Victorian experts Gabriel and Sarah Chrisman read some tips on etiquette between husbands and wives from a 19th-century advice manual. If you love the Victorian era, be sure to look for Sarah's books on Amazon! www.amazon.com...
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@authoremileeharris16454 жыл бұрын
It's a shame etiquette books and guides have gone out of fashion, we so often see them in a negative light these days, but I think many marriages and relationships can be improved by these bits of advice. Thank you for sharing! PS: I've been a fan of yours for years since your corset book (I corset as well), but didn't realize you had this channel, so glad I found you!
@sofiabravo19944 жыл бұрын
Author Emilee Harris because anything before 1960 is considered sexist 😒😒😒
@Black_pearl_adrift4 жыл бұрын
Oh I absolutely hope they make a comeback. While there is a robust discussion to be had on which values are the right ones to promote I think the concept of formal etiquette and proper manners would be a nice addition to our modern era
@laurenloertscher13194 жыл бұрын
I like how it shows men and women as different, and how that is a strength in developing goodness in one another. Patience and kindness people, patience and kindness and balance :)
@pheart23814 жыл бұрын
I think films and sitcoms have trained us to view relationships as a continual Battle of the Sexes!! One always seems to be trying to dominate the other,rather than trying to be equal.
@maybelater21604 жыл бұрын
Honestly, it's not the sitcom's fault people have always been cruel to the opposite sex and there have always been people like the author of this book who knew that a relationship shouldn't be like that. If we look at history, human mentality really doesn't change much. That's sad sometimes.
@AliciaB.4 жыл бұрын
I think the toxic dynamic is to aim for equality, in the sense of sameness, rather than equity, which allows for understanding and celebration of difference
@maybelater21604 жыл бұрын
@@AliciaB. This is what equality means. Many people misrepresent it, but equality does not mean and has never meant being the same, just equal.
@sofiabravo19944 жыл бұрын
OliwiaTheAutodestructive equal in value but we have different needs and speak a different language.
@Hugin-N-Munin3 жыл бұрын
I think it's a conflict of accuracy vs drama. Drama always wins in media
@cecilyerker4 жыл бұрын
I feel like this advice is useful in any era and I also like that it emphasises the joint responsibility of both the husband and wife and reminds them that they're on the same team, it's definitely better than the baby boomer "I hate my wife" jokes. It's not like Victorian people didn't have the same marriage problems we do today, but I feel like the advice then was better and more supportive of the young couple.
@sofiabravo19944 жыл бұрын
Cecily Erker society treats people as disposable...the second said boyfriend shows a flaw “oH heS tOxiC mUsT bReAk Up” And men and women wonder why they can’t ever find that person
@cordiscoscorner4 жыл бұрын
You're going to get some grief but TOO BAD. As a divorced man I think if I took to heart some of what you said I'd still be married. The short version of marriage etiquette...GROW UP !!!!!! Hope you guys are well. The first three books in your series is coming in two days. Be well.
@MrsBee-uo2lc4 жыл бұрын
perfect timing as I'm sure many husbands and wives should be working on their etiquette with one another being that we have to be together 24/7 now 😂😂👍
@1minigrem4 жыл бұрын
That was simply lovely, we could do with re introducing this wisdom into our lives.
@mastersadvocate4 жыл бұрын
A very enjoyable video, indeed! Gabriel and Sarah Chrisman are a lovely couple! The Victorian Etiquette between husbands and wives should be revived for today's married couples! It might help both newly weds, and older married couples. Couldn't hurt, eh? ~Janet in Canada
@maham22064 жыл бұрын
They are so cute 😭❤ I Just love them!
@rorygilmore24704 жыл бұрын
it’s hard not to love them! too cute 💘
@chreyssie27944 жыл бұрын
I can agree omg!!
@mabel81793 жыл бұрын
I couldn't fault any of that advice- it was lovely and based on kindness and respect.
@DansonforJoy4 жыл бұрын
This video was absolutely delightful! It made me almost teary-eyed, grateful to recognize so many of the guidelines for husbands are performed habitually by my own husband. 💗 I recognized a couple points I can brush up on, myself. 😉 Books like this are priceless! I just added it to my Amazon cart, and look forward to reading more. 😁 -Jesse Danson (Skagit Valley)
@SkylarGold Жыл бұрын
I remember watching this video a year or two ago and I couldn't find it for the life of me until today. Such a lovely presentation and sentiment.
@belladrewstarkey43694 жыл бұрын
1:58 is my favorite! No matter what century you are in always have a lovely good bye!!
@mabel81793 жыл бұрын
Wasn't that just so adorable! It is something to think about.
@carrie.m4 жыл бұрын
You guys are so lovely! I am obsessed with etiquette books but I've never read one focused on married couples, its so interesting how small details are highlighted so much!
@WackyWitchTV2 жыл бұрын
God, I miss this time!
@karen4you4 жыл бұрын
This was such sound advice even in this day. It seems civil behavior has been lost by some. I saved up and bought one of your kindle books, very much enjoying it.
@ESCAPINGTHEMATRIXFORGOOD4 жыл бұрын
hello Karen i see you love this channel as well, great channel, i love the past ! hope all is well at your end, stay safe and take good care
@ruthgoebel7234 жыл бұрын
I wish etiquette of all types was more emphasized in our society today. We have become so casual, there is little respect left. Men and women are different, for each have different roles and responsibilities. Thank you for this!
@grumbeard3 жыл бұрын
I really love these two. Sarah looks really cute and Gabriel often looks quite dapper. You do what you do and please keep sharing, we enjoy it a lot.
@asiyaheibhlin3 жыл бұрын
I have read a great deal of the sample of this on kindle, but I just purchased the actual book. I love how the duties stated in the book are almost *completely* in keeping with Islamic duties between spouses. It makes me feel great that I can merge my life-long passion for Victorian ettiquette with my new religion and its decrees. The best of both worlds in my opinion. Acting upon them is something that would take a lot of practice, but I am sure they make things more smooth than what they would otherwise be without such guidance. You guys are amazing.
@teppizini4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful advice. I wish more people would heed it.
@eiryamorlais4978 Жыл бұрын
This was lovely. Elevating to hear. I would wish all of this for all humans - 9f every socioeconomic 'class.' As Sarah did not find a corset dehumanizing, neither do I find these precepts for both (shall just say 'both'!) sexes to be so. I am certain, as a 63 y/o woman, that I am not the only one to feel that I missed out on formerly sanctioned aspects of womanhood. Further, I recognize/acknowledge that I would have been a better woman/person, had such volumes/teachings been readily available during more recent eras. The two of you share so much of worth - thank you.
@jameswarrick7784 жыл бұрын
This actually pretty wonderful, I shared this video with my girlfriend. 😁
@monnicamarie4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely beautiful. This needs to be followed. Women of course work now days, but the simple principles of respect work. A marriage of two=one love.
@sofiabravo19944 жыл бұрын
monnicamarie a marriage= one flesh 🥰
@AFatherToTheFatherless2 жыл бұрын
A woman that wants to become a wife shouldn't focus on a career. If she wants to remain single though then she must focus on a career
@tymanung63822 жыл бұрын
Victorian era professional, landowner, and capitalist classes women generally did not work. but majority of workers of various sorts had no choice but factory, domestic, farm etc. both women & men.
@SnowBall-hz6pu3 жыл бұрын
Hi Sarah, I'm curious, how did you guys meet? I would love to see a video and have you explain how you two came to be together especially since you both love the Victorian era and love living in a historical way of life...it's like you were meant to be. ❤
@williamjones16024 жыл бұрын
recently bought your book: Words for Parting; can't wait to read it!
@curedollyyy4 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️Lots of advice applies to this day :) thanks for this! I love that you are uploading more videos right now. Would love to see more baking videos, I just love your channel! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@t.j.johnsonthewriter2 жыл бұрын
Great! I've always loved dressing victorian to early 1900's. In the past three years I've turned my whole life into one victorian paradise. I live in endglad so getting hold of a victorian terrace house is quite easy. I also love engineering and trains, so I've started working in the past year as an engineer and driver at a heritage railway near me originally built in 1859. It's in the middle of nowhere so its just us all dressed as victorian workers sitting in a small village pub as steam trains roll by as well as traction engines and hansom carriages. Hope you're loving life too.
@jrpacer63554 жыл бұрын
This would be a great wedding gift
@tiburcio432 жыл бұрын
Much better than I expected.
@natalieatkinson86023 жыл бұрын
Those are such wonderful pieces of advice! I'm a wife myself and a couple of those pieces of advice I thought "Oops I do that . . . gotta stop". I agree with the lady below. I think that marriages would definitely improve with these types of advice. I didn't find any of it sexist, quite the contrary. It puts a wife and husband into roles not gender inequalities that can be follow amicably. Thankyou for sharing!
@lucienneferbona45674 жыл бұрын
My copy of "A bouquet of Victorian roses" just arrived today in Edinburgh. I am very excited!
@kyrak.41432 жыл бұрын
Girl how did you bag that hot chap?
@bluefox76784 жыл бұрын
Woah. I thought that It would be a bunch of rediculous rules but that... was beautiful! I am just a kid but I'll hang onto that advice, I may need it. Haha
@ronaldgundrum2174 Жыл бұрын
A wonderful couple. 👫
@ArcherOO784 жыл бұрын
Lovely ! Thank you
@woollyprimate2 жыл бұрын
I'll admit it : I was fully prepared to be offended at the advice. Boy was I pleasantly surprised. There was absolutely NOTHING untoward about any of it. It was marvelous advice and surprisingly modern.
@gillianpetrie97713 жыл бұрын
Love these Biblical values. Ephesians 5: 22-25. ; 33
@slouallen38324 жыл бұрын
so cool! thank y’all!
@Happyday09744 жыл бұрын
Awesome guys..love u😍
@MelissaBaker.4 жыл бұрын
Wisdom words! It was really interesting to see you both help each other load the ice box, I've always wanted to see what format was the ice you had available since I've read your book a victorian life!
@albertomaldonado10154 жыл бұрын
Great
@muayadalhariri49334 жыл бұрын
Hey Mrs.Sarah may I please ask to give us a tour of your beautiful house please?
@booklover24043 жыл бұрын
OMG. If every married couple read this book there would be no divorces.
@roselinenganga56253 жыл бұрын
Amazing
@godblessamerica32473 жыл бұрын
All good advice.
@196Jonesy2 жыл бұрын
omaword ya'll are so cute!
@jf23884 жыл бұрын
Can someone writte down whats the name of the book of ettiquetes? English is not my mother language, I didnt understand Btw loved the video
@Rosepaku4 жыл бұрын
J F true ladies and proper gentlemen by Sarah chrisman 😊
@Jennifer.villezcas4 жыл бұрын
How beautiful 😍
@themonkman3 жыл бұрын
Hi there, you might like to know that part of your video features in this Goodrow Productions non-commercial film of A Christmas Carol (kzbin.info/www/bejne/iqPVZGqFoManZpo). Thanks so much. Your film features at 4min 19seconds.