your support group- Paul did not have a support group.

[@jeremylee5990]

Comments exposing this as child abuse are of course deleted.

[@teacupglitterinfested1525]

Why do a lot of moms and dads don't love us for who we are???

[@Yourlovelyghost]

I don't know, mine just told me that I was odd, and that I was a girl, not a boy🤦‍♂️ ( they are kind tho, they just don't understand)

[@Seleteles]

@sonoki82 Have you ever been loved by someone who was absolutely certain that you were really someone else, and you just needed to change to fit their expectations, and then you'd be perfect? That's what it's like. That's the kind of love you're suggesting is "real." You say they hate themselves, but you know only one thing about them - you don't know what it's like to be them, and if you're not willing to listen, that says something about you. When you love someone, how they look or what they believe shouldn't matter. What they feel matters. Transition is so many things other than surgery, and the vast majority of people who transition are happy that they did so.

[@daddydiesel7177]

Because you are who you are and you should embrace it rather than run away from reality

[@teacupglitterinfested1525]

@@daddydiesel7177 what do you mean when you say that?

[@teacupglitterinfested1525]

@COCO BROWN true parents would only care about what makes their child happy, instead of playing what if games with their child.

[@edenmarsh4127]

What a brave, lucky lad, with a truly amazing mom!!

[@brooklyn8887]

She is amazing and a perfect example of what a parent should be!

[@serraven4838]

Amazing to see a parent give all a child could hope for with acceptance and selflessness.

[@bubbajones6907]

Wow, she is so brave. She let go of some internet friends on social media. I bet she's so brave that she can endure internet bullying.

[@TravistheGREAT03]

No but seriously if Amber Briggle ever reads this. please contact me in 20 years and tell me how your son is doing.

[@GeeklyGraceGeeksOfTheWorld]

This TED talk was inspiring and just really reassuring, because I'm a teen and I know I'm nonbinary, or at least I know I'm not a girl, but I'm always seriously afraid to tell even my friends who are out as transgender because maybe people will think it's just a phase, maybe they'll think it's because of the people that I hang out with, maybe I'll lose people I love because they can't accept me, so I have told maybe two people at the most and it's terrifying. I wake up trying to pick gender ambiguous clothing knowing it will make no difference because to the world I am just a little girl and I'm afraid to say otherwise even though I know it isn't true. So the fact that there are trans kids out there younger than me who are accepted is just extremely good to know.

[@clockworkkirlia7475]

You're not just a little girl. You're a fantastic young nonbinary person who doesn't have to answer to the world if the world refuses to understand. The best part is, however, that large parts of the world DO understand! I'm really proud of you for having told anyone at all. I know it's scary but you will get through this. I can attest, gender ambiguous clothing can be such a freeing experience for us non-binary lot and it really does make a difference. I am here for you.

[@rickwyant]

Gracie's a boy now, that is the most insane statement I've ever heard.

[@MMacAttack]

She swims up to another persons child without speaking to the parent and says this ? This woman is nuts

[@lequsejones5384]

Suicide has strong links with mental illness. Perhaps that is why such a large number of trans people attempt suicide. Blaming bullies is lazy and unverified.

[@ПророкМухоед]

You first must go to a psychologist with your child, before making any life-changing decisions.

[@nightoftheworld]

Life changing decisions were already made when she coopted her child’s life for her activist internet crusade. I know for a fact that at 4 years old Max had no ability to actually consent to any of this-yet thanks to his mothers pregnant premonition/gender dreams/desire Max’s entire childhood has become an inescapable spectacle.

[@MMacAttack]

Plus she swims up to another persons child and says Gracie is a boy now....... how dare she do that. It’s up to THAT child’s PARENT to discuss this issue NOT this trans activist. Horrible woman

[@shanehester5317]

because the way u were born is the way u were born.u might start wearing different cloths but it don't change your real sex.

[@virginiahall9054]

+shane hester Right. Like being an adopted child who does not share similar chromosomal maps with the parents. That child is not a REAL part of the family and must be purged of any such delusions. And if the so-call parents promote the child's feeling of inclusion, we outsiders need to jump in, and fast, and set the parents and child straight on their delusion.

[@AtomicJava]

She looks/sounds like Winona Ryder

[@louisestretch4939]

I just wanted to say - you're an amazing (fierce!) mother. Your son is so lucky to have such a caring family. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@e13kid]

Second grade? Jesus Christ.

[@alicelowell7549]

I just had to add this additional statement: As long as you do the "right thing" for your our children, is perfect! (and I really mean the right thing, because each child is a different case) But when you and society (mostly those with some kind of governmental power) try to do the "right thing" for other people's kids, is where real problems starts!

[@marleiromhill1991]

I wish my mom is as cool as you

[@benjisaac]

There are a lot of comments asking why they can’t just accept their gender and still like things stereotypically aligned with the opposite gender and as a trans male I thought I’d clear some of it up. *Dysphoria* It’s not just liking gendered things. Some kids are filled with a hate for or extreme discomfort with their genitals and they can’t just accept it. It’s debilitating. And there isn’t just body dysphoria, there’s social dysphoria too, where it almost hurts to be called by the wrong pronouns or name. Dressing up in what you’re expected to wear for your assigned gender is a huge trigger for it. It’s like extreme anxiety around your gender. And the medication for it... is transitioning. Wearing a chest binder. Packing. Tucking. Going on T/estrogen. And why is it a big deal? Three of the things I mentioned can’t do any harm to a child unless you do it very incorrectly, and one is something you won’t start until you’re old enough to choose anyway. So it’s not a big deal, let kids do things that will save them a lot of pain.

[@curtisking5138]

Ben : Nonsense! Kids do not even know what their genitalia represent except for its use,unless they were told! They are unaware of the concept of gender,and the differences, unless they were told! They are not obsessed with gender identity,unless they were indoctrinated! Children learn by imitating the behaviour to which they are exposed!

[@benjisaac]

Curtis King That’s a lot of exclamation points first of all. Second did you watch the video? This kid clearly experienced some level of social dysphoria from a young age, and he wasn’t exposed to trans people. Body dysphoria will most likely set in after puberty.

[@ricocujo7542]

That’s called normal feelings during puberty, assclown.

[@benjisaac]

@@ricocujo7542 I’m out of puberty and still a dude, so…

[@ricocujo7542]

Internet access did this to you. You were highly impressionable and subjected to the idea of being something other than yourself.

[@rickwyant]

This woman is insane!

[@ollieisdead]

Her son is one of my best friends and his mom is just sharing his dead name and pre transition pics, the first thing you see when you search his name is that he’s trans. I get she’s supportive and stuff but if the kids at our school search up his name he’s going to be outed. He never talks about it to anyone and I don’t bring it up because I can tell he’s uncomfortable by the topic.

[@jimmyincognito2240]

Because he's a girl that has been brainwashed by a mother suffering for Munchausen by proxy. This is a sick woman who thinks she talks to her foetus and *magically* her daughter is trans. I really feel for your friend. They're no different than any other cult family member. The mother may as well be a Jehovah's Witness.

[@aaronimpactnz]

Parents, ruining their children's lives since forever.

[@carmensanchez3179]

Amazing talk!

[@VictorNiss]

My niece and nephew don't even know how cool there mom is! Great job, sis!

[@noee_gee]

Thank you Amber for making the world a better place. You are so inspiring, acknowledging your privilege and educating yourself for the sake of your son. You give me so much faith in humanity. And what a wonderful son you have, blessings to you and your family.

[@donnahazen9242]

There is an alarming amout of adults wanting to detransition now that they have grown up and realize it was just a phase...and its too late...years of hormones and surgery has ruined them being able to be what they are born....this is happening and its sad

[@SockLove]

I really hope you have the data to support your "alarming amount"

[@eeveebeeveeboo]

Can I get some sources? Like, some research?

[@firoificat]

*citation needed*

[@imogen1]

The few people who do detransition actually usually continue to ID as trans & cite discrimination as the primary reason for doing so, but ok.

[@Seleteles]

Mysteriously, despite the alleged "alarming amout" of detransitioners, not a single shred of evidence has been provided in all this time.

[@SarahDarkhand]

This is so adorable how

[@JeffMende]

Thanks Amber MG is my hero today....Jeff

[@chownful]

Parents should not be encouraging or promoting children to question their gender. She is setting up her child to commit suicide later as an adult.

[@aliwells2627]

root are you saying that not accepting someone is going to bring the chances of suicide down? She accepted her child for who they are. I am positive that trying to convince your child that they are someone else and not accepting who they are is going to increase the chances of suicide much more than actually accepting your child for who they are and letting them transition.

[@joannakomorowska358]

People like you should run this world. You're amazing. Thank you.

[@jimmyincognito2240]

Yeah, lol. People that "talk" to their fetus about their gender and then impose it on their kids... sounds like great people.

[@smarteam5920]

This woman is psychotic and her poor girl-child should be taken away by the authorities

[@bigdaddybdal4678]

This is just great, a mom making her second grader change genders, most children with transgender feeling lose those feeling by age 12 or 13 and now her daughter will never be normal SMH

[@MMacAttack]

And she has the gall to swim over to a small child and say Gracie is a boy now .... maybe that child’s PARENT wants to discuss that with THEIR child , not you lady! Wow koo koo

[@ricocujo7542]

Indeed. Before natural puberty, you don’t know anything about gender.

[@bobtom9687]

great talk but kids will atempt tosuicide because of stereotypes portrayed by the media its probably not this easy but just stop your children from watching gender discriminating tv shows and commercials and why should you let your child resign his gender thats just giving in to the societal pressures and giving away your original identity

[@CapitaineLaitue]

There is no "transcender" kids.

[@kingdomcome4999]

Society is not yet mature for this But then of course a lot can be learned about human emotion and psicology from transgender teens I believe that it is an oppurtunity to take

[@TravistheGREAT03]

This woman shoudl have looked up gender dysphoria before blindly pushing this shit in her daughter. There is SOOOO much information about gender dysphoria in young children and becuase this woman rather embraced some emotional bullshit rather than medical facts her daughter, sorry son will most likely end up as being deeply depressed. All studies done with trnasgenders who began tehre change before puberty show that thes epeople end up in deep depression and often suicide. Puberty is not something that should be stopped to give time for thinking, it is something crucial to help the midn realize what one is. Yu cannot block out pberty and expect that the child will make the choice that si right for it.

[@chownful]

"Mommy can science change me into a boy?" No, you need to become comfortable and accepting of your own body.

[@rosanguyen5693]

stop wearing glasses stop wearing contacts, stop taking medicine stop taking vitamin, stop working out stop dieting stop showering stop shaving stop putting make up on and stop wearing clothes because they all change your body or the way it looks. You can go ahead and be natural in your body. No one is stoping you for being you in your body. So after you do all that then you have the credibility to say you accept your body before telling others to accept theirs. To live a life the way one wants to live their life because they only have one life should not be dictated but by their own will and choice. They have the rights to self express who they are and how they feel or want to be you are in no place to tell someone how to live their life and their body because it is their body they can do what ever they want to do. I wonder what your stance is with plastic surgery, eye laser surgery or even abortion.

[@chownful]

Rosa Nguyen I have no problem with someone being transgender once they are an adult and mature enough to make the decision for themselves.

[@virginiahall9054]

+Operation Valkyrie When they are "adults" it is too late. The issue is that puberty needs to be blocked before it is too late, most suggest at Tanner 2. Then afterward we can talk the issue about HRT and such as the patient gets to be about freshman/sophomore in high school age-wise. Have the discussion one the damage from the wrong hormones is put on hold. From the 1992 film "The Lover" based on the book by novelist Marguerite Duras, the narrator opens the film: Very early in my life, it was too late. At eighteen it was already too late. At eighteen I aged. This aging was brutal. This aging, I saw it spread over my features, one by one. Instead of being frightened by it, I saw this aging of my face with the same sort of interest I might have taken for example in the reading of a book. That new face I kept it. It's kept the same contours, but its matter is destroyed. I have a destroyed face. But there is something most cis people seem to overlook--that the trans child's socialization will be with the incorrect gender. All this wait-and-see approach has huge negatives if the child insists he/she is being raised in the wrong role.

[@2126Eliza]

I bet you anything it's more like, mommy, boys get left alone to explore and are told they are smart and I don't want to grow boobs and be fondled and told what I can do. That's the historical reason why women dress and act like men: they want to be independent instead of coddled and patronized.

[@ghostlibrarian3271]

2126Eliza uh I don’t think that’s why I’m trans. While yes I deeply hate my chest but only because of gender dysphoria. I’m a very feminine guy tho.

[@yolannachikonyora5714]

It's difficult to convince sexist individual the truth about transgenders but you did effectively.

[@cypresswolfe]

What a good parent

[@nicolagianaroli2024]

Q- "mummy do you think scientist can turn me into a boy?" A- Absolutely not. Every single cell in your body is marked with XY chromosome. You are a female from toe to hair and there is no way to change it until you will exile your last breathe. That is the truth that should be finally told to every child

[@aleksBa3]

This gave me a repressed memory. In first grade it was my third day i wasn't used to using a public bathroom, i had just moved from a farm to a big city in the united states, i understood english but i didn't understand what bathroom i had to use i went into both and try to see if i was in the right one but they were both empty. I was so confused that even though both bathrooms where empty i peed my pants i could have used any but the fear of "using the wrong one" was too much for me.

[@shahrukhshah209]

Outstanding! Just outstanding... MG lucky dude u have a great mom God bless u..

[@cosmix02]

YYYAAASSS MAMA USING THEM CORRECT GENDER PRONOUNS

[@JackofMostTrades17]

I wish I could find this in Spanish to show my parents....

[@azael2078]

subtitles!

[@hightideahead]

Delusion

[@ricocujo7542]

Get ready mate, we’re gonna be looking at some major destruction in the following years.

[@hughmungous8846]

I’m at a loss for words of this travesty.

[@Seleteles]

Yet you have still somehow managed to produce them, to the benefit of everyone. Clap clap. /s

[@miracleshappen4483]

This woman is incredible. Love and acceptance are key!

[@VanPersie113]

not a single critical comment. thats very interesting...and also all those dislikes this video had also dissapeared. Stunning and brave

[@ricocujo7542]

Here I am.

[@jeremylee5990]

Nothing brave or great about celebrating child abuse. Sad that you do.

[@theperson4yearsago565]

@@jeremylee5990 they were being sarcastic

[@davefisher1840]

This was wonderful! 😊

[@elvnprince]

Powerful!

[@Stacey_Robinson]

What an amazing mother this woman is. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@trisF1981]

6:42 what happened to the audio

[@annthomas6631]

this world is becoming stranger and stranger

[@miracleshappen4483]

God Bless You! We are ALL beautiful children of GOD with no exception!!! 🙏😙😍💖😊😘🤗

[@soldierboy8796]

Stop it, God did not create this.