UPDATE Fiancée Wanted To Explore Her Feelings With Longterm Crush, So I Put Her Where She Belongs...

Hey all, My fiancé (together 3 years) didn’t physically cheat on me, but she became emotionally invested with a guy she used to have feelings for.
In November, I discovered that she was sending him selfies of her outfits for work, photos of what we where doing (such as carving pumpkins for Halloween) and texting nonstop throughout the workday - mainly about pointless stuff.
One night she asked if we could watch a show on Netflix - which I later found out he was mentioning in their conversation. The last message he sent revealed how he felt for me fiancé and said “it’s in your court now.”
Story 1:
Update: My (22M) fiancé (21F) “caught up” with a friend and began to question our engagement
Story 2:
My(M21) gf (F23) just accidentally openly admit to cheating me on in front of all of her friends while on vacation and I’m stuck here until Jan 3rd
Story 3:
Ex-WS reached out to me after months of NC
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[@redditoutloudrelationships1430]

Story 1: Update 4:22 Update: My (22M) fiancé (21F) “caught up” with a friend and began to question our engagement Story 2: 7:34 My(M21) gf (F23) just accidentally openly admit to cheating me on in front of all of her friends while on vacation and I’m stuck here until Jan 3rd Story 3: 12:13 Ex-WS reached out to me after months of NC

[@ashleyyoung796]

I wanted to know about the update in the second and third story. And, what happened afterwards?🤔

[@JoseMaria-ng1qp]

@@ashleyyoung796 a

[@ashleyyoung796]

@@JoseMaria-ng1qp "a" what?

[@russellturner5310]

Although it hurts long term you dodged a bullet, better to find out now than when your married with kids. Because believe me they do it once they will do it again at some point.

[@chunky9791]

8:13

[@tittosks]

"she said she knew she was going to hurt me, but she did it anyway" WOOW

[@theunexpectedsmile5535]

This. This was my exact reaction.

[@theunexpectedsmile5535]

@von gray I never said he should keep seeing her or give her another chance in the slightest. I said my reaction was the same as @Titto (i.e. “Wow, wth”). The second she said that, he should’ve known it was time to cut the cord and call it quits.

[@terrykrugii5652]

The audacity some women have...

[@tittosks]

@@theunexpectedsmile5535 Affair is already a very painful thing, I imagine with your partner openly admitting that she has no regard for you, or that she wanted to hurt you. Ouch

[@theunexpectedsmile5535]

@@tittosks exactly! I agree with you 100% (don’t know if that was unclear from my previous comments, but still wanted to clarify). Man or woman, seeing the flaws in your actions and knowing they would hurt your partner and then still deciding to go through with it is wrong on every level. I hope OP takes some time to heal and then finds someone better in the future.

[@Middy666]

Haven't even started listening and I have a feeling OP 1's gonna restore my faith in redditor's self respect

[@jimmyp9105]

Haven't started the update, not going say lost any faith yet but may be neutral. It's not my relationship but if I was engaged and she was talking to another guy like that, it would have ended right there. If she doesn't have enough respect to not talk to other guys like that, then there no hope. 100% zero tolerance on certain thing. Because I treat those how I will be treated not want will. If not then there no relationship.

[@wonderwend1]

Amen to that

[@xTwilightWolvesx]

Sorry, but that OP disappoints.

[@SeanHomicide]

BIG FACTSSS‼

[@jamesk8891]

Same gona watch now! 👀

[@WexMajor82]

"Didn't physically cheat on me". Sure buddy. If it makes you sleep at night.

[@StarAllKungfu]

Also bet she ate that AP sausage.

[@sws212]

She doesn't have to for the relationship to be gone.

[@jordandennis6794]

Exactly. Denial is strong

[@thoroughlyrustled6186]

WexMajor82 if it helps him sleep at night then shut the fuck up and let hin believe it

[@northernnightmare7986]

@@thoroughlyrustled6186 No. It's pathetic and men like that create more weak people.

[@oliverbates5484]

So... "It was just sex. It meant nothing" and also "It's just an emotional affair. It doesn't count." are legitimate excuses for being a garbage human Edit: Clarified my point

[@oliverjordan695]

We are men. We dont see a kiss as nothing.. so...

[@oliverbates5484]

@@oliverjordan695 Clarified with edit. Cheers

[@dolanuscaesar1326]

"And this is just break up honey."

[@TimonPumbaTv]

'Also divorce letters are just papers honey'

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

@@oliverjordan695 no normal human being sees that stuff as nothing. But there plenty of broken people or people without empathy.

[@chaosreaver3597]

The first story, [expletive] OP is dense. She walked their relationship into a field and shot it in the back of the head to rot. The update revealing that OP was paying 80% of everything is a neon sign that she was only with him as a stable plan B. OP should expect her to come crawling back for another chance after a while and he needs to learn the phrase "You made your choice" otherwise he will get stuck in this cycle.

[@kos2919]

Yeah, I mean he already knew she walk all over him for YEARS and still trying for the third time and asking reddit for the obvious? Dude is a doormat.

[@strikeforce1500]

Honestly, I would understand forgiving cheating once. But twice? And then consider a third time? Might as well just put her on allowance and treat the cheater as a goddess at that point

[@chaosreaver3597]

@@kos2919 It gets better because OP mentions in one of the comments that a previous GF treated him the exact same way. That dude is a magnet for gold-diggers and not the slightly better kind who won't risk cheating to keep their golden goose. I wouldn't normally advocate this, but seeing how much he craves being in a relationship, if that's the kind of woman he attracts he needs to go on one of those dating sites that specialises in hooking up men and women with sugar-babies. It probably would mean he would be cycling through college students every 3 year or so (hell, some guys would view that as a bonus) but if he's lucky he might get one that sticks. At least that way he always knows what he's getting into. P.S. The reason I don't like the relationship dynamic of sugar-daddy and baby, is that it's seem too much like sexual servitude for my liking, it's not how I would want a relationship with a woman to work. Edit: Missed a word.

[@ricaivory6571]

Of course he's dense, he's 22. This is why people need to live their lives first before trying to be married. Marriage is not the height of life. And Marriage shouldn't be the goal you trying to get to the fastest.

[@doomguy9049]

@@ricaivory6571 I wasn't that stupid at 22 and neither were most of the other young men around me. I think if anything it's due to his upbringing being too sheltered and lacking in any advice or lessons about what to expect in relationships and what to avoid. It's not bad to marry early, ideally we'd all marry as soon as we found a suitable mate but sadly the way things are now there aren't really that many suitable mates out there.

[@russellturner5310]

Once a women connects emotionally the physical hook up is just behind believe me

[@mrmarcuswatson]

Yeah, or once they become distant from you, its a wrap. Happened to me...

[@kazejah1014]

I dont know why ppl wanna run to counselors in situations like this. As soon as I find out my love interest wants someone else...i don't care if she still likes me, or is "confused" she's fuckin gone. I'm everything, or im nothing!

[@stevenwilson5556]

^ this.

[@Mscrimsondragon]

Yep. Life is to short to waste on someone like this.

[@tonyjones1560]

"You ain't never lied!"

[@lavenderbythestream1736]

Preach!!!!

[@DuelTubeChannel]

Because most of the counselors want to drag the thing on by the flag of 'saving the relation'. Plus, some often side with the female.

[@stevenwilson5556]

If you need to do "couples counseling" about your fiancé because they are cheating on you (emotionally or physically), then you need to move on and find a more suitable partner. No need to "work on" the relationship.

[@greyman6353]

Spilt milk. Some shit is beyond repair

[@ugaladh]

the time for Marriage counseling is before the cheating, not afterward.

[@Canute87]

Marriage counselling after cheating is like trying to fix an engine after it's completely blown out.

[@diffsnicker]

​@@Canute87that analogy is perfect. Sure you could rebuild everything and rebore the cylinder sleeves, but it's usually just cheaper and more time effective to get a new engine. The difference is though an engine will actually work if you put the time and money in to fix it 😂😂

[@BlackKippahActivity]

1st story: he wouldn’t be going through that had he ended things the first time she pulled that bs

[@Scott90314]

Right? Who are these "guys" who put up with this b.s? Not ring no kids bye Felicia. Why is it always seem to be I need to explore something who TF are you Dora fuck outta here lol.

[@duckeh1952]

@@Scott90314 because he haz moneyz and looks so no way she would ever be interested in anyone else. Because big bois on internet told him that is all that matters.

[@Scott90314]

@@duckeh1952 Ugh right. If guys could learn to spot these leech's looking for a ring and a easy ride we would all be better off.

[@duckeh1952]

@@Scott90314 well that too :P but today's shallow thinking that looks ans money aka 10/10 only get spouses. Doesn't help to be 10/10 outside if your soul is rotten. You can only fake love so much. But when real attraction hits... Just look around when you are out. Average people with average spouses. And not to mention if your bf/gf cheats on you once, second time is easier. It's extremely rare them not to do it again. Cheating is always a choice. And yes. I was needy and clingy teenager who ignored every damn red flag with bf. I am disgusted at myself why I ever let myself treated that way. Boys and girls, respect yourself and there is plenty non-cheating fish in the pond.

[@tavoknaza7086]

@@duckeh1952 Today's? That a joke and half. It always been a thing it every culture sadly. No matter what point and time it is.

[@harmlesschicken7018]

I don't understand all these women cheating on their fiances and husbands. I genuinely wanna get married to my boyfriend and I can't imagine ever cheating on him.

[@duckeh1952]

Some people just have no morals, men and women. It's like huge, selfish game for them. Bad relationship? Break up. Doubts before marriage? Break up. Sex life doesn't satisfy before marriage? It's not going to get better. "I didn't want to hurt you" ... Then what they thought doing?

[@severepayne72]

thats is good, however don't be upset if he wants a dna test if u have kids, this happens far to often, its about protecting himself from raising another kid, which is very very common, and the female friends usually encourage it

[@duckeh1952]

@@severepayne72 no its not common. Stop spreading a lie. 1-2% of kids are not the assume father's. For those who doubt paternity and take test, 30% are not father. So even those cases majority are the actual father. But majority of men don't have to doubt.

[@severepayne72]

@@duckeh1952 These numbers suggest that the widely quoted and unsubstantiated figure of 10% of non-paternal events is an overestimate. However, in studies that solely looked at couples who obtained paternity testing because paternity was being disputed, there are higher levels: an incidence of 17% to 33% (median of 26.9%).

[@duckeh1952]

@@severepayne72 that's the same thing? People who take paternity test (=men who have reason to doubt) isn't the same than all men. Those who need to doubt are in minor group. So no. It's not really very, very common. That is like claiming increased consumption of ice cream in summer causes more drownings. It's only looks common in Reddit, where people post when things are shit. You don't see posts "hey Reddit, my wife hasn't cheated in our 15 yrs in marriage and all three kids are mine!" Just because you got cheating ah GF and got burnt doesn't mean every woman on planet cheats and tries to pin baby on non-bio dad. About 35% of people in relationships cheat. Ofc man simply can be never sure without test (unlike women) but also have to remember if there honestly isn't any reason to doubt, asking it means there is no trust and without trust me there is no relationship. And tbh. I am sure when looking back, most men who take the test, realise there was something that gave the reason to ask for a test. ONS and after breakups should always be alarming. Also guys. If you really don't want kids, use condoms no matter how woman says she is on birthcontrol. Still not 100%, but better odds than just hormonal. I am sure "bit better sensation" isn't worth 18 yr if child support.

[@xavierwolf4827]

The thumbnail was hilarious. Where she belongs, the streets. Lol

[@elijaholing]

Was looking for this comment. LOL

[@ashleyyoung796]

Me too. Lol!😂

[@larrylightner5638]

Once a cheater always a cheater is the truth. I know how it feels because I dealt with a cheating wife for years. She never stopped cheating. I was a doormat back then.

[@hubertd1600]

Story 1: Don't worry you will take her back in a.few months and then she will cheat on you. Story 2: her friends knew all about it.

[@jessedunn254]

story 2. her friends knew about her idea of a friends rub in his clueless love for her. even the underwear gift was a part of the plan. run op run.

[@runzumarun4925]

Either the friends were trying to get her to admit it. Or they legit were mocking him

[@Gen7x13]

Op 2 sounded what I’ve been reading on Reddit a lot lately people who say they are for advice but accept none. He should of left immediately. Dudes only on Reddit to get his validation stroked and to feel better not get advice and make plans to escape.

[@jeffdean5892]

Story 1 Your a safety net , she wants him more , run for the hills Good luck

[@noexplanationowed3525]

Last story, " she won't be able to live with herself or forgive herself for her actions”...well, may be she shouldn't.....cheaters deserves that kind of pain at least......she made a choice,now she should face the consequences.....hope her one yr affair was worth it.

[@annhans3535]

She married him knowing she was seeing someone else....what was the point of her marrying him? She stole 2 years of his life. When karma bites this bitch she is going to suffer...

[@kitsumekat]

@@annhans3535 Support and a back up.

[@feartheghus]

@@annhans3535 stealing two years of his life and perhaps half his funds was her reason. You’re a fool if you don’t think some people are just evil.

[@davidkermes376]

she's still around. guess that makes her a liar.

[@anon-iraq2655]

That cabin story, she did this intentionally 100% They're enjoying his pain and humiliation

[@tonyjones1560]

Really... How'd he get there? His car? I'm like, "Girl, one of your friends is going to have to bring you home, because when I "sleep it off," I'm out. I'll be gone when you get back. Don't text, call or anything else. I don't want to see you or hear from you. EVER." I'm sure she and her friends would have a nice laugh about how "childish" he was by stomping out of there but what the hell...'cause we all know, if the shoe was on the other foot the hypocrisy would be deeper than the snow outside.

[@Cacille]

@@tonyjones1560 It's her car.

[@sodone466]

One guy, it's intentional. However I believe she just got confused. There were so many guys she cheated on him with, that she couldn't keep track of all her cheating relationship events.

[@tonyjones1560]

@@Cacille Yikes...time to call a friend, wrangle some reindeer, hijack some sled dogs but this guy needs to make some serious tracks.

[@Lord_darkside74]

Man Duck these people! The world full of aasholes!!

[@Laurels-id6qo]

Ngl the girl in the first one, based on what her family said seems to enjoy the honeymoon period and then when it becomes serious she just jumps to the next guy

[@Mscrimsondragon]

If that accidental cheating admission happened to my best friend, holiday or not, I would crawl into my car and go pick her ass up! OP's friend would WANT to know.

[@StarAllKungfu]

Think OP left stuff unsaid. His bff is a girl hanging out with her boyfriend. That boyfriend might not like OP. Bet he can't afford gas fare. It's a shit sandwich either way. Think he should have forced cheater gf to drive him home then and there. Shitshow regardless. Hopefully OP learns never take a trip without a plan B return.

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

@@StarAllKungfu eh, it might really just be a case of not wanting to ruin the holidays for his bestfriend and her bf.

[@StarAllKungfu]

​@@jasperj.d.g.4147 Guessing doesn't do me much credit. I'm just coming from the idea most guys BFF isn't a girl. If it's a case of he can afford, a 6 hour trip isn't ruining friends holiday. (*Though I know people that enjoy long road trips) In a similar situation I could afford wining and dining my buddies on such a road trip. It's be prepared for the shit storm. They always happen eventually if you travel frequently. Losing a wheel or blowing a transmission multiple hour drive from your home. Plan for the shitstorm and life is so much better.

[@peteranon8455]

If your BFF won't pick you up in this situation, it's time to get a new best friend. This is literally a situation where you might hurt yourself or others if you are trapped with them for multiple days.

[@cooltalktalks4944]

I can see myself not calling a friend. That’s just me. But I would tell her I was taking her car and that she should get a ride with a friend.

[@MrOccyc]

If you’re going to “couples therapy” when your engaged because one person can’t keep from wandering, the relationship is doomed.

[@adolfoarancesjr9221]

2nd story: are they in the middle of nowhere that the only way to get home is on Jan.3, when all of them get to go home? get yourself out of there find a way, don't wait until Jan 3, if you have to walk down that mountain then do so, leave your toxic gf and her friends, ain't worth staying in a shit show for every seconds.....get your ass down......

[@StarAllKungfu]

Poor planning on Ops part. Likely has no savings to pay for alternate accommodations or way home. Relationship is already over, I'd have forced an end to the trip right then. Maybe allowed a night sleep. But otherwise we're going home. Worse case they break up. Lols

[@StarAllKungfu]

This is a maturity/experience issue. Take away for OP. Never go on a trip you can't afford to fly back, or drive from. Even without cheating drama a car can break down. Plans can fall through, etc. Being the rock unfazed by shit like that makes your woman appreciate the shit out of you.

[@DrownedInExile]

Yup, OP has to find his own way back. I wouldn't put it past the ex to abandon him without a ride. So if he can arrange his own ride, I hope he screws one of the ex's friends, right in front of her.

[@aba1design]

Honestly she should give him her car and get a ride back with her friends.

[@DrownedInExile]

@@aba1design Far be it for me to advocate for a cheater, but what possible reason would she have for doing that? They're broken up. She owes him nothing now. It would be pretty douchey to leave him stranded, but somehow I doubt she'll feel much guilt for that.

[@elmaquiavelico5709]

The second one is going full Leatherface if he don't find a way to get out.

[@BlackKippahActivity]

😂

[@mmluon]

First story: I am beginning to think that therapist have the same business model as drug dealers in these situations. They make money on you coming back. All the advice this guy got is exactly what a good therapist should say at the first session.

[@Aziz-vd3bm]

If the therapist just helped him understand that women wouldn’t be cheating or having second doubts every 5 mins is because she doesn’t love you like you think she does or thinks she can do better then you then they would have to understand why the relationship is practically over by the time she displays any of those behaviors.

[@TheHogfatherInvades]

8:13 never heard the text to speech say "okay" with such enthusiasm

[@manboymanboy3946]

It’s evolving

[@driftninja_468]

"she belongs to the streets" -future

[@babybluehashyo]

Story 2, he should have taken her car and left. She could get a ride home with her friends. He could leave her car in her driveway once he gets home and get a cab to his place.

[@zachhill2831]

“ I want to feel bad for her” guys say this all the time lol why would you wanna feel bad FOR HER????

[@Q-64]

From my perspective I think it's how we're raised to be kind and catering to women no matter the circumstances. Even when we know better it ends up feeling wrong in some way. Every man needs a red pill dose lest they too become a reddit tragedy.

[@GuardianTheThird]

One of my friends found out his wife was cheating he started slowly moving stuff to his parents house two months later he filed for divorce and let her take whatever and get out as the house was in his name he'd already moved sentimental stuff(both hers and he's) and the doggo they had he'd given away to a friend only thing he left her in the end was her clothes and their wedding cake

[@cranny5237]

Story 1: Guess what? You’re not her first choice. She’s with you because she has no other options and you’re the best she can do. She’s just using you as a security and stability. She’s not over her crush because he’s the first one. Once she’s married it doesn’t stop there. Once she’s married and got her security, stability, house, cars and kids, that’s when then the cheating happens, she wants open marriages, bored of marriage and etc.

[@hld3738]

The WS in the last story probably isn't doing so well and remembering it was better with the ex husband. She is just putting out feelers to see if she can creep her way back into his life. She is the worst kind of woman just looking to manipulate.

[@stevenwilson5556]

Yes, just say "not your business what happens to me or how I heal or don't heal, go away and do not ever contact me again".

[@kos2919]

@@stevenwilson5556 no, even that kind of reply will give her closure. She will use that reply to justify that we're the asshole.

[@radmom05]

What is a WS?

[@hld3738]

@@radmom05 wayward spouse

[@radmom05]

@@hld3738 got it! Thanks!

[@georgecurtis6463]

First story. If I had any indication of the crap you found she would be out the door in seconds. Just out. That's it.

[@matthewgaines10]

1st Story: No counseling. No discussion. No 2nd chance. OP was too accommodating. If she has doubts and was secretively talking to someone else, she's already indicated she's not all in on you. Nothing to think about at that point. She wanted you to stay as a fall back plan in case the other guy didn't work out. 2nd Story: Better to find out now versus later I guess. Her skills in manipulation and deception aren't very good. She just folded in real time. 3rd Story: If she didn't have relations after the wedding, that would've been annulled. Ignore her completely. Or maybe tell her never contact you again.

[@davidkermes393]

CLOSURE?!? A psychobabble term for twisting the dagger and trying to make the victim feel even guiltier.

[@StarAllKungfu]

People want to be the hero in their own head. Even nutters.

[@maevedoyle2634]

why are people getting married at 21/22? that sounds so young to me.

[@xTwilightWolvesx]

That’s because it is. I’m in that age group and I’m not nearly ready for that.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

It's a ridiculously stupid thing to do in my opinion. Ideally, you should never make a lifelong commitment before your brain fully develops at or around the age of 25. Most people in that age group can't pick out an article of clothing they'll want to wear long term so picking out a person, who will also be growing & changing during that period is an almost impossible task. It's setting yourself up for failure right from the beginning. I personally believe that getting married & having children should never be undertaken until both people are at the very very least in their late 20s (probably no earlier than 27) or early 30s. This advice is only if you want your marriage to have a shot at being one of the marriages which actually do survive long-term. If you don't care if it survives until death do you part then, by all means, get married to someone you can have a cordial relationship with (no crazies of either sex), have your kids early, get them through those extremely difficult early years, divorce & be the best co-parents you can be until you've fulfilled your obligations to get your children to adulthood. Once they are out in the world living their own lives, then go out, find your person & be happy doing what you've always wanted to do together. Idk, that's where I'm at.

[@lastofthefireflies3208]

I got married at 21. I'm almost 30 now. We made it all these years. I think he fell for me on a trip with our military friends. I was 110 lbs and he was 180. He fell on a ski trip and I fireman carried his ass down a hill. Lol. He had a tore ACL and then he needed someone to care for him when we did get back to base. I did. I changed his clothes for him, prepped his food, and that was all God wrote. I mean who wouldn't want a girl who can fireman carry you down the hill. Lol.

[@jenniferclark9842]

I read the thread on Reddit. The first OP went to a Christian college, and their thing was “ring before the spring”. So, yeah...

[@KirbySaysBweo]

Reasons like these are why, if I get into a relationship in my early 20s, we'll be dating for several years to test and build loyalty until our late 20s (28 or 29) minimum. Only then, can I be sure enough to marry a woman. Honestly though, even that can be a little sketchy, but maybe that's just me being insecure, paranoid, and/or pessimistic.

[@Audiogeek-kf2ez]

This was never a serious Marriage couple. No trust , either side, but it seems the female always wanted an out.

[@doquanhughes1288]

"If you stay ill probably end you" Palpatine: DO IT!!

[@rajakghosh3495]

Emotional cheating in VVomen's logic means they were physical intimate but chose to deliberately omit the "physical part". Dump her.

[@barbarastorball2117]

It sounds like she was going to eventually cheat on op. She was using op for financial stability considering most of things were his. She only is afraid of how she will survive without his car or money to pay the rent.

[@achillesrodriguezxx3958]

I love how yt isn't even allowing us to type women anymore if there's anything negative about it. So much for freedom of information and free speech

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

@@achillesrodriguezxx3958 are you stupid? 'Women' isn't censored by KZbin.

[@achillesrodriguezxx3958]

​@@jasperj.d.g.4147 You go and write something about MGTOW and the redpill. You gonna have to use VVomen. Trust me I've tried to use the normal wording and i get censored.

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

@@achillesrodriguezxx3958 probably because the user didnt want that dumb shit on their channel.

[@Daikkenaurora]

Story 1: Glad he dumped her and left. Let her explore her feelings aka ride the cc. She'll quickly realize what she had and want to come back. Story 2: That is rough. He should tell her to stay with a friend and leave him alone. What an awful situation to be in. Story3: Ignore the ex wife and focus on your new relationship. Pay attention to the red flags and enjoy your life.

[@selbarton]

1st Story: He has to keep letting her cheat on him because she keeps leading him on. He knows she cheats on him and wants to make sure she gets half of everything he has in a divorce before he gives up trying to make her pretend to love him. Therapy can't fix a relationship that hasn't existed since she started cheating the first time. He seriously refuses to even learn his lesson considering he had suffered through this situation and the repeated cheating prior and still keeps allowing. She was talking about leaving him and then she just needs to see what she feels for her affair partner... His calling him less attractive and less financially stable so she's chosing the wrong guy is bad though because that really means he didn't value emotional components either. 2nd Story: If the job involves covid patients, he knows a negative result does not mean he doesn't have it. It means the infection isn't in full swing. And the comment about if given the opportunity he'd murder her is a reason he should be out, and she should not be alone in a car with him. He needs to find his own way home. If he's unwilling to call a friend, find a car rental. 3rd Story: The stupidity of saving a long dead marriage...

[@UnlimitedProduction1]

Story 2, finally someone who ended things instantly, none of that "I still love her" bullshit

[@jonmy357]

If anyone reading this has had a partner cheat on you, emotionally or physically, and you gave them another chance, yet they betrayed you again, leave. They dont love you like you or they think they do. Just leave, I know it's hard but its over.

[@dancalvin6340]

Cheaters always cheat, they're for the streets not anyone's sheets.

[@bobydigital2450]

The street have claimed another one

[@lnixon236]

Jan 3? I'd be taking the car while they are out snow boarding

[@wdeemarwdeemar8739]

You can’t trust her because she will definitely cheat. Forgiving over an over tells her there are zero consequences. FOMO is a very strong emotion in woman.

[@rollothecat2010]

Third OP: do not contact your ex wife. Once it is over, especially after so much time, do not ever go back nor contact her. She betrayed you. Never forget that.

[@davidkermes376]

silence is closure.

[@believealllivesmatter4584]

On the last story if you must respond you can always say, "hey, you still hanging on to this? Once I realized what a toxic piece of crap you are I basically put you out of my mind. Turned out your were not that big a part of my life as I once thought you would be." Then go and live the best you can and be happy.

[@tmerriett6892]

If they cheat once, they'll do it again! Cut them loose.

[@duckeh1952]

Story 1. Ages 22 and 21. Haven't seen life or other relationship, no wonder this happens. Both still immature (like he thinking money and looks are enough in long run. If chemistry isn't there, it is not) Better now than after gotten married. No reason to ruin your life that young. But people who doubt also should admit that and not lead the other person on. "Not wanting to hurt them" is bs because it will eventually and always happen. And never take them back when they crawl back.

[@KE-hr4sb]

Story 2: He should leave without her and let her find her own way home. And by home I mean, back to their city, because he should have the locks changed before she gets there.

[@Scott90314]

1st story is very telling for guys everywhere. If he is smart he will do some research before hitting the dating market. He seems to have missed what I gathered is red flag factory, and will fall for this again tons of these women are loyal until tested.

[@davidbrown7589]

You don't need a councilor to know this relationship will never work. get rid of her and find someone that is not stupid.

[@hoodieninja1646]

This is why I'm scared to date. I would never cheat on someone cause I've seen it first hand how it affects a peraon, and I don't want to be cheated on. I don't think I can handle that much emotional pain. Like I would really spiral down into a deep dark place, I'll just blame myself. I'm just afraid of getting too attached....... *Random:* To anyone who has been cheated on, I'm sorry you didn't deserve that.

[@wildboy6718]

I definitely didn’t deserve it

[@mztweety1374]

This is why SOME say marriage in your 20’s can be a little too soon. People may need to get closure on old relationships and get some things out of the way🤷🏾‍♀️

[@deanfisher5017]

It's all about BODY COUNT, BODY COUNT, BODY COUNT ! PEEERIE UDDD!!!!

[@Q-64]

Need is the wrong word here. This is 100% selfish want. Giving in to every lust and desire and keeping a person on the hook for when they've had their fill. Which even that ultimately is insatiable to a cheater. Whether you're 20 or 60 you'll always deal with lust. We're human after all.

[@davychan101]

People need to establish their careers in their 20s get married in their 30s and be done with having kids by 40. At least that's what I wish I would've done.

[@deepwater2652]

RUN FORREST! RUN!

[@hothotheat3000]

Bullet dodged.

[@Jean-qn4fy]

#1. You got your ring back. Maybe you should back away completely for a bit. It sounds like this girl either can't make up her mind or like she is addicted to drama and attention seeking.

[@tonyjones1560]

I agree...if "a bit" equals "forever."

[@berbaranuckolls1117]

To The Last Story the guy whose wife cheated on him with a colleague. You had a dead bedroom before you got married, really seriously, and you still married her what was going through your mind? That is like a deal-breaker right off the bat. I'm not marrying somebody I'm not sleeping having sex with and being perfectly happy and enjoying my life with her and her with me and you still went through and married her there is no reason in the world that you should have done that. I had to call the wedding off at everything because there was reasons big giant huge holiday red flags that were being posted in front of you and you refuse to see him because of what? The lack of being able to open your eyes. Never trust your wife your spouse your girlfriend your significant other 100% never. When you do that then you give them call accessibility to cheat.

[@TheMarkvanes]

In the words of Iron Maiden: 'Run to the hills, run for your life.'

[@MrOccyc]

Up the irons!!

[@georgecamp5811]

I wouldn't care if it was 1000 miles from home I'd start hitch hiking home

[@seraglioborneo2803]

1st story: When you are butt hurt and badly want to believe but she flies red flag after red flag. Tsk tsk tsk!

[@lukeschumacher1279]

Props that you translate all the abbreviations, effort shows)

[@Raving_Rando]

“I’ve got a good person that has a lot of money, is hard working and is a loyal lover… TIME TO CHEAT!” - So many bimbos.

[@larshenderson4933]

6 hours away, in knee deep snow: OP, I know you are hurting, and both shock and alcohol were involved, but you have got to get control of your tongue. You may have committed assault, just by your statement that you would end her. (Battery is when it gets physical). She can tie up your time and money in court with restraining orders, and lawyers, if you don't control your tounge. Call a friend for a ride. Hell, if you were closer, I'd come get you myself. , and I don't even know you.

[@ryanb2607]

"my rules about social distancing" 🤣🤣🤣 It's the girl who dodged the bullet this time

[@lordfury18]

i find it funny that in story one OP's ex at the end realizes she's now got literally nothing and will have to downgrade everything to be with her crush i bet she was screaming internally

[@carissaconway2802]

Take her car and tell her friends to take her home. That way you can move before she gets back.

[@tigerex777]

I don't think people know when they should go to a counselor. When this dude heard that wanted someone else, that should have been enough to be over. Why go to a counselor? What is the counselor going to say? "No, you don't want the other guy you want your fiance you just don't know it".

[@tinamoul]

Honestly breaking up was best for them, they're 22 and 21 have been together since they were teenagers and are engaged. Yeah they needed to break up

[@dolanuscaesar1326]

"Leave her Johny, leave her!"

[@frbiv8024]

So he already caught her in an emotional affair with this same guy once now it's again another emotional affair going warp 10 towards a physical affair. This guy is a punk

[@sketch334]

5 hours away? Find the nearest town and get a bus.

[@saulreynoso8439]

If you are not married and are having these types of problems that require couples therapy..... DON'T MARRY HER!

[@jeffdean5892]

Story 3 At best if gets forgiveness she can pretend the pain and suffering and all the lost time because of her doesn't count , ignore her and let her try to make peace with her own demons on her own

[@hhhhhhhh704]

The thumbnail had me 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@davidkermes376]

i get a kick out of the cheating ex who "doesn't know if she can survive the divorce." she's still around.

[@AwkwardLey]

It's the title for me😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😂😂

[@j_the_don5160]

I’m convinced all these guys have no backbone. I’m not giving you multiple attempts to screw me over in ANYTHING especially marriage. These guys just find a girl and turn their faith of ever moving on away

[@MrOccyc]

Same here. In today’s society, I guess we’re Neanderthals because we have self respect.

[@billclinton6040]

hahahaha OP jokes that his gf has a side piece and learns he's the side piece lol

[@mpa8336]

Slavery was abolished by what, the 13th Amendment, was it? It's time to give to her her freedom to explore. She said "she knew it would hurt me", and did it anyway? This is not a relationship, it is a parasitical one way transaction. These women have no idea what love means.

[@jonashermans8691]

The pressure on women to cheat is greatest right before they marry. They are then no longer free to get whatever guy they want, or cheat on their boyfriend, or go back to some ex because they are then "stuck" with their husband.

[@Crosby69]

Cheating should be punished with execution tbh.

[@strikeforce1500]

The last story, the cheater feels sorry that she got caught. People like her are the reason the song-meme "why the f*c u lying?" Exist

[@bluegoka]

05:22 Don’t worry, as feminists say, she’s a strong independent woman who needs a man like fish need a bicycle.

[@robertcromwell9736]

Story 2: Sorry? Can you rent a car one way?

[@tonyjones1560]

Is there a Greyhound station within 100 miles? It might even be worth it to pull up the manager, explain the situation (without too much detail) and ask, "Dude, is there ANYTHING you can do to get me out of here?" Almost added, "...if you can't, you might have to change the name of this joint to Camp Crystal Lake after I pull the Jason move on 'em..."

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

Snowed in. It's up to his knees.

[@tonyjones1560]

@@jasperj.d.g.4147 Okay, no "Jason" move. If he's snowed in, it's time to go to pull the "Jack" move instead...as in Jack Nicholson in "The Shining." Grab an axe, "HEEEERE'S JOHNNY!"

[@dscheaffer]

Story 1 - Hard to feel sorry for someone who stayed in a relationship, with someone who’s already cheated on them once.

[@rajkoelguapo12]

Don't get married in your 20's, especially your early 20's. Geez

[@MizzShortai]

She relied on her fiance financially but still cheated and is now all shocked she's getting dumped lol

[@notazip6814]

You gave her ONE CHANCE ! total failure on the engagement.

[@beyatwy1762]

Why cheat? I really do not understand it, why not end and have some decency. I really do not get it. I really don't.

[@amarareed2432]

Sounds like she's been looking for the door on you guys relationship for awhile if she makes this kind of thing a habit

[@aliceblue7305]

If cheaters can say, I was bad but he did this thing that was worse, then their guilt is lessened. Contact could be a trap. Be on your best behaviour. ❤

[@zulaikagould9230]

She sure will be exploring. Lol.

[@jinpachibobochan3532]

3:00 fully agree with this one. If your fiancee starts to become interested in another man so shortly before the wedding... LEAVE, FOOL! DON'T TOUCH THAT CURSED THING AND RUN BEFORE IT WILL BREAK YOUR HEART!

[@jameshilditch6088]

If a man wants unconditional love, he should buy a dog. That's the only way it'll happen.

[@hermanhenderson966]

Love towards men is not unconditional, we provide something for the female whether it be looks, finances or a combination of the two. With social media and apps she has endless selection issues. Think about this if they can’t figure out what they want for dinner how are they gonna know what they want long term in a partner?

[@norbertschultz6233]

How do you know there was no physical cheating? Even emotional cheating is cheat and if she has not yet, she will!

[@catsithx]

The funny thing I wonder how many more stories we will get when covid settles down.

[@berbaranuckolls1117]

On the first story for your fiance unbelievable you haven't even married this woman yet and she's already having a Detachment from you so just think later down the road like a month after you're married when she starts another Detachment from you and she starts hooking up with other people because she's unsure if she's already doing it before y'all are even married it's not going to get any better down the road with her feelings if she's not committed to you there shouldn't be any question in her mind that you're going to be her husband and she wants to spend her life with you there's no questions about how she feels there's no texting other guys and then you have to find out about it the only reason she's backpedaling any anything is because you've confronted her otherwise it would have continued on and gotten even deeper into a full-blown out a fair. There's no last chance to see how she feels she's already shown you that. Now you want to spend the rest of your life with her how long do you think that's really going to last? Do the right thing continue looking for the woman of your dreams not somebody that you already have to question and you caught cheating.

[@nwah816]

"She said she knew it would hurt me, but did it anyway." Yeah ok, bye lady.