Two months ago, my wife of 5 years Cheated on me, and despite her efforts to make things "right".

[@chadisnotachad]

Worst thing is that crappy people will take story 1 and say, "this is why we don't admit we cheated." How about you don't cheat on the first place?

[@twistedumbrella7537]

Yeah, it's weird when people act like confessing or apologizing should absolve them of the consequences of their actions. It's an admirable thing to do because it very likely won't have a good outcome for you, but if you want to be a terrible person and hide things, do that, if you get found out though, the consequences could be 10x worse.

[@ragingdid]

Bro, you deserve better. No one else should put themselves through that

[@VRDejaVu]

"she has been doing everything correctly" Did she keep her legs closed? No? Then she hasnt been doing everything correctly.

[@sadboiquake8076]

Story 2: he did the right thing not risking the well being of the baby by waiting and I understand that doing it right after the baby was born might not seem like the best time but this way he is not pressured to sign on the babies birth certificate which could lead to her sueing for child support for a kid that’s not his

[@MimosaRose]

Story 1- trust is completely gone. No relationship can last without trust. He can forgive her, but not trust and move on.

[@brianarnold8666]

Ngl the fact that she doesn't even have an excuse makes it worse, she just did it

[@arhael3594]

Cos of being too drunk, when she couldn't consent.

[@lenniegodber7805]

Always divorce asap Theres no going back Once a cheater always a cheater

[@gauravshah8448]

Why does every single redditor has his or her phone "blow up"?

[@dinkyd1533]

It's like when a tennis player loses, they are "bundled" out of the game.

[@grahamjudge7852]

thats what happens when you buy samsung

[@ha-kh7ef]

the problem with story 1 is that she ignore the text and everyone. I bet what happen was both the dude and her saw the text and kept going at it. I’m a guy. I bet the dude was getting an ego boost clapping her cheeks. Personally i would have gone to jail because i would have found the guy

[@denizkenger52]

I agree with this. People are against finding the guy, if he knew she was married then he needs punishment too. Going after a married man’s wife knowingly that she’s married is a dangerous thing to do.

[@arhael3594]

There is loud music in bars, you not gonna hear your phone and she is a woman, so phone vibration wouldn't be felt through her purse. And she ignored her friends after she was already too drunk. Them leaving her alone with a predator was unacceptable. You can't consent, when you are drunk nor you are yourself, when you are drunk.

[@denizkenger52]

@@arhael3594 you can consent when you are drunk, it’s just not considered consent in legal terms. She willingly cheated. She wasn’t forced.

[@arhael3594]

@@denizkenger52 You can consent, when you are drunk. You can't consent, when you are too drunk. Her reaction on sobering up is a clear indication that she was way over the threshold. And legally speaking there are plenty of cases, where someone got charged with rape, even though the person they slept with was still capable of walking, so you are wrong.

[@denizkenger52]

@@arhael3594 I’m not talking about legal consent as I said, they can consent, but they can’t consent in a legal sense. So you are wrong. People being charged with rape supports what I said so I am right.

[@EkayLaive]

First story is just disgusting yet sad

[@arhael3594]

Some random dude literally took advantage of her, while she was too drunk. And her friends abandoned her living her alone with a predator. And husband never ones considered that they are both victims.

[@KaitenKenbu]

Story 1 is a reeetard quq

[@l-l-l-l-l-l-l]

Story 2: OP really leave a woman so he would not raise another man's kid to be with another women so that he can raise another man's kid. Its like escaping a crocodile bite only to jump into a lion den.

[@rigelbound6749]

How is that the same thing? The first woman betrayed him

[@gloomyadolescent1234]

Yeah OP is extremely cucked

[@trillkevin7632]

@@rigelbound6749 facts

[@BERKE-no1ds]

So... having a kid with a person who betrayed your trust and who tried to make you responsible for somebody else's kid by using deception is better than being with a person who was truthful from the start of your relationship but has a kid? You have a pretty fucked up logic but I guess that's not my business.

[@l-l-l-l-l-l-l]

@@BERKE-no1ds you have a reading comprehension problem dude. OP escapes one trap only to fall into another where he still have to raise another man child with or without the deceit. The child is the trap in this context. Learn to read.

[@ScanTronIndustries]

For story 1, even if it wasn’t intentional or planned the moment his head started spinning ideas of paying her back with violence should’ve been the first indicator that the marriage wasn’t salvageable.

[@juliearmfield2634]

I know this is a huge red flag that he needs to listen to and get out

[@biggiecheese2004]

Yeah exactly, feeling that way is fine but if it happens your relationship is fucked. It’s a complete power response which means they messed up BAD

[@brianarnold8666]

He didn't become violent

[@ScanTronIndustries]

@@brianarnold8666 missed the point

[@Godlikemind]

Very true, at the same time I cant blame anyone thinking that way. Of course only if the thoughts arent brought to action

[@tek512]

Alcohol doesn't make you do or say anything that is not already within you. All it does is lower your inhibitions enough to speak or act on those desires. Drunk or sober, a cheater is a cheater. OP #1's ex-wife wasn't really sorry she did it. She was sorry it was going to result in her having to fend for herself. OP#2 did nothing wrong other than humoring the ho's whole "you weren't there for me" thing, which we all know is BS. ...Okay, two mistakes. Going for a single mom is an awful idea.

[@DeathsHood]

So, not excusing the cheater, because there were plenty of chances to stop the interaction *_before_* getting drunk, but alcohol *_absolutely does_* make you do things you otherwise would not do when sober. "Lowered inhibitions" does not mean "sober me wants this, but doesn't think it's good" Drunk me decided once train-hopping would be a great idea, when sober me isn't stupid enough to ever entertain the idea. I once watched a drunk 5'8" ~150lb teenager start a fight with a 6'5" 260lb ex-con, and I had to intervene to keep the poor kid from being beaten to death. You think sober him thought, even in the darkest recesses of his brain, that he stood a chance? Alcohol can make the smartest person stupid, the most cowardly person brave, and the most rational person irrational.

[@JOSH-mv2wi]

​@@DeathsHoodbut it doesn't excuse cheating

[@DeathsHood]

@@JOSH-mv2wi Please note the first part of my comment, where I said "not excusing the cheater".

[@UchiwaSasukesama]

@@DeathsHood Excuses, excuses. For the sake of the argument, let's admit you're right. Don't get drunk, then, because you know you might do anything, apparently. Excuses, excuses.

[@DeathsHood]

@@UchiwaSasukesama Please read the first part of my comment.

[@Afghanisstan]

Story 1: There is FINALLY friends that were willing to help to stop an infidelity only for her to screw everything up. Man

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 1. Nta. It's just too bad that her marriage and family wasn't this important to her before she cheated

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

No matter the circumstance, if your partner cheats the relationship is over. Only doormats go full doormat path, aka reconciliation, thinking they can return to the same state the relationship was before the cheating

[@pickles-the-kitten]

the only time i accepted cheating was this one story. She went out with her friends and one of her friends bfs to karaoke. Her friends forced her to drink over 10 beers in 1 hour. She could only handle like 2 and a half. She knew she drank more than that but it was whatever at that point. From what her friends said, bf had asked her to “strategize” in a different room. Granted, she was blackout drunk so she didnt know any better. Well, he ended up r-wording her in the other room. The friends found her, got upset and drove her home. The next morning when she woke up, they told her what happened. She freaked out and was crying her heart out hearing this information. OP was in the basement when she started crying. As soon as he got into the living room, she told him everything. It stung at first, then it turned to rage. She is in therapy now and they are still together. It wasnt even cheating. She got r*ped while she was black out drunk.

[@nereus2929]

​@@pickles-the-kittenwhat happened is fucked yes, but how does someone forces you to drink 10 beers? Just say no. Again, I'm not defending the r-pist but if you dont usually drink and your friends "force" you into drinking, you walk out and get new friends

[@pickles-the-kitten]

@@nereus2929 you would just have to listen to the story - its on telltales as well.

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

@@pickles-the-kitten she chose to go there and she chose to stay and drink that much. She could've left but she didn't

[@pickles-the-kitten]

@@ianmoritzplatapino3684 well she got picked up how she gonna leave besides getting an uber? also peer pressure. She is a sweet girl, op knew her since they were barely walking basically. If i am being honest, she got taken advantage of. By her friends and her friends bf. Her friends kept pushing until she started to drink more. It isnt that she wanted to, she just wanted her friends to not basically ditch her. Which they did after she got r@ped.

[@voidliving6922]

Man… just break up with her. That or just get therapy individual and couple. Idk why this guy is doing this to himself. His wife owned up to it for sure but if he can’t get over it, it’s time to call it quits Edit - I made it to the end and I’m glad he left her.

[@mazharimam6827]

He did leave. Good for him, I was happy about the ending.

[@voidliving6922]

@@mazharimam6827yeah! I was relieved when I got to the end. This can serve as a good lesson (that she shouldn’t have to learn tbh but whatever) that somethings you just can’t make better.

[@akashgupta5932]

Ending it is better cuz its never going to be good after cheating P.s. - telling u by personal experience and seriously it broke the shit outta me. And seriously god gives u something better i got someone better and she is amazing respectful and amazing person and i am keeping her forever.

[@alwaysright3943]

" Idk why this guy is doing this to himself." Desperation and scarcity mindset. He thinks she's the best he can get.

[@arhael3594]

@@akashgupta5932 Is it cheating though? She was black out drunk. Someone literally took advantage of her being too drunk, while she couldn't consent.

[@atlus6412]

Story 1: OP did the right thing. His wife's story is full of loopholes.... Her phone being silent, ignoring her friend's attempt to take her home, flirt with a stranger before getting drunk, going to his house,.......... After the fun calling an Uber to go home...... All of this require Clear mind, she was drunk BUT not that drunk. Story 2: OP better be careful with single mother. They can jump from 1 relationship to other without much thought.

[@Maninawig]

For story 1, how much responsability do you think belongs to the friends? OP claimed they felt uneasy, but left her stay. Either let someone too drunk to be rational stay, or left a married woman to fend for herself... Idk, it just doesn't feel right to me...

[@atlus6412]

@@Maninawig OP's wife wanted to do it that much is clear.... And seriously, what can you expect from the same types of people (friend).... you have No idea .... If cheaters get caught.... They receive advice..... "Stick to the amount of story that had exposed".... It is totally impossible to grill out the Whole truth.

[@Maninawig]

@@atlus6412 oh, I didn't mean diverting the responsability... just that her friends neither took her home, stayed to stop anything, nor called the husband. They simply abandoned her with a man and was latter appalled that something happened.

[@arhael3594]

I don't see any loopholes. Bars have loud music, calls are easy to miss. Alcohol lowers your inhibitors and you can get drunk to the point of not even remembering what you did. Her having massive remorse and immediately confessing him everything show that she did not want to do it. If it was deliberate, she would attempt to hide it.

[@Maninawig]

@@arhael3594 regret and remorse are two different things. You are right that alcohol lowers inhibitors, but it also increases the suppressed personality traits. Hence why not everyone who gets drunk joins an orgy. Not to mention that the bar can be heavily fined and shut down for allowing someone to get blackout drunk, so that's not an excuse either. Also, the missed calls were after the bar closing at the legal hour of 2am, so noise is no longer a factor. Like I said, regret and remorse are two different things. The wife actively followed her emotions and desires to get drunk and get laid, and only then did she think of the consequences. That reluctance to gladly accept the consequences is called regret, where remorse would require her to have thought of how her actions would affect others before hand.

[@blackfire6009]

Crazy how it's always the same thing heh, "cry cry I don't know, I was drunk it's not my fault", yeah well, you made the executive decision to "accept drinks" from a random guy during a night out with "the girls". Call me petty but cheating never happens when you don't want it, if you're not mentally deficient it's obvious what the guy is doing, so if you accept it you're opening the door. (at least if you're not drunk enough that your consent is legally impaired). For cheating to happen you have to be in the disposition for it, always. Also, again, the friends are trash toward both the wife and the husband. Can't help but see that guy friends would put the husband in a cab or forcefully drag him out the bar, whereas girl friends...

[@arhael3594]

After a few drinks your inhibitors are lowered. You are far easier to influence. And she was with friends, which gave false sense of safety. The guy buying her drinks was a plain predatory behavior. He deliberately got her drunk to get his way. And her so called "friends" abandoned her instead of rescuing. Drunk people can't consent, that guy can get rape charges for that, if he is found.

[@FlipTheBard]

Wow, first time I see a cheater actually apologize and try to work to "fix" their "mistake". Still, I don't think cheating is something that can ever be fixed because the BS will always have that lingering doubt in their head.

[@juliearmfield2634]

What kind of life is that having to be a basically prison guard for you're cheating spouse. There will always be that question in the back of your mind can I really trust them

[@plsguidemethroughtheabyssmona]

And that's exhausting all over

[@FlipTheBard]

@@juliearmfield2634 Exactly.

[@juliearmfield2634]

@@FlipTheBard you could not pay me to live like that

[@Nameless82284]

I heard this story about this man who caught his wife cheating but he took her back but he had to look after her. Check her phone and social media everyday. Install cameras everywhere. Put a tracking chip in her phone. Never allow to leave the house without him. And always answer his calls in video chat at all times and show him around to know where she exactly. She did keep her end of the deal but the man didn't felt like she was his wife anymore. It felt more like he was a police man looking after a prisoner. The only one that was happy was the woman because she kept her husband. It was just a one sided marriage now. They stayed together until one of them died. It turns out that the wife did stay loyal but it didn't matter anymore

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Save the marriage and the moment things return to normal who is to say she won’t repeat it? She put herself in this position and then acted on it despite her friends trying to stop her. No one can get past cheating 100%

[@twinklecookies4831]

What if things don't go back to normal? My idea would be for her to have a child that is not biologically hers, but of the guy and a donor. From that moment on she'll be raising a step child.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

@@twinklecookies4831 What I mean by normal is the moment he’s not on high alert she’s going to think she got away with it and likely will do it again. And I wouldn’t involve kids in this, it should be a divorce. I see cheating like a cracked mirror, the mirror still works but you can always see that crack and it can never be 100% whole again

[@arhael3594]

Friends hardly tried to stop her, they abandoned her. At that point she was way too drunk, unable to think rationally and acting on instincts. A drunk person can't consent. Nor you expect your friends to just abandon her. It's not something that could be predicted.

[@tracys169]

The first one probably needs therapy, like yesterday, if the story is real. Not couples therapy, Individual therapy.

[@ColinTherac117]

Story 2, the cheating GF is the worst. She was going to force OP without his consent to raise a child that is not his. That is utterly evil. I am so glad that the bio dad did good by OP by fessing up and taking responsibility for his child. That should be considered the minimum but given how low standard a lot of people are, we should give praise for when people actually do as they should.

[@HoucKSF]

1st story should really have gone to a therapist before doing anything.

[@alwaysright3943]

Finally an admirable dude in a reddit story.

[@jakkubus]

The second one? Because the first one sounds kinda like an asshole.

[@navandozer]

If apologies fixed serious problems, humanity wouldn't have the history we do. If it's serious enough to linger strongly, just cut your losses and move on. It won't get better.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 2. Nta. One more reason why DNA testing should be mandatory for every birth

[@angel-nv7jk]

Once a Cheater, always a cheater. But shame on those "friends" for leaving her alone piss drunk at a bar

[@arhael3594]

She is not a cheater. She was too drunk to give consent.

[@fredericklopezhinz9360]

1 hour gang

[@cubiusblockus3973]

If you forgive a cheater, they will do it again. The only way you can judge someone is by thier past actions. Most people dont actually grow.... they stay the immature assholes they always were, they just look older and know how to put on a show to look mature.

[@cavey001]

S1: Not once did he mention getting professional help. That could have given him a different perspective.

[@glasstatue]

this is exactly what i was thinking about. he needs therapy badly.

[@alwaysright3943]

How would that benefit him? He made the right choice.

[@dinkyd1533]

​@alwaysright3943 It might have helped him make the right choice earlier rather than endure being around the 304 for 2 months.

[@alwaysright3943]

@@dinkyd1533 Tbf, the wife was playing the remorseful wayward wife perfectly. I’m surprised he wasn’t ultimately suckered into staying with her.

[@graham5990]

For story 1 I don't feel like she was truly sorry despite all she did. She screwed a nobody and knew she could never replace what her husband could provide her so she played the "I'm truly sorry I'll do anything role" when in reality it was "omg I will never be able to replace him with a better man so I need to go into overdrive to prove I'm sorry so I can continue to live the way I'm living so I dont need to go back to work and survive and die alone"

[@arhael3594]

If she cheated with intent, she would be far more careful with that and never admitted. She got drunk, then some guy took advantage of that and convinced her to drink more, then too her home. Her friends were meant to protect her, but they left her alone with a predator. Her immediate remorse and honesty demonstrates that she was too drunk to comprehend what she was doing, it'taking advantage of a drunk person is rape.

[@salihmsa7530]

getting drunk in a club without your man? entertaining a guy even though you're in a relationship? Ignoring your friends and staying alone with said guy? Every step was purposeful, made her feel some way she liked, and she went down the rabbit hole. Make no mistake, this was a fully concious transaction which, even if she regretted it, made on her own accord. Murder is murder even with remorse.

[@arhael3594]

Your first point is true, poor decision. Entertaining guy happened after she was already very drunk, alcohol lowers your inhibitors making you do things you wouldn't do otherwise. Her friends should have understood that she was too drunk and not leave her alone. The fact that guy kept buying her drink is a clear indicator of a predatory behavior. Drunk person cannot consent. The fact that she had so much remorse, when she came to her senses, is evidence of that. If her cheating was deliberate, she would not be doing it while with friends and she would never admit to her husband. She was taken advantage of, plain and simple.

[@Censorthisbananahamock]

No matter what a cheater does, they will eventually cheat again. Just walk away and leave them to make their own way in life. The wife took vows and then threw a pity screw to a guy, just because he gave her attention, while you have a husband and child at home? No that's not a wife, that is a street clown.

[@TacoCat_Fabio]

"She did everything right" Well, I don't think f*cking a rando is right, but ok, let's agree to disagree

[@Top-G35]

Story 1 yea dump her she has no respect for you. That’s why you don’t go out drinking when you are married

[@frankiewilson6001]

Poor sucker. Cheers man I’ll crack a breakfast beer for you

[@user-tw9mp4mc2d]

Leaving a drunk friend with a stranger is also trash behavior. She's lucky in a way that nothing worse happened to her

[@swampfox3536]

_She let a random guy buy her several drinks_ Why would she let him buy her in the first place? Didn't she remember she was married? We got our answer! DIVORCE IS THE ONLY WAY BROTHER!

[@donaldkue2364]

Story 1: OP sounded like he was just bragging about his wifes affair. Not venting.

[@theredstar6493]

As much as I'm against divorce conditions like in story 1 makes me think it's one of the best or probably only best option for many Putting myself in place of OP I can understand why does he feels that way, considering the kind of guy I'm there's no way I'd "forgive or forget" anything either so let alone sit there and try to reconcile I don't have the mental capacity to make myself miserable and paranoid every second my partner steps out the home nor do I have the ability to trust someone who hurted me Bruh even if offered a million as compensation by my partner i'd choose divorce for the sake of my wellbeing

[@blackfire6009]

Crazy how it's always the same thing heh, "cry cry I don't know, I was drunk it's not my fault", yeah well, you made the executive decision to "accept drinks" from a random guy during a night out with "the girls". Call me petty but cheating never happens when you don't want it, if you're not mentally deficient it's obvious what the guy is doing, so if you accept it you're opening the door. (at least if you're not drunk enough that your consent is legally impaired). For cheating to happen you have to be in the disposition for it, always. Also, again, the friends are trash toward both the wife and the husband. Can't help but see that guy friends would put the husband in a cab or forcefully drag him out the bar, whereas girl friends...

[@LOVESOLDIER]

At 1:30 in op makes the wrong decision. Divorce immediately only option for filthy cheaters.

[@aspect1985]

Anybody else think story 1's friends are toxic. You dont leave your married drunk friend in a bar where someone is obviously interested. Not trying to blameshift just observantant lol.

[@kanteannightmare]

he needed time to get away from her so he can actually settle his own feelings about the situation and then know how he really feels about moving forward. while he's still there with her he can't actually grieve or understand his own feelings about the situation so he just stuck in a holding pattern.

[@sihya]

Anybody have a song name or track name for the background guitar music? It's depressing; I love it.

[@nicknitro86]

She was just overcompensating. A single mom? Oof.

[@prophetofthemightysquirrel5434]

He will be in a world of hurt once the trial period ends, and he can't find a way out without hurting the child.

[@arithebarbarian6756]

She wanted to keep you for one reason. Because after he came in her he told her to go home. And sadly you don't do that after your done

[@grizley]

Is it just me or do all of these seem ai generated, maybe it's just a conspiracy and I am not saying that they aren't good but they just seem similar or idk something like that I can't quite describe it but the way ai is going i can't say it's not a possibility?

[@dannysilva3210]

Cheating is always intentional, they know

[@boredcryptek5513]

In the first story did the man try therapy?

[@Joemama0s]

I’m so suspect these are all fake. Lately they have been feeling artificial. I haven’t been able to find the last 5-6 stories on google after getting suspicious…

[@zengeki23]

On the second story, I was thinking that the OP was planning on telling her right at labor or in the hospital post birth. That would have been death sentence.

[@Mo_Yusuf101]

Once a cheater, always a cheater

[@ATop1x]

She is for the streets

[@arthurchavez4516]

Story 1 I give props to the tramp for being honest. However somethings are unforgivable

[@Learner2439]

Once one gets the taste of drugs he/she will do it again maybe not now because of guilt but slowly he/she will. Because one already got the taste of drugs and knows fun it gives. Before it was because of negligence(she already knew what would have happened from beginning before going to bar/those kind of places) but from second time it will be from her own choice. REMEMBER!!!!!!( For FIRST STORY MAN)

[@arhael3594]

Nonsense. Nearly every person has a story, where they got to drunk and ended up doing shit they never had any intention to do. He never planned nor wanted to cheat. But she failed to control her drinking and then a random dude influenced her to drink even more. She could not consent in that situation. And her shitty friends abandoned her to a wolf. It's an unfortunate circumstance more than anything.

[@doopist]

30 min gang :)

[@sensora9646]

2 hour gang

[@Maninawig]

6:55 wtf man!?! Some people want to watch the good ones burn.

[@lawsonallen7741]

You Door Mate. You let her stay. She Knew what she was doing.

[@partynxt2]

A women can be happy for a year but one day she becomes sad she messes up

[@kingdouchbag4626]

I see 1hr gang 2 hr gang down below, it's been 12 mins!!

[@plsguidemethroughtheabyssmona]

11:43 sweet and delicious dopamine

[@briansolomon2969]

OP in story 1, it's over.

[@Mentallect]

Ruined marriage.

[@lharchmage6908]

She planned to cheat

[@WhoamI-ml6dj]

Despite all of the negative comments on the wife, I think she might have been SAed

[@ColinTherac117]

No, she wasn't. She would know and would have said as much when she confessed to her husband, or any of the time afterward. She consented long before she got in bed or drunk enough to not be able to resist. Plus her friends had tried to take her away and she refused, again showing she wanted to cheat. A person knows the difference between when they experience regretting a decision they consciously made versus SA where she couldn't make a decision and was forced without the ability to respond.

[@Harry94074]

Oh look the cheating defender appeared!

[@x0Vinny0x]

Story 1 made me feel bad for everyone. The child, husband and wife. I don't disagree with his standards, nor his choice... but I hoped he sought mental health care. If not marriage counseling, then at least a therapist for himself. That's such a difficult position to be in. I can't even begin to understand. I can't say what was right or wrong for him; only he can. I can only hope he found peace.

[@ChestRockwell24]

I feel bad for him and the kid, but not her.

[@arhael3594]

@@ChestRockwell24 She was drinking with friends, as seemingly safe environment. But then a guy influenced her to drink more, and easy task on an already drunk target. Then he took advantage of her being drunk, while her friends abandoned her. Drunk person cannot consent and that guy displayed predatory behavior, people can get charged with rape for that.

[@ChestRockwell24]

@@arhael3594 she wasn't blackout drunk. So no, being drunk isn't an excuse.

[@arhael3594]

@@ChestRockwell24 She was in a state, where she couldn't comprehend what she was doing. You are ignorant, if you don't think that alcohol severely affects decision making.

[@ChestRockwell24]

@@arhael3594 then don't consume alcohol in an atmosphere where you can cheat if you can't make good decisions on it. You can't blame the booze. Nobody held her down and poured it down her throat. If she had blacked out it would be one thing, but she didn't.

[@dikko9729]

Bro im 17 i dont think im ever getting married 😢😢

[@AriaRosetti]

Most ppl get married at like 25-30, u will find someone

[@dracuii1582]

I thought the same when I was 17 bro. Don't lose hope.

[@FatTiki]

hagadabaguba

[@mylovleymrbiscuit]

❤

[@Cyberutopia-Enjoyer]

First

[@charliegone1652]

I don't know why these dudes let their wives go out for "ladies nights" to bars with their single friends...hello wtf did you think would happen? Op1 it's over, why try? Just move on.

[@blackkn1ght]

Unpopular opinion: OP should have divorced when it first occurred, but to wait years and then ignore the obvious treatment of therapy makes OP the AH as well as the cheater.

[@bledig]

Story 1 - so fking exaggerated. People do mistakes.

[@garylloyd9949]

1st story he should consider therapy with his wife.

[@Lovedrug96]

Forgive

[@arhael3594]

The story 1 I disagree with OP. It's her fault for getting too drunk and for prioritizing hanging out instead of staying at home. But cheating? The context he is that her drinking went out of control. Under influence you do things you wouldn't do, when not drunk. Her huge remorse after the did combined with honesty confirms that. There is a reason why you are told to avoid having sex with drunk people because drunk people cannot give consent, you can literally get rape charges for that. The main villains in this story are her "friends" that left her alone despite seeing her being too drunk. I still understand his feelings that he can't get out his wife cheating out of his head, so if he can't deal with it, better to break up. But the whole situation is an unfortunate circumstance rather than his wife having real intent to cheat on him.

[@godish_tv8623]

second guy really said fuck being a step father just to become a step father wtf is that guy doing

[@ChestRockwell24]

No he said fuck being cheated on by a ho

[@giovannigonzalez6349]

Story 1: I’m not saying that you have to stay with her, or you have to forgive her. But if the thoughts of her and the other guy are what are really troubling you, and hurting you. You have to understand that a lot of times with cases like these. Your imagination is worse than reality. A lot of times some men will be thinking their spouses affair partner is some 6’3” Adonis with a huge wang that made her experience pleasures she had never felt before. But in reality it’s 2 drunk people fumbling over each other for 5 minutes. It could very well be that she didn’t even enjoy or remember the sex. I doubt some random buzzed guy from the bar was able to pleasure her more than her husband. Op’s wife clearly didn’t care about the other guy or even try to remember his name . I’m not saying it didn’t matter or it was a small mistake. But for OP’s own good he needs to stop hurting himself thinking about the act.

[@Mentallect]

No, his imagination is reality. Divorce is the only option.

[@Quanbe77]

@@Mentallect BASED

[@dinkyd1533]

And how do you propose he stop thinking about the act? You seem to be ignoring all the steps and decisions she took to get to the act, starting with talking to a complete stranger in a bar. There were many opportunities to stop well before she got drunk.

[@giovannigonzalez6349]

​@@dinkyd1533 OP himself was able to somewhat move past the mistakes she did before the act. The thoughts that kept hurting him were his lingering paranoia of his wife and the other guys sex. I remember a betrayed husbands story, of how he was overwhelmed by the insecurity and triggering thoughts of why his wife chose her lover, fade away when he realized the man was less attractive and shorter than him. Realizing his wife betrayed him for really no good reason, helped him snap out of his depression and move forward with his life. Like OP said there will never be an acceptable answer for cheating. The other guy wasn't special enough to remember. He probably felt like shit when she started crying immediately after sex. His wife betrayed him for a cheap drunken thrill

[@VRDejaVu]

"Your imagination is worse than reality" - she fucked another guy. How is that not exactly what happened? "It could very well be that she didn’t even enjoy or remember the sex." - do you really think this diminishes the fact that she cheated? "Op’s wife clearly didn’t care about the other guy or even try to remember his name" - This makes it even worse...

[@chessieray1465]

Those are some sorry ass friends to leave her like that and not saying anything. They need to apologize as well to the OP.

[@sabereaseera1384]

What were they supposed to do kidnap her? They pleaded with her to come with them she is an adult and made the choice.

[@alwaysright3943]

That's a good one. Women can't get themselves to apologize for their own mistakes, let alone another one's.

[@dinkyd1533]

​@@sabereaseera1384Fair enough but why didn't they respond when OP called them?

[@alanunaiomen3486]

@@sabereaseera1384 No. They were supposed to respond to OP and tell him the true. If they are decent human beings.

[@ChestRockwell24]

The friends left before she left with him so they didn't know what she did

[@Toxicmalecommenter]

The ego on some of these people are unbelievable. There are so many stories of people who cheat and the person who is willing to tell you right away with true remorse and makes attempts unprompted to make it right is worth you sorting through your own feelings and emotions to come to better resolution than feeling sorry for yourself and divorcing because “you can’t stop thinking of her banging someone else”. I’m not saying you have to reconcile. But for the love of god quit being such a pussy and check your ego, get individual and couples therapy you’ll fuck your kid up more by quitting than showing them life’s tough and you have to work through shit to become your best person.

[@misterx09]

😂

[@alwaysright3943]

Imagine being this much of a doormat and calling a dude who grew a spine "pussy". You can't make this shit up smh.

[@aerth6946]

It's true. But what the guy actually did in the end is also a valid course of action given the circunstances. He needs some therapy to patch himself up, though.

[@BERKE-no1ds]

It's his life and he decides what is best for him, you are in no position to decide wheter she deserved the second chance or wheter he is a pussy for having doubts. As they say, the dog behind a fence barks the loudest. Saying all that, I guess cucks don't really understand how normal people react and mistake them for pussies.

[@VeryGoodDeals]

very true

[@lushiroll]

for story one, get the dude in jail. he had sex with your wife while she was DRUNK. It is considered rape and sexual assault if someone is intoxicated. "A verbal and affirmative expression of consent can help both you and your partner to understand and respect each other's boundaries. Consent cannot be given by individuals who are underage, intoxicated or incapacitated by drugs or alcohol, or asleep or unconscious."

[@dinkyd1533]

The AP was likely drunk as well. Can he take action or is that recourse only for women?

[@lushiroll]

@@dinkyd1533 Im unsure, and im not gonna be a hardcore feminist. so if either of them were drunk then just call it off and leave or have both of them get charges for sexual assault.

[@ZER-hx6bi]

​@@lushirollwho the fuck cares about the the guy who she cheated with the problem is always the cheater😂

[@Barlmoro]

@@lushiroll the dude is not the problem, he highly not even know she was a wife and not just a slut at the bar.

[@ChestRockwell24]

She isn't a victim