Unravelling Parental Alienation | Arwa Qutbuddin | TEDxBangalore

Arwa Qutbuddin is a poet, a nature-lover, a soul-searcher, and a philosopher, and is inspired by the strength of the human spirit. She is a mother of five beautiful children who had to reconcile and rebuild her life after losing their custody and suffering from parental alienation. - This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@allies52]

Your crocodile tears are just as adorable as a crocodile. Plz also share, with the same depth, the trauma your kids faced while u held them captured in US under your wicked father's watch, with no proper food or clothing. That could be a real learning for the people who love to watch TEDx shows.

[@klubo7626]

Mashallah brother

[@mh9251]

Correct

[@murraymarshawn2175]

You are a psychopath.

[@burhanuddinhusain5528]

Khuda ni laanat tara uppr

[@abdulqadirjana9108]

Cersei Lannister... In the end just wanted power...

[@Mangtamurari1]

Dont worry Just remember moula mufaddal and ur kids will be with u

[@sakinahussain8587]

Kindness ... Seriously , u took away the kids, locked them in rooms and now talking about kindness

[@taikhoomcalcuttawala4933]

Guys we found another amber heard

[@mh9251]

Always give benefit of doubt to other side. The flip side of the coin also has importance then only the coin (story) has the value! No court in the world hears one side. Judge after learning other side too.

[@wah650]

aq - the drama queen now worries abt her children, here are some facts to consider: 1) she was the one who alienated the children (and i personally love each and every one of those) and took them away from thier father and grandfather at the time of vewry sad demise of their great grand father. 2) it was she who made them address on a video tht they no longer want to see their father or grandfather. 3) it was her family tht ill treated these children by locking them up in their house and not allowing them to attend their great grand fathers funeral 4) it was us who were the victims of this alienation and bore the pain of not seeing these kids for almost a year. 5) she is only showing a single side of the coin and tht too very destorted. 6) she is the only one who lit fire t the haven she lived in, there was no need to leave her house, there was no need to bear enemity to a family which always took care of her (as she herself accepts tht her home was a paradise to her), nobody kicked her out, it was she who left her home. 7) the pain tht their father and grandfather bore cannot be explianed in words, they are the people who didnt complain about their kids mother in public llike this, they didnt insult this lady in public, they are the people of noble chacacter, the only thing tht GrandFather said in public was " i leave everything on God, He will do what he wants" and we saw the fruits of this tawakkul. may people like their Grandfather have all the happiness around them their whole life and may them live till eternity. Ameen

[@aakanch]

Crocodile tears !

[@mh9251]

Well said. Especially the lines that they are the people who never mentioned you in public nor in community but only said I leave upon God. Now that's where 100% submission. When one is right but things happening opposite. Leave on God. He will expose the truth. Which He did!

[@nafisabotadwala8490]

Kindness... Seriously liar Laaanat on you

[@burhanuddinpirbhai686]

Mashaallah sister

[@fhuz135]

Had I not known your family personally, I would have fallen for your speech. But were you not the one who did exactly what you are accusing the other parent of doing? Did you not first alienate them from their father? Your children are not pawns in a game. They have been hurt by you and that is why they don’t want to have anything to do with you.

[@jbresilient379]

I have experienced this alienation... very subtle and difficult to understand if you have not been a target parent or have never been the target of emotional manipulation by the person who is supposed to love and cherish you and be your partner in parenting. It is easier for the abuser to be friends with the children than to be a parent and a partner to their spouse. Children confuse that friendship with love, they confuse a parent confiding in them as love rather than understanding that it is unhealthy emotionally enmeshment that is creating unhealthy expectations for future relationships.

[@murraymarshawn2175]

Severe restrictions are NOT placed on alienators.

[@murtazap]

Arwa Qutbuddin is also a kidnapper. She abducted her kids and went to America knowing fully well that India was not a signatory to the Hague convention (This is a multilateral treaty, which seeks to protect children from the harmful effects of abduction and retention across international boundaries by providing a procedure to bring about their prompt return). She kept her kids with her family in California with no contact allowed with the father. She talks about parental alienation - saying that one parent alienates the kids against the other by brainwashing the kids. In this case, she had access to the kids but the kids (smart kids) saw through her game and wanted to stay with the father. The judge in California gave the father the custody of the kids. She alienated the kids away from her by abducting the kids and going to America, not allowing father access to the kids, filing false domestic violence case against the father. The kids saw through this and rightly don't want to have any contact with this drama queen.

[@tasneemp8413]

Well said Murtazap. Also she who sided with her father throughout the 15 years of her Marriage, now cries foul when her kids side with their Father. A kidnapper with crocodile tears. Hypocrisy at its peak.!!!

[@amatullahmoaiyadi3990]

khuda ni laanat tara uppar arwa qutbuddin

[@henrysmith8501]

All those people who have posted comments against arwa behen are themselves selfish, Hippocrates because they don't want to support her grandfather just because they believe in M. S. Well the truth is the children's father will use all the time given to him to brain wash the kids against their mother. As it is since centuries the whole community has been conditioned and are Hippocrates. If M. S was so much Shafique he would have not allowed his power politics to destroy a family just because of his ego. Never the less when the children grow up that will be the time they will realise what they have lost after being alienated.

[@msh8505]

Who is She ? Ex Wife of ...?

[@user-ul7tt7di7p]

Laanat on you! Such deceiving words. She is the biggest liar this world has ever witnessed.

[@mustansirpithawala237]

Who is she

[@abbasalichinikamwalla7958]

This memorized sorrowful speech was v nicely presented but what about the other side of the coin. Who knows that ...?

[@mh9251]

That's the other side!

[@jaihind4601]

Je ghar na gulam banwu jaru karwa waste log para Pari kareche...woh ghar ni tu beti thi bahu thi..magar afsoos isne woh mukam ki kadar na ki..jis aali kadr ke ghar ki thi us ghar ki kadar aur pehchan na kar saki..

[@burhanuddinpirbhai686]

Wah wah kya baat hai ….mashaallah brother

[@wah650]

a message to this lady : plz stop lying about everything

[@burhanuddinpirbhai686]

Mashaallah brother

[@lordkapaceeno.3445]

Mashallah

[@moizjamali2309]

Affectation in the shroud of affection. Despicable Duplicity.

[@cybohra2]

يا مرغومة الانف! لماذا سلكتِ سبيل الضالين الكافرين بلبس الحليّ في انفكِ المجدوع؟ اما علمتِ ان مولانا محمد برهان الدين رض ما كان يعجبه لبس المؤمنات حلية الانف؟ و جهاد المرأة ان يتبعلن بحسن الاذعان و الاحتشاد...... افنسيتِ ما قاله جدكِ رض؟ اين حيائكِ ؟ اين احتشادك الموجوب ؟ اين حجابكِ ؟ ما من شيئ خير للمرأة من ان لا ترى رجلا و لا يراها

[@luanneramsey4457]

Thank you...

[@burhanuddinpirbhai686]

Thats what she said

[@attarwalaz]

Wicked lady

[@mustafanoorjinoorji6696]

Vampire

[@burhanuddinpirbhai686]

True

[@mustafanoorjinoorji6696]

Truth is always bitter🤣🤣

[@mustafanoorjinoorji6696]

@@Anonymouspersonbruh truth is always bitter🤣🤣

[@mustafanoorjinoorji6696]

@@Anonymouspersonbruh let see...who will regrat

[@Anonymouspersonbruh]

@@mustafanoorjinoorji6696 we all know who that is 😂

[@not_suzy1266]

She is lieing and following wrong path..how come v leave kids to her.

[@attarwalaz]

She is lying consistently

[@attarwalaz]

@@Anonymouspersonbruh in which world u reside? Every member of her family including u r nothing but liars. See how those brothers of hers r lying in court constantly. A few days left to see how all of them will hide their faces out of shame. Refer to history n see what happened to all dawedaars n dushman of dawat.

[@idris555]

Lanat

[@aakanch]

Crocodile tears

[@sakinahussain8587]

The best liar I have ever seen ...

[@fatemaamjherawala4547]

nautanki

[@RuqaiyaAdenwala-vk4sc]

😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅gud jokes u r crocodile 🐊

[@mediumglaze9952]

👹👹👹

[@mustafa.j.bharmal4342]

Lannat

[@Aabd976]

Lanaat

[@HuzefaAnjary]

A sneaky Kidnapper seeking asylum on TED Talk.

[@TP-wn1sk]

Looks like this drama queen has read a textbook on parental alienation and synchronized her story to match the case description. A precious few minutes of my life wasted on this drivel

[@arlitasawicki1755]

Me too sis 😢

[@shivu11]

A heartfelt talk. Kudos to the speaker for showing courage to share her story and talk on the topic of parental alienation which is a sad reality for millions of people who are suffering from the pain of being distanced from their children.

[@mariyahkk]

If you don’t know the truth please keep your mouth shut 🤐

[@mariyahkk]

She is just a drama queen, the truth is completely different from what she is saying

[@hurpar]

Don't worry about the children now. Remember that Allah ta'ala has the power to heal like nobody else can. Also remember that He is the most merciful and he will definitely be there for these children. So it's better for you that you don't waste your time lamenting their present and their future. Get on with your life.

[@fatimaaliakbar5357]

Jhooti

[@minhajsyed3230]

Speechless speechless speechless... 😟 Your pain was giving constantly hurt you which I can see,feel in your face and in your every powerful words and expression... Must be there was journey of the soul into light and darkness,into the heavens and the earth... Your last some dictum as like as my feelings same as that...😢

[@anindian9963]

So truly expressed, I can understand & empathize with you oh dear sister this has been tried with me too which I had to fight & make my children understand with Love what's going on & it was nice that you held up to psychology and mindfulness this is exactly what I did & by the grace of Almighty I could collect my strength and not only become a pillar of strength for my self & my children but also for others who are suffering.

[@ansariiram3548]

Sister you're a brave mother..your single word is a truth.. I can feel your pain in your eyes...it is the grave pain which target parent/non custodian parent can feel..I pray to the most mercy full and the most gracious to heal the pain, the wound which a child and mother is facing to the every face of the Earth.. ameen

[@burhanuddinpirbhai686]

Shurup u stink

[@guillermomadrigal8382]

You can hear in her voice how hurt she still is by it... This is so difficult i wouldn't wish on anyone

[@aditirawat]

Thank you for sharing your journey! Lots of love!

[@zainabshabbir1702]

Aditi you dont know her she is vampire

[@mariyahkk]

Aditi Rawat If you don’t know the truth please keep your mouth shut 🤐

[@aditirawat]

@@mariyahkk please mind your language. Your comment clearly shows your intentions. People are free to comment and support whoever they want to.

[@shivanidivecha11]

Very inspiring!! Painfully beautifully expressed.. thanks for sharing..

[@zainabshabbir1702]

Yes u r rite painfully beautifully expressed her drama wicked mother ever her kids can tell u her real face

[@burhanuddinpirbhai686]

Mashaallah sisters

[@azizudaipurwala447]

We can respect ur feelings as a mother

[@mh9251]

Dont respect these feelings also. She is not a true caring mother. These emotions are fake. It is an orchestrated speech. Dont get dissolved by her words & emotions, they are actors. The law of nature teaches that children can feel the wrongs, they can't act upon but can feel it. When court said yes to father, children got the courage to act upon their feelings. She was hitting their brains so heavily by scolding, teaching wrong speeches, etc.). Today children are so happy, peace of mind. She has lived with husband & children 15 years in so much peace. If only you are on true regrets return to the peace you were in. Else keep doing exercise for healing process!