Speak Like This To Make A Rude Person Feel Instant Regret

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Very few people can control a conversation better than a comedian. They have arsenals of jokes that put rude people in their place and redirect the flow of conversation. Even when there isn’t a conflict, when a joke lands and everybody laughs - there is a period of space where you can redirect the conversation wherever you like.
In this video we are going to look at 3 specific types of jokes that Russell Brand uses to masterfully control a confrontation on MSNBC. We’re also going to see how you can use these same jokes to confidently steer conversation in your own life.
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0:41 - Joke #1: Unpointed wit.
2:38 - Joke #2: Purposeful misinterpretation.
4:20 - Joke #3: Sarcasm.
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[@juliansmode4537]

I feel l Ike a robot who is trying to study humans

[@BlueGrenadeTom]

Julian's Mode - Someone says that in the comments of practically every Charisma vid... curiouser and curiouser...

[@ps8888.]

Same, i don't know if it's because im shy teenager but those videos seem so complex and tricky

[@cagaulu]

I am. I am hyper realistic, but still with a lot of bugs. Please don't tell my developer.

[@jowhy7243]

Cagatay Ulubay don’t worry, i won’t

[@MargieM10]

Autism? I've got three autistic sons. I should probably have them watch these.

[@katie-zc1to]

1. unpointed wit - diffuses situations before they get out of hand by using hyperspecific, odd or uncommon words 2. purposeful misinterpretation - used when forced to dicuss a topic you'd rather not by redirecting the convo or focusing on a minor detail 3. sarcasm ur welcome :)

[@dayzm6708]

Thankssss

[@mysocalledknife07]

Not all heroes wear capes! 😃😃

[@bobsebolaobama4946]

Thanks man

[@terrancejfry497]

I actually like the videos.

[@Ferb747]

katie Can you just translate that first point again?

[@2spicy4uMoFo]

I'm English and I can confirm Russel doesn't speak like 90% of us, he is very articulate and his articulation is indeed fantastic.

[@pappy9473]

Wotchyer onabout?

[@larryreedman7728]

Also, he is much too intelligent for American interviewers and audiences.

[@phdoodle5]

But he also speaks like a lot aswell…….like ‘ tell us where u was love’ instead of ‘ tell me where you were?’ So it’s like he relates to common folk but has an arsenal of vocabulary to hold a conversation with the posh lol

[@phdoodle5]

@@KASPA-KEY haha ano . Ricky at the golden globes was hillarious!!!! The Americans were so offended but he was presenter 10 times lol. Clips are hillarious, look them up on here if U ain’t seen theme

[@superweak]

I find him to try a bit hard. He’s not the heavyweight he pretends to be.

[@sigma5054]

“If you find it hard to laugh at yourself, I would be happy to do it for you.” - Groucho Marx

[@nickrich56]

Thanks 👍

[@phina8392]

@@nickrich56 brilliant…

[@nickrich56]

👍😏

[@Legisactor]

That Churchill comeback was pure gold

[@yogawarriorgirl]

Even when someone is being insulting, you have control over what aspect of their speech you respond to. HOLY CRAP, that is freaking powerful.

[@joeyjusticeco]

Yeah, I've had to learn this the hard way - we have control over our perceptions and our reactions

[@whereisyourhumanity7557]

Sometimes I act like I don't hear someone, if I don't like the way they speak to me. I play deaf until they have everyone in the place looking at them, shouting at me. Then I'll turn around very calmly and say; "Oh no, you're not talking to me. I know you aren't; because no one talks to me like that. When people talk to me they say 'please' and 'thank you.'" Then I go back to doing what I was doing - NOT working on their project, for sure - until they grovel and say 'please.'

[@djjazzyjeff1232]

@@whereisyourhumanity7557 That's a good move, I'll have to keep that one up my sleeve!

[@itchyscratch3829]

If someone snaps at me in a rude way, I say, "Sorry, can you repeat that please, what did you say?" Or words to that effect. This is usually enough to make them realise their rudeness (and the fact I noticed it) and they quickly rephrase it in a more respectful way.

[@teresev1435]

@@whereisyourhumanity7557 Nice!!! I’ll give that angle a try. I act like I can’t hear them, make them repeat their rude sarcastic remark. As they do, I walk up closer to them until I’m about 1-2 feet away, slide my glasses down, squint my eyes, look straight into their eyes, smile, point to my nose and say in a discerning tone: ‘You’ve got a booger on your nose,’ then smile and walk away.

[@svetu9411]

Russel really was in charge in that interview. He made it look so easy and seemed. I would have lost my cool so many times. So breaking it down into separate techniques and mindset is very useful.

[@subg8858]

Brand is a true genius in the field of communication

[@ntxnancy]

It makes more sense, yeah

[@surveyordave]

this is brilliant. i have unconsciously practiced this for years. i call it 'deflection". let the insults bounce right off of you and respond in a manner that is least expected and let the other person realize that they did not succeed in getting a reaction out of you.

[@artyomarty391]

well, most people dont actually want a (negative) reaction out of you in the first place. If thats your belief, you dont know what humor is. I insult people all the time, on purpose. But only those that I like. Its a game. Matter of fact the best reaction, is if the other person actually gets a comeback. Its like playing ping pong-the longer it goes on for, the better. You should show a reaction. If I insult someone and they dont show a reaction, then what is the point of goofing around with them any more? But if they do show a reaction, then it means they understood my subtle humor for humor and not an insult, it means they are worth playing around and having fun with. Hell, even if you a joke or an insult doesnt phase you, in a social situation at least pretend that it did

[@thephantom7430]

@artyomarty391 my boss is like that... sadly, I don't find it funny anymore, but actually hurtful.. and it has become a very toxic environment at work. I don't know you, but I would like to suggest that if you do this too often to someone close to you, it can ruin friendships. Because it has ruined my friendship with my boss and he no longer has my trust..

[@Miss_Camel]

I’ve oftentimes been accused of seeking conflict, and tend to rush 😊headlong into confrontation, usually in defense of someone I feel is being attacked, but I have to admit, I do genuinely enjoy a win. Never having to raise my voice, say one rude word, or even stop smiling, and still finish the confrontation with the opposition apologizing TO ME….ugh. Just such a satisfying feeling!!

[@Miss_Camel]

@@thephantom7430 also, I have somewhat of a silver lining for you regarding Artyom Arty…I have a feeling they don’t have many friendships or relationships to lose to begin with. And I’m so sorry about your boss, I hope he gets EXACTLY what he deserves in life. Also, ALWAYS keep a digital voice recorder ON AND RECORDING with you when you’re at work!! Mine records up to 8 hours and was maybe $15 on Amazon! Just make sure you live somewhere that is one party consent.

[@bigmiki2620]

“If I was your husband, I’d drink it” Comedy GOLD

[@clairee4939]

"He's a modest man with a lot to be modest about" is one that gets quoted a lot here.

[@raquijada74]

She said, "mr churchill you are drunk," He retorted, "you are ugly, tomorrow I'll be sober. "

[@kelman727]

That was Churchill.

[@jad.t9774]

Rolando Quijada I’m pretty sure he responded “Yes, but tomorrow I’ll be sober, meanwhile you’ll still be ugly”

[@PK-lo6ws]

@@kelman727 Churchill also let millions of people die.

[@martinagniss59]

STEAL THESE JOKES *Amy Schumer has joined the chat* EDIT: Names are hard.

[@RonaldWeasleysWife]

You spelled her name wrong, and come on, she’s not like that!! 😮

[@darthXreven]

an agent of rage has left the chat

[@deeremies2266]

@@RonaldWeasleysWife yes she is

[@martinagniss59]

@@RonaldWeasleysWife Thanks for pointing out the name, and also yes she very much is.

[@onashenwings3850]

Martin Agniss lol how did you spell her name

[@yasminaali9708]

I told this one guy in my class that I’ve never heard him talk and my friend goes “I don’t think he’s ever heard you not talk.”

[@hijodelaisla275]

Ouch.

[@SteepDescent]

The sarcasm example is a great one because it combines all 3. I have one friend who teases me almost non-stop in front of others. When others joined in I diffused it with a laugh "It's so great to feel soo loved and welcomed all the time, it really is lovely".

[@johnbaldwin2948]

That's not your friend...move on

[@NDD235]

Yeah, that situation is different. Your "friend" is a person that you have a relationship with. You need to confront your "friend" about it. And if they don't respect you, then they don't care about you. Ciñen them first, because you need to put stock into yourself. You've let this person humiliate you over and over. So atone yourself. And the next time anyone else does it, it'll be easier for you to stand up for yourself. You might laugh or of at first but it'll grow and fester. While your friend stays in (possibly) blissful ignorance until they insult just the right person.... so it'll be healthier for both of you individually and (if so continued) your relationship.

[@Mkay999]

A classic line “I don’t get it, explain the joke.” “Why is that funny explain.”

[@EmperorsNewWardrobe]

Yup, that’s not your friend. If you’re diffusing tension that your ‘friend’ has created while the others in the group are ganging up on you, you’re being picked on. Move on

[@SteepDescent]

@@EmperorsNewWardrobe you guys can stop with the random advice, especially when I already diffused the situation, as explained. And yes he's a friend, I was best man at his wedding lol! it's called Aussie playful banter. It's only annoying cos it's so repetitive; he needs new material.

[@rebranding163]

clicked faster than a guy on youtube trying to take control of any situation

[@Recusant]

Way to take control of the situation, Gooca.

[@AllyKiss18]

Best comment ever

[@danieldent2035]

works on too many levels

[@prince_sach50]

IKR

[@seriousperson2065]

Congrats. You showed some charisma skill by making this comment

[@jamesshank7918]

I have often found that self depreciating humor in the face of negative comments can disarm the abuser and turn the onlookers instantly to your side... For example: Before I started lifting weights, took up Judo and wrestling in high school, and joined the Corps, I was thin. A bully called out loudly in front of a group in middle school he thought maybe he'd beat me up... I replied he just might, but he'd be sorry... "Yeah, why's that?" " I'm gonna bleed all over that new sweater. " The crowd died laughing... In the end, HE started laughing and walked away. Another time another bully tried cutting me down by comment on the size of my... Um... I laughed and said, "You got me there, didn't know you'd seen me in the shower." Disarmed. Crowd was dying.

[@squeet6831]

Dude, you're funny. Those are great

[@tuffteddy1446]

This is absolutely true. Always be self deprecating before anyone can even contemplate taking a jab at you. It's amazing to see the immediate results!

[@221b-Maker-Street]

_Deprecating!_ I sincerely hope you’re *not* depreciating (lowering in value or esteem). 😉

[@jamesshank7918]

Actually I am. I've gotten older, fatter, and had twenty nine surgeries related to my service in the Corps. I guess my value has depreciated. Lol. But yes folks, I did mean self depracating.

[@jamesshank7918]

Ah, deprecating? Lol.😉😉

[@jamesshank7918]

One of my greatest tricks in dealing with negative behavior was to speak softer as they got louder. They have to quiet down to hear what you are saying. Years later, working patrol, I was assigned to protection for our Emergency Services Personnel at Mental Health. A Father had missed his appointment to meet with his child and was yelling in the lobby. He was a 6'4" truck driver, weighing in at about 300 pounds and threatening the docs and clinicians. I walked up and calmly told him that he needed to look around. "What?" He was thrown off. "I told him to look around the lobby." He did. I asked him if we were inside or outside. "WHAT?" I repeated my question in a conversational tone. "Are we inside or outside." He replied in a lot quieter tone, "Inside." I told him that he needed to use his "Inside Voice as yelling was upsetting the other people in the building who were here for counseling." He drew a deep breath and I held up my hand in a STOP position. "Use your inside voice." He started to explain that he was here to meet with his KID and had an appointment. I told him that I had been working all week and his son had been here on Wednesday night and been disappointed when he didn't show up, and this was Friday, but we would be happy to reschedule. He started to draw that deep breath to reply, and I held up that STOP hand again. "Inside Voice." He drew himself up to full height, towering over my 5'11" 220 pounds. I told him that I was ready to work with him however he wanted to deal with the situation. He looked down at my stance, my duty belt with mace, Glock, ASP batton, and the fact that I hadn't backed up. He said he wanted to come into the hallway where we were. I looked at the doc and gave him a secretive smile. The doc nodded and we let him in. When the door closed, there was a loud metallic click. Magnetic locks had locked the trucker in. I asked him to have a seat in the interview room. He refused. I calmly TOLD HIM to sit. He looked at me again and sat. We showed him the file copy of the letter that clearly said, WEDNESDAY. Situation avoided. I never threatened, I never yelled back, but my confident calm manner diffused the situation. (Backup was on the way from the first raised voice.)

[@MrCostaC]

Christ. If you were chocolate you’d eat yourself wouldn’t you??

[@Physics072]

Gosh you sound like a human whisperer. "One of my greatest tricks" Are you a magician?

[@plentinough7222]

Great follow up on your “trick” and impressive. This tactic should be in the law enforcement handbook. 👍✌️😎

[@teresev1435]

Great story. I’m gonna try that trick. Thank you🙃❤️😜

[@dustylong]

Such honesty to end with the fact that backup was actually on the way 😅🤗

[@KatsPurr]

5:38 That moment that Mika chugs down her drink because she doesn't know what to do with herself, always cracks me up. I've watched that interview a million times and it's always just as entertaining 😀

[@joannem8405]

Me too! Russell at his best and looking quite dashing to boot.😊

[@luimargarza6859]

And if you noticed it was an aloe vera drink...Mika is a synthetic...she needs the gel lubricant

[@ArturoCabello]

As an introvert, this is a gold mine. I'm not one to talk just for the sake of talking, but any help towards building my social skills welcomed!

[@palemoonlight96]

Before diving deeper into this channel I never knew how charismatic Russel Brand really is, appreciate him a lot now!

[@joeyjusticeco]

His book Mentors is interesting too

[@freddiemercury4evr]

Saw his stand-up in NYC years ago. He's brilliant!

[@VisualxxKhaos]

Used to be obsessed with watching interviews of him bc he's so funny, witty, and even insightful at times.

[@mikekelly5869]

I'm in Ireland and sarcasm is part of almost every conversation here, people definitely enjoy a bit of banter and verbal "duelling". However, if someone is deliberately and persistently disrespectful they will usually be taken to task very quickly, followed by a warning and possibly followed by a swift kick in the nuts. That usually works.

[@redrumax]

lol

[@madwhitehare3635]

😂

[@LarsRyeJeppesen]

I'm from Denmark - we use same amount of sarcasm as in the UK. What's mentioned in the video is true though - be careful with that enormous amount of sarcasm in other places. I've been to the US and Brazil specifically and people take things much more literally than you'd expect. It can be quite a weird situation.

[@trashyraccoon2615]

Yeah, unfortunately I’m one of those “literal” guys. Everyone wants to be jokey and funny all the time and I just wind up being confused

[@numberone5680]

My family are sarcasm from way back. I never knew it to be a problem. Could it possibly have to do with the region of the US? We in SW PA are considered to have distinct differences in comparison to neighboring areas.

[@LarsRyeJeppesen]

@@numberone5680 I think you are right. We tend to gemeralize too much. I was in the south

[@timh2356]

People take things literally? Where do they take them?

[@usernaames]

Danes aren't sarcastic, they're just assholes

[@SeanLunny]

Being sarcastic and self deprecating will always win people over

[@khidrrr]

that's why I'm number 4. I'm the joke that will win people over

[@tatjy93]

Not really, it probably depends on delivery or else it would just be perceived as a negative personality

[@SeanLunny]

868tatj definitely have to use it correctly

[@SeanLunny]

Khidr 😂😂

[@oasistu]

yeah my friends will always pick each other apart. Best way to take control of the situation is to tell the joke before them so they have no leg to stand on hahah (as in self depreciation)

[@TheChannelofOrange]

He isn't using uncommon words, he's just British...

[@alfienorth9729]

I take great umbrage at your annotation about us British, could you elucidate on your postulations some more

[@Anthony-zh2cp]

Fantastic point. People that follow this chanel should take caution with any of the advice provided.

[@TheChannelofOrange]

@@alfienorth9729 I rode the lift up to my flat to use the loo. Then I had supper as I sat on my sofa and turned on the telly. As I finished pudding, I watch some news about the tube.

[@alfienorth9729]

@@TheChannelofOrange r/whoooosh as my reply soars majestically over your head

[@clairee4939]

@@TheChannelofOrange You took the lift, it's not dressage! :-D

[@momcat2223]

Just stumbled upon this, thanks to the vagaries of the YT algorithm. Huge fan of Mr. B, who's always had a way w words. He also has a healthy ego, sharp wit, and a brain that runs twice normal speed, making him capable of dismantling these rude [talking about him as if he's not there], entitled [expecting his routine, for free, on demand] interviewers on the fly and knock them down a peg or two. All with an endearing smile! His current incarnation as political commentator is truly enlightening, educational, and enjoyable.

[@annap7678]

Russell Brand was the only likable person at that table that day.

[@roddyrodrodrod]

Joe Rogan: "When I said I wanted to be a comedian, people laughed in my face. Well - they're not laughing now."

[@findmestudios]

I like his podcast significantly more than his stand up but that's just me.

[@roddyrodrodrod]

@@findmestudios Yeah, his stand up is terrible in my opinion.

[@carlrenshaw3649]

Old Bob Monkhouse joke, still funny.

[@trevenbutler1625]

Dr. Ho Lee Phuk that’s gold

[@dx5781x]

Dr. Ho Lee Phuk lmfao the irony of this quote.

[@ZacharyLaid]

It's not the guy with the most money or good looks that is winning in life, it's the one who is truly laughing the most and is happiest, that's the real winner who is in control.

[@subutaykhan9387]

That is what poor guys say to sleep with peace of mind

[@kakadu2004]

@@subutaykhan9387 Nah, mate. Money will never equal happiness. It makes shit easier but it's nowhere near as important as inner peace.

[@breakingthemasks]

The guy with the most money doesn't have to work all day, and can blow money on girls and fun times... The good looking guy has lines of pretty girls stacked up waiting to ride him, especially when he's taking quarterly trips to Milan or Ibiza. I'd say those guys are very likely to be the guys most often laughing while a couple of college girls do a tipsy striptease on his yacht... While another one puts a smile on his face via some talented tongue action. So really, it's all the same guy... But different descriptions. 😂

[@rafirahmani8718]

Ahmet this was the funniest counter comment I seen all day loool

[@N8_Presents]

Exactly, who is n control?

[@perkkie]

I don't know about you guys but I'm starting to think Charlie is a big fan of Russell.

[@liamdoes8580]

Nah I doubt it

[@alexwillis7980]

@@liamdoes8580 nice use of rule 3 of the vid

[@iseehowitis9382]

Maybe, or it could be that Russell is one of his big sponsors.

[@JustAbbiee]

he did say in one of the videos that Russell has a very charismatic personality or sthg like that

[@kurtlee3198]

he's the perfect example of charisma, language and confidence, with just those 3 traits he went from being a junkie z list celebrity in british rags to staring in A list movies with some of Hollywoods biggest stars and marrying one of the worlds biggest female singers. He's not an actor and didnt go to any fancy university and certainly didnt come from money (he grew up on a council estate in essex) and had no connections, he met Ben Stiller and won him over, thats how he got his chance in Hollywood

[@deecee8108]

Note to self.... don't just jump to step 3.. I am a MASTER at step three. I find if someone is insulting me I don't want to not offend them :D. Thank you for the video and it gave me something to think about

[@pixie3760]

Oh goodness here in Australia we use sarcasm in a lot of social situations, although we tend to use what I call subtle sarcasm. Often we've walked away and are on our second coffee before somebody realises they've been a victim 😂😂

[@lyricdesign7181]

nancy: if i were your wife i'd poison your coffee winston: if i were your husband, i'd drink it LMAO!!!!!!!

[@cisium1184]

Nancy Astor and Winston Churchill were actually quite friendly with each other, and their verbal sparring was usually good-natured.

[@avalonazure5488]

@@sweetbunny6198 I thought you were setting jokes aside?

[@hijack69]

Top 10 Anime comebacks

[@iseehowitis9382]

And if I was God, I'd watch

[@mauricejohnson1068]

lyric DEsign 😂😂😂😂bro that’s funny

[@osse1n]

Why did the scarecrow win an award? *Because he was outstanding in his field.*

[@divingduo1963]

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me I see your comments everywhere lol

[@bennymountain1]

nailed it

[@rp3706]

Joke

[@severedsweetheart4331]

Beautiful

[@Mr47CRO]

So he was outstanding in the field of psychology with phobias as his main domain?

[@wealthyblackman2655]

People commonly critique or criticize others. When they try with me...I use the legendary phrase "Thanks for making me a better person!" It puts their brain in a pretzel state for several minutes... The statement literally acknowledges their criticism but quickly makes them reflect upon themselves... BOOM

[@roflmows]

Russell Brand missed his true calling: playing a pirate captain in a series of schlocky rom-com movies.

[@Mr3DLC]

Or a highwayman:) complete with bird mask amd tricorner hat

[@patrickmcguinness1363]

yes, he speaks and all I can think is it's the real Capn Jack Sparrow.

[@pedrohenriquepinheiro9131]

Now we need a video about Churchill

[@clairee4939]

That reminds me, there's a book just been published about Churchill's often quite cutting wit. I'm not one of those WWII obsessed type Brits, but I did mean to get a copy. Sounded amusing.

[@ketchup143]

@@clairee4939 go to the winston churchill museum in fulton, missouri. there's one room dedicated just to his famous comedic comebacks.

[@eug3nius]

@@clairee4939 "Churchill's Headmaster"?

[@clairee4939]

@@eug3nius I cannot remember the title. There'll be no shortage of books about Churchill of course but it was a fairly recent one -maybe with in the last two years?

[@fuqupal]

At least he had PERSONALITY unlike that disgusting poser Russell

[@juansek208]

I can't control my own thoughts, forget about controling conversations or situations.

[@joeyjusticeco]

Meditation is really helpful for taking control of your thoughts!

[@ingenious5480]

Get rid of that mindset. You can control a lot more than you think.

[@juansek208]

@@ingenious5480 I'm working on it, thank you :)

[@juliantorres7722]

I F this is a fact because I was sure that I was unable to hold a genuine conversation with a beautiful lady until today when I got out of my comfort zone and we ended up having a great conversation So I would just say to give it a shot

[@MegaGasek]

We are not supposed to be able to control our thoughts and we never will. Meditation is not a tool to control one's thoughts. Our brain is very fluid, daydreaming is welcome and a sign of a good working brain.

[@pakhisingha8959]

Jokes that work against insults: 1. Be hyper-specific/use uncommon words when joking but don't joke at the expense of others. 2. Misinterpretation, focus on something small, not the obvious piece/take it as a compliment. 3. Be sarcastic but soften it with a smile, but use it sparingly.

[@Unknown-ui6rf]

Watching your videos changed me and my social life, now every girl feels comfortable talking to me, also I can make new friends easier. I'm so glad that I found this channel !

[@karenhodges7545]

Love Russell He's so much more intelligent than people may notice. Handsome, too

[@joeyjusticeco]

Have you read his book Mentors?

[@ingenious5480]

Yea but we have noticed the handsome!!

[@iseehowitis9382]

I would say the same about you, but your head is clearly detached from your body.

[@virginiaplain72]

He might be handsome, but he's as funny as a car accident.

[@karenhodges7545]

@@virginiaplain72 Depends if you have a sense of humor

[@CharlieOscarOneNine]

Those uncommon words are still pretty common in the UK 😅

[@garyschollmeier779]

Meh. Not particularly.

[@Fyodor48]

PaulSaysMore got to say dude, couldn’t agree more. But remember you have to consider not everyone has had a decent education, nor is bright enough to take advantage of the same if it were available to them.

[@dunkindoughnut167]

We're just so much better than the rest of the pathetic scum that inhabit this world of ours. How's my charisma? Am I likeable?

[@MrDanisve]

@brian morris Well with education being behind a paywall, and elementary and high school funded in a weird way so some schools get almost no funds while others get a ton of funds. Makes it more prevalent in the US. It is not uncommon se americans master their own language way worse than me who learned it as a 3rd language (No special intrest in languages except making myself understood, so i have not really put much efford into it. As i prefer to use my time learning more chemistry and psysics instead. So typos are rampant)

[@kimbercoleman7089]

He actually suffers from social phobia. I listen to his broadcasts on how he..everyday...handles this phobia...

[@leek5890]

When anyone calls me a nasty name, I always say, "Thanks, that's a compliment". The underlying message is that I am a lot worse than the name I was called, hence a compliment. Works every time.

[@neliaferreira9983]

Whenever I hear a rumour about me, i always confirm it, whether they are true or not. I have even started rumours myself. It is the fastest way to diffuse all of them, true or not. Just like with your strategy, showing to others we are not hit by their attack is the best defense.

[@cynthiapierrat1018]

You are seriously talented at creating impressive, valuable, and easily appicable content. I think one thing for me that would be valuable to see in future content would be to describe how to charismaticaly exit a conversation when your meeting new people in a group setting. Personally, I find myself feeling rude, coming off as flighty, and basically feeling unable to move on to socialize with another person. (Maybe you've covered this in another video but I couldn't find anything relatable.) Either way, love what your doing, its incredibly helpful and I hope to see a video like that in the future!

[@dat2ra]

"I'm sorry to have to break off this conversation, but there's something I must discuss with _______ ." Then leave immediately.

[@ClarityDetermination]

Great response. I'm interested in the answer to that a well.

[@TheCoregon]

You could use the line from the movie Romy and Michele's High School Reunion when she is trying to get away from someone: "Would you excuse me? I cut my foot before and my shoe is filling up with blood."

[@Zakum]

In other words, sometimes making yourself the butt of the joke and not fighting back when attacked (unless joking about trivial things) will often win people by showing that you're confident enough to take hits as well as plant a seed in listeners minds like, "why did A just insult B for no reason?". By not fighting back you make the attacker look like the bad person, and thus your relative likeability increases.

[@lurklingX]

people will remember you reacting to an insult, either getting flustered or mad, versus letting it slide by because you're confident - gives the impression you think it's too ridiculous to even be taken seriously.

[@hijodelaisla275]

Self-deprecation doesn't always work. I've known a few people who had it in their heads that I was a threat, and no amount of deference or humility disarmed it. In fact, it may have demonstrated the principle shown here - that I was unaffected - and exacerbated the problem.

[@stevedixon921]

Most comedians are very smart, it helps them do their job. Though I don't think Russel's brand of humor is for me, it is well thought out, and I appreciate the effort.

[@peter81083]

A favorite of mine when someone was being overly cocky and superior in a situation is, humbly, "well, we can't all be the most awesome guy in the room, cuz then what would you be?"

[@ClarityDetermination]

Ha, .... that's cute.

[@Je.rone_]

*you can learn a lot about interpersonal communications from comedians* 💪

[@kinggete]

Joe Rogan is a great example I don't really like his stand up but his podcast is great, and he can literally have a conversations with any person he never had an awkward moment in his conversations.

[@Je.rone_]

@@kinggete agree 100%, and at the risk of sounding like a hater, i personally think he's funnier on his podcast, but i still watch his stand up for moral support

[@kinggete]

@@Je.rone_ He is 10 times funnier in the podcast, And he is very inspiring, and motivating, But as a stand up comedian he's highly overated,

[@kharihayden7833]

Not finished watching, but just wanna say thank you for all of these videos, definitely have helped boost my charisma!

[@AbsitInvidea]

I'm so glad that the funny examples finally came to an end so I could find out about those super-valuable guided meditations cause I don't know how to just sit and think about things by myself.

[@KidCity1985]

The poison response was hilarious.

[@AscendedMasculine]

*"Computers will understand sarcasm before Americans do."* -Geoffrey Hinton

[@awesomesagarsharma4547]

Indians too

[@ppahppp]

Me: do you understand sarcasm? Google home: me? never Its finally learnt my language, I'm so proud.

[@ilya2060]

Pinnacle Of Man TM hahahahhaaa true dat

[@naturalistegroup3978]

...or irony....or humour.

[@southcoastpauly]

The Bandog . No, not at all . . . 😏

[@CrickeyMushu]

pleeeaaasseee do a video dealing with people who make emotionally manipulative/passive aggressive comments! Especially in the workplace, "frenemies", and family/relatives/close community

[@swmj]

Noel Jeong omg yes we need that

[@dat2ra]

Good suggestion. I have a harder time around passive aggressives than any others. Suggestions, aside from not letting them upset you would be appreciated, especially how to make them suffer.

[@ClarityDetermination]

Personally I dealt with that in a family of 6 siblings when a parent was bent on making us compete for love. I'm older now and I've learned to smile and keep looking them up and down slowly examining their hair, makeup, clothes, shoes whatever, in my mind ... thinking about what they could improve. It helps me create the perfect facial expression.

[@badhombre4942]

Tried controlling the conversation, but the damn voices in my head won't let me get a word in.

[@ClarityDetermination]

Hm lol. I'd just smile and nod then.

[@SapphireToy]

Many thanks for these courses. They really helped me. They helped to be confident in themselves and in communication, to show interest in the interlocutor, and not as before, thinking only of themselves. By the way, if something is wrong with the text, then I am writing through a translator. Yes, I’m from Russia and I don’t know, ideally, English, but I really like your language) Punctuation is still a complicated thing for me, so we’ll do it with autocorrect. I would be very happy if you notice this comment)

[@SiggEye]

Hey, Charlie. Just wanted to say that your meditation session was really helpful and relatable

[@ArtificialPerson]

Thank you for these videos!!! Im now convinced Russell is a conversational genius 👏👏👏

[@lurklingX]

replying to only part of what someone says is a great redirect. sometimes also, NOT replying and then just shifting the topic - that can work too. like not answering a question. a little pause, eye contact, and then just NOT bothering with it can be a power move. it can leave the other person scrambling and again, wanting to be liked.

[@SolarCrown]

All good points. You really have to be careful with sarcasm. I used to be extremely sarcastic and finally realized that people, in general, do not like sarcastic people. Its often used as a defense mechanism in conversations and actually tends to put a barrier between you and the other person. Yes, that can be deliberate but I found that too often, people who are "good" at being sarcastic tend to use it too much and actually tend to isolate themselves socially by using sarcasm as barrier to relational vulnerability.

[@singing.winnie]

nice video. thanks :) the last example sentence you gave seems especially useful and realistic - "wow I'm so glad we are hanging out together." (with a low, cool tone, with a little bit of smile at last). I love your videos. You are genius

[@woody4269]

We need to remember that RB has an insanely huge vocabulary. His mind is whip smart, and lightning quick.

[@hijodelaisla275]

The metaphor shop is open until 6.

[@woody4269]

@Hijodelaisla thanks mate, b there in 5. 🤟

[@co44re]

I've seen a couple of these videos that shows clips from Russell's show with the Westboro Baptist Church lunatics, but I haven't seen it being addressed what I think is the single best moment from Russell in that entire interaction. At one point he refers to the offensive phrase on the sign intended to insult him and says, 'Where I come from, this just means '...cigarette?'', as he makes the gesture of offering someone a cigarette from the box. He completely deconstructed the offensive phrase and rebuilt a completely different and totally accurate reinterpretation by referring to the British colloquial term for cigarettes. Basically rewriting the term intended to insult him into 'Russell Brand offers people cigarettes'. I could try to rant about it more but I couldn't accurately express just how incredible this moment of quick wit was on every level. Sheer *chef's kiss* finesse

[@Mattjki]

Actual lesson: How to turn a mean conversation into an uncomfortable conversation.

[@laifuthelife8483]

That's fair

[@tommyshelby8119]

@@georgea.9684 Why tho ? What's your opinion on this?

[@theinvestorschannel2589]

Purposeful misinterpretation is one of my favorite ways of dealing with mean people because it adds a bit of humor to the situations.

[@ClarityDetermination]

Yes purposeful misinterpretation and then meeting the eyes of various people to let them know it's a ruse.

[@lewina_]

Love love these videos! So much to take from all of your videos. I would really love to see a video on "small talk" Carrying/starting a conversation is so challenging, I'd love some tips ❤

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you're loving the videos, Lewina! Feel free to check out a couple of our videos on small talk: 4 Easy Ways To Make Small Talk With Anyone How To Handle Small Talk As An Introvert

[@mezzmarr1209]

My favorite, when insulted: “What you think of me is none of my business.”

[@bluecurlygirl]

Once upon a time my sister was furious with me over nothing as per usual and also as per usual she tried to anger me by calling me names. I, thankfully, was in high spirits on the day and refused to succumb to her petty insults. Eventually she Roared at me "You're nothing but a tramp". I laughed and replied "You say that as if it's a bad thing". She stomped off to her room even angrier because she hadn't got the reaction she wanted. My day was unaffected. It's not easy to stay calm in such situations but my goodness it does pay off.

[@ManiaMac1613]

What all of these techniques boil down to is engineering a situation where the person who's being rude or aggressive is put in a bind where they have no choice but to either back off or double down and outright admit that they're trying to be mean to you.

[@ClarityDetermination]

Yes. When you boil it down to that I think getting creative on the spot is easier.

[@dominoot2652]

Mate I’ve been binging your videos. They’re really helpful and actually quite interesting, thanks man! Keep it up!

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you're enjoying the channel, man!

[@eldonolmstead-gaming186]

It's not often that I watch a 7+ minute advertisement, but this is very informative as well. Thanks for the great advice.

[@Plant_Parenthood]

Brand is fascinating because he stutters and speaks over himself but somehow he is also an excellent communicator

[@iyiolawilliams6330]

My life changed ever since I started watching this video. Thank GOD

[@Mattjki]

Better or worse?

[@iyiolawilliams6330]

@@Mattjki better of course

[@ClarityDetermination]

Cheers budd!

[@jonahamvs7229]

nobody: charisma on command: RUSSEL BRAND

[@ThisEvilBunny]

he love dude

[@CreativeUsernameEh]

That meme doesn't even make sense. It's so annoying and overdone...

[@deanmoriarty6015]

LOLOLXDXDZD HE SAID NOBODY SO ITS FUNNY 😂😂🤘🏼😂🤘🏼😂🤘🏼😂🍞🍞🥨 EVERYONE LIKE THIS COMMENT 🥔🥔🥔🥔

[@aqzxk4292]

Endemic Jonah stop

[@ingenious5480]

See previous comment from creativeusernameeh

[@heatherhillman7280]

Self-depricating humor and sarcasm are tools I've used for years and I get along well with most people. The handful of people that truly don't like me... Well, I guess that's their problem. Can't please everyone so don't bother trying. I do appreciate Russell Brand's style. I should study it more. Just an FYI for those reading my comment. I'm 50 years old. There comes a point in your life when you stop caring what others are doing and what they think of you, and you concentrate on your family and immediate circle of friends. You care about your sister's life, but you don't bother with the checkout person at the local Wal-Mart. Stuff like that. There is some very liberating parts of middle age.

[@canadiannuclearman]

My father who grew up in Briton on upper class put down is. "Why don't you acquire some of your owen intellectual consideration" But say it in an upper clause English accent. I was about 7 and I asked my dad what does it mean. By dad said "Smarten up". I tried that at school once my teacher overheard and laught and said you must have gotten that from your dad.

[@blackchez]

This also applies to bullying. If you defuse the situation using humor or opposite the reaction that the bully wanted to get out of you it'll reduce the tension and hostility. Unless they start hitting you. That's just criminal assault.

[@annap7678]

If they start hitting you, it’s possible you have chosen the wrong door.

[@PremierSound]

You are not controling the conversation but you are defending yourself and not letting the outer one ride over you.

[@johngraham8893]

If criticised say "I've been called worse things by better people".That turns it around nicely

[@etherospike3936]

Actually Russel Brand was so convincing in that show, that they never called him to live television again !

[@lakeroswell]

You always have such good ideas...I just wish I could always remember them on the spot IRL

[@NudePostingConspiracyTheories]

Thanks for that. I realised during this video, that i an actually naturally good at the turning an attack into fun. That’s something! Im pleased. Thank you

[@jasonchapman5202]

Clearly Russell was " ganged up on" in that segment. He handled each one like a master. Brilliant stuff. I love when people are underestimated and they just win undeniably!

[@rpminc1974]

Winston Churchill's comeback was brilliant. By far more clever than anything Brand has said here !!

[@chazbono5991]

Depends how you look at it. Russell seems like a genuinely very loving human being. That Churchill comment was definitely witty, but also incredibly pointed. I imagine Russell simply wouldn’t allow himself to get that hostile.

[@jamiemcmillan6742]

3:55 'So you're saying there's a chance?'

[@tini_mg33]

I love your videos, you explain everything so clearly.

[@dianecheney4141]

On the television show Bones, there was a character named Lancelot Sweet. When ever some one criticized him, he would say thank you. Meaning that you for bringing this to my attention, I will try to change that in the future. I thought that was cool

[@muhammadfaheem7053]

I think being talked about in this guy's videos could be the best achievement for anyone ever.

[@devanishant]

"They're tweeting themselves senseless back there!" Ha ha ha ha.

[@StorytellingHeadshots]

I think the hilarious part is that for the people he is analyzing “having control of the conversation” is the last intention they have. Most of them (Russell Brand, Craig Ferguson) are ENFPs which is a playful verbal personality who take risks and also are very comfortable improvising and finding the humor in the moment. “Freedom” is a prime value, for themselves and for others... they are not trying to “control” anything.

[@EmperorsNewWardrobe]

5:10 as a British person, I can confirm this is incorrect. Sarcasm is our FIRST language and straight talk is our second language that we use for non-British

[@Author-dad-veteran]

As a Brit living in the states, controlling my sarcasm is a daily struggle and a real issue. If in doubt, no I’m not insulting you, I’m joking 🙃

[@williamlambrechts8492]

Thanks for the sponsor at the end. 👍🏻

[@DemolitionGrrl]

My sarcasm is so spot on you might not even know you've been insulted until I leave the room so... I don't make friends easily 😂

[@katiekat4457]

Russel Brand's brain thinks so fast. He's very witty too.

[@Gorrgrim]

Old as Ancient Skies I've had these wondering eyes But you took me by surprise when you let me inside of you Inside of you Inside of you There's got to be some part of me Inside of you Inside of you, I could cross this desert plain Inside of you, I can hear you scream my name Inside of you, while the stars unfurl I've crossed me heart and I've crossed the world And I need you here and I need to be Inside of you Now the flowers bloom I feel you creep into my room And if this should be our tomb I'll die here inside of you And the world explodes I've never been down this road Teach me how to grow While I'm moving Inside of you Inside of you, the restless find their dreams Inside of you, this king has found his queen Inside of you, all the stars unfurl I've crossed me heart and I've crossed the world And I need you here and I need to be Inside of you Inside of you Betty Blue So say it's you To thoughts untrue Who I woo It's you I woo Through and through And through and through There's so much more than just a screw Inside of you And I was blizzard blind Felt like I've lost me mind But you've treated me so kind I don't know what to do

[@nepozabime]

I like your poem. I think that with a bit of work, it could easily become a song... :)

[@emmaj4025]

Russell is a brilliant British wordsmith, sometime ive no idea what hes saying but i love it 😊

[@edwardbaker3092]

The best responses that's coming from you

[@howisthatgay4275]

I’m not stealing these jokes. I’m *REMASTERING* them

[@sifatshams1113]

"Thank you for your casual objectification."

[@guyledouche6839]

Oh thanks. I really needed that definition of sarcasm.

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

Sarcasm is, indeed, a second language in the U.K. It's a brilliant way of calling out your interlocuter, as well as making fun of yourself.

[@matthaeus5373]

My friend always uses weird phrases and words and I’ve picked up on it too. It’s both entertaining to use and a lot of people I speak to find it amusing also.

[@nepozabime]

In my experience, it doesn't yield the desired effect if the other side doesn't have enough vocabulary to decipher what you wanted to say by using that erudite word... ;)

[@nepozabime]

But you can get your satisfaction from noticing that, even if they are unaware of it themselves... :)

[@matthaeus5373]

Damjana Marn Krajnc ye, I picked it up in school where I was grouped with the smarter kids, and had a clever group of friends. This allowed it to work well but when I used it on some of my other friends who weren’t as clever should just be confused and have no idea what I’m saying. If you know who your using it with then it can work well

[@filipferencak2717]

@@nepozabime Well, in order to incarnate such an endeavor, one should fashion a panoptic lexicon prior to undertaking the task itself.

[@nepozabime]

@@filipferencak2717 Nice try there, trying to confuse me, but I got your point... Hvala vseeno, zabavno! ;)

[@FAVanguard]

My 5 tips to control situations and generally be funny. 1. Roleplay 2. Misinterpretation 3. Exaggeration 4. Sarcasm 5. Innuendos

[@edemont333]

Can you give an example for each? I'm kind of in need of some effective techniques.