Understanding Your Autistic Child

Can you fix socialising problems with autistic children? Why are autistic children so difficult? THIS is what we’re talking about today. In this video I’ll begin by validating and outlining the problems with autistic children, or in other words, the reasons why autistic children are more difficult to care for than neurotypical children. And in the second part of this video I go through solutions to make parenting autistic children a little bit easier.
I go through my favourite tips and solutions for fixing things like socialising with autistic children (I have the BEST tip for this, please try it!), improving food aversions and emotional regulation, and other long term solutions like gentle parenting and family structures that can improve your family life for you and your autistic child.
I think this is so important to talk about, because if we validate frustrated and overwhelmed parents that are trying super hard, plus share some practical solutions, we cover the whole basis. It is important to validate the struggles of the parents as well as the struggles of autistic children. So in this video, we’ll do just that!
I hope you find this video helpful! If you have any questions or looking for clarifications on anything I said, please comment below and I’l make sure to prioritise this video since this is truly important to me!
Thank you so much for watching, resources below :)
(Why we can’t “make” children be who we want them to be) Blueprint: How DNA Makes Us Who We Are - Robert Plumin
(Age appropriate parenting and understanding of the child) The Whole-Brain Child - Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
(Healing from our parents behaviour to be better parents to our children) The Conscious Parent - Shefali Tsabary
(Gentle parenting) Peaceful parents, happy kids - Dr. Laura Markham
The one food to treat autism symptoms nutritionfacts.org/video/best...
Alternative treatments for autism doesn’t work nutritionfacts.org/video/alte...
Some reasons why breastfeeding is so important www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti....
Breastfeeding resources (free) www.unicef.org.uk/babyfriendl...

[@babetweirdgirl4103]

All of my toddlers wanted to be independent. It's a toddler thing. Indulge them, safely

[@QueerCoral]

He can communicate. Everyone communicates, but not everyone does it the same. Also, don't need your opinions on feeding kids cookies or giving an example of autism from a child. I am so sick of people trying to explain me in a way that misses the point and do not understand. I'm so sick of autism moms who communicate FOR their child, and im so sick people misunderstanding and demonizing autism as something that is 'wrong' or needs to be 'fixed'.

[@thenurse8063]

You said the father was calm and compassionate….. that is all I took from this. Autism or not, toddlers are difficult. If you see them again he may be upset with the mom because she won’t feed it to him. This was an example of nothing other than sometimes toddlers need to get their way to sit down and be quiet

[@jul.m.2692]

No. The child wanted autonomy. From this, I can tell you which parent was the well-meaning neurotypical, and which one was the side the autism came from, if any. The mum and child were peacefully coexisting, each doing their own thing, yet neurotypicals assume the mother is not doing enough, and the dad is doing the most for the child, which clearly it wasn't helpful. This goes to show neurotypicals fail to empathise with autistics, just as much as autistics are accused of lacking empathy by neurotypicals.

[@thenurse8063]

@@jul.m.2692 How can you decide that from that clip? Good parenting means stepping in when the other parent is not the one for that particular situation. The very next hour the child could have and at some point probably was coexisting with the other parent in the same way. Autism has truly become a crusade and while I agree that people should be aware….. every single parenting moment of success or ”failure” cannot be contributed to autism. If that’s the case no one is neurotypical. Sometimes it is just parents navigating the needs of their child…. I find it offensive how people force kids to live under that umbrella. We do need to understand and give grace to people who have challenges but that should not be their identity. Searching for the autistic struggle in every situation makes it their identity.

[@mom2mmpt]

If you've met one child with autism, you've met one child with autism. You realized what the boy wanted after the boy was able to do what he wanted. I have 4 kids with autism. Your video is useless, other than making parents who are trying to help their children are minimized, because they "couldn't figure out" what they wanted. Don't judge.

[@Europa1749]

Let them make decisions. They love that. I would say "Do you want to go to bed at 8:00 or 8:30?" It worked so well because the ball was in his court.

[@scud6537]

I struggled with this because I refused to talk to people

[@Jessalesta]

Lord forbid a child eat some cookies. You must be fun at parties.

[@CreoTan]

You completely missed the point of the video. The child wanted to grab the cookies from the package himself but the dad kept handing him cookies, which upset the child, but the child didn’t know how to explain that he wanted to get the cookies from the package directly instead of being handed them There’s nothing here that says “don’t give your kid cookies”

[@Jessalesta]

@@CreoTan bruh stop yapping at me I ain’t reading all that

[@dahurgthedragon9010]

​@@Jessalesta How low is your reading level?

[@user-cu6hk2kh5o]

tack Sumi Keat! Saga please try to have Swedish video. It will be super nice

[@churchesaregroomers]

Liar - You did NOT see the same kid with different parents feeding him cookies. This is how influencers lie.

[@theangryfireball1023]

Source?

[@churchesaregroomers]

@@theangryfireball1023 The onus is on the influencer to prove their stories, not the other way around.

[@churchesaregroomers]

And "Because I said so" isn't valid.

[@89taklung]

Thisxhas NOTHING to do with autistic! This is a child in the middle of their will-developement phase! Any healthy child will do that really, except if ypu basically train them to not do that.