Women who have rejected men, what's the worst way a guy has taken it?

[@victoriakinny9210]

Quick shout out to all the women that didn't live through rejecting a man to be able to tell their stories

[@meganchambers8108]

Right?? We know the worst way a guy has taken this news, it happens all the time. But then can't go on reddit to tell about it.

[@SilveryBlue1010]

There's a case recently where a girl rejected a guy, he gone and off her and her family, it's horrible. Psychos man.

[@XxCircus_freakxX]

This is sad, however true 😔

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

And then they listen to Manosphere podcasts and complain how evil modern women are.

[@feraltaco4783]

I said this on another video. A barista smiles at him. He develops this relationship in his head. She rejects him. Next thing you know, he's set fire to the coffee shop and barricaded the doors, locking everyone inside. Maybe not this specific scenario but this kind of thing happens. Afterward, the court goes soft because he was a sad boy. Where tf did we go wrong as a species?

[@SatyrToon]

As a wise TikToker once said: "Ladies, If a man is threatening to off himself over you, keep walking. That's between him and God."

[@XxCircus_freakxX]

I'm an atheist but I will still be using this thank you lol

[@aliendragons_corruptedSoul]

The grim reaper doubt god would accept suidcidal attempts actually we all be assuming if there was a god and don’t get me started on the artifact that they found so are artifacts in egyptian

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

God doesn't exist. Just leave him. Let others care for him.

[@ruejules4418]

@@CordeliaWagner1999 well let the believers believe and ignore the comment hun

[@saagabragi6938]

​@@aliendragons_corruptedSoul What artifact?

[@jordynm9049]

What’s interesting about this video is that the women that have experienced the worst are not here today. They have been killed by men for rejecting their romantic advances

[@TaterKakez]

The one poster mentioned her sister who was murdered by her husband.

[@thimalidassanayake]

😢

[@moniqueengleman873]

So true.

[@skepticalparanoidme]

This remind of the case of Japanese girl getting tortured and killed by saying no to a little boy

[@meztlistormheart2636]

The second woman my stalker was bothering is why he's in jail. For some reason they decided to drop my charges against him because "it's equal you hospitalized him". Mine was self defense. Her family had the funeral the day of my trial for harming him for breaking in. My charges were dropped, but still

[@cheyanngluck8194]

And yet people will say "why didn't she just say no?". This shit is why. We say yes to placate and pacify because if we just say no we get assaulted, attacked and murdered.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

Usually they project their own situation and assume that we women could do the same. These people, for whatever reason, are not accosted by these kind of men and they don't represent a danger to them. They don't realise that the same doesn't happen to women

[@cheyanngluck8194]

@@andrewb6194 there's a difference between being straightforward with someone who is "oblivious" and being to scared of someone making unwanted advances on you. Just last year two women turned down a guy's advances and were both shot. And I was taken to my first bar by two years ago (I had technically been legal to drink for years but never got around to getting an id so couldn't go to bars). To celebrate my dad took me to my first bar. Every time my dad would wander off a guy would walk over and start talking to me, then slink away the second my dad was back, he did so a couple times. And when I was sitting at the bar with my dad the guy would just stare at me for the other side of the bar to the point I was super uncomfortable, too uncomfortable to drink. I was super weirded out but stayed nice because I'm an anxiety riddled autistic girl who's awkward in her own skin and watches too much true crime. So many cases of women turning men down only to end up dead because of a man's bruised ego.

[@MoMotaroDaisuke]

​@@andrewb6194 not everyone is autistic though. This might sound harsh but not everything is about you.

[@isengarde9490]

You're a fool if you think women aren't just as capable of murder over *stupider* reasons than emotional drama.

[@ResurgentRaven]

Well the main issue at hand here is that if they say no, then they'll get assaulted. But look at it this way: If these men are so deliriously deranged that they'll attack women for saying no, what makes you think you have a chance of being in a healthy relationship if you say yes? Sure, you have to take into account the risks of both, but it's far better to discourage them now and bear the brunt now than to give them the encouragement they need to harass you later.

[@TheKokoroless]

And men wonder why women don't see "you'll end up alone with nothing but cats" as a bad thing when this kind of behaviour is common.

[@larytriplesix]

Exactly

[@HeidiSholl]

Is... Is that not the goal? 😂 I'm literally planning on this being my near future!

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

They are very affected by loneliness and project that everybody, not just women, feel the same

[@feraltaco4783]

I'm already there and quite content with it.

[@Anarchy_Jester]

I love cats and would much prefer the company of a cat than the company of a man.

[@feraltaco4783]

The suicide baiting is absolutely vile. Doing that is truly sick.

[@Raysul15]

As a man, I think that he isn't a man, but instead an entity of pure evil.

[@GiordanDiodato]

what about the one who went through with it?

[@LunaP1]

​@@GiordanDiodatowho cares? One less monster in the world to create more victims.

[@hollalaland]

​@@GiordanDiodato still not okay. Even if you are struggling, putting the responsibility for your actions on someone else is sickening and permanently damages them over something that is your problem alone.

[@fermitupoupon1754]

@@GiordanDiodato I had a girl threaten suicide over me not wanting a long distance relationship with her over freaking AIM/MSN and some old-timey web forum. She was in Idaho, I live in Euroland. It's not a thing that can be made to work between two teenagers. Once her threats got more and more crazy, I decided to ghost her, because I wanted none of that malarkey. Couple of days later I was contacted by a to me unknown account on AIM. This account claimed to be her dad, who demanded to know all sorts of personal info about me, because my forum handle was mentioned in her essay-length suicide note. Apparently this suicide note accused me of all kinds of SA and her dad would not believe that I couldn't possibly have done any of that on account of being some 9000km away on a different continent. I later found out that her dad did indeed try to contact a lot of our mutual online friends in an attempt to doxx me so he could press charges. The girl resurfaced on the forums a couple of months later and wasn't the least bit apologetic about the situation. Even worse she was adamant that it all really happened, despite me not even holding a valid passport at the time. I don't know what happened to her after that, haven't heard of her in over 20 years now, but I hope she found happiness.

[@gowongodmom4851]

The dude who asked my friend “is it because I’m black” after sexually harassing multiple times.

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

“No it’s because you’re stupid”

[@BloonPlays]

That guy must have been horrible

[@briskettacos]

Those guys are the worst. No, it's because I can sense that you're a sexual predator.

[@grobanite4ever85]

That happened to me and i went off on him and said you were sexual harassming me that is not an appropriate time to pull the race card

[@rene3759]

that guy is deranged, also he wasnt pulling the race card, I dont think race is even a card because racism is not a game. also if it was a game you could of pulled the "woman card" aka are you being entitled to me because you feel superior as a male. He is straight up being manipulative and i say this as a woman who is black. Men regardless of race will pull do manipulative things to corner women. I'm glad you called him out and got out of it well.@@grobanite4ever85

[@Demonetization_Symbol]

The whole Junko Furuta case happened because she rejected someone who asked her out.

[@AlexandraVioletta]

Some people can't take a NO. Scary

[@VadBlackwood]

maybe you meant to say "when"? Or is it really "because" and it's her fault then?

[@hazelmint6671]

Yes 😢 The perpetrators were never punished too, because they were related to the Yakuzas.

[@melody_melon_73]

​​@@VadBlackwood, Saying "because" doesn't pin blame on the her. "Because" is cause and effect Cause - Because she said no Effect - He acted out It's not a blame-game, it's just proper grammar. The way he acted was his fault, regardless of her.

[@felicitybywater8012]

No it didn't. Violent people react violently to rejection from normal people who don't want to be with a violent person. The victim does not cause the crime.

[@83gemm]

My favorite (and it’s happened more than once) is getting called a sl-t for not wanting to go on a date. It makes me laugh because it’s so nonsensical. The sl-t WOULD go on the date, silly.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

It has been so misuse that it lost whatever meaning it originally had

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

They hate women and just want Sex and a motherlike caretaker. Otherwise they wouldn't snap if rejected.

[@lauraanderson8785]

Same! Every time I've been called a sl*t or a wh*re by a man has been when I've said no to a date or not replied to a message 😂

[@Commentator488]

She’s not that either way

[@witcherye]

omg same thing happened to me 😂

[@Oddballkane]

If someone threatens to hurt themselves, just call the police on them.

[@Folfah]

That usually ends badly lmao

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

@@FolfahWell not my problem. Don’t use suicide to manipulate me

[@Folfah]

@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 i dont…? But alright psycho.

[@susankaempfer8427]

100%

[@bread9173]

I just tell them that I don't care cause as a suicide attempt survivor it pisses me off as I see it as spit in face to something I truly struggled with. That reaction made the person I reject get mad and they tried other tactics as they were bluffing.

[@agnii_Kai]

Had an ex tell everyone he could that we had sex, this was in high school and we most certainly did not cause I was shit scared of becoming a teen mum. No one would believe me when I denied it. So I started telling people he's so small I couldn't feel it, even as a virgin. Yeah that shut him up real quick

[@dalgona4819]

@@benniejerry89CFF0 bragging rights. The problem is that men losing their virginity and "having a body count" is treated like a badge of honour, but god forbid a woman sleeps with someone before marriage. Instantly labelled as a wh*re, sl*t, or a "woman of little to no value."

[@robertmaybeth3434]

Today on Things That Never Happened.

[@noway377]

​@@robertmaybeth3434things like this happen all the time. Have you never been to school before? You're giving off sheltered home schooled energy lmao.

[@catbatrat1760]

@@benniejerry89CFF0 Basically, they're salty. It's not anything rational, they're just salty.

[@Caitilizzie]

@@robertmaybeth3434What about that story made it seem so unbelievable, exactly?

[@EaglesQuestions]

Guys who _don't_ act like this should hate the guys that do. Gentlemen, doesn't it make dating _exponentially_ harder when women are conditioned by experience to be afraid?

[@stuffynosepatrol]

I'm pretty sure most men do hate people like this just because people in general hate creeps.

[@saagabragi6938]

​@@stuffynosepatrol Then why does it continue to be normalized?

[@stuffynosepatrol]

@@saagabragi6938 it doesn't. That's your answer.

[@stuffynosepatrol]

@@saagabragi6938 I'm hoping you just don't understand what the word "normalize" means, otherwise your outlook on the world is faulty

[@saagabragi6938]

@@stuffynosepatrol Media depicts it neutrally or positively, parents don't teach their sons to not do it, it's treated as inevitable, and 99% of peroertrators get away with it (and people refuse to believe the c Victims). I'd call that normalization.

[@junecleaver4099]

Guys always say " but not all men are like this" the problem is though that we don't know which men will do these things to us so we have to assume that any man could potentially do this to us . Also most women have at least one or 2 stories if not more of guys doing horrible things to them.

[@AlexandraVioletta]

And this from an early age in life. First time a guy harassed me I was 11, he was 13.

[@junecleaver4099]

​@@AlexandraVioletta yes I was 10 when a boy cornered me in a public toilet and intimidated me and grabbed me and tried to grope me . He was younger than me so when I ended up telling the principle of the school ,we went to the same school, she didn't believe me . I was genuinely scared he was going to hurt me.

[@silviac221]

Quite true. But so many men will insist that women do the same. That's a sexist lie.

[@junecleaver4099]

​@silviac221 I have to disagree with you ,women are quite capable of abuse,rape ,sexual harrasment etc Even though I as well as so many women have suffered these things at the hands of men doesn't negate the fact that men can be subjected to these things by women who are just as bad as their male counterparts.

[@basnaspe4578]

It is...mixed? Like...I don't think the numbers are even closely to similar, but anyone saying no women ever exist to do that is lying to oneself. @@silviac221

[@alixthompson2836]

I rejected a guy and a few days later he sent me a text late at night that said “your bedroom light is on, you should be sleeping.” Freaked me out really badly as my bedroom light was on when he sent the text. You could only see my bedroom window from my street and he lived one town over from me. I triple checked that all my doors and windows were locked that night.

[@Equalizer2922]

They ever catch that guy?

[@joshuastrittmatter4188]

Holy mother of shit…😨

[@lilscenechick1995]

That’s actually terrifying. He wanted you to be scared that’s why he said that.

[@SA-ey6nt]

​@@Equalizer2922catch him? 😂 This the real world, for what?

[@shani.ninety]

It sounds like his lights are on but no one is home how unhinged.

[@takay6502]

I rejected my former classmate, trying to be respectful and told him I had a boyfriend. He started stalking me around school, sometimes he was waiting for me around my car in the parking lot, and one time he appeared behind my door (where my bf was living with me). He thought that if only I was single I'd totally be into him, it was completely impossible to him that I didn't want him. I started losing my shit when he absolutely couldn't take a "NO", and told him to fvck off, to which he told me "I had a talk with my buddy and we think you secretly like me". WTF!? Looking back I should have went to authorities, but luckily he left me alone when I moved away.

[@MadeInKanadaa]

He didn’t leave you alone sweety. You moved away… 😢 like it stopped once you MOVED

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

The buddy talk was a bluff. That's why he assumed that you were not serious with boyfriend, because he was bluffing and so have you to be

[@skepticalparanoidme]

The "You say, you have a boyfriend but I know that you like me" are one of the worst because they so delusional and creepy. They stop only when you show that you can and will fight back if they try to sexually harassing you.

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

Men, if a woman is scared or nervous around you hitting on them, other guys have given us significant reason to be worried. Men, be respectful and woman, remember, a man’s feelings don’t trump your boundaries

[@basnaspe4578]

Honestly, it is also weird because the media tells us men to very boundaries ignoring. Be it guys at your age, esp. teenager times and early adulthood, or the common things we see in movies as romance. The hell it is creepy IRL if a guy just kisses a girl because he thinks it is a proper timing for him or whatever. I am insanely frustrated with gotten taught shit like that. Also, men's society quickly divides in winners and loosers. Men who "loose" get blamed for that, it is directly telling them they aren't allowed to give in. In my experience, it is the worst in young age, in a group or when people are drunk.

[@catbatrat1760]

This is all really good advice. I should keep it in mind. /gen

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

@@catbatrat1760question: What does /gen mean?

[@catbatrat1760]

@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 Oh, that's a good question, actually! :D It's something called a tone indicator. You know how it's really, really difficult sometimes to decipher tone in a text? Like, if the person's being sincere or sarcastic or whatever else? So, tone indicators were invented to help with that. "/gen" means "genuine".

[@pixystixnfairycrack]

My ex sent me numerous threatening voicemails/texts after I kicked him out. Then he sent a message telling me what I could go do with myself and that he was done playing nice. 3 days later I found out that he went out, did an 8ball of coke, drank a handle of Jack Daniels and then drove his car into multiple cars and then right through someone's garage and into the owners living room. I was informed that he did this out of retaliation for my attitude and refusing to talk to him. Yeah... I'm so damn glad I got the hell away from that psycho.

[@thekameru6058]

... did he die?

[@pixystixnfairycrack]

@@thekameru6058 No, but he did go on to marry my husbands psycho ex. So I'm pretty sure that he wishes he had 😂

[@saagabragi6938]

​@@pixystixnfairycrack Maybe two psychos can get along, at least better than a psycho and a normal person. But why did he drive through some rando's house, and not yours or somebody related to you? Did he intend to do that but was too high?

[@pixystixnfairycrack]

@@saagabragi6938 they were on the same street he lived on. He was extremely drunk and high, left his place and just hit the gas peddle.

[@TimpBizkit]

@@saagabragi6938 probably not, they just get back what they dish out.

[@foxfireinferno197]

If someone says they're going to off themselves out of a rejection, let them.

[@retr0robbin]

The “I took their virginity, they sucked at sex” thing baffles me. Like DUH they’re gonna be bad at sex it’s their first time. The whole mystique about a magical first time is odd. I started having sex before a good few of my friends and told them that they should do it with someone they trust (at least at the time) because it’s gonna be awkward potential painful and suck.

[@Shortestcoment]

wait are there really men out here expecting virgins are going to be natural born experts at it 💀?

[@kimmmerkim5811]

​@@ShortestcomentYES

[@Reddit_Tales2]

Note to all. If you reject a guy and he acts crazy don't stay friends and avoid them by all means because they will assault you any chance they get.

[@pink.penguin]

A "friend" asked me on a date and when I said no he flipped out and broke every window in my house .. he was promptly arrested while still on my property throwing a tantrum like a 2 year old .. bullet dodged 🔫

[@FARWILindarys]

Did you have to pay for the windows yourself? :/ sorry about the creep

[@saagabragi6938]

​@@FARWILindarys Destruction of property is a crime, so sye could at least theoretically made him pay for the windows

[@FARWILindarys]

@@saagabragi6938 yeah hehe, why else would i ask that? I wouldnt want to pay for like 10+ broken windows i didn't break. Fucking freak behavior. (Not you, the windowbreaker!)

[@lorisewsstuff1607]

I was married with kids when my older cousin told me to break things off with my husband and move in with him. I told him no, and he threw a fit. He said he had already told his mother - my aunt - that we were a couple. He said she was thrilled I was going to be her daughter-in-law! I told him no again. He screamed about letting his mother down. Still no. Then he screamed like a banshee and started ripping his hair out. I was terrified and ran to my dad's house and locked the door behind me. That's the only time I have ever seen someone have a psychotic break. If you haven't seen it in person, you don't know how terrifying it is. It's beyond description. He was like a wild animal. A little while later, he left. I stayed with my dad until my husband got off work. We later found out he had removed himself from the mortal realm. In his note, he blamed me. I don't feel guilty, not in the least. I feel anger. How selfish does someone have to be to stop living just to spite someone for saying no? He couldn't even take responsibility for his final act.

[@lorisewsstuff1607]

@dreamsteal4773 it's not

[@KimDreamcatcher]

he was your cousin and wanted to be with you? Despite being related? *involuntarily shudders*

[@lorisewsstuff1607]

@@KimDreamcatcher I'm pretty sure he was mentally ill, although my family denies that.

[@leetyrrell]

I am so horrendously sorry…and you’re right about seeing a psychotic break in person. It’s completely surreal.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

​@@KimDreamcatcherin some countries first cousins can get married

[@PeriwinklePig]

I remember one from the Philip Defranco show about a bride-to-be in India who was being harrassed by a married man with children. Understandbly the bride rejected him, and I believe he eventually responded by driving a car into the wedding ceremony ending the groom along with himself. That one sticks with me for whatever reason. Just that feeling of doing everything you're supposed to, and still being screwed over by the world.

[@LunaP1]

Definitely some major mental illness that is self destructive in nature.

[@BrightElk]

That is horrible. That poor woman. Some people are just incredibly selfish beyond help.

[@copperredd]

On ho...😓

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

Not as extreme, but this Bollywood like situations happen because in India marriages are arranged and divorce is difficult to get, if not impossible. The man was probably so disappointed with his marriage that he took the rejection too personally

[@saagabragi6938]

​@@BrightElk At least it's entirely possible that the bride didn't want the groom either, as in India marriages are often arranged (and divorce is borderline impossible)

[@tessiepinkman]

This is the difference between a guy telling a girl he's not interested and a girl telling a guy *she's* not interested - as women we very often must think about where we are and how we say "no" to a man, because we can quite literally never know if we will walk out of there alive or unharmed. Sure, it happens to men too, but not to the extent it does to women. It's a sad, sad world we live in.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

To men only if another man is involved, usually

[@VR00100]

The sadder part if the woman does do it, the consequences will be nothing 😂 Take Joe Rogan for example, he literally said who dare snitch on the teacher and the "lucky kid", but as soon as it came to his daughter he went into a "dark place" It's not a sad world we live in, but a funny one

[@sindelscat9336]

Not really, simply rejecting a woman is after all, a good excuse for her to throw a false accusation your way.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

​@@sindelscat9336which doesn't happen often and has not the same consequences as being attacked or even ending their lives. And those accusations, like the real ones, are not believed anyway

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

​@@VR00100apart from not being remotely the same, Mary Kay Letourneau and Pamela Smith demonstrate that it does happen

[@Lilli_Loves_Bondi]

The not knowing you're a victim happened to me but at ages 6-9 when I was repeatedly sexually assaulted on the street by a man. I realize now that I'm 13, and the same man still follows me around, even if I just take the garbage can out to the curb.

[@Juubith95]

Please tell the police! I'm so sorry that happened to you

[@sarahmaxima]

Had something similar happen at the same age, only realized at age 25. Is there anyone you trust you can notify about this? Someone who could notify the police or if that isnt an optuon, scare him off?

[@lchambers56]

Yeah, you need to get police involved. Not just for you, but for the other girls he's victimized and will victimize as well.

[@cynthiaholland13]

I'm so sorry!! Please tell your parents or caregivers and the police

[@alexa500]

Please call the police and tell your parents or teachers/a trusted adult. That is SUPER dangerous. You could be killed or even kidnapped and trafficked (aka forced sexual slavery). It’s a real thing in every part of the world. :(

[@erismatic]

A moment of silence for the girls who don’t get to tell their story after turning down an insecure man 😢

[@lilscenechick1995]

It’s such a waste of precious lives 😢 I can’t imagine feeling so entitled that you get to decide if someone is allowed to exist because they won’t be with you.

[@VR00100]

Moment of silence for those who think even a single story on reddit is true 😢

[@InservioLetum]

@@VR00100 Ha, ha..... neither the time nor the place, mate. Your mother taught you better than this.

[@VR00100]

@@InservioLetum atleast I had loving parents, you can't say the same. That's why someone calls themselves "MsAnthrope"

[@InservioLetum]

@@VR00100 If you meant to ask why I would do so, by all means feel free. Might look less presumptuous than plastering your uninformed suppositions, on me as if I'm subject to your imagination. My parents very much do love me. That does not change my revulsion of feeling guilted into capitulating to eight decades of imprisonment in an ambulatory meatsack.

[@__insertusernamehere__6425]

In sophomore year in high school, I was a very short, petite, pear shaped girl with a bit of butt (this is all relevant). A guy I considered a friend since freshman year, complimented me on my appearance in the one class we had together (Cooking/Culinary Arts). I didn’t care about dating anyone at the time, still hung up on my ex, so I ignored his advances. Then, he escalated to saying what he wanted to do to me and he’d climb into my room if need be and how he’d break me because I was so small and had his ideal body. It all came to a head when I was washing dishes and he said something and I felt a slap on my ass. I turned around immediately and got my arm up to punch him but made eye contact with the teacher, who never even tried to defend me when this asshat was loud as hell with his intentions. So I knew if I hit him, I’d be the one in trouble and she’d side with him. I stopped my arm and dropped it but looked him in the eye, and went back to washing. It was the end of class and he started to leave me alone after that. And I never talked again to the other people that sat at our table again after the end of the semester because they also heard the shit he’d say and didn’t even help me out. Unfortunately, I’ve been sexually harassed and assaulted many times since I was a kid until I was 18 by guys. So I was no stranger to fighting and being ready to end my assaulter’s life to survive. I’ve gone to therapy and don’t have as much trauma as before but there will be times things come back and I’m okay with knowing it may never go away. But I still have never truly felt safe enough around a man yet.

[@KitKat10281]

Oh, hon, I'm so sorry! I can sadly relate! 😥 I was also short and had a bit of a chest and booty for my age, starting around age 13. I was a "hand magnet" in the hallway for boys starting in 7th grade, and nobody ever believed or stuck up for me - all the way up through high school. I will say, it does get better the older I've gotten, and I'm now happily married to a wonderful man who has always respected my trauma and boundaries. I hope you find healing and peace! ❤️

[@c.g.bspendersashtray3037]

Women have the highest numbers of PTSD for this very reason, yet it is rarely acknowledged.

[@MrsSimp2U]

When i was 15 , i had a bf who cheated on me so i ended the relationship, next thing i know is im being blamed by his family cuz he tried hanging himself, traumatized me for a lil. But the second person was the worst, he started to stalk me when i ended our relationship...... I developed anxiety and ptsd

[@d-docnemesis7925]

I ended it with my first girlfriend at 15 (i'm also a girl btw) because despite me being the younger one, I started to feel more like a caregiver/regulator for her mental health and shitty home life than an equal partner. Basically I was getting better and she wasn't, which in turn made me worse again and everyone told me to end it for my own well-being. Afterwards I found out that during our relationship she experienced SA, which she didn't tell me about because she feared that I'd blame her and think that she cheated. Maybe 3 months after we broke up she took her life. Ofc you can never be responsible for other's actions, but it's still hard not to blame myself or think that I somehow could've saved her. Also since then my tolerance for anyone using self harm as a way to manipulate is like -100. I'll call emergency services on them, then never speak to them again.

[@spectre9340]

My ex cheated on me and when I got a new boyfriend, he tried to strangle himself and then told my friend so she could tell me. I guess he wanted to guilt trip me :/

[@truehappiness4U]

Dang where do y’all find such weird unstable boys? Wait with dating until 23+ years old, those men are mentally more stable. Find decent men through doing hobbies, not clubs or online dating.

[@truehappiness4U]

@@spectre9340weird, your ex guilt tripped you for him choosing to be a cheater? Not your fault. He chose to be cheater, he’s so childish. A danger to society actually, that’s who he is.

[@kimielle]

A friend of mine ended up saying yes to every guy who asked her out because the first guy she said no to hung himself. She's now stuck in a relationship with a guy who dragged her into a small town to live in the middle of nowhere, and he only lets her to talk to her family once a year. And yeah, he knows about the guy who hung himself so guess what card he pulls whenever she tries to leave with the kids?

[@mama2pokemon]

The worst I got was several assaults, the stereotypical abuser line "if I can't have you, no one else can," followed by stalking, trying unsuccessfully to have my utilities turned off, breaking in at night just to sleep on the couch, etc. I once got a call at work from his court ordered mental health provider, saying he was on his way to kill me, from about three blocks away. He lied to the divorce judge, saying I only wanted a divorce so I could marry someone else. I don't think his orange jumpsuit gave him much credibility. But my lawyer said that's actually a good reason to grant the divorce quickly, not delay it, so just don't say anything. I then continued to get letters and calls from collections agencies for him, for many many years. I didn't have his contact info, but I gave them his parents' info every time. He eventually stopped giving out my details to his creditors. I swore off guys for about 7 years, until I met the love of my life. Ladies, there are still some good guys out there, don't settle for the creeps.

[@cassidyleigh33]

And guys wonder why we're reluctant to tell guys to screw off and instead just tolerate them until we can for sure have a safe way out. I'm also curious how drastic the difference would be between this video and one with reversed roles. Asking guys what their worst reaction was for rejecting a woman.

[@theblazehunter916]

As a guy i like to see the opposite gender with the same opinion that i have and that is some people are scared to cut off a relationship. it can suck for both genders and can get very violent like these story's. it should never have to be that way and no one should be scarfed of getting hurt or stalked but unfortunately some guys/girls can be assholes. And as someone who just ended a toxic relationship with a girl she definitely had a crazy reaction i can testify to that. but i do still wonder what story's other guys have.

[@lukejohnston5566]

Unfortunately women are just as capable of unhinged behavior lol

[@kyze8284]

It’s about the same I’ve heard. Friend told a woman at a bar “no” and she started calling him slurs and started to beat on him, actually tried to break a glass over his head too

[@shibadawn]

I imagine there definitely are some crazy stories from men who got attacked/abused by women. I've heard of some acid attacks being directed at men and stuff like that.

[@celiashen5490]

I accidentally hit the thumbs down button and I'm sorry. I took it back and hit the thumbs up button instead.

[@Nyxius0]

I think anything to do with self harm baiting to anyone is absolutely in my opinion extremely vile behavior. My boyfriend’s ex-friend did this multiple times before my bf got a restraining order on him yet this guy doesn’t get it and comes back with new numbers and accounts trying to act like an old friend. Luckily it hasn’t happened to me yet.

[@lorireed8046]

What is more weird... Is when you are going through some real chit in life and your loved ones are claiming you are suicidal. Nooo, I just want left the hell alone! They didn't stop till I went off ! 2 years of this crazy making... Just to be told I was trying to manipulate them and they needed to "disown" me for their own emotional health. LOL hmmm okay cool story and bye? Another 8 months later they are back to trying to contact me and asking if I got the help I needed. I just said Yup... I'm all good (meaning they took themselves out of my life) and the response was Soo...wanna make plans for the holidays? LOL Nah... I'm good. It's okay you can continue on going about your life. People are so weird .

[@ritaerror7829]

Some people don't have anything worth losing, so they at least try to use their literal life to get their way. In hindsight it is messed up and especially stupid if used for selfish reasons. But like with "your mother" argument, some people just don't have anything better to try

[@Bloomingtide]

This is exactly why, when asked, women choose the bear.

[@Ruhrohraggy23345]

Exactly my thoughts.

[@catbatrat1760]

What about a bear?

[@tickk5448]

@@catbatrat1760It's a whole can of worms. Basically, it's a would you rather question. "Would you rather be stuck in the woods with a man or a bear". And quite a lot of women are picking to be stuck with the bear, leading to men harassing them online and making violent comics of bears mauling women to cope.

[@gabyzz1331]

Id choose the bear as well

[@Cosmic_Ocean_]

​@@tickk5448 So they are basically proving the women's point once again?

[@mahogania5536]

Without thinking he almost pushed me into oncoming traffic. He was a very dear highschool friend, but even when we were both autistic with good grades he saw mine as "the lesser brain" because of my stoic face and attitude; one day I was his innocent lamb and the next an egotistical bitch, he always did and bought things I didn't want and get angry when I didn't do something in return. I'm from a low income household and neighborhood but we can fend for ourselves, he thought I was poor as dirt and that I would starve if he didn't do absolutely everything for me. years later he wanted to contact me again, but since I didn't answer he later wrote that I was worthless liar who doesn't have feelings or memories. I do run just a bit colder, but I don't need someone who denies me of my emotions or past on their own just because I'm moving forward. there is nothing more cruel than someone who wants their beloved to feel the same suffering or depend only on one person their whole lives. He reminded me too much of my own dad at the very end of our friendship and I can't accept such a thing

[@saagabragi6938]

Autistics who are ableist against other autistics are the worst.

[@ladymorrigan5950]

Nex husband threatened to harm himself when I attempted to end the relationship. His plan was to walk out in front of a big truck. I had him Baker Acted. That’s a term used when someone is believed to be a danger to themselves and/or others so they’re taken into custody & transported to a psychiatric facility. They’re usually kept under observation for a minimum of 72 hours. Nex was kept overnight, well under 48 hours. Then they sent him home with some sleeping pills. I always thought it was a brilliant idea to send someone threatening to hurt themselves home with a method to accomplish that. 😢

[@spiriteddefect5125]

Was in middle school and a boy asked me to be his gf. We would sit together on the bus and hold hands. He gave me a bubblegum machine ring, a yellow frog with a red bow. I thought it was sweet. Things weren't going great so for the first and only time in my life, I said I wanted to just be friends. I told him over the phone and he ended up getting pissed, punched a hole in his bedroom door and hung up

[@lindsaymergan3478]

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[@saagabragi6938]

How do you punch a hole in the door???? Or are american buildings just way flimsier than in my home country?

[@Shirley-qk4zc]

@@saagabragi6938 Good question, it's hard for me to imagine how

[@Vsm426]

This is made up

[@absolutemadladette]

​@@saagabragi6938I'm pretty sure that houses in the USA are pretty much just made of cardboard

[@BeeWhistler]

Oh, my sister had one of the craziest you’ll hear. The dude drove in front of an oncoming train with his own sister in the car. They survived but I’m not sure with what injuries. He was in his twenties and she was a teenager and he should have had cops taking him away, not an ambulance. It was decades ago and no one told me anything so I like an idiot told him when he called after his recovery that she had cried when she heard. She got made at me for it but I was a young teen and had no clue in general, much less about her and her “boyfriend” (in quotes because as an adult I know a groomer when I see one) because, again, no one told me anything. You might think they were right not to tell me, based on me blabbing to him, but if someone had just said, “He’s a bad person, he did that on purpose to get back at your sister,” my literal, justice-obsessed Autistic teen self would have hung up on him instead. Anyway, dude was mental and she’s long since married with five kids and well away from that psycho. Shoot, for all I know he did go to jail. Because, yet again… no one in my freaking family tells me anything. Edit: How could I have forgotten the abusive husband who killed himself after his wife finally took the kids and left? I knew them through church and he was the classic big friendly guy who seemed so nice. But it was all a front. The funeral was huge, well-attended… and felt so wrong. I’d been to funerals where there was grief but a certain warmth, y’know? Like you should have when people gather to remember the dead. But at his funeral it was like a voice kept whispering to me, “This is wrong… this is wrong…” Because I was younger and didn’t have great boundaries, I did once say to his wife that I just had this feeling like he’d done it to get back at her. That I was no expert but I’d thought it over, and in the context of remembering my sister’s toxic ex I just felt this was his revenge… “you left me and my death is your fault, and everyone will blame you for it,” something like that. She was a down to earth person and she just solemnly told me yeah… she thought so, too.

[@hwgray]

"the classic big friendly guy who seemed so nice" These guys really *are* friendly and nice. Except to the woman that they "love." Some of the greatest guys that I've ever met have turned out to be merciless abusers of their wives and/or girlfriends, just as racists are serious when they say that some of their "best friends" are colored/Jewish/whatever. These weirdos love the many and hate the few or they hate the many and love the few. .

[@MaudeJasmin]

He said he was going to end his life one day and that he would hurt womens before dying because it was their fault for rejecting him. I suggested him to seek for help because he was certainly unhappy with his life and he replied that he would rather die then speak about his problems to strangers. I told him if I see him near my home or if he message me again I will call the police. I heard from a friend he still thinks about me 7 months later 😨 I have to say I'm still scared to see him... Knowing how much he hates women for rejecting him, while he is such a "nice guy"...

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

He doesn't want to speak about his problems to strangers but has a cheap on his shoulder if stranger women don't immediately cater to his needs(some of them emotional). And probably he got all those ideas from strangers online

[@CinderXiaoLong]

Broke up with a dude I was dating online after several "you're too good for me, you deserve better" bait convos that I got tired of. Dude went off the deep end. Impersonated his "friend" who then claimed he was killed in a military operation, and proceeded to harass 15/16 year old me to the point of contemplating suicide. He also claimed he was 18, but was most likely in his 20s

[@c.g.bspendersashtray3037]

Ah yes, the manipulative "you're too good for me" pity party. I had a few do that and after I learned to see the patterns, the last one who tried it, I said, "yes, you're right. I am too good for you. Bye."

[@fleurpouvior2967]

The freakout. Calling me names, insulting me, saying I'll never be loved, etc. It was all via a messaging app, and a very large wall of text. I turned him down because I'm engaged, something he knew, and because he was my boss.

[@lovelyreen9936]

Sigh. I’ve learned to answer with a huge grin, looking the guy right in the eyes like he’s the answer to every question in the universe and say “I’m spoken for, but thank you *so* much, that just made my day!!!” They tend to stand there for a second or two with a bemused smile while they process, allowing me an escape. I hate that that’s necessary, but… yeah. Be careful out there, sisters.

[@Cosmic_Ocean_]

​@darjeerling The way they think they deserve "a kind rejection" if they dont count a "no" kind and valid enough. We dont owe anything to them, including unnecessary kindness in an annoying situation like that. Why are some men so entitled?

[@LiminalLex]

This is why women say they would choose a bear over a man all the time, no matter the bear.

[@AutumnForest862]

Broke up with a guy and got slammed against a brick wall.

[@reececrook7021]

ive never been so proud to be an ordinary bloody person

[@julialostetter8855]

Simply not accepting "no" for an answer. I once spent a whole train ride sitting with a guy who wouldn't leave me alone. I let him hold my hand and even kiss me because he wouldn't go away and I was basically trapped with him, so I didn't know what else to do. I was alone and scared. I was lucky he didn't follow me to my apartment. Another guy kept basically begging me for sex until I gave in and said yes despite not wanting to. To this day I look back on both situations and blame myself...."I should have been more forceful, I should have told him to leave" etc.

[@bangtanxvot7422]

I feel sorry for you

[@Luci-morningstar--]

You did the right thing. It sucks but youre still alive so thats a plus. Wanna talk about it?

[@EinDahl]

Hey. It wasn't your fault. Okay? It. Was. Not. Your. Fault.

[@BrightElk]

I found that guys kept trying to make passes at me even when I had a ring on my finger. I am socially awkward and I always tried to turn them down gently but honestly I’m bad at it. One guy asked me to dinner. What was I supposed to think accept that he was asking me on a date? I said that’s really sweet but I’m married (I was technically engaged at the time but didn’t want to leave anything open for him to keep trying) and I’m not interested. He then insisted that I’m ugly and he would never date a woman as stupid as me and said he just wanted to hang out as friends as FRIENDS! Why can’t friends just go to dinner together? I was so shocked to see such a bitter angry grown man tantrum that I didn’t know what to say and just got into my car as fast as possible and drove away. I was 23 at the time and he was definitely in his 40’s which was yet anther reason why it was so shocking. I still naively believe that with age comes wisdom. I now know that some people stay children. I guess some guys just never grow up!

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

I got beaten up by a drunk guy who wanted my Phone number. At this point I just want men to leave me alone aside from professional Situations

[@lilscenechick1995]

I’m so sorry that happened to you!

[@FalcloneDustforlife]

As a true man of culture I follow this plan 1. Ask out girl 2. Probably get rejected 3. Act like its no biggie 4. Gaslight myself into thinking I was never in lover with her 5. Repeat As you can tell I am very healthy mentally

[@josequins9099]

Aw, just remember, you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches. Try not to take rejection as a criticism of who you are and more of a "we're not compatible" type of thing. Best of luck to you, man of culture.

[@stampandscrap7494]

You need to start loving yourself 1st. You should realise that you need to really get to know someone to really love them. What you are feeling is attraction.

[@basnaspe4578]

To be honest, "love" as a term *always* confused me. Additionally, also "crush". I felt people *also* used the words in very different ways, like people talking about falling in love on first date (again; is "falling in love" different from "loving" someone?). I even felt I always had to love someone before getting into any relationship or whatever. The whole thing is just a huge mess for myself to sort out, honestly. Maybe your clarification might actually help me quite a lot to differ.@@stampandscrap7494

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

You never "gaslight" yourself. You can't "love" somebody you barely know and whose only certainty is that she is physically appealing

[@Jose-yt3qz]

​@@availanilaNo. Do not mourn what won't exist. Best to forget the person in first place, people need to also understand that...people are not as 'worthy' as they might think they are. She/He said no? Who cares, no one is worth the hassle. Humans do not have as much value as they think they have.

[@darth_fishious4071]

I like how the licence plate is "red flag" like all of these guys

[@pjmacinnes831]

I've had several frightening ones, but I thought I would share the weirdest. My friend and I were driving home from martial arts one day and we were stopped in really bad traffic next to a few guys in a Jeep. My windows were down and the guy in the passenger seat started yelling "Hey beautiful! HEY! Gimme your number! You're so hot!" (And other stupid shit.) I simply rolled my window up. The dude jumps out of the damn Jeep and starts banging on my window yelling "You know what, female dog? You're in a goddamn Saturn! You think you're better than me, female dog? Huh?? You stuck up female dog! I'm going to follow you to your house and unalive you!" Thankfully, there was a cop pulling out of a gas station who saw the whole thing and detained the boys in question in the nearest parking lot. I had no way of pulling over due to my position in the traffic, so the cop just waved me on. I have no idea what would have happened if that cop hadn't been there. If the guy had banged on my window any harder, he probably would have broken it.

[@saagabragi6938]

You're going to get ridiculed if you use euphenisms like "female dog" and ""unalive"". KZbin and other normal sites like facebook, reddit, and tumblr are not TikTok. They're not screened for bad words.

[@EmyN]

@@saagabragi6938 That’s actually not true, it is

[@Vsm426]

​@@saagabragi6938your the only clown here

[@Leyladjdjx]

​@@saagabragi6938 Sadly, KZbin is shadowbaning these words from time to time. Not always but occasionally.

[@c.g.bspendersashtray3037]

​@@saagabragi6938- Yes, they are. I had an account that was flagged and then deleted for posting factual information and not even using curse words.

[@Ser_Matticus]

I’ve been rejected twice so far, but I was chill they had good reasons to say no and instead of being insane I took it with grace. You can’t find a partner if you don’t cast out your line, but don’t go crazy just cause you don’t get a nibble.

[@thimalidassanayake]

You are far more better than those men being able to understand .

[@oscarorozcoorejel]

As a gay guy I have to say it’s very frightening how much worse it is for girls getting rejection, I never got this kind of dramatic responses from the guys I rejected. The worse is a guy acting very moody but never assault or even yelling. If anything this shows how much straight men are taught that women belong to them and arnt taught that they are humans with thier own wants and needs and how it’s completely fine for anyone to reject them cause not everyone is compatible and how that is not an insult to the person being rejected. I feel so sorry for anyone has to deal with straight guys

[@Leyladjdjx]

I think - and please don't take it as an insult as this is really not my intention - that these men probably aren't straight. There is more to their behaviour than their incompetent mothers inflicting wrong morals into them. They're angry and they're hateful, not towards themselves, not towards other men but towards the sex they're supposed to be interested in. Their attitude towards other men is also interestingly positive, as if other men could never be the reason for a rejection, no the women themselves are at fault for everything and men are superior. Having heard all of these stories above and coming from a country where at least one woman loses her life per day, I do know how serious this is but I'm still a straight girl and I would never use this as a reason to hate on men. I don't hate men and I'm totally on board with protecting men from abuse, too. And this should be the same for men, too. To be clear, I don't think their sexual preference is the reason for all of this. It's them suppressing their sexual preference unknowingly. The world would be such a better place not only for women but also for these men if they would out themselves. They suffer and women suffer, too.

[@swempley]

I'm a guy and I pretty much got graped by my brother in law. The funniest part is that gay men don't believe me because they think I want to use it to justify disliking gay people. So I understand perfectly how some women feel. Especially the ones who are blamed for getting assaulted.

[@flowercrown-eevee]

Story 19: i had a similar experience. Except was even YOUNGER, only about 6-7 at the time as i was in the first grade. A boy in my class kept trying to show me something in the bathroom (our classroom had an attached bathroom) and after him trying for sometime i decided to entertain him and let him. While in there he stuck his hand down the back of my pants. I, of course, freaked out and told the teacher right away. i don't remember what happened next very well. I do remember going to a meeting with my parents about it however. The boy was still in my class after that but had strict instructions to be NO WHERE NEAR ME. i think the only reason it was not more severe was the fact that my family were planning on moving at the end of the year, which wasnt far off. Other wise my parents might have actually taken more action. We moved states during the winter break and never saw this kid again. I didn't even really understand how bad it was at the time. I knew that someone doing that was not good but it took until i was in my late teens to realize that this was sexual assault. and honestly i think it might have messed me up more then i thought. Its kinda amazing how a better understanding can really change how things are seen.

[@Luci-morningstar--]

Damn

[@bread9173]

worst ones are the ones who get super sexual when i tell them I am asexual and aromantic. "Oh you might like it" etc etc. Lesbians get that same bs too when they reject dudes. I got stalked once when I said no and suicide bated. Suicide baiting makes me hella mad cause I have had suicide attempts myself so I told the dude to go right ahead then if he's gonna play that game. And no he didn't kill himself he just got super fucking mad I didn't fall for the bait.

[@BrightElk]

Stop telling men you are asexual. It’s the same thing as telling them you are a virgin! You might as well tell them you are fresh snow yet to be walked on. I know it’s not right but that’s how they think and I’m not saying it’s okay at all but you need to know you are painting a big fat neon target on your back for predators. Just say you aren’t interested and walk away!

[@Cthulhululu]

I never understand the ones that try to guilt people into dating them or staying with them Like you really want to be in a relationship knowing your partner is only there out of pity who clearly does not like you? I know they dont think abt that kind of thing but its always wild the lengths they go to, all to keep an empty relationship

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

They usually either don't think things through because they're deeply inexperienced with relationships (of all kinds) or they have this wishful thinking Stockholm syndrome like mentality that they will eventually like them when they realise how wonderful they supposedly are. Sometimes the only experience they have is with their parents and they don't realise that both relationship dynamics don't compare

[@sueevans3676]

It wasn't a dating rejection per set, but my oldest daughter's boyfriend told her he would end himself if she didn't have sex with him. She didn't want that on her conscience, so she did. Next thing she knows, she's going to be a mom. She should have called his bluff. He and his family caused our family all kinds of grief for the next 18 years.

[@Impereaux]

Damn

[@romecottrell6444]

No matter what if you're being harass by another person, don't ignore it , please reported the incident and tell your boss ,your parents , or law enforcement. Don't let yourself become a victim.

[@kaitlinwilson5439]

Mine wasn't so bad. In high school there was this guy that was a friend of a friend. He was alright I guess, I just didn't think he was all that nice and I wasn't remotely interested in being his friend especially since he had a history of starting fights. Somehow though, he wound up latching on to me. A couple of months passed and as we were walking to class he told me he liked me. I kind of panicked because I didn't like him and knew he wouldn't take rejection well and tried to run but he yanked me back by my backpack. I ditched it and ran to class. A teacher later got it back for me. The next day in the lunch room he grabbed me in the lunch room and slammed into a wall while berating me for avoiding him. Teachers came and broke it up and I never saw him after that. I knew he had some mental health problems and a bad home life an hoped he might get help. Unfortunately he wound up in prison.

[@fightinggamegeek9238]

“Wasn’t so bad”? That was incredibly bad! Don’t bring down your experiences. I hope you’re doing better now.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

​@@fightinggamegeek9238exactly, if he had a reputation of starting fights to the point OP knew, he was not that bad. He was worse

[@fightinggamegeek9238]

@@MatildeVallespinCasas I just don’t want the original commenter to bring down their experiences. What happened to them was real and terrifying, nothing more and nothing less.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

@@fightinggamegeek9238 of course, I'm quoting verbatim what the commenter said. I would be terrified as well

[@saagabragi6938]

​@@MatildeVallespinCasas He literally assaulted her in front of dozens of people and she says ""Not that bad""??

[@5nak_music]

i was at work, i worked as a ride op at SeaWorld but was working a concert that day. a 6'4 guy who was very drunk came up and started talking to me. when i brushed him off he tried forcing his way on to me, saying he knew how much i "wanted him" and his "little friend". i ran over to the closest security guard (a lovely mid aged woman), and she called over a butch of bigger security guys to throw him out of the park. it was honestly terrifying cause i am trans and the fanbase of the particular artist isn't known for being,,, accepting. i was afraid he would touch me in a way and "find out" and beat me to death for "tricking him". honestly horrifying.

[@5nak_music]

this is honestly a societal issue, young men are taught they deserve women by society. and when they don't end up in a relationship they get angry and might end up going off the "andrew tate deepend"

[@felicitybywater8012]

​@@5nak_musicCould not agree more.

[@saagabragi6938]

​@@5nak_music I also blame media. In fiction, even the ugliest and dickiest men get hot women as narrative rewards.

[@VR00100]

Bro committed fraud on a drunk guy 😔

[@VR00100]

@@5nak_music how is Andrew Tate even related to this? 😂😂😂 He has said some sh1t but it was mainly for clout and it even now bites it 100x times harder I don't see what he says is so wrong, he tells them to "IMPROVE" something you couldn't do so you lowered the difficulty. It's all misinformation spread by mass media which I once believed until I started to fact check things

[@Beeba10]

Story 6: I was SA'ed as a child by a cousin of mine. Like OP, I didn't know at the time I was assaulted/abused, it wasn't until around 8 years later that I realised (I was 10-ish when it happened, realised at 18). He was 13-ish at the time, so technically a child himself as well. Now that we're grown . . . I haven't forgiven him, but I don't think he would do it again to someone now that he's matured and better understands the consequences of such actions, so I made the decision not to report him and ruin his life over it, even though I know I really should. I do, however, keep a close eye on what family are saying; if I get even a whiff that he might go down that road again, I'm going to do it. My parents and gran are now aware though, told them 5/6 years ago (I'm 28 now).

[@Jamiegrl3]

I broke up with someone who proceeded to call me 50 times in a row and call repeatedly nearly every day. Thankfully, he lived out of state, and although we had met in person several times, there was no way he could show up at my house. Part of why I broke up with him was because during one visit, he got mad at me for some reason, threw a clothes basket at a wall, followed me through the house threateningly, and punched a wall. I honestly thought he was going to hit me. He had my family fooled, but he said, "your family only has to like me until we get married." I had come out of a bad relationship prior and knew the red flags, so I broke it off. He finally stopped after texting me one day when I was with my then fiance (now husband), and I had him respond to stop texting me.

[@multidebbie1]

This one is more sad than irritating. I had a childhood friend and we were very close together for such a long time. I was going through some tough times, my mom had cancer and started constantly begging for attention after being nearly a deadbeat mom, my exbff decided to ghost me after I asked her if I could vent and my brother had just recently died. Yep tough times. The poor guy had no idea what I was going through when he asked me out and I told him I wasnt ready. Due to past experience he probably had thought that I was just trying to be nice when I said that. When in reality I genuinely did like him back, I was just so miserable I didn't want him to be my therapist. Eventually slowly we had stopped talking with some occasional small talk here and there. Looking back I probably should have made myself clear and explained my situation then maybe we would still be friends or maybe even in a relationship, but then again I was so young and going through so much I can't really blame anyone.

[@theemptypeanutsystem8431]

Had a guy I dated in MIDDLESCHOOL contact me at age EIGHTEEN after graduating highschool, with nude photos of my THIRTEEN year old self saying he was going to send them to all of my followers on instagram if I didn’t take him back. I tried to talk him out of it by telling him he’d be arrested for child p0rn, and that I would not be in trouble for sending them because I didn’t know it was wrong at the time. He eventually says “okay, I’ll just r-pe you again then” (he did back in middleschool several times) and then SENT ME A PICTURE OF MY HOUSE. I called 911 and they arrested him outside, he was charged with several things. I’ve been through a lot of terrible awful horrifying things in my life but that was just awful, completely retraumatized me and left me with agoraphobia. What a psychopath.

[@MCARTER1]

Not going lie as a man what these women had to go threw really pains me

[@gabriellamf3812]

Threatens suicide or tells me he knows where I live.

[@OSM758]

I told a guy I was casually seeing I just wanted to be friends. He had bought a house in an effort to “woo” me and told me he wanted me to move in?? We hadn’t even kissed! He then stalked me outside my apartment for months. He would leave notes and gifts on my car. I was so scared because my apartment was on the ground floor, and at the time my daughter and I lived alone. I ended up moving out of state and that was definitely a factor in my decision.

[@nobodyshekatonchires]

They wonder why women choose the bear over being alone with a man

[@merissadelossantos]

I once rejected a man that I was friends with for 2 1/2 months and he began talking about marriage. When I rejected him, he began lying and explaining that I NEEDED to meet with him and the Bible study leaders. Only reason I agreed to meet with them is because I’ve known the Bible study leaders for 16 years and I have a lot of love and respect for them. I told him in front of them that I wasn’t interested. By this time, he sent packages and letters to my house because I wouldn’t answer to his texts or calls. But after this meeting, he began sending me death threats and explaining to me how he was going to kill me. I called the cops to make a report, and they told me it was a scam. They did NOTHING to help me. I had to change my number, but he still found me. So now, all I’m able to do is block every number he texts me from. Truly scary shit.

[@kidiemokgope8227]

I personally met a guy who started talking to me, I was kind and he started asking me out, I told him no thank you. This boy then started waiting at my gate, waiting for me to come out, at first I thought it was a coincidence but later on saw that he literally comes out of nowhere, so I walked to the shop with him and I loudly told him to stop following, he stood at the shop with nothing to buy proving he was just following me

[@DementedKnight]

Okay, I got a story. Knew a guy that met me online and in passing. Then knew me for a week and said the "I love you" line. I said "Hey, just git out of a relationship recently that hurt me badly. I'm not looking for another for awhile or if at all." So he played the best friend role. I liked him as friend. But it was not his goal in the long run. He'd buy me things like chocolate strawberries, chocolate cake, japanese candy box... Ans I always felt guilty because he knew I could never give anything back at the time. But I still didnt take him. So he decided he'd flex money or food I liked and would say "This is what we could have everyday" and I didn't care about his money which made me feel like he thought low of me like someone who did...but he was pushing it with me. He then would see my comments as demands when all I wouod say in a friend group is "I need to get one of those amazing drawing tablets!" "Or yeah I need to get a switch to play with you guys!" He looked at it as "Oh, I could get you that...but that's KINDA PRICEY I'd only get that for a GIRLFRIEND". I was gettinh livid with this dude. Even got rid of him A FEW TIMES but despite being blocked or erased, would come back. He told me once too he was mad at a male coworker giving a woman flowers. I said "Well, could be he's giving that married coworker flower of appreciation?" And he said something I've never even heard of before and it was "NO, HE GAVE HER AN EVEN AMOUNT OF FLOWERS. THAT MEANS ROMANTIC INTENT. ODD IS NONROMANTIC." I was like ??? But he was a liar, he would not even get rid of his ex that was apparently bad towards him from what he told, & he was starting to become an incel. That last I spoke to him, he was going on about "Women only want good for nothing poor men who treat them like shit! Never a guy with money good to them!" So...this dude was a piece of work...I'm glad I dodged a bullet.

[@Lalalbobava]

Story 22 is just like what happened to me. He kept on trying to guilt trip me into liking him, we have never talked before that. He kept on saying I’m perfect, kind, beautiful and apparently he looked at my ass in his words when my friend asked him about it was “Jamal was doing it, why can’t I?” (Jamal is a fake name) but the point is he is a creep and a manipulator.

[@happyfrigginrainbowcookies]

Oof, I had the same thing as the first one happen to me when I was 13. One of my friends was introducing me to one of his friends in a call on xbox live, and after like half an hour he left the call, leaving me with this dude I barely knew. I think the guy was 16. I talked to him for a bit and eventually he asked me out. Well of course I politely rejected him, because for one I literally just met him, and second because at 13 I knew any relationships I got into weren't going to last, so I felt it wasn't worth it. I forget exactly how it progressed from there but at some point he said he was just gonna kill himself and told me he had a gun. I heard what sounded like a gun being cocked or something, though in hindsight it's 100% possible it wasn't real. I kept asking him not to and he once again asked me out. When I said no again he told me he'd do it then. I actually started bawling because I was scared that this guy was really gonna commit suicide and it would be my fault. I remember him being genuinely surprised when I started crying, and even asked me why I was. Like?? Hello?! Thankfully though my parents heard me and they came to check on me, got me to hang up, and comforted me. Afterwards I told my friend and he ended their friendship. Gotta say I do NOT miss my days of being on xbox live.

[@KimDreamcatcher]

he seriously asked you why you were crying when he was claiming he was going to shoot himself over you rejecting him? smh. That must've have been scary af for you at 13, and I'm sorry you went through that.

[@happyfrigginrainbowcookies]

@@KimDreamcatcher yeah, I had a lot of shitty experiences and toxic friends on xbox live, it's a hellsite for kids. I'm doing way better now though, in fact my self confidence has had a bit of a boost lately👍 thanks

[@KimDreamcatcher]

@@happyfrigginrainbowcookies glad to hear that.

[@PandoraBear357]

Xbox is the most toxic console if you're a girl.

[@destmichael]

Not sure if this is what you wanted, but a guy was talking to me and said "You would be really pretty if you were 10 pounds lighter." WTH? " Um, what makes you think you would look any better to me if I was starving?" I was very young, but the audacity?😮

[@felicitybywater8012]

Yeah, been there. The creep was some stranger who just ran up to me in the street, jumped in front of my and vomited that up. I just stood stock still in shock for a minute then he ran back to his creepy mates and I used shop windows as mirrors to make sure he didn't follow me home.

[@swempley]

My dad made fun of my sister for gaining weight while growing up. Now he's dead and I'm attracted to fat girls 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@userfriendlyforever]

@swempley I hope that's not your sis-

[@swempley]

@@userfriendlyforever Course it is

[@userfriendlyforever]

@swempley Sweet home Alabama

[@DawnaT]

I had a guy leave 2 or 3 messages, telling me off. This was back in the day of phone dating. He didn't have my home number luckily.

[@newstart1847]

If a man threatens to end himself just block him 😂

[@VirTaro]

As a man, this honestly makes me feel damn ashamed to be one. I would never do shit like this. I know this is only a comparatively few cases out of the lot, but maybe we really do deserve to be hated. To anyone reading this who has gone through anything even remotely similar to anything in these stories, I really want to apologize. I'm so sorry. What you went through was wrong.

[@jessik1810]

It already speaks a lot for your character that you are able to recognise this as a problem without taking it personally. And please know that there is no hatred against you as a man. The hate is against abusers and enablers.

[@swempley]

Y'know women handle rejection just as poorly as men do. Vicarious embarrassment is not a virtue my friend. I don't feel ashamed to be a man just because some men are literal garbage. Women who are terminally online like these Reddit users are completely disconnected from reality. They're extremely sexist and very insecure.

[@licht935]

I rejected many times a friend of mine, it would me in many ways that i rejected his advances...in 2019 he tried to invite me to watch a movie on february 14th, I told him no, because I was hella busy (and I really was), and that IF i could I would tell him but there's low chances...anyway, he on that day he told me if we were going to the Cinema, and I told him i couldn't cuz i kept working, well, he threw a tantrum abt how I made his 14th turn sour and yada yada...he tried to get my attention thru social media and it exploded when I critized smth abt a youtube he's a big fan of (and he knew i hated that guy) basically threatening me of kicking me and more stuff...since it was on facebook, my mom and brother saw it, he backed off and I blocked him from social media

[@rachelday5406]

After my ex and I broke up and I started seeing other people he called my phone nonstop asking to get back together (it was clear from his voice he was drunk in the middle of the day). I refused, and the dude had the nerve to ask me to send him videos of me having sex with someone else!!! I of course said no! He begged and said “you need to! It’ll help me lose respect for you so I can get over you!” I refused. He eventually started dating a girl I knew from back in high school. She later contacted me with her horror stories about him. Apparently after she broke up with him he threatened to kill himself, and then started driving drunk. He ended up in jail with a DUI later. He stalked the poor woman. She moved houses, but he found out where she lived and would just show up unannounced. She got a No Contact Order filed against him (which he violated). I don’t know what he’s up to now, but I don’t think that man is capable of change so I’d assume the same manipulative shit to different women. I rest easy knowing he’ll probably die prematurely considering he’s an alcoholic with a stressful job.

[@DuckyBriant]

I feel like this needs to be said. My mom told me once, and I think it's very important. If a person decides they want to "off" themselves after you tell them no, it's not your fault. You are NOT responsible for what they do to themselves. Their life is not yours. Obviously, if someone does this, they are most likely guilt tripping. Which is horrible in of itself. I swear, these people make suicide look like a joke.

[@AnastasiaVerse-rc2zt]

In school there was a boy I was friends with (I’m a girl) and one day he asked me out, I rejected him cause I’m not allowed to date people, I remember one time he claimed he was high and one last time I saw him was on Friday he was asking me for money (I don’t know why exactly) and I later didn’t see him and was told he was suspended for a reason (I have no idea what it was-)

[@wildfyah]

I have a few, all different men: 1- Stalking me and spreading rumours about me for the last 14-15 years. Approaches any man he sees me talking to, even work mates or people I'm conducting business with to tell them 'all about me'. I now have proof of what he's doing and will proceed with legal action 2- threaten to run his car off the road and end himself 3- wished a cruel death on my unborn child 4- spread rumours 5- spread rumours 6- threatened to tell my parents I was having sex. I was 15 and he was well into his late 20s 7- being petty

[@BiohazardBunney]

Men will watch this video and instead of feeling sympathy or learning how to be better their first reaction is to screech "NOT ALL MEEEEENNNNNNNNN!!!!"

[@swempley]

Well that makes you a hypocrite. You're more than welcome to blame all men for the actions of a few. Just don't act surprised when men do the same thing to you.

[@debeightonethree6346]

How is this video only half hour long? I have a week’s worth of stories just from my own experiences!

[@kaylacombs6254]

Am I the only one that wouldn't be faced by someone threatening to kill themselves if I broke up with them? I'd be like okay, peace block. I'm not dealing with your ass

[@empressmarowynn]

After I broke up with my abusive ex he stalked me for three years. Luckily it was all online since we were living in different countries at the time. He physically and sexually assaulted me and then spent months emotionally abusing me once we were physically apart. It took me entirely too long to stop being stupid and just end it but I kept making excuses about why everything he did was okay. Once I was done I had to hide all my social media profiles but he somehow kept finding me. He would go through a cycle of death threats, suicide threats, then "I'm sorry baby, I've changed I swear, I love you" and then repeat the whole process. Me ignoring him all that time did nothing so the last time he managed to find me and tried his suicide threats again I said "go ahead", blocked him, and then reconfigured my social media profiles again to try and hide better . I don't know if that time he finally realized I wouldn't take him back or I managed to hide myself well enough but I haven't heard from him since 2017. If he did actually follow through with his threat I would not feel bad whatsoever. He deserves to rot for what he put me through.

[@journeyjulie3973]

When I was 22, a man who was 37 took interest in me. He was divorced with two school aged children. After kindly declining, he blew up my emails with a book worth of long essays trying to make me feel sorry for him. After I cut him off, he found out who my mom was, befriended her, and got into a weird emotionally codependent relationship with her, and then she would then send me long emails about how I was wrong and he was the perfect man for me. She told him secrets about me, like how I was SA’d by an older friends a couple years prior. He ruined my relationship w my mom, who has special needs and is easy to manipulate. It sucked.

[@kimmmerkim5811]

@@journeyjulie3973 I'm SO SORRY you had to got through that. That's AWFUL. That is not how a mom should act. Never accept that kind of treatment not even from your mom. I can't help but think there is something very wrong with your mom & it's NOT YOUR FAULT. You are very worthy of respectful treatment & what your mom did isn't it. I wish you comfort & healing.

[@LadyJoolree]

Don't infantilise abusers by saying they're not men. They are men! Some men are like this, and more than you think. Age is irrelevant.

[@stuffynosepatrol]

The point is that men like this aren't mature and are still acting like children, throwing tantrums when they don't get their way. If they don't want to be infantilised then maybe they shouldn't act like infants.

[@ramika-rx9eo]

​@stuffynosepatrol i think op means that if you call them children, you take away their accountability as a grown adults acting shitty

[@stuffynosepatrol]

@@ramika-rx9eo I know what they mean. But thats a really stupid thing to think because they're still grown adults which means, no matter how immaturely they act, people still expect them to act like grown adults and failure to do so is seen as pathetic

[@Veneziamore]

Story 6: Not realizing SA is happening to you is extremely common. Not reporting the attacker because you can't handle that at the moment is also extremely common. Saying you didn't want to ruin his life because he's now in a ''healhy relationship'' is absolutely the language that victim-blamers and SA-defenders use. Even if it wasn't for you, that person should've said something to his girlfriend at the very least. She deserves to know what kind of filth she's dating. If someone were to tell me my boyfriend SA'd someone that'd be end of relationship right there and then

[@UnGinGo]

I’ve had a guy who turned from “I think you are very beautiful and talented” to “you are worthless and should be grateful that someone like me is even interested in you.” the second after I said “I’m not interested in a relationship now”

[@DrHenryAuD]

(This happened in 2013) I was 16; he was 20. I thought we were friends. He drove me from school to his house to hang out and watch Game of Thrones (my mom didn’t let me watch it at home). During the second episode, he told me he loved me. I told him that I was flattered but I’m a lesbian. He assaulted me. After he did it, I had to let him drive me back to my car at school. I dropped out of the class we shared. I’ve still never seen more than those two episodes of Game of Thrones.

[@RandomPersonLol366]

Thank you for your kind words. It made me cry a bit. ❤️

[@sfletch3042]

The ladies who have experienced the worst reactions aren't alive to tell the story. 💀

[@lovelexie1945]

A friend of mine, trans ftm, dated a guy in our irst year of high school. He was super racist, homophobic, and wore the Soviet Union flag around school. Despite my friend being a trans-man, he stilled dated him. After they had broken up, the guy spread rumors that he had done it with my friend, when I know that he wasn't really interested in going that far. I'm just glad we no longer talk to this guy, and that my friend is with another guy who loves him very much and treats him like a king. I'm glad that whole situation is and has been over with.

[@bweisbeck3156]

Unfortunately, in the US, we seem to give out harsher punishments for animal cruelty than we do for human cruelty

[@swempley]

Women are trying very hard to keep it that way 😂

[@CreatureGirlInc]

First story has happened to me over four times. By the fourth time I've learned to just call the police if I couldn't contact their family. It's daunting but when you care for their well being it's important to do. They also stop doing that. I'm actually very good friends with one of them now, I give them dating advice and we have a lot of respect for each other.

[@BoxOKittens]

Definitely not as bad as the stories in the video but as a teen I had a lot of male friends (I was considered a weird girl and I liked a lot of "boy" things like card games while still being "girly") and every single one of them except one (who later came out as gay) hit on me multiple times. I rejected all of them, but they just never seemed to care. Some would get a bit pissy, and one even got an entire class of mine to guilt me for literally the whole class one time because I wouldn't "give him a chance". I honestly think this led to me realizing I was a lesbian a lot sooner than I otherwise would have. Their responses when I told them I was gay? "I don't care" or "I can change that" and other nastier things. They either would mock my orientation or continue to pine after me. They'd run up on me and grab me, hug me (I was a lot smaller than them) even forcefully kiss me. Some of them took to following me around because I had no car and we lived in a pretty small town. I often had some of them pulling up beside me as I walked down sidewalks offering me rides, stuff like that. At the time I just accepted this as normal boy behavior and didn't really have much else. I grew up with an abusive dad so I guess I just thought it was natural for men to be horrible. Thankfully me (and the gay guy) both got far away from the rest of them eventually.

[@aleahmiskell1449]

my first serious relationship was super emotionally abusive, he hated my best friend (i wasnt allowed to speak to her), i barely spoke to my family, he would constantly break up with me for the smallest things (i thought i loved him so id cry and beg him to take me back, which he would like an hour later 😐), andd if things werent going his way hed constantly threatened to end himself. i finally got sick of everything when he was constantly texting our female coworker and telling me about all their conversations. i told him to go be with her instead. they got together less than a month later :)

[@Mui_And_Mitsuri_Simp_XD]

I remember this guy I met ONLINE guilt tripped me into dating him. Also one of my exes kept threatening to SH/KHS if I left him 💅✨️

[@batmansmith7422]

Not all men, but yes all women. Every single one I’ve ever had the conversation with has multiple stories.

[@meztlistormheart2636]

I said no. The guy followed me home. The first time the police came. They didn't the second. I got a restraining order. The police still did not respond (they are not legally obligated to in the US ) He didn't quit, he broke in and I had to gift him a lead leg decoration before he quit. He only quit then because he was arrested for ending another woman while in the hospital...

[@ErzsabetJones]

Broke up with an emotionally manipulative bf in high school over the phone. He lived a town over and I didn’t want to see him face to face. This was also before cell phones were common. He said he was coming over to my house, so I left and went to the beach nearby for a few hours. When I came back he was sitting on the edge of the road across the street watching my house. I tried to sneak around back but he spotted me. We walked and talked a bit and I stood firm. Later in school he started wearing a trench coat and gas mask and carrying a duffel bag around school, I think it was just after Halloween. He apparently also asked a mutual friend (male) to help him stab me. I laughed it off because he was an edgelord with no real substance. And he also wrote me an email about how I was basically the worst person in the world and I would basically get what was coming to me. Ok, buddy. 🙄