UPDATE‼️ I Cannot Believe It 🫢 I Found Out Who My Birth Parents ARE!!!!

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[@JenOnDemand]

Wow! This story has me asking a lot more questions after hearing more about it. You are right forgiveness is for you. I don’t understand why would your birth mother agree to meet you without any intentions on building a relationship with you and your family. If I was in her shoes, it would be a blessing to build and form the tightest bond with my daughter and for you to know she’s successful AND had ANOTHER baby a few months later would tear me apart, when it comes to your brother it’s not even about picking sides, it’s just doing what’s right. I know one thing for sure they will never find peace until they do RIGHT! I’m glad you do have someone in the family that is embracing you and building with you, you crying while sharing that tells us alot. 😢 Toraisa, you are so strong and inspiring you have a heart of GOLD! You are giving your babies everything and MORE that you seeked from your BIRTH mother and you know what God sees and knows it all. You will forever be blessed for that very reason alone. I’m glad you put this out and like I told you before whoever gets upset by this can QUICKLY click off. I love you so much sis 💗

[@ToraisaJ]

This comment is a tear-jerker ‼️ My biological brother is older than me, and she kept him. She had me not too long after him. Girl!!! I said I would not cry anymore… Thank you so much for this comment.

[@pearlholmes4291]

Child I was abandoned in an empty house when I was nine months old I got to know my biological mother and I am now 82 years old and all I can say is that you have to let God be your number one priority in your life and forgive her and appreciate the family who raised you and most of all you can forgive someone but that doesn’t mean you have to let them back into your life. Take your issues to the Lord in prayer

[@ToraisaJ]

@@pearlholmes4291 I am sorry that happened to you . I wouldn’t be anything without God in my life. Thank you for this encouraging comment.

[@brangmad]

I admire your courage. It is strange, but very common that people think that the abused person should honor the secrets of the abuser. The abused person is told to shut up so everyone else can pretend that their worldview (whatever that is) is protected. Stay strong. You don't need anyone's permission to speak your truth.

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you. I will not shut up. I will continue to share my story so I can help others.

[@WholeBibleBelieverWoman]

My biological mother had me when she was 18 years old and she divorced my father when I was 8 years old. Her new fiancee did not want me and my little brother in her life and she agreed to it. I was not allowed to see her, call her or write her all the time I was growing up. As a teen I felt very bitter because I found out she was a social worker. I felt I'm sure much like you mentioned, "How can she care about others and not care about me?" One thing that helped me forgive her was learning more and more about what her home life was like when she was growing up. I honestly believe she married my father just to get out of there. I can honestly say that even though I grew up feeling unloved by both my mother and father, I feel FORTUNATE compared to what I learned about what HER home life was when she was growing up. She never seemed to feel a need to apologize to me (when I did see her one year when I moved to her same town when I was 29 years old and I was allowed to visit "because you don't need me anymore."). She could only see HER side of the story, and that was so hard for me. It has taken me another 35-40 years to learn and understand more how hellish her life had been. She had one daughter with her "new" husband who was angry to find out I even exist and does not want to know me. When my mother died, me and my brother were not even listed in her obituary as having survived her -- and in fact my half-sister who is her daughter did NOT contact me to let me know she had died. I only found out because one of my cousins went to her same (Catholic) church. I learned a month AFTER she died. My one "close" family member, my little brother, died quite unexpectedly 18 years ago when he was about to turn 46 years old. We were not close when growing up with a 6-year gap between our ages and the sibling rivalry I felt due to his maleness making him preferably to our dad. My brother and I lived in different countries for 20 years and I had moved back to the United States, and finally we felt SUPER close, having both grown up in circumstances only we know. And then he suddenly died. I know God has a plan, and one thing I can tell you is that although most of my life LONELINESS was my biggest fear and biggest enemy I no longer have that problem anymore -- not because I have family (hardly at all) in my life, but it is coming straight from JESUS. Today I feel so blessed, even though even my half-sisters through my dad don't want to know me (because I am outspokenly Christian). My only child is very annoyed that I am Christian but he loves me (and lives in another country -- have not seen him for 3 years). My father committed suicide many years ago. I did not become an ACTIVE Christian (obeying and trusting God and studying His Word) until 11 years ago, so I did not raise my son telling him about Jesus. THAT is my GREATEST regret, and he is currently and for the past 20 years a self-proclaimed atheist. I pray for him every day. My ONLY therapy is studying the Word of God. I HIGHLY recommend Jesus as Number One Therapist! It got even BETTER when I started reading at LEAST two chapters a day of the Bible before or after prayer, where most of my requests are for others. As I near 71, I feel as if my life if just beginning -- and it is! God bless!

[@ToraisaJ]

Wow! Thank you for watching my video and sharing your story. I am sorry you had to go through that… but with God’s help… we can get through anything. Sending you lots of positive energy and love.

[@WholeBibleBelieverWoman]

@@ToraisaJ Yes. I can honestly say He has CHANGED me. The "me" of yesterday could NEVER feel as secure and loved as I feel today. What a change from being a teenager -- when the only thing that would cheer me up was to fantasize unaliving myself...! Jesus has given me everything I needed, though it took me 30 years to ACCEPT His gift enough to so much as believe the Bible. I loved HIM, but turned my back on the Bible, disagreeing on the list of sins. I did not realize for those 30 years that turning my back on the Bible was the same thing as turning my back on Jesus. Even so, He not only kept loving me but kept me alive through MANY radically foolish decisions I made during that time!

[@DynamicAmethyst]

Godspeed

[@pearlivory3483]

Sounds like you don’t have the full story yet and if she does- a lot of secrets will come out. She’s not ready for that which sucks. Sorry about the situation. Glad you were able to connect with your biological family

[@Lawchick1000]

My bio dad did the same thing. Raised my stepmother's 2 girls and my half brother and didn't even look for me. People who have a relationship with both parents will never know the feelings but they stay judging about what we should do.

[@ToraisaJ]

It hurts so bad. Now that’s trifling to raise someone else’s kids but abandon yours. God will deal with them. Sending you hugs 🤗

[@sylviaruth5008]

Thank you so much for sharing. God bless you ❤.

[@feep303]

Thanks to the DNA Ancestry I met my father and bid farewell at his casket all at the same time a couple of months ago. Whatever he didn’t do that was between him and God.

[@ToraisaJ]

Whew! I know that was hard to see. Praying for your healing ❤️‍🩹 Sending lots of love. Thank you for the encouraging words.

[@feep303]

@@ToraisaJ I will say don't waste your time worrying about what happened in the past. If you guys can talk about it and work through it please do it. Look at my situation and don't let it me death do you part. I am at Peace regardless of the situation. I knew God all my life and he gave me Father and his love is unmatched. Hearing about the biological father and him being a father I was blessed. Sometimes we may think we be missing out, But God! Like I mentioned what he didn't do in life that is something he had to answer before God.

[@gailthompson2271]

You are very classy and spoke your truth in a tactful and candid way. May God continue to heal and bless you.🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️🙏🏿🌹

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you, Gail! ❤️❤️❤️☺️

[@joannmarie1971]

you worded that in the way i feel about her too but i am not good at putting into words things i feel, so i want to say this is exactly how i feel about her too!

[@ToraisaJ]

@@joannmarie1971 You’re so sweet 🥹 🤗 Thank you!

[@SeanFromTX]

Howdy from Texas, Toraisa! What a wonderful story. It warms my heart. Me and my brother were abandoned too. We were found at a motel on Los Angeles in July, 1970. I was 4 years old and he was 2 1/2. We were in and out several foster homes and finally adopted by the same family 3 years later. Nearly 50 years later, DNA testing determined we were actually 1/2 siblings but it also solved the major puzzle piece of who our bio mother was. She passed away in 2008 so I was never able to speak with her, but that’s OK because I was able to find out why she abandoned us. She probably thought she took her secret to the grave. None of her family knew. In fact, she lied to her sister about what happened us to cover her sin. We got the Scooby Doo ending though and we can hear her in the grave, “And I would have gotten away with it too, if it weren’t for you meddling kids!”. 😂😂😂 I’ve only spoken to one other “foundling” in my life other than my brother. She also lives in Georgia. She was a newborn abandoned in a dumpster in Atlanta in 1983. She was called “Baby Jan Winter”. If you ever want to share stories together, let me know and we’ll make it happen. You can read about mine on Facebook (Sean Getts). Those posts are all public so no friend requests needed. Hope you continue enjoying your journey.😊

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you for sharing your story and watching my video. Seeing comments like this let me know I am not alone. I read about your story and “Baby Jan Winter”. It made me emotional. Glad that you can laugh a little. I hope you’re doing well.

[@deborahbyrne4054]

Céad míle fáilte (a 1000 welcome's aka Irish hi) Seán. I see you dropped the fada. I'm sure you are fine, Seán's are meant to be wise. I just thought I'd suggest a programme you could check out Long lost family uk. Id particularly recommend the series they've done on foundlings in the UK. There's also another show DNA secrets BBC but it's mixed topic's. Both shows are about regular people and not celebrities. I'll never forget on DNA secrets these brothers, triplets. They came on the show because they were adopted and they wanted to know their heritage. They were tired of being asked and not having an answer. They were adopted in England and when they were little their adopted parents moved them to Northern Ireland. Dr Turi told them their father's ethnicity but unfortunately there's not a lot of DNA in databases for where he came from. The boys were happy they had an answer. But the doctor says but that's not all, we also looked at your mother and great news you're Irish. The boys jaw's aghast and she proceeded to say we found your mother's family and they live 20 minutes away in Northern Ireland. Absolutely unbelievable. They were ecstatic, apparently they always felt like they were at home and now if anyone asked they had an answer. They were put in touch I believe it went well from what I can remember. The doc gets excited anytime someone says possibly Irish because we are the most DNA tested people on the planet. Now every time I watch a DNA show I hope they're Irish so they can get some answers. It's because of our history. We are very aware of all the people who were stolen or ran from here to survive. So, we leave the light on. Nobody should be robbed of their identity or culture. May the road rise up to meet you (Irish blessing) Sean. Whether you've Irish heritage or maybe someone was just a Bond fan, I wish you and your family the best. Slán (bye).

[@fishpasteandfries3023]

There is a famous comedian Tommy Davidson. He was on In living Color. He was thrown in the trash by his mother and found and adopted by a white family. When he became an adult he found his mother. He said it was a waste of time and she acted like she could have cared less. But he has a really interesting story and tells it very well. There is also another story of Freddie Figgers who was thrown in the trash and found who became a millionare. He had absolutely no desire to ever meet his mother who was a drug addict and prostitute. I know you are in therapy and trying to get some healing but maybe at some point in your life you won't have a need or desire to have your bio mother, father or brother in your life. And maybe they don't really deserve to have you. Unfortunately, sometimes there are toxic people and they can be a mom, sister or whatever and we are better off without them in our lives. But you are a beautiful, kind and loving person and deserve to have good loving people in your life. Please take good care of yourself ❤.

[@ToraisaJ]

So sad 😭

[@Jennifer-cl1cl]

You are so impressive for the way you respect yourself and honor the pain you feel - without letting it consume you. I'm about 20 years older than you (not any wiser!) and I wanted you to know that healing keeps on happening. You seem to be doing really well - it keeps on getting easier with time. Just wishing you all the best.

[@ToraisaJ]

Your comment is greatly appreciated. Whew! I never thought I would see the day where my pain didn’t consume me. Thank you for this positive comment. It made me smile. Sending you a virtual hug 🥰.

[@lemondropkid6175]

not knowing doesn't make you stupid, you can't tell other people how to live their lives or conduct their relationships, they have their own journeys to make/answer to. In one sense not knowing is freedom for you, you don't have to feel sorry for her. Keep going, life is beautiful, there is more good than not in the world! Every day is a gift.

[@simplyp5521]

😮‍💨 thank you for sharing. Families are way to comfortable with secrets and being toxically loyal. I’m a secret on both sides of my biological family. I saw my bm on the train 2 days after she rejected, never responded to any of my messages. Whew and my maternal grandmother Chile that lady had a fit when my friend called. I’ve been patient and giving so much grace to these individuals I don’t know. Oddly enough I bumped into a 2 women on my paternal side who could be my sister or cousin. One as recent as last week. My maternal family are health professionals in the top hospitals in my area. And grandma is in mass 3 times a week. You would think these people would have some compassion for their only daughter and 1st grandchild. But, it’s best things are this way so I’m not forcing myself to continue to put up with the facade of appearing a “certain” way. I have so much respect for you honoring yourself and holding on to your dignity. It’s so easy for us as adoptees to perform and people please. And yet still you speak of your situation with so much grace and respect. I’m sending you so much love for authenticity and strength. It’s not easy to FEEL like you have to live with the burden of your moms shame. It is so painful, exhausting and I totally understand how you feel 🫂

[@ToraisaJ]

@@simplyp5521 Thank you for watching and leaving this comment ❤️. I am so sorry and I know your situation is hard to deal with. It’s a lot being rejected by your biological parent.. but we have to push through and turn our pain into power and keep going. Sending lots of love your way.

[@brendamoon2660]

It is actually possible to go all the way to delivery and not know you are pregnant. That doesnt mean everything your biological mother said is true but that much might be. Some women continue to have menstrual cycles throughout their pregnancy, and some women just look like all over weight gain instead of a baby belly. There have been women who went to the emergency room when labor pains started and didnt know why they were hurting only to be very surprised with a baby

[@HelloKittyPretti]

I was just about to say this. And especially in the 80s.

[@ToraisaJ]

My bio mother knew she was pregnant. She hid it. Now I don’t know if no one knew she was pregnant.

[@overcomer4060]

Toraisa, you have such a beautiful heart. I have watched all 3 of your videos about your search for your bio family, and this one here has me so emotional. You have a lot of grace and wisdom. Sharing you story really is helping people. I’m proud of how you’ve handled such pain and rejection; that is a heavy thing to endure. I don’t understand how some people can move the way they do in life, it’s baffling. I’m a person who likes answers and resolution and closure, and in my own life circumstance I have gone through so much betrayal and rejection and abandonment, and have absolutely no closure, no truth, no answers, certainly no apology…so all that to say, unfortunately sometimes the people that are supposed to love us, and should love us most…just don’t. And sometimes they dont care enough to give us the answers, truth, and closure we so desperately need. It sucks, and it is so hurtful, but it’s just what some people do. Sometimes the people who should love us simply do not have the capacity to be who we need them to be, and to act right by us, they just don’t have the ability for whatever reason. Sometimes it’s about saving face and looking good to everyone else rather than to humble themselves enough to do right by you. Sometimes they might be dealing with unresolved trauma, or personality disorders, or shame, or just not knowing how to have empathy for you. Regardless-it hurts to feel rejected, unappreciated, unseen or not heard or not valued…it always hurts so deeply. I feel for you - so much! I’m glad you’re in therapy and are reading about healing. You referenced God a few times, and that is huge in healing. I’m sorry your brother doesn’t know how to relate to you. Maybe in time he will come around and will be able to know how to hold love for both his mother and for you. You two seriously look just alike😃 it’s a very complicated situation, and it sounds like he might feel like he has to choose his mother, I don’t know. But all this to say…you are a beautiful, kind, well balanced person and I think you’re handling an incredibly tough situation so gracefully and so wisely. All my best to you!!❤️❤️❤️

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you for your support and this sweet comment. God has helped me through this 🙌🏾 It’s an unfortunate situation, but I sleep peacefully every night and will continue smiling. I am blessed even when the devil wants me to think otherwise. All the best to you too! Thank you for tuning in ❤️

[@tastx3142]

My mother was adopted by her biological mom’s sister and didn’t find out until she was adopted until she was in her early 20’s and her bio mom died. She knew her bio mom as her aunt. She never was told who her bio dad died and it haunted her her entire life. She was an only child and only had one cousin who never had children so felt very alone. My neighbor adopted a child from a biological family member who had 4 children and were all adopted due to the mental illness that the mother has. The children all know each other and call them siblings even though they were adopted by different people. I have met his biological mom at gatherings who is included in the children’s life. I cared for the child for 3 years without pay and we grew close. A school classmate asked who I was since we were different races and the child told him that I was like a grandmother but wasn’t. It was perfect! When other strangers would ask, I just told them that I was a surrogate grandmother and they would nod and smile then as they started to look confused, just moved on. People who love you for who you are should be embraced as biological ties often don’t translate to love. I’m sorry for your unfortunate start in life, but probably expect that who your biological father is or the relationship between him and your bio mom led to the abandonment. Your brother might not want you as a reminder of his own place in your mom’s life that differs from yours, a sort of guilt. Living your best life is your reward and wishing you all the best. Those who have chosen not to include you will never realize what they have missed.

[@ELTJ1957]

Yor are such a beautiful lady inside and out. many blessings to you your husband and children.

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you so much for this sweet comment 😊

[@rexeldridge3702]

Hello, i just have to say your look... you look complete now. you look whole. You found your tribe you look like! its gotta feel amazing! Happy for you!

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you ☺️ I am whole. Regardless… I am thankful I know who I am.

[@ninibaby7496]

So happy you were able to give this piece of closure. You are strong, and all the emotions are so valid. I found my father in recent years and it still feels surreal. Take your time, be selfish with your heart and feelings because you are entitled to them. Also I joined a support group and we worked through a book that has assisted me in some ways called Taming Your Outer Child. If you care for any suggested resources.

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you. Wishing you the best on your journey with your father. I am going to check this book out. What is the name of the support group?

[@amberjohnson8026]

I am currently waiting on my results from ancestry dna to come back. Your story was inspiring and I thank God for giving you a spirit to share your journey. I’m hoping to find out my paternal lineage. My mom doesn’t know who my father is and I hope I can find out something, and maybe even meet them. You ARE a light! Thank you for sharing.

[@ToraisaJ]

Hi Amber. I hope you are able to get some answers and closure. Sending lots of love your way. Thank you for watching 🤗

[@ShelleyHannaArt]

Your story is really fascinating. I love watching shows like Long Lost Family etc. I have a few unusual things in my family, but absolutely nothing like what you've been through. The first thought I had is that you wouldn't have become who you grew up to be with your birth family in your life. They have walls and mysteries and you seem to be very open. Perhaps your adoptive family allowed you to flourish and grow where your bio family may have dimmed your light held you back in some way. We can't rewrite the past, but you definitely are the author of your future. Thanks for sharing 💜

[@ToraisaJ]

I felt all of this. The author of your future. Thank you for this sweet comment. God bless you!

[@ShelleyHannaArt]

@@ToraisaJ ❤️❤️❤️ you definitely are a light ✨

[@tfife]

This is a hell of a story and you are very strong to not only live it, but tell it. I’m inspired by you and wish you the best. I hate that you’re bio brother are not close, he seemed happy to meet you. I was wondering if your bio mother ever told you why she did it. I know she apologized, but why did she do it? Does your dad and his family reach out?

[@ToraisaJ]

I pray God connects by bother and I. I love him!My bio mother really hasn’t given an explanation. My bio father isn’t mentally stable. I don’t talk to his side.

[@shoozu]

Also, you are so beautiful!! Im retwisting my locs watching this and i just keeping looking at the tv screen at you like WOW 😍

[@ToraisaJ]

@@shoozu You’re making me blush. Thank you!

[@diannapianna2333]

Thank you for sharing your story.

[@4Rivers-gd]

Congrats on finding your parents. I too was shocked when you said your mother was okay, and well established. All those years without contacting you, wow. I believe that there's more to the story though, being that your adopted family is related to you. Maybe she was watching you from afar? It's also questionable that she's not been held accountable for abandoning you. Did she abandon your brother as well?

[@ToraisaJ]

I think she was watching me. She didn’t abandon my brother. I think because she abandoned me in 1986 nothing can happen. Honestly, I don’t want her in jail. She has to deal with this everyday. God is dealing with her too.

[@4Rivers-gd]

@@ToraisaJ Yes at some point it's between her and God. Put your energies in promoting healthy relationships at home, with your family. The good thing is that you received closure, and your hard work paid off. Blessing Love 🧡✌

[@ToraisaJ]

@@4Rivers-gd Yes to all of this. ❤️🙌🏾

[@JenOnDemand]

Here !!! What we’ve been waiting on 🙌🏽

[@tonitrembath2674]

Dearest Toraisa. You are an absolutely amazing woman filled with love, light and dignity. We are all here for a reason…..maybe yours is to share your story to help others take the first steps towards healing their own journeys and heartaches. Thank you and may you and your family always be blessed and surrounded with love and kindness ❤️

[@ToraisaJ]

This comment brought me so much joy. Thank you.

[@lh5677]

Your feelings are valid, people may not realize it marginalizes you &your feelings. You, as a good mother, can't even conceive of doing this to one of your children. She would have been charged if she came forward so she took the easy route. She will do it again to maintain the facade.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@lh5677 Thank you for your comment and watching.

[@sylviaruth5008]

Hello Toraisa. I’m so sorry for your pain. Sweetheart, was your mother married to your dad and having your brother when she decided to abandon you? Did she ever say why she abandoned you. I know one thing God loves you and you are blessed ❤🙏🏾.

[@ToraisaJ]

My parents weren’t married. She had my brother first and decided to keep him. I don’t know why.

[@temekkagrant7483]

You are such an awesome person I am so glad that you were able to get this closure. ❤️

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you T!

[@DejaMoOo1]

OOOOOOOOoooo your hair is gorgeous!!! (Well and the rest of you, too. Not just your hair!) :D You are a true survivor! And helping others, too. God must be so proud of you! I know this might not be much comfort, but I read that when adopted children grow up and meet their birth family, it is a difficult road because the expectations are that shared blood/DNA is the bond. Actually the bond is years spent growing together, knowing each other, sharing events and moments and holidays together. You can't be an instant family when you meet... it takes time and lots and lots of conversations and time spent together. Which it sounds like you are building with your mom's brother's wife. (Did I get that right?) She sounds like such a lovely person!

[@ToraisaJ]

@@DejaMoOo1 Thank you ☺️ I didn’t expect it to be as difficult as it has been. I guess I wanted my biological mother and family to love me… but they don’t know how to and don’t understand how I felt as a child and now as an adult that my mother didn’t want me and never looked for me. It’s painful at times but I always remember that God knew what was best for me. Yes, my biological mom’s brother’s wife is Amazing! Thank you for this comment. I needed to see this. Hugs 🤗

[@DejaMoOo1]

@@ToraisaJ I think your hurt might be increased because you have three children and love them with all of your heart and would move heaven and earth to be with them and take care of them. I can't possibly understand your mother's motivations but I can guess that at this point in life she has a lot of guilt and she justifies her actions to herself so that she can think better of herself. In addition, not knowing her I am only surmising here that she is self-absorbed and tends to be selfish. I hope that your adopted parents made up for this loss in your life. It sounds trite to say this, but it's very true - it is your birth mother's loss.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@DejaMoOo1 This is true ❤️🥹

[@mernarobinson5944]

Yes, a person can be pregnant and no one knows. I know someone that was pregnant and didn’t find out that she was pregnant until she gave birth, It’s gonna be OK. . . 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@ToraisaJ]

@@mernarobinson5944 Wow! Really?

[@zadiliburd6475]

@@ToraisaJ yes cryptic pregnancy are more common that people realize

[@ToraisaJ]

@@zadiliburd6475 Thanks. I will do some research on my end.

[@michelleb7399]

I’ve known multiple people who also gave birth, not knowing they were pregnant. The first was a friend in high school who gave birth in her toilet at age 16. She said that she was in total denial and just didn’t allow the idea that she may be pregnant enter her mind. She had a very difficult home life and had broken up with her boyfriend. She was a strong Believer (who, yes, had pre-marital sex). It sounds strange, but it’s the truth. She was thin/average and never showed. The other two ladies I know who had cryptic pregnancies never stopped menstruating. Both had very irregular, light periods anyway, and they continued. One of them did take a pregnancy test but it had a false negative. These things happen and aren’t uncommon.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@michelleb7399 Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@rdstewart2253]

Toraisa, thank you for sharing your story! You really are a strong woman. No doubt you will continue to grow emotionally and spiritually. You’ll be able to give your children the strength and courage they will need to have successful, productive lives. You were blessed with care and guidance from your adoptive parents. Now you’ve shown your metal from that nurturing. I wish you continued success, happiness and peace. ❤

[@ToraisaJ]

@@rdstewart2253 Thank you so much! We need more kind people like you in the world. Blessings to you ☺️❤️❤️❤️

[@iseeyou2810]

I hope you get millions of subscribers❤❤❤

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you. Me too! I want to encourage others that you can heal from anything.

[@Morris774]

My mom’s father died when she was 5, after he died my mom was taken by the state. His family wanted nothing to do with my mom. And she was his only child and her father really loved her. But her mother was an alcoholic and just not fit to raise children. My mom’s sister was the oldest, she fed, clothed and made sure my mom got to school. Until the state stepped in and took my mom and her twin siblings who were all separated. The impact that has had on my mom and her siblings is very sad. My mom was blessed to have the best adoption ever. Her adopted parents amazing human beings. And she was able to see her biological family because her adopted parents allowed it. But that sense of no relationship with her father’s family really hurt my mom and she never understood it. Because her bio dad truly loved her. As time has passed my mom was never super close with her bio mom. But she has made peace with it. And in your own time in your own way you will make peace with it. My question for you is did your bio dad know she was pregnant with you? What was his role in this? Your bio mother sounds like she just dis associated with the event totally. Almost like she just disconnected from what she did totally.. you may never get the answers you seek. My mom never did honestly. But my mom came to a place of forgiveness and just had to place them over there for her own happiness. You will find peace with things in your own time. Just know it’s ok. Praying for you and your healing.❤️🙏

[@ToraisaJ]

I am sorry that happened to your mom. My bio dad didn’t know my bio mom had me. She told him she got an abortion. My brother and I have the same father and mother. I think she just wanted to forget about what she did. However.. I found her after 30 plus years of keeping me a secret,

[@shoozu]

I wholeheartedly agree that your mum should've found you. One point I have to say is that I can believe that no one knew of her pregnancy, as I've hidden two pregnancies myself. You say your experience with pregnancy was difficult, and you needed your husband by your side.... but i believe if you HAD to do it alone, as many single mothers do, you would have been okay! With my son Noah, I was 15 when I gave birth, and lived in a 2 bedroom tiny house with my sister, mum, and dad. None of them knew I was pregnant until I gave birth. I was a size UK 14 (I think US 10) and went to a UK18. I wore baggy clothes and oversized bath robes around the house. During my pregancy, I continued attending school, and just wore a long scarf draping over my little bump. Morning sickness was concealed by saying it was food poisoning. The day I went into labour, I ran to a neighbours house and begged her not to tell anyone. My parents were then contacted at the hospital. With my daughter Deja a year later, the same thing happened, and again no one knew. My sister suspected it on two occasions at 6 months but I denied it and I was never questioned again. For me it was that my family had always spoken about the importance of education. I felt that I dropped out of school, my life would be over and I'd embarrass them. Hiding the pregancies was upsetting, stressful and dangerous... but also physically easy. However, I live in England, and we only really got 3 weeks of warm whether. You say your mum was in Florida so I believe it wouldve been more difficult in hot weather unless she just stayed in the house in the last months.... I can understand why you wouldn't believe your mums story at all, it must feel very hard to trust her, and there are parts of this that are strange I thought id share my experience as it's definitely possible. Thank you for sharing your story ❤

[@ToraisaJ]

@@shoozu Thank you for sharing your story. I know it was probably hard to keep your pregnancy a secret.

[@tiffanytupper8983]

Truth is God,lies are evil, anyone shaming you is hiding Truth I will hold you in my heart. You are doing the right thing people want things to stay in the past because they will look bad I'm so sorry for the loss of all that family. I'm glad you are taking care of yourself.🥹🕯🧡💜🧡

[@ToraisaJ]

@@tiffanytupper8983 Thank you. You hit it right on the nail. People don’t want to look bad.. so they want you to keep quiet. Thank you for watching ❤️

[@sanaiDdd]

so happy you find out who your birth parents are. have a good day ❤

[@BookNerd4Music]

I saw an adoption story once where the mother couldnt afford to feed the 3rd born child that was given away. The older kids actually were old enough about 4 and 6 and remember her being born. Unlike your story, she gave the child up for adoption. I hate that people in our culture dont speak on the hard things.

[@ToraisaJ]

Me too! I hope my videos create safe space for people.

[@puglover4280]

You are most certainly entitled to your feelings. I am happy that God is there for your succor and comfort. You are a strong woman and shine like the star that you are. You are inspiring. God bless!

[@ToraisaJ]

@@puglover4280 Your comment is greatly appreciated. God bless you too!

[@bluetinsel7099]

I noticed in the video that you mentioned your bio-mom didn’t know that she was pregnant with you, or you asked how she didn’t know, well there are women out there that genuinely don’t know and there used to be a show about it known as “I didn’t know I was pregnant”. Some women don’t gain weight or get the typical symptoms and in some instances there are medical conditions around it. So if she said she didn’t know she was pregnant, it’s a possibility that she really didn’t know.

[@michelleb7399]

Yes, a high school friend of mine was shocked when she gave birth in her bathroom toilet in 1986. She, along with everyone else, was completely shocked. She was 16 and screamed for her mom. She was willing to give her child up for adoption as she knew she was not ready to raise a child. Her mom convinced her to keep her son, saying she would raise him. After a couple years, her mom got ‘bored’ (my word, my perception) and my friend assumed the role of Mom. But I can say with certainty that she showed NO signs of pregnancy. The only sign we could perceive was that she got a perm, as we did often in 80’s, and it ‘took’ weird. It was commonly recommended not to get a perm while pregnant because your hormones might screw it up. And her perm was awful. But, truly she looked completely ‘normal’ otherwise. I can imagine Toraisa’s birth mother could have been in such shock in suddenly having a baby she made a horrible decision to abandon her in that van. And I can imagine that was a source of deep shame for her. If she has narcissistic tendencies, that sense of shame could be a huge motivation for NOT looking for Toraisa. She would have to face that shame. The fact that the woman is in education does not mean she’s an altruistic, (otherwise) selfish person. I’ve been teaching nearly 30 years and I’ve known some who seem to be there for narcissistic supply. One woman I worked with notoriously had one classroom rule: “Keep Miss ______ Happy.” Think of that. The rule was to keep her happy. Anyway, from watching your videos and even looking at that baby picture from the newspaper article (shown in the video from 3 yrs ago), I can tell that you, Toraisa, are a blessing to this world. Your birth mother made a terrible decision and has acted a coward. But YOU are a kind-hearted, sweet, gentle soul. I mentioned the baby picture: The expression on your face shows you are engaged with someone and enjoying them. You’ve had 2 (or maybe 3 by now) children yourself. You know children are born with their personalities. You care about interacting with people, find value in others, and take pleasure in their company. Through your videos we know you are courageous and sincere. I’m so glad the YT algorithm put your three-yr-old video in my feed. I have a lot of anxiety and often hide from the world when I’m not teaching. Today is Sunday and you’ve inspired me to get out there, go to the store, and try to brighten someone’s day. YOU are a gift from God. Your family is so fortunate to have you. ❤

[@VintageVera]

There are things just as bad as not knowing your parents. For example, my parents were abusive -- my dad was a violent drunk and my mom was a narcissist who enabled him anddidn't show me any love. Just saying that sometimes it might be better to NOT know them.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@VintageVera I am sorry. Did you ever meet your parents?

[@VintageVera]

@@ToraisaJ yes

[@ToraisaJ]

@@VintageVera Ok, I hate they’re like that. Praying you’re well.

[@leotajackson5602]

I just happened to see this and it interested me because I have been searching for my ancestors, piecing together what happened with my family.

[@mrose6107]

I was moved by your story with all its joy and pain. Is it possible your mom thought about you every day since leaving you but then feared coming forward to find you due to possible consequences. It was criminal to leave you abandoned like that and maybe she has concerns that her life could now be destroyed. She may have fears of being outed on social media, losing her job, or being dragged into court, Perhaps going offline with this and reassuring her of your good intentions would go a long way towards healing everyone and you can learn the full story of your birth and abandonment.

[@ToraisaJ]

She may have felt that way, but what she did was wrong. She had 30 plus years to find me and make it right. I don’t have ill intentions and have forgiven her. However, I will not be silent about my story, though. It’s like when an individual is raped or abused. Should they be quiet about it to protect the other person? I want to let women know that there are resources out there to assist. There is a right way to do things. God is using me to help others. Thank you for your comment.

[@carolynholcomb8105]

My heart aches for you. The gaping hole will never heal. Love you

[@ToraisaJ]

@@carolynholcomb8105 Sending you love too ❤️.

[@italexs_]

JenOnDemand send me over here also while we’re speaking on this topic this kinda reminds me of a KZbinr that I used watch that this type of video

[@moniquefulloffaith4217]

I was pregnant three times, and no one in my family knew. It is possible.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@moniquefulloffaith4217 So no one close to you knew?

[@ekelamcgee671]

Sometimes when women have babies back to back people think they are just still carrying baby fat, not a baby. And women in a coma have birthed babies. It’s possible. My friend was a teenager. Overweight. Her family didn’t know she was pregnant until her water broke at the dinner table. Some women just hide it better. They have tv shows about it now.

[@ToraisaJ]

Wow!

[@zoebird6655]

Just pray for those who don't want to be in their lives.

[@SharonByrd-zt7sd]

PRAISE THE LORD JESUS CHRIST FOR YOU TORAISA. THANK YOU FOR SHARING. YOU ARE SO PRETTY !!!!

[@ToraisaJ]

@@SharonByrd-zt7sd You’re too sweet! Thank you ☺️

[@cjbrooks2028]

I think it's possible for someone to not know they were pregnant, there are a lot of stories out there that have been confirmed medically. Having said that, adopted people learn that blood means nothing when we find our biological family.

[@ToraisaJ]

Unfortunately, I have learned that 😭

[@KentonLab]

My Dad was contacted by an ex girlfriend to let him know he was the father, after she went back to her abusive husband. By then his daughter was all grown up, and had a lot of emotional problems. No tests were done. He met her but it did not go well. Her mother divorced her step Dad and she wanted nothing to do with it. That was 8 years ago. Now my Dad is sick and she will never know. My parents both, and I, her half brother, would have loved to share the wonderful life we have had. Her other half brother was in the military and doesn't even know; they didn't tell him because of her cussing my Dad out, who was devastated. It is hard to understand some people's choices sometimes. My Dad had a beautiful voice before he got sick. He used to play the guitar and sing, If you Love Her Let Her Go, and other songs he wrote about his feelings for her. It's a shame.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@KentonLab Thank you for sharing your story. It’s hard to understand others choices. I hope she eventually comes around.

[@jmk1962]

Your birth mother might have not known she was pregnant because she had just given birth to your brother so would still have had baby weight. It sounds like she panicked when she realised she was having another baby so soon after having your brother and was probably worried that people would judge her. The positives are that she left you in a place where she knew you would be found and thankfully you were adopted by good people and have had a good life. What's really sad is that she hasnt matured and is not welcoming of you now that you have found her. She wants the past to stay in the past and probably resents you for opening up old wounds with her past coming back to haunt her. She is a selfish woman, for rejecting you and not facing her past and quite frankly you are better off without her. You are a wonderful strong and loving woman. Focus on your own family and moving forward, its their loss not yours. You've survived without your birth family and you don't need them bringing you down. Blood isnt always thicker than water. Your adoptive parents are the ones who took you in and loved you and made you into the person you've become. Be thankful for the life you've had, your supportive husband and beautiful children and move on. You have a lot to celebrate. Let the past stay in the past and focus on the future.

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you so much for this comment. Whew! You have me teary eyed. I had my first child at 20 and I was very scared. However, I didn’t leave my baby. In the end…. I am thankful God blessed me with two parents that love me… I try to not think about everything and focus on the positive. ❤️❤️✨✨

[@JocieFire]

14:00 You are inspirational in the way you are standing in your own reality, without bashing on others. Trust only comes after truth.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@JocieFire Thank you 😊. My goal was to share my story.. but with grace. I appreciate your kind words.

[@Mrs.KatsCrafting]

I can understand adoptive children wanting to know where they came from but with that said I will warn anyone if you think there are no skeletons in your closets do not do ancestry DNA because it rocked my entire world and made me question everything I thought I knew about my parents and siblings and caused me a lot of hurt. I met one half sister who was my fathers child put up for adoption AFTER he married my mother. Yes, He had an affair rather affairs I also matched with two other girls from my home town I went to school with as half sisters and found a half brother my mother put up for adoption before they married Not one word was ever said by either one of them. What hurt me the most though was my brothers love for my daughter and how he doted on her and he never had children of his own. He had adopted two children however not even a month after his death a woman contacts me through ancestry that she matched me and did I know her mother. My brothers first wife who was the lowest form of human on earth in my book. Not only did my brother allow her current husband to raise her and believe she was his (They were not fooling anyone she was a dead ringer for my brother) but she told me my father visited her often and always bought birthday and christmas gifts. They knew he had a child but never told the rest of us or I suspect my next to oldest brother knew. Then I had a girl from another country contact me she matched another brother. Well only had one in the service sooooo. Its impossible to know why my family decided to be pathological liars and thankfully both parents were deceased because I dont know if I could have walked away from them but it was easy walking away from others because they were not good people anyway. It truly changed my life. I asked ancestry to take my DNA down but they would not so I deleted all my trees and closed my account because I did not want to know about anymore cheaters in the family or how many more times the ones I found out about had left children and never claimed them to the rest of us. So wrong.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@Mrs.KatsCrafting Oh no! I am so sorry. I pray God heals your heart. That’s a lot to deal with. Sending love ❤️

[@Yah-Izoa-Hakaboth]

Hello! I just saw your video from 2020 about you doing your dna test. I read the comments and noticed this guy named Chris Weaver was your first cousin. He said that you were born two months before him. He wanted to meet you. Did you ever see that comment?

[@ToraisaJ]

@@Yah-Izoa-Hakaboth Hi there! Thank you for your comment. Yes, I did. He’s my cousin.

[@JocieFire]

If you haven't heard of DNAangels, it sounds like they have support groups in similar situations.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@JocieFire Thank you. I am going to check it out.

[@soniagodlieb1896]

BLESS YOU SWEETHEART. 😚🤗❤❤❤

[@ToraisaJ]

@@soniagodlieb1896 Thank you 😊

[@pooh4025]

I think she never came to look for you because she knew where you were all long...there is a family secret that they are withholding from you.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@pooh4025 I do believe she knew where I was.

[@pooh4025]

@@ToraisaJ exactly, that's what I'm saying.

[@ReneeWaley]

The crazy thing is my life is so complicated. I really don’t know the real truth about my life.

[@porkchawpshandappleshash789]

Did your biological mother leave you in an abandoned van where you were difficult to find, or did she place you in a van that she knew would lead to you being found?

[@ToraisaJ]

I was left in a van at a baseball field. A game was going on that day 😭 she knew someone one would find me.

[@porkchawpshandappleshash789]

@@ToraisaJ : Then there is your answer. She wasn’t able to give you what you needed at the time. She most likely decided to be a teacher as a way to love you through the children she taught. Perhaps by the time she became pregnant with your brother she had better support. Don’t worry she knows it was wrong to leave you that way and not to search for you but you were never abandoned God was always with you and he sent help.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@porkchawpshandappleshash789 My brother is older than me by 9 months. She kept him and abandoned me. Either way I am blessed. Just stings….

[@ReneeWaley]

That’s crazy I’d never have any expectation, but my biology family. It’s just very interesting how family could be even though we don’t ask to be in this world I choose not to look for my family because I did not want to be mentally and emotionally hurt because you feel like, you’re not loved for whatever reason that is I’ve been pushed aside for years never knew what was going on in my life as a child I was always depressed mentally because I heard a lot of stuff about me personally about me it just don’t add up so that’s why I choose not to not to know know who is my real family

[@ToraisaJ]

@@ReneeWaley Being abandoned by your parents is a hard pill to swallow and then be talked about 🥹😭. I know how you feel. Please know that you’re worthy. God loves you too! Sending lots of love your way.

[@SharonVlaming]

It is very well possible to not feel your pregnant and just start having pain at the moment you have to push out the baby. It’s like all women having a different kind of period. I have friends that went through the same, not knowing they were pregnant, never wanting a baby but getting a baby just like that. They were older, so they kept their babies. If I didn’t see it happen, I would have been saying it wasn’t possible, but it is and it happens very often. Not every mother feels her baby. Not every mother has a belly showing the growing pregnancy. Some women stay slim and don’t feel a thing until the baby is ready to come out. So please go talk to a gynaecologist before you say you really don’t believe your birthmother.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@SharonVlaming It may be possible to not know you’re pregnant. However, my bio mom knew she was pregnant. She became pregnant a few weeks after having my brother and was able to hide her pregnancy. I said I don’t believe that she didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant. Thank you for watching.

[@SharonVlaming]

@@ToraisaJ, it’s not that I don’t understand your pain because I do. My parents left me with fosterparents when I was a week old. The reasons they did do so I’m not going to say here , but if you want to know we could talk about it in private. I’ve been with my fosterparents from when I was a week old until I was 2,5 years old and my brother was born. He needed a playmate. After that I would go to my fosterparents in weekends and schoolvacations, and when life whit my bioparents was toe hard. I grew up having a problem bonding with others, I had to learn bonding the hard was. But my husband understood and was very patient. Were together 37,5 years now. He still comes up to me and tells me how much he loves me, is proud of me for teaching our kids how to bond and showing our kids how much they are loved and not having them end up with the mess my parents left me with as a kid. My fosterparents aren’t alive anymore. But before my fostermother felt here mind slipping away she said that I had te make up with my bioparents because I had te make an effort to bond with them no matter how they treat me. She wanted me to try for as long as they’d live. So I would know that I tried and I do so even if the make me bite my tongue every so ofter.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@SharonVlaming What a story. Sorry for your loss. A blessing that you have your husband and children.

[@SharonVlaming]

⁠​⁠@@ToraisaJ, the thing is that without the love of my fosterparents, I wouldn’t have known how to show our kids love and wouldn’t have felt the pain of what I’ve missed getting from my bioparents. If I didn’t have the love of my fosterparents I wouldn’t have understood your pain. Yes my husband and kids (daughter is 35 and son is 33) are a very great blessing. So is the bond that’s slowly growing between my parents and myself.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@SharonVlaming I feel the same. My adoptive parents showed me love. Ok, you have a relationship with your biological parents? That’s amazing. Wishing you the best.

[@themessengacross1581]

God Bless you 🙏

[@ToraisaJ]

Blessings to you too!

[@ljay4525]

I like the spelling of your name. Its cute

[@knowledgeisablessing8767]

Did you ever find out why she kept your brother and not you? Did she ever say why she abandoned you when it sounds like she didn't need to? Why did she or your father never look for you? Did your bio dad not wonder where his child is seeing as he has another child with your bio mother, what's his side of the story? Do people treat your bio mother and father differently now they know they abandoned their child? Sounds like you were saved from them tbh.

[@ToraisaJ]

She has never answered that. Said she was going through a lot. She had both of her parents and was in college. My bio mom told my father she had an abortion. The town she lives is small so people do talk about this and I am sure look at her differently. Especially because She worked for he school system for 20 plus years and has a school.

[@c.h.5998]

Life can stink. Biological family can be your worst enemies My mom was adopted.for years she wondered, but passed before the dna tests.enter a sister who knew that its always been imlortant to know, even for her children. She finds my mothers family...and to this day will not share the info with me. Meets them, speaks to them and will not bring me in to share it all with. Shes always been this way..meddled in everyones life.caused problems, estrangments,anger, hostilities... So people can be very hurtful and it doesnt usually make sense. Biological links dont slways matter the same to everyone. Some people dont respect others feelings at all.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@c.h.5998 I am so sorry 🥺.

[@markevans7269]

You turned in to a beautiful looking woman ❤🌷💐

[@ToraisaJ]

@@markevans7269 Thank you so much! 😊

[@Kayla-ib1ln]

So sorry that this has happened to you. You only speak of your bio mom but not so much your bio father. Do you have a relationship with him now? Was he aware of the situation back then?

[@ToraisaJ]

@@Kayla-ib1ln Thank you. I don’t have a relationship with my father. He’s not mentally stable 🥺. He didn’t know about me because my bio mom told him she got an abortion. I did meet him the day I met my bio mom.

[@b0borden437]

Are your birth parents still married? Just found this video today (this is my 3rd this morning) and I'm wondering if you met your birth father? I'm probably watching them out of order:(

[@ToraisaJ]

Hi there!My biological parents were never married. I did meet my biological father as well… The same day I met my biological mother. It was hard but I did it. Thank you for watching.

[@ELTJ1957]

Did your birth mom tell you why she left you in the van ? Did your brother grow up with your mom and dad?

[@ToraisaJ]

Not really… just that she was going through a lot. My brother did grow up with her. He’s older than me. Thank you for watching!

[@mrose6107]

Not saying be silent. Get therapy. Talk to her about it but going on social media and posting pictures of them suggests other motives. Perhaps you seek retribution. That’s ok too but own it. Saying you forgive and outing them so publicly doesn’t ring true. You are hurting them now.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@mrose6107 You’re entitled to your opinion. I know my heart and that’s what matters. This is my real life.. but thank you for your comment.

[@PIA-tj5hc]

An opinion your energy taking about your bio mom goes wayyyy down. Forgiveness doesn’t mean contact. You know who she is apparently it’s not a joyous relationship let it go!!!! It is not beneficial to you and clearly you are still struggling. Cut contact with her!!!!

[@ToraisaJ]

Thank you for this comment. I realized that the relationship isn’t beneficial. She will never understand how I feel.

[@zoebird6655]

did your aunt tell you the truth why your mother left you in the van. Did anyone tell you?

[@ms.evegene]

I know how you feel.

[@conniepayne4425]

Now I’m wondering if your bio family gave you permission to publish their images. It was one thing to welcome you and another to go public with their story. So I hope you respected their boundaries.

[@jmk1962]

I did wonder about that too but theway they have treated her, I can't blame her for showing their faces.

[@conniepayne4425]

@@jmk1962 In a situation such as this, one must decide if they want healing and acceptance or revenge. I realize it’s easy to say and hard to do!

[@myrnawashington9057]

Just because a woman brings a baby into this world doesn't mean they have love for the iinfant. I just don't understand how you ended up with family after you were found. Did they know the abandoned baby girl was you on the news? Did mom and dad high tail it out of town after leaving you in the van? Your parents lived a lie for a very long time. Your mother probably been dreading the day when you would pop up. Your adopted parents may have warned them that you were searching. In time you are going to be okay. At least now you can tell your children relatives names. Your so awesome!

[@ToraisaJ]

I believe love is an action. If my bio mother truly loved me she would have looked for me. My adoptive parents and I didn’t know that my adoptive mother was related to me until she did a test. The town they lived in was really small. They lived in the same town as bio mom but never knew she was the person that left me. My bio mother left me in a van after giving birth and never looked back. I am sure my bio mom did dread me finding her. I am glad that God allowed it to happen. Regardless… I wanted to know who my biological parents were . It stings knowing that my bio mom did what she did. However, I was raised by amazing parents and turned out to be someone. Thank God for that 🙌🏾 Thank you for watching my story.

[@myrnawashington9057]

@ToraisaJ wow, that is something hard to forget and even harder to forgave. Kudos to your adopted mom for raising one hell of a fine daughter. I wish the best life ever and am happy you have a relationship with the ones you connected with.

[@sarawoods7874]

Did she give you any answers as to why she felt she had to leave you and not take care of you? Was it overwhelming for her to have two children so close together? Was the relationship with your vio father bad? My mother in law gave a baby away when my husband was a year old but he had a different dad who was abusive and her parents were already helping take care of my husband and then she had another baby 8 years later that she kept also but life was different and again a different father. She doesn't want us to find him because she doesn't know how to explain this to him.

[@godisgood7334]

She can explain it to him by telling him the truth. You should find him, not to force a relationship, but so he will know.

[@sarawoods7874]

@@godisgood7334 I agree but I don't want to cause the drama it will bring if I go against her wishes. She swears he was to be told the story and given the opportunity to find her when he was grown and if he wanted to find her he could

[@ToraisaJ]

@@sarawoods7874 Hi! No clear answers. Came from a wealthy family and my grandparents had my brother. I think she didn’t want another child. The relationship with my father wasn’t good. They were young 20. However, she told him she got an abortion but then placed me in the van. Your mother in law needs to find him and tell him the truth. She owes him the truth.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@godisgood7334 I agree.

[@zoebird6655]

Do you and your brother have the same mother?

[@ToraisaJ]

@@zoebird6655 Yes, we do.

[@TheCrystallorraine]

Do you want to punish your mother for the pain you felt? Do you want your bio mom and brother to suffer because you still feel pain?

[@ToraisaJ]

No, I don’t want to punish my mother for her actions… nor do I want my brother to suffer.

[@TheCrystallorraine]

@@ToraisaJ , you’re doing beautifully. Enjoy the grace God has given to you, and extend that same grace to your family. Traumatic situations can cause some people to disassociate to protect themselves from coming unglued. You are loved dearly by so many, give that same unconditional love to others. I am praying for your sweet and beautiful heart.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@TheCrystallorraine Thank you.

[@rhondahonda930]

your bio father and mother dont deserve to remove the jam from between your toes. your mom is a narcissist and your brother and father are her constant victims. dont even associate with them. your other relatives who love you are the only ones who deserve love back.

[@TheCrystallorraine]

What do you want from your biological mother?

[@micheleromola7266]

Did you ask your bio mom why she left you?

[@ToraisaJ]

@@micheleromola7266 Yes, I have.

[@Me-vq7sy]

Now, you're just being the difficult person she knew this situation would cause. By airing all this on social media, "knowing that she can never give you what you need". Lets it go, turn a new leaf or just stop all this public sharing. What are you coming back for, revenge? You were obviously a mistake. You were not planned for. That doesn't make you a bad person or a less worthy person. It just means the situation was challenging and this was the outcome. Look for peace, look for love, no one can heal you. If you can't do that just stay away and stay quiet. Let people live without pushing guilt down their throat.

[@ToraisaJ]

@@Me-vq7sy thanks for watching…you sound like a person who likes to sweep things under the rug, you may not be the type of person who understands accountability, integrity, or how to deal with tough situations in life and that’s ok in your world. Revenge? I thought I was dealing with something but your snarky and insensitive comment shows that you support the type of actions which break up families…revenge is not in my nature, but the mere thought of you using it again shows your divisive character. Sensitive response to sensitive topics will get you far in life and when someone frames accountability as guilt it is a sign that there is still a lot of growth needed. I pray you can grow mentally and hopefully you don’t have friends or family that you support by telling them to stay quiet.

[@ShariNicole16]

You’re projecting your own trauma onto Toraisa. No one is a mistake. God knows all BEFORE we are even formed in our mother’s wombs. We all have a purpose, even evil has a purpose. How you judged her, be prepared to be judged with the same measure.

[@SD-mw1hz]

Wow your response to Toraisas' story shows me you are dealing with some secrets of your own. Are you a member of this family trying to stop her from asking questions? Toraisa has every right to ask questions, her birth and abandonment was a very public news story. She has a right to know what happened. what if she had been an abducted child and the person panicked and left her in a van. She had questions and deserved answers. These people met with her and posed for photos so it is already public.

[@ReneeWaley]

It’s a miracle you was evil to find your biological mother unfortunately, I was not able to find my Mather or father

[@renebyers6153]

Did your father know that your mother was pregnant with you? Maybe you already answered this question...

[@ToraisaJ]

@@renebyers6153 Yes, but was told she had an abortion.

[@renebyers6153]

@ToraisaJ Oh. That explains it. Best of luck to you.

[@soniagodlieb1896]

SHE IS "NOT GOD-FEARING "

[@TeeBee-yj5tt]

Awww nah why you find her to basically public embarrassed her. 😢😢😢😢😢😢 Went from looking for family to your a monster. 😮😮😮

[@TeeBee-yj5tt]

I'm looking for my mother's mother and I would never shame a person. 😮😮😮😮 They didn't raised you to have empathy and real forgiveness. You weren't talking about you were breaking down all that stuff before but now you are breaking down since you met her. Okay go about your life why you Hunt her down.

[@TeeBee-yj5tt]

It was never going to be an acceptable answer as to why. Why you Hunt her down? 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥴🥴💅🏿💅🏿🤨🤨😒😒😒

[@TeeBee-yj5tt]

Everyone but your mother you're cool with. You want her family but not her. You have kids and have the behavior of a child.😢😢😢😢

[@SweetE1403]

She has every right to share her story. What she is saying is 100 percent true. I am living in a very dysfunctional family bc my grandmother abandoned some of her kids. She is entitled to share her story and feelings online. Stop being a judgmental online bully

[@SweetE1403]

@@TeeBee-yj5ttyou don’t know what this young lady has been through. Stop judging her for the way she is choosing to tell her story