Asking each other uncomfortable questions

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Hi, I'm Uyen Ninh but please just call me Uyen!
I moved from Vietnam to Germany 3 years ago for studying. I make silly videos about how Germany looks like through the eyes of a Vietnamese - on my way to be your favourite Ausländer! :D
00:00 Intro
00:47 Family Reaction
02:31 Stereotypes
05:37 Language Barriers
07:47 Cultural Differences
12:31 Arguments
14:43 Improvements
15:56 How did we make it?
Some of the questions that we asked each other was inspired by this video: • Interracial Couples Pl... :D

[@kristaolsen6236]

"We are both not talking our native language, but I also never felt more understood by a person." -German boyfriend 😍 This is not cringe, it melts my heart! That it is what a good relationship is about.

[@getgaymin]

Same

[@mrbqkc]

🥰🥰🥰 it was the sweetest moment! That's how we know German boyfriend is a good egg.

[@iwanttobeontheisland]

🥲

[@_blank-_]

A wh*te "person" will never be able to truly understand someone from another race. NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN WHEN INTERACTING WITH EUROPEAN DEMONS.

[@Peaceluvr18]

I'm not crying you're crying

[@user-jb4kl2oo5t]

Sometimes I feel like I'm wasting too much time on the internet just scrolling, but every time I see a new video from you popping up I smile. I enjoy how sincere, fun and incredibly cute you both are. Your content does make me a little happier, also more aware of different cultures. Thank you so much!

[@svetlana_maslennikova]

So true 🎉

[@dontworry8971]

Omg this comment is fire and genius

[@Antoooniiiaaax]

I Can agree so much. Actually as a German i use it to get better in english as well

[@serene9532]

oh I feel u so much🫂 I disabled the KZbin app on my phone for this same reason

[@UYENDINDIAN]

Hello, my name is Kartik, I am from India, I am a big fan of yours, I want you to try to make videos in Hindi language also, so that your name will be known in India also. Also, I want to tell you that if you allow me, I can recreate your video in Hindi language and put it on KZbin channel.

[@liljupe]

when he said "my eyes are filled with love right in this moment" it validated that this is what i want and that it really exists and i deserve it im not crying u r

[@bellechoo74]

😅❤

[@ottitudes1991]

"you are very open minded... as long we are not talking about food" 🤣

[@smol-one]

I never watch couples videos. They're boring or clearly staged, or somehow both. But, I do really love seeing you two in videos together. Its so clear that you're happy. Its very sweet to watch, especially if my day isn't going so well.

[@frofrofrofro900]

Same here. Greetings from Tricity in Poland

[@emilysha418]

+1

[@ingriddoerksen9518]

I agree. The Pasinis are very authentic as well. The only 2 happy couples that bring me you when watching their videos 😊

[@Mm-abcsony]

Couldn't agree more.

[@Trinadi_Tries]

Agreed! And German Boyfriend's presence is felt just as fully, even though he isn't on camera. The clear mutual respect of boundaries and support of one another is genuinely heartwarming. ❤

[@bobon123]

The fact that both sides get worse in English is absolutely true. Me and my wife speak English at home, and although we both write in English for work we are both far from natives in terms of pronunciation - I am Southern European, she is Southern Asian, and you can clearly say it. Speaking at home English since 10 years I became more confident and relaxed while speaking English, but my English did not become better _at all,_ if anything I now do pronunciation mistakes from both sides.

[@qwmx]

That actually sounds fun. Not many people get your experience.

[@isabelleb.3653]

My boyfriend is Australian, I’m French. At home we speak Frenglish with a silly accent but we speak ‘professional English’ at work. It’s called code switching, look it up :)

[@realpirate]

For sure ! The Ex is German, I'm from South Africa, we lived in the Netherlands - we invented a whole new variety of international English 🎈 These guys make each other laugh , that's a big part of it - and their joy in each other comes off of these videos 💌

[@VictoriaMorganawesometori]

It's not cringe, it's adorable. It's the best when you find that person who gets you like no one else does

[@user-jd3zs6jo3d]

“I’ve never felt so understood by a person” awwww 🥰

[@myblueheather8240]

You two are such a good fit because you're both kindhearted, open minded, and curious about each other's cultures and personal perspectives. You are both skilled at making space for each other, for your customs and life experiences. You seem genuinely interested in the other and also make each other's mental wellbeing and comfort a priority. It's so refreshing to get a glimpse into to this relationship and a good reminder that this does exist. Sharing some of your life together with us in this way is a lovely gift! ❤

[@kasseesmythe8738]

Every time I watch one of your videos I feel happy. I think part of the reason the two of you get along so well is that you are both open to happiness ... that is, you find the funny parts about difficulties and refuse to let them hold you back from enjoying your lives.

[@beli9605]

this made me cry idk why

[@embeetoast2211]

Very insightful

[@shayelyse]

Uyen casually saying… ”Vietnamese go hard with guests…” 😂❤❤❤ Love it!!!

[@LillianHenegar]

"...except when we're talking about food" I feel that. Loved this conversation. Thank you.

[@1998emmal]

As an American married to an Indian man, I resonated with nearly everything you two described! Intercultural relationships definitely have added challenges, but ultimately the blending of two different cultures and worlds is so so beautiful.❤😊

[@corinneb9790]

I love videos like this! I am American and have lived in the same part of my country for most of my life. I have traced for a week in Paris, another trip a week in England, and my honeymoon in Bora Bora. That’s it. I am 73 years old. Probably no more travel in my life. When I did visit other countries, I was more interested in how people live than the tourist places. I loved walking through grocery stores, eating the traditional food. This is what made me happy. Learning how Vietnamese and Germans live from you two, is making me so happy. Thank you so much.

[@jj4774ns-te5px]

Maybe ask your family or friends to take you with you on trips? I know some people older than you who are vacationing away every year for 20 days to all different places! It's not impossible, just maybe choose destinations that aren't super expensive or overly popular so that you don't get tired with crowds and too much waiting around.

[@TroyBrophy]

I'm exactly the same. I don't care so much about visiting tourist spots. I want to see how people actually live. Currently living in Japan, and very happy to have this experience. I'm glad you were able to travel. Even small amounts of travel expand your understanding of the world so much.

[@vectorm4]

"My eyes are filled with love at this moment." I laughed out loud at that comment !!

[@nervesofsteel1865]

Ah yes. My walking green flag power couple is back.

[@DesertTrashOpossum]

"Nuclear family" as is "nucleus" not as in "radioactive" 😅

[@lizisasleep]

I like that you two are very honest about the challenges of being in a relationship but also you’re so accepting of each other and understanding of your differences. It’s nice to see how much you clearly love each other and how much you grow together. You bring out the best in each other.

[@michellehasty1038]

They have the best communication and that is why their relationship works so well! I love them.

[@sarahhuskey3745]

As a native English speaker, I can honestly say that using words that aren't really words but make sense, IS actual English. I've had so many conversations with people where they say things like, "Can you get the do-dad and then the thingy that works in the whatchamacallsit so that I can fix that whatwecallit?" I promise you, things like that, that aren't "proper" English, are 100% English hahaha

[@pcosbodyhealing]

What’s that “Thingamebob” lol

[@ninagarafall]

Same in German and I guess other languages as well by the way. 😅 If it's not your first language you always think it's bad if you can't remember a specific word or expression, but in your own mother tongue you just sort of smoothly talk your way around it in my experience? So great to see that these two have found a way to do that too.

[@annar6294]

'thingy' or 'the thing' is my favourite English word. I can never remember the word for the dustpan and brush, it's been years and it just doesn't stick so I have resorted to calling it 'the sweepy thing', my coworkers now understand me straight away lol

[@ecmks]

Hey Uyen! I wrote my master thesis on ELF (English as a lingua franca) couples that live in Germany (though I focused more on Turkish/German ones), and that is also something I found: you end up developing your own English mixed both with your native language and the local language!

[@mimimaitri1]

Reminds me of a friend of mine who speaks Spanglish with her mom, and it’s so interesting to listen to. It’s not just English words sprinkled in to Spanish, but uses English/Spanish hybrid words, pronunciations, and grammar. Also, some of the “wrong words” like they speak about in this video, but that makes sense to them. That’s the amazing thing about languages I think. They don’t ever stand still.

[@MrTdg2112]

My daughter started watching these because I told how watching them lets me relive some of the moments when I first got married to my wife from Taiwan. A lot of differences, but so much the same. Oh, and now that Uyen is doing crochet. Some of it is just working out cultural differences. As for parent reactions, her mother was fine with it. But all her friends were convinced I was a transient just going to dump her and run home when I got bored. Well, we are still married and some of those friends I hear are divorced.

[@reccinto]

And where are you from?

[@MrTdg2112]

@@reccinto I'm from the US. I spent 5 years goofing off in Taiwan in the 90s where I met her in the first week. Although it took 2 years to get a date.

[@AlwaysonTayaTime]

With my husband, every question requires that he do a cost/benefit analysis to respond. After our years knowing each other, my feeling is; the response time is a net benefit and always worth waiting for. The value of a person who measures their speech is immeasurable. When a person take a moment to evaluate their output, you know that they care about how the people around them will receive them.

[@ena4181]

The part where german bf said that he never felt so understood despite speaking two different languages 🥹❤ u guys are best couple ive seen. ❤

[@LouforYous]

I smiled throughout this entire video! Seeing Uyen’s face filled with beauty and love when German Boyfriend is talking; is a visual representation of humanity. Thank you for allowing us to see into your relationship. It will give many people a road map of how real relationships grow and develop.

[@TheFonzieCommunity]

especially interracial/intercultural/multicultural relationships!!

[@Cloudfive55]

She's so loveable! She's the rare influencer I could really be friends with.

[@NatashaLawes-xg3uk]

Perfect Ying & Yang Sense of humour

[@mygirldarby]

Yin

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

"When you are so compatible, the cultural difference is not so important." This is so true! Whether with friends or with my Russian husband, I have had more misunderstandings and misgivings with some of my countrymen and women than some people that were born and raised 20,000 km away, just because some people just have the same mentality and values and then it's a good match. My ex-boyfriend's mother (from the same country as me) did not like me at all, while my Russian mother in law and I love each other. So there is that.

[@KellseyMae21]

My husband is filipino and I totally see the large family thing from the other side. I love it, I truly do. It is confusing though when you try to figure out who a person is in relation to him and all relational titles are based more off age than relation. A tita may be his grandmother's younger sister in-law than an aunt.

[@_hunnybe]

But isn't that still an aunt? I never called my Great Aunt by that title, just Aunt/Auntie

[@KellseyMae21]

@ibeemelissae yeah I guess but if she was older then she would be referred to as a lola which is the same title as grandmother. I suppose that example didn't show what I meant as clearly as I meant.

[@wolfzmusic9706]

​@@_hunnybeI always specify as there's large differences between my aunts and great aunts

[@dbul2542]

My wife is Filipino and she has more first cousins than I have living relatives 😂

[@KellseyMae21]

@dbul2542 that's also pretty accurate. Just blood related first cousins and none of their spouses he has like 20 something first cousins. Imagine when I met them all at once for the first time at Christmas. Lol.

[@novalyn.acidgin]

Awee yall are so cute!! ❤ When he said he never felt more understood by someone despite not speaking in his native language I almost cried. Thats so beautiful. ❤❤❤❤

[@voyance4elle]

The thing about romance is so funny to me. I personally don't like these "fake" gestures (to me they are fake). But when I saw that gbf tried to grow Vietnamese vegetables for you or that he bought asian food before you arrived in Germany - THAT is romantic in my eyes!

[@viviancandelario4766]

Your genuine transparency is so refreshing, and you too are just adorable 😊 together

[@marcelwhatever5638]

"he did nothing romantic for me" He actuall planned a date in a meaningfull cafe in the same spot. "But it is too hot!" 😂😂😂

[@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole]

Just the two of you [or even one of you] talking about anything is such a wonderful thing to observe - always interesting, enlightening, amusing, enjoyable. I hope you do a lot more!

[@Livius_the_Genius]

"Your house is a mess" "Yes because I live with a messy person" I'm saving that to reply to my mom's complaints: all my sister's fault 😂

[@mirandamom1346]

Being with your best friend is the key to happiness.

[@michellericci497]

You guys make me laugh. You both are so joyful and I am happy you two found each other.

[@zanchan]

You two are just the most enjoyable to watch. I smile every time! As a Canadian moved to Slovenia with a Slovenian man, I can relate 😂

[@pumpkinpasta3107]

I LOOOVE how flirty you are in this video omg you're my favorite couple ever (including the fiction ones) bc you're so real and you guys are the reason I still believe there's a German boyfriend for my Uyen

[@dkm6054]

I've always loved your shorts, but because of your longer videos this has become one of my fave channels to watch on YT! I feel like everyone is making the same kind of polished content these days, but yours always just feels really sincere and so refreshing. Thank you for your originality!

[@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole]

Agreed! I hope you make even more of these long-form videos. 😊

[@alexeggleston166]

You two are my favorite youtubers! I watch you and am completely reminded of me and my wife. Im french-american and she is argentinian, we have many of the sam experiences

[@cqt9223]

In a world that has trouble sometimes getting along, you guys show how to hold each other's differences lightly, with curiosity and respect for one another. Thanks for sharing with us!

[@andrathemimi8178]

You two are so sweet! The love and affection you have for each other really shines through ❤

[@hellokitten469]

I just love you two. The love is beautiful to watch. Thank you for showing us.

[@margaretmcneil-smith9237]

Thank you for doing this video. I found I was smiling all the way through it. The two of you are really great together. Bless you, Uyen and German Boyfriend! 😊

[@juni_purr]

I love your videos. It occurs to me that a big thing you two have in common is a keen sense of humor.

[@ljcl1859]

I love this style of video. The two of you interacting is so fun, funny, and adorable.

[@everettdees1102]

Hello Uyen, I am an American married to a German woman, and it looks like we may have to move to Germany because American Immigration is slow and may not come through. I have a video idea; a video above moving to Germany as a foreigner and not speaking the language would be great to inform everyone about. Things like getting your immigration stuff handled, housing, and finding a job and stuff would be great and very entertaining, especially in your style.

[@pinkefuchs]

Not to distract from Uyen's fabulous content, but until she finds time to do that ;) - I suggest the channel "Simple Germany" from a peruvian-german couple which covers all of the above.

[@absurdengineering]

Talk to an immigration lawyer if you haven’t already.

[@amiesparkle00]

Why not? A spousal visa is one of the easiest to obtain

[@michellehasty1038]

I'm American and it upsets me that you're having difficulty with immigration. It sounds like you and your wife are doing things the right way, while all around me I see people who enter illegally and get rewarded with tons of benefits. I've worked for employers who've gone through the process the right way and my current employer is sponsor to his mother trying to become a citizen now from Canada and it makes me sick the time and money that this costs. And it's just so unfair. Not to mention that so many of the ones sneaking in are bad people, dangerous criminals!

[@Munsu89]

I can relate so much with your videos. I'm German and my girlfriend is from the Philippines. She likes to cook 3 warm meals a day, always answering the video call even so the situation is not suited for that etc but I really love her from the bottom of my heart and your videos teach us so many things and make us laugh. So I just want to say thank you for your videos ! ❤😊

[@tess7510]

You guys are so cute. Loved this video!! Made me laugh out loud multiple times.

[@steakyhumus5628]

The ending was gold lmao. I love the brutal but compassionate honesty from both sides it really gives me hope that I can be that person for someone else in the future

[@embrio.]

"Why you sound so sexy?!" was 100% the appropriate ending.

[@echo2893]

I really enjoyed this video. It's nice to see the relationship growth the two of you have experienced. I think you have both learned to communicate well with each other and that is what continues to strengthen your relationship. Successful communication is extremely important in any relationship.

[@jessicakeatting685]

So sweet how you each found your person in spite of the distance and differences that would make such a match seem impossible ❤

[@dawnfrappollo]

Love you two. And expressing what you like and love about each other is beautiful, not cringe. We need to all learn across societies how to express this kine of positivity. We don't have enough of this good stuff. I love both cultures and food.

[@lulumoon6942]

Loved this, and it's great when there are no wrong answers, just listening with love! ❤️🙏💞

[@maeve4047]

The two of you make me smile. That isn't always something that happens for me. I'm thankful you're online.

[@olgaolszewska1545]

So true!

[@FeistyShlomit]

I love you guys!!!! It’s not easy being in an inter cultural relationship and I love that you share the ups and downs! Despite the differences you seem very compatible!

[@tjasazaloznik116]

When German boyfriend said that you speak 10 times faster in Vietnamese I couldn’t picture it 😂 I think a fun idea for the video would be you talking with a friend or family in Vietnamese with English subtitles 😁 I always found I show different parts of my personality when speaking different languages so it would be fun to see you 😀 (Correct me if I’m wrong - but I haven’t seen any videos of you speaking in Vietnamese) ❤️

[@mrbqkc]

I think there's one where she is speaking with her parents (off screen) and then translating what they say into English for German boyfriend. But she's translating it in a funny way. But I agree, more Vietnamese videos would be great!

[@Dino50012]

Thanks for another video and for being yourselves! 😊

[@Eclipse1369]

I just love listening to you guys. You’re so unique and yet totally relatable for everyone. Thank you, I think you help people connect on deeper levels. All the best to you in your future. ❤🎉

[@eboh23peace]

Thank you Uyen and your German boyfriend. Love this video. It is not to nit pick at each other, but you really do a marvelous job in complementing one another truthfully. Awesome learning about both of your Countries. I never get tired of watching your videos, when they arise. I cannot take for granted what you might be touching on. You give me 'Food for thought' Thank you , from New Zealand. Thank you

[@suzkstein]

I really REALLY loved this video so much! The interaction between two people in love from totally different cultures gives me so much hope for the future. I am studying German, so that is how I found this channel. I am surprised at how much more it has to offer. You two are amazing! I hope someday "German Boyfriend" will come on camera too. Thanks for your content. I love it.

[@SpeedOfTheEarth]

Once again you two are the most adorable wholesome couple on the english speaking Germany-KZbin corner. I feel german boyfriend as a fellow german, I hate having to answer anything meaningful within seconds, I want to think deeply when it is something emotional being asked.

[@ivyrose779]

I LOVED this video!! It’s so nice to learn about your honest, authentic experience!

[@KasSommers]

Even asking "uncomfortable" questions, you are both very honest in your answers. The communication between you two is enviable, you are not afraid to say what you do or do not like about the other person's habits. If everyone was as open with their partner as you two are, the divorce rate would be lower.

[@BCS2023]

I love all your videos but this one the most!! I have Vietnamese friends and German friends and your observations on cultures are very true !!

[@PatsyHillyer-hy3ud]

Love this!!!! Learning so much from the two of you. And I smile non-stop!!!! 😘

[@bonnieparmain7463]

So nice to see you acknowledging and working with your differences.

[@ginaunger2399]

That was a really interesting look at a couple dealing with a lot of differences -Thanks for sharing!

[@somehappenings246]

Great, fun video,… can’t believe watching a couple talk is so interesting. Thank you for sharing.

[@medicbabe2ID]

You two are my favorite people. I love your story and all your videos about your lives. Your humor is the dopamine hit of the day 💕

[@juststoppingby390]

Love you two. Two different cultures and languages but you have made a lovely couple. You both have such a great sense of humour and you are very open people. You really fit well. I love that I'm learning about Vietnamese and German people and how they feel about things

[@yolernlimn3574]

This video is just so cute. I have a huge smile on my face as I am watching it. It is so sweet and authentic. Loved it.

[@11iamuyam]

Thank you for sharing this experience and I noticed that your cultural differences are similar to me and my parents, because they're vietnamese, but I was born and grew up in Czech Republic, plus my parents never had time for me and my sister, so the cultural difference are really noticeable

[@hanna-ug6fk]

The way he was playing with soft toy🙈 behind uyen ... So cute Stay together and happy ❤️🤗

[@SeriesNerd]

One of your very best videos, funny, honest and love is in the air. You both make me happy, thanks!

[@christa2373]

This is such a cute video. I like that you guys can be honest with each other and still laugh at the differences. I hope you guys have a happy and long relationship

[@lauren9667]

You two could teach a relationship course. Everyday won’t be sunshine and rainbows, but you communicate honestly and that makes all the difference!

[@nicoleta-ninabasoc574]

Kinda missed ths type of vlogs, so comfy, keep it up!

[@Kuni02120]

Omg! You feel more confident when you speak English!? Me too!!! It's amazing how language changes our... mood(?) and even our way of thinking!!

[@dylanthevillian516]

Yes! Granted, I’m more fluent in English than Spanish these days but Spanish was my first language. I’ve noticed that I have a deeper and firm yet feminine voice in English and in Spanish it’s much softer, quiet and higher in pitch lol.

[@Kuni02120]

@@dylanthevillian516 Everything gets deeper in English haha Most of my friends have higher pitch voice when they speak Japanese than English haha

[@lellydeasis2371]

The two of you click because you celebrated each other’s cultural differences instead of head butting about it wanting to change the other guy. Love your relationship, watching your videos are not only entertaining but really very educational.. i watch your videos repeatedly and didn’t get tired of it.

[@jasminvomwalde7497]

This is now my favorite video of yours, so wholesome ❤

[@kagitsune]

You guys handle conflict so well, it's really aspirational!

[@doodahgurlie]

Such an entertaining video brimming with humor and sweetness. You guys are adorable together. This is probably one of my favorite long form videos so far.

[@olgaolszewska1545]

Yes, yes, yes!

[@ishalahiri5927]

I REALLY ADORE YOU GUYS SO MUCHHH

[@HunterBelkiran]

I love this couple so much ! You both are so adorable.

[@Chooseashorterhandle2]

thank you for sharing your experience being in a multicultural relationship because i can see that as a possibility in my future and seeing couples who work out like this makes my day!!! ❤❤❤

[@p.s.shnabel3409]

My husband is American, I was originally from Germany. While that might not sound like much of a cultural difference, the very idea that we "know" American culture because of movies etc is very deceptive. It works great for us, though, because we're both xenophile. Probably the most important part is that you don't just passively accept that your partner is different, but that you enjoy it. If you're the kind of person who seeks out new experiences, this is for you. Good luck!

[@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole]

@@p.s.shnabel3409that’s so lovely - happy for you both - cheers!

[@freakanika]

This was a lovely video. Thank you both ❤

[@abubabalala7229]

Thanks for opening up and sharing your dating experience regarding cultural differences! I (Asian) also have a German boyfriend (and yes, every time I tell people that I think of you lol) and certain things give rise to our conflicts that are culturally related. I was feeling a bit bumped about this but now I see it's a normal thing for interracial couples, and in the end, it is possible to create an even more rich and deep relationship! Thank you for giving me confidence to go on. :)

[@laurenthomas7074]

A really fun video, and I love your dynamic together

[@shelleyroper588]

This was soooooooo great! Thank you for inviting us in to your conversation! ❤

[@kimberlya7564]

Omg him with the axolotl 😂

[@Nini00000]

thank you for taking us with you on your sofa and having such a nice talk 💛

[@ManuelMoeGarcia]

I love both of your voices! So lovely to hear you speaking, great English accents!

[@todaywefly4370]

My relationship is mixed from two English speaking countries and I can say the pressures are there anyway. What makes it work is personality and tolerance.

[@IRC1026]

These videos are soooooo much fun and interesting for us. Hope you will do more in the future (THANK YOU).

[@thanhhongnguyen2698]

Có thể kể câu chuyện để người ta nghe hết ngày này qua ngày khác không phải là dễ. Em rất là giỏi đấy Uyên. Chúc em thành công hơn nữa nhé

[@veritablecascade]

you two, and this channel, are my favorite.

[@jamdowndaughta]

Great conversation, you both communicate so well with each other! I’ve been binge watching your videos and think you’re fun, thoughtful and entertaining! I really enjoy your channel.

[@belmodany13]

You guys are so down to earth and so "normal" that I could totally see us being friends for a lifetime 😂 If you're ever around Stuttgart and want to meet up, feel free to reach out! We have a lot of intercultural funny stories for you!

[@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole]

I’m a big fan of these guys too. I’m visiting Germany soon, do you recommend Stuttgart? [sorry if this is weird, no need to reply ✌️]

[@themszanessafan4eva]

@@FollowmedowntheNumberWholei personally don‘t like Stuttgart that much! :D i recommend hamburg, münchen or berlin if u wanna visit a big city

[@virginiamccarter6638]

You were fortunate to find one another. Great video.