How to receive PRINCESS TREATMENT (do less)

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Vickita Trivedi

Vickita Trivedi

Күн бұрын

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@buggeyed139
@buggeyed139 10 ай бұрын
‘Doing more for them does not make them like you. How you make them feel does. It’s how you make him feel. You have to make him feel good in relation to you’
@MissBluebirddays
@MissBluebirddays 10 ай бұрын
Gold. I'm finally starting to understand it!
@buggeyed139
@buggeyed139 10 ай бұрын
@@MissBluebirddays me too☺️
@Sunshineandrainbows234
@Sunshineandrainbows234 10 ай бұрын
50/50 men though….. kill sexual polarity too
@UltimateRadeScene
@UltimateRadeScene 10 ай бұрын
My brain can not comprehend, but this is 100% true and I need to work on this.
@Epiphemma
@Epiphemma 9 ай бұрын
It’s crazy because we could think that pleasing them sexually is what we should do in the moment because they do want that, but ultimately if you do it too soon it could have the opposite effect and they might lose respect for you and it sucks when that happens.
@jessecaw.3714
@jessecaw.3714 10 ай бұрын
Thank you. Yesterday I had a man call me a "princess" because I told him I didn't want to go on a date after he ghosted me for over a day. He did it before too (left me on read for four days) and I gave him this last chance. When I said I needed someone communicative he said I was expecting way too much. Hahaha. Like boy, if you think texting a woman back within a reasonable amount of time is princess treatment then I know I'd never even get flowers from you on birthdays. NO THANKS.
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
thank u, next
@Sunflower-uh3em
@Sunflower-uh3em 10 ай бұрын
Happens to me too, I block them.No thks, bye 🙋🏻‍♀️.
@johnsonjo8454
@johnsonjo8454 10 ай бұрын
@@VickitaTrivedi hai darling💋💋💋🤎
@unicorn73212
@unicorn73212 10 ай бұрын
​@@Ark-ys2upyeah she's also forgetting that feminine energy will move away from masculine energy that is not strong or balanced she will feel either unprotected or smothered if they move to closely towards you because we don't want his toxically masculine energy to rub off on us I don't agree with treating men like toddlers either but I also don't agree with letting them treat you like a toddler because it's gross if that's why he's attracted to you. And once again if that man doesn't know how to balance his emotions in a healthy way he's not going to go very far in life with any woman because the kind of woman he's asking for doesn't find him attractive and she may never will because he's looking to deeply into it that it doesn't feel natural or healthy anymore for her to continue pursuing him for any reason. If he doesn't have his emotions in check or his shit together she will always be turned off by this because it's just dumb for a man to play dumb like that because it doesn't work for them. There trying to be someone there not and that's what's pushing women away from them is the aggression and overly loud obnoxious stories about all there ex lovers cheating on them. I find it funny when they sit there and have the nerve to wonder why she cheated on them too some women have very good reasons for it even if it's not socially acceptable some women just don't care about men to that level because they found out it wasn't worth it. They convinced themselves that they were the prize here and that's how they would up with a less attractive woman.
@danicaharley6273
@danicaharley6273 10 ай бұрын
A disrespecting loser who couldn't even meet the bare minimum 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️
@anyaf.6946
@anyaf.6946 9 ай бұрын
The older I get, the more this realization keeps hitting me. No matter what, no matter if you do more, if you do less, if someone does not want you, or is unhappy with themselves. Nothing will change that. Nothing. Stop putting so much pressure on yourselves ladies. If you don’t like how they are treating you, as you are, just quietly leave and move on.
@alhassanfirrdous7292
@alhassanfirrdous7292 7 ай бұрын
That's is why you have to do less, so that incase he is a player, and does not want any commitment, you saved yourself from mental trauma and emotional headache!
@Tiffanyii
@Tiffanyii 5 ай бұрын
In fact the very first thing we ought to do is to check if he is the type for us we should have some standards and one of them is ( a gentleman and a provider mentality)
@buggeyed139
@buggeyed139 10 ай бұрын
‘You’ll either be too high mantainence for someone who can’t provide for you or just right for someone who’s been waiting for a girl like you’
@Sunshineandrainbows234
@Sunshineandrainbows234 10 ай бұрын
50/50 men though….. kill sexual polarity too
@danicaharley6273
@danicaharley6273 10 ай бұрын
Why would anyone want any man who can't provide for them
@JankSentient
@JankSentient 10 ай бұрын
Why would any man want a women like this. Thats why no one likes anyone these days😮‍💨
@yvonnemukupa1670
@yvonnemukupa1670 8 ай бұрын
My experience, very heart breaking.
@44schreiber44
@44schreiber44 5 ай бұрын
@user_abcxyzz
@user_abcxyzz 10 ай бұрын
Work on yourself. SELF LOVE. Once you discover that, the wrong people will dismiss themselves and the good ones will rise to your level. Thats really it!
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
amen!
@lifeofamodernwoman
@lifeofamodernwoman 9 ай бұрын
Even when you do this, for years, it doesn’t happen as easily as you think.
@lavenderangel2655
@lavenderangel2655 9 ай бұрын
​@@lifeofamodernwomanits because you're still not focusing on yourself so you're not getting the self love you need to carry with you. Focus on loving yourself, being kind to yourself, healing your past and taking care of your body for the sake of loving yourself, knowing yourself and setting the standard for how you are to be loved, not for "it to work." That shows that you are focused on them, outward and not inward, drawing them close etc. and probably have that energy targeted toward someone specific. There will be people who will not level up with you, some might, but you have to be willing to let go. You're inner work also helps you to do that and lean on your faith.
@Lovelove77788
@Lovelove77788 9 ай бұрын
Exactly 💯 💛💙💕
@MA-2020
@MA-2020 8 ай бұрын
No one say it's easy, but you are on your way🤍. Don't worry too much about the outcome, enjoy the process✨ @@lifeofamodernwoman
@amandah1875
@amandah1875 10 ай бұрын
Dating should be with the intent to marry only. Don't give your body up until then. It cuts out so much wasted time and hurt feelings.
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
1000% second this comment
@libralibra417
@libralibra417 10 ай бұрын
It’s the best ❤️
@ysl23addidasq
@ysl23addidasq 9 ай бұрын
They’re really are people out here dating to just sleep around . Hence why tinder and all the other dating apps are still in business. Designed to keep the people on there single
@srikrishnavasanth3895
@srikrishnavasanth3895 9 ай бұрын
💯
@Dope_Zero
@Dope_Zero 9 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@FightOrDie08
@FightOrDie08 9 ай бұрын
Dang as a dude this is a super good video. I’m doing the best to stop worrying about what a woman can give me and instead how can I be a good man for her. It’s refreshing hearing a woman talk about woman learning how to appreciate a man. That’s what we are starving for. I just ordered the book “Love & Respect.” Can’t wait to dig into it.
@Relle.
@Relle. 8 ай бұрын
I am your first subscriber! appreciate your comment. ✨✨much abundance and prosperity and peace to you 🦋
@TheRealVivia
@TheRealVivia 6 ай бұрын
Love this! This is the shift we need so we can have the polarity from both sides! ❤
@HippieHides
@HippieHides 5 ай бұрын
I'm reading that book right now too. It's enlightening on so many levels ❤
@eabr.26
@eabr.26 22 күн бұрын
The book is so good I hope you enjoy it and learn a lot
@dashboard-11
@dashboard-11 10 ай бұрын
A whole word and then some! I'm an older woman and I am so proud of the younger generation of women speaking up about these dynamics between men and women that have become skewed over time for various reasons. This was an incredible breakdown.
@honeyisnatural5
@honeyisnatural5 9 ай бұрын
“Is my feminine energy INSPIRING his masculine energy” someone else gave me this advice and it turned my boyfriend into my husband. 💍
@sarahwales6276
@sarahwales6276 8 ай бұрын
There are so many women who take on the majority of the mental load in a relationship. As soon as they get married or are in a long term relationship so many men love to hand that responsibility over to their partner I see it so often and experienced this. I broke up with my fiance because I had to organise house applications, bills, repayments, handing any conflicts, No, I looked ahead 10 years and thought, I do not want to be wearing the pants in this relationship in another 10 years.
@lizb941
@lizb941 6 ай бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@AshleyW954
@AshleyW954 8 ай бұрын
I started crying when you said a man should take your mental load. I’ve been in a marriage where I’ve been carrying massive burdens and it’s been so stressful. You are definitely living your purpose! I felt so guided to start watching your videos. Learning to be in my feminine energy has definitely been a theme for me lately.
@maditheplantlover
@maditheplantlover 10 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this. My current boyfriend and I are on a break right now and hearing this made me realize he is just immature and will never give me what I truly want and need. Throughout the relationship I drove him everywhere, always paid, always planned the dates, all while i was just begging for the bare minimum that I rarely recieved. He told me he isn’t ready for a relationship right now and I just sat their and cried and begged for him to reconsider basically saying I'd do anything to make it work. I told him I would throw away all of my standards and desires just to be with him because I love him. But honestly staying in a relationship because I love him and am scared of him finding someone else while I allow him to do whatever he wants probably isnt very good. I was starting to think that what I am asking for is too much but it wont be too much from the right person, and I hope he realises what an amazing girl he is losing.
@sparklybubbles2680
@sparklybubbles2680 10 ай бұрын
Break up already and move on! Do not wait to see him "Realize" cuz we both know if it were to happen it already would've but it wont! He had you easy and does not intend to put any efforts for you! Starting fresh with a new man with new standards is your answer! Leave this man like he never happened.. ❤️
@mks-one
@mks-one 10 ай бұрын
Girl, I wish you the best! Give yourself time to get over him and to heal yourself after the breakup, and I promise, you will have so much better! He won't realize you're worth, but someone else definitely will
@krispark888
@krispark888 10 ай бұрын
Yes get out of it early! I did that for 15 years it is not fun being that girl
@ChaChaWitYa
@ChaChaWitYa 10 ай бұрын
Please pour that love into yourself
@girlish-y4v
@girlish-y4v 10 ай бұрын
Hey, Can some1 pls guide me here.... Recently I met this guy who gave all the Healthy Masculine vibes... but later I saw him withdrawing n I matched his energy and distanced myself with an open heart.... later as thanks giving I sent him a gratitude note too as we weren't dating or something but still as a guy frnd he stood up for me when occasion demanded..... My quest here is when he has withdrawn n me sending this gratitude note will it be considered as me playing games to get him back or am simply dng it out of my nature (sending to all gratitude notes) I know my intentions but how it comes across to the other person matters too:) Thanks❤
@ak-47intelligence75
@ak-47intelligence75 10 ай бұрын
I just finished blocking 5 guys off of my rotational dating roster. Felt like THEY positioned themselves as the passive ones expecting ME to chase them. When they would talk to me, they'd offer me words of encouragement almost as if they wanted to INSPIRE me to take action to commit an act that leads to pursuing them 😂 NO. WAY.
@n1313_
@n1313_ 10 ай бұрын
That’s great! However, you’re attracted A LOT of feminine men, and feminine men get attracted to masculine women. So maybe you need to do some inner work on any wounded masculinity too ❤
@sunnysunflower5513
@sunnysunflower5513 10 ай бұрын
Can you give me an example of how they this this so I can spot this kinda of subtle stuff? ❤
@krispark888
@krispark888 10 ай бұрын
Yes this is dating now so many guys want to be chased it’s unattractive cause it’s unnatural
@Hello2u3582mypincode
@Hello2u3582mypincode 10 ай бұрын
Being a man I know a lot of men tend to follow the biggest Alpha males. There's a lot of dumb egoistic behavior in this. Out of frustration of not getting towards the top a lot of men tend to get sarcastic towards each other and eventually even lose their manliness towards women and/or become gay. All this behavior develops allready in most mens teenage years... Of course alpha females from the good and bad side exist as well, creating (focussing on the bad for now here..) sarcastic women (also through series like sex and the city, desperate housewives, etc.) and eventually very manly women. One very good solution for this is to choose the right friend groups!! Don't go into egoisticly, sarcastic friendgroups (no matter if you're a men or woman..). It will drain your energy and will drain your healthy energy which should be reserved towards the other sexe😊 This can be a lonely process at times, but more rewarding😎 and less lonely and draining then being around people who think it's okee to be fake and sarcastic🤢
@rainacherienne1010
@rainacherienne1010 10 ай бұрын
Most males now act very feminine and wants to be pursued. Doesn’t mean you’re masculine, like someone here stated. I wear dresses, have long hair, very feminine overall and still getting those passive guys too.
@AHEden
@AHEden 10 ай бұрын
Not exaggerating, this is the best video I’ve seen on describing these polarities when it comes to dating.
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
made my day
@Lovelove77788
@Lovelove77788 9 ай бұрын
I agree! I am so impressed with her 💙💯
@roze3703
@roze3703 8 ай бұрын
True
@KeiyaHood
@KeiyaHood 7 ай бұрын
Yes in a very kind poignant and classy way. ❤
@MGunanaickJalapathi
@MGunanaickJalapathi Ай бұрын
Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone
@aravoir
@aravoir Ай бұрын
100% a scam - this channel has only made 1 comment and so many other sketchy channels are making the same across other similar vids
@floofymuffin
@floofymuffin Ай бұрын
@@aravoir Seriously, a bot!
@jenniferluna1211
@jenniferluna1211 10 ай бұрын
Please please please make a part two! I’m constantly talking to my high school aged daughter about these things and you’re so helpful! She’ll watch the video and we’ll talk. It also helps to see her dad treat me like you talk about so it will help her not settle as well. Thank you!!!!!!
@user_abcxyzz
@user_abcxyzz 10 ай бұрын
The dad plays a big role in how women view themselves and how they view men. Dad needs to teach confidence and show his daughter how she should be treated. Unfortunately, a lot of us are fatherless, and a lot of present fathers are feminine in their own right. It's up to the individual to seek out this info as well.
@jenniferluna1211
@jenniferluna1211 10 ай бұрын
@@user_abcxyzz He treats me like a queen and she sees it. These videos help her see it from an outsider’s perspective and Vickita is much more eloquent than I.
@girlish-y4v
@girlish-y4v 10 ай бұрын
Ohh yes I'm 22 n I certainly observe my dad and mom.... also my dad surprises me and treats me like a queen so Ik exactly wht to expect from men I see women in comment section gng thru heartbreaks it pains my heart god bless them ❤ Love Vickita pls make such videos it gives us a model in current times
@aviana3841
@aviana3841 8 ай бұрын
You’re the best mom❤ she will grow up being really successful!
@char6081
@char6081 Ай бұрын
i wish my parents did that as an 18 year old
@honeyisnatural5
@honeyisnatural5 9 ай бұрын
I like how she’s not just giving women generic cliche top tips to keep a man. She’s actually breaking down the polar energy that is taking place. Then us as the audience can figure out what to do on our own. Simple yet deep well understood points to think about.
@TravelMamaAnnaVon
@TravelMamaAnnaVon 9 ай бұрын
I worked on myself for years, am very much a feminine, full time mom. I have standards. Haven't been asked out in two years. Just want to put it out there that there is a time limit on this. Please please learn this in your 20s when there are lots of options for husbands. I'm in my mid 40s and high value men are taken now. I refuse to change my standards and I am surrounded by gentlemen energy, but single men? None. So learn this sooner rather than later ladies
@Erica-cf1xb
@Erica-cf1xb 9 ай бұрын
That's an illusion. They are not. They want an independent person. Not a dependent. The real high value ones are sitting their milk in the freezer. The ones feeling around are in straight simp mode with multiple prostitutes. Both are getting sicker. He just doesn't know it yet.
@juliac2687
@juliac2687 9 ай бұрын
Please don't take it the wrong way, I don't know your situation, but I know women in their 40s or 50s who get pursued a lot. It has a lot to do with your self esteem/love for yourself and also how you visually present yourself. These women all take such good care of themselves, healthy eating, spa treatments, high quality clothing and etc. I'm just saying this, because it is definitely not too late for you to meet someone who is up to your standards!
@Sidera17
@Sidera17 9 ай бұрын
BINGO you nailed it OP. I was out of the dating pool fir 10 years (late 20s to mid 30s) due to becoming disabled, and when I reentered, I was more mature to know what I wanted but all the high value people have partnered up. Also, let's not lie that men are more looks and youthfulness driven in partner selection, and we literally can't compete with 20somethings (though men our age should not be dating them anymore!)
@TravelMamaAnnaVon
@TravelMamaAnnaVon 9 ай бұрын
I get pursued a lot as well, but not by the quality partner u would want to spend my life with. I look and feel the best I have ever felt but the real choice men are not playing any fields.
@2126Eliza
@2126Eliza 9 ай бұрын
High value men break up and get divorced every day. The things you tell yourself matter.
@lolelyn1
@lolelyn1 6 ай бұрын
I'm 27 and i feel like i really have to higher my standards immensely so i won't grt played all the time and treated like shit. Guys are just so manipulative in coming on super strong so you think they're really into you, but as soon as you show interest they're over the hill and testing your standards.. even kissing a guy without him asking you for a real date is leading nowhere.. i'm too soft for these stupid games of men -.-
@ExoticalT369
@ExoticalT369 10 ай бұрын
Real Talk: In my experience, dudes who are “toddlers” are that way because they’ve been coddled by their overbearing parents - blame the parents, they’re the real culprits! I know what I’m talking about. 👑
@dr.mahima
@dr.mahima 10 ай бұрын
Yes I agree, they have been spoiled by their parents. But after some point, it's an individual's responsibility to grow up n heal. In this day n age of immense knowledge on internet n various books, there is no excuse. More often dn not most ppl have childhood traumas but it's our responsibility to try to heal from it. So one shouldn't entertain such toddlers coz we ll become their enablers just like their parents were.
@karyng4448
@karyng4448 9 ай бұрын
And the world in general
@peaceandquiet1983
@peaceandquiet1983 9 ай бұрын
Mexican men
@ExoticalT369
@ExoticalT369 9 ай бұрын
@@peaceandquiet1983 Actually, my comment applies to men of all races and nationalities. 🤔
@eljofrva
@eljofrva 6 ай бұрын
Yep! Their mama’s boys in an extreme and unhealthy way! They’re looking for a woman to fill that role but they probably won’t marry the woman who does OR they do and expect her to do all of the labor - physical and mental (emotional) 🤮
@Yaboybreezyy
@Yaboybreezyy 7 ай бұрын
As a man watching this video I wanna say I do agree with a lot that she said. My only disagreement is when she said the more you do for a man the less he will care… me personally, when my woman does things for me it actually motivates me to do all I can for her because the relationship doesn’t feel one-sided… especially in todays world where a lot of women feel like they shouldn’t do anything for a man. Having a woman that genuinely cares for a mans well being is the ultimate prize❤
@ayaayayan
@ayaayayan 4 ай бұрын
Sadly doing more make alot of men lose feeling
@Missyisbored
@Missyisbored 4 ай бұрын
Well, it is a reality for many women that the more they do the less the men does It’s not about you it’s about them
@ka9202
@ka9202 10 ай бұрын
Like a psychologist said "Most people want what they want, not what wants them." To me it help us all (Men and Women) to take stock of what we are attracting and make adjustments from there or at least take it into consideration in picking a partner.
@jskyler7
@jskyler7 9 ай бұрын
I flip that quote into “What I want, wants me!” Self confidence and attitude is everything!
@brendanburress2696
@brendanburress2696 10 ай бұрын
Girl I watched this once….then rewinded it and watched it again! Great information as always ❤️
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
Yay! Thank you! ❤️
@marciavox8105
@marciavox8105 9 ай бұрын
Chapter cards: Masc/Fem explained: 3:07 High-value standards: 9:59 Pre-reqs for him: 14:45 Pre-reqs for you: 18:05 What you need to stop doing: 18:47
@nataliaonaire
@nataliaonaire 5 ай бұрын
@christinajackson3461
@christinajackson3461 10 ай бұрын
So when you feel the fear, instead of leaning forward and pressuring them even a little, lean back. Lean back into paying attention and healing yourself thus allowing him the space to come forward if he chooses. Mostly likely, he will sense some pain and distance and take a small step forward. This makes sense. And if you're going inward but not blocking him, just letting things be, and he still doesn't take a step forward to meet you a bit, then obviously he is not into it so you're best focusing on your own energy anyway. I hope I understand correctly.
@christinajackson3461
@christinajackson3461 10 ай бұрын
Allow for a bit of space and gap.
@girlish-y4v
@girlish-y4v 10 ай бұрын
Thanks for putting it together for us.... I feel bad when I lean bqck n the man still doesn,t step up to the occasion it almost feels like I can't have my desires met I can't do anything as a woman either a man is into me or not even though I may start having feelings for him! Damnnn
@Erica-cf1xb
@Erica-cf1xb 9 ай бұрын
​@@girlish-y4vStop leading with feelings. The walking dead do this.
@LKauf279
@LKauf279 9 ай бұрын
When a piece of shit walks away from you, take it as a badge of honor that you dodged a bullet!! Bad people walking away is a GOOD thing!!! We get so scared of rejection that we beg from attention from bad people smh@@girlish-y4v
@LKauf279
@LKauf279 9 ай бұрын
Only fall for men AFTER he falls for you. Limerence is a mental health issue. Only like people who like you back.@@girlish-y4v
@333lavender
@333lavender 9 ай бұрын
I've never heard or seen the energy play between the masculine and feminine so beautifully articulated. You had my complete attention the entire time, and I was able to take in this information so easily. Thank you so much❤
@Lovelove77788
@Lovelove77788 9 ай бұрын
She is absolutely right on this. Divine femininity is extremely powerful 💙
@ThaKingGoatNathaniel
@ThaKingGoatNathaniel 9 ай бұрын
I’m a king & I don’t want women that are acting on the wounded feminine energy, I want a woman that makes me feel comfortable, confident, seen, heard, and loved. I would be so glad to give to a woman that takes stress away from my life rather than adding more I just want a woman that I can have good conversations with, vibe well with, & be physically intimate with. I want to be tranquil & at peace But also happy & exited every day. Great video keep up the good work 👍
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 9 ай бұрын
totally agree! thanks for your perspective
@JZ-jy7uv
@JZ-jy7uv 4 ай бұрын
but do YOU give her peace? safety and security? ur post sounds like she would be completely on her own! her feelings ARE who she is!
@Christinesobsevations
@Christinesobsevations 9 ай бұрын
I love your channel ❤ I am 46 years old & have been on my self healing journey since 2019 & have stayed single & celibate since 2020 . It was the best decision I have ever made for myself . I realized through three years of solitude that it was ME all along . I was simply attracting exactly what I was at the time . Now , I continue to work on myself & the rest will follow ❤
@msmanager2775
@msmanager2775 8 ай бұрын
I am 44, on the same boat with you o. Healing and working on myself. I’m stlll on that journey and along the way the men who don’t respect me have dismissed themselves.
@buggeyed139
@buggeyed139 10 ай бұрын
The analogy about having invisible boundaries around you and an alarm goes off when they are stepped over is great. Also about knowing how you react to little things versus big things, an issue I have is not knowing how will react to certain types of boundaries being overstepped. When something small happens that I dislike I can disappear for days at a time so I suppose it doesn’t make any distinction between us something big happens
@marianabello8524
@marianabello8524 9 ай бұрын
When the Student is ready, the Teacher will appear. Thank you for being right on time in my feed... exactly ready to learn this contact during this time in my journey. Feel Blessed for having found your channel. Thank you! 💖
@Brosha101
@Brosha101 10 ай бұрын
This video literally came right on time …. I been accepting the bare minimum way too long. 😢❤. I need to stick to my boundaries.
@andreacharais8070
@andreacharais8070 10 ай бұрын
Honestly, I'm hooked. This is the solid advice I need without the pastel wording- it boils down to being a better healthier woman, to attract better healthier people around them. But on a side note, PLEASE, where did you get that amazing top because I love it!!
@missfabidia
@missfabidia 10 ай бұрын
Can you do a video on how to let your guard down once you are in a commited relationship with a healthy masculine man ?
@nicolen739
@nicolen739 10 ай бұрын
Loved the idea
@missfabidia
@missfabidia 10 ай бұрын
@@hdshjs I mean being vulnerable, opening up to him in order to buid emotional intimacy
@joopyjazz1
@joopyjazz1 10 ай бұрын
I 2nd this. This is my current chapter in life
@stargiirls
@stargiirls 10 ай бұрын
@@missfabidiaif you want to be vulnerable and open you have to FEEL safe, so either he’s not making you feel safe/secure enough or you might have trauma from past relationships that still needs to be healed. hope that helped a little💚
@missfabidia
@missfabidia 10 ай бұрын
@@stargiirls Yes it is coming from past trauma, thank you that's very kind of you💓
@vaambond2570
@vaambond2570 10 ай бұрын
The first 2 points are perfect! Most of the time of my life I attracted more feminine men. But I like it. That time. Because I was more in my masculine side. But now I want slow down and been treated. So I try to connect with my feminine energy to attract perfect masculine man.
@pfigam9780
@pfigam9780 11 күн бұрын
I'm 29 years old and always suffered in relationships because i would do anything for my man and get nothing back except trauma. I'm in therapy now and learned that my co-dependecy to my father and they way he raised me turned me into a desperate woman, seeking love and affection from emotionally unavailable men. This video helped me so much, i cried listening to you, you gave me many answers which i needed. Thank you! I'm learning and i want to do it better in the future.
@_itsholly
@_itsholly 10 ай бұрын
I effed up so much but ive been a health care assistant for 10 years and its aided me to care toooooo much about everyone elses needs except my own i even cut my hours down last year bc i needed to get my life together But i will heal!! And even if its not the guy i eff up with i willll get what i need and heal
@samiira4581
@samiira4581 10 ай бұрын
Iam 16year old and i love how i have this mindset at a young age ❤
@sparklybubbles2680
@sparklybubbles2680 10 ай бұрын
You are so lucky! At your age i was naive as hell but i am glad bcz of my strict mother i never had any physical experience with a man that is why i am still a virgin at 27 today, and i am soo freaking glad and happy about it! It makes me feel blessed not to be used by these jerk men! But there are more frogs than prince in the pond so we have to be very careful! You are already absorbing all the info and growing with it, i am sure you'll turn out like a total Queen 👑 ❤
@blaklena
@blaklena 5 ай бұрын
I am HP, I am very good at noticing very complexe and even abstract subjects and link them, understand them and explain them... and I get bored, fast, but you!! You have an extraordinary Relationship and Communicative intelligence! You do not judge, you state facts, you absolutely know what you are talking about and do not just repeat what someone else said! I am sooooo impressed (And that is really really hard to do!!) !! I am not searching at all for a relationship right now. But I believe that all Feminine/Masculine Dynamics first exist within us (often influenced by our parent's dynamics + our experiences). And you just helped me understand things and motivate me for my own self, Above and Beyond! A big Thank you and might you be blessed with all the Good stuff in all parts of your life!! 🥰💛💛💛
@soupafleye
@soupafleye 9 ай бұрын
13:48 this is such an important part of the video. ladies, men aren’t dumb or incapable. if they’re not doing something they’re choosing to do so. walk away. i think it’s very important to note that men and women are socialized to operate in these ways and thus why it can work as a dynamic. but if we can raise sons that’s don’t simply operate “logically” 🙄 and actively operate with their emotions as well because they haven’t been neglected or stored away, we’d see a much healthier world
@LuhRen
@LuhRen 4 ай бұрын
Ive been coming across content like is recently after deciding to try dating again. These videos are really just reassurance for me that im not asking for too much and to stand up for myself. Im a recovering people pleaser and that spilled into my dating life. Im no longer doing things for people im learning to do them for me. Thank you for this video keep up the amazing work.
@TheGeminiSociety
@TheGeminiSociety 10 ай бұрын
This video is so valuable and accurate. I watched it twice and I will probably watch it a third time to let it all sink in and process fully. You touch upon very real issues and the points you made are so eloquently voiced that rewatching the video is just a must! Thank you for sharing this, it's definitely an uplifting video.💜
@michellewilson8911
@michellewilson8911 7 ай бұрын
I blocked him because he was all talk and talk and never followed through with actions, I l kept going back because I thought he would eventually come through for me, nothing ever happened and now is the time to let him go and date people who actually want to show up for me and make things easy for me. No more people pleasing and letting time wasters into my life
@Jasmine-ls5wk
@Jasmine-ls5wk 5 ай бұрын
Yes ladies it’s time we change the game!!! 3 month rule from now on and no more allowing red flags
@Monia044_PL
@Monia044_PL Ай бұрын
Giiirl this video completely changed my perspective. My whole life I've been in survival mode. I gotta treat myself.
@aliceandappetizers
@aliceandappetizers 10 ай бұрын
you’re changing lives sis
@Nandi-Mkhize
@Nandi-Mkhize 3 ай бұрын
This is the best video I’ve seen of dating as a feminine woman. You broke it down so clearly, you have a gift and wisdom boy! Thank you for sharing it with us ❤❤
@lilibarton4612
@lilibarton4612 7 ай бұрын
Just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months yesterday. Was in the exact situation explained at 2:50. It’s rough but needed to be done
@krissyvanous
@krissyvanous 8 ай бұрын
You are the sister, mother, teacher I wish I had when I was younger. It would have saved me years and YEARS of heartbreak.
@AsToldByBrittanyy
@AsToldByBrittanyy 10 ай бұрын
The IMMEDIATE drag in the beginning was some very much needed tough love
@rebeccaann1101
@rebeccaann1101 8 ай бұрын
Girl, this is the truth! I went through the whole phase of wanting a 50/50 partner and it was so toxic. I would constantly compare what we were doing for each other time wise and monetarily, it was so detrimental. Now I'm in a relationship where he does look out for me and takes such good care of me and it is wonderful. And in turn has made me a better person because I want to comfort him and provide for him too. It's so much more loving.
@applesnicolle5144
@applesnicolle5144 9 ай бұрын
The trick is to spot a man’s Weak points immediately! And don’t expect him to change
@zahramissy4837
@zahramissy4837 4 ай бұрын
Please how can this be done ?. Can you elaborate for me?
@srikrishnavasanth3895
@srikrishnavasanth3895 9 ай бұрын
what you said was true and mainly 'What he feels about you is important' is exceptional and Let me add few things. Men and women bond differently. 1)Just ask him to do things for you it may be small as opening the jar which makes him feel like a provider (masculine energy) to you and appreciate him. don't take it for granted. 2) men bond by working together do something that requires interaction find a task in which both are interested in NOT your tasks if you doing it first time. 3)men stay in place where they feel useful and needed. he will bond to you if there is some purpose to be with you. Men bond by working together and women by emotional intimacy. 4) always be precise about your communication tell you want him to understand but not say something and expect him to understand. The HOLY GRAIL OF EVERYTHING A woman who initiates. Initiate call and messages or something but not more than him.
@aloko2544
@aloko2544 10 ай бұрын
You're a great speaker! Perfect pace, clear repetitive examples. I don't get bored listening! Loved the 'come up for air', i hadn't heard that before in the pull push dance. Regards from West Australia
@elzaocean
@elzaocean 10 ай бұрын
I think I’m gonna save it and watch every couple of days when thoughts of a certain fboy come up
@ebeley94
@ebeley94 9 ай бұрын
Your videos are absolute class. You have helped me build standards for myself and in men as well as move on from men who didn't provide and where I was expecting a lot because I was in the wrong energy and I needed to work on myself too. Thanks, Vickita (:
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 9 ай бұрын
Fantastic! thank you!
@reenur8767
@reenur8767 10 ай бұрын
your makeup looks so good here vickita!!
@Faefair
@Faefair 10 ай бұрын
Not all heroes wear capes. I can feel your queen energy as you speak. Thank you sis
@user_abcxyzz
@user_abcxyzz 10 ай бұрын
She's speaking really fast. Got my anxiety like 😬
@Faefair
@Faefair 10 ай бұрын
@@user_abcxyzz practice breathwork, it really helped my anxiety
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
use playback speed 0.75!
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
hehe thanks lovely!!!
@LB-ku6ry
@LB-ku6ry 10 ай бұрын
This was the most informative video I think I’ve listened to! I’m 60 years old. Wow. Incredible beautiful thank you!
@sarahbegum2192
@sarahbegum2192 2 ай бұрын
So many golden nuggets of wisdom and life-changing moments. The big sister I never had
@genevieverachele6511
@genevieverachele6511 8 ай бұрын
And let’s be clear. Just because he gives money or pays your bills does NOT equate to love, respect, or high value. The way he speaks to you and prioritizes you is where you need to look. Don’t fall for the dollars to placate without the emotional investment from him. Speaking from experience.
@marjannebie
@marjannebie 8 ай бұрын
13:04: "Until you dont require a man to be a man in your presence, he wont" Thats the ultimate truth of this video and of the entire universe we live in, for the larger matter. Desire, ask & be what you want in your life. Otherwise you will stay wherever you are. The truth is actually so that it is overlooked. Thanks, this was so helpful Vickita. 🙏
@sandrabendt3691
@sandrabendt3691 10 ай бұрын
Very good info here. Please talk more about the wounded feminine and how it makes women over do things.
@Thisis_sanno
@Thisis_sanno 9 ай бұрын
I love the video and it is very valuable. But I would like to add one thing. EXAMPLES. I really like the way you dive into detail and how u explain. You say boundaries, correct behaviour and so on. I would really appreciate examples. Love your content💗🙌
@barbararodrigues7211
@barbararodrigues7211 14 күн бұрын
This video is great for both men and women😊 you did a great job explaining all of this🤞
@k.cooper2569
@k.cooper2569 9 ай бұрын
OMG!! This video is simply superb. Girl! You spoke so much hard truth and I swear this was 6 months of therapy wrapped up into 1 video. Thank you so so much for unlocking the EXACT - literally the EXACT things I needed to hear/wake up from/be reminded of. Thank you!
@2822em
@2822em 10 ай бұрын
Omg this is such a good video I love when she says chefs kiss 💋 and her big eyes are so pretty 😍😍
@mariamdawoodkhan
@mariamdawoodkhan 6 ай бұрын
You have literally the best content on explaining things so clearly.
@theclassyconsultant.
@theclassyconsultant. 8 ай бұрын
These tips are so valuable! They're helping me avoid all kinds of people who don't fit the bill, thank you!
@jasminepan4853
@jasminepan4853 9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Vickita! This episode is very helpful. I was wondering if you could talk about how relationships work between a muscular energy women and a feminine energy man?
@miahi2356
@miahi2356 6 ай бұрын
7:44 I YELLED PREACH!!!!!! 👏 really you said it!!!! This video is exactly what I truly needed you have no idea ❤I really resonate with you and you speak with complete clarity!
@PJ19596
@PJ19596 8 ай бұрын
This is the best video I've seen on the dynamics between people in masculine-feminine/dominant-submissive relationships. Thank you for this 🔥🙌
@everydaytwiceonsundays4498
@everydaytwiceonsundays4498 4 ай бұрын
About laser-fence boundaries: keep in mind that the beginning of dating is the best it'll be, it's the best he'll ever treat you. If you torerate a little disrespect now, you'll end up with a lot of disrespect later.
@Valeria-l7m
@Valeria-l7m 10 ай бұрын
My ex treated me so bad that i feel like i don't deserve even the basic human decency, at times i feel like it was not even a relationship it was just me being in love and he was just passing his time 😭😔
@mikeismisty
@mikeismisty 8 ай бұрын
I just had to comment again because your intelligence is out of this world. It sounds like I am listening to a woman in her forties LATE fortied. My hat is tipped for you Miss. All due respect to you. Quite amazed.
@hashibyan3
@hashibyan3 9 ай бұрын
hard to treat yourself like a princess when you're working class and poor. I can't really take myself out on a luxurious sushi date when suddenly, my income has dropped and expenses have risen. Is this even possible for those of us who aren't rich?
@nicoludwig6949
@nicoludwig6949 5 ай бұрын
@hashibian3 yes! I m a bit broke, but i can - do a self care day , lighting a candle in the bathroom , put a hair mask on.. - free sports (jogging, walking, KZbin videos). Its self care for the body that you just do for yourself - taking time for yourself is also kinda treating yourself 😊lets say saying no to sth/sb that doesnt serve you and painting for hours or sth you like - learning new stuff :) - if you can't afford a nice meal, maybe you can get a nice coffee to spoil yourself once a week or so and sit in the sun😊 - or go to a flea market and buy a nice top or sth small once a month, idk All in all, not just money is imprtant, treating yourself and your body well is key! :)
@elisalin1491
@elisalin1491 9 ай бұрын
I have been ashamed for being too high maintenance my whole life, but after so many years, i have started to embrace it little by little. I still have a long way to go though hahaha
@Maclyn88
@Maclyn88 9 ай бұрын
If they want traditional women, they need to provide like a traditional men‼️
@chinohobu
@chinohobu 8 ай бұрын
The example about a man planning flights and booking Ubers was EXTREMELY helpful. It’s one of those things that never would have occurred to me as being important but now that I’ve heard it…I get it
@ironhand4606
@ironhand4606 10 ай бұрын
You have just opened my eyes! Thanks a lot and dont stop!
@n0426
@n0426 27 күн бұрын
Yes yes i love this video is a true gem. And you look absolutely adorable here. 🥰 I love this point that a real masculine man is always ready and waiting for us!!! We just have to get ready for him and stop wasting time on losers!!
@meowmauda
@meowmauda 9 ай бұрын
First of all, you are STUNNING! 💕 second...thank you so much for putting this out. Your content helped me improve so much, I am very grateful! Thank you
@mariahashmi1234
@mariahashmi1234 10 ай бұрын
Your content is brilliant. You go girl! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
@tonyp333777
@tonyp333777 10 ай бұрын
This is a very deep and extremely excellent video on polarization. Men need to read the way of the superior man
@SM999
@SM999 9 ай бұрын
I used to give a lot of space To men I used to date and if he’s an a**hole he’ll still look for greener grass and lie. Only advice I have for women is to love themselves deeply and never give an ounce More than what you’re getting. Equal give and take
@hollytaylor9421
@hollytaylor9421 2 ай бұрын
I would love to have a man like you described. I just broke off the most toxic 9 year relationship
@SometimesIdream333
@SometimesIdream333 10 ай бұрын
Your insights, speaking style, and the models you use are so fantastic. I love your videos, girl. Please keep them coming. You help me stay on track lol.
@roxanniemiller8973
@roxanniemiller8973 8 ай бұрын
This is the best video that I've ever watched about relationships. It was well articulated easy to comprehend. Chef's kiss, I had to send it to my bestie ASAP. You ate and left no crumbs 😂
@gabrielaalbertinalagawurin7157
@gabrielaalbertinalagawurin7157 10 ай бұрын
Have my cup a tea☕, and present with this video😊
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
Sounds perfect🤭 what tea? I lovvve me some earl grey
@gabrielaalbertinalagawurin7157
@gabrielaalbertinalagawurin7157 10 ай бұрын
@@VickitaTrivedi I have ginger tea to relax, love your content👏🔥
@LKauf279
@LKauf279 9 ай бұрын
Phew!! Speaking facts! I wish I heard this 10 yrs ago but it's all good! lol I got engaged to the love of my life this weekend and all facts here!
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 9 ай бұрын
SO HAPPY FOR YOU ❤️☺️
@Jiyaaaaaaaa06
@Jiyaaaaaaaa06 10 ай бұрын
I'm glad I found your channel keep posting Thank You! 👑❤️
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
You are so welcome❤️
@sweetgirl94949
@sweetgirl94949 9 ай бұрын
There’s about 5 mins of useful information in this video but those 5 mins are worth it
@Airbubblepodcast
@Airbubblepodcast 10 ай бұрын
Although I agree with many of your points, as a feminist I just can't do this. For me I wanna feel powerful, I wanna feel self reliant and I want to make a lot of money myself. I guess I would say I'm cool at times when my man is in this role of the masculine but I also believe in balance. If he spends more time with me that makes me feel like a princess, also affection, affirmation and attention are everything to me. I've been with my man for 3 years and he treats me so special. I feel loved and taken care of but that doesn't mean I don't work. I choose to work too because it takes the stress and load off him and when we both work it's great we can save for things that matter to us. This of course is a lot more easy when you dont have kids. Once children are there it can be harder to navigate this. My man has told me that I'm like a pioneer woman. I find this to actually be a compliment. I'm not super feminine but I'm feminine enough but I do suppose I also have masculine traits. I like watching sports with my man, I like to explore, I like when I have control and power in my life. That makes me feel confident. I truly believe self reliance is key to being at ultimate happiness. What you're talking about are men that barely exist. It's a fantasy and in my opinion even if I found. a rich guy that doesn't mean I would be happier. In fact I would be miserable because he has everything and I have somethings but not that much. It doesn't make you feel good if your whole apartment could be his living room! Like you don't consider it as yours, you didn't earn the cars or the big fancy house. So in reality when you buy things for yourself it can make you feel good because you have ownership. And the biggest issue with rich men is they tend to be controlling. They think they are doing you a favor and they don't make an effort because they believe they are giving you the world. It's not going feel good when he works 70 hours a week and you're stuck at home by yourself. A mans time is one of the greatest gifts you can recieve. When he gives you up some of his time that shows true love. Woman these days can be boss b1tches and can get their own cash period.
@alendesk4894
@alendesk4894 10 ай бұрын
This is a gem 💎 comment. Only one thing is that , idt competing with each other in a relationship is healthy. Rather balancing the dynamic is what the deal here is. We are humans after all.
@srikrishnavasanth3895
@srikrishnavasanth3895 9 ай бұрын
What you said was true but not everyone is same. You're a Woman with balanced masculine and feminine energy is every woman is balanced like you? ask yourself this question and you'll understand what this video is about.
@2126Eliza
@2126Eliza 9 ай бұрын
I see this as geared toward women who want a decent partner, not a rich partner. A lot of guys on dating sites are very lazy and entitled. It's possible too that some women are more masculine and like that role. They would obviously like the more feminine men.
@LinetMedina
@LinetMedina Ай бұрын
One of the best videos on KZbin. Well explained
@rolliecrafts255
@rolliecrafts255 10 ай бұрын
What a smart young Lady! 👏👏👏 Excellent 🥂
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
Thank you☺️!!
@ShikhaSingh-xy9qy
@ShikhaSingh-xy9qy 5 ай бұрын
One of the best vedio on KZbin Regarding femenine energy I came across... Well explained... Precise... To the point and practical.... Love your way of differentiating two energies and the polarity between them..I visualized the concept along with your explanation simultaneously❤
@PrincesPeaches
@PrincesPeaches 10 ай бұрын
hi, what to do when I always attract emotional insecure men.. It always happen that they are really extreme in the beginning. after 6months to a year I feel like the dynamic switches wich makes me insecure because they are not giving me as much attention anymore and start chasing them and end up breaking up.
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 10 ай бұрын
You gotta heal girl! My course the feminine dating academy would be perfect for you if you wanna check it out (link in the description)
@srikrishnavasanth3895
@srikrishnavasanth3895 9 ай бұрын
talk to him straight people won't put the same effort.Men don't need much attention as women they just give how much they need talk and solve it.
@Gr42347
@Gr42347 9 ай бұрын
This video deserves a million views, very informative 👏🙌
@VickitaTrivedi
@VickitaTrivedi 9 ай бұрын
Thank you!!!
@nhuanh1088
@nhuanh1088 21 күн бұрын
The more videos like these come up,the more tired/uncomfortable I feel about love. Maybe some ppl like me are just not suitable for love.
@emiliendavis9563
@emiliendavis9563 10 ай бұрын
Hmmm, a femininity creator that actually gets it; the whole concept, no less. Nice!
@selenophile5256
@selenophile5256 9 ай бұрын
Man your eyeshadow is so much better here you loook so pretty
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