Viral Video Of This Mother Set Her Daughter Straight

[@Enriquez2222]

Can we just not have kids….

[@DestinyUteh]

😃

[@barefootedbougie]

Childfree here, no regrets ✌🏾😂

[@Quilt4Joy]

This right here, tho 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@mizsevenoneeight685]

THIS!!!

[@trinnysaysno]

😂😂

[@UrsiesWhirl]

Next she will be out here saying “my mom is toxic”

[@mizsevenoneeight685]

Right! And posting dumb memes about how “black people are the only ones who put their kids out at 18” 🙄 Nah, that’s not what happens…your parents imposed the rules and you either broke fly and left (imma get my own) OR thought you were entitled to live off of them in perpetuity while not doing anything to better yourself/contribute!

[@shandahughes2886]

Exactly.

[@milanC4659]

​@@iamdragonettaLoL 🤣🤣 smh !!!

[@ms.huggins8519]

Narcissistic!!! Lmao

[@marissa._]

@@mizsevenoneeight685 1. This actually does happen, regardless of community! There's PLENTY of toxic, abusive parents that kick their kids out at 18 and they think their job is done when that's not true! When you decide to lay down, spread legs and screw and procreate, you a parent for life! 2. Its not always the child's fault! There's TOO MANY instances of people either getting kicked out or moving out just to get away from their parents abuse and toxicity! 3. A child technically is entitled to live off their parents because that's the parents job! Their job is to take care of their kids that THEY chose to have! These kids aren't immaculate! If parents didn't want to take care of their kids, they should've gotten an abortion or simply shouldn't have had kids at all! These kids never chose nor asked to be born in the first place.

[@giovannanicolas8299]

She is lucky to have a mother like that, a lot of people do not have a mom like that.

[@MrDrewlove136]

Teach your children FINANCIAL LITERACY instead of waiting until they’re grown and yell at them for being irresponsible

[@SweetAsSugah]

Finally a voice of reason!

[@mayabrooks7900]

True!💯

[@rosaperks1873]

How do you know she didn't? The mom paid her car note to let her have a saving cushion. The daughter blew through the money.

[@Tee-kc3pn]

She probably did....kids don't listen

[@TLJ88]

Believe me, parents born in the 70s and 80s didn’t get financial guidance or help with the first car, our phone bills. They had to learn their home. This girl is not a baby you have to want more to do better.

[@barefootedbougie]

The 2nd lady is so right. Why is she keeping a car with no job? First thing we as Gen X'ers would have done is cancel all that until we find a new job. Getting/owning a car is a 🗣 responsibility and a luxury. How do these kids think they can have nice things with no sacrifice? 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@ST-rj8iu]

with a gen x it was easier to get jobs. You can barely get a waitress job now without 3 interviews. It is getting stupid. Too many adults working jobs meant for 20 somethings. My brother was a total screw up and he had another job same day in the 90s. Doesn't work that way now with it all online. I do somewhat get the girl on that fact.

[@barefootedbougie]

@@ST-rj8iu I'm not saying it's easy, I'm saying she needs to be realistic about what she can have while she's unemployed. Doesn't matter which generation we're from - we all need to live within our means and having a car while unemployed is clearly not within their means.

[@l0111]

She’s 19 years old. Those are unrealistic expectations.

[@GodlyWisdom_Discernment]

@@barefootedbougie 🤣🤣🤣 I'm amazed at how people think they shouldn't have to go without 'entertainment' and 'conveniences' while they're financially struggling. They don't know, Gen X is quite familiar with struggles and hardships, difficulties getting employment b/c of a terrible economy, and so on. We did it. We went w/o while we did it. And we accepted that entertainment and luxuries and conveniences weren't necessary. These silly people these days think they should be unemployed and STILL have all the comforts and conveniences and entertainments of life. I left home at 17 years old to attend College a thousand miles away from home -- and I was nobody's child prodigy; most of the incoming freshmen were 17 or just barely turned 18. I (we all) struggled and went without to make it happen. And I don't recall feeling sorry for ourselves abt how hard it was for us. We wanted it, so we did it the best we could. Granted, we were taught by our grandparents a work ethic that expected to have to 'work twice as hard to get half as much' [grandchildren of the hope and promise of the Civil Rights Movement]. But these kids whine and complain about ONLY being 19 or 20. What?! I had "2 jobs" my freshman year at Howard University -- NO HELP from home. Baby Boomers were honestly USELESS parents, we had to figure everything out for ourselves. I just can't pity their 'lifestyle' of excuse-making.

[@barefootedbougie]

@@GodlyWisdom_Discernment Exactly. It's the wanting luxuries on someone else's dime for me. Like she said...it's all done online nowadays. What does she need a car for then? It's not like she's using it to be an Uber driver or something to help herself in the meantime. So allergic to growing up 😂

[@michaelgreene9162]

That's the example of a loving mother that knows her role and stands firm on it. You can be a Parent and a best friend but the Parent must greatly outweigh the best friend role.

[@princessamour1372]

I hope things get better for them.... But I will say this, black mothers tend to hold their black daughters to higher standards than their black sons. The daughter should be more respectful.... I would never disrespect my mother like that

[@princessamour1372]

@@NotGettingWhatIPaidForKZbin as a 25 year old woman, I see the error of our older mothers. And we need to break those cycles. I refuse to be a black male worshiper. I refuse to worship any man. I refuse to cradle adult males. Cynthia G opened my eyes

[@paulinehogness1078]

as a biracial of another kind, lol, my mom never paid for me even as a child, and she was paid by the state for me, while her two boys got everything & never had to lift a finger. To this day she shells out the money to my brothers & i don't speak to her any longer. bless her heart.

[@delightfuldaisy3520]

Yes, however what is commonly forgotten is that respect goes both ways.

[@livethatlife1830]

Let's be real! Mother's across the world be letting their sons get away with everything

[@auroraseyets8516]

True. I always knew my brother was the favorite, but when I found out my mom was paying for my brother's car insurance AND phone while I was giving my whole check to her and couldn't even afford a car for myself... I was pretty much taken all the way aback.

[@colouredgal]

The mom isn’t wrong.

[@feliciab5717]

I just had the same conversation with my 26yr old daughter. She’s working but doesn’t pay any bills. She had an accident in my car and know I pay over $200. I’m moving and she can’t move with me.

[@princess555o4]

Have you never had an accident in your car?

[@ineedhoez]

This is why you don't parent as a method to resolve your childhood trauma.

[@fayelis]

exactly the child is useless because the parent didnt understand that they are raising another human being and not just a child that they can give items they never got.

[@adrianjuarez1162]

​@@fayelisI don't think it works that way here in this video.

[@aliinwonderland656]

No she’s not wrong at all. Nope, naw, nein.

[@NeoDarkling]

I think that some parents do too much for their kids and when some children become entitled instead of appreciative, this is the result. I'm Gen X and my parents raised me and my sister to be self sufficient and responsible but, if we ever needed anything, they had our backs 100%. They were our safety net if we fell but they taught us to fly first.

[@Quilt4Joy]

Good on your parents. Some parents suffered so badly they said they would not do that to their children. So, here we are.

[@paulinehogness1078]

as a genX, that Mother is right on point. Good for her & God Bless her.

[@JamMasterKae]

she told her momma she’s “sorry she OFFERED” to pay her half of the note, when in reality, mom probably signed for her to have a car at 19 and her not paying the note in full would negatively impact her credit.

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

That young woman feel like she’s is entitled to her mothers money. Now momma stuck with two cars which will mess up her credit.

[@Kittiebanks]

@@Sunny-tc3ul She is, 19 is not an adult, parenting doesn’t stop and this child still didn’t ask to be bought into this world!

[@RockyDTV1992]

​@@Kittiebanks None of us was asked to be brought into this 🌎.

[@tamril4938]

She wasn’t asked too be bought into this world, Classic Bull💩from an entitled person.

[@KeyaReneeMonroe]

I hate kids like this so fuckin rude and ungrateful.

[@msllubin8]

This kid said "I'm sorry you offered that.." ... Ungrateful. Mom is on point, daughter is taking advantage

[@Chick4choice]

I can still hear my dad’s voice saying…”as long as you live under my roof, you do as I say. You don’t like the rules…then you better make enough money to live independently”. Furthermore, I knew from the time I was in elementary school (and was already telling my parents what I wanted to go to college for) knew because my parents told me so that…. If I wanted to go to college, I would have to make excellent grades and earn scholarships (at the time i didn’t know we would qualify for Pell Grants…or even know what a grant was). So… I made double sure I was straight As or as close to it as I could be. I asked my teachers about scholarships and how to get them (and I’m Gen-X so we couldn’t even Google this crap…we actually had to talk to people to find out). I started volunteering. I got involved in academics and extracurricular activities. Then I applied and got accepted to my first choice school. I didn’t work in high school because my parents felt like my JOB as a kid was to go to school and be a kid. But once in college, I hustled. I did without. I lived in a dorm room the size of most kid’s bedrooms with another “adult” girl that had a communal toilet down the hall. I was a grocery store cashier while I got my degree. I kept my grades up so I could keep my scholarship through college. I took loans. Mom and dad let me fill grocery bags when I came home to visit. With my first shared apt they took me shopping for some basics and we hit up thrift stores for the rest. I wasn’t on their health insurance because that wasn’t a law yet. I did without insurance and made the odd trip to the campus free clinic. When I got a couple speeding tickets, not only did I pay, but then I was required to get my own car insurance. I graduated at 22. With student loan debt. And immediately started living independently. Now!!! I KNEW if I was ever in trouble my parents would help….they always told me so. But I felt like that was for AN EMERGENCY only. I didn’t abuse it or them. I didn’t have expectations of my parents paying for me, my things or my chosen “lifestyle”. Hell, I didn’t even understand what a lifestyle was til I became a RN years later and actually had disposable income. So THANK YOU Mom and Dad for raising a fiercely independent, capable and well rounded woman. You allowed me to find my feet and find my way all while reminding me you were just a phone call away if help was needed. You didn’t like all my choices but you let me make them because you knew that the only way to learn was to try, fail, and try again. That taught me resilience, it toughened me for bigger failures and heart breaks. They’ll be celebrating 54 years of marriage in September. They still love one another. They still tease one another. They’re still playful with one another. And never a phone call passes where dad doesn’t say something to effect of, “do you need me to come out? You know I’m only about 5 hours away!!!” Much love and props to the good parents out there.

[@jubilantmornings8492]

The mom was not wrong. The mother obviously can’t afford it.

[@tiffanylang8253]

We need more mothers and less friends. That mother was 100% correct. I'm going through something similar with my 19 yr old. I'm glad I've always told them, I'm raising independent individuals because life is a B and then you die.

[@Quilt4Joy]

Take the car, sell it, problem solved. Then you won’t have to pay insurance on that car if it’s sold. There are responsibilities to having a car.

[@mizsevenoneeight685]

Then the daughter will use that as an excuse as to why she can’t get around to interviews, or to work if/when daughter finally obtains gainful employment. Definitely damned if you do/don’t 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@Quilt4Joy]

@@mizsevenoneeight685 UBER

[@ITSCRYSTALRENEE]

Well said, Gen Xer. I am dealing with that right now with my adult kids.

[@violetrose25]

That whole exchange gave me anxiety. I feel bad for both parent and child. That young lady needs a job. I wouldn't have gotten her a car with a car note at that age, however. I would have told her to get a bus pass, a job and save money to buy a car in cash. Her phone bill could have been covered by me for the time being. My daughter is around that age, but does't have a vehicle because she can't afford it. I also let my kid know that if she can't apply for scholarships or afford school, she'll have to attend online living at home and she'll need a job regardless. We have to work together as a family to get to the next level, with each family member playing their part. My heart goes out to them.

[@memebzk5001]

CHALL............... mine just graduated from high school yesterday... I'm already noticing that this next stage is gonna be rough. The process of getting her to submit her paperwork ONTIME, get her ass to work ON time.. Understanding that the world doesn't move on HER time... Is exhausting....... I'm going to have to take a moment to re-evaluate my approach. Us Gen Xers were full-on adulting at 17/18, we didn't have the luxuries of the lifestyle they are living. So in that aspect, we do need to give a little grace to understand that life doesn't look the same. I'm also learning as we go. Also they will likely be living at home much longer than we were; because everything is too damn expensive. We can do this! Mine will be moving to her dorm soon, college and campus life will give her the needed space to spread her wings and gain some independence. But I feel this mom's pain 100%

[@memebzk5001]

9:24 was spitting some gems

[@bunneywolf]

Because we worked hard to make sure they had what we didn't have and forgot to instill in them what we did have. Our generation dropped the ball on passing on important values and we're paying for that in spades

[@92spice18]

Some advice. Monitor her bank account during her freshman year, not to control her but to teach her budgeting skills. If she’s going to campus with her car let her know that if she gets in an accident with her “friends” in the car you and her could be sued by those same friends for injuries.

[@MonicaLAllen]

I understand the mom's pain in this. The daughter in unappreciative.

[@FearfullyandWonderfullyMade.]

My mom is a boomer, I’m a millennial. I wasn’t her favorite and she let everyone know it. She said she helped everyone but me. I figured things out out on my own, and she feels bad about it because of what she’s going through. She’s got children older than me, her favorites, depending on her because she helped them well into their 30’s and they took advantage of that. Handle yourself, so you know you’re honoring your parents by not adding financial strains on them.

[@amark8786]

Your mom should’ve swallowed LOL just because the children that she had before gave her strife does not mean that you short your next child child child oh my gosh.

[@queenofhearts1138]

please stop telling this victim story of shame, and forgive your mother. Stop telling this same story over and over again, I can tell you give this story a lot. Whatever took place under your mother's roof let it go before it holds you back. Now that you are well, grown and doing your own thing stop telling this OLD tale now that you are an adult. Heal and LET IT GO.

[@charde9739]

@@queenofhearts1138what do you think she is trying to do. Parents are often our first and biggest bullies and it’s very difficult to recover from that. Have a little compassion

[@FearfullyandWonderfullyMade.]

@@queenofhearts1138 Excuse me? This is my life. My story. Over and over where? I’m commenting and relating to this video, and I’ll use my life examples to relate and encourage others to overcome their circumstances. You don’t know me or my relationship with God because you clearly didn’t read the end when I say, “handle yourself, so you know your honoring your parents by not adding financial stress to them.” Honoring your parents is a direct command from the Bible. He commands it. If I never healed or forgave my parents, I wouldn’t be laughing and talking to them everyday in their old age. Let alone helping them when they are ill. Reading is fundamental. I don’t need your compassion as the other commenter said. You lack it tremendously. Again, you don’t know me or my personal relationship with God to be coming at me that way.

[@Lqtech00]

My mother would tell people how responsible and respectful I was in public. In private, I was talked down to, treated like garbage, verbally, physically and emotionally abused. She eventually half assed apologized, but I don't think I can forgive her. My brothers were put on a pedstal and they are a hot mess with kids that they don't take care of. She'll still take on their load. I had to move back in home, it's like being a child all over again.

[@moniquejohnson2465]

❤Mom is right! Baby girl needs to listen and learn.

[@Cpre1111]

The Mom is right. She's given her daughter help to get her back on her feet w/ clear conditions. I blame the Mom for not teaching her the value of money, accountability, responsibility, like you said. But the Mom could've taught her that and she likely disregarded it, just like she disregarded the Mom's warnings for her not to overtalk her. Idk. This makes me not want kids. It's an exhausting, thankless job you don't get paid to do 😂

[@MsMoneyonMyMind]

Elder millennial here. Mom was a boomer. We were taught a work ethic early. For ex: back to school shopping. It was 4 of us so we had a sneaker budget of 50 and if you wanted an expensive pair of Js or somn like that you made up the difference. My bro always wanted the latest/greatest so he turned into a lil hustler lol (washing cars, cutting grass etc). Hindsight is always 50/50 so I’m glad these parents recognize where they errored but it’s kind of too late. Parenting isn’t always about making your child’s life easier; it’s preparation for this harsh world. The boomers weren’t the best at articulating that but some of em had the right idea in mind.

[@marissa._]

"Parenting isn't always about making your child's life easier..." So why have them then?!?! 🤔 Like, what is the ACTUAL POINT of having kids then?!?! What logical or rational sense does it make to bring a child into a "harsh world" against their will just to "prepare" them for this "harsh world" when they could've been SPARED from this "harsh world" all together?!?! 🤔 #Selfish!

[@bmorebamma]

Some think that the world owes you something. The world owes you nothing

[@marissa._]

Then don't bring people into this world that NEVER asked nor chose to be in! Like, what the f*** are we here for? And why? Why bring more people into this sick world since the world owes them "nothing"? WTF is the ACTUAL POINT of doing that?!?! 🤨

[@marceejohnson4113]

The GenXer hit the nail on the head. I'm living with that nightmare now!!

[@isaa8521]

The mom is right to feel the way she does however I don’t think the daughter was being disrespectful at all in this interaction. She wasn’t cursing at her mom or anything. I will also say that I see nothing really wrong with this interaction. Many people at 19 don’t know how to be responsible and that’s what guidance is for. My mom and I had plenty of these interactions when I was 19. Just because the daughter is sitting on the couch doesn’t mean she’s lazy. You apply through many jobs online, not in person. This isn’t 1980 whatever. Yeah the daughter should be more responsible for sure but that’s part of growing up. All in all I don’t think anyone is really wrong here. I think this is a learning experience for both the mom and daughter. I think that in a few years they’ll look back on it and laugh like my mother and I do.

[@isaa8521]

@@iamdragonettatry again I’m 29🤡 and you’re right I’m young but definitely nowhere near my teen years. That was a whileee ago.

[@isaa8521]

@@NotGettingWhatIPaidForKZbin yeap these people are clowns.. that is all😂

[@livethatlife1830]

​@GizzardBizzard how she doing too in her house

[@isaa8521]

@tf_u_talking_about she wasn’t disrespectful. Your parents are just emotionally abusive.

[@charde9739]

@Alright I'll say it”I’m sorry you agreed to do that “ just ungrateful

[@nevergivingupmission1370]

PREACH ! and while that daughter on the sofa that her mother paid for , she should have been putting in job applications. I'm 1975 .

[@aj7009]

I'm so glad my children are grown & have their own 👍

[@babyg7796]

I was pushed out the house at 18-3mos after graduating high school & had to join the military. Mother was sick and unemployed & wasn’t able to help cushion me into adulthood. I am 25 now and I would K!LL to have my mother support me. I’m working multiple jobs, 488 credit score, no savings, bounce from to place to place and I don’t think it’ll ever end. I’m responsible for all expenses which is about $3500/mo with NO assistance from family, gov’t, friends, etc, and majority of it is fixed expenses. My rent is $1600/mo BY MYSELF and somehow it always gets paid. Thank God I don’t have kids. This girl is DELUSIONAL! I would be so far ahead if I didn’t have to do everything by scratch by myself! My car insurance was $400/mo just for ONE car for YEARS bc of my age!

[@ashleeskhan4075]

Girl, I feel you. Hugs.

[@jackson12802]

I would loose my shit at the disrespect of her being on her phone and laying on the couch. She need to put the phone down and sit up.

[@brandontillman553]

I'm sorry I never was in that boat. I work for my stuff. I've been working since I was 8 years old. And save every money I made still work to this day. Never asked for a handout. I moved out of my family house when I was 16 years old. And that was my place.

[@Keh329]

I hate how black parents speak to their kids. They see you relaxing and it pisses them off then they wanna have a conversation. When she could have sat her down and went through her daughters finances with her. all of y’all are agreeing because the idea that your kids cant pay you back for your decision to have them doesn’t fit your “time limit” that you have to be responsible. I don’t care how old your kid is. You care for them for life. This conversation is exactly why your kids will resent you.

[@marissa._]

💯

[@maryblock636]

My two sons were 19 and working fulltime, still living at home and only paying for their car. I sat them down, and gave them a deadline. By that date, either be enrolled in college fulltime, or get their own apartment. They got their own apartment and only one came back temporarily after he lost his apartment due to a hurricane. I don't understand the entitlement of young adults currently. We worked for everything we had. You gotta put in the work, too. We will be there for you if it's an emergency, but young adults in their 20s need to be in school and work part-time or be working full-time and out on their own. Get roommates, that's what we did!

[@miyagriffin9673]

But not all of us can afford that have you seen todays economy? Getting full time jobs is harder and most of these jobs now a days don’t pay enough to live off of.

[@Tee-kc3pn]

​@@miyagriffin9673you're not working hard enough......jobs are hiring everywhere. Work 2 jobs if you have to. Mom and Dad don't owe you nothing once you're an adult. Yes, adulting cost a lot of money

[@aliyahlurry2374]

I have three jobs and ill let y’all know… its not as easy as yall think. I’m 24, retired/reenlisting army, I have a psychology degree, CMA certification and I am still in school .. Yet i still get problems from my mother at times. it costs literally 3k/4k to live yet these kids are getting 1k every two weeks… its not enough. i was just one of those kids until I got my degree. Now I’m a manager making great money but I still have to work two other jobs. We are BURNED OUT! I’m strong but everyone’s life story is different. Y’all lived in the good times where a high school diploma was all you needed to land a good job! My mom told me she understands how everything is much harder but sometimes she is still hard on me. It’s motivational because I won’t let it knock me down, but I despise when some of you older folk act like we aren’t working hard enough.. because if I would’ve sat here in this comment section and complained about jobs and living circumstances without dropping my credentials, y’all wouldve told me to work harder not knowing I’m grinding like a gear. My parents are BOOMERS and i’m a Zillennial (Z and Millennial yes lol). They survived off one job and I watched them… My mother didn’t even work most of my childhood. We survived off one income. Now???? 2023??? One income??? PLEASE✌🏾 !!!!And tbh it be the same people who have lived in government housing since 1980 who try and tell us to work harder….. Gov’t housing is only a pit stop but y’all been there 20 years before we were born😭 come on now. Get outttt we’re paying $1.4k in rent, plus utilities, car notes and insurances. Thank God I’ve been blessed but whew child the expenses are no joke. And yes God blessed me with my own everything and I’m able to afford it.

[@aliyahlurry2374]

By the way, there are plenty people in my generation who have room mates. Before I moved out everyone told me to get a room mate. I decline because I knew what I wanted and I worked hard for it. Let us show y’all before y’all judge, because if the economy was like this in 1970 or whatever y’all would be somewhere on skid row. Just seen y’all generation kin folk walking about in the streets strung out while my generation is driving😭😭😭 pls dont do us

[@miyagriffin9673]

@@Tee-kc3pn Yeah I’m very aware of that I’m 25 going on 26 getting a second job is another option for me to do at the moment but it’s not all that easy cause jobs may be hiring everywhere but they don’t always wanna hire you that’s why getting a job now a days is hard and I’m also going back to school to get my degree adulting isn’t cheap yeah but y’all are so stuck in the old days which is why it’s easy for you to come off with these tone deaf talking points it’s not the 70’s 80’s or even the 90’s it’s 2023 things are much more expensive and harder from when y’all were coming up all young people aren’t lazy and entitled some of us are actually out here working as hard as we can you aren’t aware of that because you aren’t a young person living in 2023 we know our reality right now and it sucks we don’t have it easy like y’all think we do.

[@BigBrotherGnE]

As long as she is living under her mother's roof, she really has little to no say, especially if her prospects for a future career is in limbo.

[@ashleymiller1913]

Nah, mama is working on herself and kudos to her. You can hear her trying to maintain her cool and volume despite the clear disrespect for what her mom has already provided.

[@saramatthews7159]

Had this been her black son the mother wouldn't be cutting up like this. Black mothers very harsh on their daughters, yet let their sons get away with murder....literally.

[@Rocanala]

I was born in ‘78 and my parents were hard on me too, however, I understand the desire to set your children up to do better. However, that also includes letting them learn the hard lessons such as ‘I’m not here to bail you out’.

[@chidenisee]

I am a cusp gen x/millennial. I bought my first car at 18 and paid my own car insurance. I got some help later on in life but I was taking care of my self starting at 16.

[@l0111]

Black parents need to do better. This level of aggression is not warranted on a 19 year old. If she was 25+, I’d understand. She’s misplacing her anger on her child who most likely graduated from high school last year. Also, if only BW had the same energy for their thunz. She is a 19 year old child for god’s sake.

[@fayelis]

@@NotGettingWhatIPaidForKZbin "If your kids aren’t turning into the adults you want them to be, that’s not their fault. That’s yours" this is the hardest pill for parents to swallow. If your children are incompetent its because you were incompetent from the start. The mother could have been neglectful and let it boil to this point.

[@ravenjonesmusic]

Even tho I understand the mother, my mother use to be like this with me finding a Job degrading me and really humiliating me like I wasn’t doing my part and pressuring me and it was making me really depressed and made me feel low self-esteem. When I know once I got a job I will be working just give her all my money. Now that I am an adult in my own home, working for myself as a beautician (Home Salon) which a Industry I’ve been in since I was 16 , I’m 37 now, I feel so much better, I have two Brothers (I’m the middle child and only Female) she allowed my brother to disrespect her for free and praised them all because of “ he was bringing money in” now I am bitter with the trauma she put me thru with verbal and emotional abuse. Now that I have my own daughter( she’s 7) I have been raising her how to be responsible for herself as a child. She probably didn’t raise her child to be responsible. She waited until she was an adult and now the daughter don’t know the proper steps to do so mentally so now she’s battling with this currently.

[@livethatlife1830]

Anit nothing like having your own

[@sagthenaturalsiren5997]

Where did this woman degrade her…. That’s quite the stretch to compare yourself to it

[@ravenjonesmusic]

@@sagthenaturalsiren5997 when you feel me as your child is not allowed to explain myself and you feel like “ I’m not doing enough “ is bad pressure on anyone mental and emotional was you not understanding or your numb to the pstd abuse as well

[@marissa._]

@@sagthenaturalsiren5997 She was definitely degrading and disrespectful! "When I ask you to get up and do something, you should be getting up and doing it like you wanna break your neck and do it!" Who says shit like that to their child?!?! As if their child is a slave/servant?!?!

[@tamril4938]

Boomer here, first off if you are not financially able why put your name on anything for a 19 year old child? She would be driving around in a hoopty that was safe, point A too Point B.Fully paid for, then said child boy or girl would be learning car maintenance. If you can’t pay a car note you damn sure can’t take care of it. Every mother and father I presume wants their child to be better off but that come with discipline and being a parent not a friend. When did folks stop teaching their children accountability and responsibility. We know they will mess up that come with growing upBe honest with your children. At nineteen she should be in school or on somebody’s job. Mom this is your fault you gave her too much leeway and she ran amuck. You knew from jump she was not responsible but like all moms we want to make our children happy. Don’t let her ruin your credit figure this out. She need a good dose of reality. This is a cruel world and she just got her first dose of of I don’t have shit, my parent do and what is theirs is not mine. Tighten up little girl if you don’t we know the story. Mom don’t fret you just learned something also.

[@ladyindaroom]

The man is absolutely right! It must be done out of Love and not Strife💜

[@Cantetinza17]

Girl, when I got laid off, day one I was looking for work. Looking for work was my work until I found someplace to volunteer then it was look for work and volunteer. That was my full day. She can go to the grocery stores, McDonald's, Home Depot, Lowes, Go to the state and be the on the crew that picks up trash on the highway and maintains the landscaping. She can argue if she wants to, but the part that makes her look dumb is that she chilling on the couch instead of looking for a job. She could have easily shown her mom that she is filling out an application on her phone while she was laying there. Also it looks like she does this a lot and her mom is fed up. I personally don't mind my child in my home after 18, but they do need to follow the rules and expectations. I had a boyfriend who was going to college and the moment he turned 18 his father gave him a percentage of the bills that he was responsible for paying for. This girl has it easy she isn't paying rent and other bills like my former boyfriend had to. Her mother might have been deliberate about her teaching and her daughter might have just felt that now that she's an adult it no longer pertained to her. He can't assume that she didn't teach her. Glad he took the lessons from his parents, I took the lessons from my parents, but my sister didn't and she got the teachings first.

[@pink1237480]

After i turned 18 i HAD to pay rent even though i still lived with my mom

[@gb3776]

Every generation try to make it easier for their kids. You just need to incorporate discipline and tough love.

[@dyrich6799]

Responsible don’t start at 19 she been should have teaching her

[@BoHeaux]

My cousins live at home and one just isn’t participating in adulting and lays around everyday and the other just got a job. And their older sister moved back home after a year because she couldn’t afford to live on her own then promptly booked a trip for the Caribbean 😂 they are out here wild and stress free. I said why should they or would they work if they want for nothing? It’s my aunt and uncles fault. My sis and I were grinding at 14yrs old!

[@Whoisthatns]

Did you hear how she said “if I’m miserable you gon be too” That’s why I don’t side with the mom or the daughter because these parents are low key jealous of how we have it easier at least so they think You could literally hear the stress in her daughters voice I’m so glad I’m no one’s miserable momma 😂

[@mayabrooks7900]

P.s. I also do believe in teaching your kids how to manage money should help them along the way, so they would know what to do then.💯

[@NURSEPAULINERN]

Children sitting on the couch, receiving no scholarships to go to college????????. Thanks for sharing this interesting video 🙏🙏🙏❣️❣️🙏🙏❣️❣️🙏🙏

[@BritgirlTX]

Sometimes young adults need to learn when to keep quiet.

[@FaithCourageAndWisdom]

Just like to take a moment and shout out my 19 year old son who is living on his own in NY, working full time, and about to pay his rent, and the rent on our business (Airbnb) real quick-like with his second paycheck. Cooks, cleans, shops, does his own laundry, and commutes to and from work over an hour each way. Gen X mama to a Gen Z child. Y'all betta raise these children! Heffa need to get up off that couch...

[@Wezzie0]

Nothing wrong with the mom. Not everything is for social media, parenting is not always rosy, sometimes kids are just difficult despite everything you instill in them, she has the right to set her child straight and it doesn't have to look pretty.

[@C.E.O.007]

First of all the mother is talking to her daughter they're having a conversation and also my mother told me at 18 that she was going to stop cooking for me she's going to stop doing my hair she just stopped being my mother totally at 18 years old so therefore for your mother to how's you and to love you even after 18 years old and a black community is amazing this girl needs to understand I was kicked out of my house because I was 18 your mother is being mean you have a car you're in college you're in the best position than most people

[@memebzk5001]

I need you to collect ur thoughts, re-read & re-write what you wrote, and add some punctuation. I'm honestly not trying to clown you, however, this is one complete run-on sentence. I don't understand. And yes I know it's the internet, but come on.

[@milanC4659]

​@@memebzk5001I understand her clearly!!!

[@livethatlife1830]

​@@memebzk5001stop you call your self being smart! You can understand exactly what was written

[@Kittiebanks]

The trauma of being an imperfect non confrontational child who makes mistakes once in a blue like every other teenager but when it happens, this the response. The threats are traumatic and we never forget them. These are the children who continue on in life being very distant from family, most likely won’t have children, and will be very successful because we never want to have to stress about $235 dollars. I made it out and I’m 31 now.

[@livethatlife1830]

​@@NotGettingWhatIPaidForKZbinstop making it about race! Cause in reality other race of people don't play with their kids

[@livethatlife1830]

Child please, As a parent you are suppose to teach your child to responsible and independent

[@NeoDarkling]

@@NotGettingWhatIPaidForKZbin Let's not make this into something it's not. The daughter was effing up, effing up her mother's credit and doesn't give an eff that she's doing it. I did not miss the "I'm sorry you *offered* to do that" when the daughter was referring to the car payment the mother is going to have to eat because she is chilling on the sofa. A car she, no doubt, *begged* for. The entitlement is real! I also didn't miss the slick "I blew the money up my own ass" when the daughter responded to where all the money she had saved up went. If the mother is an "abusive" "bitch," then the daughter is a disrespectful parasite. We all made mistakes when we were young but a mistake even a *dog* knows not to make is to bite the hand that feeds.

[@adrianjuarez1162]

​​@@NotGettingWhatIPaidForKZbinol the fuck is generational trauma and some people in the comments are right. Both My mom and uncle were hit and yelled by my grandparents and there still fine because they didn't have the victimhood mentality that kids and some young adults have 😂😂. Moat people forgot this thing and it's tough love the parent and the kid aren't supposed to be roommates or friends.

[@marissa._]

@@NotGettingWhatIPaidForKZbin THIS! 💯

[@fayelis]

Dont try and start being a "PARENT" at 19 years old. Where was this energy throughout that childs whole life? A person isnt born like this from the beginning. This has cultivated over time and you did nothing. Most parents are completely incompetent and just create incompetent children.

[@blackstrongmom73]

I didn’t see where mom was wrong. I was like 16 or 17. I thought I could get pass getting a summer job. My dad went to the Winn Dixie store and the people hired me off of him. 😂. I had to go to the store after he came back and told me .I had to go and fill out the application the same day. Y’all I started work the next day 😂😂😂. This lady is telling her about responsibility. If my dad hadn’t taught me raised me along with my mom. I wouldn’t be where I am. Which is well off. Mom is telling her right. And by the way I had to leave their home at 18 Mr and my brother. I went to college he went into military. I thank God for their teaching. I love them.

[@tammykinstrue9849]

People, including young people, have to earn the things that they want. Parents have to provide what their minor children need & progressively prepare them to care for their own needs upon adulthood. The young adults' wants should be their own responsibility. That daughter was not ready to take on The responsibility of owning a car.

[@brownsongbird]

And to the response clip at 8:50 "i didnt ask to be here either" you're right... but you did choose to have a child which means you (aware or not) chose to be responsible for your child's expenses. And at this point, even science tells us that 19 is still very much a child. That girl is a dependent. Her mom should have got her a cash car and not something that the child (a literal teenager) would have to make monthly payments on. Especially monthly payments thst the mom knew she also couldnt cover. ANDDD people need to understand the whole "i treated you better than i was treated/i gave you more than my parents gave me" speaks to a lot of unhealed trauma and projecting. YOU AND YOUR CHILD ARE TWO DIFFERENT PEOPLE WITH DIFFERENT NEEDS. the things you wanted and needed as a child may not be what your child needs and you need to learn to parent your child in the way that works for them. Long story short, DON'T have kids if you're not willing to deal with ALL that comes with it.

[@sagthenaturalsiren5997]

You could have kept this waste of statement

[@brownsongbird]

@@sagthenaturalsiren5997 lol, struck a nerve?

[@marissa._]

@@sagthenaturalsiren5997 You could've kept this waste of a comment! 🤡

[@marethahoneyb1541]

I understand the daughter saying everything is done online when applying for jobs but come on be for real you’re running up mother’s insurance, you spent the money you had in the bank irresponsibly n you’re running your mouth talking back instead of being humble while your mom said you can live there rent free while you do what you have to do in life to get to where you need to be nah baby girl need to reevaluate her priorities n get it together n yea my mother would had knocked my teeth down my throat ain’t no way

[@DestinyUteh]

😃

[@NeoDarkling]

*THIS* comment right here! 💯💯💯

[@ziyadshabazz7422]

I like the way you think too sister, stay strong. Peace

[@NoName-oe4gm]

These damn kids/young adults and their entitlement mind set! I agree and understand mom. Sometimes you have to let these kids feel life!💅🏾

[@aliyahlurry2374]

(This was a reply to another comment but) I don’t like how folk in the comment section keep saying the younger generation is entitled and lazy…. I have three jobs and ill let y’all know… its not as easy as yall think. I got home from work at 12:30am, I went to bed at 2am and I got up at 5am today.. I’m currently driving to work so I can be there at 7. I’m 24, retired/reenlisting army, I have a psychology degree, CMA certification and I am still in school .. Yet i still get problems from my mother at times. it costs literally 3k/4k to live yet these kids are getting 1k every two weeks… its not enough. i was just one of those kids until I got my degree. Now I’m a manager making great money but I still have to work two other jobs. We are BURNED OUT! I’m strong but everyone’s life story is different. Y’all lived in the good times where a high school diploma was all you needed to land a good job! My mom told me she understands how everything is much harder but sometimes she is still hard on me. It’s motivational because I won’t let it knock me down, but I despise when some of you older folk act like we aren’t working hard enough.. because if I would’ve sat here in this comment section and complained about jobs and living circumstances without dropping my credentials, y’all wouldve told me to work harder not knowing I’m grinding like a gear. My parents are BOOMERS and i’m a Zillennial (Z and Millennial yes lol). They survived off one job and I watched them… My mother didn’t even work most of my childhood. We survived off one income. Now???? 2023??? One income??? PLEASE✌🏾 !!!!And tbh it be the same people who have lived in government housing since 1980 who try and tell us to work harder….. Gov’t housing is only a pit stop but y’all been there 20 years before we were born😭 come on now. Get outttt we’re paying $1.4k in rent, plus utilities, car notes and insurances. Thank God I’ve been blessed but whew child the expenses are no joke. And yes God blessed me with my own everything and I’m able to afford it.

[@aliyahlurry2374]

By the way, there are plenty people in my generation who have room mates. Before I moved out everyone told me to get a room mate. I decline because I knew what I wanted and I worked hard for it. Let us show y’all before y’all judge, because if the economy was like this in 1970 or whatever y’all would be somewhere on skid row. Just seen y’all generation kin folk walking about in the streets strung out while my generation is driving😭😭😭 pls dont do us

[@LadyCoyKoi]

That is a good loving mom that wants her child to do more with and for herself. More reasons to stay childfree for me. 😎🙏 As a disable person, I disagree with the last guy. My mom was all about inducing stress, responsibilities and work on me since the age of 5, so F&*K THAT SH!T!!! Imagine having Autism and other disabilities and forced to do work around the house as a kid while other kids get to have a childhood and have more fun. After school was more school at home and then house chores. There is more pressure for girls to grow up faster and have more responsibilities, especially in the Black and Hispanic communities, so that last guy can f&*K OFF!!!

[@HorrorFreq]

Mom should have just quietly returned the car to the dealership and cancelled the insurance. Especially since her daughter didn't even try to uber eats/post mates/door dash or something until finding her next job. Taking the bus, subway, and walking (when I was 19 and car-less) makes me appreciate every day I have a car. Maybe she need to walk for while to get her mind right. ETA: She's hella lucky. My mom started charging me rent at 18.

[@georgerichardson3774]

yes, gen x and this is what happen to most of us. we did to much thinking we were doing the right thing. and now they are entitled. dam if you do, dam if you dont

[@shandahughes2886]

As a parent to young adult children my job is to help lift as a stair step for their future also inspire them and sometimes come to their aid if /when necessary not to hold them in a cradled position indefinitely due to lack of initiative/movement because they have graduated to being adults and it's their turn to make that move to adulthood in pursuing the life they want.

[@arronhaggerty8426]

These kids today, have no motivation.

[@fayelis]

what is there to be motivated for? a slave to the 1%? no retirement? debt? work 40+ hours for the next 30 years? not being able to afford a one bed room apartment? the disaster of politics? a dying planet? what motivation is there

[@ninapeavy5851]

I don’t understand why people have to put everything on the Internet. Sometimes you need to keep personal issues in house only not for everyone to see and know.

[@dranchd6571]

No matter what they do the truth is there for all to see.

[@jouannd3719]

The arrogance of an UNGRATEFUL/UNAPPRECIATED attitude. With the disrepect, she'd have to leave. Schools and friends cause a lot family problems and to RECORD YOUR MOTHER BY SHOWING YOUR TRIFFLIN DISREPECT WHILE THUMBING YOUR PHONE.

[@patriciamay2690]

I agree with the mom. I could never talk back to my mother

[@laderdrehinton453]

I am a flower power child born in the 60tys so y’all know when I say I was raised old school so you know my mama worked to make sure we had what we needed not what we wanted everyday like these Gen-Z x y or z I did not spare the rod I loved my kids but I didn’t spoil spoil them yes every now & then but what my mama said she is showing us by doing but we respected our parents no parent is perfect but a kid should stay in there lane. My sister’s children & mines where good kids still are but they very much have tried us in there days but they knew if you mess up an ass whooping is coming if you stuck out the house there was always a network of parents that could find out where any kid was at now when our mamas found out best believe they were coming in housecoat & gown hair rollers & head scarf with a belt didn’t mind wilding out on us in public you got whoopings wherever they caught you at & back then it wasn’t child abuse it was tuff love caring about where you are & what you are doing it’s called preparation for the real world it’s called respect now our dads did the same thing you got belt to your ass y’all want to call it abuse back then no but now yes this generation has gone crazy when it comes to there kids but my generation help build the generation after us so I put it like this we got rewarded for doing good in school but it was at the end of the year but we knew mama provided for us 3 girls by herself but she did remarry when we were 20,13 & 6 & he was a great man but my mama had already laid the ground the foundation & structures windows & walls & what makes a home & what it takes to work & maintain it. But parents now this is what you get you make them your best friend you spoil them rotten when they were young growing up given them what they wanted well there are ppl that are still here back from the 40tys 50tys & 60tys that still do not think that we need & want it all I just want to live comfortably be able to take a trip without financial worry or stress & just live & enjoy my family & life that’s what’s is about you cannot take one thing with you when you die & outside of your money the family will keep that & sell the property that’s why I don’t get ppl saying I want to leave my kids property & valuables like they rather have cold hard cash then land or property I done seen it to many times the kids spouses & whomever sell the land & property teach them how to live on there own start them early while you provide for them but let them know this is what I’m preparing to have for now on earth for yourself don’t look at what I have but what you can get for yourself & your own family that’s what needs to be passed down that’s why a lot of well off kids or rich kids do they wait on the parents to die but in the meantime they party & lay around & you the parent or parents let them do it. So yes mom is right but me she would of been up off that couch with my hands pulling her up by her hair so fast she wouldn’t know what hit her I don’t like a disrespectful person, kid or adult but mom your showing booty so you already know she would fight you back that’s why you didn’t snatch that ass.

[@Amarillo2012]

I agree with mom.❤

[@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy]

You shouldn't just do things for your children bcuz they'll become accustomed to that. And when the arguing starts, the kids won't listen and will feel like they are being nagged. The mother has to encourage their ability to do and think for themselves. So, set standards and enforce them. Don't give your child anything they wouldn't make an effort to get for themselves. The car and car insurance the girl should get on her own. Sit and have discussions with children about merit, self-awareness, responsibility, consequences, and making better choices. And start early, bcuz the later you start the harder it will be to get through to an older child's ego. And the world is full of male predators to take advantage of these teenagers and young adults with big hard-headed egos. As small children, make them clean their room and keep it clean. Have them help with all of the housework, including cooking and doing dishes. Run your family as a team where everyone pitches in. Make them do their homework as soon as they get home from school. And so on... And if they are bad kids you have to struggle with all the time, don't celebrate them with birthday parties or Christmas gifts. And don't beat them up either. Assaulting them physically. Bcuz that is child abuse and doesn't work. Instead, take them on hiking outings when you can to bring them in touch with nature. And take them to a meditation teacher so they can learn how to meditate and tap into their inner source of guidance, strength, and wisdom. Their inner light source. Don't raise them up on sugary foods. On stuff like juices, candy, cookies, cereals, cakes and other desserts, and junk food. Bcuz sugar alone makes us resistant to righteous living, very hard-headed, and strung out on instant pleasure and relief. Like you take the feeling of boredom -- food is consumed for a few moments of relief. And alcoholic beverages -- all of it is made from sugar. Learn all you can about gut health and gut care, bcuz the gut is what controls human emotions, thoughts, and beliefs. Religion doesn't let on and why it speaks only in allegory, but the Devil really resides in our gut and what the Garden of Eden really is. Our gut flora. If providing our gut the wrong foods, such as sugar and too many carbs, the gut will take us through the darkness and all of its hardships and temptations. In other words, it will impede our spiritual growth and have us believe in false things. We can control the devil easily, far better than religion can when we learn how to take care of our gut. The point is to develop our children's qualities of merit and responsibility instead of just giving them things and doing things for them. You actually want them to grow up mentally simultaneously with growing up physically. Like with the old saying "Act Your Age." That we don't do automatically. And why there are so many adults in the world acting more like small children.

[@gracillemillington3368]

Mummy correct...stop paying the car note and take her off your insurance.She can continue looking for a job

[@justmyopinion993]

Completely agree with this.mum these some of these children are ungrateful and entitled

[@marissa._]

And who's to blame for these "ungrateful" and "entitled" children?!?! Who's to blame for giving birth to them? 🤔

[@MicahHayes-be5sr]

19 no kids. Man she should have been working 2 jobs at least. All that time on her hands and wasting it

[@BritgirlTX]

I must say though, filling out applications is not how it used to be. Every application is online and you better be redoing it again in 30 days because applications get filed in that ‘circular’ filing cabinet after that … 🗑️

[@takarajanae890]

Look at the house she is laying in too. Ummm yesss it might need to be taken! Not Screaming doesn’t mean you aren’t being toxic. If my mom could she would, but she can’t. She helped when she could and I appreciate it until today. Straight out of high school I had to save and buy my own car, I’m 25, and I was lucky my mom put me on her insurance but that was $370 in the beginning. It saved me from $570…it’s way cheaper now. I paid my mom every month. I was accepted into a university after college but it was cheaper to go to the community college and I love my mom. I was sharing a bed with my grandma with dementia when I graduated high school. My mom did all she could to make sure I did the high school events at the end of the year and my prom on top of everything else she sacrificed. She did get the house and I have a room to go to when I want to spend a night now, my little brother had a wonderful high school life because my mom never quit. And we would neverrrrrr. Yo I was harassing my mom today telling her I will pick up her food on my lunch break and drop it off not her. Just wow😮

[@sakinasimmons297]

At this point please continue the "no child" movement because some of you couldn't raise a child if you had an instruction manual. 😅 literally parents are here to love, protect, and TEACH their children, teach them.. not cuddle.

[@nalignmentwlifehealinglife]

Yes, I was trying my best to be super supportive and helpful with my daughter and she started talking to me crazy and saying it's my responsibility to pay her bills until she graduates from College. I took her off my phone plan, etc... And she is holding a grudge against me to this day, still talking to me crazy so we don't talk much anymore.

[@lbarnx]

Gen X accidently spoiled their children trying to be better parents than boomers. Turns out some kids need that Boomer discipline to grow up decent.

[@nenew24]

If that was her son she would be making every excuse for him to be sitting around. Many mothers are toxic to their daughters.

[@RightToFreedomGirl]

@nenew: Wrong, she would jack son up too! Boys dont usually talk back like females. My bros didnt talk back

[@loveiseverything8711]

I started working at 14 and I gave my mom money every check and she never paid any of my bills.

[@one4truth236]

My mom taught financial responsibility early as children. You plan your bills around your income and you pay them first. Money left over went to savings and personal care. Many years later and with her passing after I turn 20 years old, I still do what i wastrainefto do. My mother was an example of what it means to be responsible. This young lady is out of line. Tge mother tried to help her pull up and develop a financial cushion before she took over her own bills, but she messed up and is not really concerned about it. Shame. Grow up young lady.

[@77icky]

Wow the blue shirt woman actually understands.

[@3minutestill]

Safety net❤ that was my mom. I had a child at 19 (and I was on birth control!😂😂😂). My mom only wanted me to do was continue my dream and be a parent to my child . She's 19 and that's how she's treating her mother? Yeah she needs to go. "If you feeling grown then LEAVE!" My mom told me once and I understood. I ONLY came home to my SAFETY NET when I need my cheerleader. A job? Yes ma'am! You still feeding me and taking care of your grandchildren as I work?! Your wish is my command! 😂😂 Her child was spoiled. I do hope she gets her own footing and won't depend on others.

[@NeoDarkling]

So much this! I'm Gen X and my parents raised me and my sister to be self sufficient and to take care of ourselves but if we ever needed *anything* they has our back 100%. They were our safety net if we fell but they taught us how to fly first.

[@blkqueen6201]

Don't pay for anything and take the keys. She needs to do something. Sell the car to get caught up on the bills. Make sure she is paying a bill in the house, let her pay for her own cell phone and car insurance.

[@kimberly8695]

Who records these things?😕

[@memebzk5001]

looks like a brother or some male in the family..

[@DestinyUteh]

I don't know 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@ari_an_yah]

Mom was trying to give the girl a leg up. The fact that all jobs are applied for online is irrelevant, obviously, the attitude and lack of comprehension of the financial stress the young girl created is not being acknowledged. So what she was out of a job for only a week, that is usually how being unemployed starts, one week at a time. Did she hold down a job long enough to get unemployment, will that money pay the bills until she gets a job, huh? The fact that she is immature enough to not be humble when she has f'd up, is what has mom going over the top. She should be saying look moms, I have applied for these jobs, and here is the status of each, not laying there full of retorts etc.. It is called humility and humbleness to understand, I done f'd up and now my mom is stressed out and it is my fault for not sticking to the plan. My son tried it with me and ended up living in the 9th ward in N.O., LA. with his dad because he did that kind of thing with me with no visible remorse. 20 years later with a stint in the military, he is a full-fledged, educated with a career but it wasn't because I let it slide, nawl, it was because he had to learn the difference between the haves and the have nots and how it starts with every decision you make and all the advice you ignore because you think you know better AND don't trust your parent(s). Most parents want the best for their children and if you as a child/young adult cannot trust your parents' intentions towards you and you need to f around and find out, Gen X'rs will allow you to do that. Just ask my son. But I am proud of him too because he man'd up and found out!

[@aemsiw3798]

People should stop putting family business on the internet. Whoever is recording this video and decided to post needs to be the one to go. Honor your parents. Children, especially female children , should live at home until marriage. Parents should set up children. Stuff like this happens when you don’t set up a good foundation and train your children.

[@ITSCRYSTALRENEE]

Most of these insurance companies force the parents to add the kids on their policy. I didn't get my first car and insurance until I was 21. This generation of kids, whew chile!

[@twinventures8292]

How you a FULL grown adult, still having mommy pay your insurance, and you think you have any right to disrespect her? In your adult hood there should be NOT ONE single disrespectful thing you ever do or spew at your parents. Very much teenager minded vibes wtf is wrong with people, raising your parents blood pressure still!!!

[@marissa._]

She's literally 19! Operative word here: "teen!" She's a teenager, a literal child! The mom is to blame, not the daughter! She should've thought about that before putting her daughter on her car insurance and making her daughter paying month-to-month bill that she KNEW she COULDN'T afford! Hell, the mom couldn't even afford the car insurance HERSELF!

[@lesliewit]

I think this kind of thing takes a concerted effort by everyone in that young woman's life letting her know that she is both protected and learning but also held accountable. I think this kind of conversation is best had in a family therapy session. Where everybody can come to the table. I think if this were me and my child the car would be sold or returned, and she'd have to be using the bus to get from one place to another. There's a difference between supporting your child in a positive constructive way and enabling your child. And you can't just start when your kid turns 18 or 19. So if she did not make it clear and instill those values in her daughter as her daughter was growing, this is a big reason why this problem is occurring. But the learning curve for adult is real sharp, adults play for keeps.

[@unapologeticallyblackbeaut7161]

The person recording is dead ass wrong. She need to shut their phone down too