"I will not self-abandon to maintain the status quo because the status quo, for me, has sucked!" "You have to do the healing." Amen. Thank you both for this fabulous episode.
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
🙌🙌🙌
@lauracde44143 ай бұрын
I love that Gabor Mate is also open about his story. Praise God for all the wounded healers.. so many of us health care professionals are trauma survivors
@ramonacrawford32474 ай бұрын
I failed my children at times too, and I’ve also apologized. By the grace of God and my children’s love, they forgave me and we’ve healed as a family. ❤ Single parent, no support from anyone and I was full of anxiety.. We heal
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
That sounds so difficult, Ramona ❤️ Thank you for sharing.
@midlife.mystic4 ай бұрын
I feel so much love for Frank. I heard his great interview with Lewis Howell then found my way here. I don’t know if it’s that I resonate deeply with his journey or just how genuine he comes across. He’s clearly done deep work that he’s come through and shares from a humble vulnerable and empowered place and is putting positive energy into the world. Thanks for this one!
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
He was such a lovely guest ❤️ So glad you found this interview and enjoyed it!
@warrenisaac56342 ай бұрын
I first heart Dr. Frank Anderson through the Lewis Howes show too.
@lealea60204 күн бұрын
I think a simple apology from a parent that did know better can be very healing....
@Cocobutterhoney784 ай бұрын
“Our wounds choose our intimate partners!” Frank G. Anderson-Woah 🤯 Blew my freaking mind and answered so many questions!
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
Loved that quote ❤️
@mellmoi75713 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for reiterating that forgiveness is a choice and not a requirement for healing.!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@terri_cole3 ай бұрын
❤️❤️
@warrenisaac56342 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@ElyseSimon2 ай бұрын
Yes! Observe not absorb with the power of compassion and humor! ☯️
@Cinnamon3494 ай бұрын
“ forgiveness is about the person doing the forgiving more than about the person being forgiven “ 💡 “ our wounds chose our intimate partners” 💡 Dude! Im starting to understand how to move out of ‘resentment prison’ I needed to hear this today! Ya and forgive self for lowering boundaries and rinsing and repeating! all such great advice
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
@susannesteinhusen78764 ай бұрын
I love this interview, thanks. Dr Joe Dispenza says, when the stuff is processed, healed, forgiveness comes by itself, thats how I experience it.
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
❤️
@CynthiaHutchinson-c1m3 ай бұрын
I have fallen in love with the concept of IFS therapy from the millisecond I heard my first Frank G. Anderson interview. I have carried family trauma around with me for years, and I'm ready to do the work. Even if I can't find IFS therapy where I live, I plan on listening/reading everything I can get my hands on relating to IFS and Frank's journey.
@terri_cole3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best on that journey ❤️
@carolrose2984 ай бұрын
Amazing, amazing, amazing. I related everything about this podcast. Can't wait to read the book. Thank you Terri for always being true to who you have on. You are the most amazing woman and I have learned so much from you
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, Carol 💕 Glad you enjoyed this one!
@casuarinagirl8067Ай бұрын
This was SOOO good. Thank you both 🙏🥰
@terri_coleАй бұрын
Thank you for watching! ❤️
@silviaconjar11844 ай бұрын
thank you Terri and your guest ...always love to learn from you and all that you share with us. Amazing conversation
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it ❤️
@silviaconjar11844 ай бұрын
@@terri_cole ❤️ always
@Sunny08me3 ай бұрын
What a powerful interview. Thank you both for being authentic and vulnerable. We have so much to learn.
@terri_cole3 ай бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it! ❤️
@gregariasanchez18014 ай бұрын
Qué buena entrevista, Terry! ambos son tan buenos terapeutas y los comentarios y plática sacó lo mejor de los dos! Hay tanto qué aprender todavía de todo lo que compartes! Está para verla varias veces. Gracias gracias gracias 🙏🙋🏼♀️
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it as much as I did, Gregaria! Dr. Frank was truly an amazing guest. ❤️
@seacatMEOW3 ай бұрын
I love this conversation. I wish our society would recognize that institutional homophobia is child abuse--plain and simple. Attitudes need to change so that the LGBTQ community can come into this world and have the parents and society accept their LGBTQ offspring so they can socialize from the beginning of their lives.
@terri_cole3 ай бұрын
👏👏👏
@jessicaroberts80904 ай бұрын
Forgiveness yields blessings.
@ramonacrawford32474 ай бұрын
Awesome and so true! We know what we know! 🎉
@f_j164 ай бұрын
Hi Terri, thank you so much for this interview, it is one of the most scratch that it is the most powerful video and interview I have seen. I do think you need a disclaimer that watching this video can bring your own trauma to surface. But it is so real so authentic so impactful, filled with depth and breadth and relatability. I want to ask what process one can go through to identify the right level of therapist or process they need on healing journey; and how can one help a loved one create greater awareness that they actually need to embark on a healing journey to reclaim their life the one that they deserve regardless of the past. Forever grateful to your wonderful work that I have been following for over a year now and it is helping me immensely! 🙏
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
Thank you for the suggestion, I've added it to the video description ❤️ As for your Qs: I have a video on finding the right therapist here that may help -- kzbin.info/www/bejne/fXrKkGV3ZruNsNk As far as "how can one help a loved one create greater awareness..." I think that's a tricky one. Most of the time I suggest leading by example. We cannot presume we know more about what someone needs than they do, which can be really, really tough when you're watching someone suffer. I learned this lesson myself with my sister, which I detailed here: kzbin.infoCsWl0-5kNtM
@f_j164 ай бұрын
Thank you very much Terri for your response and further guidance, truly appreciate it. 🙏
@AmiFouts-ry9hw3 ай бұрын
I realized, later in life, that I picked relationships that mocked the unhealthy relationship I had with my mother growing. My counselor floored me when she indicated that I was repeating the relationship I had with my mom. Because it was familiar and apparently comfortable.
@terri_cole3 ай бұрын
Yep, it's so common and you're not alone ❤️
@lauracde44143 ай бұрын
When he answers the question on forgiveness he is describing restoration as I understand it. I think we can free ourselves by forgiving without deciding to restore any relationship with anyone. Restoration requires health and growth from both parties. The victim can’t create a new healthy relationship alone
@tnt012 ай бұрын
100%
@MicheleBlack14 ай бұрын
Excellent- I’m getting the book 📕 Happy Birthday 🎁
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
❤️❤️
@carmenl1634 ай бұрын
Honestly, I am a bit shocked he mentions IFS only as a side note. I know this is a memoir and not a professional book, but since he has written two books about that, I imagined it would have greatly impacted his life, helping him overcome his trauma.
@terrahillman1514 ай бұрын
Agreed! Like it’s almost disconcerting how little he mentions IFS. That being said, I do understand IFS is just one part of healing from trauma but still, it feels like he’s staying away from the topic almost intentionally distancing himself from it. Albeit I’m making assumptions but that’s my perspective.
@carmenl1634 ай бұрын
@@terrahillman151 You could be right. I noticed Richard Schwartz is not mentioned on the book's cover, endorsing his memoir, while others like Bessel van der Kolk and Gabor Maté are.
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
I did want to ask him about it and I'm sorry I didn't get to! Based on the upcoming events listed on his website I would say he's still interested in the topic: www.frankandersonmd.com/events
@carmenl1634 ай бұрын
@@terri_cole Thank you, Terri. You might want to check out Tammi Sollenberger. She is a leading IFS expert and a delightful lady. I think you'll love her energy.
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
I will add Tammi to our list of suggested guests, thanks!
@OrigenisAdamantios4 ай бұрын
I met the aggressor and became the passive acceptor.
@iw93384 ай бұрын
Excellent, i will Not self abandon. Thanks for saying that.i recently decided to take 10 miles of distance from my 10 siblings in order to take care of me.😢😮😅❤❤❤
@terri_cole4 ай бұрын
Good for you! 💕
@kjbrocky3 ай бұрын
I would have liked to have heard something here about HOW to heal.
@terri_cole3 ай бұрын
Dr. Frank shared his experiences of how he healed, and he goes into more detail in his book. I also have 500+ free videos on my channel about healing that I could help point you to, if you tell me what you're looking for specifically. 💕
@kjbrocky3 ай бұрын
@@terri_cole Thanks so much for your reply!
@llkellenba2 ай бұрын
I’m a Master in Repetition Compulsion…
@terri_cole2 ай бұрын
I feel you 💕
@CleoHorsemanship3 ай бұрын
I wonder if you think you can forgive in the present whilst the little boy or girl still holds onto the anger and pain? Because the adult you and the person who hurt you are different. They have probably aged and become weak, old and infirm whilst you have grown strong and capable but the hurt child in you can still be there frozen inside.
@CleoHorsemanship3 ай бұрын
Or would that be by-passing and you haven't really forgiven them until the child is healed?
@terri_cole3 ай бұрын
Interesting Q! I think it might depend on why you want to forgive and how you view forgiveness. I go into forgiveness more in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/epKqh4Bund96qbM
@mm78464 ай бұрын
I like his clarification on the timing of forgiveness and its 100% true 🫶