Issues With Marriages & Brown Men Not Showing Love?! (Chai Talk Ep 9)

[@browngirl97]

Mama Jee coming home and making parathay is sooo cute and wholesome

[@kb_h77]

The husband in the bathroom for 6 hrs was the most relatable thing ever 😂

[@fakeusnakeubreakeu5215]

Dude these ChaiTalks are a therapy. I watch them every damn day until the new episode comes out. Still waiting for Ayman ✌🏻 Wajeeh don’t forget to tell us so we can ask questions for Ayman Much love from an Albanian 👐🏻🇦🇱

[@sashaeliot6074]

Wajeeh, no offense to your mom but why does she keep insisting that you boys fill the void that your dad has left in her heart??? It's not your job to give her the marital love that she doesn't get from her husband. Sons are not substitute husbands. At 17:35, the way she demanded you show her the same amount of affection that you show your wife is a bit problematic for many reasons and is something that can create a lot of conflicts between her and your wife in the future. I have been happily married for more than a decade so believe me when I say that you have to put your spouse before everyone else. I have seen many marriages ending cos people were unable to do that.

[@Nat12726]

true, its disgusting, she is totally gonna ruin his marriage

[@Raza__12]

She is very toxic thats why even her husband avoids her.

[@rupisambhi3768]

Really enjoyed this podcast your mum is a true romantic! I think a lot of the time mum in laws who have not received affection from their own husband find it harder to see their sons being affectionate and putting their wife first. There’s always that complex a MIL from an unhappy marriage will have.

[@1446hijri]

Wallahi I'm not even lying when i say this, but i couldn't wait for this episode to air. But I can't lie, watching this feels like a guilty pleasure, you almost can't be happy with all the people being slaughtered in Palestine, may Allah give them strenght and forgive their dead. 🤲💔

[@noreenmian]

Same!❤❤❤

[@LeGiTBeAsT223]

And never think of those who have been killed in the cause of Allah as dead. Rather, they are alive with their Lord, receiving provision (quran 3:169)

[@moonlightea]

As attached as Mama Jee is, she's super intelligent and brilliant, Wajeeh. It may take some time for her to find balance, but her willingness to always learn and grow as a person, and the kind of friendship and emotional support she gives, is absolutely everything. Please always maintain this with her. And don't be hesitant to share and be open with her on things. No matter how contrasting a topic is, she's always listened. She's always there. She just has her own style of talking lol but I love it 😂❤

[@mariam9437]

Wajeeh is such a positive person his laugh is infectious always stay positive 😊🤲 watching your chai talks gives us some relief from the evil happening by Israel towards Palestinians So thankyou for this #freepalestine 🇵🇸 P.s Papa Jee is so chilled 😎 Mama Jee is so funny and knowledgeable much love from the Uk guys keep it up stay blessed 🥰

[@astoldbyanam]

"next time Im going to marry a white man" hahahahah mama jee i love you

[@angieluna2415]

I feel like Wajeeh wants to get married soon and is preparing his mom haha

[@1991Amara]

The convo we never knew we needed! This is SOOOOOO accurate! Loved this episode! Thank you Aunty and Wajeeh!

[@sidznation]

This is the best episode because you guys said it straight there’s a difference between Islam and culture! And how people are valuing the cultural ideologies instead of following what Islam tells us! Soo I’m glad this was a convo that happened and Inshaa Allah I hope to see more episodes like this!

[@senorpotatos6944]

The way Mama Jee made those parathas ❤🥹 Allahumabarik may Allah give her happiness in this life and the next.

[@Absolutely537]

I was in Mexico and they had a wedding and we came across one of the elderly men waiting on a golf cart to get to the wedding. Omg his kindness and personality are unforgettable. We laughed so much. As the golf carts came by with the rest of the wedding party it was an incredible sight. The gowns and jewelry were beautiful. The culture that we were so blessed to see was beautiful. I wanted to be part of the wedding it was so beautiful. We were told they had around 200 people attending and they were all at the resort we were at. It’s beautiful to see family stick to their cultural ways as far as the way they celebrate one another! Beautiful!!!

[@rrizvi8298]

Very interesting topic and it needed to be discussed. The older generation/culture think the men who show affection or do housework is emasculating, which is such a toxic thought process.

[@Fizvidz]

Aunty is the cutest and lovliest.... Lots of love from UK ❤❤❤

[@sarahmazhar4125]

This conversation was soooooo important to be enlightened I am so thankful and grateful to you both . u guys express each and every point so amazingly that it definitely hit the spot . Husbands need to be expressive show their love … that part made me cry literally cz I can totally relate . Much love and keep it up

[@Hannaybee]

such a great episode, I love your podcast truly! I was born and raised in the states and moved to lahore recently, so nice for you to discuss breaking cultural barriers and opening conversation to new perspectives for all generations! keep it up jaanussss

[@amnatayyaba845]

Mama jee mentality is wow..she will going to be best mother in law as she is a great mother

[@tinyworld997]

25:17 if they're not romantic GDI, atleast wash the dishes please 😂😂😂 epic. Lots of love mama jee from Sweden 🇸🇪❤️

[@hk1021]

I love Mamma Jee. Such an amazing personality. May Allah bless her with good health and a life full of happiness!

[@vonderheide]

Salam akaikum I'm a Muslim revert my husband is Tunisian been.married 18 yrs and I see the similarities in him to what you talking about my husband would never show the affection to me in front of his mother or his family only behind closed doors it as he said not proper to show that to people. Oh and when Mama jee said when your dad comes home he don't greet her he goes to the bathroom with phone and stays long time I laughed 😅my husband is same way so many similarities in all your videos to his culture in Tunisia in your videos

[@HKAMILAH]

It's the 'just cause your guys brain are empty, that's not my fault'...for me; I understood in urdu too and that just made it funnier. I really needed this today.

[@hiramalik3679]

I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a KZbin video before. But thank you for these videos! With everything happening in the world, it’s nice to just relax and watch this and laugh with you both. May Allah protect you both and your family. Growing up in the west and now raising 3 little ones here…you see both sides! Be grateful to your parents and their sacrifices. You only realize the level of their struggle when you become a parent..😢

[@aqsaakhtar6716]

I don’t know how but you hit the nail on the head with every topic. LOVED this episode. It’s so raw and real.

[@rameeshakhan954]

I just started watching your podcast… loved how your mom has spoken about brown man and made me realise that yes we dint show love to our mom intensely bcz we have not seen our father doing it .. such beautiful podcast

[@Immy101]

I agree with they saying. But showing too much effection to my wife in front of my parents is definitely a slippery slope. Our society is not that advanced yet we have a long way to go for that.

[@sumeyrabayram8712]

I am 100% turkish and i think the affection thing is all muslim cultures. My parents think its just disrespectful to be lovey dovey. Even saying “babe” in front of them is just disrespectful in front of your family for some odd reason😁

[@bushrahhossain4025]

Mama jee is good and all but papa jee!...definitely the best. He was awesome!, chill, funny, caring, no pokes towards her...he struggled!, he deserves those parathas...give him a break though, everyone has different ways of showing love and affection, his love language isn't the same as hers and thats okay. His way of showing is clearly through effort and hard work....that needs to be given more.

[@ha8236]

I love everything your mum said, my mum has mixed culture and islam and I have tried to re-educate her about all this too (we're from the UK). My mum is traditional and she too had the fear of what people would say if she agreed to a simple marriage. Even though Islam is about simplicity. Her friends had lavish weddings not necessarily quality weddings but a lot happening), huge pact out halls, with hundreds of guests, up until Covid hit. Covid really brought people back to the Islamic way for doing weddings (Nikkah and small Walima's). I agree with Wajeeh that I would want an Intimate wedding but that doesn't mean it has to be cheap, it can be beautiful but you can spend a little more on lets say decor, your clothes or food but in a small venue with only immediate family etc. Or people who are close to you. Your mum is also right, Islam states about a Nikah, for the bride to go to her husbands house possibly consummate the marriage (doesn't happen for everyone but thats okay, the point is she spent the night with her husband), then the reception or Walima takes place to celebrate the marriage.

[@Bellona_]

I would love to spend a day with Mama Jee. I want to hear her opinions on so many things......

[@salsabeelmohammed6431]

I LOVE MAMA JEEEEE !!! 🥹❤ I high key want to have a cup of chai with her and chat for hours🥹

[@ifzasmi4945]

Beautiful energy, energetic bond mama g has , i was just thinking that its Saturday but i haven't listen your pod cast and literally i just search it and there was a video, you both made our weekend energetic 🎉

[@sarahrashid7530]

She telling the truth, I totally agree with her

[@sabihamahmood1512]

Everyone has their own love language. Some desi men show love in their own way.

[@irsaawan8615]

Cute when she says " Res nahin to Maroon phen lounge ❤️💕🧿😂😂. God bless you both .

[@moonlightea]

Man, i am the sameeee as Mama Jee. Once i start writing, i also can't stop. Same with talking. Lol 😂

[@fatimashah4962]

Mashallah mashallah excellent episode.. can't wait for the next episode.. I enjoy the opition of both sides of the generation ...

[@arnolddibi5560]

The G.O.A.T : Mama Jee !!! May she be blessed.

[@janissapn1042]

LOOL when the intro itself (Mama singing Baby and Wajeeh's sigh) makes me laugh I already know I'm gonna enjoy this one!

[@mallikamalhotra478]

You guys are legit my fav ! I legit get tea to watch this and have my brunch ! Love from toronto !

[@pakilino9635]

name the damn podcast chia therapy already, much 💙

[@aishazafar4349]

Mama Ji! Is the cutest. May she live long and have a healthy life so we can enjoy her talks❤ she’s true love.

[@rabiasheikh238]

This episode was great and no arguments 😂 just lovely xx

[@seeya7610]

After watching your Dad’s podcast. My perception for your Mom changed drastically. Even though there was a brief mentioning of her her how they met & got married. I’m so surprised to know how strong, caring , progressive & educated she is. She came to US by herself & that was a big deal back then. Now I think your mom fakes her insecurities for you. She cares but she’s learning to slowly letting go too. She’s very progressive & always supporting you & your sublings. I believe she will not be a controlling toxic MIL. Infact now I feel she will be very cool stylish wonderful MIL. I hope she gets more & more secure and that would be a wonderful dynamics.

[@liyum1299]

Heyyyyy wajeeh! Please talk about inter-religious marriages! What if you find a woman who has EVERYTHING that you ever asked for in a woman but she was born in a different religion? Would you choose societal pressures of religion or love?

[@aslihant.3524]

I would not even start dating, to bring it that far..i would mine religious wedding valid infront of God and better when u have kids

[@liyum1299]

I always wonder why religion decides who to love and who not to! Doesn’t love surpasses everything? Why is god/religion hell bent on segregating people into us and them? Wish to know your take on it @WajeehWest

[@ayesharashid6862]

I think the answer to your question depends on whether you are a religious person or not. If you value your relationship with Allah above everything else in your life, then it will definitely matter to you. But if you aren’t religious and don’t value your relationship with Allah, then it isn’t going to make much of a difference to you who your partner is. Rest we all know ourselves best from the inside 🤷‍♀️

[@liyum1299]

@@ayesharashid6862 i get your point. But my fundamental question is why does religion/god segregates humans into “us” and “them”. Why are there so many barriers, regulations and rules for who to love but no such strict sanctions on who to hate? Why does religion put so much restriction on who to love but not on hate? Of course one might say it equally teaches not to hate but why is it not a strict sanction as it is with love? I wish religion/god had strict sanctions and restrictions on hate like it has for love.

[@MaimoonaSyeda-wv8hs]

This talk was so comforting. Thanks for all the advice and the message at the end.

[@Diyadani1]

This was the 2nd BEST episode so far with Mamji ❤ 1st one is the one with Papaji!

[@GREENMOUNTAIN277]

Mama jee and papa jee,you both are made for each other,and Wajee beta you the best,love your podcast,looking forward every week.

[@gulmeenay9516]

MashaAllah mama jee your daughters in law are going to be luckiest In Shaa Allah much love Xx

[@rashidamahmood8410]

I want to see mama and papa his wedding pics

[@ummekhadija9296]

I’m two minutes into the podcast and I’m sooo excited bcuz yesterday I just binge listened/watched the pervious episodes. I’m soooo exited for this one! Will definitely give a feed back! I hope mama jee reads my podcast. Love you mamma jee xxxx

[@ummekhadija9296]

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[@kulsoomf2366]

Love mama jee.. you’ve raised your boys right 👏 and strongly agree with everything mama jee has said! ❤

[@mojojojo789]

You guys should do a quiz for your types of love languages

[@sadiaquddus434]

Lovely podcast yet again! I laugh with you both.

[@AishahSharif]

Love it! Really needed this it’s my Sunday go to here in the uk!!! Masha’Allah such a beautiful relationship n bond!!! Thank u…. Keep it going Allah swt keep you all safe n well ❤

[@saliha5638]

What does kashmiri tea taste like,, i rlly want to try mostly coz its pink😂 but i dont like tea..

[@missmessi]

yes its the same in the UK. us brown people are the same. i cant even hug my mum or siblings i find it uncomfortable as we grew up not being loving in that way. like now my sister calls her hubby babe infront of me and i lowkey cringe inside but i shouldnt its normal to nowadays. but personally i couldnt call my hubby babe infront of my family or hold his hand. even infront of my mum i wouldnt even sit on the same sofa lmao im so embarrassed argggg its annoying. like my white mates are like you are such a non hugger im like yeah i hate it. they be like love you and im like yeh same bye. they like say love you im like no its cringe lol like i do love them but i just cannot say it.

[@sarahrashid7530]

I totally agree with your mom, the mother in law will never let the daughter in law to take her place. She is always considered outsider even if she is married for many years

[@nusratk9733]

Love wajee attitude thank you. Please bring mamagee and papagee together. Please

[@fahmida4inayat]

Best!! TOPIC!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤🫡🫡🫡

[@themanecareactor1512]

Momma Jee is such an icon. Love her 😂❤️

[@kins6809]

Mama always throwing papa under the bus

[@adnaibrahim8029]

It should be up to the girl, this is like a more of girls fantasy 🥰 such a gentleman guy

[@deviantsoul787]

@25:17 I am going to clip it and make reel about it 😂🙌🏻 If they are not romantic God damn it atleast do the dishes 😂

[@sabyyy07]

One of the best Chat Talks thank u Wajeeh even though ur an amazing guy I’m sorry but I’m a BIG FAN OF MAMA JEE hugs n salams from Singapore to both of u

[@iqrashakoor6152]

I just like this whole family. This family is so beautiful so elegant just looking like a WOW.

[@rafiashaheen4121]

Mama Jee is the cutest.. Love her so much ❤️

[@moonlightea]

Also, I enjoyed Papa Jee's episode a lot. However, omg Mama Jee is seriously the LIFE of this podcast. When I heard her voice again after listening to your dad's, it felt like electricity came back 😂

[@Leenakx]

I always look forward to these podcasts☺️

[@craftyart8215]

I wait for these to eagerly. Loveeee these

[@sabah8760]

Love these podcasts 🩵

[@sameenkhan1001]

these type of videos are really relatable as a brown girl and just being desi in general, keep it up because i look forward to em!!

[@sannahummad]

Love this podcast x❤

[@moonlightea]

Allah = Love I've studied many cultures and religions all over the world, and the one connection I found all throughout the world, is that Our Creator is full of LOVE and that it's the single most powerful force in the world! 🙏❤

[@jaanimeah8330]

When mama jee says she will marry a white man 😂😂😂😂

[@ExploreWithRabiaNoor]

Omg! I love this chai talk podcast. So real and raw. Mama jee is the OG ahahah. So good. Lots of love.❤

[@S4FX]

Mama is so funny 😂 Also I agree a small wedding is a quality one 💕

[@sarahnaqvi7116]

‘Agar tum logon be brain khaali hain toh isme Mera kya qusoor hai.’ I’m going to start using this one 😂😂😂

[@shahinashahid3578]

Mom is hundred percent right

[@maheshdesai-ej7lr]

Hey , love your videos and discussions. Can you discuss about mental health, dominance, narcissistic behaviors in between families, control issues in-between families ? As it does exists families especially in South Asia . Toxic and bad elders do exists . Boundaries are necessary. But these topics are always hush hush in our society. We expect victims to shut up and tolerate it and blame victims only. Only when news of suicide or attack happens then we talk about it. Not all parents, all teachers, all doctors are saint- they have faults and those things can be solved. When unsolvable distance is necessary. I am sure your videos can give justice to topics.

[@maemae1752]

How can you be so oblivious to what your son is telling you? You only ever see things from your point of view and refuse to acknowledge your son’s frustrations with your relationships

[@MahnoorJamshaid-b4w]

i would not want even toxic close relatives in my wedding let alone random auntis and uncles

[@atza9270]

Mama jee speaking facts ❤

[@nusratk9733]

Thank you mamagee for remembering Palestinians people.

[@alizey27]

Great talk once again...Masha'Allah

[@mysmallworld2234]

Mama ji so cute ..i love her ❤

[@RiddhiMallick-l1h]

Love from india ♥️ mama jee is adorable

[@Azranm514]

Soooo freaking accurate

[@sabarahman2093]

Mama jee always keeps it real. Love it!

[@khantravels3661]

Can I please borrow Mama Jee for 1 week. I need her opinion on everything ❤️

[@liveletlive2072]

Love your comment!😄

[@Ninja-ix6lr]

Mama Ji is gangsta! She keeps it real, always!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😆😆

[@ham-3]

Mama g is soo sweet ❤

[@sheharbano6452]

Mama jee what brand are you wearing? I love the color and it's looking lovely on you 💖

[@SidraPannu]

mama jee voice of soo many hearts 🥰

[@ShajinaBegum-l1n]

Your mum is a Gem! Shower her with affection I think that’s all she wants from you all! Love the bond! Keep up the great work! Mamajeee you are awesome!

[@Adam-qu5uk]

LOOOL I think all dads are romantic just not infront of their kids thats it. But obvi our gen with my kids I will be open about it

[@kins6809]

But the real question is why ? If you ask me not really setting a good example

[@maemae1752]

Some feedback, if you are going to really build a podcast then make sure you stick to speaking English, so many of us want to listen to podcasts while doing other things also when you speak in your natural language, most of us don’t understand. Great content 💫

[@itssmomina]

Nice talk!🤌🏻

[@anilarazi5033]

Love the episode