Understanding Circular Conversations in Narcissistic Abuse

[@Itzanunnya2019]

When GAP would circle jerk, I simply said, "I'm out of this conversation." NO CONTACT. LIFETIME.❤

[@richardblackmore9351]

Last comment, I swear. (I realize,.even this is narcissistic). Being honest is the most unnatural.thing. I find myself lying about the weirdest things. And that habit, of stopping the compulsive lying is tne of the hardest to quit, because it is so .natural.to me.

[@kindredinspirit]

Yeah, spot on I can’t tell you how many rabbit trails of escape that monarch would try to take in a conversation to get off topic even when we were counseling with our pastor he just kept going all over the board years past future present. Any topic he can get away from the topic at hand and I remember internally, laughing as the pastor kept saying stay on topictopic we’re talking about this. And you’re right they try to shake and rattle the cage to get you to pop off and get upset so they can close down the conversation.

[@thapelonteo9188]

Spot on, fortunately a divorce is going through although it looks like it is going to be messy. I have ensured that I become mentally and physically ready for it.

[@RawMotivations]

Would love to help you on your healing journey. Check out this video to see if you connect: www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough

[@beanallene]

They start yelling and throwing a tantrum when you don't let them get their way and change the subject.

[@kimgordon3695]

Bless you Ben. a sliver of sanity & a long luxurious Bath

[@brianhill6842]

The guy I was dating would threaten to end things in an argument which would keep us going around and around. I never understood what the argument was about, they were often just because I asked about things he had said before like “I want to do life with you.” If I asked why are you hurting me he said, “then I won’t hurt you any further. I’m done.”

[@RipTides311]

I heard that its up to me to guide the difficult conversations and that it may not be easy, but I am the only one who will make it happen and I have to stay aware, centered, and grounded to succeed if its even possible.

[@kimgordon3695]

no contact

[@marcharsveld2914]

Discussing problems with a narc leads to nothing but anger and frustration. Don't even start.

[@lisaz4411]

@@marcharsveld2914Yeah it’s a waste of time

[@weronikaasomsson2404]

⚠❤Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is JESUS coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Lord and Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤🥹 Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death for our sins)❤ He is about to remove His believers from this earth (Rapture) so they won’t stay for the Judgement. He loves you like crazy! He doesn't want you to stay for that! God's Grace is about to run out.❤🥹 What saves us is trust in what Jesus did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it, just believe and trust Him! 🙌❤He does not want rituals, He wants a relationship with you! Right before He comes to pick up His believers we will witness Russia attacking Germany. Missiles hitting USA ( by Russia, China, North Korea), Fall of Freemason's Temple in Philadelphia, Alaska earthquakes back to back of magnitude 7.6 and 7.3. We will also see return of Yasser Arafat. This is all been revealed by Jesus's prophets right now.❤ Call out to Him today, ask the God of universe, your maker, to reveal himself to you! You want to know the truth after all, don't you?

[@richardblackmore9351]

I recall feeling deep-down (I would never admit this), if I surrender I am nothing. She wins. I lose. That is that. If i admit to cheating, to lying, to embezzling, how does that help the situation? In our screwed up mind it makes sense. We don't realize she isn't trying to "win". Fully sane people don't do that. She is trying to get us to validate her feelings, so that we can together find a solution.

[@richardblackmore9351]

I don't think we do this on purpose. Narcissist, with ADHD and on the Spectrum here, who has just recently become self aware. I think that a lot of these are because we are also reacting impulsively and panicking .we don't trust anyone and feel like if we stop being manipulative she will manipulate us. The first step is to stop the behaviors. Just stop .second,.third step, grow your own self esteem and learn to validate yourself. . especially when she is in a place of healing , and will not validate is. This is such a learning curve as I learn how to be fully human. .

[@nyxcole9879]

Everytime i bring up my feelings he repeats multiple times 'i need you to believe that i care about you'

[@RawMotivations]

I think he is also trying to convince himself. Https://www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough

[@athena1047]

I wrote out several comments and bam, another trigger. lol Keep up the good work. After third viewing I found myself more relaxed and not near as angry. thank you

[@RawMotivations]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@weronikaasomsson2404]

⚠❤Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is JESUS coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Lord and Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤🥹 Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death for our sins)❤ He is about to remove His believers from this earth (Rapture) so they won’t stay for the Judgement. He loves you like crazy! He doesn't want you to stay for that! God's Grace is about to run out.❤🥹 What saves us is trust in what Jesus did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it, just believe and trust Him! 🙌❤He does not want rituals, He wants a relationship with you! Right before He comes to pick up His believers we will witness Russia attacking Germany. Missiles hitting USA ( by Russia, China, North Korea), Fall of Freemason's Temple in Philadelphia, Alaska earthquakes back to back of magnitude 7.6 and 7.3. We will also see return of Yasser Arafat. This is all been revealed by Jesus's prophets right now.❤ Call out to Him today, ask the God of universe, your maker, to reveal himself to you! You want to know the truth after all, don't you?

[@Denzella2154]

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[@rebekahjette6304]

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