I read a book on how to spend your 20s. | The Defining Decade

[@UnJadedJade]

All the early birthday wishes are so lovely, thank you!! 🥰🥰🌻✨

[@mavos9048]

Girl we have the same bday and Im turing 20 so thank you for this one!!! And Happy Birthday to you!!

[@Dhsu33]

Happy birthday!

[@florenceli4315]

Happyy birthdaay Jade, have a blast!!

[@lojainelbassiouni2837]

proud to be a MARCH QUEEN with you jadeee!!!! have a blast!!!

[@tejasagarkar2478]

Happy birthday in advance Jade didi 🎉 I know I am not your much old follower/subscriber, just found you channel!!! But your videos punched me hard... ...Specially your solo travel🧳once! I'm now 18yo & your videos are helping me to grow my *mindset*. Thanks didi! ☺️ (Didi-> sister in Hindi)

[@alexismundy5893]

I just finished my BA in Philosophy at 63. I am now doing postgraduate Honours in Philosophy, alongside a three-month marketing apprenticeship online with Arcadia. You are never too old to be what you want to be!

[@anveksharai509]

Thank you for this ,you just inspired me I just turned 27 and was thinking i haven't done enough in life .

[@alexismundy5893]

@@anveksharai509 You're welcome!

[@fatimabibi7664]

I loved this comment ❤️

[@ambrosettichannel975]

ive just started my philosophy degree!!

[@maryd8871]

I'm glad to know there are elder people who have this mindset. Keep going Lucky Lady!!! The doers are the free ones 🌟

[@mxrored]

I'm turning 30 this year, and if it helps anyone who's younger - your decisions matter a lot less than you worry about. There are so many points at which you can pivot, change direction and change path - you do not need to have it figured out at 21, 25, 30 or 50. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to know what you are doing or where you are heading, because you probably won't or it may (likely will) change and shift. Look after yourself and follow your curiosity 💖

[@suzanneoleander3224]

This!!!

[@erinswonderland1693]

Sometimes the worst thing about being in your 20s is to be told over and over that this is your ‘prime’

[@melissapool9076]

Thank you :) literally cried reading this

[@mayumi6613]

Thank you Rosie 💐

[@Karo27007]

💝

[@suzanneoleander3224]

Tbh I read this when I was 24 and thought wow so smart, I wanna use my twenties as well as possible. Then... Life happened. Depression, Covid, Death of loved ones. Now I am 30 and I haven't achieved any of the typical 30 milestones: No partner, no prestigious career, still working on my depression. But it doesn't stress me out? I'm thankful that I'm so much better mentally than I used to be, that I have a flexible job with nice team mates that pays my bills and for my few but reliable friends. So I have mixed feelings for this book nowadays as I think it overemphasizes the influence you have over life. And it kinda doesn't apply for people who have chronic illnesses (mental or otherwise).

[@suzanneoleander3224]

Oh I just now watched the video and saw that you addressed a lot of these points in the criticism section. Well done! I also think that regret is a natural part of life and you will nearly always look back in your 40s and think, "I wish I did this and this thing differently". But this isn't a tragedy in my opinion. You can learn to live with missed opportunities and still be Happy 😊

[@JulkaBorghouts]

Thank you for this comment, words that speak for many

[@StoneMichelle]

thank you ❤

[@ceasarinvictus3857]

Hi how’s it going?

[@sabsain2399]

amazing comment

[@Cod3zP]

I dropped out of uni at 19 and travelled the world, now I'm studying again at 27 - still living abroad. I think 18 is too young to make career decisions, but of course you can study what you really want later in life, at any age :)

[@sdestiny414]

wait you are basically living my dream life hahaha Im obsessed with traveling but uni just keeps me away from it most of the time. I am finally graduating this year tho and want to live abroad (hopefully). May I ask how you could live abroad and travel so early since in my opinion & experience traveling is quite expensive

[@Cod3zP]

@@sdestiny414 This is why I study online, not for everyone but works for me. Congrats on getting through it! I finish at the end of this year :). Full disclosure, I had a small scholarship that I was meant to spend on school but spent it on flights instead. Also, when I started travelling at 19 it was not the "aesthetic" travel that you may imagine. I backed packed/hitched hiked around South America, got into many crazy and dangerous situations. After a few months, I went back home and I was sitting in a boring lecture when a friend from Argentina asked if I could apartment sit while he travelled, so I said yes and spent my last money on a one-way ticket. I was stuck in Buenos Aires for a long time, lived and worked at a party hostel (really had no money, I used to steal food from the kitchen). Anyway, it was incredibly tough but I don't regret it. I met my partner there, and then I ended up working in a startup originally as an english blog editor, then as a designer. That job paid for me to live in San Francisco briefly, then Santiago, Chile. Until my partner and I decided to quit our jobs and move (we are in Europe now, and have travelled to many places over the years). What are you studying? I would highly recommend getting into tech, there's so many types of jobs, and they pay well - not so much in South America though haha ;) and if you are up to just working it out as you go, travelling somewhere without a plan is great, there's always jobs at bars/hostels etc. Little rougher lifestyle though..

[@Buttercupxoxo1176]

@@Cod3zP omg this sounds so cool unplanned things make me anxious but they give best experiences most of the time!

[@MariJadeWrites]

Nice! I dropped out of uni at 20 and am turning 25 in 21st of April. I am working a full-time retail job and am working on my creative pursuits of art (making videos, drawing) and writing books. Yet to decide what to study.

[@Dante-ot8xg]

@@Cod3zP what kind of tech job do you have? I'm a bit older (26) going back to school after finishing my time in the military and am thinking about traveling and working. I did IT in the airforce, but would like a a more mobile tech related gig. Though I am open to other stuff as well.

[@gray_prothero]

Career growth really isn't a focus for me, I want a career that serves the world - people or animals. I always struggle with the idea of what success means to me because in a lot of minds it is the money and prestige but I dont know every time I try and focus on that my mental health suffers and I lose enjoyment in life. I just want to have fun and love and care. I dont care if I don't have the best job, house or car. If I make someone smile everyday then I will feel 'successful '.

[@gwynneio]

Big MOOD!

[@markisfloweringtheflowers]

That mindset completely resonates with me and most of the time is really difficult for people to understand it.

[@haticedagli2202]

ExAcTly !!!

[@hasiniwanigasuriyamudiyans2744]

I feel like we need this kind of thinking when we tackle the climate crisis. I gave up a more prestigious career path to help our planet instead by studying sustainability instead.

[@booktales1687]

I feel so validated right now. I wish more people had this mindset.

[@LaMorenaFlamenca]

29 french girl here ! I'm 1000x more happier now than I ever was in my early 20s. Growing up IS Amazing, you know yourself more and more, you respect yourself more and more and stop doing things just to feel approved by others. Dont be scared, have Faith in your future : i was completely lost in my life and one day, all the answers came at me. Have Faith ! ❤️ Everything will be fine when it's supposed to 🙏

[@MariJadeWrites]

I have some creative projects like drawing a new coloring book to publish soon, and making videos on KZbin that help me get through the hard days 😀 it is sometimes hard to keep faith that it gets better but I am doing my best with what I've got.

[@LaMorenaFlamenca]

@Sonna it will be awesome 🙏✨

[@MariJadeWrites]

@Sonna indeed, I am also 24 about to turn 25, and feeling a bit stuck with slow progress on some of my goals. Hope that it gets better indeed 😉

[@kaitlinjacobs2566]

How did all the answers come to you?! What did it feel like to suddenly know?

[@LaMorenaFlamenca]

@@kaitlinjacobs2566 Pure chance! I was in the right place at the right time. Everything ended up making sense, even my wanderings I felt like I was blind all along. The evidence was there all along but I was too blind to see it - so the universe gave me a helping hand 😂💖

[@ashwinadeenanath4072]

i'm 36 and looking back I can say that in your 20s there's a unique energy and positivity about life. You feel like there's still ... time. It's about finding yourself, trying new things, meeting people, discovering things that you like and don't like. Maybe your 30s and 40s are for that too, but you get wrapped up in the rat race and routine, and just generally, the energy level is lower. I would make the most of my 20s and not stress about societal pressures. You have to do you... Use that time and energy for something good. Don't waste it on comparing yourself to others, or giving in to societal pressures. Take that trip, or that surf class. Make friends with people from around the world. Read that four-part novel. Most of all, be kind to yourself. You will eventually find your way, no pressure... (I know I am still finding mine but with time and perspective, you get to love your own unique path and where you are in the world). Happy birthday Jade! I love watching your videos to re-motivate me during a down energy period. Keep it up! :)

[@r.-.v1012]

thank u💜🌻

[@noone9472]

Hi Ashwina, thank you for that! And that might be a stupid question, but do you think you have to be lost in the rat race at 30 or 40? Can you focus on something else instead or work 4 days a week? Or do something to regain that energy by exercising or spending time by yourself / w people depending on your situation? I guess my question is why are the 30s and 40s so different? Thank you, a lots 25 year old ❤️

[@jonathanbirkwood3244]

I totally agree with you. I just feel like people, even in their 20's, aren't really interested in meeting new people. Maybe its just me but i always find people are rushing and don't really care/want to stop and talk

[@bBbB19509]

@@noone9472 I think it also has to do with responsibilities. A lot of folks in their 30's and 40's might have kids or older parents to take care of. You might end up buying your own home which again adds to responsibilities. I am just entering my 30's but I can see how responsibilities change what I focus on at the moment.

[@ashwinadeenanath4072]

@@noone9472 i guess thats personal and varies for everyone. I like earning and financial independence. And i believe that for any job, there's always an element of donkey work and rat race. Balance is the key. Love, relationship, mental health, physical health. Im doing it in a 9 to 6 job and at times im happy at times less so. This is reality, no more no less. It helps to have a higher purpose, i work for a non profit and i motivate myself by working for the greater good. And thats enough for me for now.

[@catvalentine4317]

Honestly, I don't want to live that picture-perfect life! I was on the way to do that (almost perfect grades as uni, good job, good network) but it's just... missing something! So I decided to do less work and live more! More sports, friends, art and freedom. More getting lost to find my place in this world. Cause that can't be it. If it is, I don't want it. I want to have a flow I can go with, not a soulless pavement road. I want life to feel like an adventure.

[@marijapaskeviciute365]

Yes exactly, I'd rather have a less "ambitious" job and go for long walks than spend my free time networking

[@Tofubraut]

Yes yes yes yes!! ❤ thanks for this comment I feel the same

[@akatastrophe]

I really like this comment, and I feel the same way! We have a life, so why can’t we live it the way we want to?

[@catvalentine4317]

@@akatastrophe I think it's hard not to give in to societal pressures, but every moment I laugh with my friends, enjoy the birds singing by a river or feel connected to someone in hug, when I wouldn't have been able to do so before when I was working so much, makes it all worth it. I love life again :)

[@whatever_forever]

I kinda am at the same place as you. I just turned twenty and being a perfectionist with strict parents, always had perfect grades and big expectations from others but that made me sick. Now that I'm living on my own, I get to do things my way and I'm so much happier, also my anxiety has gotten way better. We don't need to be perfect all the time, but enjoy life while we can. I'm proud of myself for learning to cut me some slack

[@GrahamConnor]

The 20s are so strange. You're *supposed* (says who?) to explore yourself and the world but in reality most of us (at least in my social circles) are too broke to do both of those. I'm now 27 and with experience the older I get the more money I can have = more fun experiences, so embrace each year as it comes. 22 was fun for me, but age is kinda irrelevant and just a way to break down time into understandable segments.

[@heathergosse]

I'm 27 and I'm loving my later 20s more than I did my early 20s. College was fun but I had no idea what I was doing, however I did set myself up! I don't have the stress of school anymore, I have a great job and the opportunity to travel. I have close friends from college and have since developed new close friends. Life is good. Yes be internional, but forgive yourself too! I'm honestly excited for my 30s too!

[@heathergosse]

@Munir yka Yes, I graduated at 24. It took me 4.5 years to get through my undergrad and then 2 years of grad school. I went to school right after high school and didn't take any breaks. I know a lot of people finishing up school at 27, 28, 29. Everyone is on their own track. Going to school later might be helpful in terms of going for exactly what you want instead of wasting years/money to keep switching degrees haha. But also the only negative I could think of is if you haven't been investing. I didn't start investing until I was like 23-24 but wish I did right at 18. But once you get post grad job, just invest 15% a paycheck from the get go and that compound interest will help you out!

[@TimTim__]

@@heathergosse Hi dearrr. You’re here! I follow your channel for embryology videos.

[@lenkachladkova1762]

Jade, this has nothing to do with the video, but I wanted to let you know that I always save up your videos to watch while I'm eating breakfast. I live alone so I don't really eat breakfast with anyone and watching your videos while I do has become one of my favorite morning rituals!

[@UnJadedJade]

This is actually the loveliest thing ever, thank you so much! 🥺🥰

[@yevheniiakushniruk4531]

I literally was cooking and eating breakfast alone and just turned this video to entertain myself a little :) So same!

[@user-xp3sl7ro8p]

Same lol i also watched this during breakfast

[@miss.azaaustralia6729]

me, eating breakfast watching this vid

[@prasadirupasinghe9254]

Jade is good friend 💚

[@momentmemos]

To anyone who is feeling insecure about getting older - I’m turning 28 in April and I still don‘t really know what I‘m doing with my life. Funnily enough, I don‘t actually wish I was younger. When I was 21 I was so insecure, a huge people pleaser, hated my body, concerned 24/7 about what other people thought of me. I‘m far from perfect still, but I‘m so much happier with myself now at this age. So I hope you all enjoy life whatever age you may be💓 And happy early birthday Jade!

[@juliettelaviet3689]

Thank you so much for writing this comment. I feel everything you’ve written. I am 21, turning 22 in June and I feel lost in all areas of my life. It’s also difficult not to compare yourself with others. I wonder how we can find our identity, like what career choices or where we want to live? It’s something that haunts me everyday but you’re giving me hope! I also agree with Jade that your life doesn’t stop after your 20s and people still find themselves later on. That’s life!

[@momentmemos]

Honestly, what I‘m starting to understand more and more every year is that actually nobody knows what they are doing. Or mostly nobody at least. Everyone is just pretending that they have their shit together🤠 So I‘m just trying to enjoy every day as it comes. After all, that‘s the point of life. I think.

[@user-dv9xx3yy8v]

So if someone is turning 40?? What now?

[@Mrpompousmoustache]

I'm turning 20 in less than a month and am having an existential crisis about it haha. Leaving my teenage years and entering the decade of my twenties is really scary - it feels like this is the time where I have to make all the important decisions about my career and relationships. I also feel like there is a lot of pressure to have an amazing social life and "make the most of my youth," but covid + social anxiety is preventing me from doing that :( Moving into this next decade of my life, I want to prioritise what makes me happy and what aligns with my values rather than succumbing to external expectations. This video was so helpful, thank you Jade 🌸💖

[@JessicaChris1612]

I turned 20 in December and I resonate with this so much!!

[@gabriela.svargas]

I turned 20 in November and I feel so connect w/ your comment

[@Mrpompousmoustache]

@@JessicaChris1612 so nice to hear that we're not alone in this!!

[@Mrpompousmoustache]

@@gabriela.svargas that's so nice to hear that you connect with my experience!

[@manita9756]

I am turning 20 this October and I really feel you this comment made me feel less stressed now that I know that I'm not the only one who feels this way

[@Dhsu33]

My 20s were great - lots of travel, personal growth and career development. I have to say though, I’ve enjoyed my early 30s so much more. I’ve been able to keep all the good stuff that I’ve built over the past decade without all holding onto the stress/chaos that comes with trying to navigate being an independent adult

[@mirandamarvin6489]

I turned 31 in October and it’s honestly the best I’ve ever felt. My 20s were pretty chaotic with trying out a few different jobs, moving countries etc etc and I felt a lot of societal pressure to settle down and have everything figured out. Your 20s are such a good time for discovery and I don’t think you’ll ever regret trying out different things. Don’t worry if what you’re doing is different from other people around you; everyone has their own path and timing for when things will happen. The sooner you become content with that the happier you will feel. ☺️

[@ruchikalalwani6767]

As a 22 year old, hearing that gives me a lot of hope:)

[@nicolegillett6949]

This was really interesting to watch as a thirty year old! I remember being told to enjoy my twenties but I honestly think that’s only something you can appreciate looking back. I would say that life throws lots of unexpected curveballs so just enjoy the ride and don’t be too hard on yourself :)

[@sohsaraaa]

Nicely put :)

[@ThelovelyEmandKate]

I’m in my mid twenties and read the book last year, I couldn’t help but feel like I was being judged. It reminded me of a parent who expects you to do these things, if I’m not following this exactly I’ve wasted my time and failed. Like you said, life is a journey and things change and develop, I believe this book was more hurtful to me then helpful as it felt like I was being told I’m failing my twenties!

[@juliettelaviet3689]

Hi! I agree with you, I realize after reading a lot of comments that balance is key. It’s a common sentence and I struggle with it everyday. I don’t know you but the advices given in this book make me realize I’m lost in every category. It’s stressful to find connections when your circle of friends isn’t big enough or not related to your field of study for example. Anyway we’re all on the same boat😅

[@alexwyler4570]

Who says the early twenties is the best time of your life? That is the age where you need to self-actualize on a path and figure out how to pay for your own food, your own apartment, your own transportation. The learning curve is sharp in the early 20s. The yan of this yin/yan is that you get to be your own person. You do not have to do what others tell you to do.

[@moderatelywild3302]

I'm 27 now and I would say I've planned and been as intentional as I can, but the best opportunities I've had are things that have just landed in my lap. They're jobs where I've applied for a role and been asked "do you want to do this instead?" and its turned out to be a much better fit or something I never would have considered applying for and its taken me down an incredible path I didn't believe was possible. I think if you seek out the things you enjoy, in life in general but also in your career, opportunities will come your way and doors will open. You don't have to have it all figured out, and meandering through these years isn't wasted time, its building the foundations for your life and the possibilities are still endless! What's the saying? Life is what happens when you're making other plans :)

[@ehicomello_-3966]

When I think about my 20s the first word that comes to my mind is actually "change". I feel like everyday is a new chance to change what makes us feel bad and not satisfied with our lives and find new beautiful paths instead. In fact, this is the thought that always makes me feel better whenever I feel stuck or lost. Moreover it's so exciting and scary at the same time! Literally anything can happen, a single decision could change my entire life and I find it intriguing (and overwhelming sometimes).

[@PlanetImo]

Enjoy your twenties, Jade! I'm 47! It was the 'disposable' free time in my twenties that I retrospectively valued. Once I had my child, I barely got any free time at all unti now, nearly 17 years later. Now I'm really enjoying the extra me time!!

[@inkonsistency]

Im 22 this year but I have alot of older friends who are closer to their 30. What I learned from them is that your 20s don't have to end when you're 30. Sure, your 20s might be a fantastic time, but your 30s might be even greater. I feel we always hype up the 20s but never the 30s, 40s, 50s, etc.

[@stardust6870]

I'm in the last year of my 20s. But I've been feeling 30 since I turned 27 (I don't know if that makes much sense). I read various articles, reports, and studies, and they all found that 27 is the worst year of life for many people. Something within you shifts at that age, and you start feeling distant from people in their early and mid-20s. But you still don't feel close enough to those in your 30s. Anyway, I know now that everyone spends their 20s the best they can. When people say that's the best decade of our lives, they put too much pressure on us, and it becomes more likely that we will dread becoming 30. So, I want to believe that there's more to life and that we can be equally happy in the later stages of our life. But a few things are true about our 20s: - You have the wisdom of a young adult. But you still carry that teenage innocence and hopefulness that makes it feel like anything is possible. - Everything feels more intense. Sadly, that starts fading in your late 20s because life desensitizes you and makes you tougher to have the capability to handle more mature years. - Your immune system and body are more resilient. - Being young makes you feel wanted and like you can fit anywhere. You have more opportunities. For instance, there are numerous programs for people under 26 and 30 - volunteering, exchanges, internships, etc. Once you're 30, you have to make opportunities for yourself because society no longer sees you as a young person. - You can make dumb mistakes, and everyone will ascribe that to being young. So, from a 29-year-old to a 22-year-old, the only thing you must do is enjoy and do whatever the fuck you want. Don't let societal expectations impose pressure on you. You have plenty of time to achieve or identify your goals, travel, find love, make new friendships, change your style, study, or live abroad. Avoid taking life seriously because many decisions (unless life-changing) you make now, won't matter in the future. Embrace the chaos of your 20s and love it, but don't fear the 30. If you start dreading aging, that's going to affect your 20s. - You'll always feel like you aren't doing enough, and fear the passage of time. Simply enjoy the moment but be happy about the future. That way, every decade can be the best decade of your life.

[@andi01452]

I remember this time last year I commented being halfway to 22 when you mentioned turning 21 in your Seoul-videos. Now I'm over halfway to 23 and that again feels completely insane, I'm closer to being 25 than 20 now which is bonkers (and 97'-98' liners being 24-25 now also feels unreal). Time really moves fast but I'm trying to enjoy life the best I can and be grateful for everything I've experienced, learned and grown from in my life so far. Much happy birthday to you Jade!

[@sarahnimri1978]

Omg me 2

[@amiife]

Me too! It really is crazy how time flies. I feel like I was 20 just a while ago… how did 22 come so fast

[@amnahasan1621]

I'm 17 and going to be turning 18 by the end of this year. It's nice to hear here someone else and especially someone else in their twenties going through an identity crisis too because I feel the same why right now, figuring out who you are and what you want to study, your career and friendships..... its a very confusing time and there's this pressure to figure it all out before your twenties and you're trying to live your best life cause apparently these are THE best years of your life but everything's pretty stressful and if you feel misdirected it also makes you distrustful of the future. So I'm glad I watched this because now I'll keep in mind that I'm not alone and that its ok to be intimidated even if you're in your twenties. I loved what you said, that you can take initiative at any age too! Anyways, thanks for sharing your thoughts and Happy Birthday Jade 🥰🥰🥰🌞🌞🌞

[@sezgikocagoz1230]

I finished this book just recently, as a 23. It changed my perspective completely and helped calm down my future anxiety. It helped me a lot and I feel more purposeful on how I want to go about my future. It also made me realize how important time is, so I don't want to waste it by doing things that don't serve me well.

[@khalilahd.]

Omg happy early birthday jade!! I pray this new year brings you nothing but joy and happiness 🥳🥳. My birthday was on Saturday and I turned 25 so I completely understand the fear that comes with getting older but you’re doing so well and inspire others (including me lol) to do the same so don’t worry! 💜💜

[@UnJadedJade]

Happy belated birthday, Pisces Twin!! 🦋 love this, thank you

[@maq-ister]

perfect timing. really needed this. I just turned 20 and haven't started uni yet. I know and firmly believe in all you mentioned regarding age and how each and every one of us will be in different places in life at the same time etc. However, it still does not stop me from feeling like a burden to the world. im working on this and hope that one day sometime in the future when i look back, ill be able to say Ah yes everything went the best possible way. regardless, I hope everyone here can find the satisfaction and fulfilment they have been looking for. have a lovely day💐

[@manuela.]

I'm in the exact same situation as you (turned 20 last week and not in uni yet). Your comment makes me feel a little less lonely especially when every one of my friends has reached that stage and I haven't. I hope this situation does end up being what made space for greater things in your future and you'll be grateful when looking back on it ❣

[@maq-ister]

@@manuela. tysm reading this made me feel better. it is hard esp when people around you are all seemingly ahead of you. even if it is only in a certain area of life. nevertheless, I hope that everything falls into place for you too and that you won't be too hard on yourself. take loads of care

[@elmahika6562]

Same here! I’m 20 as well and not enrolled. Still felt like I’ve made the wrong decision sometimes and felt anxious because I feel like there’s a lot of improvement I should work on myself to get where I wanted to. But still thanking my past self for the courage and sticking to what she think is best. It’s my decision and I gotta own it.

[@cerenbaylan2180]

The critique part was so important for me, as it made me realise that life is not lived in one way. Thank you, Jade!

[@LucasMiracca]

I read this book recently (as a 25 year old) and omg the pressure. I stopped reading halfway because it was bringing more anxiety than insights.

[@nerearroniz6723]

For me my twenties are being about finding the balance between the disappointment of finding out work, love... are not as I expected when I was a teenager, finding myself with this new information and trying to figure out how to fit into this world staying true to who I am and my values instead of just going with the flow of what I am supposed to do, while also learning nothing is for granted and I am enough to enjoy life right now. Happy birthday, Jade 🌈

[@SH-tf6qc]

Woah this is so me right now. Thanks for making me feel seen :)

[@kaavyasurianarayanan8247]

21 here. I feel you Jade.. it is so confusing to be 21!! I am officially legal, allowed to take my decisions, but still am my parents' little daughter. I am expected (by myself and my family) to marry by 25-26, have a stable career (that gives me enough finance to manage my life) and be mature with every decision I take. I still don't know who I am in terms of career- I have always, always wanted to dance and sing .. and have been learning Bharatanatyam and Carnatic music ( Indian classical forms of dance and music respectively) since I was 4.. however, I have always known that starting a career in this field is just not practical financially, and I don't feel like I have enough knowledge and skill to pursue the career that I want yet! So, the "backup" career has always been an annoying, constant topic of contemplation in my head. I recently decided to do an MBA, and hence am preparing for entrance exams... but I am still unfortunately unsure as to whether that will make me content or not.. and, whether I will have ample time to learn and keep growing in dance and music. All of this creates a lot of procrastination issues as well, which is soooo difficult to handle :( With respect to love and my own personality, I feel like... I don't know myself anymore!! I was much more sorted when I was 16, 17 .. than I am now.. (like from 19- now..) it drives me crazy sometimes..as a result, it has become extremely difficult for me to look for and fall in love. Despite all of this, I just tend to take each day as it comes.. and I try and not to take things as seriously as I am expected to. I feel like spirituality has been one of the only constants in my life that has kept me grounded and safe no matter what. So, that is something I rely on in such a stage of my life. I lovveed this video and your opinions about things! Even though we are culturally different, I feel like we have similar values and views about life.. that made this video really relatable! Existential crisis is happening for real. But, we got this!!

[@Notyourtype_shorts]

Same here!!!!! I'll be turning 20 next month and there's just so much pressure to choose the right career, right job, right hobbies etc. Hearing older people's experiences kind of helps, to ease those worries.

[@ravirangera4636]

Mere hisaab se agr dekha jaaye to you can do both things at the same time MBA finance stability laane ke liye and dance and singing enjoyment and fun ke liye, ap abi bi ye sb kr skte ho, it does not need to become your career jo tumhe money earn krke de ye tumhari hobby bn ke bi rh skte h, MBA krke paisa kmaao full and ghr bnaao bda sa ya stage and dance kro us stage pe mstii se and also I think you will develop an interest in MBA slowly slowly kyoki jo smjne lg jaate ho usko ap deere deere pyaar krne lg hi jaate ho

[@krox477]

Don't get married early no matter what your parents say

[@nickadigrat]

I turned 21 on March 5th! (Pisces siblings lol) Last year when I turned 20 I was so scary about getting older and becoming an adult. I don’t know why but I wasn’t really happy and thought that I missed so much because of the pandemic. Turning 21 was kind of a reborn of myself. I’m ready to live my life and make the most of it, being successful at uni, make new friends and maybe find love.. who knows! Happy early birthday! 🥳 hope you have a wonderful birthday 🥳

[@alicehamilton9924]

I am 28 and stumbled on this video. Balance is key. I spend probably too much time chasing after my career doing a PhD. Now I have a sudden realisation that I should have invested in relationships and finding love.

[@bribriannita7935]

@AliceHamilton this is extremely common amongst women in their late 20s early 30s, so you're def not alone. Most come to realise the reality of the hustle lifestyle isn't as attractive as it was made out to be and the desire for marriage and children begins to take a more important role, it's interesting to watch

[@noraaa8479]

@@bribriannita7935funny because you literally described me, I’m 25 but just realized this, this independent way of living is honestly destroying us

[@anoshasaeed8768]

The initial minutes of the video dragged me down in depression. I am 25 and I was thinking like life is ending soon or like omg I am 25 and there's no time left. But your critiques made me feel so much better. Thank you so much ❤️

[@rhiaburston691]

happy birthday!! as a fellow 22 year old, I always have those thoughts "what if I'm not making the most of my life now" and feeling as if it's running by me so although that book is definitely right - don't forget that you only get these years to be a bit wreckless and have freedom to do whatever you want. I came to uni later than my peers who are all 19/20 and I'm super grateful for the reminders they give me to not take everything so seriously and to just sack stuff off sometimes to have some fun. The work absolutely comes later, so you have to make that happen now, but it comes later.

[@rachjade8785]

I turned 22 on April 23rd and I started this book the week before my 22nd birthday. I made it through 75 pages before panicking, overthinking everything decision I’ve made so far in my life and this is the first book in maybe two years I chose not to finish. I feel like at this point in my life, I don’t need this book. Maybe I need it in a couple of years, but right now, I am already over thinking everything.

[@mymini3738]

I am 22 and I realized very well that everything inside us is changing fast and it is not a good time to make big decisions. Trying to grow and learn is the best choice.‌‌

[@baileydoloff8724]

I read this book when I was 20 (23 now). It (1) was the first book that really got me into reading and (2) changed how I thought about my life and the necessity of taking risks and making mistakes and being INTENTIONAL with my actions. Growth is such a long process and "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now." Thanks for reminding me of the book. I plan on reading it again when I'm 25.

[@robbiebalboa]

I'm in my 30's and I feel like I'm doing that now, I felt like i was emotionally immature to deal with rejection and coping, so I did my thing with a standard job, studied something but my emotional immaturity lead me to not have the confidence to go forward to do things and get ahead. I think knowing who you are deep in your inner core can help with that, know how you react, accept how you deal with things, embrace you're weirdness or normality, understand the personalties of you're surroundings and take things a bit less personal.

[@magdaxsto]

I'm so glad to know that I am not the only one having an existential crisis... and that we are the same age, I didn't know! This video was very useful and I can relate many parts of this book to a lot of thoughts that I am having in this period... I really want to read it now🙈 Thank you Jade and Happy birthday!

[@earthandbeing]

I have turned 20, a day before you, Jade, this video came at the best moment ever! Thank you, so much.

[@manuela.]

I did too! Birthday twin!! I hope this new decade brings lots of growth and good stuff. xx

[@withvung]

Happy birthday Jade 🌷 I really connect with you on the point of having an identity crisis and placing so much pressure on the decisions in college but then it's so true that we have the opportunity to make changes to grow anytime!! Enjoy your new age with new fun memories and new lessons! 📚

[@lyphan308]

Oh hello chị vừng ❤️❤️❤️

[@juanfernandocastroreyna478]

whenever someone says that about the twenties i always think of that joke "what?, it gets worse??" but i think you only need to focus on being strong and healthy enough and always moving towards what you actually really feel good about doing, call it passion, call it what you love, what makes you happy, makes you centered, your mission, blah blah blah, just a reason to take another step that day and the next one, so i hope we get clarity in our vision to know what we really want, to be wise with what we already have and to remain safe and healthy to be competent with our doings and seekings. Its a pleasure to try even if i'll fail and if it will be as tough and painful as i can imagine it could be

[@lane.a.p.]

I turned 27 on March 15th and had a dreadful feeling about aging. This video saved me! I realized that I am, in fact, still in my twenties and Jade (although quite a bit younger than I am) is so inspirational to me.

[@keeleybombard7360]

I turned 22 a few months ago and you’re right, 21 was so weird!! 22 is a much more settled / content feeling, as I let all the growth I did from 18-22 settle in!!

[@lamly2853]

Just want to say that I'm feeling so relatable and so calm after reading these comments. Thank you Jade and you guys in the comment section

[@violet23463]

Me too!

[@chevonnekwarisiima654]

The thing you said about valuing being successful at school over relationships really hit home. I'm just now realising that I actually have to put energy into learning how to be a friend because I didn't do it earlier.

[@oliviaj9037]

I feel this, I’m 23, but I’m kind of tired of the mindset that we ‘have’ to do anything. Like at all. Opinions and expectations of you are not facts, they’re opinions. I have time to do what I want, like meet that friend or go to that country. And if I don’t have time? So what. I’d have still lived fully, you cant live less than fully. I want to believe I am exactly where I’m meant to be, that the universe is working in my favour and life will simply all work out ok. That I’m listening, loving, giving, being grateful and that if I can cultivate daily joy then my life will be loving. It’s not your job that defines you, but your way of being in the world.

[@jordanm01]

I am turning 20 this week and having an existential crisis about life. Struggling with independence in this big world. I feel more pressure to have certain goals accomplished by now. Defining relationships, belief systems and worrying about life after graduating college next year are things I’m struggling with now. Losing friends, falling in love for the first time and then experience heartbreak all adds to it. I know there’s time and I’ve only started to live but these feelings suck. There are so many things i want to do and so many versions of myself i could be.

[@123canadagirl]

From someone older than you I’d say these ideas could work at any age. Ultimately you should enjoy your life, pursue your dreams and be kind to others. People of all ages should try to savor life for it can end quickly as it did for my brother. You just never know. Be open, be bold and be kind.

[@sssoumiya]

Your point on short-term enjoyment is valuable; it's a matter of figuring out which extreme you lean towards and being intentional about finding the middle ground so that you can truly experience the best of both worlds! Love your channel!

[@KyleFields]

I'm 26 and I finished this book a couple months ago during holiday break. It was overall very validating towards the decisions I made in my early 20s regarding personal growth. So much of that work has already paid off. It was also perfect timing since I am deep in the decision-making process for my next big step. I made the realization during this book that all self-help content should be used as inspiration and not taken as step-by-step tutorials. Take what works for you and apply it to your mindset/life. Everyone has a unique situation, so no one is going to have the perfect answer for everyone. I think everyone in their 20s should give this a read. The author does an excellent job of using words to "grab you by the shoulders and give a good shake." Despite having already been utilizing much of the wisdom Meg Jay expounds, I still got a lot out of it, and it has helped me frame thinking for my next career move. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on it. Cheers

[@nimashaamali2102]

I'm turning 24 this year. And I get what you mean when it comes to career because I'm majoring science in university and I do digital art. I would say that I'm pretty talented in both sides and also I love both science and art. Which is really something that I spend a lot of time thinking about because I'm not sure how it would affect my identity and what career that I wanna do in future. I try my best to enjoy the journey because wherever it gets me, I've been enjoying my life. Happy birthday in advance jade!

[@cristinaflora373]

Try looking up the Science Gallery world! I resonate so much with the art-science binomial. They do a lot of amazing job in creating science-based art events, and they have venues all around the world. Best of luck!!

[@meriapan6354]

oh I'm in a (kinda) similar situation. I'm 20 and majoring in history and anthropology, overall I'm happy w the decisions I've taken but lately I been thinking about what my life would look like now if I had chosen something related to art, which is something that I have been always passionate about. I want to get into digital art and see how far I can't get into that field. Any advice? thank u in advance and sorry if i had any grammatical mistakes, English is not my first language

[@sanaakhalid8315]

there is a quote from the perks of being a wallflower saying 'we accept the love we think we deserve'. it hit me so hard and i think everybody needs to hear that before they choose their friendships/relationships. happy early bday jade!

[@returnoftheromans6726]

I will often watch these videos, just to see what other people think/say on the subject; mainly for support. I feel like I'm stuck/frozen in time right now, and don't know what I'm doing with my life, and hearing other young people say the same is comforting. Living intentionally and not being afraid of failure is really what I'm trying to work on. Not taking life too seriously and trying new things and living regret-free are basically my goals in my twenties.

[@soy_red]

I spent my entire twenties sick so I wouldn't like to say its "defining" the rest of my life. Every day is a chance to start afresh and you don't have to always follow well worn paths, instead you can carve your own.

[@gingersal8052]

I very much agree!

[@madmelk]

I guess most people’s 20s are the defining era of their life so that’s why it has been coined so, but of course everyone is individual and their defining era might not be in their 20s but when these defining moments actually happen :)

[@soy_red]

@@madmelk :)

[@jessicajoyhardee6668]

I am about to turn 36 and graduate with my BA. A lifelong achievement I felt was slipping away. You are so right! School should be about discovering who you are and finding your voice on what interests you! If passion is what drives our work -- how magnificent!!! I love your excitement for life and I am so glad your video popped up in my feed! Subscribed! ✨🔔

[@josie8464]

i turn 19 today and this video coming out today feels like it was meant for me to see ❤️ thank you for giving me some comfort and positivity:) hope you have a wonderful birthday jade!!

[@federicatorrente9121]

happy bday!

[@UnJadedJade]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY FELLOW PISCES QUEEN 🐠🦋✨ thank you so much! have an incredible birthday

[@bex2847]

Happy Birthday!! 🥳 I turn 22 in 2 months time which doesn't seem real to me! I feel like I've barely done anything I imagined doing in my early twenties mainly because of COVID. Hopefully 22 will be the year I can finally start living & pursuing all that I've been wanting to do in my 20s!

[@idavissers4083]

Im 26 and i just had a baby (3 months) with the best partner i could wish for. We have a beautiful but humble place to live and enough money to get by, doing seasonal jobs like olive picking (we live in spain). I got there by following my heart and leaving my plans behind. I used to study computer programming and i was quite athiest, now i have found my faith and it has enriched my life in a way i could have never imagined. It is good to be intentional with your actions, and especially your words, but it is also important to keep being open mineded to the idea that you might reach your goals through other means than you imagined

[@liamcnamara2286]

You need your own podcast 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@Atoshi531]

Turned 22 (Taylor's version) in January. I've been liking it so far! Don't want to jinx it hahah. Loved listening to you, as always. Happy birthday, Jade! Let's have a year of wonderful ups and downs. :')

[@TheYusra2008]

So wise and so young. I love how grounded you are and humble 💛 I wish you a happy and healthy long life Jade.

[@ariablack6221]

Something about sharing the same birthday month with Jade makes me feel more connected to her. HAPPY BIRTHDAY JADE you are truly one of my favourite people ever and I hope your twenties will be filled with happiness and joy.

[@cozycharly8189]

I feel what you said about relationships. I’m 20, going to be 21 this year, and I basically lived together with my boyfriend since we met (we met in a shared living). It is convenient and it really helps to grow together and I do learn a lot about actually loving someone, but it also feels scary and big, and I’m sometimes torn between the relationship and exploring my life. The thing is, that with covid and now maybe a war coming, there are always excuses for why I can’t do some things (like traveling) anyways. But I think that I (and maybe people who might relate) have to realize, that when ever you live there will always be excuses. But if it feels right, you have to actually do the things. Even (or Especially) if it means to step out of your comfort zone. It’s just hard, when there is someone that gives you that really good homey feeling. So thank you for the video, it really made me think more about my current existential crisis♥️😛

[@UnJadedJade]

Wow thank you so much for sharing! 💛

[@cozycharly8189]

Oh wow, thank you for answering! I’ve been continuing to think about your video and I also want to add to what you said about that pressure of making those “big” decisions which impact all of our life’s, also apply to relationships. That’s what makes things even harder, (but also obviously is good for us) because you have to evaluate who we want to be. What are our priorities? Because of course we all want to be loved. So it feels like immaturity to might want to step away from that for something like “experiences” and mistakes. I think that’s the hardest thing about our 20s, because you can live your life as freely and nicely as you want, but there will always be that nagging feeling of “you have to take responsibility” and you have to make those decisions at some point. I feel like it’s really hard to find the middle way with that.

[@ashd981]

I am turning 20 in 6 or 7 months from now and I have always been a career-driven person, so I feel like I have done far less than I had planned for myself to achieve as a teenager or by 20. But in the last couple of years, I do think I have changed a lot and how I see the world and things I equally value like having a fulfilling life, experiences, and travels while I am working towards a career that I have always loved and been passionate for. I have come to this realization that in the long run, it all ends at the grave. No matter how hard you put pressure on yourself to reach perfection, it may or may not happen but if I lost my entire life being pressured on how to live the best life that I actually forget to live, that would be very upsetting in the end.

[@bonbytheocean]

Im 19 and I have an illness that forced me to quit high school in year 12 when I was 18, which meant my "plan" for life changed. but now in this 'gap year' period ive realised that it was a blessing in disguise and that ive had the entire year to travel and road trip with my friends. ive also been able to explore creative outlets at the same time, which has positively changed my mindset and I have no intention of going to university for a few more years now hehe. don't take things too fast, you only live once, you may as well enjoy all the twist and turns that come with it because wherever you're destined to be, you will get there eventually.

[@niushasabahi5672]

I'm 20 right now and I'm more conscious of and I guess worried abt how I'm living my life and setting myself up for the rest of my life. This was so useful to hear! I feel like it's reassured me that it's important to be intentional (something that I've been doing since the pandemic myself) but as with anything in life, balance in key and so you need to balance being intentional with just having fun and relaxing and not taking life seriously!

[@flyingroses]

I got to vote for my very first time today, and I realized that from now on only more things will change Sometimes, I feel very anxious and overwhelmed about the future, but being part of this community that you created, I know I'm not alone in it and I feel better. I'm so grateful for that Also, the way you've made the light seem gold looks very beautiful ^^

[@aditiagarwal4798]

Oh my God, this video is everything I needed. I had a huge existential crisis as I turned 20 a few days back and there's just too much pressure to figure it all out and time seems to be slipping away. But the biggest takeaway from this video is to be intentional with what I do now. Thanks for putting this out✨

[@sabahussain7405]

Happy Birthday Jade!!🥳 I’d just like to take this opportunity to mention that you have quite literally been saving my life these past few years with your wonderful guidance! Thank you so much🤗 I wish you a happy and successful year ahead!✨

[@justinec3458]

I loved this book when it first came out, and it's so refreshing to read your perspective on it. You're right, it assumes that the reader may or ought to plan for a "traditional family" and other things that are not necessarily important to everyone. I sensed in the book that it urged women to figure out if they wanted children, and have them at a time in their lives where it's "easier", otherwise they'd just be grieving over lost opportunities - and as someone who chooses to live child-free, I felt like it was imposing advice. But like any self-help book, you take what serves you and leave the rest. Thank you for sharing your review!

[@user-fe3vy6gt7v]

I think in this time of your life it's important to take the oppurtunity to become independet from others opinions (which you can do with every age) such as your parents, your friends or even your teachers opinions about YOUR life. Everyone thinks that by saying what's best for you is a help which can be somethimes but YOU are choosing YOUR life and only YOU know what's best for YOU.

[@laurengrant677]

I turned 20 in January and I think something that isn't talked about enough is the role of having a difficult childhood on the rest of your life. I have so many dreams and plans and things I will do, but because I'm still getting over my own depression, anxiety and PTSD and just learning to enjoy life, I know that my early twenties are going to be mainly focused on me healing and reparenting myself. And there is so much importance and value in that. A lot of people won't take the time to do that or even understand it, but simply getting out of bed and thinking, I'm excited for the day, I'm excited for my life, has not been a consistent thing for me for more than a few months. People who have trauma are starting 'the race of life' miles behind everyone else. There is such an emphasis on career and relationships etc. but I think the most important takeaway from your video in relation to this is intention. Choose to get up every day and make your life one that you are excited for despite where you're starting from. That may be by linking with different people, or it may be by going to therapy and walking to the shops alone. Everyone's timeline is different. Life is not a race. You can do or learn anything anytime. Life in general, not just your 20s, is about the richness of experience. Feeling pain, heartbreak, loss, joy, pride, sunlight on your skin. You do not need to be running to be ahead. My main goal for my 20s is just to really soak it all up. Experience it all and be kind to myself. Know that I will get where I need to be in my own time. Everything happens as it is supposed to and you are never behind. Life can be good, no matter where you started out. Sending you all so much love

[@emmab-k8806]

💯👏🏽

[@ashleebrookejohnson]

I am 30 this year, your 20s is WILD! My life, me, who I am is so VASTLY different to who I was in my early 20s. Get out there and experience ALL the things you can to really get to know who you are! Focus on making a life that FULFILS you. A big thing for me was to stop reading books like this, to relieve some bullshit pressure impeded by others. At 28 I decided I was going to sell everything, stop participating the rat race life and travel and explore! Best thing I’ve ever done. Follow your own path, whatever that looks like.

[@SmartStr33t]

I really like your 'critique' section in this video. It was spot-on. You should read any book about your 20s with suspicion if it has been written more than 6 months ago. In fact even if it was written right now but relied on advice from people who aren't in their 20s anymore, how is it going to consider a huge industry of influencers and mid-level content creators, the new relationship between education since you can teach yourself nearly anything with free on-line courses, the changing state of the arts and music, the influence of AI on the creative job industry, the increasing reliance on working from home, hustle culture, the way that your KZbin echo chamber sets your expectations for life, etc. I was very firmly in the church when I was 20-29, and all of my life decisions in that period were made from that perspective: where I lived, who I was friends with, whoI married and when I married her, how I spent my free time, etc. I wouldn't live my life that way anymore, but then again I'm still alive so there's every opportunity to live life differently now without recourse to regretting how I lived it back then.

[@aleluke458]

As a 22yo I’m trying to look at my life with more slowness and intentionality, knowing there will probably be time later to change career, but it’s really hard. I think it requires a good amount of courage living a life which is not defined, which doesn’t run on a never-ending predetermined binary, trying to explore as much things as one can, knowing you will face errors and failure and stuff that make you understand you were wrong. Unfortunatelly, imho, a lot of people doesn’t have the strength to accept the uncertainty of this age and to live it with intentionality, and as a result they become something of a mirror of the rush that our society try to impose, and put pressure on their peers. It seems to me they kind of scream inside something like: ‘’It can’t be true this way of living life as It would mean mine is wrong, and nothing will ever give me the security I’m looking for’’ How do you relate with those people? I mean, I struggle trying to live an intentional life, true to who I am, too (and a lot), but It’s even harder with those people around. You constantly ask if the problem is you, as for example you don’t know what to do as a work, but just try to study hard and learn as much as possible of yourself to figure it out one day, and this result in a slower route, that some consider aa loosing time.

[@frenchie_at_heart7387]

The 20’s are the hardest years of your life. People call you and adult, meanwhile school only teaches you theory. You have to figure everything out yourself, and if you’re lucky, maybe you have help. Rent comes every month. Roomates steal your stuff. Landlords take your deposits when you hang pictures on the wall. Career interviews don’t give a shit about your grades, you have to prove yourself with projects. Constantly proving yourself to people who are older. And sometimes you can’t do it. So you may decide to change your career path, and then the judgement comes. Don’t put all your faith on your 20’s ya’ll. It’s a LEARNING time that is going to challenge you like you’ve never experienced. Growth happens here, but no one was real with me about how this time period was going to be. The disappointment sent me into deep depression. I wish people were more honest about this time period so that teenagers could prepare themselves.

[@siluni3103]

I'm turning 20 tomorrow !! happy birthday jade ! May ur all dreams come true and thank u for motivating us to study love u so much ❤❤❤❤

[@josie8464]

hope you have a great birthday!!

[@siluni3103]

@@josie8464 Thank you 🤗❤

[@jenniferb557]

So far I'm enjoying my 30's better than my 20's

[@malekmeddeb1654]

I rarely comment but as a 21 year old also I feel Jade expresses very eloquently our stressful thoughts in a period where everything seems to be deterministic of our future. I have never been as philosophical as in this point of my life because our actions in our 20s seem to determine who we will be for the next decades. Anyways it’s refreshing to not feel alone in this very stressful journey . And I’m proud of being represented by someone like Jade who doesn’t fall in the stereotype of a Gen Z tiktoker or dumb social media influencer, but who is rather a smart, well educated and ambitious person. Thank you Jade !

[@shakthi6351]

Eyy same profile picture. I'm also 21 and rarely comment/ reply but, well said!

[@laurawiesler5773]

Wow, Jade, I just loved the topic and your critical reflections on the book so, so much! I just turned 29 and my biggest take aways from the decade so far are to just trust my intution and deep dive into things that feel right - and that was often out of my comfort zone. Saying yes to things more often, being proactive and be grateful, this combination usually led to the very best experiences of my 20s. Don't put too much pressure on yourself and know that everyone is struggeling in their own way and finding things out as they go. 20s are also there to learn from mistakes. We're all in this together

[@eppsington]

Happy birthday ! I am 20 years older than you and I just want to say that you really don’t have to define yourself at 22. You can be many different people in one lifetime, leave space in your life to make room for change, your tastes and interests will also change over time 👍🏻

[@ebihearts]

About to turn 40 and I’m so sad I wasted my 20’s. I’m glad you’re thinking about it. 👏👏👏 don’t fall for the people who are like “oh no worry, age doesn’t matter.” Yeah, it most often does. No pressure, just curious growth and wisdom.

[@KayaUniVlogs]

Turning 20 my next birthday and recently been having this existential crisis so I’m glad to find this video - love the way you speak and make these vids Jade ❤

[@ameliadionyssiou7621]

I personally disagree with the second part about Love and moving in with someone too early. When you find someone you truly connect with and enjoy being around both romantically and casually. The decision of moving in together, yes should definitely benefit both individuals, but I really don’t believe that it should be something to stress that much over. In my personal experience, my partner and I moved in together 6 months after knowing eachother and yes it was mainly convenience that drove that, however that led to the creation of a extremely strong, healthy and loving relationship, we got to learn about each others boundaries, when we tick each other off, we have learnt how to fight with each other so that when we have a disagreement we know what the other person needs in order to resolve the disagreement. Spending time with someone in a shared space helps you build such a strong understanding and connection with them, that you really wouldn’t get if you lived apart for as long as possible. The balance of quality time with that special someone but also quality time with yourself is also such an important thing you learn when living with someone. And yes it helps you decide and come to a conclusion whether tag person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. We are now expecting our first child in our brand new home. and would not be here today if we had lived separately for as long as possible until we are 100%. Because you can not be 100% sure about everything, that’s why taking risks are so important in life, you just need to make sure to realise when that risk is no longer worth taking or sticking to anymore.

[@istartwithT]

Best advice I have received in my 20s when I was worried I didn't live them right: if you decide not to have kids your 30s are going to be even better because you'll have more money, you'll know who you are and will be more confident and it will just overall be a better time. Also as someone who had chosen a career path at 20 and is now 29 and rearranging her life after having done a whole PhD: just have fun in your 20s, learn about yourself and don't stress as much about what society thinks you should be doing. And I agree, your decisions matter a lot less. I realised I could have chosen any PhD/study pathway and probably would have ended up in the same spot, so no what you choose for your studies does not matter at all. Wish I had learned that before doing a PhD in science lol life would have been easier. The key words are network and transferrable skills.

[@roosb.967]

"...so it's kind of unsurprising that this is the age of an existential crisis. And I haven't even graduated yet." This quite accurately sums up my current mood at 23 years old while working on my graduation project 😅

[@steffikreis2030]

I read that book about a year ago. I think it can give you a good starting point to reflect on where you want to go in your life but at the same time it adds to the pressure that is already there & i predict that mostly people who already worry would pick up the book.

[@meghanfallis3349]

Jade I have watched your videos for a while now but this one spoke to me on another level. I turned 19 two days ago, and I have found that my views/outlooks on myself and the world aligned really closely with yours at the same ages (when I check the dates on your videos). You are truly such an inspiration and I think that you are wise beyond your years. I love your content so so much and I will 100% keep watching. Thank you a million times! 🥰💗💫

[@haderahmed9606]

I turned 20 yesterday and wow I needed this ! Jade I really appreciate your videos& I fall in love with you&your channel really you're such a positive vibe💕🥺🥺 I smile such by seeing your face

[@ocepacificooo]

You should do a podcast !!! I’d love to ear more of your vision or other things ✨✨🧚🏼‍♀️

[@laszlo555]

honestly, the idea of being intentional is liberating at the end of the day even experiments full of mistakes are good since you try and learn what you like and don't great video, thank you!

[@zephembers]

This is beautiful. Keep living your life with charm. I'm 23 and I've been building myself a house for like 5 years, making music, and traveling when i can. I feel like I'm watching all of my peers graduating, Moving around, getting married, etc. I'm a very positive person but even still it weighs heavily on my mental sometimes, but videos like these help keep me stay afloat so Thank you!!!

[@moroccansimmer3343]

I don’t know if I want to read another book if Jade doesn’t do an overview/ discussion/ analysis of the book🥺🥺 loved this style of video!!!

[@UnJadedJade]

🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@amulya2321]

Happyy Birthday Jade. You have been an inspiration to many, especially me. I wish you nothing but best in life, thank you for existing.

[@milikoshki]

Looking back from the age of 32, my 20s are not a decade I'd revisit. They're more like a necessary evil. Without the fuckups of my 20s I wouldn't be where I am today, but I'm grateful they're behind me. I remember feeling alarmed about all the messaging that your 20s are the defining decade when I was 20-27. It's crap. I got hit by a car at 28 and nearly died, and it is the most defining experience of my life so far and taught me so much more about myself than any "roadmap" or 5 year plan, no matter how intentionally made. To me it's incredibly naive to think that if you do the first 10 years of your adult life "right" you're going to be set up for success. If anything, someone who's so adrift that they need a book to tell them crowdsourced tips for average success based on some sample size seems the most likely candidate to wake up at 50 and realize they've been pursuing the equivalent of good grades this whole time without a thought to whether they liked the subject or not, rather than someone who's not "intentional" etc between 20 and 29. lol. I hated this bs in school when I was told to cram in extracurriculars and join the honors society to stand out in college applications, I resented it in college when I was supposed to do unpaid internships and be thankful for it and was told over and over that my history degree was a bad career choice, and I despised it in my 20s when I was told I should "network" in my free time to find better work opportunities rather than enjoy my gd life. Didn't do any of that crap and here I am with my sweet IT job doing just fine at 32, more importantly with a fulfilling private life. The most important thing I learned is it's really crucial to understand what YOU WANT and how that differs from what you're supposed to want because that enables you to feel comfortable in your own skin and with your own decisions rather than scared you're a failure. Yr critiques make sense and I'm glad you're critical of this stuff :)

[@ginnyl7208]

Turning 22 this Friday. Was nice to see this video :)

[@UnJadedJade]

Happy birthday, fellow Pisces twin