Going Deeper with Lala Kent - F*ckboy Eras, Motherhood, and Burning Bridges | The Viall Files

Welcome back to The Viall Files: Going Deeper Edition! Today we are joined by Vanderpump Rules’ Lala Kent to talk about all things Season 10, drama with castmates, and her ongoing relationship with Randall. Where does she stand in her custody battle, what advice does she have for other women, and which castmates have been the most helpful or harmful? We get all of the answers. We then have a Texting Office Hours caller who found out that the guy she slept with actually has a girlfriend and a child, and isn’t sure if or how to reach out and let her know.
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[@UnderExposedKate]

If kids are so resilient why are so many adults in therapy for things that happened in their childhoods? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@justine5405]

Lala starts at 26:01

[@exposedtea5936]

QUEEEEENNNNNN I LOVE YOUUUUU! Thanks

[@TrueBeautifulSoul179]

Thank you sooooo much!!!!!

[@Croxpod]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@sleeplessinsilverlakes6637]

I hate when people say kids are resilient, they actually are not at all and they carry burdens from their childhood well into adulthood

[@PK-le2ok]

completely agree..

[@starrleneholloway8033]

@sleeplessinsilverlakes....sounds like u want people still 2pity u from whatever happened 2u in ur childhood...NEVER LET IDIOTS PITY U..IT'S DISGUSTING

[@Birdiee93x]

100000000000%!!!! Hello childhood trauma 😂

[@buffybot5787]

It’s true and I isn’t. Kids ARE more resilient in the moment to bounce back from things and to move on through big life changes because they are used to everything changing apace with them as they grow so fast. Adults are much more stuck in their ways and their realities and have a harder time coping when big things come along and unseat them. Yes kids might be left with some trauma that comes out later on but the same can be said for adults too 🤷🏼‍♀️ Children are resilient and they do recover quicker than adults from most things because it’s the nature of their existence.

[@dest1722]

This isn’t entirely true Everyones resiliency is different

[@katietatum2061]

Ok I only saw Nick on bachelor and truly his way of questioning his guests are so refreshing. He gets very deep. Love the convos

[@klynj526]

If ONLY this interview was done after today!!!! Would love to hear Lala's thoughts and comments about Sandoval and Raquelle getting caught!

[@kerstinfontaine7941]

I knowwww

[@DandMProduction]

Ikr

[@samanthaorologio6866]

I know I’m so sad there’s NO JUICE this time. Maybe one by one he’ll have each cast member back to tell their thoughts.

[@kelsiespear621]

She literally posted everything on instant stories lol

[@courtneymortillaro6907]

@@kerstinfontaine7941 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢🎉

[@ningyding]

This is the beginning of a beautiful friendship between Nick and Lala 🫶

[@kerstinfontaine7941]

I know, I was shipping them. 😅

[@leemythic4400]

That's not what I got from their talk lol. They seem to have different standards for friendships

[@GameLover-pz5zc]

Not anymore. Nowadays, Nick keeps talking about Lala & Scheana like a dog, calling them bitter and jealous of Ariana.

[@kylieerynne]

I felt this interview on a deep, soulful level. Like, for those who don't have a deep level of awareness... this might not hit home. But this is actually such a deep conversation full of so many nuggets.

[@miriamstrauss]

My husband calls me in the middle of the day every day for the past 8 years. He has a job and actually runs his own business. But he will always find time in his work day to call me and if I call him he will always pick up or call me back as soon as he can. Having time in the middle of the day to call someone is still possible when you’re working a full time job if you really care about someone. I am a lawyer and I find time to call my husband in between meetings and reviewing contracts. If I’m in the office, I’ll even go into a conference room just to call him in privacy. We talk and text multiple times during the day when we’re working, even though we will always see each other at the end of the day when we’re both home. It’s something I love about him. Sometimes he just calls to check up on me and the dog lol.

[@tamilee9462]

I miss my albert. we were like exactly like this.....I've ;ost a lot of weight since his passing. He would talk in his sleep about food...chicken parm, everything bagel with cream cheese and bacon.... big mac.... Then he would complain I was always hungry lol

[@miriamstrauss]

@@tamilee9462 Aww that's so sweet. I'm sorry you lost him. I can't imagine how tragic that would be. I try to remind myself that every moment is a gift and most people never even get to find a relationship like that, so we have both been very blessed it seems.

[@sarahjay720]

I love watching on KZbin, would you guys be able to put whatever is on the tv screen youre looking at bigger so we can see!!

[@britty41286]

or include it in the video. Zane and Heath Unfiltered does a pretty good job of it for example

[@SHAPESHIFTDance]

Same with Dear Shandy - they add visuals. It’s strange to have a huge screen only for Nick and guests view

[@dawnlamm1]

I agree! So frustrating to not be able to see what they are talking about!

[@danielleevans6209]

Agree the screen should be on the green wall with your logo Love the wall and the detail but i feel like I’m watching a conversation i don’t care to watch when you guys are talking about details that 1)that have nothing to do with the interview I’m waiting to see and 2) we can’t even see what you’re talking about

[@tanyat7333]

Agree!

[@JayJay-oo1qi]

“I often smile most when I think about my most painful experiences.” I knew I liked you.

[@lalae2023]

I love lala so much. I've watched almost all of her interviews lately she's a badass mom and woman❤ thanks for inspiring us.

[@lalaa8653]

What a great conversation. Nick I know ppl have different opinions about certain topics but your podcast is always intriguing and makes you think great job to you guys

[@DreaBriana]

Lala has shown so much strength and growth after becoming a mom. ❤

[@debbieb395]

No. She uses being a mom as an excuse to justify her awful behavior. Shes vile

[@XakPhane]

@Nick, I haven’t watched The Bachelor since season 2. Therefore I have no opinions of who you are. I hopped on to watch this podcast for the LIB fiasco and I have now binged at least a few episodes by now. I have to say that I truly enjoy how you and your team interview your guests. It’s insightful, relatable, so real and you guys do such a great job at getting answers. You’ve absolutely gained a new fan!

[@mariasophia89]

The BEST episode yet! Lala was fantastic... I like the way Nick was interacting with Lala.. they would honestly be great hosting a podcast together. Lala was so comfortable and the conversations were interesting and not forced. Go for more of this vibe!!

[@elizaglenn6404]

I saw a tiktoc of a girl talking about how she does not wash her hands after leaving the public bathroom, and I was SHOOK that in the comments so many people said that they do that too. Truly, a community for ANYONE.

[@kathleenwhitlow7820]

I see women do this in the bathroom/locker room at my gym and I’m baffled. Not for nothing, they should at least wash them out of shame.

[@AMYV3]

True lol. most just do the dip wash anyways. They know No soap comes out of the dispenser, but still give it a pump and do a 2 second dip through the water hitting the dryer with their elbow on the way out. 🤭Let’s be real. Lol.

[@birdandTheWord]

This conversation was EPIC. You both seem like you understand each other on a fundamental level I’m hoping this becomes a real friendship honestly! Lala is amazing, need more real people like y’all out there 💯

[@alayssia1783]

This is an incredibly vulnerable and beautiful episode

[@harrylederman1679]

You don't realise how intelligent lala is until you listen to a podcast like this because going off the show Vanderpump Rules you get a very surface perspective of her character... thanks for this podcast and what excellent questioning and interviewing skills from Nick

[@bubblybubbles73]

He's amazing.

[@spencerscorsone9816]

13:36 the sit the fuck down really got me 🤣🤣🤣

[@heatherc.5760]

We need more men like Nick in this world. Nvr really agree with someone on every level but Nick I do n I respect it.

[@samanthaorologio6866]

I heard that our lowest deepest darkest hardest moments are also our best moments in life BECAUSE we really come into who we are and LEARN what we’re made of and how we survive and strengthen ourselves and so much more. Damn life is so fucking wild.

[@Gabby.3xo]

The intro before the interview has me always laughing! I love your dynamic and you guys are hilarious 😂😂

[@rayofvelvet]

Recap: 26:00: 💬 Lala discusses loyalty, friendships, and being perceived as intimidating. 35:20: 💔 Lala discusses feeling hurt by comments about her relationship and motherhood, and vows to confront those who weaponize her pain. 44:34: 💔 Discussion on love, relationships, and being cautious in dating due to past experiences. 53:42: 🎢 Lala reflects on painful experiences, finding exhilaration in surviving them and being reminded by scents and songs. 1:03:04: ⚖️ Lala discusses her co-parenting situation with Randall and prioritizing her daughter's well-being. 1:11:58: 🗣️ Discussion about conflict avoidance and its impact on relationships and friendships. 1:20:42: 🤔 Discussion about the complexities of friendships, vulnerability, and associations with controversial individuals. 1:30:12: 🔍 Highlighting the importance of helping someone in need and providing them with an opportunity to determine who they can trust. 1:38:52: 💔 Discussion about a regretful encounter, sharing screenshots, and offering empathy to the girlfriend of the person involved. 1:48:28: 👩‍🦰 Lala discusses the unequal blame placed on women for men's actions and the need for accountability. Recap by Tammy AI

[@salamoore]

This was a great interview!

[@cj245]

the amount of respect i have for this woman in insane. I knew I liked her from the start of Vanderpump but holy shit, she's amazing. she is a reality tv star that you actually want to look up to shes not just talking about her book or stupid brand deals on these podcasts its very refreshing.

[@donnastorz1766]

Lala is not stupid i guess she was just blinded by private planes fancy vacations, gifts showing off to her friends. Unfortunately now your daughter will be affected by this break up and once old enough to read and watch everything on mommy and daddy. This will definitely be trama, drama and scaring sorry no matter how you slice it

[@nicolecook1245]

Helpful suggestion, can you guys zoom in on the screen or whatever they are sharing? I never see what you guys are talking about. Lol

[@fifilamoore1718]

❤I love the fact Lala engaged with all three podcast hosts.She’s super cool 🫶🏻🙏fifi

[@kerstinfontaine7941]

ONE DAY AT A TIME LALA! You’re amazing, you’re such a loving mother. You clearly will protect your daughter and anyone you love so fiercely and selflessly. I love you. I always have! ❤❤❤❤

[@britty41286]

i used to not like LaLa when she was first on the show but boy have i grown to love her so much! i feel like shes grown so much or just became more "herself" on camera but shes amazing, intelligent and beautiful and funny...i just love her! i know a lot of people judge her but they dont see what shes been thru or maybe they havent been thru real shit in life so they dont get her...great interview! also, please include clips of whatever video, pic or other "internet" stuff you guys are talking about on the screen so we can all see it too

[@danastewart9281]

I like to believe anything bad can happen to you in a Chilis’. Epic statement & words to live with ! 😂😂😂🙏❤️

[@Chloehelser]

I love you, Amanda for pronouncing keto like “khetto”, similar to ghetto. Lolol

[@mrsjessicasmith]

It had me questioning myself hahaha

[@salamoore]

Whoever edits these videos - first of all, great job! Would love it if we could see what is on the TV screen at the beginning of a new topic, especially at the episode beginnings. Probably not always possible and maybe it's not worth the extra work, but the top of the screen is kind of a tease

[@DJoy96]

Great interview! Lala is such a badass! Sometimes a hot mess but at least she owns her sh*t. Love that about her.

[@creamsaroyan7358]

I used to listen to Layla and Randalspodcast he seemed like the nicest most positive kindest person. That was just his public persona

[@SueOwen33]

What a beautiful conversation! Subscribed!

[@michaelshinners6847]

She can STILL and ALWAYS make her daughters life great! Never forget.

[@llandon16]

also i love nick but he was def tested with lala in terms of her intelligence. shes like his female match lol

[@kezi7043]

🤣 at lala at the end giving that girl advice to Tell the 'other woman" she slept with her partner the other night. What about Lala's reaction to all the ppl who warned HER about Randall when they were still together?! None of those ppl got Thanks from Lala! They were sprayed with vitriol and hate!

[@kathleenwhitlow7820]

This is my first time really watching this podcast. I watched for Lala but I am a huge bachelor nation fan. I’m really impressed with how much Nick has changed and matured since his time on that show. You may have just gained a new regular listener. I already love Lala and now I really like Nick.

[@adorejayy834]

Ok but Lisa was right she was young & pretty and very naive and She turned a blind eye

[@LXS1303]

This woman is frikking gorgeous and full of life! I love her intelligence, capacity for self-analysis and interest in growth and change. Big fan.

[@lauramoor7730]

Nick please make her come back!!! We need lala back after all the chaos!

[@gaelenoconnell-bidabadi]

I loved this interview so much! Congrats to you, LaLa, for being so independent and strong and such an amazing advocate for you and your beautiful daughter! I'm a huge fan of yours here and love the lessons you're sharing with all us all here. Appreciate it so much esp too b/c I have a 4 year old daughter myself. Hugs. I also have to say the name "Ocean" esp for a girl is beautiful, I love that.

[@It0621]

I agreed with 99% of what nick said through this episode.

[@mjc9958]

Lala completely missed the mark when Nick said that friendships in L.A. are based off of convenience....She wants her friends to ask how she's doing and care about her life but she herself burns bridges if her friends "don't add to her life" or "suck her soul dry" when she's around them. Does she not realized that she's doing to others exactly what she doesn't want done to her? She's literally proving Nick right, she's "burning bridges" because she finds it inconvenient to deal with other people's issues, but she wants them to care about hers 🤨. She's right, she's not a good friend, because that seems totally one sided.

[@emilysalazar957]

I’m a SAHM, and yes lala, is right. I don’t have the connections or money she has but we always need a plan b! My husband is perfect and supports us BUT I’m finishing up my certifications in IT as a Latina, for my daughter and I. Even if my husband and I last forever, what gets me through school is realizing I can give my daughter everything she wants and needs on my own. I’m doing all of this so one day she knows she doesn’t need anybody.

[@lbca81]

Much respect. Great conversation

[@harrylederman1679]

Lala Kent at 1 hour and 21 minutes ''' dude you'd be a tough one to be friends with '' comment of the night ..... And has you thinking about Nick's elevated expectations of friendships

[@lazavionsmith2540]

"I threw up Taco Bell and went back" low-key trying to say yes I 🍻 before going to Taco Bell

[@nbpg8103]

why does the red headed chick at the end ask the same question 4 ways? we got it the first time.

[@LisaRumler8427]

Lala, as a child of divorce, at Ocean's age, she will think it's normal. She is at a young age. My brother was a bit older than her when they divorced. He didn't see a difference. You're a strong woman and will guide her so she won't feel different from other kids. You got this!

[@sorayakhan7627]

Cereal? Who wants to hear people slurp milk lol

[@kerstinfontaine7941]

1:02:25 just thinking about Lala being in recovery, I’ve been sober for just over 2yrs. And as they were speaking about regrets and what you can control… like thank God Lala is an alcoholic and leaner how to deal with it. I can’t imagine trying to go through this without coping skills. 🙏❤️

[@kshejohnson9207]

I cannot stand when people say kids are resilient. I know everybody says that to make themselves feel better. Kids are not resilient. They carry their trauma to adulthood which then results in lots of therapy for the childhood trauma

[@harrylederman1679]

Yet again you were showing us and talking about Drew Barrymore images like you were about images on the last episode about a different image but you failed to show us even though we're watching on KZbin..... Can you either show us all the images via well-positioned camera or don't invite the FOMO ..... Now I want to see Drew Barrymore's pictures that you refer to but I'm frustrated because you don't even give a link

[@whitneykoyle-sy7df]

Can someone tell me how I can watch/listen to “better date than never” after the fact? Or can you ONLY listen while it’s live?

[@kathleenwhitlow7820]

I think with Amp you can only do it live. But I’d love to know if there’s another way. I listen to a show on Thursdays at 5 pm while I walk my dogs because I can’t listen anywhere else.

[@robynleighs]

I worked @ Islands! It's my fave!! Love y'all ❤️

[@AMYV3]

Buttttttt … I’ve done that twice. Once I didn’t sleep with the man. Just saw him with a woman not his wife. (And three children. They don’t have an open marriage) I told both women. Both I ended up the one that was seen as a liar. The one with the 3 children my husband saw them too and suggested I tell her. But they didn’t blame him. I didn’t know the first one I met and knew for only a week. Ended it when I found out. And I was soooo kind to both women. Told them having complete empathy and didn’t stay over involved. But wow would I do it again. Idk. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@tipntot]

Listening to Lala talk about how the hardest part is what is happening to her daughter. I am a mom of 3 boys and my husband was arrested in July so sine then I have been alone. Its hard but the hardest part is that my kids are hurting because their dad isnt in the home anymore. That is the hardest part. I may be out but they arent...

[@ThemboCinema]

Omg the date of this episode

[@alicepuna8820]

Where can we get updates on the call hour I have been watching these all day and I want to know the ipdates

[@jenniferwhitt3154]

She wanted to leave for a really long time, but instead she stayed and had a kid??? Lala is so fake and stayed with Randall for his Money which has been her motive since day 1.

[@oliviamartin6963]

Hard disagree with the cereal w/ milk. I say some soft fruits like peeled oranges, strawberries. Yogurt. Maybe some bread, or baked goods. Those are the most considerate in my opinion.

[@tamaraperras9853]

Wow, this aged well. Great interview!

[@ceciliaiwilliams6832]

this shit was good Lala is truly evolving!

[@victoriagrijalva6295]

This healed me

[@danastewart9281]

Best line ever spoken in an argument, Lala to Katie, DISENGAGE!! I don’t argue often but I most definitely stole it and put it my arsenal!😂😂😂🙏❤️

[@cartot92cottumd]

Was there ever an update on the caller who unknowingly slept with someone’s baby daddy ?! If so what episode pleaseee

[@nebulavenus]

19:06 so true we should be able to disagree with friends but at the end of the day still be friends

[@mariegillespie8685]

Love me some LaLa she says in a real down to earth way

[@JuliaZaretskaya]

I love Lala and loved this, BUT she was so hypocritical talking about how her friends should reach out to see how she’s doing and then 10 min later saying she doesn’t want friends to do that because she has her family. I was confused and wish Nick questioned that.

[@danastewart9281]

Lala is awesome!! 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@kathleenwhitlow7820]

Is having a virtual breakfast that needs champagne a thing? I was so confused by that.

[@nairnair7726]

Hmmm, they would make a great couple 😘

[@Kelsey0652]

Let’s just watch Nick drool over lala

[@darleneholden6262]

Why would someone want someone else's pity I don't get it.

[@Bernie3000]

Agreed.

[@angelcastillo4307]

hell yeah LALA i total agree totally what i teach my children ... i understand if the man wants to take care of you and have a family but a woman should never lose herself in the relationship or marriage a woman needs to be there own individual as well as well vise vera if a man is the stay at home daddy .... and your children will totally appreciate that

[@shellonthedaily]

lala but you had katie helping build chairs lol

[@miriamstrauss]

Red flag sandwich is anything on a scooped out bagel or scooped out baguette. They’re just masquerading as a sandwich person.

[@SNOW.STORM30]

I'm not American but I visit LA every couple of years and I find it completely hysterical that the response to the rapidly growing homeless crisis going on in LA was to change the terminology from homeless to unhoused, so on brand for California! It's the most meaningless and empty response imaginable, I assure you no homeless person is concerned with what word you're using to convey their living situation but would rather some form of action is taken to help them remedy it. Great for Dave Grohl, that is such a wonderful thing to do.

[@lisawolstenholme4944]

I love you stumbled on ya by accident and I just love ya Lisa from Manchester England and lala buzz of you telling it like it is girlfriend💯💃💃

[@indigofairy]

Never listened to this human- maybe seen him once. I am the same way as Lala and you- nick, are you a Virgo lol? I actually have the same birthday as LVP, sept 15th and I guess prince Harry and other people that day but you seem to think very deeply and idk- very relatable. Stopped this only a few minutes in because not taking victim mentality is huge for me and I’m digging all of this- subscribed noW. Appreciate this dialogue

[@lunas2551]

Lala, you are forever my favorite from the cast. And I love how maturely you described what you are most proud of 💗💗

[@isabellelightwood6894]

loooove Lala!!!

[@jaimebernthaler4947]

Yes please get to LaLa

[@MrsPhoenix2020]

I do the background check too lala...I get it

[@doloresrodriguez6715]

You have to do a background check especially when you live in LA.

[@robertsmoker6655]

nicks untied shoes is killing me

[@mollywillis9430]

You two should work together!!!!! You guys vibe

[@heatherc.5760]

I am telling u Virgos are a blessing men n women. Their real no sugar coating n will be loyal to no fault even if they don't agree they will tell u but still have ur back like real ppl should. They say if u have nvr slept with a Virgo or had a friend that's a Virgo ur missing out. They lead with all heart n love n their gut feelings are spot on n I am a Virgo fan! Love LaLa n LVP both Virgo's even Beyonce is a Virgo, alot of the greats are Virgos.

[@Jillahhh]

This is dangerous advice, telling the wife can be very harmful depending on the guy and situation. You can always do it anonymously or wait some time so he doesn’t know it’s you?? Idk then she might not believe it

[@pamelagoodman7559]

Re: friendships. Not everyone is meant to be an entree. Appetizers have their place. ✌️😂

[@noted_9743]

"I don't associate with weakness" God forbid anyone in your life shows vulnerability or "weakness." You all have been that person yet love to aim at the weaker link. You think you're the alpha, but you're just a bully.

[@pixymixy1980]

Meh, she’s not a bully, she just doesn’t want to associate with weak ass cowards that bend because they don’t want to be unpopular rather than stand their ground and do the right thing. Weakness to her I believe is NOT OWNING your shit and weaseling out of it with bullshit excuses. I think Lala respects people that own their weaknesses and actively WORK on those weaknesses rather than deny that they have any .

[@noted_9743]

@Pixy Mixy meh, being weak isn't something any therapist would refer to anyone as. Enough with the alpha shit.

[@ilayragarcia873]

Just ask the question… he goes on and on and on

[@binderorbust9960]

Nice job, Lala ❤️😎

[@haleym]

With peace and love, a timestamp would have been lovely

[@nz3644]

Integrate your ego and shadow self to truly find inner peace and strength

[@denisepenta3415]

Nice to see LaLa Kent does have a strong moral compass. I realize this as she talks about feeling guilty about bringing Ocean into a conflicted relationship. I like her, but I do wish she'd be more private with her sexuality. Ocean is likely going to view the tv shows and be embarrassed about her mother's lack of privacy and liberalness. I know that's me being judgmental, but for me no matter what people's sexuality should be private publicly. It's not a problem talking among a small group of friends who you are intimate with, but not for the world to know so much.

[@VPRlover]

Lala is my favorite person ❤