Social Anxiety is a Cheat Code To Success

[@anbu91]

dude this is like so spot on to how my social anxiety is it’s crazy. i subconsciously began “swatting away” bad thoughts a couple weeks back but the arrows analogy helped me visualize it even better. Great vid, preciate u👍

[@chiefdoer]

Anxiety is the anticipation of future pain! Word!!

[@blackate24]

I can't even express how much I love your videos. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! Your work is awesome, I hope you know how much the effort you put into your materials helps people. If not, here am I to remind you.

[@titaniumlace]

The best analogy I have for meditation is Hot Wheels Tracks. The mind defaults to "solving problems" as quickly as possible, so it will chain together negative thoughts, in an effort to protect itself from future pain.These thoughts are like the charging/accelerator stations in Hot Wheels. Catastrophization/anxiety/racing thoughts are the equivalent to a car going through charger after charger after charger, quickly racing and gaining momentum, building this massive energy well in our mind and body. Meditation & mindfulness act as the track portions of Hot Wheels. When we observe our thoughts, we slow them down, notice them, and decide if like them, and if we should give them more momentum, thus moving to the next charging station. The more you meditate, the more track you lay down, and the more agency & control you gain over which thoughts are given power.

[@ivanyuripac8448]

Just finished the video. Joseph this is incredible work and is going to help a lot of people

[@themachismomatrix5236]

Anxiety is not a flaw, we all humans are innate with that. Accept it and keep moving on with it

[@fleur257]

What you are talking about is precisely what meditation is !

[@fleur257]

I get anxious when I have an interview schedules. This never happened to me when I was younger, but as I get older I have begun to experience this anxiety. And the reason is precisely what you mentioned - I feel I need to be in a "performative" state; practice before hand etc etc, be able to remember everything I need to say; say things verbatim etc. I think if I could just consider it as another conversation, I'd be fine. Also, because I'm a perfectionist. I need to get everything right down to the T.

[@nateo7045]

Love everything you put out, have been following it for a long time, but the problem here is, and my problem with meditation in general is, it's not necessarily the thoughts that are doing me in, I can achieve a quiet mind, but it's external triggers that activate a fight of flight response. Regardless of how I perceive these threats on a conscious level, my body still renders them as threats on a much more internalized level and it's the shakiness and tremors that really get to me and just make everything painful. No idea how to change this. If you have any thoughts, I'd surely love to hear them but I know there's no easy solution for such a wrecked nervous system. Funny enough, there was a time I didn't even know what social anxiety was. If only I could be who I used to be again... Edit: Oh, I also just wanted to say I did enjoy this video and I really appreciate you releasing that docs guide or whatever you call it. I already did my 5 minutes of silent sitting. Actually ended up getting to 8 minutes accidentally, hah.

[@CyborgNinja7]

This has been really helpful for me. I'm learning to swat the flies away and find myself much calmer. Thanks for the insight, Joseph!

[@SigmaFreud-c8i]

videos like this epitomize "quality-content."

[@JayGee6996]

Helping other people is definitely a route to happiness

[@supernova9439]

yes but while also being aware and putting boundaries. Otherwise that can turn into people pleasing and forgetting about yourself

[@JayGee6996]

@ agreed, doing it on your own terms and having boundaries is definitely necessary 👍🏻

[@sparklymoona5437]

Thank you 😢❤ I’ve been stuggling with social anxiety for wayyyy too long to the point where I can’t even talk. Ima do this and report back. ❤️❤️❤️

[@kenthavell7504]

I think why people may take so long on this journey including myself is because we may not like certain aspects of ourselves. So in order to lose the anxiety you have to truly be a “good” person. Everything breaks down to you being forced to make a leap of faith to take this path of enlightenment towards yourself. Because the insecurities usually stem from “good” and “bad” ideals

[@cuddlesrox77]

This is incredibly helpful, thank you

[@shine3240]

Thanks for making new video Joseph! Id waited and long that you can make new one. Your message today is very relatable to my life. I've learned somehow that social skills can be learned and adapted.

[@videosuperfast]

Phenomenal video, very helpful of you to put it into words and a plan of action

[@DiegoTGxlvwzx]

Hey man, amazing video. I've also struggled with this problem and I found some of what you said to be exactly what I have come to learn to do. Even the sitting in silence for 30mins lol. I don't go to the closet, but I've also found it helpful to just be with myself. I hope people who are going through this give it a try, I truly think it can help and make their lives and that of others better

[@lebenebou]

nice visuals with the drawings. good addition to the video format

[@bartolol]

Found you on TikTok, some part 2 of this video. Stopped it 10 seconds in to find the direct source and from your first example, i’m already resonating with the apartment neighbor hearing me. I’m living this self imposed nightmare rn, still at 33, listening to this video with AirPods even. After thousands of videos, and I mean thousands, I hope this video is the last one.

[@supernova9439]

The video itself won’t fix you. I too have tried to look for a video or something that will get me to change but only recently I feel like I really can make the change. My thoughts and affirmations that I’m capable to change and really let what everyone keeps repeating sink in. Also figuring out the reason why I keep relapsing into bad habits. Not having a plan and letting distractions take over is my reason. There’d be times when I would really think about changing and this and that. Couple days later It’s like I would forget. Well It’s because I would distract myself with social media and videogames. Those things steered me away from being conscious and my purpose. Lack of planning is what made me distract myself. I didn’t have a plan so It was easy to steer off. Simple all I needed was affirmations and changing my mindset.

[@louiscamassa4661]

Mastering the ability to always be "on" is the ultimate skill-one that requires balance, resilience, and strategic focus.

[@gitu_tg]

Wow! This is gold!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@almachavez6814]

Thank you! Your videos are amazing and so helpful. Hope you have a wonderful 2025.

[@SecondaryShots]

Amazing video. Thank you for this

[@anweshapalchaudhuri3351]

omg this is so relatable

[@webbit1518]

i took lots of notes...its been years, but I keep tryimg

[@SakurabaAyane]

never give up

[@pilly3815]

thank you for the encouragement

[@nurah_qu8338]

Thank you

[@wanjiruwarama2016]

I'm older and it makes no sense how I've battled anxiety you are talking about for so long. And yet I'm okay speaking with people I know. I'm going to adopt the word "excited" from now on. Thank you.

[@dnniela99]

I appreciate this video a lot. I still get second hand embarrassment of myself when I’m alone. pls make that make sense, idk 😅

[@khumaan268]

I even get anxious while talking to ai chatbot.

[@prosperitynuggets]

Lmao

[@berkefeil5646]

Then that may be an opportunity to rewire your brain. If you do it over and over again, it becomes second nature

[@Kutsushita_yukino]

yeah i had panic attacks back then even tho it was just lines of codes offending me

[@JEREMIAHKANSIIME]

I wish I found this guy in middle school

[@CopycatStudiosLA]

I developed social anxiety since moved to Los Angeles cos people are offended about everything

[@DJNoMask]

Donald will help cleanup the mess

[@albijonrizanaj4449]

It feels like this is going to help me a lot. Thank you.

[@katlegonhlapo4040]

ive opened the box and I wish I did it years ago

[@DavidKim-yw3gw]

Does my morning mediation practice count as sitting in silence?

[@varunbhati1083]

I think it is wonderful guide about how we can tame our anxiety it and channel it as a force for better. However, I have an objection. To say being 'anxious is necessary for improvement' is misleading because you can try to use your anxiety for your betterment, but, I wouldn't say it's possible for anyone. People suffering with severe levels of anxiety can attest to that. I think in certain cases, such level of mastery over your anxiety can be achieved through professional help.

[@petersun6070]

Why would you consider exposure therapy or being your authentic self incomplete advice? Seems like pretty sound advice to me

[@Anteater23]

Awesome

[@kagame6524]

Bro spent 3 min describing meditation without saying the word meditation. Feels fake and forced

[@kaygix]

Naaaah, but it’s a solid video tho ❤

[@JinX-so5yv]

Sounds like he knows what anxiety feels like but the way he thinks it can be fixed sounds like a bunch of balooney

[@ttsar]

You funny

[@CopycatStudiosLA]

I think it can be fixed by moving to a place that is generally less touchy and judgmental (Barcelona is most open) - avoid Los Angeles too easily offended or Amsterdam - they hate everyone.

[@JayGee6996]

@@ttsaryou’d be surprised how many bots are on KZbin.. social media companies don’t want people to be happy

[@maxshort8691]

Well, it cured him, maybe it'll better others as well.

[@patricksinclair9252]

Haters gonna hate

[@Val_8279]

I love your videos