u/IntrepidSport

2 years ago in the r/legaladvice subreddit, a post was made by a woman claiming that her boyfriend was the cause of the nightmare that had become her life. To this day, her story is still debated on what the true cause was for u/IntrepidSport.
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[@codexnecrogeddon]

I don't think this is bedbugs... Where I live, bedbug infestations are unfortunately somewhat common. I know several people that have dealt with them, including my own brother. The fear, paranoia and anxiety associated with bedbugs comes from KNOWING you have an infestation and are sleeping with and sharing a space with them, not from the bites themselves. They also don't ejaculate all over your chest and refuse to let you stop dating them.

[@EmmaLuttrell]

I was about to say this as well. I've had them in the past and I had no anxiety or paranoia or anything like that until I confirmed my infestation. The psychological effects come from the fact that you can't be comfortable in the most vulnerable place in your home without thinking about things crawling through your sheets and biting you...that does things to a person.

[@codexnecrogeddon]

@@EmmaLuttrell Thank you Emma! Bedbugs don't possess any kind of neurotoxic or psychoactive venom. I think people have misunderstood the bedbug thing completely, and are unfortunately falsely attributing this to them when in fact, this poor woman was a victim of manipulation and abuse.

[@beauxism]

As someone whose also had bed bugs, i think the theory on there being bed bugs could also work; He could be drugging her with medication instead of needles, and the bedbugs couldve been something that just infested. The likely-ness is most probably either the boyfriend drugging her, or both.

[@mffngrffls]

This right here. I’ve had them, and even now every time I lie in bed any little feeling of something on my legs drives me up the wall. So worried about taking them elsewhere or infesting a friends home. Never been paranoid about day to day life or having memory lapses, no matter how bad my sleeping was

[@pranav288]

@@mffngrffls me tooo

[@PressedbySammi]

Bed bugs typically have a very specific bite pattern. I know this is disgusting but they literally bite you in a line until they’re full then they stop. Plus bed bugs tend to go for easily exposed skin, so if she’s sleeping naked or in very little clothing she would have bites all over not just her thighs, bed bugs don’t discriminate either so if the boyfriend ever stayed over at her house he would have bites too.

[@starkid4299]

That's exactly what I was thinking too. I hope she did get a r*pe kit or blood test done to be sure and got out of that relationship if he did assault her.

[@TheAlmightyJello]

She said in comments that she probably did indeed have bed bugs. Not a sure fire 'No' to drugging though, since a verified physician messaged the mods to say that she should definitely go to a doctor, since bed bugs don't cause symptoms like that.

[@lazilylapis676]

Bed bugs can cause memory loss but I'm also skeptical about it being that.. but yeah, its true, they will bite absoluetly anywhere....

[@Viktoria-yn5yn]

@@TheAlmightyJello wait seriously? That should’ve been included as well in this video

[@frenzyXprime]

Some people don’t react to bed bug bites. My wife and I had an infestation and she would be covered in bites and itch like crazy but I didn’t have anything on me.

[@nicolalalax7144]

The twist? Her bf is a bedbug.

[@nerdalotdulac8552]

This would be a fine sci-fi novel.

[@irishjoe2941]

Yes!

[@gregor5866]

This comment needs more likes

[@iciebear]

LMFAO

[@kekagiso]

...and that bedbug is cake! 0_o

[@strwbymlk]

“what if your memory was shit” me, adhd-ridden: wait what was the question

[@claireb5499]

LMFAO

[@nerdalotdulac8552]

Same xd

[@oxycodin2253]

I zoned out of this vid

[@lilcrippie5927]

i got dyspraxia i cant remember most things...

[@oxycodin2253]

@@lilcrippie5927 i thought that was like trouble with coordination or sumn?

[@biguwubill]

even if it was bed bugs, i’m pretty sure they don’t jizz on your chest while you’re unconscious

[@WtJah]

As a former bed bug , I can’t confirm nor deny this claim

[@Kevinjames6969]

Mine do

[@TheShortGirl666]

Maybe yours don't but that sounds like a you problem

[@weedGato]

Yours doesn't

[@weedGato]

This happens way to often to me

[@teorossi8264]

I feel like we really aren't paying enough attention to the dried s*men (does that need to be censored? Idk) being on her everytime she waked up. This wasn't just her not remembering things the best, or having weird marks, her boyfriend was clearly doing something to her she wasn't always into when she was mentally compromised. Even if that state was because of him or bedbugs or something else, that's still really concerning just on its own, and feels like a pretty important thing in this story.

[@alyssstiel1323]

i agree, throughout the video and even reading the comments i kept wondering about that. that detail is one that led her to believe he was drugging her, so it probably was something that is isolated to her waking up with memory loss. even if this is all due to bed bugs, it still is really weird. every time she woke up, she woke up to that. my theory is the boyfriend could have probably noticed she was out of it and convinced her to do let him do that, which is sexual assault.

[@archangel6666]

Yeah sorry for my French but what he did was fucking disgusting and should be jailed or beat tf up! Seriously who does this!

[@cinnyrox1]

Yeah and if it was bedbugs they can travel human to human so her bf should have had them too! I reckon it was the bf honestly especially being a doctor he can get his hands on any drugs he wants

[@Arcvx]

...What? She literally stated that it was something her boyfriend was into at the beginning. Because newsflash, couples have sex. I know, crazy right? You don’t know if she was “mentally compromised”. For all we know, she could’ve been fully conscious during the events but have been experiencing a memory loss. If her boyfriend was really drugging her to rape her, it seems rather idiotic to leave an extremely incriminating evidence like that multiple times, is it not? Seems like a no brainer that it’s bedbug bites. To the idiots above me, no, you cannot accuse someone of something serious like that in a whim without actually having a concrete proof. Does the concept of “innocent until proven guilty” not get through the thick skulls of yours?

[@iMajoraGaming]

@@Arcvx bedbugs aren't neurotoxin vectors my guy, they scientifically cannot just cause memory loss from bites, cadaber seems to be misstaking the sheer terror bedbugs instill in a victim for something the bug itself is not physically capable of inflicting "it seems incredibly idiotic to leave evidence" www.npr.org/2018/09/19/649529045/doctor-girlfriend-accused-of-drugging-and-raping-2-women-and-maybe-many-more this dude filmed himself drugging women and assaulting them, this dude was also a doctor. you uh... familiar with the concept of "post-nut clarity" or what preceeds it?

[@TonicFeline]

Something that really sticks out about this whole thing is that if it wasn't her bf drugging her then he really isn't bothered by her acting strange. Even her friends said she wasn't herself, so surely he would have noticed too. Especially being a medical professional, if he really cared about her he'd put her strange behavior, bad memory, and other symptoms together and think "hmm something isn't right" but instead he's using it as an opportunity to get off? Even if he wasn't doing the drugging he wasn't totally innocent.

[@ao-td2ud]

Totally.

[@creativedesignation7880]

There is this general assumption that every mental health professional cares about people's mental health, which is sadly not true. Mental health care is often more about the comfort of everybody else, than the comfort of the patient. I have been medicated into amnesia (lost a whole week, with only small moments I can remember sprinkled in between), aswell as into a state so close to sleep, I'd fall asleep minutes after sitting down, which caused me severe panic, which didn't bother anyone though, since I was so mentally numbed I couldn't even properly express myself anymore. In both cases the responsible doctors evaluated the effect of the medication as "improving my condition". So, yeah, sadly this part is not surprising to me at all.

[@MassivePonyFan]

He could easily compartmentalize that part of his brain. Double that if you suffer from psychopathy.

[@excalibur4856]

Its possible that she was pretending around him in order to keep him in the dark about her suspicions. She might have been worried about him doing something dangerous to keep her quiet if he found out she knew

[@likira111]

If she's also keeping away from him and forgetting things, chances are he could see it as a relationship going sour and she forgets him pointing it out.

[@lillith77]

There was a case like this a few years back with husband doing this to his wife. He would drug her and sexually assault her but she couldn't remember because of the drugs. He filmed some of the encounters and that's part of the reason he got caught

[@captainhook4258]

@513_cloud withoutwater can u recall any details? i want to check it out (law student who reads true crime cases in their free time)

[@bol8122]

I wonder why he would do this since she is already his wife I don’t get it

[@namelesswolf2625]

@@bol8122 possibly a fetish (especially considering the recordings), but also maybe his wife had realized something was off about him and didn't want to sleep with him anymore.

[@onespicyrn3873]

those sociopaths are acting on their need for total control, one forensic Doc (psych) I listened to states that this is of course a form of necrophilia

[@xhappyponyxwasmyoldname1395]

It’s so revolting, just reading about it makes me legitimately nauseous...

[@benjaminflores7108]

Maybe she forgot she had a reddit account

[@GOTTA_RUN]

Lmao

[@danielhilton2028]

i also was thinking this

[@somename3424]

@@GOTTA_RUN you laugh, but thats a legit possibilty

[@durururururururu]

that would make this even more scary as she may not remember having bedbugs. Her paranoia could resume. but since nothing was heard from her, i think its likely that she got treatment and forgot the password or something

[@RED-jg6mt]

lmao

[@NightmareCCL]

The psychological effects of bedbugs are caused by knowing you have them or had them and trying to get rid of them. That wasn’t the case for OP I don’t understand how bedbugs is even an option here.

[@creativedesignation7880]

Strongly underrated comment right here! Looked this up, cause I have never dealt with bedbugs and it checks out 100%. The psychological effects do not occur due to the bites, but due to knowing about the bedbugs. A person will be anxious and stressed and will have trouble sleeping, since their bed is infested. The lack of sleep can then lead to other psychological symptoms including paranoia. People can also develope delusional parasitosis. All of these are based on knowing about the bedbugs, if you don't know you have them, you can not develope these symptoms.

[@raem7846]

Exactly. Anyone who's ever experienced prolonged periods of high stress and sleep deprivation can tell you that while you can experience heightened paranoia and a bit of memory loss, you don't come to after huge gaps of missing time with cum on your chest.

[@ferrisbueller9991]

@@creativedesignation7880 Idk why someone wouldn't just sleep on the couch or floor in this case until the mattress is worked out. I do understand it's an expensive process and some people have bad backs but still, idk how someone is just gonna decide to tough it out instead of finding a better a better option which seems like anything.

[@mooganify]

well that's any kind of bug, headlice, fleas etc

[@tetryst]

It's an option, even the only option, because it was verified to the highest possible degree. Based on her experiences, somebody predicted it was bed bugs, they told her exactly what she would see if it was bed bugs, she looked at her mattress and verified that she saw it, confirming the prediction. I don't know if you've done a lot of science or math, but a coincidence of that magnitude is a near impossibility. Clearly, bedbugs cause problems that result in psychological effects. Blood loss, sleep loss, constant irritation, inflammation -- sleep loss especially can reduce people to delirium in a matter of days, typically without even tipping off friends and family. The alternative is that the person drugging her told her she should see a doctor, cynically manipulated her not just into sex, but into going out to dinner with her in an amnesiac/drugged state, AND, ON TOP OF THAT, based on the story, we saw someone predict, and saw her confirm, that she had bed bugs.

[@WobblesandBean]

Gaslighting is one of the most despicable things you can do to another person. A large amount of sociopaths become drawn to become medical professionals, because they enjoy the power they have over other people.

[@capnam_12]

Bed bugs caused her gaps in memory though

[@beauxism]

@@capnam_12 That is unsure; as stated in the video, we cannot confirm it. The likelyness of BOTH of the theories being true however, is uncanny.

[@wertiadreams7949]

That's why I perform my own self care and my own surgeries.

[@michaelkiker6912]

My sister was gaslighted and she still cry’s about the guy to this day after like a year and a half

[@rebekahsimmons8353]

Agreed on how horrible gaslighting is. I was gaslit a few years ago, and I’m *STILL* livid about it.

[@lighthoused.]

This sounds very much like psychosis or a dissociative disorder. However, it is still *extremely* telling that these periods of amnesia consistently line up with sexual acts done by her boyfriend. He has something to do with this, 100%, whether he was the root cause of the amnesia or if he knowingly took advantage of an altered state of consciousness.

[@ult5342]

maybe the reason she hasn't been active is because another identity has been in control

[@ChrisS-oo6fl]

Couldn’t help it, I brought this video up with a friend of mine who’s a physician and professor. Someone who’s also very familiar with bedbugs bites. When discussing this theory he said....”No absolutely not, bed bugs would NOT and can not for any reason cause this psychological phenomenon.” He actually called me an f-ing idiot, as if I came up with this naive theory. He said the ptsd you quoted is due to the trauma of experiencing an infestation but not caused by the bugs physically biting the individual. He said the only thing that could remotely point to bed bugs would be the bumps on the legs. But the rest of her reported issues are related to something else...period.

[@someoneidk308]

Your friend is right. It's a damn shame that Cadaber and a lot of people in the comment section and the reddit thread are so hung up on it despite it being bullshit. If OP wasn't being gaslit before the post, she definitely was after. Imagine someone calling you crazy because of bedbugs and denying any other cause.

[@NeiasaurusCreations]

@@someoneidk308 For the record I don't think Cadaber was doing it. Rather he offered a second theory, and felt it made sense. I don't agree with him, the adult fluids on her chest after memory loss kinda make that hard for me to stomach. Something is wrong, and even if bedbugs were involved, someone is still taking advantage of her, a human. And its likely her boyfriend.

[@someoneidk308]

@@NeiasaurusCreations I don't know. I don't like how that theory became such a big focus and got so much talk time. It's fine to state a more "what if though" type theory, but he spent way too much time on it and it really seems like he personally believes in the bedbug theory. I don't want to re-watch the video to clarify this (so I might be wrong here), but I believe he also discredits other theories like the boyfriend drugging her and such. It's also just generally infuriating to see youtubers who do these types of videos not put even the most basic of research into a video. It's ridiculous. Even the reddit thread has people discounting the bedbug theory as impossible. And even if he didn't see that, that's something I definitely would have fact checked. It doesn't make even the smallest bit of sense. Bugs that just suck your blood can mess with your brain? Uh, What? Do they release a chemical or something? Can they be infected with a virus or something, and it passes on to humans like how malaria passes to humans through mosquitoes? Those are the questions I would have if presented with something like that. And I think others would have questions too. It sounds like something from a zombie movie. Not like a real life phenomenon. I very much hope that woman got help.

[@NeiasaurusCreations]

@@someoneidk308 Its such a mess, and partially because we don't really have enough evidence to work off. We don't even have a picture of the needle marks/bites whatever they may be. Nor do we have much more than some seriously suspicious behavior from the eyes of someone who is having serious memory issues. I don't think bedbugs fit this, it doesn't example too much. And the fact we have to add extra explanations to explain details like the adult fluids on her chest just further convinced me that bedbugs just doesn't SEEM right. But sadly I have no evidence, and what we're presented with is at best from an admittedly somewhat unreliable source. Because if she's suffering such serious and constant memory loss it could be drugging. It could also be a mental illness. Or an environmental effect. And we just lack any evidence. Leaving all of this to intense speculation... I fear the truth is we will likely never know what has taken place. And at the very least, I think she absolutely needed to break up with him, change her locks, and cut contact. The fact she SUSPECTS he is capable of it is reasonable grounds to end the relationship out of self-preservation even if I can't proclaim him guilty. And the behavior of doing stuff with someone whos so out of it they don't remind is not something I feel anyone should be comfortable with, especially the victim. So I don't believe she is crazy, and I believe her when she says something is seriously wrong. I just can't make the final thing of saying someone is guilty without solid evidence, just out of principal. But that doesn't mean what she's going through is okay, and she needs help, actual help. I'm just afraid reddit didn't provide it, and failed her.

[@someoneidk308]

@@NeiasaurusCreations It's a real tragedy. I sincerely hope someone in her life (not the bf) was able to intervene and help her. If it was me, I don't know where I'd even begin. Probably test for carbon monoxide? (I think she did do that though? Again, I don't want to rewatch the video lol). Then question my sanity and probably have a mental breakdown. Edit: Also I really want to make it clear that bedbugs doesn't fit here because it's just impossible. I'm beating a dead horse and I know you're aware of it, but like. It's just not possible. She might have a bedbug infestation- that's not the issue. The thing is that bedbugs just don't have that effect on the human psyche unless we know about the infestation. The paranoia, memory loss, sleep deprivation, etc. comes from the knowledge that there are tons of bugs inside of your home and you're going to have to put yourself in financial trouble to get rid of them. You get the same effects if you have an infestation of rats, spiders, snakes, mice, cockroaches, etc. The issues stem from your home not being safe. It's genuinely traumatizing for those who have dealt with infestations before- some develop PTSD over it. My family has had to deal with bedbugs multiple times before and you can't even say the word or else people get visibly anxious. If someone reports a small beetle it means we have to tear apart the bedding. I once found a singular bedbug- I literally caught it before it reproduced- and we stayed up all night washing and drying everything. We melted the plastic of my sisters mattress with a hairdryer. But before we know about the bugs we're fine. We can be infested and we are totally normal. After? Hoo boy, it's a parade of paranoia and other issues.

[@aurin_komak]

Incredible how these high quality, chilling documentaries are made by someone whose profile picture is a dabbing skeleton

[@ricetheories]

Underrated comment

[@HiDefHDMusic]

OMG I just got the name! Cadaber lmao

[@RozyPoyo]

I mean, there's another skele man that does reddit, with some pretty good voice acting. His name is hush.

[@jacobshor5956]

@@HiDefHDMusic ?

[@HiDefHDMusic]

@@jacobshor5956 Cadaver means dead body

[@rhiannonm8132]

if ur being assaulted and u don’t remember it..... bedbugs or not..... that’s fucked up???? how would the bedbugs sexually assault her?? like that’s a big issue here. no matter what her BF is obviously emotionally and sexually abusing her

[@ve_rb]

She’s just paranoid from the bed bugs

[@lovepreetsingh7549]

The problem is that apparently, a verified physician told the mods of the subreddit that bedbugs do not cause those symptoms that she described. She hasn't posted since then and I'm genuinely worried that she might be dead or has even more memory loss.

[@icequeenhr7523]

That's terrifying! I really hope she got away and just forgot about the post. I don't think he would've killed her, that would be too risky.

[@YouAintGotNoTegridyBoi]

Schizophrenia most likely then.

[@raem7846]

@@YouAintGotNoTegridyBoi No, what's "most likely" is exactly what she described. Is it possible that for once we could believe women without calling them crazy?

[@tetryst]

Honestly it seems incredibly likely to me that she had bed bugs, and never came back to post about it because why would she? She would be busy getting rid of them, it's not super interesting, and it's pretty embarrassing. If she went to the doctor and the doctor said "no way these isn't bed bugs" I can't imagine why she wouldn't come back to reddit immediately, at least with a narrowed down idea of what the dude was using on her. And whatever the verified physician says, bed bugs and these symptoms are highly correlated according to the most recent studies, and people pretending the symptoms are only caused by people knowing they have bed bugs are not backed by scientific consensus or even basic logic in that assertion. The idea that reddit predicted bed bugs and she found clear-cut indications of bed bugs -- I just can't see that as a coincidence.

[@onlyoddity]

@@tetryst bed bugs don't cause s*men to appear on your chest after going on a date with your boyfriend. If they're being intimidate in her bed, he would have been bitten too. This isn't because of some bed bugs

[@LL-tr5et]

fun fact: bed bugs don't cause memory loss.

[@user-gu1ed1kb8x]

source: just trust me bro

[@pestifermundi2591]

@@user-gu1ed1kb8x lol

[@Mattquatch1]

@@user-gu1ed1kb8x source: had bed bugs. None of the psychological effects take place until you know they're there. The ptsd is a result of feeling invaded by these bugs in your bed. The allergic reactions are skin reactions, and if you don't have a reaction it just means the bites don't show up very clearly. You might lose a bit of sleep from them, but it's very easy to go months without any effects until you finally see one.

[@user-gu1ed1kb8x]

@@Mattquatch1 buddy I believe you and all and you're very credible as a random internet person, but just because you didn't have the same reaction doesn't mean that they can't cause it.

[@sagoot]

@@Mattquatch1 me too. can confirm. but in my case, it wasn't an infestation in my house, it was on a trip.

[@lolal2099]

I hate that I can feel bugs on me everytime he says bedbugs

[@coilovercat]

ITCHYITCHITCHYITCHY

[@velvetsky3451]

@@coilovercat why must you hurt me in this way

[@annn2780]

the bedbug theory doesn't explain the dried semen though

[@lilypaigeham]

@Hernando Malinche what the fuck do you mean.

[@tetryst]

no, but the memory loss does. Sleep-walking people act normal enough, sleep-sex is a thing, and in these states people typically act on desires they would not when conscious. There is some weird, out there possibility that she was ALSO being drugged, but she DEFINITELY had bed bugs, and it's completely reasonable that in her altered state she would consent to someone she had a long sexual history with jerking off over her -- and if there had been semen anywhere else, I'm damn sure she would have mentioned it.

[@Spaced_essence]

@@lilypaigeham he’s basically saying it’s easy to lie

[@MissimoCat]

Vitamin deficiencies or mould cause semen to appear on your chest? Interesting…

[@kostan55]

@@MissimoCat obviously, because not having vitamin causes your body to ejaculate on your chest

[@komputer6816]

This story greatly undermines all the suspicious activity her boyfriend did. I am disappointed that "bedbugs" are now being used as a scapegoat. It would be proper to first confirm that it isn't her boyfriend, then look for alternative explanations. Very disgusting to see people ignore clear signs of potential abuse.

[@wilczus222]

If it's truly real than man, that's a nightmare worse than most horrors can imagine...

[@RevenantIsHere]

There’s a mod comment in OP’s thread that’s pinned. It says other mods received a message from a verified physician that bedbugs *couldn’t* cause the symptoms OP was describing

[@valentina1219]

If it were bed bugs though, I think it's weird they were only on one of her thighs. Even if she sleeps with long sleeves and shorts, it doesn't explain why bugs would prefer to bite only one leg over the other, or any other spot other than her thigh. The evidence of her finding dirt on her mattress is pretty damning but idk. Maybe she just didn't notice any other bites and just hyperfocused on those?

[@gn4rpz-the-c4t]

I looked up pictures and they definitely don't cluster as much as it sounded like hers were. It's also notable that she mentioned they look like infected needle sites and, well..... let's just say those look entirely different from bedbug bites.... don't look it up. It's nasty.

[@ashleytyler6237]

plus if it were bedbugs the boyfriend would have them too since he slept over

[@mini2199]

I think maybe she could have forgotten her Reddit account or her paranoia got worse and she was too afraid to use it

[@susyvixen]

There's is one part to the drug theory that I haven't seen people mention. It's possible that it wasn't memory loss inducing drugs, but instead drug that can cause Dissociation. That would explain how she was able to drive

[@thishandleistacken]

Yep. Benzos both dissociate and cause memory loss.

[@onlyoddity]

I actually thought about that just now, too. It's kinda scary

[@CyberWarezz05]

I take anti seizure pills and they cause memory loss, but not the loss of motor skills.And they usually affect short term memory loss

[@ult5342]

maybe the reason she hasn't been active is because another identity has been in control

[@PRENTISSVAUGHNN]

I made sure to finish the video before I had anything to say. I am absolutely shitting myself that bedbugs is even being considered here. IF this is a real story on reddit and not someone attention seeking and then dipping out when a random excuse came up from the redditors suggesting bedbugs, then I'm gonna go ahead and tell you that it is absolutely not bedbugs. You're telling me this girl goes into all this detail about her abusive boyfriend, memory loss, character changes and semen, then immediately sees the suggestion of bedbugs and is like "Ah fuck that's it. Thanks yall." No. First of all I DO come from a low income area where I know more people with bedbugs than I do without. I've had em. I've fought em. I've helped so many people fight em. They are EXTREMELY DISTINCT creatures. Their bites DO NOT look like needle marks or flea bites, but if you're image searching bedbug bites and don't already know what they look like then you're easily looking at actual photos of needle marks and flea bites under the impression that they're bed bug bites. They're not. They have a very specific look, typically larger than a flea bite, smaller than a spider bite, and they're bumpy. They also always come in clusters, because the bugs literally take a couple steps, munch, take a couple steps, munch, and repeat as much as they can. And if she had em then the boyfriend had em. Everybody at her work probably had em. Somebody would be mentioning them. You can SEE them walking around your house and on your body and in your clothes, they're not microscopic. And I tell you what, they absolutely do not cause memory loss. You are likely feeling overstressed by the KNOWLEDGE of the bug infestation, losing sleep due to paranoia of the bugs constant and persistent existence, constantly getting bit. But if she didn't have knowledge of the bugs and even forgot about these marks on her leg, she ain't experiencing paranoia from the bugs. Also, if she forgot about them, they wouldn't be infected. Because bed bug bites are rarely infected, only if she's scratching them insane amounts to cause open wounds and letting them get infected. She never mentions itchiness, and I can't imagine forgetting the feeling of a bedbug bite and not noticing it's infected. F all that. Her boyfriend is messing with her. I find it highly likely that she started to panic about the reality of her boyfriends crimes, or that maybe he found out about her posting. She might've shut down the conversation by giving false and very basic implications that she must've just had bedbugs. Or maybe the boyfriend posted that to shut it down. I'm feeling more and more disappointed in redditors that look at a very clear domestic abuse situation on reddit and suggest insane ass ideas that will only confuse and distract the OP from the real problem - which is that they're being abused. I hope this girl's okay and out of that situation because that dude was straight tf drugging her. Disgusting.

[@veilenedream5825]

i'm sorry but the bed bug theory is dumb to me. do they actually make people paranoid over anything other than more bed bugs?

[@siradmin6791]

I've had an infestation for a while. Before I coild move. It's been 1 year now and I'm still paranoid I have them. Whenever I have a simple mosquito bite. I get very scared it's bedbugs and I clean my house vigoursly.

[@boi6002]

What? Cadaber gifting us after Xmas 😭 we’re so blessed

[@HunterHerbst]

HAPPY BOXING DAY

[@sethwilliams3607]

This sounds disturbingly close Encephalitis. Loss of time, acute paranoia, memory gaps and sleepwalking. She should have a brain scan like Stat.

[@enviisyk]

I was thinking it was possibly psychosis

[@Entityyy303]

Neither psychosis nor encephalitis cause dried semen

[@giannibelli7548]

You're telling me her boyfriend, a doctor, tells her to "get those bumps checked out" instead of, you know, immediately recognizing them as bed bugs bites? Yeah, I don't think it's bed bugs.

[@guynfqecgnyduaxyj]

This sounds a lot like psychosis, to be honest. The gaps in memory even while driving or doing something that necessitates conciousness, the increasing paranoia, and the suspicion of her boyfriend - it's completely likely that her boyfriend *is* drugging her, but the delusion that a loved one is drugging or somehow manipulating you is incredibly common for those suffering with psychosis or schizophrenia. It's also possible she has other traumas related to her boyfriend, hence the worsening of her condition when he's around. It could be PTSD-related in some way.

[@Hhhhhh-zt3kk]

Tbh I agree that that's a possibility. I dont want to negate the possibility that she's being drugged entirely, but I have psychosis issues and once thought my partner and roommate were drugging me to the point that I stopped eating around them. They were not drugging me. I looked like a dick.

[@kaingates]

The thing is that when you have this large of a memory gap (where there’re no clear recollections of what’s happened) to the point where you can’t add things together it’s really rare that you act in a way where you can go on public dates with other people. The levels you need for your paranoia to increase to those levels would really alter your behavior, let alone impossible to have a “normal” relationship with someone. The doctor would’ve known he was dating a psychotic person and considering he’s a doctor he knows not to treat her like that, especially not let her sleep with his cum on her chest.

[@fruitygarlic3601]

This could very well be the case. If it is, however, her boyfriend could be taking advantage of that for his sexual kicks. The semen is still raising red flags for me.

[@PeachysMom]

I’m a psychiatrist, that’s exactly what I think.

[@PeachysMom]

@@kaingates people can dissociate and appear to behave normally while dissociated. A person who has PTSD can deeply dissociate when triggered and lose time.

[@ButchBirdie]

I really don't think it's bedbugs. Bedbugs make you paranoid that there are more bugs, not that your boss is going to fire you, and also their bites are in neat lines. I think OP would've mentioned that, had it been the case. All of the symptoms you mentioned about bedbugs are true, but disregard what OP is saying in regards to what she is experiencing and her thoughts on the matter, i.e. that her boyfriend is drugging her. I suspect mental health problems instead, since these wild claims, paranoid, out of character behavior, and rigid conviction despite lack of evidence line up more with delusions than anything else. For as to why she has these delusions, I don't know. Could be a sign of anything from schizophrenia to simple sleep deprivation. But I reaaaaally don't think it's bedbugs. The rash could be entirely unrelated, and it seems flimsy to base a theory off of that.

[@lexsosa1318]

why aren’t more people thinking like this lmaoooooooo do people really think all that is bedbugs? she literally admitted all her friends think she’s acting weird and out of character and said her boss was gonna fire her just from 2 second eye contact. she’s obviously experiencing paranoid delusions.

[@ButchBirdie]

@@lexsosa1318 Lmao thank u I thought I was losing my mind

[@icequeenhr7523]

@RJ I think so too.

[@redacted7999]

for the mortor skills argument ive seen people blacked out on xanax drive and get to and from just fine obviously i dont indorse that nonsence but it is very possible to drive while unconscious.

[@TheAbigailDee]

Came here to say a very similar thing

[@philipmcclelland5778]

Yeah, that part sounds a lot like a Xanax brownout. It’s scary stuff.

[@raem7846]

Not to mention that prolonged exposure to mind-altering memory loss drugs might just mean that she was fully conscious while driving and just forgot afterward, or even that he slipped something in her drink after she arrived.

[@shrimpbiscuit3480]

This sounds like benzos to me, which would make sense with homie being an EMT. Benzos have a long and strong history of being used in this way and the symptoms line up exactly. Xanax at certain doses specifically seems to have this effect of allowing users to function almost perfectly normally while under the influence, but remember nothing about what they did while high. This would explain her ability to drive without remembering the drive itself. There are other drugs that do this, but Xanax is really easy to get and explains every symptom, not to mention it's incredibly addictive and once a dependence is formed, quitting cold turkey can be deadly (moreso than many other illicit substances). It's quite possible that homeboy is drugging her and feels comfortable doing so as he could easily claim that she was using on her own terms. If the supposed drugging were to continue, op would likely become more suggestible, and have a harder time remembering if they were using on their own terms. My sources are: I used to do a lot of drugs and hang out with people who also do a lot of drugs, and at one point I was drugged and assaulted by one of these sorts of people.

[@PhoenixRoseYT]

Med student here and this is EXACTLY what I was thinking.

[@yosefshekelberg5433]

@@PhoenixRoseYT you need to go back to med school if you think any benzo not named versed can induce this type of memory loss.

[@joshpointoh]

But you feel benzos before you pass out. It is such a strong and noticeable benzo feeling, i have never heard of anyone taking so much they couldn't remember that feeling.

[@kostan55]

@@yosefshekelberg5433 "need to go back to med school" dude. they're a MED STUDENT, they ARE IN SCHOOL

[@mrdeatheli]

I know people who worked 40 hours a week, driving back and forth and have no memory of it because Xanax. We call them bar-tards. Sigh.

[@gn4rpz-the-c4t]

Cadaber is weirdly hyperfocused on the bedbugs theory to the point where he dismisses the evidence of potential drug use or even uses said evidence as evidence of bedbugs. His whole "well which is it???" thing: 1. The tone and word choice he's using in his "memory loss can be drugs" bit straight makes it sound like he thinks it's not drugs because of how many could cause it. He also definitely tried to use it as evidence of bedbugs instead despite conflicting accounts and the part where it seems like he's getting his information solely from nonprofessional accounts. 2. Her driving places without any memory is definitely weird, but I wouldn't be surprised if the boyfriend drove the car there or if one of their cars wasn't actually theirs. It's easy to mistake someone else's car for your own if you're far away, especially if you don't remember where you parked it. Imo it's also kind of convenient that she only "woke up" at the restaurant but that could be nothing. Also: "she used muscle memory to drive!" that's not a good argument, Cadaber, why did you call that a good argument. If you're drugged, your ability to react and such is impaired. That's why there's laws about not driving under the influence. 3. "Her paranoia is caused by bedbugs!" Completely ignoring that drugs can cause paranoia too? There's also way a lot a lot of comments on this point basically saying the paranoia comes from knowing about the bedbugs being there, not so much their bites. (Also: I went to the post in the video, which is linked in the pastebin. The top comment is this, from user Pure-Applesauce: "OP, the mods received a message from a verified physician who claims that bedbugs cannot cause the symptoms you describe in your post. He or she strongly suggests that you visit a doctor for help--which seems to be very prudent advice." So take that as you will.) I'm not saying it's impossible that there were bedbugs. The OP admitted to having one of the mentioned telltale signs of them. I just think the symptoms OP experienced are unrelated to the bugs and that Cadaber jumped on the bedbugs theory and let confirmation bias kick in. Correlation is not causation. There's quite a bit to the post that went completely unaddressed by Cadaber. This does not set a good precedent for a new viewer like myself.

[@johnr797]

The bedbug theory doesn't account for anything, really.

[@someoneidk308]

Issues with bedbugs- paranoia, sleep loss, etc. Come AFTER you are made aware of the infestation. I have had them multiple times. You only become fucked up mentally after you are made aware of the infestation. The fact that Cadaber is so focused on it and the comment section also seems to believe its bedbugs and are heavily defending the theory (some even referencing studies that are done on people who *KNOW* they have bedbugs) has made me unsubscribe. It's conspiracy-theory level of implausible, and while I enjoy a good conspiracy every so often, I do not appreciate it at the expense of someone obviously going through a real issue- whether it be psychosis, drugs, or something else. If OP wasn't being gaslighted before the post, she definitely is now.

[@Otacanthus]

This story creeps me out so much because i've had to deal with bed bugs before. I can feel with the paranoia part so much because after a while after we found out we had it, because i didn't feel comfortable to sleep at home anymore, we did a deep clean of the apartment and haven't had to deal with it after. But when we had it and knew and the paranoia really set in, i could feel bugs crawling on me all the time, cus my body was in fight or flight. Any minor disturbence on my legs and feet felt terrifying, and even thinking about it i can feel the same sensation all these years later. Parent's were right, do not at all cost let the bed bugs bite.

[@pranav288]

I slept on bed bugs for 6 months without knowing they can cause memory issues

[@AngerMaker413]

@@pranav288 that’s because they can’t cause memory issues.

[@gabrielcamiloanunciatodeol2566]

Ok how the hell would bed bugs cause memory loss? This makes no damn sense wtf, this seems like some type of early sings of some neurological problem

[@vaszgul736]

Dried semen is the part that needs to be addressed. She needs to confront him about it. Otherwise she needs medical evaluation, psychological evaluation, and probably to set up a camera. Some are saying the memory loss could be a sign of another underlying medical condition that could be serious so she definitely needs to look into those too. Paranoia is also rather concerning. Definitely rule out everything before taking her boyfriend to police or court, because I worry about her being wrong and getting jail time for a "false report" or even being right but not having enough evidence.

[@ashleighadams8343]

As someone whose apartment got infested with bed bugs because of a neighbouring apartment, paranoia, anxiety, etc. are all real side effects. It took me almost a year to be able to sleep normally even after I cleaned, threw out my mattress, moved, etc. I never experienced memory loss though. So, this is a really hard one to call.

[@hd5783]

Drug

[@basicytgamer9983]

He forgot about his memory loss, what a genius

[@PuppeteerGaming]

@@hd5783 I'm almost certain it's bedbugs, but we will never be certain until we have an update from the op

[@pranav288]

@@PuppeteerGaming i slept on bed bugs for 6 months but never faced any memory issue

[@FractXD]

I've slept on bedbugs for 4 years no side effects

[@stevie.5245]

I worked in a mental health facility with constant bed bugs. The paranoia is centered around the bugs unless of course there’s something else going on as well. A severe bed bug infestation will have bugs crawling up the walls to find a place to live that’s not full of other bugs. They cluster together in big clumps of bugs for safety. It was horrifying. In short, if she had a severe enough infestation to show general signs of paranoia, she’d know she had bed bugs. They’d be everywhere.

[@Hhhhhh-zt3kk]

The bedbug theory is really far fetched imo. The mental health effects come from knowing you have them, not their bites on their own. Memory loss only sounds probably in extreme circumstances, which she would definitely have been aware of. The only factor of this that could be explained by bedbugs is the marks, but there's a hell of a lot of unexplained factors here if that's the theory.

[@Cacttux]

You should totally make a podcast with this material, it’s perfect to listen to well driving around or eating breakfast

[@roboticzamat]

Y E S

[@cinnyrox1]

If it was bed bugs they can travel from human to human so wouldn’t her partner have them too???? 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@WobblesandBean]

I don't think it was bedbugs. Even if you have an allergic reaction to their bites, they cannot cause the symptoms that the OP is describing. Plus, not once did she ever mention feeling itchy, which...if you have bedbugs, ya gonna itch. A LOT. The bumps would be all over her, not just localized to one part of her body on one instance; they tend to cluster, but will appear all over any exposed skin. Also, if she's been going to her boyfriend's house, and he's been hooking up with her on her own bed, then trust me, he would have them, too. But he never brings it up. In fact, there ARE drugs that will only affect consciousness and memory loss, without impeding motor control. And yes, they are in intramuscular injection form. Like you, I am not going to list them, for obvious reasons. Also, if the doctor she went to worked at a hospital her bf ever worked at as well, there's a possibility that her bf could have been notified. It's a MASSIVE violation of HIPPA, but sadly, it does happen quite more often than you'd think. I'm worried for this girl. Really, really worried. The dried, um... don't think I can say it without yt deleting my comment, but that has me the most concerned.

[@capnam_12]

Wouldn't it depend on where the bed bugs are and next how she herself sleeps? Nobody should jump to conclusions due to the fact you could completely destroy the life of a innocent man.

[@WobblesandBean]

@@capnam_12 First off, no one's "destroying the life of an innocent man", ffs. Even if she gets a r-kit done and they find something, do you have any idea how hard it is to convict, even when the victim clearly remembers everything? You have no clue how rare false accusations are. Yet you worry far more about than than you do the well-being of the countless r. victims with legitimate cases. Fix your priorities. Second, unless this girl sleeps in a burqa, she would be finding bites on her arms, face, and neck. Not just her thigh.

[@MultiNaruto900]

@@WobblesandBean The biggest issue is that she didn't note about any other possible bites. Remember, she noted that it was the guy pointed it out and not herself. However, a big bit of useful info is that if she treats her bed and gets it treated like bedbugs. Then there is 14:06 segment, which does provide some evidence of a bedbug infestation. In fact, the only piece of evidence against the guy is literally the fact that he works a medical profession that she says isn't his forte as he is an ENT and when he (according to her) randomly pointed out the bumps (5:05), she had immediately left (5:26) on top of never mentioning if he had bites as well (as it might have been covered up if he was wearing clothes like jeans, dark shirt, et cetera). There's too little to go on without making assumptions. The only way of seriously solving it is if she gets her placed treated for bedbugs and possibly checking to see if she has schizophrenia (which another commenter had pointed out that she may be showing signs of) on top of bedbugs. If her leg is closer to the wall, it'd make more sense for bedbugs to go for the leg if it happens to show exposed skin (which it does due to "nightly routine" with the guy) as they'd only have to travel a shorter distance to get their fill.

[@capnam_12]

@@MultiNaruto900 Exactly! I was curious about the situation in the video that I decided to check out the original reddit thread. And I found that a redditor told her about bedbugs and the effects of their bites. And I saw that she replied finding "brown clumps" in between her bed and the wall.

[@capnam_12]

@@WobblesandBean I'm sorry? Have you seen the amount of cases involving false rape accusations? This is literally the definition of rape from her perspective (not conscious). And second I know the existence of drugs that cause memories to not be recorded within the mind (Scopolamine is an interesting and well known example). The only piece of "evidence" that you have is the fact that he works in the medical field (like another commenter pointed out).

[@daddymccloud8739]

He's doing exactly what she thinks he is. All she has to do is write everything down with no chill at all for a week, and as a backup have a friend do the same, checking in on her 24 7 and NOT CHANGING HER HABITS UNTIL IT'S CAUGHT! I premise, he's a dirtbag

[@kolibri5523]

Hi guys, toxicologist speaking here: If you have any doubt abut something like this happening to you, you can ask for a drug test by sampling your hairs. As drugs are potent by going through the blood flow to the nervous system, this can be retrievable as trace in hair samples, especially now that spectrometry have very powerful detection levels. What I mean by that is that a single dose of GHB from 2 years ago can be traced by almost any toxicology lab by doing hair sampling. Especially as girls tend to have longer hair so longer "memory" kept with it. And I am no lawyer but those results can absolutely be part of a file for a legal action, I was doing that all the time when working in forsenic toxicology. That may have sold the case right away. Anyway, thanks a lot for the video !

[@TheJ0kerr]

That background gives me Barelysociable vibes, I love it

[@DucksAreNotWhatTheySeem]

Thank you for that flashing lights warning. As someone who is increasingly more and more photosensitive I've noticed that flashing lights are everywhere and it's really annoying.

[@Gamer-xs3be]

Holy shit bed bugs are terrifying creatures

[@user-gu1ed1kb8x]

it's weird that she has such a problem believing that she forgot something but she's been forgetting legit everything "we agreed to meet up" "no we didn't."

[@majesticwizardcat]

This looked like a case of bedbugs. Memory loss could be a product of poor sleep, I once remember walking while I hadn't slept for about 30 hours and found myself across the road, without any memory of how I crossed it (a busy road as well). This could get more severe the longer you get sleep deprived. Then there's the needle like marks on her and the fact that she remembers things fine in her boyfriend's house and not her house. Also she never mentioned how she could have been possibly dragged. Medication tastes bitter so she would have noticed ingesting it and she would find marks on her if it was injected onto her or she would remember some part of him doing it since she would try to fight him. Also a doctor can get in a lot of trouble if he steals medication and he can't just get medication that requires prescription without any reason. Also why would he do this to her ? She already mentioned that they would get drunk and have sex, all he had to do to get a similar feeling of handling someone drugged was to just let her drink and he himself pretend it. Also since bedbugs cause paranoia, it makes total sense that she would think he did it. To me the facts are clear, this is a case of bedbugs, I mean she even posted that she probably found them! Now for why she disappeared ? I would probably dumb my account if I ever wrote something similar for my boyfriend so he would never find it. Anyway, Merry Christmas and thanks for the video Cadaber!

[@tombleweed]

That's a really sound theory actually! But one (or a few) thing that I don't understand is, wouldn't he also feel something if he's on her bed so often? And if he did, why didn't he tell her about it, or ask if she had felt the same symptoms? And another thing is, wouldn't he notice if she suddenly started acting weird? Like, why would he still have sex with her every single time? She certainly would've acted strange if she was so sleep deprived she ended up not remembering *hours*, and even then, if he's a doctor he surely would have noticed something wrong with her much easier and earlier than her friends did :v

[@majesticwizardcat]

@@tombleweed I was thinking the same thing (first part) but she never mentioned that he was sleeping at her house and the only place we know that they were together was his house. The second part is that he did notice and didn't care, or he did notice, told her and she doesn't remember. Remember what she said about the needle marks, he told her to "treat those sores", the way it is phrased it's like he had mentioned this before and she forgot or something.

[@mathib04]

@@tombleweed I think some people have more symptoms from bedbugs

[@PsychOsmosis]

As a doctor, I can say that this kind of reaction to bedbugs would only present itself when repeatedly exposed, and would not necessarily happen to everyone. He definitely wouldn't suffer the same effects if he only slept infrequently in her bed. To me, it is most likely bedbugs. I mean, she confirmed she had bedbugs. You don't find poop chunks all along the seams of your mattress by coincidence.

[@PsychOsmosis]

For the drugs hypothesis, the only likely candidate (for a doctor to have easy access to) would be benzodiazepines. When mixed with alcohol, they cause you to blackout while still functioning. But their effect wouldn't come and go, you'd be blacked out up until a point, then be fine. Plus, there would be no need to inject them. He would dissolve them in her drink.

[@ego3968]

cryptic title? no views according to KZbin? Promises to be a great way to avoid the family’s third day of Christmas 😏

[@UnknownPerson-wg1hw]

Throwing bed bugs as an explanation and brushing aside the actual sexual abuse angle seemed like half-assed bs conclusion to me. The way comment and reddit talks about bed bugs seemed like how delusional conspiracy theorists sells you of this completely ridiculous idea about an incident.

[@slimeconsole]

100% agree. I really love this guys channel/videos but the blatant lack of reading comprehension, ignoring evidence (like the s*men on her chest, having previously had drunk sex with her bf, etc) is just a half assed, annoying and kinda embarrassing on his part. I really hope that girl is okay and that she’s away from her bf. Assuming this story was real, it’s a shame Cadaber spent so much of the video entertaining what is, in my and many others opinions, an implausible if not impossible waste of time theory.

[@robbieadams8921]

I've had bedbugs numerous times, a product of living in a ghetto ass apartment building. Plus I've had many neighbors with it. Memory loss has never been an issue, especially like this. It would have to be probably the most extreme reaction in history for someone to lose memory over a bit from them. I've had them about 4 times, each were for about a 6 month period, and exterminators didn't do much to help. All that happened was a big inconvenience when trying to sleep, the bumps, paranoia, etc. Sure is possible, but memory loss, absolutely not. I just can't see how that's even possible. She had to have been drugged, or something else, but definitely not the bedbugs.

[@emperorzoid]

Haven't even watched and I already know it's going to be amazing. Cheers to your (very succesful) first year on KZbin!

[@sarlou]

Sounds exactly like dissociative identity disorder

[@GHE_05]

Now this should be interesting

[@coddrew4618]

Prove it lady speed wagon

[@GHE_05]

@@coddrew4618 it was very interesting

[@XxdipstcklovrxX]

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[@GHE_05]

@@XxdipstcklovrxX :D

[@theamazingeuph5632]

I've had a bedbug problem since 2014 and they just never seem to go away. They are currently infesting 2 beds, 1 couch, 1 love seat, and 2 recliners. There's just a fuck ton of them. I've been bitten more than I can count throughout any given day. There's no escape unless I leave the house or avoid touching any furniture. There is a sense of paranoia I guess, but it's not to OP's extent in my experience. I've also never experienced memory loss as a result of one or multiple bedbug bites. I suspect her boyfriend may be doing something to her not only because of how unlikely bedbugs seem to me but also because of the dried semen on her chest. I find it highly unlikely that she (in a normal, cognitive state) would leave ejaculate on her chest and not clean up. I sincerely hope she's okay and healthy.

[@GoogleTrendingTopics]

All I will say is that you 100% can drive like a normal person and forget, later, if you even drove or forget how you got to a place due to drugs. When I was in college, I went through a year of school on muscle relaxants due to a health condition and I don’t remember much of that year, including when I drove.

[@stellar927]

Thank you so much for making these videos. I love to watch them while I eat lunch at school

[@ipulleditoutofmyass]

I had bed bugs for years and this never happened to me. I just felt things crawling up my back every five minutes. Maybe I got just got lucky. Also she didn't seem to know about the bed bugs until that reddit post. How can she be paranoid about something she doesn't even know about?

[@spectrumfunction2836]

They itch like hell. I've had them! You would know if you had bedbugs

[@keither85]

Bed bugs are NO fucking joke. I experienced them for the first time when I first moved to South Florida. Those little fuckers don't just bite you, they steal your sanity and rob you of your reason and logical deduction. They literally fuck with your mind. Even after the issue is solved, you find yourself waking up to every little thing that touches you, every little itch, every little poke. They literally make you lose your mind. It's definitely one of those things you have to live through to understand. My mother, who I had told about my experiences with them basically listened to me and yessed me to death.. Until she unwittingly moved into an apartment of her own that was infected with them. I used the word infected unironically. To make a long story short, she has never been the same since her experience with them. All three of us, her, my brother and myself have always had trouble sleeping, but that experience takes it to a whole new level. Especially like with in her case where the landlord refused to believe her or admit their existence in the house even after she showed him living specimens. They are literally Satan in insect form. Until I had my experience with them, I didn't think anything could be worse than mosquitoes. Oh, how very, very wrong I was. These things are worse than mosquitoes by several orders of magnitude and even that is putting it lightly. I don't think it's possible to exaggerate how absolutely awful bedbugs actually are. Waking up itching like you never have before and never will again, covered in red splotches like that of a heroin junkie in search of a vein. Truly, truly one of the most awful experiences I've ever lived through, and given some of the things I've survived, that is truly saying something.

[@JezebelNeverDied]

Amen. I still think every bump or itch and creepy feeling is another damn bedbug. I nearly caused a commotion in a post office once because I saw three of them crawl out of the seams of the coat of the woman in front of me and she kept backing up toward me. I thought I was going to puke.

[@keither85]

@@JezebelNeverDied dude holy fuck I ABSOLUTELY WOULD HAVE created a commotion! Those fucking things are absolutely no joke. I feel like parents telling their kids not to let the bedbugs bite jokingly should be banned along with anything else that allows people to take them lightly lol. Damn though three crawled out of her jacket? That's so nasty. At the same time I Have the utmost sympathy for her. She probably gets eaten alive every night.

[@jibzzzzzzzzzio]

you are so underrated

[@bzlujapv]

The intro about not remembering and waking up fully describes my Friday nights

[@hoypip]

I'm sure this video is great but i have to stop listening at bedbugs! I used to have them... we got rid of them now but even hearing about them anymore makes me lose sleep lol. The thought of them used to keep me up into the wee hours of the morning. They do make you paranoid, and looking back on it thats probably why i don't remember a lot from that time period

[@squoosetiel]

Honestly I'm thinking it could be black mold or carbon monoxide poisoning. If the symptoms went away when she was staying with her boyfriend then it might be an environmental factor that's not present at her boyfriends house

[@kogoromori5350]

10:50 I think the most plausible theory here is that his boyfriend had parked his car at the restaurang already, drugged her at her/his place beforehand and drove her with her own car to make it seem like she did

[@haraldhimmel5687]

Her driving through the city to meet him without having a memory of how she got there speaks clearly against him drugging her. He is described like some kind of witchcraft master, erasing her memory not only on dates but also from afar. That doesnt point to him being the issue but her perception. This sounds like a textbook definition of psychosis.

[@yosefshekelberg5433]

Holy shit a good take in a KZbin comment section!?

[@Kate-uj9rx]

Im so nervous for her i hope it was just bed bugs and shes got the issue fixed but maybe just forgot posting! May i reccomend a concerning sorry i heard from reddit! It was either r/relationships or r/aita! Ill link it in an edit! This user " morbidmommy" (i think!) Is pregnant w/ her first kid! The husbands mother died while giving birth to him! So now the husband and father in law are convinced she will die giving birth! Like beyond conserned! They want her to make a will and everything! Some people think the father and son are having this messed up bonding experience but i also saw commenters thinking I'd try to kill her! I haven't seen any updates yet and I'd love to hear your thoughts ^-^ !! Edit: www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/eurjt5/aita_for_banning_my_husband_and_father_in_law/ Its been removed :/ i remember hearing it on a reddit reader channel tho so I'll look more! Edit edit!: im on mobile but i think this has a full screenshot of the orginal post ^-^ god.dailydot.com/aita-ban-husband-fil-creepy-behavior/

[@ChesireBunny]

im curious about morbidmommy too ): i hope shes ok and she hasnt given any updates

[@p1nnysk3n1s]

I kept thinking the whole time that her situation sounds a bit like testimonies I’ve heard from people with DID. The scary bit is just the process of finding out and the concern of what’s happening- gaps in memory, driving to places while seemingly unconscious, and especially the fact that a trigger for the memory gaps seems to be sexual situations. The boyfriend is still kinda sus tho

[@gizmo3846]

"I decided to break up with him, but found myself on a date with him a few days later". Lol what?

[@dicti0nary_]

Sounds like disassociation episodes to me. As someone who has had them, I can tell you this is pretty much how they are. She’s stressed. It triggered her disorder. The relationship was her safe space so she went to him during her episodes. Explains how she was acting weird but was still herself enough to fool her boyfriend, drive a car, have sex and even paranoia. Kinda surprised that this wasn’t even considered.

[@jayw.2493]

I'd agree with this theory. Possibly some other psychological issue(s), if not going through disassociative episodes. I feel like most are too focused on either the boyfriend or the bedbugs and not considering the Occam's Razor solution (the simplest explanation is often the solution) here of possible mental illness simply because of her potentially confirmation biased post title. I'd even go so far as to say that disassociation is more common than people assume

[@LaLavaneko]

​@jayw.2493 being abused by a partner is infinitely more common that having a sudden onset psychological issue causing immense distress that happens to directly result in having sex or meeting with someone you don't want to see anymore.

[@enochi5219]

Am I the only one that was thinking of the story of the carbon monoxide victim who thought an intruder was cleaning,eating, and leaving reminders on stick notes around his house, but it was actually himself

[@jamieroanoke9498]

The gaps in memory she's experiencing, especially those while driving, often occur hand in hand with dissociative disorders; this case hints at dissociative identity disorder in particular though. Still it seems like her boyfriend is definitely taking advantage of her in some way.

[@ult5342]

maybe the reason she hasn't been active is because another identity has been in control

[@LaLavaneko]

Stop using tiktok. Those kinds of disorders are life ruining and don't suddenly manifest out of nowhere.

[@VancePantss]

I lived through an infestation of bedbugs a few years ago, it definitely impacted existing mental health issues and gave me ptsd. I dove into a deep depression at the time, felt very paranoid, and my memory did get worse, but that was the impact of my mental health. It's a lot like going through an abusive situation. I'm glad to say I'm healing from it.

[@ronidude]

i remember seeing a readup about this and it was something with a gas leak at the lady's house or something?

[@mack.attack]

If you've ever gone through a bedbug infestation, you know that the psychological effects are from the nightmarish sanity-demolishing recurring hell that trying to eradicate it puts you through. It is so traumatizing. You never forget that smell of rotten raspberries. It's not a chemical process from being actually bitten. It sounds like she might have bedbugs, but that's not what is causing the symptoms. Ambien is well-known to cause stuff like this all the time. Everyone was way way way way way too hung up on the bedbugs.

[@ladyreverie7027]

It honestly sounds like dissociative identity disorder. If she was being drugged she couldn't drive, but she's able to drive during these blackouts. This could also explain why the BF is saying "we agreed to do X" because the alter agreed not the primary aspect.

[@sarlou]

Came here to say this too!!! These are all the symptoms of DID!

[@kh22912]

I wonder... that is a good point. Yet it is so rare that it is hard to say for certain

[@sourgreendolly7685]

People can drive on drugs that cause blackouts though. Also you can dissociate without having DID, it’s a symptom of several disorders.

[@big4headedGangster]

Bro the boyfriend couldn’t even clean up the semen.

[@minithegameguy4674]

"What if your memory was shit" Mine is a special kind of shit, i can barely remember what happened 20 minutes ago, but I can remember my 3rd time riding space mountain at Disney world

[@annie_xo]

There are definitely drugs that cause long term memory loss but don’t affect your “working memory”, so you’ll be able to drive your car just fine but you won’t remember doing so some time later. I used to be on a benzodiazepine, can’t remember which one now, for anxiety and I worked and lived my life with no performance issues, but I don’t remember much of it now.

[@wheedler]

I wonder why she was always forgetting the things she considered out of character, like accepting more dates.

[@siradmin6791]

Some people in the comments said it could be DID (aka multiple personality disorder) and that her alter self was accepting the dates and took over when the boyfriend was around. But we simply know too little about her past. DID usually happens because your brain wants to protect itself from a traumatic event that happened.

[@lesliemartin3]

The red bumps on her legs could in fact be injection sites where she was administered muscle shots of sedatives by her "doctor" boyfriend. The bed bug theory may have been something he put in her head as something he could blame the puncture marks on as to not give himself away. Also, fun fact: there is an incredibly similar story regarding a woman named Cindy who was divorced from her DOCTOR husband simply to be stalked, attacked, gaslit and eventually killed.

[@user-ke3sk6jd3h]

So you didn't watch the full video is what I'm getting?

[@lesliemartin3]

@@user-ke3sk6jd3h why did I mention something that was already mentioned? Or did I make an uninformed comment? Who gives a shit. Is this what you do all day?......proofread so you can be that person that points out an inconsistency? Just watch the video and relax sheesh...

[@imastuffedgoat7615]

If I were in OP's shoes and I found out it was bedbugs all along, I'd feel ashamed for making such terrible assumptions about someone and making those assumptions public, even anonymously. I don't think I'd want to come back and tell everyone that that assumptions/allegations I'd made were so far from reality. A false rape allegation is one of the worst things that can happen to a man and if bedbugs were the culprit, he's lucky as hell that OP didn't give out his identity.

[@wheedler]

I was thinking the opposite, that she'd probably be too ashamed to return and tell her story if the rape kit came back positive. I'd think she'd want to give thanks if it turned out to be bedbugs all along and they provided the solution.

[@imastuffedgoat7615]

wheedler She already said flat-out that he was drugging her and she was waking up with dried semen on her. That’s as close as you can get to a rape accusation without directly saying you were raped. All a rape kit does is collect DNA, fibers, debris, etc. and doesn’t prove that a rape occurred. It shows that sex occurred and collects evidence of who the other party was. A rape kit won’t tell you whether the sex was forced or consensual. A rape kit won’t tell you if you were drugged or simply lost your memory due to some other factor. Leaving needle marks on her body and drawing attention to them would be an incredibly stupid move if they were evidence of a crime. BF is a doctor and would know how to make injections discreet. If OP thinks she’s being drugged, she can get lab work done. She’s been extremely open and upfront about everything involving the drugging/rape allegations, but a bit dodgy with the possibility of it being bedbugs.

[@wheedler]

@@imastuffedgoat7615 Sorry, I missed the part where she confirmed that he was drugging her. Case closed.

[@imastuffedgoat7615]

wheedler “I want him to be punished” “Is there a way to have blood work done to see what kind of drug HE IS using on me?” That’s a rape accusation if I ever saw one. Her use of the word “is” rather than “may be” or “could be” make it an accusation.

[@cherrybomb1095]

whether or not it was bedbugs, she was still being sexually assaulted while not fully conscious. he was still taking advantage of her.

[@trope5105]

She should set up a spy cam, or two, or 6, all over her bedroom n house, as well as getting a toxicology report on your/her blood!!! This is SO not cool!

[@coldhotpocket1495]

When driving, a person may be in a self-induced coma .... That's why we often don't have the memory of us driving

[@rdy2dstry]

Plot twist.. the boyfriend planted the bed bugs.

[@Dr.E7HER]

I’ve heard stories of people driving home from the dentist and not remembering anything. They are knocked out by the gas in the dentist chair and the next thing they know they’re making a sandwich in their kitchen

[@s_u_l_f_u_r]

This sounds to me like multiple personality or some kind of dissociative disorder more than drugs or bed bugs. However, the bed bugs causing paranoia would explain the evident paranoia the girl is having about her bf drugging her just because he’s a doctor and “he knows those things”. WHICH COULD BE POSSIBLE, don’t get me wrong, but the bed bug theory holds more weight. I still believe it’s a mental disorder situation.

[@jordonmeadows4913]

I have personally had a long term bed bug infestation when I was a teen. Bed bug bites do not do any of these things. If you do have an allergic reaction the bites just swell up like welts. Although the PTSD thing is accurate...

[@lillith77]

If he's doing this, he is obviously invested and could have driven her car there to make it seem more believable. Possible vs plausible here...bed bugs doesn't seem like the most plausible answer. If her symptoms had been going on for while, regardless of her relationship with the bf, I'd think it could be bugs. The bugs are definitely not leaving the semen on her breasts. You would think that if it wasn't the bf him as a doctor would be concerned

[@manwhosayshi1910]

Scariest part about this video was that outro, it scared the shit out of me

[@violenceisfun991]

"Pee toothpaste" on a toddler

[@yu-mi9026]

Just made an second Account and liked;) all for my fav youtuber

[@Draikinator]

I lived for months in a house infected by bed bugs when I was 18 and it was horrible- the paranoia is definitely real. I don't recall having any memory problems- but I constantly had insomnia and anxiety. BUT the bites were EVERYWHERE, they bit every single night, the idea she would only have bites on her thigh is strange- and if the boyfriend slept over there during that time he probably would have been bitten at some point, too, and since he clearly like, noticed them and is a doctor he would probably realize it. and those bites itch like HELL, they burn and itch so bad i would be in tears. I cant imagine her not mentioning it. dont know what she saw, it could have been bed bug debris, but I feel like she might have seen live ones at some point since its been weeks or months. I'm not entirely sold on the drug theory because it doesnt seem consistent with what I know about drug induced memory loss, but Im not sure how I feel about the bed bug theory either. maybe theres another kind of bug?

[@v4603]

This brings me back to when I suffered with a bedbug infestation. The paranoia was real. Every sound and smell became something sinister to me, eventually I became too scared to even sleep in a bed and I ended up sleeping on the living room floor for years. Even though I cleaned out my bedroom many times, I was terrified, even breathing the air in there felt toxic, and I basically abandoned it for years (only going in to very quickly get something when absolutely necessary).

[@shrinkman7085]

Psychiatrist here (do not take this post as a diagnosis or medical advice-I’m only going off the details presented in a general manner). Sounds to me more like first episode psychosis considering the paranoia has generalized to other aspects of her life (i.e. work) and the lack of concrete evidence suggesting that her boyfriend is actually doing anything to her. Based on the general details of her posts, OP is probably in her early-mid 20s which places her around the average age for the onset of schizophrenia in females. Although the bed bugs could certainly provoke paranoia in individuals attempting to try to go to sleep (or paranoia regarding being bitten again), OP describes symptoms more consistent with persecutory delusions (fixed false beliefs) that are completely unrelated to a bed bug infestation. This is not a known symptom of bed bug bites and see this as being unlikely. Additionally, if her boyfriend was regularly staying with her as suggested, it would be expected that he too would be experiencing bites, which he would assume fly be able to readily identify as this is a common skin condition that we are taught in medical school. As for her final post, it is very well possible that she did go to the hospital and explain her symptoms and was started on psychiatric treatment or admitted to inpatient hospitalization at that time.

[@sqweemish6173]

Dude I'm so glad I'm not the only person who thought bed bugs weren't real...

[@cole4342]

this whole "imagine if xyz was happening and you were blacking out" scenario at the beginning of the video is just a description of how it is to live with a dissociative disorder like i do lol

[@RachaelClag]

You have obviously never actually HAD bedbugs. Saying that they could cause memory loss is like saying fleas or head lice bites could cause memory loss! She would have felt the red lumps and been scratching them before she even saw them. The are near impossible not to scratch, so itchy!! The bites would not be limited to one region of her body... AND bedbug bites turn up in groups of 3! "Breakfast lunch and dinner", as is said of them! They sit on you all night and suck blood from 3 different spots without moving far, usually in a line, every night! All of the symptoms you mention in relation to paranoia, insomnia etc are due to the insidious nature of bedbugs. They don't have anything in their bite that can make you get those symptoms... it is the sheer frustration of cleaning your room over and over and being unable to sleep because of the itchiness and anything that touches you in bed feels like one crawling on you, so you have to sit up to look, then search the area just in case... etc! Bed bugs DO drive you crazy but not at all in the way you are inferring. It could be worse if she didn't know she had them but they breed so fast she would have seen one after a few weeks.. they stink too a ... and the bites are unmistakable! Nothing like injection sites, they swell right up as you can't help scratching them in your sleep. It wasn't bedbugs! What she described could have been dirt. Why only along the wall side of the mattress? Bedbugs get all around the edges.. pluses they smell and blood exposes out of them if they get squashed! Nothing like chocolate. Also.. the boyfriend would have been covered in bites too! It wasn't bedbugs! Carbon monoxide or gas leak, maybe.

[@soulfly3438]

your completely guessing about the driving. we have no idea or clue how well she drove. people can drive super fucked up