Type 4 | The Enneagram

meep. i'm kicking myself for missing some points but you wouldn't watch a 10+ minute vid of me talking anyway heh. if you a 4, reach out - would love to hear your stories 😉
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[@chloeelise8916]

4’s really are complicated, they want something but absolutely don’t want it at the same time. We want to be seen and noticed but we also find emotional comfort in not being completely known. And it’s sad but I know as a fact as a four I will never find what all fours are looking for, I will never find my identity, and it’s true. It is what I want so bad. Sometimes I feel like I can’t even portray how it feels completely to be a four and if your a four and your reading this I’m sure you can’t fully explain it either, you can only feel it. It’s a constant hurt, even when your happy in the background of everything your wondering if you fit in or when you will fit in or how can you fit in.

[@Amanda-zp3rg]

Yemima Hutapea you don’t. you just go crazy & get stuck in your head constantly.

[@nathangb00]

Damn, really felt that. Couldn’t have said it better honestly

[@Not_Hawk]

Couldn't be more accurate

[@Kelljaide]

i have never related to anything more in my life

[@krystalk343]

Wow. I feel like I’ve finally found someone that understands me.

[@icantseeyou1294]

I'm a 4w5 so I'm really protective over my emotions and other people don't quite understand my temporary isolations and secretive nature, but on the other hand when I express my feelings they perceive me as "I'm dramatic, whiny and I have a temper". So, it's better to write down and process everything inside of me.😅

[@theamethyst93]

I’ve never found anything that has described me better than the eneagram type 4

[@shaarabi8485]

me too it really does describe me

[@lilyz5945]

Why do I feel so understood that I want to cry? Oh because I’m a 4 🤷🏼‍♀️💅🏼👀

[@rizkaaura2464]

Heck im already crying

[@artizzXD]

i'm crying

[@fayetopias]

when you started talking about how 4’s abandon people first i started crying because i do this with all my relationships

[@mjade1673]

Dang, i missed that part

[@sophiejchung]

It's been almost three months since I posted this video and I am blown by how many kind comments I keep receiving on this video. I had to remake this video multiple times before finally settling with this take because I was 1. so nervous about sharing these deep rooted fears/insecurities I have carried my whole life and 2. afraid that I might hurt any other 4 out there inadvertently. But to see that first of all, people are even watching this video (?!) and second, they are feeling comforted and understood in ways that I also crave as a type 4...wow, it has been such a powerful lesson and journey for me. In this way, I too am comforted. Thank you once again, truly!

[@nightonthesunband]

Sophie Chung great job on the video. I loved all the insights into your childhood. Thank you :)

[@kactapuzzle]

Thank you for sharing your stories, they help ❤️

[@wearyfairy]

i'm a 4 and my fear of abandonment is insane. this was 110% percent accurate for me. i've actually been diagnosed with BPD and a big symptom of that disorder is a fear of abandonment! my second highest is 2 and 6 both tied. i think those are the more authentic me and 4 is me when i'm being controlled by my disorder if that makes sense. anyway, sending all my love to the 4's out there. you're uniquely you in the best ways, don't forget that!

[@happymaskmajora8175]

My second highest is 2 followed by 6!

[@e.B.FanFic]

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[@Ghost-wy3iw]

A fellow 4 with BPD! Solidarity

[@justjay4833]

Everyone thinks I don’t care and think I have no insecurities but I’m completely opposite but I just hide it even tho I am so upset and broken in side 🙃

[@crusty-hummus]

I'm an INTJ and also a 4. It makes everything so hard yet so interesting. I love dealing with all my emotions in a rational and calm way.

[@e.B.FanFic]

Woah, that was the first time I've heard the type 4 explained by a 4, and in my life I very rarely have felt this understood. Thanks ❤ I guess therapy was to me what faith was to you: I was seen and understood, through all of my layers, and my therapist never made me feel wrong or different. Unique, but at the same time "normal" (as far as "normal" means "there is nothing wrong with you"). I started to be less afraid of showing myself to others (before that I used to be pretty withdrawn), and less obsessed with the need of being deeply understood. It's still there, but not like before, and my relationships are less disfunctional thanks to this...

[@silentgrove7670]

I have only felt understood once in my life. They left me shortly afterwards. Its been hard.

[@samanthaespacio9415]

your description of 4 has got me sobbing because it perfectly describes me.

[@garbagegal]

I was totally prepared to not be on board with the "abandonment" aspect of being a 4 buuuut OMG the story about crying waiting for you parents to pick you up! That was 100% me, and I never could explain why. My mom to this day cannot get over the pain it caused her when she would pick me up and I was hysterical thinking she wasn't going to get me. It hurt her deeply and damaged our relationship in some ways so early on because she felt like I didn't trust her, or that I judged and expected more from her (And she's a 1 and a Virgo, and I was the first born - so lord knows she did everything she could PERFECTLY - but I could never stop the fear)...So anyways, thank you for the insight and sharing your story :)

[@sophiejchung]

oh my goodness, my mom is also a 1 and I am also the first born in my family! so. many. commonalities. wow. thank YOU for watching and taking the time to share a bit of your own story :-)

[@foottoast4235]

zodiac signs mean nothing its pseudo science

[@CuddleClaw.]

Great video. This is completely like me. I’m also ISTP, and HSP, and highly empathic. I feel healthy finally, but also still emotionally chaotic inside, everything is felt so deeply and I feel crazy half the time. Learning how to deal with all that has increased my quality of life significantly. Thank you for your video, you explained everything thoroughly and in a simple way, perfectly done.

[@indy6797]

As a four I have moments where I feel completely like myself and it’s amazing. Like I think accepting the way my parents or other loved ones see me and being receptive to their emotions and care for me has really helped me to feel less alone, even if they will never fully understand me. I just pretend they do and that helps a lot too.

[@miriam3700]

I wasn't expecting the last part - for you to say something about God. I'm so happy to hear it! I was reading through comments half-amazed at people crying through your video until I reached that part and teared up myself 😂 especially the part where you said "to hold me in that known-ness" I have struggled SO MUCH with this. I have hurt and ached over "not being known in the way I craved to be known"... it affects relationships, and I realize now, it's even selfish to ask that of people. because it's literally next to impossible, and it just becomes all about me, and the Bible commands us to love others, to die to our selfish desires. we are supposed to love and serve others in the same way Christ did. what a great comforting truth that God sees us and knows us completely, and even so, LOVES us. thank you for reminding me of that! we don't need other people to "see and know and understand us" completely. we need God's love, affirmation, and His eye on us, and that will drive us to love others around us. "You are the God who sees me" -Genesis 16:13 💖

[@twilightfades_7]

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[@madelynjohnson1875]

I’ve recently found that I’m a 4. Reading into I right away had panic, I don’t want to be overly complex, and I have the classic “shame” of expecting it from others, but also pulling away when they get too close. I don’t want my emotions to control me, it almost feels like (a very 4 thing to say apparently) that I’m too much, who would want to put up with someone who is so invested in their emotions!! I want to learn to be a healthy 4. Thank you for sharing this! Especially the last part about the Holy Spirit being the only one who can fully know us through and through. Made me cry!

[@FartsCutely007]

You’re so beautiful in and out. I love your energy and how you are so open with your feelings. Us 4’s can truly relate to you. Thank you. I’ve always felt like being a 4 was a bad thing, I sometimes see myself as self absorbed, yet, people say I’m not. I try not to be as much as possible. My biggest fear is hurting people I love💗 We do have a lot of positive traits!:) I’m so sorry about your dark times. That’s what truly shaped you into the person you are now. You’re resilient🙏

[@Ayesha_11122]

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[@shipwrecker37]

Wow, so good! As a 4 I really resonate with people that are emotionally honest like this. It's so rare nowadays to see someone get incredibly candid about how they feel. 4s seem to be quite good at it though and can become magnetically authentic if emotions are channeled in a healthy way.

[@reaganhadaway6619]

Yo the part about abandonment and your story about getting picked up from school made me remember my first memory. I was three. My brother (7) and I were watching tv when the power went out and all the windows in the room broke from the wind (2005, this was hurricane Katrina) and he ran out of the room without me, leaving me sitting on the couch not knowing what to do. I can’t really blame him though cause he was only seven, but damn I felt abandoned as hell

[@aoiojmnz]

Jesus is the only one that can fill the void we have inside. His love and grace truly overcome everything. I am a 4 and yeah I have been consumed by darkness a large portion of my life, but now that I know God personally, His understanding brings meaning and value that shines a light so bright that is incomprehensible, yet extremely fulfilling. Great video!

[@TheArtofMar]

OMG this is true! Same here, I was 4, too (and still 4 when we follow the test results). There was also a significant time in my life when there was darkness, insecurity, anxiety. But now I found my identity through Jesus and no longer have that void that I used to feel. But of course I still relate with so much what fellow 4s experience because been there a lot, too. So dear 4s, you have an identity. “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you."

[@miriam3700]

:) what a great comfort that we don't have to seek our identity in this world, but in Christ. He is our identity now. even the battles we face, though He promises not absolute comfort, are full of promises and meaning, if we are in Him.

[@sOupira]

I'm amazed how I often find KZbinrs and bloggers from other countries that are on a walk with God. I don't look for it because I search for very specific subjects. Maybe this is due to the algorithm but I prefer my own story ! Anyway, being a type 4 I have really appreciated listening to your video ! Thanks for courageously talk about your personal experience in regards to what you've found on the type. I feel less alone !

[@seo7467]

에니어그램 4번 유형을 찾아보다가 발견했는데 영상이 너무 좋아요 ㅠㅅㅠ! 어릴때의 얘기 하실때 눈물이 살짝 나왔어요.. 좋은 영상 감사합니다

[@foreverconfident1473]

This meant so much. Thank you.

[@sophiejchung]

Wow. Thank YOU. Your comment means so much.

[@Shazzie_Rose]

I am both a 2 and 4, and i've just realized that my son is a four - he will anxiously wait for my dad to pick him up from school, and if my dad is just a few minutes late, my son will be so disturbed (and i used to be the same way). Fear of abandonment and hoping (while dreading) to be seen, loved and appreciated for who we are. Constantly fighting our two contradicting sides.

[@nathmendes24]

You can't be both types.

[@Shazzie_Rose]

@@nathmendes24 According to my results, i am. Not everyone is one personality type. We are complicated.

[@dingledogful]

You captured the complexity and depth of type 4 in such a beautiful and clear way. I've known about the enneagram for years, but it's still easy to slip into feeling like I'm the only one who experiences these things. I related to every word you said here, thanks so much for sharing❤

[@lyndsaysmith1978]

This is such an accurate description! I legitimately cried EVERYDAY of kindergarten when my mom would take me to school. So I deeply resonate with the abandonment trigger. This video was incredibly enlightening and informative. Thank you for explaining so well.

[@amralex840]

I didnt find a deep and simple video like this video . Perfect

[@TheArtofMar]

Wooot hello fellow 4s! 💛 I used to feel much emptiness even when I was surrounded with a loving family and a few good friends, developed anxieties and insecurities and went through a dark season in life, and asked why I was this way and what was the purpose of my life. It was only after when God picked me up that I realized that the void I felt was my longing for Him and His presence. I didn't know it back then, but it is so clear now that my need for being heard and seen and known are valid, and God is the One who fulfills those needs; that's why chasing after unhealthy things and affection from the wrong people never worked for me, because they weren't made to fill the space that is solely for God to fill. Now, I am fully heard, fully seen and fully known~! Yayyy thank You, Jesus! Keep seeking friends, because when we do, we will find. 🌱

[@sophiejchung]

beautiful :'-) thanks for sharing!

[@masterpys2693]

As a Four, I really like what you said about envy. I was always so competitive when I was younger. I'm not less competitive now, only know how to reign it in in order to not act like a child throwing tantrums. But it still gets into my head, bursts out and ruins my relationships. I absolutely agree that Fours don't have feelings but are their feelings. So weird how we can only describe Fours in such conflicting and odd sentences. I can't keep my emotions in. I always have the drive to let others know what I feel, regardless of how I logically know I shouldn't at some situations. It leads me to being passive aggressive and very mean to people. Then after I let those feelings out, I become generous and loving and caring again but they don't trust me anymore. I really need to learn how to healthily let my feelings out without hurting or pushing others in the process.

[@savannahkaitlin]

I know this video is from 2019, but I just found it and this helped me so much. I am a 4 through and through and it's taken me a long time to learn that the Lord understands me so much more than I understand myself and better than anyone else ever will be able to! He made us this way for a reason and I'm learning to glorify Him in that! Sorry I'm late to the party but thank you for this video girlie

[@mismiserables]

I remember as a child when my entire family forgot that I was at school, nobody came to pick me up until super late lol I'm a 4 but also an intp...so calling me up when you're going through things...I won't know how to help or make you feel better.

[@Mandymtin]

Hello twin!

[@somethingaboutnay6019]

imagine being a type 4 and a libra :O

[@jacqueswillemse2465]

I am :l what would you say about it? I’m quite curious.

[@mannystyles33]

That’s me! 🤭

[@lothekitty1327]

SAN Thank goodness I’m a 4 & a Taurus. At least I’m able to calm down when the emotions hit 😂

[@hannahc6532]

meeee

[@haileyk4772]

Imagine being a scorpio, type 4w5, an infj aaaand a HSP.... Exhausting.

[@alexc.7035]

Oh god my parents have ALWAYS told me to stop been so overdramatic, exaggerated and stuff liked that. They hated the fact I was overemotional and loud, (and crying for any stupid thing). It got to the point that I felt guilt every time I wanted to cry and even tho I'm past that face of my life, I always need someone to validate my emotions and experiences. I always feel that what I'm going through its "not so bad in comparison to other and I should do better" (such as, I have adhd but my friends with also ADHD obviously have it way worst and I'm a fking failure so I clearly can speak about my struggles. I got bullied and school but it was just for a couple of years and surely wasn't that bad so I NEVER have told to any of my school friends bc of fear of them saying I'm just "exaggerating" and it wasn't "that bad").

[@kingofstony1349]

i feel like a four that seeks so much attention but never gets it so it gets to the point where i hold most emotions because i think no one would care even if i told them and if i did they would take pity and act like someone there not to make me feel better

[@MicmicJuane]

Thank you so much for including the spiritual aspect of the type 4! I've been binge watching so many videos about Type 4s as I really want to understand myself better, but something still felt like it was missing, which was definitely the spiritual side of our beings.

[@kyrababinski3487]

Fresh 4 here.. overwhellemed with all the info about my type which is mostly negative so I found your video very helpful and encouraging and different from the others. I am curious about the things I could do for myself to be a healthy 4? I want to be a blessing to those around me and walk in that balance of knowing my worth in Christ and also allowing the Lord to point out my sins without such dramatic response. Do you have a video on this? I could use the help! Thanks so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@sophiejchung]

Hi Kyra! I too was so so so overwhelmed the first time I read about the 4...I remember crying because I felt so attacked by all the negative (things that I too knew and already disliked about myself!). Which is why I took extra care when making this video. I am also on the road to figuring out how best to be healthy in my 4-ness, being convicted of my faults as need be but also use my 4 strengths to really live for Him and love on others. Thanks for watching and for the idea to make a follow-up video about living out in faith as a 4! I would love to make it happen sometime soon and learn from fellow 4s like you along the way :-)

[@kyrababinski3487]

It's encouraging to hear from another like me! It's especially lonely as a four so I'm thankful for this connection :) I'll be praying for you! I'm thinking about making my own videos as a way of expressing myself. This is a big deal and comes with lots of negative thoughts of course. I'm hoping to push past them and go for it soon! Def could use prayer for that. I have a phone that isn't up to speed nor the funds to acquire such a thing so I don't know if it's possible, but with God it is! He can do anything. 🙌🏻❤️ Anyways 😂 your a blessing! Happy to have stumbled across your channel.

[@naaberfindmoi2791]

2:40 is more about attachment styles rather than enneagram. I as an enneagram 4 don't have this fear because I have a secure attachment style

[@KaySade321]

Very helpful breakdown.

[@matotry]

That last bit about the holy sprite brought me to tears because that’s exactly true. Thank you.

[@Shazzie_Rose]

Thank-you for connecting it with your relationship with God. My favourite scripture when i was a teen was that,even if my mom and dad abandon my, He will never forsake me.

[@silentgrove7670]

Yep, the greatest desire of a four is to be known and understood. It is ironic that from this I have found I easily understand others or so I believe. Perhaps that is a kind of projection. As a four abandonment (which has occurred) it is particularly painful or so it seems to myself. Due to several challenging friendships in the last several years I am having a difficult time trusting people as I once easily did. This itself is a problem because it leads to a place of aloneness of a kind that is hard to describe.

[@gaiainanna9069]

Everything that is said everywhere about four is true for me. Crazy

[@lothekitty1327]

Description of 4 sounds really obnoxious! I’m also a 4 btw. But even I get annoyed by how self centred 4 is described as. Unhealthy & younger 4 is hard to deal with, moody, & thinks everything revolves around them. I know, because I used to be that! As an adult, you realise you need to get out of your head & live real life. Look outside, there are so many people that have real suffering in their lives. To younger 4s, stop being obsessed with wanting to be different & noticed, you do get noticed 4s, because you don’t fit in!

[@carsonwillis2403]

AMEN!! I feel that so much and God gets all the glory!

[@Bayle13]

As a four this really meant a lot to me, and as a christian it was really nice to hear you say that about the Holy Spirit. I am thankful that I stumbled onto this

[@SlightlyFoxed84]

I wouldn't have minded 10+ minutes. This was very interesting. I can totally relate to everything you said. Fortunately I have a few friends and family who understand or at least try to. I hope you have somebody like that too.

[@keithbell6003]

I'm 47 and I am a 4. It's been a living hell at times. I didn't know anything about the enneagram until a couple of years ago when I listened to 20 straight hours of Richard Rohrs lectures. I have realized that being put in public school away from my home was one of the many traumas that I never got over and much of my life has been trying to get back home.

[@antoinette4995]

Thank you for sharing. I never knew my type until today and decided to search KZbin (for more info). As a 4, it was great getting a description from another 4 (which was excellent).

[@QueenAlita]

Oh my goodness, I can completely identify with the story about waiting for parents to pick you up...just waiting and waiting to see my dad's blue Datsun. It was always hard and on some days my parents came hours later or sent someone else to pick me up and both scenarios shattered me😔. I love what you said about how Holy Spirit is the only One who could fill the void...definitely my experience...life is so much more meaningful and way more bearable now that I have relationship with God🦋.

[@lionellim1101]

I just found out today that I'm a type 3 as a core and a type 4 as a wing, exhibits both type 3 and 4. Glad that I found someone who describes really well about a type 4. Great job Sophie! Anyway, just subscribed to you because of your content, kinda late though.

[@ave1497]

would have loved to see a 10+ min of this

[@alicesella7118]

Oh my God, this is crazy, she described EXACTLY what I feel every single day. For once I felt understood.

[@schaianerodz]

I’m an INFJ type 4 and I was the same as a child. I would cling onto the kitchen table because I didn’t want to get on the school bus, I would cry at school because I thought I was going to be abandoned there and no one was going to pick me up. I feel so validated by this video, thank you! 💖

[@EJMusic735]

Amazing job! Thank you for sharing! Especially what you said at the end. That gave spoke to my soul ❤️

[@sonachouldjian9945]

how is this so so so soooo accurate

[@avalepre1304]

Omg the abandonment thing I’ve never even realized I had such issues with. Since I was literally 4 I needed constant reassurance that my parents loved me and every night I would ask them do you still love me and even now I feel the need to constantly get that validation from everyone. This video made me emotional cuz I feel understood lol

[@YORKEROCK.DA-VINCI]

I loved it ..........

[@isabellehartsell2593]

It makes me so sad that I relate to this so much

[@t0n3tte]

holy shit this made me cry fr fr

[@LovaLova808]

I'm not crying..that spiritual growth tho will get ya! Great job.

[@larahealy3509]

I was going to write a whole paragraph about how insightful this video was for me, but it was too insightful to the point where I can't even describe my deep and complicated feelings about it

[@faithlawes4240]

Typical 4, I'm in tears from watching this. You spoke to my soul, thankyou for this.

[@justhere3264]

as a type 4: when i was younger, i would have nightmares about my dad leaving me and never coming back. so the fear of abandonment in incredibly true.

[@Nozrhul]

The abandonment sound effect gave me the chills

[@aaliyah6786]

I feel really understood rn

[@charliebeans3202]

This is beautiful.

[@marketa4074]

I'm a four, I just found out. I think I've been aware of most of my weak spots for some time, yet it's hard to hear them all at once. I can say I have experienced a growth towrd the healthier side and that only started happening once I devoted myself to study Bible and God's character and seeking him in prayer. I acknowledge how much I need him and his guideance in order to have a healthy thought life.

[@teresaolofson1377]

the wisdom of the enneagram book says that four are free when they understand themseleves....i only know this from being suck in traffic or jury duty or on a bus or a plane ...i found myself because it was obvious now i could understand myself if i just sit with it for many hours...trouble is its hard to do it without these types of boundries where i had no other options i work at it everyday trying to be alone with myself and god until i no longer feel hurt and misunderstood..fasting helps

[@yobhsiFehT]

This was actually one of the most concise yet thorough-feeling summaries of “4-ness” I think I’ve watched yet! Great work! I see you/feel you, sister fellow 4! 😄❤️ **hugs**

[@adoptinformed]

I am a 4 as well and recently vlogged about life as a 4. I can't even tell you how much I relate to your video description about kicking yourself for missing some points haha...must be a 4 thing! However, I actually think you expressed yourself really well...you gave a lot of clarity about what it is like to be a 4. Thanks for sharing!

[@silas4813]

I feel called out xD

[@maxina1236]

Thank you so much for your openness i needed to hear this today God bless you. A fellow 4 🙂

[@EstephaniaLeBaron-Rios]

Thank you for this video!!! I just discovered I am a 4! I lost my mom at a very young age and her loss seemed to weigh far more heavily on me than my other 3 siblings. I was told that when I was 2 I would hang on to my mom’s back pant pockets so she would not go far without me. Loosing her was my biggest fear that manifested itself. After taking the test and learning that I was a four this is the first video I watched to see if it made sense. Everything you say validates me and how I have been most of my life. Thank you!

[@sydneehawkins3296]

Thank you so much for sharing!!!

[@EricSanchez]

This is very interesting. I'm conflicted because I'm apparently a 4, but I truly don't envy many people at all... I actually have developed a sense of happiness for other people when they do well. I think I may have trained myself to be this way over the past few years. The thing is I was bullied VERY badly to the point where I dropped out of high school at 15. I think being picked on or traumatized can alter your type. I remember as a very young child I was so outgoing and expressive and it was really society and my peers who dimmed those parts of myself. Now as I grow up, I'm becoming more and more "myself" again. I think it's important not to identify too deeply with these tests because we can let them define our entire lives. There are aspect of 4 which are definitely me, but not all. The fact that its the most complex AND I am an INFJ (Myers Briggs Personality Test) which is the least common type makes a lot of sense. I have always felt very different. But we also have to recognize that we are all our own people on our own path and we can always improve the things we don't like. We are never 100% stuck to one certain mentality or issue.

[@krystalk343]

I cannot thank you enough. I’ve been having a really bad day, and I’ve finally found someone that understands me.

[@angelaparlin8927]

I’m still not sure if I’m a three wing four or a four wing three, as I have a lot of both three and four in me. Which yes, is super conflicting! But I just want to say that when you got to the part about not asking people to hold me in the type of knowing that can only come from the Holy Spirit, I realized this is some thing I have learned in my life but had not put words to. Just wanted to say thank you for that! 💗

[@nataliehuerta5936]

aHh hecc this hit way too close to home im balling ahaha

[@foreveryoung7916]

After watching these videos, I feel like I strongly resonate with type 2 and 4… i feel really torn on which one I identify with more

[@Baulx138]

Found out about I'm a type 4 yesterday. How amazing everything clicked when I felt I basically read about myself

[@toosweet0303]

Omg I used to cry all the time after school when my driver or parents took long. 😭

[@paigeross5948]

wow, this perfectly described me

[@ahavakatz1421]

This is exactly me 😮

[@Byronlegrand6470]

I just took the enneagram this morning, and am watching videos and reading articles rn. And yeah I’m 100% a 4

[@mmw270]

Hi, I really liked your Video. It shows the depth of the Enneagram. You being so authentic though individualistic makes me feel connected. I am a male, I come from a different culture and area of the world, I am of a different age. But if I wanted someone honestly to get a sense of what matters to a 4 (like me), I would show him/her your Video. So, thank you for very much.

[@MatthewMooMoore]

Hi! I am a four! and what you said at the end about how could i expect another person to do what only the holy spirit can do. I need to lean into that more! Thanks for this!

[@BaddieRx]

I loved this! I feel so heard and understood. Your experience is very similar to mine and I appreciate you being brave and sharing your feelings with us. I teared up at the end because God has also been such a huge help in my journey with loving others and myself in ways I didn’t think I could. How great is it to know that not only does He fully understand us, but he also will never abandon us 😌

[@amralex840]

The most perfect video about type 4

[@katiakatiakat]

Taking a little poll… As an Enneagram 4, What is your Moon sign in astrology?? Feel free to add your wing and subtype also! :) Thank you 🙏🏽

[@lunaskisses]

Thank you. Youre beautiful !

[@lydialorincova7628]

OH MY GOODNESS! THANK YOU! SOMEONE WHO FINALLY AND COMPLETELY UNDERSTANDS MEEE!!!!!

[@conniebillingsley3758]

You did a great job explaining a 4. Very helpful in understanding my 19 yo daughter☺

[@Quasihamster]

Constant forging and reforging of your own identity... strong Pluto influence. Fearing and wanting nothing more than being seen... Sun in Leo in the 11H, but also Lilith, smack on conjunct. Drawn to all things death, doom and darkness... Pluto in Scorpio and 8H Jupiter anyone?

[@coconutmilch2351]

do healthy 4's also want people to understand them or it's just the unhealthy ones? i thought i was a 4 because i was going around hoping to be understood then one day i realized i hadn't cared about that for a long ass time. i think i'm like a 5w4 but i was some heavy unhealthy 4 energy. like, not giving a shit about being understood seems to be the right way to be lol but the one thing i cannot give up is learning stuff. i get legit down and depressed if i don't have something lined up to read/learn about. [also tbh type 4 sounds like it could just be borderline personality disorder...]

[@nuggetsss2526]

It's true. I reject the norms and only want to be myself =)

[@catdog1349]

I’m a 13 year old 4. I have anxiety. OCD Generalized anxiety and social anxiety and I’m a hypochondriac. I have no friend my parents are divorced. I feel this video

[@sanjayprasad2739]

Hey Sophie, I was 😭😭. Too accurate. Can you do one on when a 4 is in love?

[@Emma-fe4pt]

I was always told that I was weird and overly dramatic or sensitive growing up

[@sophiejchung]

Same...and I think it left scars in ways that I didn't even anticipate

[@jonnlovely]

Hi, great summary. What’s the name of the instrumental playing at the beginning of the video? I don’t think it’s the frank ocean beat unless it’s been altered. It’s a great beat. Thanks.

[@hannahd8822]

Side note your hair is SO pretty