Waking Up from the Trance of Unworthiness with Tara Brach

[@kathyannk]

It’s no revelation that we all feel unworthy. I spent a lot of time listening to people tell me “how to stop feeling unworthy”. Gabor Maté is the first person I listened to who actually made me understand “how it happened in the first place”-that it came from childhood trauma. The human condition is essentially the result of childhood trauma. And aside from the more obvious & awful things that traumatize children, simple things do too. As children, we obediently bury our authenticity-our true selves-in many ways, in favor of love & approval. So, inevitably we grow up feeling less than, incomplete. And unless you approach your healing from that point, you could end up spinning your wheels like I did. Remember: nothing is missing in you. Whatever you think is missing, it’s right where you left it.

[@emilyflores9844]

Yes well said. I LOVE Gabor Mate and his work. I have been on this journey of self discovery, self forgiveness , change in order to heal my body and my life. Like louise hays book. You can heal your life...its all about self love. Self love is the foundation to all.

[@kathyannk]

Emily Flores And well said to you too.

[@markobythesea]

Well said! I'm officially boarding the self-love train to health, happiness, and a fuller, more powerful and authentic me. Choo choo!

[@jafrasar1]

Mark O'Brien ALL aboard that train, happily jumping on board to see and be in the new lands of loving oneself.

[@christopherkane2842]

koocheekooo agree re Gabor Maté ....! He gets it & I understand now wtf the real reason is about my EI or mental health of anxiety depression add etc -> Trauma & that morph you said about giving up Authentic self for love & acceptance🤔😢😑

[@flipczech]

Tara's podcasts helped so much to pull me out of my darkest days in a slow, steady way. I was really isolated and alone and her kind voice kept me tethered to humanity and helped keep my torch lit. She's a dharma master and a valued teacher to me. Namaste.

[@neelapatel6558]

Many days its Tara who is my best friend. I often think of what SHE would say to me in the role of that caring person when you can't be to yourself.

[@Lunabuna522]

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[@notavailable708]

Can you suggest some that helped you? Titles or links?

[@colleencraig3991]

Yes ❤️ Tara Brach radically changed my life , when I was close to not wanting to go on living , such an intense dark time in my life,. For anyone hurting, I highly recommend downloading and playing on repeat in your headphones Taras wisdom , all her podcasts are so brilliant and healing. . the trance of unworthiness “ that she goes into deep discussion, really hit home for me. All my love to each of you. Change is possible❤️🌈🌙

[@notavailable708]

@@colleencraig3991 where can I find her podcasts

[@saysay_unique]

I haven’t finished watching only 2 minutes in and the fact that this video was on my feed is amazing. I had a thought the other day… If your raised Christian your automatically taught from the beginning your bad and that was the first time I didn’t trust or love myself! Im coming out of that place and it is well with my soul! Now back to the video!

[@saysay_unique]

I might add I was in grade school when this started happening

[@saysay_unique]

Coming back to this comment 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I was also in grade school when I was first called “black” at home I was Saysay or Sarah 🥴🥴😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this healing is so deep! 🙇🏾‍♀️ thank you 😊 80’s baby!

[@charlieholiday374]

Algorithms

[@saysay_unique]

@@charlieholiday374 it’s the timing for me💕

[@stillnotstill]

@@saysay_unique I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. I know from experience it can be very hard. I hope you find what you need.

[@maryatvan]

Dr. Gabor Matè made the correlation that children left unattended, bereft of a loving environment have almost 100% propensity chances to have post trauma disorders. Many go on to have compulsive addictive behavior. The lack of engaged contact or a sense of belonging underscored by a disregard for one's child is a recipe for that child to grow without a sense of security, lacks awareness of boundaries and does not employ a compass of relationship to inner self or outer self. This promotes a personality feeling unworthy and in fight or flight anxiety. These parent(s) were ill equipped to raise children let alone understand that nurturing a baby during the important first few years initiates a child's self-actualization process of themself and of their world. Your life work is changing lives by living your truth. ♡

[@enough1494]

My anxiety, depression and PTSD has now manifested into heart disease. Exhausting the exhausted. Lucky me, I survived that which gave me the above mentioned; so, once again, I will find the energy and courage to transform again, and again…..

[@junevasilis3002]

Try Dr. Joe Dispenzas work!! Watch his testimonies on youtube! Hes amazing..

[@randomcompilations201]

Read untethered soul by micheal singer

[@Horseluvver]

Not me. I'm too old & I'm not worth the trouble anymore. The abuse is constant. Not even my cats....this time not even my cats are worth my being here.

[@lyleburgie]

There is some deep wisdom here for those of us who are in the process of reclaiming our worthiness. Thank you.

[@larsstougaard7097]

Yes fully agree, it can be a long proces, but one step at a time 😊🙏♥️

[@elinmansson5535]

The interviewer has a magnetic voice..

[@Muktiji]

I love KZbin because this content is here and I need it. This is where my deep sensitivity isn't constantly rejected by someone telling me feelings aren't real. #guides #soundstrue

[@anna-birdretired8641]

Thank you for this interview. As a survivor of childhood sexual, psychological, & physical abuse, this describes the essence of my being. I constantly struggle with my ability to raise an emotionally healthy child and maintain healthy adult relationships.

[@thenorthstargirl]

I feel for you

[@wildewildestrawberries]

I'm do glad I was led to this sight. Thank you universe.

[@adivinepriestess]

This was published on birthday! I really needed this wisdom! I recently found out I have BPD and realized that my radically changing my life was me saving my identity.

[@l_m_9618]

The way Tara speaks about self, self - hatred and shame. She has the insight that all our minds are searching for. Sat through this and made me realise that I am my own worst enemy and when you're trapped in your mind, your own body often will amplify the negativity based on pre-existing notions that you're less than, often due to trauma and external factors that were never your fault, or within your control.

[@Michaelangie]

You’re so right about being with yourself through suffering! Don’t abandon yourself!

[@fcfelicewu7490]

Tara’s description of how she experienced unworthiness is so clear and relatable.

[@donnalebert9143]

Ik from womb n 6yrs our subconscious mind gets programmed by our environment and many of it wasn't positive . but we can change our thinking ( REPROGRAMMING OUR MIND) but now that ik from yrs of depression n anxiety n studying myself n listening to ppl like you, ik now being quite n meditation is very important. For me Jesus died n now lives in me to help guide me.I need to be quite in this crazy fast life n really listen n trust myself.this is my journey not anyone else's. Trust yourself!!!! Thank you for all that you do to help n spread your knowledge.

[@lunitee]

Oh man, what a beautiful, powerful, loving manifestation of the feminine compassion. Tami and Tara, you enlightened my soul!

[@joy39894]

I find comfort in Tara's calmness and wisdom.

[@makaylahollywood3677]

Recently, I've thought of the idea of praying for answers, praying to the holy spirit to come thought me, praying for healing of my stuckness. I am creativity and capable of helping others- i have run into this thought of who can i ask for help since a child. I never knew where to go. I used to read books to help. Now, i call on a higher power, something within- to guide me. I'm not my truest self- i have been covered by experience. My mother was my best friend, i helped her and she helped me. I feel unsure without her, unguided. And yet, I grew up being her guide all along.

[@francesb7515]

I feel the woman who reflected on her behavior and her child's behavior was very brave and strong to take the step of acknowledging that. Being strong enough to acknowledge that my approach may need to change would be the hardest part and I admire that.

[@stephaniecruz7699]

thank you for this video I've struggled with self hatred and that feeling of unworthiness for well my whole life I expect I'll listen to this again and again until it sends in I found myself crying as I thought of a life where I loved my self

[@Nataleeiscool]

This really just solidified my own understanding. I never thought of this as a trance, but it makes sense. I just wish my anxiety would give me some kind of inch to boot it out in moments where I feel completely useless and small...I love this, though. Her eyes really speak her soul.

[@nancyb3592]

I love ❤️ so much of what Tara teaches but this was for me exceptional. The piece of all our humanness when we need to go to a kind place within ourselves. As I round the sun 65 times I daily find self acceptance and my worthiness.💜☮️

[@Intothemysticpodcast]

The fact that this popped up in my feed today makes me quiver… spending a lot of time on this right now. Needed to hear this… Right. Now. 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@reenalifecoach1814]

This content is amazing and perfect for the phase I am currently in at this moment. I have been experiencing Breakthroughs I am identifying aspects and beliefs of myself that I have deeply hidden for about 20yrs. I was worried and feeling unworthy however after this and other attention I have been given to my emotions I am beginning to accept myself and my achievements vs focusing on the pain and negativity. THANKS TARA AND SOUNDS TRUE TEAM, I am beyond grateful and am looking forward to reaching out and collaborating with the team!!! See you soon. AND FOR EVERYONE ELSE, IT IS OKAY, YOU HAVE OVERCOME SO MUCH, YOU ARE LIVING, CRYING IS PROCESSING WE AE ENOUGH, take a step back and appreciate YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS.

[@WezaMind]

what a deep, thoughtful, beautiful person ♡

[@Nota769]

Wow, yes. The answer is in the feeling of , for example , love. Spend more time experiencing the love you have , like in the example of the mom, for your child. You can say for sure you know you love your daughter . So start there, where you are certain you can trust yourself . Then try and “(re)act , make decisions, respond, from there and expand to other areas. I think we spend all our time overthink and reexperiencing the uncertain, painful, experiences and memories than the feelings we enjoy, moments of comfort. It sort of makes sense, like duh of course I’m negative etc what do o expect I spent must of my life dwelling there. I actually don’t have much experience with joyful good memories and periods of strengths and Behaviors I’m really proud of. So yes, it’s true. Whoever commented by asking” do you do esteem able acts” I really really deeply get that line now . I want to like myself more so I should try spending more time with myself in those moments as oppose to others

[@emmagatewood3898]

9:58 "Between the stimulus & the response there is a space, & in that space is our power & our freedom." 🙏💜

[@yobrojoost]

Thank you so much for sharing this conversation with us all. A great antidote to the all pervasive notion of 'not good enough', which is relentlessly promoted by the society we live in, and in particular by the advertisers who try to dictate how we 'should' be. You're right, Tara, if we were happy within ourselves the economy would not only crash, it would be obsolete! (incidentally, the word 'economy' means 'making the most out of the least', exactly the opposite of how it's generally being perceived!)

[@gwenwade6059]

Two beautiful spirits. Thank you.

We are all works in progress. Day in and day out we dip our toes in the stream of life, succeeding and failing from sun up to sun down, living, learning and hopefully improving a little bit more each day as we go. Blessings to all.

[@HappyGoLuckyPanda]

Being with unpleasant feelings helped me to get in touch with the part that I didn’t feel/touch for a long time cuz we kept moving on/ignoring that part……somehow when I decided not to let go that unpleasant feeling, it felt like I was hugging that “part” of me also. It is like reintegrating a part of myself into a more whole being.

[@brandbergsq8411]

Wow!! I swear my angels brought your video to me. Thank you for doing this talk. X

[@nicodemus-dean7020]

Me too

[@adamisaac4685]

It's called Google algorithms

[@SerpentineSilk]

I practiced putting my hand on my heart.... and feeling trusting self faith..at first it felt like i was lying to myself... I began to weep profusely and by the end of my private emotional outpouring, I realized I was weeping from joy... because it felt like I befriended myself that this circle within me had been unbroken and healing could now begin ...that this hatred of myself didn't have to be.

[@pamelaroebuck1079]

So very true, Tara. I wouldn't talk to anyone as harshly as I speak to myself. Self love and acceptance is so very important. Thank you for the reminder not to be so critical of myself.

[@jmang5953]

I've never heard healing techniques put in this way before. Such a great interview. Thank you both💐💐

[@ViagensGringa]

Attend and befriend is so powerful - doing that individually and in community. Beautiful healing wisdom!

[@carlmasondrums]

I'm so grateful for this video finding me, it kinda came just in time, thank you so much guys and much love to you both

[@peacelovejoy8786]

Richard Rohr - ragamuffin TV clears alot of this up too! Thank you Tammy for your channel "Sounds True" one mind appearing as many. Teach only Love for that is what we are.. 🙏❤✨

[@11Garrett11]

As one of my mentors once said, you can’t let go of your ego until you have a healthy one.

[@kalifornia4745]

This was life changing. Thank you for this beautiful exchange. I needed this so much today and of late.

[@michelledg]

The timing of this video coming into my awareness, my readiness to absorb so many of its energetic elements has both been incredibly soothing and empowering. Thank you for coming together to share this with us :-)

[@deborahmeyers7839]

This is soooooo inspiring wise and loving not detaching but connecting respecting the selfyourself myself hand on heart is a precious thing too I do this also thanks for sharing love and light everyone 🙌🌺🙌

[@notadonna5983]

Thank you fot all the great Sounds True content! I loved this. As more and more of us wake up, waking up will become increasingly easy. Practicing gratitude helps me become still enough to recognize the inner conflicts, too. And suffering is teaching me compassion. Blessings all!

[@masonart4950]

Just finding this on my path. It's a new landmark for me.

[@alysarushtonenergy135]

Omgeee!!! The voice of sounds true! I love that I finally get to see your glorious self!!! Your voice is AMAZING!!!!!!! And so are you!!!!

[@ccburro1]

Thank you Dr Brach.❤️❤️❤️.

[@skj068]

I always love the deep and thoughtful questions that Tami asks.

[@rightnow5839]

I absolutely LOVE ❤️ the analogy of the 🐻 bear with leg in a trap. That specifically can help one see themselves more compassionately faster

[@pauldinardo7726]

This is a great video. To have people see who they really are. We are not born unworthy we are all a part of the creative source born very worthy. We are eternal beings and throughout this life we have forgot who we are. Right now there is a great awakening on this topic all over the globe. The video right here is proof of this. Look at all the info coming about this subject lately

[@glorydey5008glowlight]

Beautiful Session, Very Enlightening. Truly Said We Have To Accept Ourselves Wholly With Both The Good And Bad Parts. Only When We Accept Them And Understand The Aspects Of Our Nature Without Being Judgemental, Find Forgiveness, And Surrendering Ourself To The Divine Love Of God Universe, Then We Find Courage And Strength To Awaken To Our Higher Self And Transform In A New Light. There Is A Deeper Message Concept Of Total Acceptance Of Oneself Without Being Egoistic, Forgiveness Without Any Judgement, And Releasing All Negative Energies Of Shame, Guilt, Fear, And Unworthiness To Cultivate Self-Worth, Love, And Compassion In Life! Blessings To All, Namaste! 😍😇🙏

[@Modernstoic1]

This is gold. Thank you so much, the two of you, for your words and this video🙏🏻

[@suzieqwonder3089]

My life is fear based which was triggered from a long-lived trauma. I am isolated but I want to be connected. I’m 62 with RA, lived a very active life until 2012. Now what do I Do? How can I become connected with like-minded people again? I try to be consistent with exercise but going to a gym does not give me life altering experiences with people. I could be more connected with others but the opportunities I have become involved in have not manifested. What could I be seeking for? I’m kind & full of love. People are separated & not willing to become more involved with each other.....

[@sentb5744]

SuzieQ Wonder I hear you. I worry about the disconnect I see in our culture. I wish for you the love and connection you deserve. You are worthy.

[@suzieqwonder3089]

Senta Burton Thank you. I hope your heart is filled with joy in every moment💞

[@demois]

Find an ashram. Go to yoga / meditation classes.

[@sallytanner4755]

Join a kindness based/Buddhist based group meditation. You will find the right kind of people.

[@robynnguyen4174]

Hello, I am wondering if you ever found peace and became less isolated? I am currently struggling with leaving my home and I feel I am full of love as well so I would love your update🤍

[@tanjaborchhardt2123]

Very accurate and valuable information, and presented in an absolutely authentic way. Thank you from the heart. The universe always delivers the right stuff when it's needed. And it is so needed ...much love

[@fiddlefancier]

We have a pulse. We are worthy.

[@jennyhong6746]

Your voice is like a soundbath. Very vibrational for healing.

[@redwoods7370]

I was raised in a strict Irish Catholic family and attended Catholic schools. Taught that I was born with original sin and became a sinner the moment I was born. Brainwashed and in a trance is correct in my case. Very hard to shake off.

[@johnstewart7025]

The way I make sense of this is to see that our conscious self is only a small part of ourselves. After all we are the product of billions of years of evolution.

[@stillnotstill]

I'm sorry that happened to you. I have been taught that too and I'm trying to heal from it. Best wishes to you.

[@lauralunaazul]

I love Tara so much! Thank you Tami and Sounds True for this conversation with her ❤

[@chrysalis72]

I have this badly. Childhood bullying that carried on into my adult life.its awful chronic shame.

[@marilynzeinel-abidin1027]

This is beautiful and so are you . Many thanks

[@SerpentineSilk]

I am utterly unworthy.....I have a nice home.....a nice car......a loving husband.....everything I could want.....Yet I can't enjoy any of it because I'm unworthy......I hate myself for how I treat others.....the feelings of unworthiness are compounded by all the love I am surrounded by......I just want to be a hermit.....I am saturated with hate.

[@blissfulbaboon]

That was a wonderfully honest statement.Thank you for being real.I appreciate 🙏your openess.

[@11Garrett11]

Please read the book ‘What We Say Matters: Practicing Nonviolent Communication’ by Judith & Ike Lasater 🙏

[@patriciaquaglia1795]

I understand you. I had it all except a husband..money, career, kids, degrees, etc. lost all my money and had to exude the light and love inside onto my belief of unworthiness and slowly changing using my own and Tara’s medicine/meditations. I also have a therapist and practice affirmations. Keep healing.

[@charlieholiday374]

One thing that helps me...to take a look at my INTENTION when inside any action...example...kid makes me mad by not listening...i go about the house slamming doors and yelling to them to listen...is my intwnt when slamming and yelling to get this child to LISTEN or am i also attempting to have them recognize the level of anger im feeling???? I WAS NOT ABLE TO SEE THESE THINGS TIL I WOKE UP BUT AM NOW AWAKE SO CAN LOOK INWARD TO DO SO

[@stillnotstill]

This is wise. Thank you for sharing it!

[@charlieholiday374]

@@stillnotstill its my daily life since my awakening....ive full of bs like that that NEVER should have been....but at least i can see it now

[@charlieholiday374]

@@stillnotstill ur welcome

[@petrahattingh8013]

Thank you, Tammy and Tara!!

[@belindaoleary4000]

I find insecure people don't lack self doubt ..they project confidence (fake)..but secure people who know who they are ,have self doubt

[@evieevaeve]

Thank you so much for the openness to share your knowledge. This helped me and touched me deeply

[@thefunctionalfarmacista7790]

The Trance of being unworthy, skyrocketed for me, I believe, in menopause. It is deeply painful.

[@MegaLilJen]

I think this is part of it for me, too.

[@JDMimeTHEFIRST]

I want to ask her about people on the spectrum. Our sense of unworthiness comes from the perception of neurotypicals thinking we are unworthy and making us feel this way our whole lives (discriminating against us and deeming us unlovable, not giving us the same benefit of doubt or opportunities as they give others). Even when we believe in ourselves, society fights against us constantly.

[@JDMimeTHEFIRST]

People need to learn to be kind to others so we can accept ourselves. It does take a village.

[@karlr2908]

This was such a well facilitated interview 👏🏼

[@soundinducedflow]

That first example helped it all make sense. Thank you

[@wendymonette8484]

Thank you Tami and Tara. Very uplifting.

[@webbaron1]

Thank you. Very helpful and insightful. Cheers.

[@SoundstrueManyVoices]

Thank you for watching.

[@jarcauco]

It gonna be alright 🍀

[@sockysworld8010]

Great vid. Thank you. 🙏❤️😊

[@wendywhite2642]

What a cool way to present the two people talking. The two video feed rectangles just flew in and perfectly seated themselves side by side in a stage space that feels like a theater. Thanks! :-)

[@reneemorris7197]

Very Intuitive Lady

[@sannelind9259]

Thank you ☀️☀️☀️

[@lisac6139]

Beautiful and healing.

[@dianneschmid8129]

Thank u Tara such beautiful wise words truly allow me to realize I am not alone 🌸💕🌸yes I too agree when we open our beautiful heart to self love and mean it magic happens 🙏🌸🌸🌸

[@SN-sz7kw]

Love hearing this, but also wrestling with the paradox of being true to self vs. attaining and maintaining security. These needs rarely align. Achieving the latter requires energy, belief, and motivation - often only sustained by sublimation or even a kind of annihilation of the “true self.” This is especially so for those less powerful. I am watching my young adult daughters go through this now. Preserving the true inner self while establishing the public self in a competitive world is a wrenching task for the young psyche. There is no guidebook or college course. Only when we reach our senior years do we get a full view of the casualties. The accounting can be soul wrenching. I believe it would help if there were honored rituals for this reckoning. If those inevitable sacrifices of self were valued.

[@newcures7813]

Tammy’s voice sounds so much like Heather Heying’s - very rich and nice on the ears

[@peacelovejoy8786]

Yes! 👍

[@rebeccastruth999]

Great interview! Thanks for leaving space for your guest to speak. Beautiful 🙏 just what I needed

[@1LaOriental]

Very insightful. Great analysis of how capitalism breeds neurosis. Endless consumerism, competition, fear and overworking.

[@MegaLilJen]

I spent years in my birth family in fact being rejected when I was being my genuine self. I often heard things like, "what is wrong with you?" "Why are you crying? Stop crying!" "You're being dramatic!" and was ridiculed for my interests and passions. It is proving very, very difficult for me to truly let go of those judgments and risk being myself, and to risk showing my true self to others (for fear of rejection). There's a level on which I can function very well, but deeper? Nope. That's still a struggle.

[@thankyoujesus2836]

Self love and self approval is so important

[@juanitahardy8583]

I have been struggling with this all my life. I am manifesting but not seeing fulfillment and think this may be my block. I want to conquer this.

[@stillnotstill]

I believe you can! Best wishes to you

[@Wildflowerfire]

Wow, she's wonderful. I relate with so many of these practices. Thank you for sharing.

[@JohnCahillChapel]

Thank you for this, and the honesty regarding your own experience.

[@caramason56]

So inspiring and beautiful 😊❤️🌈

[@carolinaichazo6824]

Thank you very much.

[@ionebrown481]

Walking this path💖

[@CurlyQ340]

This is so good

[@GwenMotoGirl]

This is so important.

[@lenkafussiova1099]

Děkuji!

[@chrisbeveridge3066]

In your heart you know what's true But still you do what you're told to do And everybody looks the other way.

[@vickisechler6435]

Beautiful conversation 💖🙏

[@Symbolsysteme]

What a beautiful conversation between two beautiful souls. I am sure if we would all have healthy self-love and self-worth our world would be in a completely different state. Capitalism, the exploitation of nature, hate, wars... all these things can only exist if people don't really love themselves. A capitalistic society grounds itself in the lack of self-worth. If people would have healthy self-worth, they wouldn't consume all these subsititutes which will never fill the holes.

[@Clxdy123]

Amazing thank you 💟 Blessing of under joy to all 🙏

[@geneedgerton4482]

So helpful. Thank you.

[@ravenbridges2962]

What if one has no sense of being and therefore doesn’t know what “being true to oneself” means?

[@YoungNationWorld]

No sense of self can arise from being too into others or attempting environmental control. As you let go of those habits your authentic self arises bc you are more self aware in every moment

[@HelenLangSA]

I had no sense of being for a very long time. Finally one day everything just clicked and I got it. Keep searching and asking that question, not that the answer is outside of you, but it will eventually be revealed to you. The key is, to add action to the search. Don’t just read a book or listen to audio, do the exercises they recommend. Everyone’s journey is different. I thought I would never find myself!

[@GabyZacara]

This talk was wonderful, thank you! 😊🙏💜🌹

[@HM-se1ig]

This has been helpful,thank you