Unfair Self Blame

[@stingy418]

I won an award but cried myself to sleep because I blamed myself for my class not doing better. Something that shouldve been a purley amazing experience regarding that I had worked several months to get up to that point tainted because I made a few mistakes.

[@adrianzuniga7170]

1 Just because I could have prevented it, does that mean I caused it? 2 Can I blame myself for having a natural human reaction? 3 Are you blaming me, that I should have done more with inadequate support? 4 Do you expect me to consider all the possibilities(in real time) as the event is unfolding? 5 Is it possible, that only the negative came out of this situation? 6 Does guilt or any other emotion serve as evidence, that something is particularly so? 7 Would you judge someone else equally as harshly, for not being psychic, or not acting on a hunch, or picking up on subtle cues, without the benefit of hindsight? 8 Do you know someone responsible, to also have the ability to control all situations? 9 Do you think I intended this to happen? 10 If there are no positive outcomes, would you expect anyone else to find one? 11 If I were to rewind the clock, and change the outcome, does that mean I could guarantee that nothing bad would happen? 12 Would you expect another person have to become superhuman, given the situation? After reviewing these questions are you being completely fair with self-blame? 6:40 can help

[@-Invisble]

Thanks

[@chasehim3761]

Thnks.

[@Only_-_Yours]

Thank you ♥️

[@saymasultana339]

Thank you. I mean it. Though i still cannot forgive myself hundred percent but it helped.

[@FreeJulianAssange23]

When you said attacking inner voice, I can barely explain what happened. You helped me understand by helping me feel like someone understands. Thank you a million times.

[@JayWFoster]

It seems like life is just one realization after another. It continues to get more and more fascinating. So glad you're on a good path :)

[@NS-gr9cy]

Its amazing how someone sitting so far can offer help to someone these days. Thanks! this was really helpful. May your channel prosper and grow to help more and more people.

[@JayWFoster]

Thank you so much for the kind words. It means a lot.

[@joshuaprice6322]

So, I needed this video. Out of no where, I started blaming myself for my cousin passing away. I don't know why. Thanks for this video. It really helped.

[@saymasultana339]

Why don’t you make more videos? You're amazing. I wish you all the success in your life.

[@TeachingToddlersAndLittles]

This is so good and relieving!

[@Jay-lr6ej]

Thanks Jay, useful post. A lot of pressure to succeed nowadays and it is easy to fall into that rut of self-blaming. After the fact, it is easy to think of what you should have done or could have done better, but as Wayne Dyer used to say, there's no such thing as 'should have' or 'could have'.

[@JayWFoster]

Thanks for the kind comments. Wayne Dyer is the best.

[@ashleyleene9810]

It seems that I found a comfort video. Thank you

[@JayWFoster]

Glad you liked it!

[@Villainonduty]

Thank you❤ I really needed this.

[@singingcoversrp]

thank you for this.

[@treasurem2491]

Thank you for this video man.

[@JayWFoster]

My pleasure!

[@Groove_Pro888]

Live for LIFE!!!™ Not the Moments

[@danstistic]

I really needed this

[@JayWFoster]

So glad you found the right message at the right time :)

[@sumbae7668]

I feel like this kind of "therapy" is completely useless at least for me. I know full well that I didn't cause my depression on purpose duh. But it does not make it go away. If I could just say well I am happy now and then be happy there would be no problems in the universe. I don't get what this is supposed to accomplish. I am a very reflective person. Knowing why I feel sad or blame myself doesn't change the feelings I have, ever

[@amaliafaltynkova4656]

I kinda agree with you. I could ask myself these questions answer no to everything and on the next occassion, thoughts of guilt will crawl back to me. It is vicious cycle.

[@revheimliliam1305]

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