Two BIG Reasons Narcissists Rage: Why Narcissists Make Big Deals About Small Things.

[@tranquility9325]

They also have an overwhelming need, desperate need for drama too.

[@angelanicholson951]

This is exactly what they do. If not directly to you, behind your back they are destroying you.

[@av8rixusa255]

Guys, we need to be extremely grateful that God allowed this extraordinarily gifted man to go through the absolute HELL he had to endure in his own life. Because he went through it & survived it, because he refused to quit, we ALL BENEFIT. He is using his own painful, heart-wrenching experience to make OUR journeys survivable. Please pray for him & his family, and remember to THANK GOD for endowing Kevin with the wisdom, courage & faithfulness that enables him to bring so much healing to the world! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@salonsavy6476]

Hallelujah 👍👋

[@bree3716]

Truth! 💯 Amen! ❤

[@livingforfree2]

Praise God for Kevin!

[@mrpeacock321]

Love bro Kevin Soul Lord Jesus Christ continue to fill u wisdom understanding and knowledge of what you stand for to release and free of many who are in darkness as your light shines in the darkness praise be to the Lord God thank you for this brother who is faithfully seeking you your righteousness your kingdom and Truth

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑🧡🧡💯

[@georgiafain3747]

He would always start something when I was ‘happy’

[@Hguychildandyouth]

Yes, absolutely. God forbid, that you dance in the kitchen with your kids while making dinner! Or else they will brood and find something to pick on you about. I could literally see him walking through the house (when he was actually home while I cooked dinner) or back yard puttering with a sour face thinking about what he could demean me with. One time he berated me in front of the children in the kitchen because I didn’t empty the garbage can/another time it was because I didn’t put all the lids on the Tupperware in the drawer (thumping the Tupperware around). Went into a rage, screaming, that “I should be ashamed of myself” I escaped 5 years ago. Almost finished college ( he wouldn’t let me get an education). It took 3 months being in my own home before I didn’t hear his voice in my head berating me about the cleanliness of the house (I’m a very clean person). Just one of an exhausting amount of ‘complaints’

[@debmccafferty1007]

Our LDR blew up Christmas week

[@janiced.hatcher1272]

Yessssssa

[@AlfredHarris-nw7ft]

True they retard😂

[@shoshannacorner8753]

I never felt safe around the narc

[@carolinevenables1065]

Not all narcissistics yell. They manipulate quietly too

[@bf6048]

That’s what I’ve had to live with. Passive aggressive sabotage.

[@rheinhartsilvento2576]

Exactly🙏

[@Portia620]

Yes, because sometimes they can have something like reactive abuse, and I wonder if that’s what happened between Broderick Broderick in that case, where he was a doctor in an attorney and a manipulator, and turned everybody away from him

[@MH-en9qc]

Yes, mine didn’t yell mostly, every now and then when he was frustrated he would curse and yell-but not at me. He was covert with his narcissistic abuse. I was the one who looked mental, I was the one hollering upset with his new lie. I had never yelled at anyone in my life prior to my narc and haven’t since divorcing.

[@monazimmerman7559]

Sometimes when you ask if they want to take a shower first, they growl that they’ll slap the F out of you, wrestle you to the floor, and scratch their nails down your face.

[@Niles-Guy]

Control & intimidation is the primary reason behind narcissist rage . Their end game is to dismantle your wall, your self esteem to the point that you won’t even defend yourself anymore . Thus making it easy for narcissist to control you. After that, you’ve just entered into the manipulationship phase, to which you’ll do anything to get the narcissist love and attention back at the cost of your sanity. If you end up staying , it’s literally like making a deal with the devil

[@rehamfathi757]

Very logic explanation, i believe that there's a melignant motives behind their rage show, strategy to achieve a major aim

[@AZDC99]

@@rehamfathi757 You guys cover this very well. As a fellow former victim I imply. It took me a little while to get to that state of mind because I could not believe that someone would be that evil. But looking back at the proverbial video tape, there is no other motive than this! (As hard as it is to fathom why someone will want to actually be like that)

[@rehamfathi757]

@@AZDC99there's always a reason and purpose for humans actions even sick ones

[@uwewinkler2820]

Niles Guy : you are right I did make the mistake it was like marry satan personally.

[@uwewinkler2820]

the moment you confront the narcissist with his bullshit is when you are in danger !

[@britsuelamphere9531]

The rages……..every day I am grateful that I no longer have to deal with the completely unpredictable, threatening, irrational rages which occurred with increasing frequency and violence.

[@sunshinedayz7032]

This makes so much sense. The ex narc boyfriend would come into my home, grumpy and angry. I would be happy, positive and cheerful. He would systematically strip me of all of that. Until I would be sitting there, sad, sometimes crying, feeling hopeless and he would then leave feeling happy and walking taller. I couldn't figure out why he did this. Now I know.

[@suzanneschannel1]

Energy vampire

[@lisapizza9635]

Same thing my ex did/ does to me ..

[@SavedByJesusHeimatLiebe]

never let someone steal Your Joy. Life is a Gift from the Allmighty and Jesus Christ our Redeemer wants You to live basking in Contenment and His Peace free from Wages of Sin AND any Abuse of fellow Humans who choose to mistreat others. Jesus Loves You and invites You to speak with Him anytime and about anything, no matter how heavy it might be.

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

Wow, I had the same experience I remember being off work and he came in just started complaining about random shit - I had just gone out of work, I didn’t want to hear it and I snapped at him a bit. It was what broke the camels 🐫 back.

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

I'm attacked for everything; even for being introspective and liking myself.

[@Lyrielonwind]

They hate seeing you happy; they need you miserable so you are under control. Happiness, joy and laughter make them crazy; they cannot feel them. That's why they want you scared. They need you weak to control you.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes they do hate seeing you happy

[@Lyrielonwind]

@@TheRoyalWe Even worse, some of them hate tears too. Seeing others crying bother them, I'm not sure why but probably is because they can't cry either. I guess those are psychopaths.

[@incognito595]

Yes. It's OBVIOUS! It's meant to scare you into submission!

[@ClueSign]

They don't want you feel out of their control, or having your own agency (to have your own experiences of life or make choices).

[@LoveBeautyFun7]

It blows their mind that someone can feel safe in the secret place of the Most High, since they don’t believe and they think they’re God.

[@OneHope4Heaven]

Ha! Exactly

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑🧡💯

[@rebeccamuir3464]

Amen

[@rhondaalbrecht]

Which is exactly why many narcissists, IMHO, are demonically possessed... Ephesians 6:12-13. These people have allowed the demons to take over their bodies and they themselves no longer exist. Mental health issues? No... demonic. Before Sigmund Freud came along with his secular interpretation, rejecting God Most High as real, it was generally accepted that mental health issues were demonically caused. So, yep, your statement is 100% true.

[@OneHope4Heaven]

@@rhondaalbrecht agreed . Saw it in the eyes of my sister when she was 9 1/2...she tried to suffocate me to death at that age when I was only 5-6 years old. Utter RAGE in her face when I had done NOTHING that merited such anger & hate.

[@nryane]

One of the last things I said to the ex as we moved to separate residences was that I didn’t feel safe in his presence. “No” in response to anything he requested/demanded elicited trauma drama - the big “huff!”, stomping of feet and slamming of doors. If he were a toddler, he would have lain on the floor, held his breath and pounded his hands and feet on the floor! Except for his age of 60-something, I saw him as that “toddler”. A toddler for a life partner is not my idea of a mutual, loving relationship. 4.5 years-plus of no contact has brought me peace/calmness/safety. I am my own person and I do what I want, without someone telling me what I can and cannot do or be! I am my own authority! Blessings!

[@teresadvorak6145]

Awsome. I am so happy for U, that U made it through 💕!!

[@BlueJeansandJellyBeans]

Why do they always say we are screaming at them when we are just speaking in a manner of sticking up for ourselves?

[@joanbaczek2575]

Because they can’t stand that you are sticking up for yourself, just grey rock and get out. They accuse you of being the problem cuz they mix up the time line on purpose so you think you’re the problem so you stay stuck in relationshit trying to fix it.

[@zippyz4170]

Because they have no empathy or understanding...so if you raise your voice, they see it as rage because that's what's inside of them and they don't have the ability to understand why another person acts the way they do unless they are around their own kind. I love being an individual and have spent too much time around these sick people...still have to go into work and deal with them. Just recently told them I'm not wearing a mask because it affects my breathing and I have to take care of myself. Handicap and carrying at all times since the majority are in fact narcissistic. I've never felt safer than being by myself.

[@psychoholiday-ju1cp]

Because that's not allowed in the new control freak world that they've snuck us into. They just keep moving the goalposts and MAKING IT UP, as they go along. I saw a rage attack from simply laughing back and saying half a sentence BACK at a sneaky devaluation comment presented as constructive criticism (which was really cowardly DESTRUCTIVE criticism). They can dish it, but they sure can't take it back. There's this bizarre set of rules for them and a set of rules for you--that they conveniently never told you about! (Because it's so outrageously stupid and hypocritical of them--they can't even admit to themselves what true LOWLIFES are)

[@psychoholiday-ju1cp]

@@zippyz4170 Good for you for not buying into their SCAMdemic propaganda and also NOT wearing a useless mask yourself

[@emmarae4322]

They don't care about you and the damage they do.

[@1963kb]

Omg..i experienced everything. I was married to one. On a rainy day i went to office booking an uber and that triggered him so much. Bought a new phone after 3 yrs with my own money. He called my parents and said their daughter is wasting money. He always made me feel guilty. Whatever he is going through in his life was because of me. I had sever depression and anxiety issue, lost 9kgs in 5months immediately after my marriage. But I was saved. God is there🙏. He saved me from him.

[@izawaniek2568]

Yes, I totally agree, narcisists hate your authority, independence and inner peace. Why stay with people who do not feel safe to be with? Absolutely true.

[@foxiefair123]

Lol, there’s no such thing as a safe place with these people. They feed off drama. My whole family is a narcissistic snake pit apparently. Please pray for me if you don’t mind, they always somehow want to interrupt my peace-coming up with some kind of problem.

[@lmbrusch1]

Why do NARCISSIST exist? Aren't they just a waste of space in this world, causing toxicity, chaos & turmoil in relationships?

[@dinab7852]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@jmallett6081]

The impact a narcissist had on me left me unable to have any romantic relationships. I was so happy to be away from the toxic, that I would rather be alone than to risk being with another narc. It puts scars on your heart, and you spend your life analyzing and learning how to live with it. Narcissists don't meet you and tell you hello I am self-absorbed and want you to be my supply to boost my ego. I sometimes act like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, like a roller coaster, you are in for a bumpy ride. It is okay, because I like you, even though I will make you feel crazy, make up things to bring you down, I can control you like a puppet on a string, you will think it is all your fault. I am going to love bomb you if you try to leave me, or I may explode and you will be too afraid to know what to do. No, a narcissist will study you, cajole you, and flatter you, you will think you finally met Prince Charming, yet that will be the only time you had a good time with him, from there he will test you, discover things to trigger you, mess with your things, rant about all the things he wants, yet will not allow you the right to say anything that he didn't allow, it will no longer be your life, it will be the life he allows.

[@valjean2036]

Im unable to have relationshipss as well. I feel you.

[@jmallett6081]

@@valjean2036 God bless you.

[@jmallett6081]

@wiccan wanderer I am glad you are still alive. I am also sorry that you had to experience a narcissist.

[@jmallett6081]

@wiccan wanderer Greetings from the states in horse country, Kentucky. It is typical that a narcissist will blame others never themselves for their bad behavior. They tend to want people who are empathetic and compassionate as it gives them supply to their ego, it is tragic. Once you understand the cycle, you know the patterns and how it affects others going through the same thing. There is nothing you could have done to stop it.

[@Rebel6832]

THIS IS SOOO TRUE!!!

[@LeahIsHereNow]

“My other psychopathic friends…” Chilling how cavalier she is about being a monster.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes

[@rickiilatino]

They make a mountain out of a molehill 🤔

[@dorothymccarthy6933]

After many cycles with the narcissist I finally went no contact. Liberation, I had not realized freedom, happiness and peace for such a long time. Now my life is filled with a state of being I love. Lose the narcissist gain your freedom.💖

[@LizaLavolta]

How are you now? I felt hopeful when I read this. I am out, but I don't feel out yet...

[@l.5832]

Yes. Boss went ballistic on me because I said the policies were more flexible for new staff and very rigid for senior staff . She ambushed me in a staff meeting and said I was a liar. Her rage was over the top. I stood firm and produced proof. But the cold shouldering and rage-below-the-surface was more than I wanted to deal with and I found another job. Basically she was enraged because I called her out on something I had complained about for months.and I had proof existed. And the 'just relaxing' example....Just finished watching a nice movie at home and I commented on the location of shooting in the credits and my husband went into a rage, physically assaulted me...I grabbed the phone and called 911 and he grabbed it from my hand and threw it out of reach. They traced the call and came. He had to spend the night away but didn't lock him up so I was up all night terrified he'd come back. I am divorced now, and safe.

[@abhijitdande3293]

It happened to me. My response was: i worked to earn my money so I can do whatever I want. I dont remember asking your opinion. Boy oh boy the narc injury I caused 😅😅😅

[@E.K.2003]

They don't like your education, size, gender, gadgets, skillset, interests, friends, how you keep house, your politics, your good fortune, your bad fortune....they don't like themselves!

[@candyhumpf6267]

What did I do? “ keep running my mouth!” Bcuz I wanted the truth about something he was lying about. Ha! Thanks Kevin for your time snd encouragement🙏💕

[@shiny7301]

Thanks Kevin. They're always full of anger and hatred and it's a way of relaxing for them. They're like continously active volcanoes...

[@shoshannacorner8753]

Shiny this is so true

[@shiny7301]

@@shoshannacorner8753 Thanks, you probably have been lived for it..

[@scottwells2456]

My family of origin take people to task for everything. They call people "materialistic" For the crime of making progress in life, material or otherwise

[@simplenv4740]

I survived a narcissist -10 yrs of chaos. I live in peace and it’s truly Gods gift to us. I now understand why the Bible speaks so much about it.🙏

[@Quantum36911]

I though it was very interesting that the woman in the video who was diagnosed with sociopathy, said she felt her rage being triggered by someone's "false" sense of authority over themselves, "false" sense of safety, and felt an all-encompassing need to correct the person's "mistaken" sense of sovereignty and safety. Like you said, they don't feel that way themselves, so if someone else does, they are WRONG and must be corrected. Thank you for sharing this extremely deep understanding.

[@HomeGypsy]

Thank you for sharing that extremely helpful insight. ☑️

[@salonsavy6476]

Exactly Kevin !,, I really try to distance myself from these kind of people,,I’ve been through to much to waste my time around these demons

[@jerrystauffer2351]

Today after dinner dad ate a cookie. Just an Oreo cookie, didn't say a word or make any rude looks. Mom gave him the 3rd degree about why he was unhappy and unsatisfied with her and how she felt nothing she did was good enough and she didn't know what he wanted. He wanted her to shut up and let him eat the cookie in peace.

[@jacquelinetoledo5870]

Im always the "wrong" or "bad one its always my "fault" .. Its horrible to be yelled at and walking on egg shells . also when they try to purposely trigger a reaction from you and your not reacting they rage .

[@LR-yu3mx]

I was married to one.. I realised that they have no Respect for anybody whats ever.... And they hate it when you are happy.

[@bellagrace9812]

My sister would do this to my brother in law anytime our family was around them. My family loves him very much and we get along quite well. Every time there would be a family get together and my brother in law would be relaxed and joking around with us my sister would annilate him in front of everyone by telling him to shut up and no one was interested in what he had to say, She would give him looks that could kill. Everyone in the room would go silent and we would be crushed for the hurt and embarassment she inflicted on him. Our holidays and get togethers would have been wonderful had she not been there to make a scene. Weirdly enough no one would say anything to her because we knew if we did it would make things worse and we didnt want the children to be hurt any further by her storming out and going off on everyone. She always manages to pounce on anyones parade because she can't stand to see others shine. I finally cut her out of my life and though I love her and at times miss her I dont have the drama in my life and have peace.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

It is a fault, to not call her out. Evil has its power because of the silence of the good.

[@vuokkorusso2841]

This is my mother too. I travelled 6000 miles to visit her and around the table was my cousin,my brother,his wife and then my mom.....we were all laughing except my mom....I decided to tell a joke and again everybody laughed then suddenly my 88 year old mother hit the table top with both of her fists and screamed" stop laughing"...everybody stopped and stared at her I said" that was directed to me,she is showing you all how she despises me"....... she did not say a thing. My new approach is ...they have the balls to act like fools....they want the attention...ok, I am explain it then. This got everybody attention and I stole her attention she wanted. See, I dont have anything to " loose" in front of my family so might as well "enjoy " the ride.

[@alexandriascott4656]

Exactly 💯! My cruel wicked mom has done this to me my entire life. I finally went no contact with her last year in October after realizing she will never be different or change sadly. 10 years ago when I tried to leave her abuse, she assaulted me then lied and said I did. She went as far to go to the authorities and had me jailed for 2 days for something I didn’t do. She’s so evil and toxic, she’s triangulated and turned all the other immediate family members against me. She only is negative, puts me down and projects onto me.I went as far as to go to a psychic and they said it was al my mom and that I was judged with no justice. She’s committed crimes onto me by betraying robbing stealing lying setting me up and tricking me. She is calculated, cold and ruthless of a lady, it’s even crazier that as narcissistic and sociopathic as she is, she uses people for narcissistic supply for her without business. My parents are divorced, she told my father I have no rights and my dad told me that my mother stole my college fund, yet he is never there for me or has my back to stand up to her or be there for me. He’s so narcissistic too that he doesn’t want to deal with anything. I realized the individuals in my family has something deeply wrong with them they are dysfunctional. There is so much else that has been said that has been awful and horrible to me by both my terrible parents and I haven’t or did do nothing wrong. My mother is just so mad I grew up and she lost control over me. They are both emotionally unavailable and emotionally immature controlling parents.

[@nylaclancy2655]

Same thing I've gone thru..its terrible.

[@rebeccajohnson7864]

Come sit next to me. I have two cruel narc parents and leaving them was the hardest thing I've ever done. I now have no family but at least the abuse has stopped and I'm healing. Narcs have kids so they have someone to use and abuse and once we try to leave the shit hits the fan. Ill be sending healing healthy energy your way and hope you have the confidence and fortitude to continue moving forward. Never forget there is at least one stranger on the internet cheering for you.

[@nooreve935]

Oh dear! I recognised myself in your writing, I. Currently going through the same thing with an so called mum! She is a pur witch mother satanic, evil , abusive and control frick , also a pathetic layer all times and levels! Luckily I leave far away from her but because she's a certified satanic evil witch 🧙‍♂️ she still affecting my life destroying and stealing everything in my life anytime I try to build up my life this evil narcissistic witch mother systematically destroys it! Because her satanic abilities narcissistic satanic demonic spirit gives her opportunities to attack me in spiritual world as well!! I have sooo many things to say to you , to confort you and any others reading this message and have been through or are still going through the same discussing situation that I described above! But I would just stop here. Is hell to have a parent or parents striving to kill you at costs 😷😷

[@donnafoley2167]

Alexandria, WOW! Our mothers hate the fact that we have grown up and we do so well with everything that we touch! They can't control us never ,ever, ever again! PRAISE GOD!!! GOD BLESS YOU 😊

[@AZDC99]

Oh, my favorite, the so-called tough family member gaining up in MOB RULE fashion on an innocent person. Happened to me too and I got to find out real quickly that my siblings were completely worthless. Which I consider a blessing now because I at least didn't waste time having hopes in HOPELESS LAND

[@abnaprn]

Thank you! I moved away from my narcissistic mother and family. I never understood why these attacks happened at what seemed like random times. I am beginning to heal.

[@tracydutton7577]

can relate

[@larissacats390]

The happier you are, the more likely they start a fight and tell you that you started it

[@bf6048]

Been there.

[@spiritualempress6691]

The raging for ABSOLUTELY NO REASON is confusing as hell. Literally you do nothing and get assaulted. Very grateful for my current relationship with a mature solid partner. Thanks for the video my dude. You helped me while I was waiting for three years to meet my guy ❤️

[@lynnfincham6839]

I have experienced this … he raged with me because I was quietly reading a book on holiday simply relaxing… 💥… such a bad rage that he kicked the door if the bedroom as I was going down the stairs. That was the last time he ever had the opportunity to rage at me. I called it. We are now no longer a couple. I am tonight quietly reading in my own space. In peace

[@life-rethought]

for decades I struggled into my 30s 40s and on with a narcissistic father and sister who would attack me with rage and sabotage . and a bully husband. I FOUND MYSELF SAYING REPEATEDLY.. THERE IS NO SAFE PLACE!!!! I eventually shattered with a full PTSD epileptic seizure and blackout over a raging email from sis over some persimmons..... that was my reset. now in my late 60's you just took my healing to a new level. thank you.

[@GypsyJulie]

Wow! You helped so much. At 53 my dad raged at me that I was antiauthority! Now, I get it.

[@Rebel6832]

Eating supper without him bc he was late coming home from work, pissed him off so much he wouldn't even sit down to his place setting, and stormed off to the living room!! And wouldn't even eat the leftover food we had for dinner the next day for dinner... still pouting from the previous day, he made his own sandwich...

[@NaveDelAmor]

Or throw in the trash.

[@britsuelamphere9531]

Been there

[@bf6048]

We’re we married to the same man? 🤣

[@Rebel6832]

AND STONEWALLED AS WELL... 🤔

[@cynthiaolson2428]

A trippy trip down memory lane! Far enough in the past that I laughed my head off listening to it.

[@izawaniek2568]

Everybody deserves to feel safe. Your people should be the people with whom you feel safe. Thank you Kevin.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Very true

[@rascallyrabbit]

I disagree. we don't deserve it. we have to earn it. walk away from those who take away your peace. we can't change them.

[@etaokha4164]

They're forever bullies

[@twinklearlington]

Because they're sadistic and enjoy seeing you suffer.

[@tirasuchorab9381]

Yes I had experienced narcissistic erratic outrage to take advantage control my fear for my safety and I was always dumbfounded foreign to me for many years and stood up for myself. Thank You 🕯️

[@spiritualempress6691]

Lol the Apple Watch thing had me laughing. I had a car for seven years and it massively needed a deep clean. I spent almost three hundred dollars getting it detailed and OMG the argument about how much money I spent on something that NEEDED to be done at that point. And no we didn’t share bills or a place or anything and this dude is yelling at me about something that doesn’t even affect him 😂

[@dirtyhoefarms2024]

ewwww how she "creep-smiled" through her dialog explaining her disgusting behavior, she enjoyed bringing the pain - just ewww - Thank you Royal We for the insight!

[@deepviolet7982]

I choose to spend more and more time alone in nature. Neither *I* nor the trees will attack me! 🍃🌷🍃

[@malindaallen718]

It took a long time, but I finally realized that my X enjoyed raging at me and felt great afterwards.

[@megandersen3]

Bait and rejection is the tactic I have experienced most. And in it, there’s always deep insult. They know where it hurts the most and have no empathy to pull the punch of delivery towards that. Had a conversation with a military guy that was a neighbor briefly. He said he married back in 80’s and decided that the drama wasn’t for him. I agreed fully said I was done too. I think I’ve gotten to the point I truly mean it. He smiled at me and said “Good.” Then I jumped my RV and drove away, he waved and saying “Good luck.”

[@carefulcarpenter]

"Recognizing what you are dealing with." Kevin "You think you are better than everyone else!" Narcissist.

[@AZDC99]

Haha, sad but true. The irony is that those accusing him you or me of being stuck up are so full of themselves. They'll never quite admit it. Oh, that's right, They do by doing armchair quarterback of someone else's life about how much better they would be living it. What's good for the goose is not good for the gander with those folks. No contact is the only way out

[@carefulcarpenter]

@@AZDC99 You can't go "no contact". Narcissists are in the elite class.

[@AZDC99]

@@carefulcarpenter Yeah, they do have a bit of a Secret King problem going on, ha ha

[@carefulcarpenter]

@@AZDC99 As a fine craftsman I listen to my customer's needs and desires. In the end, I must deliver. As Jesus is known as the Deliverer, my standards are close to perfection though not absolutely perfect. Most customers must find something. They must demonstrate their superiority by finding fault. In the end, they desire the credit for hiring me. Near the end of my career the economy has declined. This made it more and more difficult for me to find benficial work. Narcissists also like it when you are desperate enough to lower your price. The system makes sure that perfectionists have cash flow. The Congress at this very moment is gearing to ensure that the richest segment have ample tax breaks. Is it possible that narcissists run the system? Or do fine craftsmen who create wealth? "True Wealth Transcends the Ages." cc. 💙

[@AZDC99]

@@carefulcarpenter There was a time, not too long ago, where I did not want to hear that Jesus talk. But now I pray to him and accept him as my Lord and savior. Your profession of Joseph...it's a skill I envy in a good way. But all you'll see me doing is following a simple how to put it together kit.. without the skilled labor part.... that's why you guys get paid for it and I don't. PS---I'd give a DEFINITE yes to both of your rhetorical questions there. You can see them instilling it into people's psyches via their CONTROLLED media to become narcissists themselves.

[@selahdiamond4465]

What do you do if this narcissist person is your child? What do you do???

[@cjh5950]

This all makes so much sense. Thank you for helping me make sense of my experiences. He gave me crap for buying a plant for $20 because ‘the fact you’re spending money frivolously while I’m not working, is disrespectful to me.’ That was the first time I experienced his anger at something I bought. Your explanation on this makes full sense to me now. I was lucky I had a room in the house I created into my safe room; piano, keurig coffee maker, small tv set up… I spent a lot of time in there. He’d sometimes open the door and storm in/walk in and talk, etc… but I’m glad those moments were rare while I was in that room.

[@cymbolichuman433]

I do know what it's like... He'll scream at me if I refuse to believe what he's saying. Then he says I was screaming at him. I attacked him... "I did the grey rock."

[@sharonjumba4648]

I changed my spectacles and a 'friend' I had known for a short while went on and on about how the new eye glasses aren't a match for me; how wide my face is and the glasses would better serve someone with a slimmer face. I was caught off guard, wanted to state I settled for round ones because my square faced but I couldn't put a word in. I was startled but knew something wasn't right. I cut ties a few months ago, I now know peace.....thank you Kevin for clarifying this one.

[@alliediamantes8016]

This for Kim: I've been no contact with my narcissistic ex husband for the last 18 months. He tried everything that he could phone calls drive-bys changing cars telephone numbers any & everything that he could to try to get to our daughter and myself. I got a restraining order on him. I will certainly be praying for you. Also my daughter and I we were sleeping with knives hammers anything we could think of because we got so fearful of what he might do. Crazy huh? Your deliverance is coming. I know how hard it has been for you. Pain is a good teacher. Reflect and work on you. I have learned so much about me. God will see you through.

[@deborahcollins1100]

Yep this all makes so much sense to me. Definitely happens to me always with my narcissistic husband of 37 yrs. He cannot stand it usually when I come home from say a shopping trip or an event at the senior center or lunch with a lady friend. He tries to kill my happiness.

[@TheRoyalWe]

Yes this sounds typical

[@malynndawilliams]

This is so spot on my narc pastor husband doesn’t yell he’s the quiet manipulator so his favorite thing to say when I was making decisions for myself was oh you want to do your own thing then you should be single doing your own thing!

[@bethrhyne46]

I think there are many forms of narcissism and that’s why it’s so hard to spot

[@CFChristian]

Nice iPhone, must be nice. 😂Can't forget that classic example. As if working hard and having your own autonomy is something to look down upon.

[@rebeccajohnson7864]

I can't tell you how many times I've heard "It must be nice". Yes, yes it is very nice actually. I don't tell my narc parents ANYTHING about myself. It will just be this same conversation over and over at nauseum.

[@adriananeri3288]

Once i red a comment from a narcissistic woman that she couldn't stand when people arround her was happy, and she wasn't the reason for that happiness... yes, because this meals she has no power... Just BE HAPPY, REALLY HAPPY without them, and you won. Be strong. Thank you ❤

[@willdrivesu7914]

I work for a narc, and now that i know what they are, watching the behavior and being able to objectively observe it has been rather interesting. Watching him try to disturb my peace, and his reaction when he failed was priceless. Seeing him realize he has no control over changing my mood or mindset was amusing. He went away and spewed his crap to his regular supply, who also wasn't having it either. I'd like to thank you for your channel, and the knowledge your message is helping to spread, and the help you're able to give people.

[@mreese8764]

3:52 If you feel safe around the narcissist it shows them that you DO NOT FEAR them. They want to be FEARED to feel respected. And they make sure that you do fear them by raging.

[@wendycruff4983]

OMG 😳 this is exactly how my son is with me. He is always flying off the handle if I buy to many groceries with my own money or if I buy something for my home which he lives in rent free… I always say to him when he starts his rants “why do you care? It’s not your money!” I feel safe, but he exhaust me. I have started just going to my room when he starts his rants.

[@bf6048]

Throw him out. You deserve peace in your home.

[@nataliatorkhova8793]

Thanks Kevin. Feel down today so roaming on videos. Got weird prank yesterday for which had to contact toxicity side, spent a day in senseless talks and was finally blamed as swine, parasyte and shit running from my problems. Found out all the story was absolutely reverted and now I am not coming to my home town because of I am afraid to been sued and face financial issues........... Ridiculous, every time I get amazed at how narcs and scammers take little facts and rot the whole reality of what happenned coz they never assume they did wrong. Today I just finally washed my hands and.........I am speechless.

[@genevas-grace]

This is soooooooo on point. All of this happened with the ex-husband.😏😏 Probably why his blood pressure was so incredibly high stroke level high.

[@jeannejubie4012]

This resonated with me so much, that I've watched it twice. I've had a person(s) in my life for many years that have attacked me this way. Even when enjoying a hobbie, having a good day with my children, making necessary purchases clothing, food, paying bills... not even novelty items. This is spot on.

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

I was raised in a narcissistic family as the scapegoat. They would act angry when I did a good deed as though it was a stupid thing to do. All my words and actions were treated as though they were stupid. For years I prayed and asked God why this was happening, and God answered through the study of narcissism. Then I realized I was raised in a family of them and even the culture as a whole was like this. There were more covert means used in the culture but behind closed doors, they were very mean. Wow, that woman is explaining it just as I have seen it. I had a family member come to my husband telling him he needed to have more authority over me because I was a rebellious woman. I was not rebellious, I have been a homemaker all my life caring for my husband and I believe that the husband and wife should talk things through to come to a common goal. My family members attempted to get my husband to oppress me to "keep me under control." I have never been unkind to these family members and I have not usurped my husband. They tried to get my husband to dictate everything about my life so that I did not have the freedom to make my own choices. They hated that I was free in my marriage to become a whole person without oppression, they love oppression.

[@suzybruce1476]

Right on. Would you be willing to talk about narcissism as an official government policy.

[@ketherwhale6126]

Thanks. I just had an encounter with my Ex and he blew up and literally raged at me because I simply wanted to discuss something and he adamantly refused and literally wanted me out of his place because I failed to immediately comply. Sad. I forgave him, but really because life is short. I’m sorry he’s that insecure.

[@yancyhebert9937]

I never knew loving myself would enraged someone. Thanks for sharing all you share

[@mamallama9866]

This makes so much more sense now, thank you. I never understood why spending $40 on a few little things we needed for our house was such a huge deal until now. I made a decision for myself about what to do with MY money. How dare I spend any of MY money on anything WE needed. I honestly started to believe it was a selfish act on my part, but knew in my gut it wasn't. Or maybe I'm not understanding correctly and I'm just grabbing at something to make sense of it all? I don't really know anymore...everything makes me feel like I'm crazy anymore.

[@barbarabuttler7647]

That's what happens when you've been gaslit. You start to question yourself.

[@AZDC99]

4:00 and the whole middle beyond that where Kevin gives his synopsis on what is really going on before the and after the psychopath admits what he and others like myself at times have been suspecting. Actually, come to think of it, this is a rare breakthrough because I've heard it all on a lot of these narcissist videos from people HOWEVER...hearing that "they're threatened by your peace" is not one that I hear enough or ever actually! Kevin has put a lot of thought into this, and it will take away any gas lighting WOUNDS and anymore subconscious self-blame that you USED TO do, once it sinks in

[@christineribone9351]

Excellent video, Kevin. I never asked that question about N. Rage. It's an interesting postulation; authority and safety. It does explain why my brother was threatening to make me homeless. I'm not sure about the authority concept. He seemed threatened that I would soon graduate from Nursing school. He recently married a girl that's a 'nurses assistant', a much lesser position than a nurse. He did everything he could to sabotage my soon to be career. Afterwards, he humiliated and degraded me for failing. All the while he was raving about this girl he married. He was confused about the major differences in each position, ranking the assistant over a nursing position. So, yeah, he could have disliked the authority I would have. I can see that now. Thanks!

[@staceyrenee2238]

Wow. Incredible. Thank you for validating what I felt in my marriage.

[@dianagarcia3597]

Now I understand what happens all the time with my daughter, I was always “ walking over egg shells” because all my person, upsets her, no matter what I do, Tks God for all this information on KZbin, and God bless you for sharing with us, this is the first time that I heard about narcissistic rage, and have already seen about 100 or more videos about narcissistic personality disorder!

[@lynnbianchi6395]

I found from my past toxic relationship that he raged because it was where he felt most at peace. It was his comfort zone. I was never allowed to relax or have authority on my own life but even when I was doing my best to make sure he had all he needed he still raged. For years I was completely confused over this behavior and I spent 25 years trying to “keep his peace”. I wish I would have known then what I do now. It’s so fantastic that this is being talked about and people are being educated leading to safer lives

[@LizaLavolta]

Strangely I felt like bc I wouldn't react and get on his level this made him get worse. Then he found out he could get a response by scaring (bullying) me. It eventually got so ramped up and so bad bordering on him hitting me (a new threat I take seriously) that I just ran out. These people are sick. I was never combative and tried to help him with his many many mental issues. It's very sick. I got the feeling he hated me more because I didn't name call, manipulate, or have ill will. He desperately wanted to PIN that to me. It started with yelling fits that were more like a kid than an adult- then gaslighting "Im not yelling" then locking doors (again childish) then hitting himself, throwing things, not at me, then...where we ended up. Run if a man raises his voice to you and it feels violent. It always felt violent although childish. I have no doubt he is capable of anything in those modes and later found out he held a gun to both mom and dad as a teen. On the outside he appears stable, active in church, looks like a guy in a lifetime movie, fit, owns his own business. He is a huge mess inside of ocd rage envy disorder darkness and confusion. I never knew someone could be this dark and this deceiving. He is scary. And he is not ok.His final words were, "If you come here and I hit you and end up in jail it will be your fault." Then after I left I get the typical I love you Im not myself text. No you're not yourself, you are possessed by a demon of murder hatred and rage. Either way I am out.

[@Lovepeacejoy..]

Me too….with the IPhone! You really hit the nail on the head about the triggers

[@screechingwind114]

That is true about their rage over your feeling of safety, because they never experienced such serenity

[@bubbly_eeyore]

I don’t know how you boiled it down so perfectly, but you did it! This video would have been incredibly helpful to watch, while I was still in my abusive relationship, to help me get out. Thank you for publishing it!!

[@dreambig1082]

I wish I knew this since I was a child. My dad made me feel unsafe ALL the time. I m thank ful I know now. It s my most important number one thing to me ! Feeling and having the safety!

[@anthonygiachinta3056]

Did you ever notice the most used accessory in a Narcissist vehicle is their horn !!

[@nanabusterd]

“Possessing authority”, that totally explains my ex-narcs raging fits. Thank you, I never knew that.

[@calicomcgee]

I have found my family of choice and safety. Being with one who rages at everything, my health, Serenity and even needing to ask for a ride to a dr appt had been a cause for contempt and then I again am left shaky. Thank Kevin. You have pointed out what God hates, trying to forgive everyday, trying to not resort to anger and rage, when is it time to shake the dust off and walk? Are we to try and stay at the same of our health or sanity? Will God hate me if I go elsewhere? Am I to just let everyday be one of fear, anger, contempt and near suicidal feelings??? Is separation damning me? Thank you Kevin.

[@aaronweatherson4379]

'gray rage' - when all color drains away and what remains is a machine-like desperation...

[@CharlesBukowski-m1o]

4:00 Isn't chilling the twisted smile that self declared psychopath has indeed? I just went no contact and caller blocked a former friend. (As well as going NO CONTACT against an EX-girlfriend)

[@Anna-cr5iu]

Had to visit.

[@gingerisevil02]

WOW. this really puts it in perspective.

[@janieeauschn2673]

Wow. Thank you for such clarity and compassion!

[@shonnamay8331]

May God Bless you and shine his face upon you Kevin! ❤

[@larissacats390]

The most rage I received from my parents was when I was truly happy and at ease. I would call them, full of happiness and that annoyed them so much and they would yell, start a fight to make sure my “good day” ends. And at the end call me crazy for starting a fight 🤦‍♀️ Very recently went no contact after catching them lying to me about hospitalization.

[@screechingwind114]

The Narcissistic Person has let their Envy Grow, never checking themselves, why would you allow Envy space in your life, it hurts You, therefore the next step is to hurt others. When you meditate on the realm of love, these answers are given

[@laurengarrett9005]

Oh yes he knows better about everything. He belittles my decisions. He has a better way.

[@travismckinnon8737]

Great Work Praise GOD.. Allow him to keep using your brother amen

[@TheRoyalWe]

👑💯🙏

[@channel1800dumb]

Thanks Kev. I find that gender would be a big determination of narcs, meaning this according to scripture. For instance my mother was at Ladies' Class few weeks back, and a good lady who is a friend of ours could not read 'Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord', and she could not say the word submit. In my long years this was par for the course for myself too, I am not an imposing person and have zero need to impose my will on anyone, except a child running on the road or something; still no recognition of my role as I had it at all. It seems the narc has 3 big characteristics from my research, anger whether covert or overt, the need to control, and very low empathy. Thanks again Kevin!

[@ajc2208]

As a woman, when you've been covertly abused by people with 'respectable' or 'religious' facades, it teaches you that abusers will latch onto any veneer of respectability to have power over another individual. I think some of the religious language should be updated to avoid giving power to such abusers. I am a strong believer in God, but would find it hard to 'submit' to another human being when, in reality, respect and loyalty should flow both ways between equals.

[@channel1800dumb]

@@ajc2208 I would agree.

[@joanbaczek2575]

One of my exes attacked me for ordering a dell printer instead of a packard! We lived separate and I had a credit account with dell and had a dell pc. Oh the rage and insults were unreal.

[@CharlesBukowski-m1o]

That was so petty of them. It's like the psychopath woman he shows 4 odd minutes into this clip... You dared to have authority over yourself: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gXytoaWQprqSpbcsi=K_HiowYUY6a5mBVb

[@tofferarvid6589]

Wise guru said TRUTH is authority, authority is not the TRUTH....