Understand This To Stop Obsessing After A Breakup

[@lindsay3793]

I miss him so bad. All day. Every day. It's been many months now.

[@bjohnson8820]

same. Wish I could just talk to her again 😪

[@sarahgaylee]

I feel ya, sucks to feel so bonded with someone who’s seemingly just forgotten you

[@carrievaleriaalvarez2198]

Thanks Katya, for another extremely empowering take on a common topic. So, here's how I think I'd summarise the five limerent fantasies and how I relate to them: 1. 'Grand overhaul' / making it work / them 'doing the work' --- disappointment at current reality of partner/relationship 2. Them coming/reaching back --- hopelessness 3. Them comforting/reassuring --- inability to self-soothe 4/5. Them providing closure / you having done better --- toxic shame I relate to the Grand Overhaul fantasy in that I imagine we make up and work together on both of our issues, achieving 'earned secure attachment' together. I do have lingering hopes/longing for them reaching back with an intention to rekindle at least a friendship. I have major issues with toxic shame and the second-guessing myself is intense. As I work on getting over this and I allow myself to feel wronged, I have more fantasies of them taking responsibility for harm done.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thank you for sharing your summary and what spoke to you.

[@luknepo]

I'm really shocked that I've experienced all of these to a tee...sigh.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thanks for sharing!

[@plusone8015]

Movies, books and music can be cathartic until it rearviews into history.... PS Try to avoid vodka and limerance...

[@KatyaMorozova]

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[@KatyaMorozova]

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[@markcafebrown2883]

Yes! Your back so so happy to see and have you back

[@KatyaMorozova]

Why thank you!

[@МиколаГарда]

Every single one of them..

[@KatyaMorozova]

Thanks for sharing!

[@davidionepearl4244]

Thank you so much...

[@KatyaMorozova]

You're so welcome!