UPDATE: AITA for not telling my parents that the event they were missing was my wedding?

[@mangamegbe]

OP exposing her mom to her church group so her reputation can blow up was just the absolute cherry on the sundae.

[@GamineMadcap]

Ain't no judgement like that of the righteous church ladies

[@user-blob]

Very true. Nice to hear somebody found a good use for such beings.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

Good on OP for saving those messages and going straight to the church ladies. Her mother is a monster. As someone whose mom was also about as mean as they come, I hope OP never has to see that woman again. It is devasting when you realize how much contempt and hate a supposedly loved one has for you.

[@avernion]

I’m really glad she saw through her dad’s sliminess. It always irks me when the dad’s excuse is “it was all your mother, I couldn’t do anything against her.” Manchuld, please? Are you a toddler? Own your actions. How do you think it makes you better by not taking responsibility for anything?

[@user-blob]

Completely agree.

[@josabby474]

With every excuse and revelation from Mom, Brother and even Dad, I kept hearing Chidi Anagonye saying “ okay, but that’s worse. You so get how that’s worse?” I’m glad OP has her husband, friends, grandpa, and her aunt and uncle in her life. I’m also glad she got to unload on her mom and brother. She’s right about her father. He had over two decades to advocate for her and let everything happen until he got exposed.

[@peridotasadeadbritishmonar7924]

I absolutely adore The Good Place. I need to sit down and rewatch it rather than binging The Office and B99 for the billionth time lol.

[@dannyhigdon666]

Dusty, you need a "Twat-opotamus" button for when the Brozzo or the Bizzo is just not strong enough. Like this story. Good LORD!

[@nytekeeper6861]

Cuz we can't get away with a "Cuntasaurus Rex" button...

[@user-blob]

@@nytekeeper6861 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@JayBee2487]

Yes gurl. OP dropped that mic and walked away with her head held high. 👏🏻👏🏻

[@colleenswiggum1940]

Can't wait for the parents to need help and their grown man-baby throws a hissy fit because he wants to go to disneyland.

[@LadyKyra7]

My thoughts on the dad is “call me in a year. We’ll talk then”

[@HuntingForHannah]

One of the best updates I've seen in a while, fair play to her well done OP. The drama ❤🍿🍿🍿🍿

[@Tinymommy1618]

"The Quiet you feel now will be peace, not loneliness." That needs to be a quote in a yearbook or on a t-shirt or something. Like hot damn 13:16

[@vegaskullkid4503]

Ya know, the more the mom and brother spoke; the more I was just yelling,”HOW IS THIS GETTING WORSE WITH EVERY WORD?!” The mom dis, no nope that’s not the right word at all. This mom hates her daughter so much that she thinks the only way OP would talk about a wedding is to get attention?! And her brother just ripped up the invitations and lied just cause he gets off on his sister being tormented and just wanted to go to DisneyLand?! Jeez Louise and Lord PLEASE let OP have a prosperous and loving life because she did not deserve any of the evil that her mother and brother did to her. Also although the dad is not good and is pathetic, I do sort of hope that one day OP and him reconnect and get a better relationship. I can understand being so beat down that you just go with everything even when you don’t want to and it takes a big thing to breakout of that. But he needs to take responsibility and acknowledge what he did wrong and work to gain OP’s trust and love back if she ever decides to let him back in.

[@moustacheandnisi]

Omg if my mom said that to me I will never make it out of bed again, I would be so crushed

[@ssamelion1sard914]

EDIT : Atonement is not saying sorry. The process is to change and heal. If Dad does these things in earnest, she could then consider allowing him back into her life.

[@yamairad1]

No, there is no "should." He could do anything, and OP would never owe him anything. Imagine having peace and finally loving yourself for your neglectful father to bring up old wounds because they think they are doing better. If he ever really attones and learns, I hope he leaves her alone forever. Before he hurts her anymore. Stop telling people that they need to keep being abused because an abuser deserves another chance to destroy you.

[@ssamelion1sard914]

You're right, - changing should to could

[@tribyte4813]

Definitely agree with OPs decision about her dad

[@D-Dollie]

This is one of the saddest stories on Reddit. Poor OP. She doesn’t deserve these awful parents and brother! Cut the off for good!! I am so glad she has a great husband, paternal grandparent, uncles and aunt.

[@cynthiaguzman7130]

The true revenge will come much later. Brother won't be willing to take care of the parents when they get to that stage in life. OP would have if they had just gone to the wedding. She would have done anything to get her parents' approval. They will have miserable lives and OP will be happily living her ever after with her doting husband. The best revenge is always a well lived life. ❤

[@DaniGamerWarrior]

Absolutely true. I'm glad that things happened how they did, one wedding attendance does not a healthy family make, and OP's better off not wasting her her time and effort on them when their old while her brother is whining about not being able to go on the tea-cup ride cause OP's using the car to cart parents around for appointments. It's obvious that they wouldn't have really changed and just would have used OP. So good riddance, crazy they chose this over the kid that actually gave 💩💩 about their approval, too bad for them now that she finally knows her worth.

[@Ladiofthewoods]

~standing ovation OP~!!! I am so happy for you, the family we choose is often better than the family we were born into. Sucks to be an ass and they are finding that out.

[@JemFabulous]

OP going scorched earth! 👏🏻 My heart just broke for her with every word out of the mouths of her heinous family! I'm so halt she has her husband and grandfather. And titanium backbone. ❤

[@Nina01.]

Hooray! Update!

[@aralornwolf3140]

Sounds like her mother's side of the family doesn't care about her at all. Otherwise they wouldn't be just like her mother. *Shrugs* Though it sounds like her mother and her mother's sisters knew about the abuse and think it was deserved. If they are okay with that, maybe CPS should be contacted and investigate their treatment of their children? At least her father's side of the family cares about her, as they care about family. Except, they would have talked to her father about the wedding, right? So, as OP said, he's without excuse. He just lost the one thing he cared about, the respect of his parents and siblings... so he's grovelling trying to get that back. He knows what they did was wrong and did it anyways. He should go ahead, divorce his wife and disown his son, as he can't be worse off without them in his life too, lol. As for her brother... he's an abusive pos because his mother taught him that it is okay for him to be an abusive pos. He's a danger to society thanks to his parents. Edit: Fixed spelling and grammar.

[@merlinathrawes746]

I think there was enough drama and revenge in this update to make everyone reading it giddy that OP finally closed this chapter of her life and is moving on with her new one.

[@Justin-A-Carter]

Op with that SPARKLING spine of diamond!

[@sabrinaswinconeck]

My mother is like this op will be ever so happy to go no contact

[@megnotmegan1966]

I would move soooo faraway so fast, and try to forget they exist 😮

[@sabrinaswinconeck]

Poor OP I absolutely understand how that hurts about the mom 😢

[@Lev.R]

I love how this video for me is sponsored by universal studios not eh same as Disney but close 😂

[@chellebelle5083]

The mother doesn't like her because OP is probably like her father. I think I'd give the dad time to reconcile. Mom and brother can stuff it!

[@sandraleask6144]

I can't imagine anyone siding with parents and brother. They are asconuts themselves for doing that.

[@microlockslife378]

They did you a favor not coming to your wedding ..they would have ruin it for you

[@tohrurikku]

Still having a hard time believing no one called them, nor came up to them at events, to talk about OP's upcoming wedding. Especially the grandpa. If the grandfather did not call OP's dad that shows he probably treated OP's dad just like he treated OP. Anyone else notice they did not propose any consequences for the brother? It is all the mom's fault, not the brother's. I can not help but wonder if there is some kind of story behind all of the hate the mom has for OP.

[@Rainbowofthefallen]

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