Very clear. Good articulation. Thank you. . I have certainly been through all of this, but that image of a 'frame' is really good. The dynamic is not only with the narcissist, but with the enablers, and all the social groups dominated by them that we have to try live with. So often there is no escape and little alternative. First we try to escape, it fails, then be being to tell ourselves stories that make it bearable. That this is love, that 'deep down' they care about us, that they 'cant help it' that they are 'wounded' ..