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The data that "modern" fertility advice is based on is actually straight-up medieval.
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[@strnglhld]

My mom had brother at 46. He screened positive for Down syndrome initially. Later tested negative twice. Born normally and on honor roll.

[@childofpersia1213]

Thank you! People need to hear these stories so the anxiety can simmer down

[@The_Kirk_Lazarus]

They probably miscalculated gestational age, which can skew AFP readings.

[@rachaelm7084]

My mom had my youngest brother at 43. He was an oops baby. My parents thought they were done. He was almost 10 pounds and the healthiest out of all of us. I have 4 siblings.

[@lildon112]

Im curious to know how the test results changed, considering Down's syndrome is caused by an extra chromosome. I guessed that maybe the testing was prenatal and based on genetics but maybe I misunderstood.

[@The_Kirk_Lazarus]

@@lildon112 It's an AFP level that it used to determine whether or not the fetus has Down syndrome.

[@josefnathanieltan6006]

this is interesting actually, here in the Philippines fertility isnt a problem, so many people plan with the idea of having kids in the late 30's or early 40's, not 35

[@lenamayduzen1408]

@bad bad mc bad ???

[@lenamayduzen1408]

@bad bad mc bad but that doesn't stop the fact that women can have babies past age 35. The scientific facts just don't correlate with cultural norms.

[@agees924]

That’s great! I wonder if there is better quality food there? It used to be more common for older women to have kids late in life, but now not as much. It’s important to eat a good diet too. My grandma had kids after 40 and so did her mom. It might also be more cultural differences. A lot of women just give up or don’t try after a certain age here.

[@Anonytjuh]

@bad bad mc bad This is a weird out of place take that has nothing to do with the main subject. It also sounds like projecting to me, and not to mention very creepy to go after teenagers when you're way too old be in business with them.

[@chriskatz2355]

The big problem with that is the age you have to raise them at, do you want to be able to mobile and do things with your kids or be too old to do anything with them when they are getting of age to leave

[@mintghost]

I wish I had watched this when I first got pregnant! I am 37 and I was SO afraid the baby would be messed up. So far all the tests say he is perfect.

[@mammamathews]

I felt the same way. I ended up losing him but I was really worried the whole time.

[@bloodtypena]

My mom gave birth to my sister at age 39 and my sister is prefect

[@rustinstardust2094]

@@mammamathews I saw a TEDtalk on YT where a woman recounted how she had - like I don't know - six or seven miscarriages and even gave birth to one baby who died. But she eventually did have a healthy baby and this kid is now doing fine. If you still want a baby I really hope you don't get discouraged.

[@WhiteKoneko]

Dwah congratulations! 😍

[@limediamond4595]

mintghost Can you please not say “messed up” and “perfect?” I have ADHD and it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me

[@yossarius]

On the other hand, I cannot imagine trying to parent a teenager at 60.

[@kl7451]

yossarius more time to get your life together and learn to take care of one

[@anewyorkgirlinanorthcaroli1981]

Exactly

[@silvasilvasilva]

Thaťs a personal choice, not an impossibility

[@ieatgremlins]

Why? You’re probably gonna be more patient and wiser. It is better than having a kid when you’re not ready.

[@nc5337]

Better then than in your 50s--menopause AND puberty in the same house? *shudder* Besides, in traditional extended families, the grandparents do a lot of the parenting while the middle generation is working.

[@ShiningDialga]

Have there ever been any major studies on male fertility? It's all well and good to know women's data, but it takes two to do the baby tango...

[@InitialPC]

well the reason their are more female studies is because the female side of things is more complex, but their are still a lot of studies for men, for example potency reduces with age, so a woman getting older may not have a serious effect on having kids, but with men its significant

[@alex7171]

@@InitialPC Actually, men can have babies into their 70's, and there's little evidence of significant decrease in potency before then. The fact is that a woman getting older has a MAJOR impact on fertility (harder after 30, difficult after 40, nearly impossible after 50), while a man getting older has a modest impact on fertility, with little decrease until the 60's.

[@maybellemasone8018]

i have a friend who’s dad was 60 when she was conceived so their fertility isn’t really affected by age

[@JessicaWells1]

There are TONS of new data that show that a combo of older age of the man plays just as much of a role in, not only fertility/ potency but also in chromosomal risk. They increase SIGNIFICANTLY after 40 for both genders

[@JessicaWells1]

Just because a healthy baby CAN be conceived later in life does not mean that it's as common or as easy. The risks and capability to do so drastically drops after 40...even if its just the man who is older or vice versa and doubles if they are both older.

[@Redipstick]

Had my daughter at 40...it’s been awesome. And I’m taking great care of myself and plan to be an amazing, kick ass grandmother one day!

[@GK-op4oc]

"Had my daughter at 40" Your last daughter, right ?

[@eestudaj]

When you are 80?

[@miss_bhello7925]

Any tips on keeping yourself healthy? And yay! What a blessing. ❤

[@strugglingcollegestudent]

@@eestudajwhy not 🤷‍♀️

[@banh_mi857]

I love how the video is so serious, Emily is asking questions, Adam is supplying good answers, and Murph is just in the background vibing.

[@NoliMeTangere1163]

We bought the myth too, then got pregnant almost immediately. I was 36. Our son is now a healthy two year old who can count to 30, say his ABCs, identify colors and shapes, add single digits, share, wait his turn and take care of his own basic hygiene. This whole nonsense about 35 is worthy of nothing but being ignored. Have your baby. They'll get two mature and hopefully more established parents in exchange for age.

[@GK-op4oc]

Yeah, but you only had one child at 36.

[@amethystflower8799]

keep telling yourself that. time served on this planet does not give you maturity or financial success

[@anonymoussaga8723]

@@GK-op4oc And? Lots of people have only one or two kids (my aunt had her second and last child at 28, they decided that was enough).

[@GK-op4oc]

@@anonymoussaga8723 Most women want more children but mess up their dating and start too late. Two children per woman is needed to sustain civilization. For every woman that thinks one child is enough, another woman needs to make 3

[@miss_bhello7925]

@@GK-op4oc Not sure of your point.

[@abbikyffin7390]

I used to ride with a woman who kept having miscarriages then at the age of 47 she gave birth to a beautiful, healthy, baby girl.

[@te1327]

*ride with*

[@mauriceestelle4619]

@@te1327 look at the profile, horseback riding

[@Snarkulous]

47? That's just irresponsible.

[@syrenaxhaferi7278]

crazy

[@Anonytjuh]

@@Snarkulous If she's able to take care of her child then they're good. Age shouldn't be a problem at that point. There are a lot more people in their 20s who shouldn't be parents in the first place.

[@christydresch6726]

My mom had me at 42 and my grandma had my uncle at 48

[@Ishtarthemoon]

48?? Wow.

[@metavavi_sweetheartowo1080]

Wow bro

[@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254]

Yeah notice how everybody freaks out about older moms getting pregnant for the first time but there's women who sometimes have multiple babies and have their youngest in their forties?

[@samnicholson5051]

Looking at my family tree, I see my great grandmother was born to a 43 year old, one great-great grandfather born to a 40 year old, another great-great grandfather born to a 45 year old. They all happened to be on the bottom end of large families, which were common in those days. This was the case with many younger siblings of other ancestors as well. If it wasn't uncommon to be able to conceive past 40 back in the 19th century then why should it be any less common now?

[@sudanesegamer7886]

My parents had 5 kids from 35 to 45. I never heard that myth before and if I did, I wouldnt believe it

[@86Framer]

What age do you feel comfortable saying is the time to “strike while the iron is hot” for the average woman (with sperm on demand from her partner) to have 2-3 children spaced out by 12-18 months? What age would you say it’s too late for 1/5 of women to have a baby?

[@Sin355]

Just played this video for my mom to stop hounding me about having kids. Thanks! 🙏

[@thereIsaidit123]

I had my baby at 38 and she is healthy , beautiful and I'm perhaps a better mom than my friends who had their babies @early 30's because I was fully ready !

[@Julien-nm4fw]

ZSALE20

[@SkycometAnimeVamp]

Say it louder for the women in the back!!!

[@GK-op4oc]

"I had my baby at 38" Your one and last child, right ?

[@amethystflower8799]

so you can't be fully ready in your early thirties?

[@kharos.]

@@GK-op4oc how can you be so lame?

[@xonxt]

Yeah, must be nice living in a part of the world with a high life expectancy. (cries in Eastern-European) Part of the "have babies before 35" scare comes from the fear that you won't be able to care for your kids when they're in their teens or college years, or you won't be able to see your grandkids.

[@93mlo]

relo999 by the time your 50 your kids will be teens and will not want to spend time with you. You do all the time spending on your 40. You can still do alot of stuff in your 40s

[@eruno_]

don't generalise Eastern Europe please

[@MissPopuri]

Because of this "have babies before 35", it makes you wonder about the US mandate in healthcare about treating children as such until they're 26 might be full of hokum as well.

[@andytuinman]

Mexazavr actually I believe it's 25: 1/1500 35: 1/300 40: 1/100. But is it me or does 1% sounds more reassuring than 1/100

[@RedQueenOfficial]

xøñχt .. that is a good point too, but that’s what parents and aunts and all are for.

[@sadiemcc9363]

My mom was 36 when she had me, and I'm the healthiest person I know.

[@simplestu9449]

My mom had all of her children after 35. We are all just fine.

[@miss_bhello7925]

Your mom was fine too, I assume? But that's awesome! Praise the Lord.

[@thoughtfulpro371]

“The vast majority of women who freeze their eggs, never use them.” The amount of women being scared into spending 25k injecting, freezing and unfreezing eggs. 🙈 They could be using this money as a downpayment on a home or a college fund. 😢😵‍💫

[@Aramintava]

My mom had me at 42 and I had my daughter the day before I turned 36. All of us turned out fine.

[@readyaimfire3454]

I been knew it was fake. Mom had my last 2 siblings at 40 and 42

[@GK-op4oc]

While women have reduced fertility over the age of 35, their sexual market place value in the dating market drops after 32 and falls off a cliff at 35

[@SJ-ru4ej]

@@GK-op4oc According to who? You? LOL.

[@GK-op4oc]

@@SJ-ru4ej I have read about female fertility. Do you know where to find this information ?

[@lastprism5115]

guess what? My mom gave birth to me at the age of 43

[@emileiator0527]

lastprism5 mine at 45

[@tomasavendanozacarias5205]

mine at 21 and i can now go to my gran granparents house in brasil and they are still alaive

[@randomthoughtstheories6681]

lastprism5 same!!

[@daroxstebern4514]

my mom 40

[@teddythenorthernbear8183]

my mom gave me at 39

[@buzzlightyearandco]

My grandma had my mom naturally at 40 after 4 kids and she actually didn't want another baby, thankfully she kept it otherwise I wouldn't be here!

[@GK-op4oc]

"My grandma had my mom naturally at 40 after 4 kids" How many years between you and the next eldest ?

[@tastycheesebooger]

My mum was born in 1964. My big brother was born in 2001 and I was born in 2004. We both turned out well and healthy.

[@SA-lz1vx]

That’s so encouraging

[@Luckshot459]

My mom was 28 when she had me. Yet i was still autistic and was born with spine complications.

[@littlemacisunderrated412]

Ouch

[@Luckshot459]

@@littlemacisunderrated412 Yeah. Ouch is right. I recently had to go through surgery for my spine.

[@zumbelololol]

This honestly makes me feel so much better and I'm only 21

[@zeineb8870]

Quick reminder, kids aren't mandatory. You can decide to not have any if that is your wish. You do you!

[@robertowhyte2836]

Yeah you have all the time in the world. Why not just wait until 45 and see what happens

[@marq6929]

This is good to know. I always suspected something was up, and that the only real downside might be chasing a toddler at 42 or being mistaken for grandparents at graduation. Screw it; why rush if you're not ready? It would be way worse (for you and the family) to raise a kid you weren't prepared for emotionally or financially.

[@miss_bhello7925]

Also, if a person's parents and grandparents are still alive, might not want to wait so long that they end up never getting to meet your kids. May not always be important, but it's something I've been thinking about. I just lost one set of grandparents this year (I'm in my late 30's, though).

[@shunvanmeenen716]

You got real French speaking poeple on set I see. Because that accent was flawless

[@austyn1061]

never heard of not being able to have babies after 35

[@OTcrochet]

Are you a dude

[@whatsascallion]

@@OTcrochet yes but i thought women could get pregnant till menopsuse.

[@Skepticalresident]

Ikr

[@syrenaxhaferi7278]

@@whatsascallion we can technically

[@kaya6447]

My mom had me at 45...I was a total surprise. I'm normal too lol

[@miss_bhello7925]

God planned for you to come. ❤😊

[@Jls728]

I’m pregnant with my 4th and 36 and freaking out today about if baby will be healthy. Thanks Adam, I feel a little better now.

[@lokivanni2500]

Congratulations. I wish a wonderful, healthy life and hope the best for you and your upcoming child 🌸🌸 🌸 I believe your baby will be just fine.

[@kinzyoreilly-hahn7191]

Hey Adam, I don't comment on videos ever... this really changed my life I'm 25 and was really worried about having kids...fertility and I believed the latest I could do this was 35...I have a request could you do one on happiness and parenting... there are so many contradictory studies that say parenting cause people to be more or less happy and I would like to know which it is...

[@arbater1501]

your question solely relies on the purity of your relationship with your partner. my wife and i had our first daughter at 19. so many people believed that having a child at 19 would cause us to break up due to major stress. in our particular case, we grew even more in love with one another while falling in love with our baby. on the other hand, there are couples out there who think they love each other because they have fun together doing non-kid-friendly things around the age 30+, they finally have a child and divorce, it wasnt their love for one another, it was the love for a carefree lifestyle . having a baby means you no longer can afford to be carefree. my wife and i were mature and responsible at a young age, we could handle not going out and partying or to the movies every weekend. while other couples thrive on the thrill in order to maintain their "love" for one another.

[@zomb33ni]

Your happiness after kids is really a hard thing to predict. I got lucky and my s.o. is amazing to our daughter and I absolutely love him. I have to say I struggled post partum and after a year I'm still struggling with my emotions and getting my life in order with work and child care (expensive as hell btw) I love my daughter more than anything but it's been so difficult financially and the constant struggle between deciding to stay home and still struggle or work and still struggle it has been rough. I know this isn't very uplifting but in all honesty having children is a choice to not take lightly and as a parent you'd be surprised by how many mountains you can move but it's rough if you're not prepared emotionally and financially.

[@amberjean4044]

I'm pregnant with my first baby at 38. I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes & it's not as scary as some would have you believe; it has more to do with genetics than age, both of my cousins were diagnosed with it in their 20s, none of us are obese. I just have had to cut out added sugar, cut back on simple carbs, while increasing my complex carb & protein intake. No need for medication, because it is easily controlled through diet & exercise. Don't let people scare you & make you feel like you need to rush into parenthood. Being in a stable, healthy, committed relationship where you are both ready for the responsibility of raising a child is the most important factor.

[@dmytroskrypka]

The only real question is how hard it is to wake up 3 times a night when you are 40 compared to your 20's.

[@finchborat]

As well as having the kid(s) take care of you before their lives/careers launch compared to long after. Early caregiving has put my life on hold and I'm hoping I'm not permanently behind my peers from high school and college regarding a career and family.

[@LauraM-kr9wv]

Barely at all, if you're struggling to get yourself up several times a night at only 40 then you clearly haven't been taking care of yourself.

[@calluna7065]

For real!😂

[@MS-he3wz]

If you’re aging so terribly you can no longer do something mildly physically demanding at 40 then you’ve got other problems.

[@dmytroskrypka]

@@MS-he3wz not everyone is lucky to live in 1st world country, you entitled smartass

[@Hectectica]

Mom had me at 46. It's definitely possible.

[@robertowhyte2836]

Yeah possible but how likely

[@rpaafourever7908]

@@robertowhyte2836 Very for those who are still trying without all these hangups

[@Tyler_Tatsch_AKAStarWarsFan]

My mom had me at age 38 and when I was born, I nearly died, but my grandmother Mary said a prayer and I turned out okay!

[@hemashreekrishnan7891]

Adam, please talk about infertility affecting men at a later age. Everyone's so hung up about women's fertility and how it decreases with age and none about men's like the latter have immortal fertility.

[@Skantezz]

Hemashree Krishnan they’re hung up about it because it’s a trend that women have babies in later years and it is well established that it is both more difficult to get pregnant after 35 and it puts the baby at greater risk of developing certain problems. Men have declining fertility with age too but not as early and not as noticeable. Women have more complicated reproductive organs. There is no blame in this, only reality.

[@ashtonteng5284]

Skantezz Even though mens fertility drops off slower, the age of the father is correlated with many genetic disorders such as autism

[@GK-op4oc]

@@Skantezz "Women have more complicated reproductive organs" More like women are born with a fixed supply of eggs.

[@nsoromma9505]

@@Skantezz didn’t the video just debunk this

[@86Framer]

@@nsoromma9505 The video didn’t debunk anything. Those French farmers exclusively ate organic and got plenty of exercise and every kid they had was free labor for their farms too. We also know enough about French history to the point where you don’t have to lie about them having a war, that only the men married to 35 years old and older women went off to fight in. When do you think is the latest the average woman should wait, if she wants to have 2-3 kids spaced out by 12-18 months?

[@kellyberry4173]

My mom had me at 40. My little brother at 41....💜

[@andrewhuckstable5996]

I’m glad everything worked out for your mom, but she’s an exception not the rule.

[@Someguysayingsomething]

My mom had me at 40 and I think I turned pretty okay lol

[@dragnflye3797]

My SIL has her daughter at 39 and my great grandmothers had children into their 40s because the only birth control back then was menopause. None of their kids had birth defects.

[@fofomoon]

The hell, come tell the mothers that come to our hospital we see all ages pregnant From 17 to 48 years old, the oldest I saw was 53

[@miss_bhello7925]

Thanks for sharing.

[@Stephie2007]

watching these make me feel better...and smarter.

[@robertowhyte2836]

Yeah, I don’t want kids but because of this video I can now tell my 31 year old wife we can wait until she’s in her 40s to have kids I’m so glad I found this video to show her 😊

[@kingofkings4917]

Who else loves Adam ruins everything. I would love to be friends with Adam

[@bluepeach5010]

I would be his BFF

[@dangurney1042]

If I ever met him, Murph, and Emily. I would have huge fanboy moment and want to hug all of them. I'm also a huge fan of College Humor which of course they all were originally from.

[@jjurc]

The_gamer_steven he seems like a realy cool guy

[@belles7914]

elaborate

[@bloodstoneore4630]

same!

[@Grace-mu7kg]

My best friend and I both lost our ability to bear children by the time we were 35. Neither of us were aware of having fertility problems when we were in our twenties and still able to have kids. I am glad so many people are able to bear children in their 40s and even 50s, but if you really want to have kids, my advice is to make it a priority since there are no guarantees that your health and fertility will remain constant through your 30s and 40s.

[@iknowyouwanttofly]

Or just do some tests to know if their is issues.

[@therambler3713]

allot of folks in these comments need a lesson in why "anecdotal evidence" is very bad evidence. Your personal experience (e.g- my mom had me at the age of 45) does not stack up against scientific studies and surveys carried out by experts.

[@allelitememesaem3916]

Tuko Pomwene except plenty of actual evidence was presented in this video?

[@therambler3713]

+T2Thunder 2 The very premise of the entire video is a "straw-man" fallacy. Nobody ever said you can't have a baby after the age of 35, that's pure nonsense. Rather the chances of having a baby after 35 start to drop significantly while the risks sky-rocket. This is the standard professional opinion of any expert in the field.

[@KnekoKcat]

Ever heard of MGTOW and the wall?

[@potmki6601]

87% to 82% is not "significantly" and 0,5% to 1% is not "sky-rocket"

[@potmki6601]

Anecdotal evidence is not the best evidence, but neither is "standard professional opinion" and magazine-style dramatizing are

[@mattc.4256]

Please keep in mind that pregnancy past the age of 35 also comes with increased maternal risks. Pre-eclampsia/eclampsia, gestational diabetes, and cardiomyopathy come in at higher percentages as women age. Many OBGYN's will refer women to maternal-fetal medicine specialists due to these risks. It's about more than just fertility...

[@heatherinth3sky]

Matt C. Citations?

[@Moji-np7fc]

Did you not watch the video at all

[@dianeridley9804]

And these days add to the list the complement of age-related diseases that typically was never seen in gravid populations: coronary artery disease, osteoarthritis, cognitive decli e

[@yournamehere6925]

I had my third (and last) child at 43. (1st at 26, second at 36) No fertility treatments, in fact we weren’t even trying. She had no health issues. I probably could have pushed out a few more puppies. Lol

[@GK-op4oc]

" I probably could have pushed out a few more puppies. " Note your child spacing : 26, 36, and 43. You were lucky to get one at 43 and probably could not have pushed out anymore puppies

[@GK-op4oc]

​@Chris Rich Wake-up and look at the national problem of low birth rates in Western nations. I'm already a father of four. Do you have any children or are you stuck dating a 35+ woman with expired eggs that squandered her fertility ? But you are right to be fluent about the incel issue = the severe problem of a class of incels created by women pursuing only the top 5% of men, chosen by exceptional attractiveness by profile picture on dating apps, will compound the low birth rate issue that will terminate Western civilization. The other 95% of men are apparently unattractive

[@kharos.]

@@GK-op4oc you are straight up sad

[@jackiew7246]

@@GK-op4oc this is a weird thing you're doing. Trolling women's existing children and their personal life history.

[@billieking2257]

Watching this video a few years back I was in the same boat as Emily, but I came out thinking “I do have some time.” I’m 26 and cannot imagine having a kid now. I have a lot to work on before I am ready. My parents were 30 (mother) and 33 (father) when I was born. Thankfully they are reasonable and are like “Wait until you’re ready to have kids”

[@Kischme71]

I went into natural menopause at 40 so there is still that very real concern for some people

[@donnakennedy430]

Yes. It's frustrating that public medical advice all seems geared to the normal range. I like when they bother to put in a disclaimer that the advice might not fit everyone. I hope you were able to have kids before then.

[@Blackthorne587]

You're the freak. Not the rule.

[@Blackthorne587]

That's PREMATURE menopause.

[@kelsey1406]

As someone with PCOS this is really reassuring.

[@Julia-wg4yx]

Actually I've heard that women with PCOS might even have a longer fertility window that ones that don't have it! I'm not sure if that's correct though, you'd have to ask a doctor :)

[@NonniOP]

Everyone needs an Adam in their life like seriously

[@DrSnegg]

My mother got pregnant at least 3 times after 35 so I guess it checks out. Out of context this comment is extremely weird.

[@itsamemario1772]

DrSnegg Hahahaha

[@gunung4648]

I have never found such a relatable comment

[@brainstorm623]

Out of context, this show is extremely weird.

[@illarionbykov7401]

An anecdote is not data. Some women have kids in their 50's. Some women are taller than 7 feet in height. Some women are billionaires. But that means little to most average women.

[@GK-op4oc]

"My mother got pregnant at least 3 times after 35" 3 pregnancies or 3 deliveries ?

[@AmazingStoryDewd]

As a guy wondering when I'll go infertile does concern me. I'm a few months away from turning 30 and have no romantic or sexual experience, I've never dated. This has mostly been due to me never having been in love before. Therefore I never had an interest in dating.I still hope I can find someone to start a family with.

[@melhebs]

Where are the links to sources used?

[@Noname-wi8xp]

I take issue with glossing over miscarriage risk. Getting the statement straight… Birth defect risk isn’t severe, but the risk of your baby DYING inside you is more likely…. Most people would call that a defect in the pregnancy process. My fundamental issue (even if 100% true) is it greatly minimizes important factors in when you decide to have a kid. A kid at 40 means they’re more likely to be a minor when: their parents have major health conditions & their grandparents pass, if they know them at all. You’re less likely to meet your grandkids & support your kids as parents, especially if they also have a child when older. Chronic health conditions increase with age. No one wants their only option to be teleconferencing to a high school or college graduation. Most importantly, they didnt make clear whether it’s easy to have kids at 40 by natural means, or if assisted reproductive technologies like IVF were required. If it’s the latter, most couples cannot afford it as it’s thousands per round, requires multiple rounds, & is emotionally & physically hard. An entire economic class of people are financially prohibited from accessing this service. I assume the makers of the show don’t believe lower & middle class people shouldn’t have children, unfortunately that could be the practical implication of the suggestion. For context, If you do not have sperm available (the cheaper of sperm & eggs) a SINGLE ML VIAL is $1100 plus hundreds in shipping & monthly storage fees until ready for use. Need a multiethnic donor to match your family? My wife & I found 2 compatible donors in 6 yrs in the banks we use. Both sold out in under a week. We had to take a 10k loan to secure enough to feel we had a secure supply to try over the next few MONTHS. Plenty of people are forced into artificial means to have children like the LGBT community & those with fertility issues. Please do not encourage couples without fertility issues to allow fear of not being ready to parent now to force them into requiring fertility clinics as well. No one is ready. Everyone is scared. You’ll make it work. It is an emotionally devastating space.

[@sammierose1150]

I don’t think “age” is such a big deal as much as *energy levels* . My parents had me at 39 (mom) and 54 (dad) and not that they weren’t great parents (they were), but they were always so tired every time I turned around 😔. Now I’m 24 and my parents are 64 and 78 and I kinda feel like I’m taking care of my grandparents - but it’s my parents. Something I feel like I shouldn’t have to do until I’m in my 40s. I dk, just my personal experience I will not be waiting until I’m near 35 to have my kids 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@brendabenitez7359]

It’s all about how healthy they were not the age

[@redbunny2222]

my mom had me at 44 or something like that

[@brofenix]

Or something like that :P? You could do the math on when you were born, how old was your mom.

[@kl7451]

Mom power

[@zerox2082]

This episode was pretty good

[@megnemo6403]

One thing that wasn't mentioned was whether or not birth control can affect fertility and I believe in a good number of people hormonal bc can affect future fertility.

[@gypsyaspen1297]

And part of the reproductive system is the ability to renew oneself so a woman fertility comes in Cycles. Poor health then and poor health now is what causes fertility issues in both genders. Natural menopause starts at 50

[@86Framer]

Your attitude is why The Fertility Industry is a multi billion dollar industry that keeps growing year after year. High profile women who secretly use donor eggs love to talk about how they do yoga twice a week and only eat chocolate once a month, instead of that they spent six figures to carry a child that isn’t theirs biologically.

[@julianwelton]

I saw this video a couple of days ago and then happened upon his "Millenials Don't Exist" video where he's making fun of his "expert" (Jean Twenge) from this video.

[@PolaBeaver]

I am 40 and haven't found a partner. I don't agree with Adam Conover on other issues but this was really well done. My great grandmother had several kids in her 40s. My grandmother had her first and only child (my father).

[@jordanmorrissette8236]

My mom had me when she was 40. I don’t have a birth defect, but You might count glasses need ed see better.

[@valentinailic1943]

My mom got me with 22 and I still needed glasses xD

[@michellemongevelazquez6449]

@@valentinailic1943 x2

[@annm861]

My mom had me at 30 and I wear glasses. Refractory errors are insanely common and can happen to anyone. it’s genetic

[@GK-op4oc]

"My mom had me when she was 40. I don’t have a birth defect" Birth defect rates for Down's Syndrome increases to 1%. That is 1 of every 100 babies

[@cele3195]

why do I have a crush on Adam I feel so ashamed

[@natethebluekirby2089]

Don’t be he’s cute ❤️😘

[@sisterspot111]

Who wouldn't be attracted to an intelligent man in a suit who's polite with people telling him he's wrong?

[@Ravenofthedog]

Smart is attractive

[@violeteatsstars]

Celeste Muñoz we all do honey

[@napdaw]

Or you could just adopt...

[@finchborat]

That will be my plan if I'm married but childless at 40.

[@phinehasmaximus]

I legit had a AD about a guy who made robots and his name was *ADAM* lol

[@nickkharitonov8665]

The best part is that miscarriages are mentioned only briefly, but they DO start having a high chance after 35-40 y.o.

[@vikkibaldwin1300]

Nick Kharitonov not true my hubby cousin wife who in her 20s had 6 miscarriages in one year. miscarriage doesn't have a age limit

[@trashbasket11]

Viktoria Van Eycke nobody said it doesn't have an age limit. They said your risk goes up. Your personal experience is not a peer reviewed study and does not reflect the general experience of others.

[@Underyourbedeyes]

The risk of miscarriage is twice as high for women whose male partner is aged over 45 than for those whose partners are under 25.

[@klecianetz2113]

Since we're on the anecdote train... I have had kids in my 20s, and 30s, having my 6th a month before my 40th. All problem free pregnancies, births, and recoveries. I never had fertility issues or miscarriages. Then I surprisingly found out I was pregnant at 42, everything seemed fine like all the others, then I found out I was having twins (the risk of multiples increases after 40 too), then I had my first miscarriage, it was unexpected by me, and devastating. Then I found out from many of my large family mum friends, that they had more miscarriages after the age of 40 too, that most of them had never had before or it was more difficult to fall pregnant.

[@knmfujiwara]

@@trashbasket11 The risk goes up. Yes but by what % to what %?

[@keke8880]

Sperm quality declines sharply after 30 and even more after 40. Children of older fathers have more autism, schizophrenia, and other problems than children of younger ones. Women's eggs decline much more slowly and gradually, and when they aren't suitable to be fertilized, they aren't. Unfortunately, sperm will still try to fertilize regardless of quality (the ones that can still swim/find the egg, of course). These are some reasons spem banks don't allow donations from men over 30.

[@86Framer]

Actually the age limits for sperm donors vary quite a bit bank to bank. Another factor is that donor sperm is frozen, which damages sperm. It’s said to be the cause of many issues for donor conceived people from frozen sperm, eggs, and embryos. I don’t think fresh sperm has been used since the 1980’s by the clinics. What age is too late for around 1/10 of women to have 2-3 children spaced out by 12-18 months? If getting traditional college age man to finish inside of them during their fertile windows, was all that it took to pregnant well into geriatric pregnancy territory. Then all of those woman wouldn’t have made the Fertility Industry a multi billion dollar industry that grows every year.

[@gailainsley6939]

@@86Framer. It does not. The banks turn down applicants from men after 35. For this very reason. 😂😴

[@86Framer]

@@gailainsley6939 Do you have reading comprehension issues? I was responding to them saying sperm banks don’t use donors older than thirty years old. You then swoop in and argue an older age (35) is the cut off, which many banks actually will use donors older than that.

[@queendestroyah9134]

My mom had me at 40. I was premature by one month. I had asthma that I outgrew with age. I’ve had other health issues that I wonder have connection to being premature and if a baby is more likely to be premature if the mother is older. My older sister was not premature and has significantly less health issues than me. Not trying to fear monger ! I’m no scientist or expert but I wonder if there is a connection to becoming pregnant later in life and premature babies that increases likelihood of health problems down the line. Other than that this video is pretty awesome. Glad to know it’s not what the media shoves down our throats.

[@RedQueenOfficial]

What an amazing video! Thank you! I was researching for my friend and I couldn’t find any solid scientific info on this. I Followed your channel!

[@calebhenderson6507]

Maybe people should blame their habits more than they blame their age.... when you think about it. The average person has practiced some of the most unhealthy thing to their bodies without knowing it.

[@gigischuster3078]

He should do one on the retail dental scaming clinics that when you go in they say all your teeth need to go and at 30 get dentures, when nothing is wrong with your teeth. Nothing but scam artists who have no serious certifed dentist practice/skills and only as any retail scam to make money, but at this the loss of good healthy teeth. Play it safe and find a private dentist, or of thats to expensive go to a dentist school that can take most insurance that private ones won't. And stay far, far away from these ones Aspen Dental, Dental Works, Walmart Dental Group, Great Expressions, Preffered Dental Group, Levan Dental Group. Notice a pattern all Dental Groups and brand new chain retail businesses are all that they are. And in todays society worried about the perfect teeth, yet many can't afford the cost. These retailers disguised only want one thing, and no its not a pretty smile you want or healthy teeth.... they want your $$$$$$. They will try and upsell you with false bargan packages, try to get you to sign before you leave a incorrect misdiagnosed treatment plan, tell you you can pay in seperate segments, upcode, only make money if the remove all the teeth, illegal dental billing and even fake online reviews just to turn a profit.

[@m2heavyindustries378]

And yet another purely US problem. YAWN

[@karinavargas1657]

My mom was almost 40 when she had me and I turned out find for the most part

[@Marnee4191]

My Grandma (a farmer in a house with no running water, electricity, or central heat) had her last and ninth child at age 48 back in the 1930s. She was a late bloomer for the time. She got married at 28. She was ahead of her time, though, because she got divorced in the 1940s.

[@rosieg6989]

My brothers best friend was an accident baby, the mother and father weren't financially ready and her birth nearly ruined their lives, 14 years later when the mom was in her late thirties they were ready and have had two more kids (at 38 and at 40). She didn't need any fertility help either, just watched her cycle.

[@86Framer]

What age do you think it’s too late for 1/5 of women to have two kids spaced out by 12-18 months without having to use secretly donor eggs like all those 40 something year old celebrities?

[@rosieg6989]

Literally every woman is different, some still are fully fertile at 50, while others lose theirs in their late 30's. However if a woman still has a functioning uterus but just isn't producing eggs anymore I'd suggest seeking treatment to boost egg production instead of an egg doner.

[@86Framer]

@@rosieg6989 Fertility treatments can be too expensive for many women and not even work. Religious beliefs can also make them not an option. The Fertility Industry is predatory in getting egg donors (typically broke college girls) and not informing them of the health risks, or giving their biological children and their recipient parents health history updates. Using your friend’s mom as a woman’s typical expectation for fertility is going to leave a significant amount of women childless, broke, and not having biological children of their own. 35 being around the time to get in gear, if a woman wants to have 2-3 kids spaced out by 12-18 months is the best advice to avoid massive amounts of heartache from a significant amount of women.

[@rosieg6989]

Dude, let women make their own choices on when they want to have kids, and also don't shame the methods they use. I told my story as a positive, that despite her age when she was ready she had more kids, but even if she couldn't get pregnant the normal way there is no shame in seeking options like ivf, doner eggs, surrogacy, or adoption. Don't pressure people to all have kids the same way at the same age.

[@86Framer]

@@rosieg6989 How is it shaming women to acknowledge that the Fertility Industry is predatory about getting egg donors? How about the surrogates in very poor countries like Ukraine or India for rich western boss babes? We haven’t even touched on the children who are never told their mom’s used donor eggs/sperm. So they don’t have accurate health histories and get to enter the dating world with no idea who they’re related to!

[@ladysnake8449]

Thank goodness, I turned 35. Knowing that I still don't want any kids! 😎

[@catwithakeyboard6069]

I am living proof of this, my mom had me in her 40s.

[@jilliansmith7123]

Cat: you are proof of one mother having one child. Were you her first child? It's easier if it's not the first...and you're just lucky and so was she. But all pregnancies are baby maybe anyway, at any age. No guarantees at all. Ever.

[@HyperionStudiosDE]

Lol, I just came here from a comment I read on The Cut: "Just seems risky in terms of fertility. "Adam Ruins Everything" literally ruined my friends lives by convincing them they could wait till whenever and that fertility limits were "made up in the early 1900s." Three had a hard time conceiving. One gave up b/c she didn't want to spend the money. Two spent the money in various ways (debt, downsizing lifestyle, etc). Only one has a child. She really wanted a girl all her life, has a boy and no more money to try for another."

[@tessynn2906]

This is quite interesting! I thought I was the only one camping here in 2022 lol. I'm curious about your friends, how old were they? Have they considered how their lifestyles contributed to their infertility or even genetics?

[@86Framer]

@@tessynn2906 Videos like this one and women using donor eggs/embryos and not being open about it, misleads an awful lots of women about their own fertility expectations. Lifestyle unless extreme really is going to significantly increase or decrease fertile years.

[@TropicalPlaties]

Why would you want to have kids near 40 anyway? You would be 60 when they get out of highschool.

[@finchborat]

Or late 50s. When I graduated high school, my mom was 58 and my dad turned 61 two weeks before graduation.

[@Nevertoleave]

So when they may decide to have kids, either young or older you will be retired and able to spend time with them :)

[@thuzan117]

I still think its probably a good idea to get it done before 40, mind you i'm a guy so that probably devalues my opinion. The biggest reason people wait to have kids is because of how hard it is, that and the risks involved. It requires a huge investment of time and money to raise a child and even then their success is not guaranteed, on top of that they might end up being terrible. The final nail in the coffin is the ever-present risk of divorce. Raising children is hard enough for two parents, doing it on your own though is ridiculously tough and stressful. My mom raised me and my two siblings on her own after a divorce and she started that at 30. She did an amazing job all things considered but it was hard and she was never able to re-marry. Her children and to a lesser extent her career were her entire life. Anyway back to why I think it's a good idea to get it done relatively early, simply put raising a child is exhausting and can sometimes require over 2 decades before they successfully launch and become independant and your not going to be around forever, the sooner you get it done, the better the chances you will be able to see it through to the end and even help them with their own children. This is all assuming you are in a stable enough position financially and socially to provide for and raise them of course. Do not have a kid unless you're certain you can handle it.

[@MisterAAnderson]

True but I would phrase one sentence there otherwise. Children can only become terrible if you don't have time to level with them and spend time with them on their challenges. They shouldn't be in the comfort zone. They should learn independence and go on their own to carve their road in life. That's what means the most.

[@Zzyzzyzzs]

Your opinion shouldn't be devalued just cos you're a guy. If your family unit is cohesive, you're in this together, esp in modern parenting where a guy is expected to take a big share of the care load. What you're saying is in essence true, but there is a trade-off to consider. Bearing in mind that costs of living are now getting increasingly stacked against wage growth, which in many countries is slowing, most people now need to save more in order to afford having a child, something that is beyond the capacity of a lot of people in their 20s and early 30s. At least, if you're both mid-30s or older, you've had more time to plan and save. It's getting to the point where people are even putting off marriage until they're mid-30s, even in cultures where the pressures are to marry young, like in traditional Chinese families (I know, because I belong to one); the ability to save and spend enough is just too limited for many families, even with double income.

[@vanesazanzif]

I feel I have to spread my experience regarding this. I was so relieved when I saw this clip a couple of months ago only to find out now at the age of 34, that I already entered menopause. So I want to inform the opposite side. That 10 percent of women get menopause before their 40ties and 1 percent even before their 30ties. So, I wish I wouldnt have been so calm after seeing this video. I wish I would have checked myself more regularly. Please do, and do not be too sure that you can have kids until so late because after all, to be able to have your own children is a gift and so many people struggle with this. All the best

[@yournamehere6925]

You can still get pregnant if you have a period. Even if you are in perimenopause . (Technically you aren’t in menopause until you have gone 12 months without a period. Before that it is perimenopause.) Usually your periods get irregular long before they completely stop.

[@azzz7279]

I’ve heard of people having children in their late 30s and even in their early 40s way back in the 1950s, before ivf & egg freezing was a thing. IVF & Egg Freezing are expensive af and no shame to anyone who has done them, but I don’t know if it’s necessary to freeze your eggs if you try to conceive in your 30s or early 40s

[@elyse443]

This video is soooo true. It’s predatory.

[@pancon9947]

yo my mum had 3 kids one at 35 one at 37 and one at 46 so yeah i think that lie is an obvious lie

[@AbbySamSidle]

I'm 27.. and i love kids but i don't know ive i should have my own child someday. I'm happy to know i have time, great video 😁👍

[@Chualland]

Like this show never lies by omission.

[@ChakatNightspark]

I know lots of ppl in their 50s and 60s that had babies. Nothing wrong the babies

[@finchborat]

Though the kids will be taking care of their parents once they reach adulthood.

[@psychoseagull3104]

My mum had me t 37. I'm the oldest child!

[@thetoad.1251]

Can confirm mom had me at 40

[@finchborat]

Same with me. My dad was 43.

[@rosaparker7634]

Can someone please link to a study about the 86% chance at age 27 and 82% chance at age 37? Where does this data come from?

[@RiamsWorld]

journals.lww.com/greenjournal/Fulltext/2004/01000/Increased_Infertility_With_Age_in_Men_and_Women.10.aspxYoublacklove That's the one linked on the TruTV website. Presumably they got it from the inverse of "The percentage infertility was estimated at 8% for women aged 19-26 years, 13-14% for women aged 27-34 years and 18% for women aged 35-39 years" So 100-14=86 at 27 and 100-18=82 at 37

[@slendygirl3894]

My mil was in her early 40s when she had my fiance

[@hottosid]

My mom had a baby at 39

[@mikrokosmosis_]

Alright.... We know about women now. What about sperm? Does male fertility really decrease that drastically or it's a myth? Or perhaps it's actually stress and other hormonal factors that count in?

[@Dziewczynafajna]

Fertility is one thing, being a parent of a toddler in your late 40s and of a teenager in your 60s is another.

[@KingofEuropa07]

This Jean Twenge lady wrote "Generation Me" which is about the narcissism of millennials. Seems odd that Adam would be ok with her research here but not on the subject of generations (see "Adam Ruins Millenials").

[@j.c.2240]

You know it's possible to disagree with a researcher on one subject but agree with them on a different one, right?

[@KyleMart]

Anything is possible. My mother had me and she was 103!

[@proton8689]

35? I thought it was 45

[@Schoolgirl325]

44/45-46/47 (the mid to late 40s) is typically the age when women enter perimenopause. Even during this transitional period before menopause, technically there is still a small chance for women to get pregnant until they officially enter menopause. It drops to under 50% in a year with regular trying when periods are becoming increasingly irregular (coming around less than once a month every year) and egg quality/quantity is rapidly declining in each cycle. That’s why you typically don’t see women who want to get pregnant going in for IVF treatments until their mid-late 40s. Yeah, some women are going to experience early menopause before their mid 40s, but that’s not very common. If it happens earlier than 44/45, it’s not due to being of “advanced age” in and of itself. It’s usually due to a long history of premature or early menopause in the women of the biological family, being seriously underweight or overweight for a long period of time, developing another serious illness, smoking and/or abusing alcohol and/or drugs long term, extreme repeated stress, having a hysterectomy, developing an autoimmune disease that you don’t treat

[@ACoffeeBubble]

My mom had me at 35 and my sister at 37, we're both fine, in fact I could say my sister is incredibly smart, maybe more book-smart than me haha. Everyone always looked at my mother shocked when she told them she had us in her late 30's, kind of like "but that doesn't happen!" (Oh but it did) The only person who saw my mom as "really young" to have a baby was the mother of my best friend, who was 46 when she had her! Companies have turned fertility into a business, just like everything out there. They make so much money out of women who come in with issues, only for these women to get pregnant after a little longer of trying. I'm not saying there AREN'T women out there without issues that DO need assistance, but realistically speaking, most women do end up pregnant even before even seeking the help they were told they needed.

[@Mrlistenandlearn]

I’m having my baby at 45👌

[@Hectectica]

Congratulations!

[@luckyDancer100]

Nice!

[@VOMITQUEEN]

My mom had me at 41, so yeah lmaooo

[@andrewhuckstable5996]

My 90 year old neighbor smokes like a chimney, so yeah.

[@gens0kyo]

That doesn't mean anything nitwit. It's the case for most women. Not all.

[@kevindoingstuff5718]

my mother born a baby in 45 sooooooooooooo..........you know what i mean

[@robnemily]

I wonder how many couples regret waiting too long to have kids these days, or regret not having children at all. Father of 3 and life is good and full.