How Autism Feels, From the Inside | Op-Docs

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The New York Times

The New York Times

3 жыл бұрын

What is it like to live with Asperger’s syndrome? Jordan Kamnitzer tries to answer that question in “Perfectly Normal,” this week’s Op-Doc. It’s beautifully directed by Joris Debeij, who frames Kamnitzer’s experiences and ideas with evocative cinematography and editing, giving us a beautiful but challenging glimpse into another way of being.
In a related essay, the writer Eli Gottlieb describes it as “a rare filmic experience of the sensory overload of autism … as Jordan, the articulate middle-aged subject of the film, speaks about his own condition, the music skitters and booms, rapid jump cuts intensify the sense of danger, and in this swelling moment of uncertainty, the viewer experiences a fleeting sense of what it might be like to live in a condition of permanent, anxious neural flood.”
Gottlieb grew up with a severely autistic older brother, but even after 40 years, “find[s] his emotional and cognitive process as fundamentally mysterious as ever. The impenetrability of autism, with its seemingly endless variants and its essential “otherness,” is its hallmark. All this renders Jordan’s testimony that much more useful and intriguing. He is a reporter at a hinge-point of consciousness, able to inhabit his condition while describing it for us - whether we are “neurotypicals” or lodged somewhere on the spectrum - with remarkable precision and insight.”
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Matt Gaetz on a White Ford Bronco
Matt Gaetz on a White Ford Bronco 3 жыл бұрын
I'm a healthcare professional that works with children with disabilities. We need more videos like this...because as a society we are not exposed to adults with disabilities. There's a lot more understanding and resources for children, but once they're adults, they seemingly disappear from society.
Jason 6 күн бұрын
@Jene Clyde It's a disability because I am in real pain. It doesn't matter how accommodating society is when my own brain tells me to feel overwhelming pain in the presence of another human being. Even being around my loving daughter is pain. There are no happy moments with people only pain. All it takes is realization that people really truly exist and I'm overwhelmed with pain. I can't process the concept of a human, not for myself and not for others. When I try to do so, PAIN. It's a god damned disability, not a clever new way to think.
M.Y.B. 3 ай бұрын
How about being diagnosed or rather, properly UNdiagnosed not until pre-puberty to adulthood
Maple Leaf Crossing🍁🍃
Maple Leaf Crossing🍁🍃 6 ай бұрын
Yeah it’s honestly scary for me to think of a life without my mom I mean I might just blend in with the homeless people just to avoid making my brother and sister feel like I’m their burden older sister that’s never gonna have a job or get that money up I have no hope in this world for me to do anything while I’m still forced to live only to do the same routine over and over again while being unemployed I hate it and no one in life is gonna care enough to hire me to work somewhere if they know I’m autistic but if they knew I am bilingual then they’ll soon regret not hiring me and rethink their decision to be harsh to me.
Emlila 8 ай бұрын
@Caitlin Broza I am so sorry life has been so cruel. Sending you love. ❤
Amanda Marquez
Amanda Marquez 3 жыл бұрын
“Disabilities are secondary. While we are people first, you don’t see a disabled person. You see a person with a disability.” What a Beautiful and true statement. Let this remind us to keep our minds and hearts open.
S 16 күн бұрын
@Nicholas Leclerc What counts as Autism? What does that even mean. If a person thinks they may have it they research traits, watch videos of other adults who have and and that get an evaluation. Then you find out if you have it or not.
Elliart 7
Elliart 7 4 ай бұрын
its important to also note that many actually do prefer to be referred to as a "disabled person", it depends on the individual
MartianTom 10 ай бұрын
I still, though, prefer to think of myself as an autistic person, rather than a person with autism. Just a personal preference. People say to me 'You shouldn't let it define your life.' But it does define my life! It's made me who and what I am. It's my whole life - and I'm proud to be that person living it.
hatena yousei
hatena yousei 10 ай бұрын
@Michael Caza my thoughts exactly
Sadiya S
Sadiya S Жыл бұрын
Hes got a job, a girlfriend and an independent life. Good on him.
Tarudasu Ай бұрын
Hello animelover
animal79thecat 9 ай бұрын
@megabeaver23 Looks like Bez out of Happy Mondays...What is this world coming to.
Klein 2 жыл бұрын
It must be pretty difficult to live in a world that isn't designed with your needs in mind
Nottz4Lyf18 Ай бұрын
@Kenny Ewing Flores you put this very well brother
Kenny Ewing Flores
Kenny Ewing Flores Ай бұрын
I feel like that's so true for so many people, but it really is very tough on the either get really good at acting (like myself...and that's still a "C" performance looking at other "neurotypical" people) or you suffer form bullying and serious social ostracization. Unfortunately, for a lot of people in a lot of communities, it really is that binary of a choice. You're either isolated at home with a caregiver (never to be independent) or you're Mr./Mrs. "The World is a Stage" in the theater. "Autistic spaces" would just be quiet, poorly lit places without annoying people lol...which is kinda hard to pull off when you consider the odds.
KorahHoll 4 ай бұрын
Yes, I wish someone, just one person, could change the world and make it more suitable for people like us… maybe it could be me… I have hope ♥️
Sam EverClaire
Sam EverClaire 7 ай бұрын
@Tartaruga Albina OMG I almost completely relate. I have the hardest time holding eye contact but I can if I feel I have no other way out of the situation. Loud noises terrify me and send shivers up my spine. If I go to a movie theater, I have to wear earplugs. I hear everything through the earplugs but the sounds are much more tolerable. It really sucks when people say "well, you don't seem autistic, I have an autistic girl in my piano class, and she excels in music". I am happy for her, however I do not possess that beautiful skill. That doesn't mean I am not autistic, it just means, that autistic girl possessed the gift of piano. I am more computer inclined. Others are more artistic or clinical or mechanical. We are all different, one size definitely doesn't fit all.
whoknows 2 жыл бұрын
i hate having autism. i can feel my brain lag alot and it breaks my heart. going to move back to my moms house because she is the only person i know who will actually help me snap out of my brain being stuck or turned off for days. i hate that i feel ashamed because i am 27. i see people with “normal” brains and it looks so freeing. i feel like a prisoner in my mind. hoping ill be ok ❤️❤️ sending love to him and her in this video!’ they are wonderful
Henry 23 күн бұрын
I am sending you all my best thoughts. ❤ you are wonderful just the way you are.
Smileygirlwolflover18 Ай бұрын
@Kenny Ewing Flores ??
Smileygirlwolflover18 Ай бұрын
@Kenny Ewing Flores true also thx
Kenny Ewing Flores
Kenny Ewing Flores Ай бұрын
Keep reaching out and take care of yourself! People will love you for who you are no matter what, but you first have to get yourself into tip-top shape, and don't be afraid of how your mind works, it's fine! We're all different (and for those of us on the spectrum, we're different even between each other!).
Smileygirlwolflover18 2 ай бұрын
I also have actual sleepless nights and nightmares because of it 😭😭 sucks even though it’s rare.
Amaya Torres
Amaya Torres 2 жыл бұрын
Bro why is no one talking about how musically talented he is?
Kenny Ewing Flores
Kenny Ewing Flores Ай бұрын
It's kinda stereotypical lol...that's why.
foljs 5 ай бұрын
@Rolandas Grigaitis LOL, what does that even mean? You can't pretend playing the piano well or singing well. Either you do or you don't. He's talented alright
Triggered Cat
Triggered Cat 6 ай бұрын
@KnifeHex because “Normies” don’t hyper fixate on something.
KnifeHex 10 ай бұрын
@cfrl too much pressure for you? * nods *
NeonHologram666 3 жыл бұрын
I really like that they focused on adults with disabilities, I oftentimes hear about children but rarely about what happens when these kids grow up.
Debbie Жыл бұрын
Alicia Vazquez Thank you for your reply. I was trying to respond to that person without going off the deep end. My nephew has Autism and he is one of the most loving, giving people that I have ever met. And he is extremely smart. Thank You.
Debbie Жыл бұрын
@observer.b_e_l_l_i_s I am trying to be calm as I am writing this. My nephew has Autism. Who are you to say that his life is less important as an adult, than his life was as a child. Madness you say. I say MIRACULOUS.
Hllyen Aylleth
Hllyen Aylleth Жыл бұрын
Alicia Vazquez oh, what is that?
Regina Fallangie
Regina Fallangie 3 жыл бұрын
_“Everybody does have something. Everybody’s not completely normal.”_ This is *SOOO* true. U never know the interworkings of an individual. *We all really do have something.*
ThatBigBear 10 ай бұрын
I completely agree, back when I studied psychology I learned how it works, it's pretty much impossible not to develop a condition, so, we all have something. The only difference is that, some people have their conditions solved and in control as it can be hard to notice (Depending on what it is), while some others haven't gotten there yet.
OneManArmy 11 ай бұрын
I actually believed this before I ever heard it. Nobody's the same. Everyone's got something; some sort of way they tick. I think asperger's is just a slightly harsher variation.
secret ender
secret ender 11 ай бұрын
I agree
Babbling Along
Babbling Along 3 жыл бұрын
Indeed. It's natural genetic variation.
audrey b
audrey b 2 жыл бұрын
He was absolutely shredding that piano
Adrian Cooke
Adrian Cooke Ай бұрын
Maybe he can take over from Jerry Lee Lewis now that JLL is no more
Mikey Sharp
Mikey Sharp 9 ай бұрын
JayRain You will have friends, maybe not loads, but they will be amazing and you will be amazing in return. Concentrate on yourself at the moment, you have to make people come to you, and they will.
Undefined Gaming
Undefined Gaming 10 ай бұрын
i know right!
Jodie Teresa Tarot
Jodie Teresa Tarot 10 ай бұрын
Absolutely amazing!!! Natural raw talent :)
JayRain Жыл бұрын
@Waffle Thanks, I really hope someday I get like friends because I legit haven't had friends since I was born. I attempted suicide a week ago but suvived because I was sick of living like this.
silentdawn 3 жыл бұрын
As someone with Asperger's syndrome myself I often feel that when the media try to show people without Asperger's what it's like tho have it, they oftent portray it quite differently from reality. However I really found a connection in this video and with this guy. He explains it perfectly and I think that this has done an amazing job as showing others what it it like to have Asperger's syndrome.
Louis Bishop
Louis Bishop Жыл бұрын
I was born with Asperger's Syndrome as well. At 34...I still struggle with interacting with other people.
Christian Dean
Christian Dean 2 жыл бұрын
I just got my official diagnosis at the age of 29 in 2020. I cried throughout most of this video because everything was correct about the lifestyle. This helps me feel more prepared for the future and less anxious. Thank you for posting this.
urban survivalism
urban survivalism 2 ай бұрын
I am working on getting my diagnoses and I can relate to your comment so much. I am almost 100% sure I'm on the spectrum and I am trying to get diagnosed so I can hopefully get the help I need. I wish you the best,stay strong
Juan Luis Armando Haro
Juan Luis Armando Haro 4 ай бұрын
good luck bro
Jess Cameron
Jess Cameron 3 жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed with high functioning autism when I was four, and I apparently still have it to a degree. Despite his autism being a little more profound than mine, I can relate with a lot he had to say. One issue, in particular, is the phasing out of reality. I used to zone out regularly and imagine myself in scenarios that weren't at all relevant with my current situation. I was always worried about what other people thought of me and didn't want to appear awkward, so I "phased out" in conversation. Another issue was my difficulty in adjusting to change. I got hyperfocused in any task at hand and took longer to accomplish said tasks (most notably tests - this was a major problem for me in school). I didn't have that much trouble making friends, surprisingly, as I had alright social skills - although I felt as if I had to force myself to appear interested in most of my interactions with people. I got overwhelmed easily, often with problems that shouldn't be a big deal. One statement he made that resonated with me was when he talked about life having one circle for normal people, yet multiple circles mish-mashed in a myriad of different ways for him. My situation was very similar. Your plans will overlap constantly and the order in those plans will be thrown off balance when other plans show their faces. The idea of setting tasks in order of precedence was really hard to adopt, for the autistic mind would only focus on that one task that was not yet completed and transitioning to another task would disturb that balance. I wrote this as if I don't have the symptoms anymore. Yes, my autism was worse when I was younger and I now enjoy being able to adjust as a normal adult. However, despite my improvements over the years, I still exhibit many of these "quirks", albeit more mildly.
Jacob Montoya
Jacob Montoya 4 ай бұрын
Do you ever feel like you have so many thinks that you want to do but don’t have time to do it?
ლია მაისურაძე
ლია მაისურაძე 8 ай бұрын
HI my friend. My son has also autistic spectrum diagnosed. HE IS 4 NOW, what's the Chance he gets improve?
Nayli Syazwina
Nayli Syazwina 8 ай бұрын
My father is the same way but he did not receive any type of therapy. Most of his symptoms disappeared by mid 20s. Now he is 40+
Sebastián Sánchez Chuquimia
Sebastián Sánchez Chuquimia 10 ай бұрын
amazing, im showing more and more signs of TEA or austism in spanish with the years and having different povs help me notice it I still have social and logic skills yet lack independance so thats my long story short
A E 3 жыл бұрын
This should be a full length movie. Gorgeously shot, gorgeously narrated. Gorgeous people.
R P 10 ай бұрын
They used an anamorphic lens lol.
Blake Reilly | Ekyllier
Blake Reilly | Ekyllier Жыл бұрын
The closest movie to this that I know of would be "Adam (2009)".
Caleb Humphreys
Caleb Humphreys Жыл бұрын
Davit TM
Davit TM Жыл бұрын
You are so right, it is breathtaking..
Papa Yorgy
Papa Yorgy 3 жыл бұрын
&y e. HONESTLY!!!!!
John Bayani
John Bayani 3 жыл бұрын
I like that they are so mature people. Many 'normal' people are far less mature
Matthew Louw
Matthew Louw 7 ай бұрын
Thank you, Its all the childhood trauma :")
Nayli Syazwina
Nayli Syazwina 8 ай бұрын
@Oncopoda I have autism but I prefer normal and not normal lol
Oncopoda 10 ай бұрын
@MyNameHere Someone on the spectrum referring to neuro typicals as "normal" is not the same as a neuro typical calling neuro typicals "normal". If you don't understand that.....
MyNameHere 10 ай бұрын
@Oncopoda Starting at 2:35, the guy in the video literally refers to “normal individuals” as contrasted with himself, so your comment was not necessary.
Cheri A S.
Cheri A S. 10 ай бұрын
@Ben Michelli --🤔😂 Same for non autistics....depending on criteria present.
LizPrice 2 жыл бұрын
Omg, I wanted to cry when they had to put some things back. It's not a good feeling and something that was really embarrassing to me as a kid. He was so ready to make that tough decision. If I was behind them in line I would have covered the rest. They're absolutely precious, I hope they're doing ok right now with the pandemic.
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𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐚 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐧 Жыл бұрын
I wonder if that is mostly a problem we neurotypicals see with that. Things like etiquette and embarrassment are actually pretty nuts and they aren't absolutes either. I suspect that people with autism are often above that kind of relatively petty stuff. (Don't take it personally, I've been living in deep poverty for far too long and I am not autistic. Poverty can really eat away at you, yes. But that too is to a large degree because poor people are discriminated against, seen and treated as less valuable.)
Quỳnh chi Phạm
Quỳnh chi Phạm Жыл бұрын
Yesss i want some update 😭
Rosemary Gustafson
Rosemary Gustafson 3 жыл бұрын
18 year old with Aspergers here. I was diagnosed about 4 months ago, but it’s something that has been a part of my life for a lot longer than just four months. My dad also had Aspergers, and my little brother has both Downs Syndrome and Autism, so I’ve had lots of exposure to people of varying abilities. I personally don’t view my diagnosis as a disability, because I have the ability to do everything that a “normal” person can, I just have my own way of doing it. I know that it may sound corny, but it doesn’t change who I am; the strange and unique way that I function as a human just has a name now, that’s all.
Concrete Head
Concrete Head Жыл бұрын
Just Autism now . I know some of us prefer Aspie etc . I think it’s easier if it’s just Autism.. there isn’t so much confusion for the typical thinkers .
DotAnon Жыл бұрын
​@Break My Legs! It was basically incorporated into ASD diagnoses, so these days aspergers diagnoses would be regarded as "ASD level 1" to reflect high functioning. But I personally don't know how to feel about this, as the distinction of no speech delays in early childhood seems significant enough to me to warrant a distinction between high-functioning autism and aspergers. Basically based on the old criteria, aspergers kids would pick up language on time, but at some point early on after that they begin to withdraw socially. High-functioning autism (HFA) was generally a term for kids who had delays in speech, but received support to offset their issues. So basically under the new criteria, HFA and aspergers were grouped together because despite the different manifestations of autism in early life, their ability to function is essentially similar. Some psychologists have noted common differences between the two in their works, like Sam Vaknin who had an interesting talk about Autism vs Narcissism vs Psychopathy where he mentioned that HFA patients will generally have good visual reasoning but weaker verbal reasoning, whereas aspergers patients have higher verbal reasoning but generally lower visual reasoning. Either way, the change in the criteria does not mean people with aspergers are now normal. lol. It just means that it falls under the general ASD banner now.
DotAnon Жыл бұрын
I'm 27 and thinking about pursuing a diagnosis. I've found even just making the connection and realising that it might be ASD can do wonders for one's mental health. A lot of my depression in hindsight I think was due to comparing myself to my peers in terms of social and general success while also being unable to really understand my own emotional state. I would almost apply affective empathy to myself and felt depressed simply because I felt I SHOULD feel unfulfilled and depressed based on how I've come to understand others, but since realising and having a lens to reassess my behaviours I have found that I am far more mentally resilient these days. The feeling of being unable to relate to my peers will probably never quite go away, but ultimately I'm realising it isn't a problem unless I make it one.
Field Sobriety Test
Field Sobriety Test Жыл бұрын
@Break My Legs! That doesn't mean that people who were previously diagnosed with aspergers are now "normal", it means that they're now diagnosed as having autism spectrum disorder just on the higher end of the spectrum.
In Жыл бұрын
@The Fox it made me have a lot of trouble in my life sadly.
Hyperpandas 3 жыл бұрын
A fascinating and touching look into his life and thoughts. Awfully kind of him to share it.
Charlie Capp
Charlie Capp 3 жыл бұрын
This is my mom's very good friend. He is such an amazing person.
Vérone Kowalewicz
Vérone Kowalewicz 9 ай бұрын
That’s great ❤️❤️
OldNewStock 3 жыл бұрын
I have spent most of my life living with the fact I have Asperger’s syndrome. I suppose I’m one of the lucky ones, as language is my strong area. While I struggle to have ordinary conversations with people, I can still express myself through the written word. I do not believe Asperger’s syndrome is a disability, but that is a label used to describe it to the uninitiate. One day I hope people will understand that we are not disabled, we are just different. I can write an entire world into existence in under an hour, but the moment you give me a simple mathematical problem my brain crashes. If you meet other people with Aspergers, you will discover that we all seem to end up specialising in specific areas; some of us are masters of quantum physics, others can recite entire books they read decades ago. We struggle with the mundane, but excel in the unusual. We’re not disabled, just different. Different isn’t bad.
Anakin Skywalker
Anakin Skywalker 2 ай бұрын
What's the difference between asperger and high functioning autism?
Not Active
Not Active 10 ай бұрын
It's not jarring but certainly got gears turning in my head, seeing someone else describe me for themselves, and vice versa. It's hard for me to live with my shortcomings as finally living on my own with little discipline from being a feral child makes new chores all the more difficult. I think I needed to be reminded of this today, thank you.
J8599 Жыл бұрын
@Ashli J what is your idea of being disabled? How would you describe it in your own words?
J8599 Жыл бұрын
@WindowCat that’s not what she means. You’re missing the point
AnaArabi88 3 жыл бұрын
Incredibly moving and heartwarming to see those two find love in this world. I have a particular soft spot for children with disabilities, but adults deserve just as much love and care.
Maya Dowe
Maya Dowe 3 жыл бұрын
I find their love so pure and real. It’s not based on sexual attraction or looks just relating to each other and supporting each other is so beautiful and rare these days 🥺
Gina Primeau
Gina Primeau 3 жыл бұрын
I have asd and I relate very much to his experience. I would like more people to be better informed about people who have autism
Seb The Sasquatch
Seb The Sasquatch 3 жыл бұрын
@Zeniethia That's good thoe, think about it. Imagine that people don't even know what autism is.Now that people have tried to spread awareness about autism. People have started to use it as a hatful term. Autism is as great a meme as Pepe the frog . It makes sense to inform teacher and other educators but for the general public i think it's best that they be left uninformed. My parents know I have autism and they have spend decades looking after me. `even they don't fully understand autism. LEAVE IT TO THE PROFESSIONALS.
Zeniethia 3 жыл бұрын
@Seb The Sasquatch The more people that is uneducated about Autism, the worse the situation it is. People need to be educated
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@Seb The Sasquatch yes but its worse uneducated because they cant tell true from false but no doubt people are cruel
Seb The Sasquatch
Seb The Sasquatch 3 жыл бұрын
I have ASD also but I think that it may actually be a bad thing for the general public to know more about people with ASD. People are pretty awful and from personnel experience, I have noticed that people will often discriminate against us.
Dakuwa 3 ай бұрын
I found myself scatting with him. The man is a beaconing example of perservering in the face of a misunderstanding society. The wife is also a beacon of hope that love can survive and thrive despite whatever we're dealt in life. I wish the both of them peace in their lives together, I want to see if I can experience the unity and connection those two share as someone with autism and isolation issues. Much love to both of them and everyone else in the world.
X-75 Hurricane
X-75 Hurricane 2 жыл бұрын
What beautiful people. I could happily live in a world where every one were like this couple...gentle, honest, compassionate and authentic. Which is about as far removed from the majority of mankind that inhabit this planet currently. Thanks for such an insightful documentary. Cheers from NZ.
Derek Raynaud
Derek Raynaud 3 жыл бұрын
When their relationship started being shown my heart absolutely melted. I know people on the autism spectrum have hard times making connections so when I see someone on the spectrum who has found their someone, it makes me tear up a little
roent gen
roent gen 4 ай бұрын
Louis Bishop
Louis Bishop Жыл бұрын
@PenglingWhisperer I'm a single man at 34 with Asperger's Sydrome. Your comment was very informative
babybirdhome Жыл бұрын
@trashbasket - I also didn’t find this comment condescending, as someone with Asperger’s - it’s just an acknowledgement of reality and I feel the same way when I see someone who’s managed to overcome the challenges life throws at them and finds someone they can share their lives with and be in love with and have love them back. That’s a rare and hard thing to find. I’m 48 and have only been on one date from an online dating site after paying to be a member on 5 different dating sites for more than 5 years. I’ve never kissed or held hands or cuddled or anything else. I did have a girlfriend online for a few months but that didn’t work out because she said she thought I was great but that she could only ever get so close and then she said it felt like past that point there was just nothing. I was devastated because I really put everything I had into our relationship and tried as hard as I could, but I couldn’t figure out how to give her what she needed and that was what I wanted to do more than anything. I’m still friends with her and now her husband too, and I’ve never been happier than when she met him because he was able to give her all the things I could only wish I could but could never figure out. It makes me happy knowing they have each other and I wish the same thing for everyone else too, because I know how hard it is to find that. I can understand seeing a commnet like that as being condescending, but this particular comment didn’t seem that way to me - it seemed sincere and heartfelt, like Derek really appreciated what they have together. I think maybe you misread the intent on his comment.
PenglingWhisperer Жыл бұрын
Connecting with non-autistic people is hard, connecting with other neuro diverse people is much easier, that’s why autistic people often end up in relationships with other autistic people. We thrive when we are understood and accepted so someone else who has similar difficulties to us knows us much better. My wife and have been married for 7 years and we are both autistic. We were diagnosed after we got married so it wasn’t;t knowing we were autistic that made us click immediately. We just did because we understood each other straight away when everybody else didn’t give us a chance. People say that autistic folks can’t connect with others. Its actually that autistic and non-autistic don;t connect well because they think differently. Non-autistic people say we don;t have empathy or that we don;t engage with others. The truth is we can have far more empathy than non-autistic people, we just show it differently. The way we show it is the opposite of what non-autistic people want so they say we can’t do it. In fact non-autistic people usually can;t show empathy to autistic people in the way autistic people need so it’s no different. We can do the thing they say we can’t; such a social communication, empathy, emotion, connection. We just do it differently to how they do it. They decide their way is normal so they ignore our way and say it doesn’t exist simply because they don;t understand it. When we show empathy differently to them, or we connect with them differently to how they do, they say we failed at it. When they show empathy to us in their way which is wrong for us and can be hurtful and damaging, they don;t say they got it wrong, they say it is agin our issue, our fault and our failing. Once non-autistic people understand that, they will start to understand and connect with us better.the sad thing is when autistic people say “this is how we do things, this is how you make it hard” non-autistic people can;t hear it and will continue to to tell US how we should feel and that they can do and say what they want, its our issue if they do it wrong for us.
Anonymous Person
Anonymous Person Жыл бұрын
same thoughts! :'))
Nick Ebejer
Nick Ebejer 2 жыл бұрын
First of all his piano skills are AMAZING, and secondly, that scene where Toni calls him into the kitchen to play that little game of "JORDANN!!.....I love you!" is just so darn sweet. You can really see Jordan's true personality here and they seem to have a very loving relationship.
Sierra LVX
Sierra LVX 2 жыл бұрын
As a 23 year old with autism, this makes me feel so much more confident about my future. I'm at the point where I can advocate for my self, just like Jordan was so beautifully singing at the end! It's taken me a lot to get here and I wouldn't have been able to if it weren't for my friends who are autistic as well.
[K] Жыл бұрын
it is heartwarming to see that they have each other, what a blessing
Marian Mehew
Marian Mehew 10 ай бұрын
I felt sad when Jordan spoke of trying to engage with others. I am challenged conversationally at the best of times and really do struggle to keep up a conversation with someone who has a narrow field of interest. Especially if it is not one of mine. He definitely reminded me that the effort is important.
Danny Sprawka
Danny Sprawka 3 жыл бұрын
I have tears in my eyes. I’ve lived all my life with learning disabilities and mental illness, and often living and relationships feel like constant erasure and endless work. However, life is precious. Perseverance is innate to survival. If you cannot see that or respect that , I suggest you move aside. Everyone deserves to be seen, heard, understood, and valued as humans, because we all seek to survive with dignity. People with disabilities often are not disabled at all. In the sense that they may have challenges and struggles, and even incapacitating aspects of their living, but they are indeed differently abled, not in deficit. They are indeed fully human, and therefore immeasurably unique in mind and body. Often people who look at disability as an utter deficit, don’t understand that it is in reality their unique misunderstanding of human life and it’s complexity. Thank you for this video. It gives good insight to a non deficit view of neuro diversity.
Ju A.
Ju A. 2 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that you went through all those struggles. Did you face anything similar to Aspergers? You write really well
OmegaWolf747 3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad he and his girlfriend found each other and can support each other in this difficult world.
Noor Clean
Noor Clean Жыл бұрын
Autism is sadly inheritable.. i am autistic, i would like to have kids but i dont want to inherit my autism to my kids and they will suffer and struggle more into adulthood
Elvenkind 2 жыл бұрын
@vrg kard Answering a year after, but you sound very much like myself, I've been struggling horribly for 20-30 years with depression and anxiety, and in the end I also got problems with drugs when my ex-fiance and our son moved to the other side of the country and then the Child Protection Agency took him away from us. Gladly now he is living at my brothers place, in a good family, and is 15, but he struggle a lot, have some kind of disorder, I think Autism, most likely Asberger, since he don't have any friends and are very obsessed about certain things, but have difficulty with feelings and relations.
OmegaWolf747 2 жыл бұрын
@CatsInHats S.Crouching Tiger I interact regularly with people with autism and can say most assuredly that none of them are cold or disconnected.
CatsInHats S.Crouching Tiger
CatsInHats S.Crouching Tiger 2 жыл бұрын
They have chemistry together. It’s amazing. Shattering the stereotypes that those with autism are cold & disconnected.
artistdeluxe09 Жыл бұрын
Seeing them live within their means impressed me. Yes, it was at first a surprise that made me wonder how little they lived on. And I felt sad. But many people are frugal. It is not only what one has in the cupboard or refrigerator that makes for a good life. They take walks. They tell each other they love each other. They enjoy the bells. He has vast musical talent. :-)
kayreb 3 жыл бұрын
I'm autistic and this really hit home...especially when he discussed social difficulties. It can be so hard when you just don't want to be lonely anymore but don't know how to make friends or don't even really want to be in social situations. I'm glad that they focused on an adult with autism...i wasn't diagnosed until this year (at 18)...and it is so hard to find examples of people like me - adults with autism.
Lebowski The Big
Lebowski The Big 3 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely beautiful! We need more educational videos like this that help humanize people (adults) with disabilities.
Hannukka Жыл бұрын
It warms my heart to see two human beings sharing tenderness, trust and love with eachother, that’s a lot more than most ”normal” people can ever have. This is pure and real. Hope you have a good life together ❤️❤️
MisaWeasel 10 ай бұрын
I watched this because Im autistic but Im feeling upbeat today, and I wanted some happy whimsical music and when he started playing piano i got so freaking happy and was like, "YES THIS GUY GETS IT" lol ♡ Its really kind that they depend on each other. This was heart warming.
Mazzy 3 жыл бұрын
“Isn’t it nice when you hear the church bells ring? It reminds me of you.” Such a simple yet deep way to explain love towards another.
ThatAnimalChannel Жыл бұрын
It could also be a reminder for her because he is so fond of performing music. Like he said, big band sound. But who's to say for sure. Regardless, its still lovely.
CayDunksGames Жыл бұрын
out of the entire video, that's the part that rung my bell. pun 50% intended.
Joy L
Joy L Жыл бұрын
Yes! So many of us neurodivergent (autism, ADHD, tourettes, dyslexia, etc) people use analogies, allegories, and symbolism to explain what we mean. It's the kind of thing that often is like an inside joke. What exactly was meant by that is very personal between people. It reminds me of a Star Trek TNG episode called Darmok, where there's a race of people who use stories from their mythology/history to explain things, the main thing being "Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra," meaning two people met on the island of Tanagra, came as enemies, but left as friends because there was a common enemy on the island. So if I say the name of a park, or a situation in my life, people who were there would understand, but others who weren't there, don't get the whole meaning. And yes, a lot of us use references to movies or songs as well.
Jose Gonzalez
Jose Gonzalez 2 жыл бұрын
It was very sweet.
Josefine Bliss
Josefine Bliss Жыл бұрын
I really felt him when he said many times he feels rejected by people but he keeps it to himself. For me it's usually that I appear disinterested and i'm very quiet so people assume I wish to be left alone or even that i'm rude which is not true though often I don't have the energy to socialize but other times I do and I do not know how to let people know this. It's extra hard with social anxiety too. And in groups it is impossible because I have no idea when it's my turn to talk so either I say nothing or I interrupt people constantly, and no amount of practice seems to help. Oh well animals are totally better than humans. :)
ML H Жыл бұрын
There is something so refreshing about their presence, something childlike and sober, facing the reality that is. Love to see them. I tend to take it as normal switching through different 'circles' and losing orientation at times. To then find a renewed touch to reality again. Feels like human life.
Kain 2 жыл бұрын
I broke out crying watching this. I have adhd, which I would say isn’t as bad but all mental disorders are bad. Watching someone else struggle in society because of a disorder really hit home, It hurts me to see people with disorders because I can see myself in them.
Noah Bolesta
Noah Bolesta Жыл бұрын
This is purely wholesome and amazing. It really opens your mind and heart to be accepting of everyone.
Jonathan Sanchez
Jonathan Sanchez 2 жыл бұрын
They’re absolute heroes!! They’re so pure of love and inspiration!!! Incredible story
Daniel Y
Daniel Y 3 жыл бұрын
9:51 Disabilities are secondary, but we are people first. Ahh, so touching.
Jake Hoffman
Jake Hoffman 3 жыл бұрын
electric 6 Very well said, either it is condescending or not, or even somewhere in between. Well never truly know what its meaning originates till we get the source or even if its truthful or not. We only have ourself to figure out what we would mean if we posted such a comment. As I'll leave it as not condescending and allow myself to believe that the poster had wholesome intent. That is, at least, what I would of intended.
Jake Hoffman
Jake Hoffman 3 жыл бұрын
electric 6 because I did not find it condescending. Why would 1500 like such a post if they found it condescending. Need to winden you perspectives more. This is a more personal matter. Do you have problems in life where people talk to you condescendingly?
Jake Hoffman
Jake Hoffman 3 жыл бұрын
electric 6 how does the text of "ah, how touching" be condensending?
couldn't think of a cool name
couldn't think of a cool name 3 жыл бұрын
I'm also an autistic person, so I'm gonna let you know that the community is pretty divided over "person first" language. I personally fall into the side of not that, because I'm not "with" autism. I can't put it down, I can't have it cured (nor do I want to). I'm autistic in the same way somebody else is shy, or boisterous, or whatever. It's not an extra, a third arm, it's a different eye colour.
Alex Mendez
Alex Mendez 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this documentary. I learned so much from a disease so common yet not well understood. It shocked me that people with autism want to interact with people but they just don’t know how 😢 It encourages me to show them even more compassion.
Leo 2 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful relationship they have. That part with her saying "I love you" several times reminded me of my little sister. She has autism and does repeat a lot of statements. This video gave me hope for her future and it made me smile. And the part with the groceries :( I wish I could have helped pay for them. I have been hungry in my life too and I would love to donate to them if it was possible.
Danon Guy
Danon Guy Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I was really apprehensive to watch this video, because we are so often misrepresented and misunderstood. But you made a beautiful documentary that actually frames our experience and struggles in a dignified way. We need way more of this kind of accurate representation, especially of autistic adults. Thank you NYT, and thank you Mr. Kamnitzer for being an amazing advocate !
Jodie Teresa Tarot
Jodie Teresa Tarot 10 ай бұрын
As a mother of 3 amazing autistic son's I hope for my boys to have incredible relationships like this, the love, joy, support, gratitude, understanding & stability they bring to eachother is so touching to see. Absolutely beautiful, thank you x
Ashton Butler
Ashton Butler 2 жыл бұрын
As someone who has autism, I know how hard it is sometimes. Teachers would always treat me like I’m stupid even though I process information differently than the other kids. I’m going into my junior year, and I’m still scared people will make fun of me because I have autism. I lost friends, my last girlfriend and still struggle day to day due to autism.
*POW* PunkOnWhiskey
*POW* PunkOnWhiskey 3 жыл бұрын
My Daughter is autistic and has more empathy than the vast majority of people I've ever come across. She too is very musical, playing from ear. I never understood autism before I had my daughter and I wonder how she'll be once she reaches adulthood but I know this for certain. She is an absolute blessing and I'm so lucky to have her! I hope I do her proud as a mother because she makes me so proud that I could burst every single day. She has opened my eyes to a world I never knew and I would do anything to make her life as easy and joyful as I can for her and yet she is the one who provides my life with these qualities. I was angry and upset when she was diagnosed at 5yrs old and yet a few years down the line, I can see how lucky we are to have such a pure soul amongst us. She'll have struggles and issues I'm sure, but I'll fight tooth and nail to help her every single day until I'm taken away from this life. Truth is, she's healed me, taught me things and blessed my life. I hope I make her as content as she makes me. Im so proud of her. ❤️
Trash Panda
Trash Panda 11 ай бұрын
Look at HSPs....highly sensitive people (not from the woo corners but doctors) I jive with this as well but come across as dry & aloof in person. Writing is better....working with my hands is better....people (?) not so much, lol. The world really is a shattering place, it's just that "normal" people have adapted....don't notice or talk about it.
Abu Hamad
Abu Hamad 11 ай бұрын
This was the most pure and loving from the heart things I’ve ever read and I can feel the truth within it thank you for sharing these beautiful words ❤️
king james488
king james488 Жыл бұрын
@A Beck best of luck! communication can be a challenge and IMO a lot of "outbursts" stem from making assumptions and confusion. (speaking as someone with aspergers..)
A Beck
A Beck Жыл бұрын
I was angry too when my son was diagnosed at four, but it was more so sadness because the world is cruel. But when you realize how truly special autistic children are. I learn something new everyday with my son. I'm teaching him how to be independent it's going well. He's learning reading and writing, he loves math also. But he struggles socially and emotionally.I love my son so much. Even with his meltdowns I wouldn't trade him for another child. I'm looking forward to raising him into an awesome adult.
Alexa Penn
Alexa Penn Жыл бұрын
@Joy L so well put - glad you have friends and family - and you’re doing so well in handling your life. Do keep safe :) 🌷🌿🌼🌱🌷
Zach Scott
Zach Scott 6 ай бұрын
I just had to stop and say I did a little giddy clap when Toni came on screen! I have found so much acceptance and belonging by interacting with other nuerodivergent folks that I can't find anywhere else. ESPECIALLY people who are OPEN and accepting of themselves. Hyperactive ADHDrs are particularly amazing people who I can feel very connected to. Soon I'm going to be working with kids having behavioral difficulties, it's so important for people like us to interact with others who GET it!
Ladder Up
Ladder Up 2 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful pair, this video was so incredibly moving. So happy this couple are here on earth, they are a treasure.
Lynn Marie Anderson
Lynn Marie Anderson 3 жыл бұрын
This was so eye opening. Me and my significant other both have bipolar disorder and both of us are surviving on disability. I have worked in the past, but I'm 49 now and I have always had trouble holding down a job for a long period of time. Having bipolar depression can very much be a disability also. My heart goes out to this couple trying to make it work when they have so much weighing against them.
Phoebe 3 жыл бұрын
My 3 year old has autism and has an extreme fascination with circles. I've always tried to understand why and this video kind of shows me its deeper than we imagined
B M 11 ай бұрын
@TheDamped I really loved all of you comment but that shape shifting cylinder video was disturbing!
Phoebe 2 жыл бұрын
Ilovedogs cats they’ve suggested this to me over the years it’ll probably be very beneficial once I get him into it. Thanks for sharing 🥰
TT 2 жыл бұрын
Get them into art, look into the drawing techniques.
Elle Han
Elle Han 2 жыл бұрын
Donkey I have an obsession with the Fibonacci sequence. I just keep drawing them. I incorporated them into artwork.
AspieKing 2 жыл бұрын
As an aspie myself, I had always felt like an outsider but I never knew why until age 44 when I discovered I had the condition myself. Everything requiring significant social skills was always an uphill battle for me. Getting a job after college proved extremely difficult for me. Without knowing my true condition and without the help I needed, I pretty much had to navigate my way alone, except that I did find a wife who never gave up on me. Now that I look back, I think I did pretty well for someone that didn't get the proper help, and now I don't have to face this world alone.
Pilar Montano Gavira
Pilar Montano Gavira 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t really talk about this but here we go: I’m 11. I have a 16 yr old brother with severe autism. He can’t talk at all. But he makes noises and uses his hands to express his feelings and what he wants. He’s pretty difficult, sometimes. When he likes something, he does not want to do anything but that thing. If he likes a show, he does not want to change it. At all. He’ll watch it all day. He’s not the biggest fan of change. He is constantly excited. He likes to jump. And he sleeps really late, he can stay up for hours. He seems to have a high spice tolerance. He can really just eat food with a lot of hot sauce and wouldn’t care. If he eats certain foods with sugar, he’ll get migraines and he’ll be pretty upset. I taught him things, like how to play hand games or how to paint or wash his hands. And I could go on, but that’d be a lot to type haha! He may be difficult sometimes but he has feelings too. I know he loves us. And if he’s in a good mood, he’ll give you hugs. I love him a lot! edit: I’d like to add a few things I forgot to add: 1. My brother has said 2 words, but this is EXTREMELY rare, and has only happened twice! The first word he said was “Ear”. His teacher at his special needs school asked him what was wrong one day when he was in pain. My brother had said one word: Ear! I remember my family were so excited and proud of him! The second time was when my dad was trying to get my brother up for school, but then he said: No. I was sleeping at that time, and I wished I had seen it! This happened a really, really, really long time ago! I hope to see him say a word to me one day. But even if he can’t, i still love him. 2. Thank you all SO SO SO MUCH for all the replies! I love them all, you guys are so kind! One day, I’ll try reading them to my brother! Thank you so much! 🖤 3. I think that it’s not right for people to make fun of people with disabilities. Here’s something I’d like to say: If everyone had switched places with a mentally disabled person for just one day, then we as a society could be much more loving, understanding, and caring. edit: will delete- the reply section has a few users who are saying terrible things to bully others. please ignore the hate, guys, even if it is hard.
ThePigeonBrain Жыл бұрын
I have a relative, from the description, it seems he has the same disorder as the above. His mother celebrated when she succeeded in teaching him how to peel potatoes. What I've never understood is why it is called severe autism and lumped together in this big group of "autism". They cannot talk, it is clearly not the same as someone who simply struggles with/shows disinterest in social interactions. Isn't it just a way of giving up? The doctors are not even bothering to give it a proper name.
Rosekilts Жыл бұрын
You are an incredible brother and I wish you and your brother the the very best xx
Suzanne Z
Suzanne Z Жыл бұрын
I just love you, that's all. Thanks for all of this.
Lulu Appler
Lulu Appler Жыл бұрын
you are such a wonderful kind person Pilar, with a gift for writing and many many more ... lots of love God bless you Lulu
Antigravityskateshop Жыл бұрын
CharlieFromDaMoon Жыл бұрын
Grateful for having been allowed into your lives these past 12 minutes Jordan and Toni ♥️ Wishing you all the best.
Soumia Fares
Soumia Fares Жыл бұрын
This is shot incredibly well and the way the sound is captured is especially spot on. Thank you for sharing their story.
bad matter
bad matter 3 жыл бұрын
this entire thing is so well done, so well shot and showing something so important to understand
connor pinto
connor pinto Жыл бұрын
this video gives me a hope for myself and my other disabled friends in a way that no one other than autistic adults can. seeing disabled adults form loving relationships and live independently warms my heart and makes me feel that the world won’t be as daunting as people might make it out to be. i know it’ll be hard, this video didn’t only show the good parts, but seeing two adults living like that makes me feel like i can do it too.
Canadian Castellan
Canadian Castellan 3 жыл бұрын
I have Autism as well, Aspergers syndrome, but I am so high functioning that I seem neurotypical, I have a one track mind sometimes, but other times it's everything at once. I feel things at a multiplied state, all the feelings. Especially the feeling of anxiety, most strongly felt in social situations, I always have a hurdle, one higher than others, I can't always get started with a conversation with a new person, I overthink it always usually and miss my chance, I always think I will be shrugged off and ignored. But once I start it's usually somewhat easy to converse, I just HATE making the first move. But this is my mind in social situations, when I am alone and left to myself I am at peace, I can come up with ideas on the fly, I was able to write almost 7 songs worth of lyrics on a dime once, because my brain was just like "hey you know what'd be sounding cool? this!"
wa77iok 3 жыл бұрын
This is unrelated to the theme of the video, but whoever shot this did a great job.
myearshurt Noone
myearshurt Noone Жыл бұрын
i agree it gave me as Wes Anderson vibes, very beautifully put together and in doing so grasping the attention of more viewers and bringing more awareness to the cause
OhWhat World
OhWhat World 2 жыл бұрын
I totally agree. It made me want to start studying cinematography, on top of the 1000 other things I want to do haha
Diana L Evans
Diana L Evans 2 жыл бұрын
It's related to the video and I agree
Der Aua
Der Aua 3 жыл бұрын
Day-Z Duke
Day-Z Duke 3 жыл бұрын
I truly admire the resiliency shown by this humble man. I try to use examples like him for motivation in my life, when I think I’m having difficulties or am lacking desire to achieve. Great video
LILO Жыл бұрын
Such a beautifully documented piece, both are so well spoken and the man is quite talented with the piano.
PepeCris15 3 жыл бұрын
Thankful I got to have a glimpse into the world of Jordan and Toni; two beautiful and kind-hearted souls. Tip of the cap to all involved in this documentary. Really well done!
Josh _
Josh _ 2 жыл бұрын
I wish all the best for these two; the world needs them. We have to support and not forget every human regardless of any condition that may be inherited.
Moocow2oo 3 жыл бұрын
I felt this IN MY BONES!!!!!! I am still struggling with the idea of being autistic myself. I learned that I was autistic years ago, but I still tell myself that I am "normal". I enjoy who and what I am, and I wouldn't trade being another way or another person for anything. I only wish that I could feel safe to express how I really feel about the things that I encounter every day; to know that people aren't judging me for being different simply because I am literally unpacking and deconstructing a thing down to the atomic level just so I can understand the thing on my terms. Or bursting at the seams with emotions over a thing. Or not. showing any emotions. at. all. Thanks for making this film. I would absolutely watch if it were a full series or even a full cinematic film.
sentient02970 3 жыл бұрын
I love how touching and so openly humanistic this is. More KZbin like this.
Robin Anna'Niaz
Robin Anna'Niaz Жыл бұрын
Her love for him is so uninhibited, innocent and pure it got me all sniffy. What a beautiful gift this woman is x
Masha Spikego
Masha Spikego 10 ай бұрын
It’s wonderful to have the opportunity to get a small glimpse into how other people experience life in their own words. It’s so important to open our minds to the myriad ways possible for humans to interact with the world. Unfortunately it’s easy for many people to make assumptions of people who are neurodiverse and forget that they have complex needs and emotions like everyone else and are deserving of finding the best way to navigate their lives with the resources they have. Thanks for sharing.
Bosis of Sweden
Bosis of Sweden 2 жыл бұрын
In Sweden they have companies that focuses on hiring people with Asperger because it is not only a disability it is also a superpower when people are in their right element.
Anonymous 8 ай бұрын
I should move to Sweden then
Åsa Persson
Åsa Persson Жыл бұрын
@Haugen Haugen yes it is.
Jennifer Andersson
Jennifer Andersson Жыл бұрын
Only IT jobs 😔
Bosis of Sweden
Bosis of Sweden Жыл бұрын
@Haugen Haugen It definitely can be.
Haugen Haugen
Haugen Haugen Жыл бұрын
I hate so much how you're calling it a disability. It's not.
Prison Mike
Prison Mike 2 жыл бұрын
I work with adults who have a variety of disabilities, specifically with developing gainful employment, and videos like this are so helpful to be able to share with my group during job class, or with other staff. This was great to watch. The world needs more folks like this, loving, positive and working towards a better version of themselves each day.
ineedmyhat 3 жыл бұрын
If only we all cared about each other as much as these two. If we all look out for one another, no one will be lost. To be human is to care, to love is godly.
john g442-2
john g442-2 Жыл бұрын
I agree 100%
Alban 3 жыл бұрын
Wow finally a very well done made short documentary about Autism and people on the spectrum. Thank you and please make more of these. This is beautiful
Alma Wells
Alma Wells 3 жыл бұрын
Yes Alban. Yes indeed ! I really enjoyed watching this video. Oh, such a beautiful "love story." I am not disabled... yet, I am not blessed with a loving mate who cares about me. He is so lucky to have a loving mate.
Rahma Kattanga
Rahma Kattanga 3 жыл бұрын
Their love is absolutely pure the world needs to get some of that❤️
kal Жыл бұрын
More people need to see this documentary. What a masterpiece.
Chris W.
Chris W. 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful, imaginative, chaotic, and strangely inspiring all at once... this piece is beyond words.
Y SL Жыл бұрын
Very wholesome, i hope the best for them and it's always nice to get a insight on things you don't have too much understanding of !
Butter Scotchnut
Butter Scotchnut 3 жыл бұрын
I have ASD and I struggle with connecting people and maintaining relationships so it always makes me feel nice to see other people on the spectrum in healthy relationships. I don’t know if I want a romantic relationship and I’m asexual so it’ll be probably even harder for me but I just think maybe there is another person out there who thinks like me and we can just exist together
KittyPie 3 жыл бұрын
“Am I a lousy girlfriend?” “Not at all, don’t put yourself down.” 😭😭😭
Brian Bommarito
Brian Bommarito Жыл бұрын
The correct answer would be something like this: “Am I a lousy girlfriend?” “No, but you’d be better as a wife.”
Natalie Zementbeisser
Natalie Zementbeisser Жыл бұрын
@Meanwhile in Japan Bro, you are cool
Stranded in Seattle
Stranded in Seattle Жыл бұрын
My nephew is autistic. As I watched that, all I could wish was for a partner to be as good to him like that when he is older, too. Bless both of them and all the other people living with disability out there. May they know love in all its many incarnations. ♥
fab0 Жыл бұрын
@Meanwhile in Japan hey let me know if you want to talk :)
Meanwhile in Japan
Meanwhile in Japan 2 жыл бұрын
"Am I a lousy human?" no your ok "me talking to myself."
Asylum Choir
Asylum Choir Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Jordan & Toni, for sharing your truth. This is a well done piece. Your positivity, courage, kindness, strength, personality, talents, and love are unmistakable. May God bless you, always. 😊☀️🌸🕯🕊❤️
It’s Me
It’s Me Жыл бұрын
I have so much respect for this man . He is smart , intelligent, kind, respectful, loving , talented, organized , polite , etc .And he plays piano as a professional musician. I wish this video was longer . There is not much info about adults life , usually it’s all about the kids . But kids grow up… then what ?
J Comm
J Comm 2 жыл бұрын
Wonderful piece, bravo to all who put it together❤
charlie 10 ай бұрын
i’m a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic & i really really identified with this video - it brings me so much joy to see others with similar neurodevelopmental disorders live full and happy lives that you previously felt you could never have :)
Fevval Жыл бұрын
Reading the title of this video made me realize that we really only start to understand a person when they start speaking. We may have all these fancy and elaborate internalized thoughts, but how we're perceived is only truly seen when we speak to others. I personally have a lot of trouble expressing my thoughts and I'm not sure if it's autism, but, It gets frustrating.
MsNooneinparticular 3 жыл бұрын
Can relate so much. Being an adult on the spectrum is so hard & doesn't get much media attention. It's almost as if autism is only a childhood condition. Staying in the moment & socializing are huge challenges of mine too. Ending up a hermit is one of my biggest fears when I move out on my own (again). Glad these two found each other. There's someone out there for everyone & if you don't find your person, you can still find happiness with your hobbies, friends, work, etc.
Bonnie Lewis
Bonnie Lewis Жыл бұрын
That's very true, my son was diagnosed last year aged 19 , and there's no help except charities
Julia Dixon
Julia Dixon 3 жыл бұрын
Saaaaaame here.
Colin Larson
Colin Larson Жыл бұрын
I do not have a mental disability that I know of but man, Jordan very articulately articulated the way I feel much of the time. Especially about making plans that turn into an internal chaos and wanting to build stronger bonds with people etc. Seems the older I get the harder it is as a man to make meaningful relationships, and to solidify bonds I have with people in my life who I care for dearly. It brings much joy to me to see him in his relationship. Oddly from looking from the point of the stigma of Asperger's and Autism it is so strange and beautiful to see his emotional maturity in his relationship. They both are beautiful people blessed to have each other.
Louis Bishop
Louis Bishop Жыл бұрын
This video caught my attention and I liked it a lot. I'm a 34 year old single man with Asperger's Sydrome. Very informative and their relationship is inspiring to me!!
Colin Oxenham
Colin Oxenham Жыл бұрын
What a lovely couple. We all have our struggles and differences, remember to be kind and compassionate, and be thankful for the life you have.
TyrranicalT-Rad 3 жыл бұрын
This was a beautiful story and very enlightening. I'm glad it was told.
Rezin 8
Rezin 8 3 жыл бұрын
❤💪 I was never diagnosed Asperger's but I know I have a level difficulty adjusting to change and basic things. This is so heartwarming to watch ❤🔎
Oliver Goossens
Oliver Goossens 3 жыл бұрын
The way he handled the initial purchase which they could not afford was just professional. So "human" with the words he choose "we will have to do without" ... this was the most powerful moment for me. Disabilities on on hand and on the other the real world - tough with its rules and money and you either fit in or you wont survive. Strong moment.
Oliver Goossens
Oliver Goossens 3 жыл бұрын
@Erick Price I thought of that - but, that would not help anyone and could even bring negative emotions to the whole situation.
Erick Price
Erick Price 3 жыл бұрын
If I was there I would buy it for them. Lol earning over 90k a year doesn’t make me happy unless I share it with strangers. Instincts
Oliver Goossens
Oliver Goossens 3 жыл бұрын
shmokey shmokey yeah exactly - Im not on the spectrum :-) and would still panic :D
Salt And Iron
Salt And Iron 3 жыл бұрын
I agree. I was so touched by the way he verbalized sincerely and beautiful through that.
C S 3 жыл бұрын
Autistic people can be incredibly analytical like this and I think that's often perceived as that flat tone/expressionless demeanor stereotype we're all known for. Everyone sees a very calm and rational person even though on the inside there's chaos being re-ordered all the time.
Ivan Lee
Ivan Lee 2 жыл бұрын
Her soul is beautiful! We need more women like her in this world.
Glo 100
Glo 100 3 жыл бұрын
I love this. We need more videos like this to understand what people with disabilities feel inside instead of guessing.
iLxves 3 жыл бұрын
I feel proud to have ASD tbh, I don’t regret it I like feeling different to people. But there were some difficulties in my life especially socialising or trying to understand someone. I never had true friends but sometimes I like feeling alone cuz of freedom, and I mostly concentrate on my art and I love music cuz it keeps me calm with my depression and high anxiety. I was lucky I never got bullied of it. and I did get help and I think I got diagnosed at age 16 now I’m 18 yrs old. I hope to be happier someday, I want to be.
CZ 3 жыл бұрын
these op-docs are so good. thanks for sharing your story.
Joe Campbell
Joe Campbell 3 жыл бұрын
I felt a feeling not often felt, truely a translation of another human's way of thinking. if at all possible more videos like this :)
DaveHates808s 3 жыл бұрын
Seeing them struggle to afford those groceries hurt me
cfrl 10 ай бұрын
@African Queen Mo It's possible, but it's also possible that they have an exact budget they adhere to every time they go to the grocery store, and since they were dealing with the cameras for this documentary, they didn't count their totals before getting up there
Anna F
Anna F 11 ай бұрын
They should have someone to help them with shopping. Ordering online could also make things easier. I know some people who have restrictions on their account regarding what they can withdraw in a week but if noone helps them in the supermarket and they accidentally buy the most expensive brand of natural orange juice and some Belgian chocolates, there goes the budget for the next two days. And if it's the end of the week they are left with nothing. It`s much easier to find some IT solution and say "we helped" than investing in any actual human contact.
𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐚 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐧
𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐚 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐧 Жыл бұрын
I suspect that the main "issue" here may be that neurotypicals worry about the embarrassment and what not of having to put things back while autistic people may approach it with a much more practical attitude.
Ghost Wolf Cosmetics
Ghost Wolf Cosmetics Жыл бұрын
This scares me tbh. My son is borderline autistic and I’m so scared he won’t know how to live when I am gone
Jun Wong
Jun Wong Жыл бұрын
@Monde Serena Williams I rarely comment on YT, but u made such a good point. I totally agree with you.. . Whether being autistic is considered a disability or not, the bottom line is that everyone likes to be treated like a normal person. So I believe they would very much want to be able/capable to do things on their own.
kamikea1 2 жыл бұрын
We could all learn a lot from him. Jordan has the fundamental key to what life is all about, and true happiness. Thank you for blessing us with this gift !!!
rayblack2004 2 жыл бұрын
His music is raw and from the heart, we need more of that.
crucifixnails 3 жыл бұрын
A wonderful, beautiful film, and beautiful people. I really connected with him when I saw his musical abilities and when he had said "...we are all not normal..." I wish the best for him.
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