UPDATE Family Dumped & Absed Me When They Thought I Wasn't Dad's Son By Mistake. Relationship Advice

[@redditoutloudrelationships1430]

Story 1: UPDATE 3:08 FINAL UPDATE 8:32 [Update] Family left me (18M) when they thought I wasn't my dad's son but now they want to get back in touch Story 2: 10:31 I found out my father (48M) and I(18F) aren't related. He left the house and filed for divorce.

[@claireadams6214]

I'm lucky! Mum has written her memoirs in two books, which have been published (not vanity publishing either) so I know most of her life up to my girl being small. So that's out in print, and not just for me !

[@austroboy3773]

The OPS father was an idiot. The father knew about his wife's affair but did not have a spine to leave her. Then he decides to "show a spine" with a child.

[@JohnnyDominion]

Then he divorces and then goes right back to dating a woman who is a serial cheater. He's gonna get cheated on again. He's such a dumbass.

[@Sinvare]

Children can't fight back as well which makes it easy to feel better about yourself by putting them down. A talent he passed to his oldest "Son". The fact the oldest is the one who acts like the "father" but is not his bio child is great irony.

[@leviathan4205]

@@F40PH-2CAT it’s the moms fault for cheating but the father is also at fault for not leaving sooner

[@BruinPhD2009]

@@leviathan4205 Yup. Leave, stay, how do you penalize a child for the sins of the parent?

[@ravenfox926]

I'm so glad the dad and brother both got bitch slapped by karma

[@heatsink47]

"the family broke off a long time ago and everyone took what they can and ran off with it and this boy is the piece I took and I am not giving him" Gosh gotta love that

[@carolrondou6161]

That made me cry

[@TheMarie2000]

When your grand-dad said “you were his piece” I cried. Grandad is so awesome! We all need a grandad like that. I wish you the very best in your life to come. Stay safe

[@rai4119]

I cried too. That grandfather reminds me of that pirate in Treasure Planet? The one who gives a speech to Jim about how he hopes he'll be there to catch some of the light shining off Jim in the future. That speech makes me cry every time. And the grandpa in the story was EXACTLY like that.

[@catherinegarcia07]

Same here. Wonderful person period. "I'm your family. Family doesn't leave family."

[@generalknez3942]

All the likes cried too, as well as me.

[@TheMercian13]

Beautiful moment in a fucked up situation

[@redclaytanto]

Soft enough to come up with that tearjerker one liner but hard enough to remind Mom he has a shotgun. 😆 What a legend!

[@dinosaur5598]

"If anybody shows up at my lawn to disturb the boy, I'll get the cops, a restraining order and a shotgun". BADASS 😎

[@pearldragon6508]

And not necessarily in that order! :p

[@kelvinlocke1403]

Lonesome guitar and Hawk's cry.

[@normanderi]

That man deserves some fucking Nobel, i don't know which one, maybe all of them

[@blackstone1a]

Shotguns solve a lot of problems

[@lenzmillana8840]

@@blackstone1a Can't argue.

[@gyneve]

Speaking from personal experience, your abusive older brother showed you his true nature when he thought he could get away with it. People like that don't change.

[@cecejamesable]

He's about a violent taste of his own bitter medicine and Karma is using a shovel as the spoon to do it.

[@beverlyarcher3744]

Older brother it turns out is actually the one that was in ops shoes he was the affair baby not op

[@Theobserver6897]

@@beverlyarcher3744I died laughing when I heard that karma is a bitch

[@A-Warthog-cc1wm]

@@Theobserver6897oh it is, and I love it 😈

[@blueberrycupcake5144]

I bet that the "father" in the first story sees his favourite son still as is own child. "No matter what happens you will be forever my child. Blah blah blah." While OP got dissowned

[@nicksuazo4377]

@Wei Luo He realized he was in too deep, and taking it out on another "affair child" would of made things worse for him. He'd probably be called out for it and he'd have no way to come back from the backlash. I hope the little brother gets away from that toxic family and moves in with grandpa or maybe even OP.

[@BraveryWing26]

I think something even better happened. He probably stopped loving his "Son" and now is hit with the realization he has no family anymore. Happy ending.

[@xenolyn2962]

The last update is the definition of plot twist in real life

[@TheLaughing_Dragon]

This was the top comment, & hadn't finished yet. Bruh, I was SO SCARED....... then I heard it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sjmcc13]

It is why you always gets these types of tests done a minimum of twice, by separate labs if possible. Especially if you are going to dump and abuse a kid if it is not yours. There is always a chance of a lab mess up, the more over worked the lab the greater the chance. Get the same results it is likely right, get different results, go again to confirm.

[@kisstune]

Actually when op went the older bro was dad's but not me I was like I bet they got the tests mixed up.

[@kdash2657]

I hope he realizes that his mom is at fault for starting the ruination of his family, doesn't seem like it tho. His mom is a cheater and his dad is a simp that chose to lash out too late and hold it against his kids and not his cheating garden tool of a wife. Only good person here is the grandpa.

[@JohnnyDominion]

He sure is he keeps going back to a woman that wouldn't know loyalty if it was shoved up her ass. She had more than one affair, and OP said it was a lifetime if affairs meaning she was cheating through the whole marriage. He is damn fool for going back to her and if OP decides to make another update and reveal that she cheated again I will hardly be shocked.

[@YaoiChan18]

Pretty damn sure he does. But the issue is that Dad took out the BS on HIM and dropped him like the foulest of trash because his wife cheated and had a baby by annother man. Not going into the updates, that's fucked, but the Father was the one who lashed out at OP, NOT the Mother until after the whole thing was sorted as an error.

[@Grouchbox]

Plenty of blame to go around. Dad and brother were equally horrible by making him their victim when he did nothing wrong. He is smart to hold them to their rejection of him. They don’t love him and proved it beyond doubt.

[@lukejackson2354]

@@YaoiChan18 But the mother excused the eldest b*stard when he tormented OP she’s also complicit in the abuse. She’s was enabling it and letting her son that was the most helpless on his own.

[@pippo17173]

@@Grouchbox When family members do this, I like to think that this is them showing they never gave a shit to begin with.

[@SH-qs7ee]

That grampa in the first story is amazing; what he said about not worrying how you might be in the future, that you have to go be how you feel now, shows a kind of wisdom we could all use

[@elizagaskell7957]

OP name your first born child after Grandfather.

[@HH-ru4bj]

Grandpa is a fucking boss.

[@enderdrane]

Hell yeah... You should get on reddit to post that comment lol

[@DkKombo]

@@HH-ru4bj Roll call at school: Teacher: Is "Grandpa is a fucking boss" here? Kid: (Puts on sunglasses) *Here.* (Cyberpunk music plays as the camera does a close up)

[@generalknez3942]

Honor him o7

[@thousandyardgavri2785]

Zuko and Iroh feels

[@arnasbabravicius6417]

the 1st stories gramps is the real deal ya'll fucking respect! ABSOLUTE REPSECT...

[@ahmedmukhi7684]

First story is the best revenge/karma/regret story. OP’s father ruined his relationship with OP who is (bio kid) and favoured his Big brother (Non-bio kid).

[@MattieAnne]

karmic justice can be so beautiful

[@g-saviour6581]

Good lord karma is the best thing ever

[@12savage68]

What was he supposed to do ?

[@StonedHunter]

@@12savage68 not abuse an innocent child?

[@12savage68]

@@StonedHunter did he abuse him or disown him?

[@juan8312]

"Mom forgave everyone already" Ofcourse, she destroyed her family "Just because you are a stupid teen you wont listen to us" Your family abused YOU. "YOU HAVE MORE GRANDKIDS WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS, YOU ARE SPLITTING THE FAMILY" No dear, YOU (his mom) BLEW IT UP WITH YOUR AFFAIR

[@ravenfox926]

Talk about Projecting.

[@66DoodleGal]

She has no one to forgive, SHE CHEATED

[@enderdrane]

I hate it when people are stubborn, they do sh*t like this

[@SavedCurls7]

I don't think her forgiveness is necessary here either, but I think it's in response to all 3 children (at that point in time) being deemed her ex-husband's biological children, and the family treating her as an outcast for that. It doesn't seem like the dad is all that torn up over the infidelity, but rather the children all not being his.

[@TheMclovin4100]

I think it’s safe to say both sides destroyed the family

[@Rj-ij6ko]

can we all just give a big round of applause for OP’s Grandpa? Dude is the father that OP deserves.

[@bluesapphire4262]

Already did, and double applause plus a biggest pint of the best beer if he was OP´s paternal grandpa.

[@ravenfox926]

No way would I EVER forgive them. They punished and abused a KID just because they thought he was an affair baby and NOW when they find out they were wrong, they want to b basically rug sweep?! SCREW THAT AND SCREW THEM!

[@murdock94]

Story 1: They know what they did and are just desperate to forget it. They don't deserve shit and, if not else, he deserves to tell them all to fuck off. And that plot twist at the end. Damn son.

[@snowflakeslayer4354]

Never let toxic people back in

[@joimumu]

Agree 💯

[@aleksandarvil5718]

IKR XD 😂 💯💯💯

[@cisio64123]

The first OP totally has every right to feel how he does. The " family " punished him and treated him like crap because of his mother's actions and then wants to be family again, nope sorry that isn't how it works. Then add to the fact that the dad knew the mom was a serial cheater but always stayed until his paternity was in question makes him a new level of idiot . Stay strong OP and continue to go NC on everyone but the grandpa who has shown you more love and loyalty then the rest put together.

[@kitsumekat]

First story, I wish people will stop saying you'll regret it. The bigger regret is doing something you don't want to do. If you don't want to deal with family, you're not going to regret it. Also, Gramps is the triple OG and Major MVP. He made sure you were taken care of. Oh, that final edit is awesome! The dad is stuck broke and with the affair partner's kid. I hope the younger kid is his because that's his only kid. Second story, OP should give him time. He's going through the biggest lie of his life. His marriage was a sham and his child isn't his. Eventually, you'll have to start over again with him.

[@jamainegardner4193]

One thing I've had to learn in the past 2 years is that the ultimate test of an adult is if they're able to imagine all the consequences of a potential decision (especially the negative) and accept them.

[@andrewbergamann7982]

Wow, grandpa went full Clint Eastwood to defend OP, that's badass 😎 Props to the pops ☺️

[@kittymama6317]

Omg Grandpa is awesome! Yep I freaking love him!

[@zoe9190]

To all fathers, i dont care if you believe your partner was 100% faithful and never cheated, get a paternity test as soon as possible to guarantee your child is yours. The mothers knows it her child, you dont have the same luxury. If i ever had kids myself, i would insist the dad get one, even if he didnt want to get one.

[@helenemuscagorry244]

Exactly what I thought

[@audreym3908]

I would also make sure the moms do it too (hospitals (rarely) accidentally switch babies, so be careful)

[@jayahess4656]

Honestly, that is toxic. If you aren't married maybe, but putting the doubt of some people on all people just enforces the idea that you cannot trust anyone. If anyone ever told my husband to get a dna test for our child, that person would be cut off. Because that idea is toxic, and my husband is our child's father.

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

@@jayahess4656 Well if you're Faithful. you shouldn't have no worries then... Also, so if the person who suggested the DNA is a friend/family of the husband and just looking out for him, you're going to try to cut him off out of his life??? Controlling Much... js

[@brianaschmidt910]

@@TheKnightofAwesomeness not all friends and family are loving and some are just toxic pos. So it would definitely have to be a case by case basis

[@RobbieDBobbet]

2nd story, the dad probably feels two very difficult and conflicting emotions towards this situation. His wife has snatched the daughter out of his life and that his wife has also robbed his daughter of a father. But also, the fact that he calls and is concerned about her, shows he still cares and wants to be there for her. Hi apprehension probably comes from him now not feeling comfortable as an older man who loves a younger woman he isn't related to like a daughter. He probably still wants to be a dad to her, but knows doing so would manoeuvre himself into a situation where people will probably say all the wrong things about him, just because he wants to be a good person. No good deed goes unpunished. Either other people will pick up the story and then question why he is still in her life and make "conclusions", or the ex wife may throw the idea at him or tell other people behind his back just to spite him.

[@richardrabe7940]

Right some ppl just dont understand how it feels to be lied to for all years she lied to him.how crushing it can be when u find out that not your child.

[@HyperDavidovich]

This is the kind of damage that infidelity can do. It literally ruins people's lives, and has far-reaching consequences for years and decades. There are people out there who think very light of infidelity. They should be slapped upside the head and be forced to read stories like this.

[@boybawang1981]

DO NOT F with grandfathers that were cops back in the day, when they threw wife beaters over a bridge!!!

[@gyneve]

Now they *are* the wife beaters.

[@britnicox3929]

The second one just made me sad. I’m sure OP thinks she is being punished for her mother’s actions. I hope he is able to come around for her sake

[@alvinchoong1188]

She needs to move in with her father to show support but instead stays with mom. To him, this is a fresh but painful wound and I do hope she leaves the mother to be with him.

[@generallordjowbra8871]

She should ghost her mom and punish the guilty party.

[@richardrabe7940]

The blow to the man is unreal.women will never know what this blow feels like.been lied to for years apond years then find out threw dna test.the pain is unreal.crushing.the betrayal then reality of the child is not yours its painfull

[@bigpulgalokes]

@@alvinchoong1188 she is barely an adult what money or way can she go? what is wrong with you

[@alvinchoong1188]

@@bigpulgalokes damn this is so long ago.....

[@richardlewis4499]

They are lying. You will regret NOTHING!! Trust me, I know.

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

I tend to find that the posters who have people tell them that they'll regret not coming back to the family... end up not regretting it.

[@Audiogeek-kf2ez]

Your grand father was the rock Star of this entire event, the family pulling (you are a teenager) is the most insulting thing I have ever seen. Wow.

[@pazmaster59]

The "he's my piece" line was the sweetest thing I've ever heard and that includes movies and books that Grandpa was a smooth operator

[@shawncherry1475]

I remember this story from awhile ago, I love how he cut them Off

[@marymohr2799]

It's terrible to cheat. It's worse to hide that you cheated for years, and even worse to lie about who your kids real father is.

[@ladynikkie]

And the worst of the worst is taking your anger out on those kids who did nothing wrong and disowning them

[@wolves600]

@@ladynikkie true but it can be understandable since that kid is now a constant reminder their wife never loved them in the first place and they were wasting their life with them so it isn’t right but I can get it

[@googoo5288]

When the grandpa said OP was his piece. I legit started to tear up a little.

[@misterb3577]

Story one went full Clint Eastwood "Get off my lawn" badassery! OP has an amazing granddad.

[@F40PH-2CAT]

Anyone who tells OP in the first story to do something he doesn't want gets cut off immediately.

[@ian7064]

Stories like these make me glad DNA tests are so much more accessible nowadays. It's imperative soon to be dads get the test done before signing anything

[@anders8204]

Parental tests should really be mandatory.

[@susanlosey9511]

Your grandpa is such a wonderful man. Listen to him, he is a smart man, and a very wonderful man. He stood by you when everyone else kicked you to the curb. Go no contact with them. Stay strong, you can do this!

[@baileycaristo1948]

Grandpa is the real deal. I love this story and it gives me hope for humanity their are men out there like him.

[@metis7534]

First stories grandfather is literally like the perfect family member. Love the grandfather bro

[@mandykayla4762]

The final update is the biggest plot twist I’ve ever seen in awhile 😂😭

[@OscaR-bo8ub]

I love Grandpa's advice damn he is a sage.

[@LaineyBug2020]

My heart has never broken and & been so full at the same time as when I heard his Grandpa say, "He's my piece,"

[@gannicusfinch7068]

Story #1: "My mother forgave everyone." Huh? This whole unfortunate series of events never would have happened if your mother had just kept her trousers up. You're placing the blame 100% in the wrong direction, kid.

[@Tony-lw5yp]

He isn't, he hates everyone

[@jasondyrkacz8270]

Except for his grandfather.

[@danacarter9147]

@@jasondyrkacz8270 Exactly. OP's grandfather is the only real family he has, his father, mother, and older brother are all malignant #&%£s, except his younger brother.

[@lostlong62]

Doesnt explain the years of abuse he endured from his dad and brother.

[@Grouchbox]

Mother shouldn’t have cheated, but that doesn’t excuse Dad and brother (the real affair baby) for abuse of OP, and OP does not owe them a reunion.

[@kateemma22]

Grandpa’s got me crying in the club. What a legend.

[@Ryuondo]

Story 2 is sad. His dad is probably still trying to come to terms with his life being a lie orchestrated his his wife. He needs to give him time and let him know that he's still his son regardless of what his mom did.

[@rasharddauvergne342]

Last story. Just give it some time. The fact that he's still calling time to time means he hasn't forgot her. He probably needs sometime to adjust

[@velvetdarksoul8741]

Uh, Great dads can stop being great dads what was that redditor smoking we've seen stories of good parents finding out their kid isn't their and becoming completly abusive towards them

[@jamegumb7298]

If they are great dads and a DNA test proves they are not dads that means they are abusive towards strangers, not their kids.

[@JCfireman]

Yeah but we'll see what happened for now. All I see is some dysfunctional family caused from infidelity, what the dad does next after this post will decide whether he is a crap parent or a decent one

[@jamegumb7298]

@@JCfireman He is not the dad. He is not a parent. He never was. No need to judge his parenting then.

[@JCfireman]

@@jamegumb7298 I mean to a sense she is old enough to live without him but that doesn't mean he has too cut her out of his life. I'm just saying this isn't either of their faults it's the sl*t mother that split the family. I'm just saying I understand the pain and shock he goes through but just because he isn't the bio father doesn't mean he can't be dad or a decent person but that's just my opinion.

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

@@jamegumb7298 A stranger is someone you don't know, If they raised the child they have known them for years, blood relation or not they are not a stranger. And I wouldn't go so far as to say someone who can change their feelings on a dime like that is a 'great' father. It's one thing to say something in the heat of the moment while the pain is fresh and lash out at the wrong person, but to let it go on for years does not have the same emotional rush. It just shows that their love is extremely conditional.

[@peterjeffery8495]

Love this story and yes, you can see and hear Clint when OP speaks about his Grandpa. Its like he's getting a second chance at raising his kids and is giving it his full attention. To me he's the best possible example of "old school". Bless em both.

[@ssjwes]

DAMN MAN!!!! Your Grandpa is a top notch fellow. A REAL MAN! You are his piece that he's not going to let go!!!! I almost cried...

[@nurrizq7521]

WHEN THE GRANDPA SAID THE OP IS HIS PIECE LIKE DANG.. THAT GRANDPA DESERVES EVERYTHING THIS WORLD PLEASE 😭😭😭❤❤❤

[@adude661]

I cannot understand how that dude is not cursing his mother. She created this whole mess. Insane.

[@fufufuaru]

That grandpa made me tear up. I'm glad OP at least had someone like him as family.

[@irisolivas2199]

Oh god I ugly cried when I heard the “he’s my piece” part😭😭😭 Grandpa is an OG and has a heart of gold

[@VampyBlood17]

The part where the gramps said he was his piece broke me too! God bless that beautiful man!!

[@gaywerewolf1294]

Story 1: drop them. That's all I'll say Story 2: instead of just pushing him info feeling a certain way, bc that is what's happening here, ask to meet up to talk about your relationship with him

[@BraveryWing26]

I love the grandpa, he's the MVP and the one who truly is family.

[@zulefandom8170]

Honestly, Grandpa is a champion. We love him - he's your piece 🥰

[@notimportant3820]

How dare anyone blame an affair on an innocent child? *If* OP ever changes their mind, that's up to them. His father and his brother blamed him and dumped him for something his mother did years ago, they can live with the fallout.

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

Such a disappointment it must be for the Grandpa, to be such a strong principled person have a child like OP's parents.

[@YuriDSC]

The grandpa is amazing and absolutely justified in his actions - "Family doesn't leave".

[@lawsonallen7741]

I come from a Family just like this. Never talk to them again. They will hurt you again to make them selfs fell better.

[@abigailgerlach5443]

To blame a child for a parent's mistakes is unforgivable. Never ever blame a child for an parent's choices.

[@ytl9558]

Grandpa is an absolute Chad

[@lstatic4562]

That first story reminds me of that quote from Guardians of the Galaxy 2... “He may have been your father boy, but he wasn’t your daddy.”

[@rickrollrizal]

They want a piece of the settlement money. Stay away

[@Robopiglet]

“And he’s my piece” Goddamnit these tears are fucking up my phone screen

[@DVAcme]

That grandpa is a TRUE MAN. They don't make 'em like him anymore.

[@maherdaibes9344]

honestly women that commit paternity fraud should be in jail please men dont marry

[@Lilazn216]

Op's grandma rocked! I wish I had one like him

[@lighting8796]

Dude the first op's grandfather made me want to cry for his wisdom and love he gave to his grandchild

[@tyrantbane7948]

Thank God for that grandpa. Its make all the difference having one person who is always in your corner.

[@judyfirpo4422]

First story, God bless you and your awesome grandfather. You are so lucky to have him in your life. Model your life after this man he truly knows what the word family means.

[@michaelmcanally5783]

I would write him a letter, a real letter, not email or text. Tell him how you see him, that you’re for what your mom did to him, but ask him why he’s punishing you? Tell him that you didn’t know what the tests would reveal, and you’re sorry for bringing this down upon him. Then just unload your feelings on him. A letter is the least intrusive form of communication, it puts the ball squarely in his court. It’ll give him time to think about you, and you won’t know he got the letter unless he responds.

[@JohnnyDominion]

Depending on the circumstances I can't say I fault every man who leaves when finding out the child isn't biologically his, personally I would still encourage them if they had been part of their lives for almost a decade. However I have seen when men who continue to raise the child because they say screw genetics that's my kid only to have it backfire when the kid wants to be with their actual bio father and tosses them aside. However if you make the decision to leave you can't try to waddle your way back into their lives when regret bites you in the ass like I have seen many other men. Life is full of risk, and whether you stay or go you must accept the risk and consequences of your actions do to your relationship with the child.

[@ljh5141]

#1, Grandpa is awesome, sees through all the crap and stands up for his own. Love Grandpa, wish we all had someone like Grandpa in our lives. Unconditional love is priceless!💕💕

[@Nunyabidness202]

Cheaters suck. My mom and dad were faithful to each other for 51 years. My mom voluntarily left the workforce to care for him as he was killed by Parkinson’s. Videos like this make me cherish and love her more for her commitment. I miss you dad ❤

[@dasdeke]

Granddad is so awesome he's old school and you can tell that from the way he handles things as well as the love he showed to his grandson that no one wanted.

[@thegrinch8161]

You’re grandpa reminds me of my auld cantankerous grandad on my mums side, you see I didn’t tell my mum when I was always getting beat up at school but I told my grandad and it was him who got me into judo classes as a kid and it’s been a lifelong obsession with me as a result,he was always at my competitions and he always instilled in me with his mantra, always visit pain and humiliation on bullies and always protect the weak. I’ll hoist a snort or 6 of the elixir of life to your grandpa and to you for being what family is all about. A warm sun, clear skies and calm seas to you both. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🙏

[@briansmaller7443]

"Not finding biological father" Until she has an illness or something or suddenly decides what her actual ancestry was. This is why paternity fraud is so damaging. All those saying DMA doesn't matter are deluding themselves. Eventually this young woman will seek out her biological relatives or they will seek her out after taking a DNA test. The father has lost that special bond. She now has two fathers. He is not unique in her life any more.

[@hkburrows]

This isn't always true. I was adopted at 6 months old, I'm now 60 and have never been inclined to find my 'birth parents'. I had the best mom and dad I could ever want, and even though they're dead now, they were all I needed. My younger brother was also adopted, and feels the same. When my mom passed away, I was given an envelope with both mine and my brother's adoption certificates. After talking to my brother, the envelope remains unopened in my safe. DNA doesn't always matter.

[@Undomaranel]

@@hkburrows Glad life worked out for you like that. Nowadays though, what with screenings and vaccines and differing medications on metabolism and allergies and everything, genetic family history is essentially a medical necessity for treatment. Your "not always" is a very minute fraction of the probability. Again, and respectfully, glad life worked out for you. That isn't likely an option for the kids of today.

[@squirrel670]

@@Undomaranel medical stuff is important but medical history and relationships is 2 different things. Your family has a history of heart failure vs trying to be best friends with them and picking them over the people who raised you is a huge leap.

[@squirrel670]

Yeah must suck when she also gets married and gets a father in law and It's tragic if they get along really well cause now he's not her only father and the bond is tainted somehow. Yeah no. Raising someone and being a good father had nothing on strangers who weren't there and don't care. It is so rude of you to assume this like you just know and honesty it's gross in my opinion.

[@TheAlchemist010]

Brian, everyone believes its okay to raise someone's child for 18 years without knowing. Wasted time that could've been spent making your own family bloodline.

[@twixcake3152]

Me the whole time: Why take it out on a child rather than the person who MADE THE CHILD 🙏🏻

[@Cindy-xg6yn]

Family is more than just DNA and children should not be held accountable for a parent's cheating behaviour. This is totally unfair. You're supposed to love children unconditionally. This is horrible behaviour toward the kid.

[@z4ne398]

The first story on the video. I hate how they tell him that he'll regret it later and give them a chance because they're family. If they were family they wouldn't abondon an innocent child.

[@leoniekoning1005]

I have a similar experience when I was a teen and I no longer wanted to see my father for multiple reasons. My mom never bad-mouthed my father in any way and always tried to push for me to go to him on his weekend (where I'm from the child can choose once they are 12+ and I stopped going as much since 13ish years old). When I was 14 (maybe just 15) he remarried and I didn't want to go. But my mother basically forced me to, saying I would regret not going later down the line and he was 'still my father'. Which other people tried to tell me as well. I had literally cried in the car, refusing to get out because I did not want to be there but ended up forced to attend. I did end up leaving early (right after the ceremony) with my oldest sister (she had her own issues with our father but was there out of respect or something, I'm not even sure). But of course my father had to tell me he was disappointed in me, my stepbrother said I was a brat and I got plenty of nasty glances from everyone (especially father's parents, who I had already cut out of my life at 11/12 since they never kept their word). Cut all contact with him when I was 17. When I graduated highschool (at 18ish) my mom also invited my father with the same excuse that 'I would regret it later' if he wouldn't be there. I did not even look at him when he was there and walked away when he tried to approach, even ending up going home early because I was so done. I still regret not having listened to myself at those times, but everyone basically told me the same thing they told OP. I was a spiteful teenager, didn't know what I was doing or what I really wanteed, I would regret things etc. And yes, I ended up regretting things, but more so the fact I let myself be swayed by those people so often! Went without talking to my dad until I was maybe 21/22 when he wanted a second chance. I did not want to, again was swayed by others with the same excuses, and once again he trampled all over my boundaries, which made me distance myself again and ignoring him. I think at 24 I cut him out all over again through a LONG letter my therapist had me write, with all the things I forgave him for (partially also to let him know all the things he hurt me with) and that even though I forgave him for the sake of my own mental health, this did not mean I wanted a relationship with him and I did not want him to ever contact me again. According to my mom he has been really sad about it but honestly I couldn't care less. I could be called today and be told he would be dead and honestly I wouldn't feel a thing (aside from maybe relief to know he wouldn't be able to cross my boundaries again). I would be way more affected if either of my in laws would die, because they have actually been there, supported me and helped me grow as a person from day 1. You choose your family, blood has nothing to do with it.

[@JT-un7dc]

Op, I cannot believe that an older brother only hit his younger brother one time. Rewind back in the day and brothers beat the crap out of each other on a daily basis.

[@fox0yeah410]

Story 1: there's no skool like the old skool, you go grandad your a real OG. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@valerinesterov6163]

His grandpa is the mvp. Jesus I need to call my old man now. 🥺🤘

[@AndyPrimeOne]

All babies should be tested at birth to confirm paternity. Paternity fraud is disgusting and should be punished by years in jail, not rewarded with child support.

[@animefreak0959]

Who else cried when grandpa said he was his piece

[@gamerboy6787]

Story 1: Whoa, whoa, whoa... your mom "forgave" everyone? She is the one who cheated, she is the one who fractured the family, and SHE forgave everyone? Fuck that shit.

[@ladynikkie]

And my dad was so weak to take her back once a cheater always a cheater.

[@stephanien6237]

I hope OP and her dad in the final story get some counseling, individual and together.

[@WolfyTheIn-between]

1st story...that "family" is vile. There was no excuse to treat him that way. Horrible

[@nunuthings1945]

I so love his grandpa... you are a lucky kid to have that man in your corner having your back. I don't usually get emotional but I have to admit that this made me cry. 😢 because I miss my grandpa.

[@kategallagher5610]

My grandmother lived SF in 1906 Earthquake, she remembers that her dad was removing a picture above her bed. Her grandfather saved a huge chest and dragged it down Mission Street. A soldier gave her a her a bunch of candy and their house on Elizabeth st. was ok. Any one from SF knows those streets. She also stole her fathers car in 1914. She was a pistol for the time, she smoked and wanted to go to college...her father said no....secretarial school. Times have changed.

[@gyneve]

She sounds like fun. Can I get her number?

[@F40PH-2CAT]

Any child must understand that if your father finds out you are not biologically his, the nature of your relationship will change forever. Don't push it.

[@101sweetflower]

mad respect to cop Grandpa in story one!

[@angelaramsay1778]

Your Grandpa - full of love and fight. My favourite people.

[@abelovedsonofGodinwhomHeis35-6]

For the 2nd story, you did an ancestry test to dig up the secrets of the past and boy, you dug up a good one.

[@num4162]

I sympathize with this guy. My birth mom’s best friend (my mom) adopted me because she didn’t want me to go into the system. I should mention that she has made some horrible decisions since having me. I’m very happy with my family and no one has ever tried to hide anything about my birth mother from me. She was allowed to send letters, and before we moved I even visited her in jail a few times. But then when I was in 3rd grade, she stopped sending letters. I wasn’t very hung up about it and forgot about her. As I got older, my mom stopped sugarcoating how bad of a person my birth mother was sometimes. She also told me about how she attempted to let my aunts and uncles visit me, but they refused to unless she gave them gas money. Everything was fine until they started trying to contact me again. Apparently my birth mother wanted to talk with me again, but in person. They asked me mom, who asked me, and I said no but she was free to send letters. They wouldn’t take that and started asking around my adoptive family. They even asked my brother for pictures of me. Luckily no one responded, but now I’m reluctant to even get letters from them.

[@Kattlarv]

I'd have be so tempted to give that brother said punch in the face. Then go "You have to forgive me, we're family."

[@rezarfar]

His Grandfather is the literal MVP of the Internet.