Want to marry a Korean? 5 things you should know!

Hey guys ~
this is just some of my experience regarding marriage with a Korean while living in Korea. My husband has pretty much lived in Korea his whole life, whereas I grew up in the States most of my life. My wedding was in Korea, and therefore, a lot of the preparation was Korean style or Korean tradition.
I am just talking about my experience. Hope this helps. I

[@syubbe]

half of the people on this video are probably kpop fans who lowkey wishes to be with their idol

[@cloudikoo]

- taehyung #exposed

[@ilia2250]

- taehyung 😂

[@mintyjang]

LMAO more like 90%

[@jamzin4983]

firstly, get better grammar dumbass and secondly, you're literally on yourself?

[@syubbe]

Light Yagami what do you mean by "get better grammar"??? and lmao it's a joke? Ever heard of it before ? stop being so salty and let people live fgs My comment wasn't even an insult lmao idk why you're getting so pressed but hey (while you're here)preorder "Her" on amazon and support bts, thanks.

[@blank6194]

1st thing to ever know to get married to a korean: learn korean.

[@tonyvilla6189]

What if the girl like girls .do they ge married?

[@littlemixsbaby8928]

Just don't if you are not korean because most of them consider dating a foreigner as just an "experience" and in the end they end up getting married to a korean girl so yeah

[@tonyvilla6189]

@@littlemixsbaby8928 There is a Lot of girls in In Mexico from korea they like Our food Drinks,and Sex.and good time. possible married.

[@tonyvilla6189]

@@littlemixsbaby8928 The Girls said Korean Man has small penis that way they estay in mexico for the extra large.

[@hotheadsniper]

@@tonyvilla6189 Mexicans men don't have large penis.i have seen many on porn movies.Mexicans and Asians are on same boat when it comes to the penis size.Mexican women do have large boobs and booties though.

[@NoctLightCloud]

The Korean wedding seems to be more about money than about love.

[@linamondu6471]

Most marriages are about money and not love. Love marriage is only a recent concept.

[@whatevergoesforme5129]

The Chinese are the same.

[@jamesson1154]

That’s how the word “dowry” was created. We do this in the states too. If you wanted to marry a woman a dowry was expected from the brides father. Usually a horse, a cow or something of worth. Horses and cows were the big ticket items like rings, cars houses today. That’s why young women eloped. Cus the young men they loved had nothing to offer as dowry’s. Much like kings traded offspring for political agendas. They raised the person straight out the womb. Fed clothed and bathed. They want something in return lol.

[@loizidii9849]

sad :(

[@user-cl7cl4qj9c]

if you really love someone dont marry them

[@riyona6064]

It looks like I am hearing about an Indian wedding tradition ..

[@noor_family3395]

yes , and also a bangladeshi wedding tradition.

[@amiemagar2294]

Also a Nepalese wedding tradition

[@hamtaru]

Basically Asian wedding traditon, though there might be some exceptions

[@WarishaAhmed]

Also Pakistani wedding!!!

[@rhythmshawol3983]

true

[@richarquis]

I'm dating a Korean woman who used to own/run a wedding hall. She is adamant she wants to just get married in a garden with a handful of close family and friends, and wants absolutely nothing to do with the regular Korean wedding style. Seems I picked a rare gem.

[@doramiii8531]

Congratulations

[@gamersdeck1955]

You are lucky

[@mysticalhuman]

Congratulations

[@shaunakkapse4254]

Bro give some tips bro

[@samuelsprings7245]

Are you still married?

[@MusicNightMoments]

This will be super helpful when I marry Kim Namjoon....

[@mademoiselledelaforet6789]

Christina bitch fuck off the boy is mine 😂😂😂😂😂

[@furrynightfury9578]

😂😂 why leader-hyung? he aint bad istg but why tho xD

[@ruthtenshly2613]

Arine Mboma I just love army's always bringing fun to every thing #istanthebestfandom

[@avanimore703]

^ same w me n tae

[@user-ot3nb5mk9b]

Me and jungkook ㅋㅋㅋㅋ

[@RoseyDreamsss]

What am I doing here,I am already married with Jhope

[@martaperez7911]

Maybe I'm too late cuz tha comment is after two years, but hobi is mine 😊

[@coleenbaltazar6258]

Hobi is for his future gf only :)

[@jhopebu-in3518]

@@coleenbaltazar6258 yeah thats me 🤣

[@197anapinto]

Kpop fans wishing to get married to idols 😂😂

[@kenontefenner3930]

ARMY MOCHI so true I want to marry Kim Dahyun so bad 😭 btw im a boy lol

[@dhritiiii1010]

@@kenontefenner3930 lmao 😂

[@reyh2100]

No no, I like them all. My future korean husband can be a normal person not just kpop idols.

[@197anapinto]

@@reyh2100 wow. Fetishizing. Nice 👍

[@lovelynorae]

Wow, as a Korean-American myself, I applaud you for having the patience to go through with all this Korean shenanigans! Just proves how much you love your husband! 😄

[@unconformingtruther5496]

lovelynorae where's the picture thou hon

[@brucehur2051]

your so white washed...such a bitch!

[@kaam..]

Wtf are these sub comments

[@themonsterwithin9287]

F

[@MelissaBrownapt215]

...or how badly she wanted to get married. That'a a thing, too.

[@mirianv4656]

omg getting married in korea just sounds so so so expensive. when i got married in the states it was in front of just close family and i really nice dinner. cheap, easy, and filled with love and family

[@jrome3782]

Never getting married to a Asian . Everything is just seeking of approval and hate how clingly it can be sighs

[@aprilmaymaestre7136]

Yeah its very nice to have simple cheap but happy wedding day..

[@usherabhi1]

Mirian V hi

[@user-hp9fn9en9q]

J RÔME what why r u being so racist?

[@opurashid4980]

yea right

[@leturtle768]

Ok then I'm too poor to marry a Korean guy

[@koomnies]

i c u yoongi. lmao

[@Nico.Robin7]

Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool

[@jaysatalee1564]

I am a Korean ... I am poor so that doesn't matter

[@jamesson1154]

jaysata lee lol

[@jamesson1154]

jaysata lee me too but my gf still loves me.

[@noyonika2245]

Indians can lowkey relate to almost 80% of this. Except for the cash exchange part, I guess. I've seen gifts being exchanged, but not money. But anyway, seems like most Asian weddings are grand affairs, unlike in the West.

[@mariahhashmi9380]

there are cash exchanges also but the not very close relatives are the once who gives those to the bride

[@genius2655]

Alrighty, Min Yoongi, I'm diving into the water now, see you in a year

[@emmanuellaboahen9]

Raven Scamander you there yet? Almost 12 months aka 1 year! Hurry since the comeback will drop in 2 days and they starting the tour right after😂

[@user-se8bz7ke6u]

Hey! How was it? 😂 are you there yet?

[@joannaaguilar8255]

How is it!? :)

[@mominaqazi5564]

Did you get there? 🤣

[@dris4906]

Been teo years. How was it?

[@sheila8093]

conclusion is, you have to be rich first before getting married.. i don't want to marry anymore haha

[@ShaneFagan]

Sheila Laude I think it depends on the person. I got married to a Korean last year and everyone was pretty chill. I don't have a house, didn't do any of the cash stuff, she didn't have to buy anything. The only real promise I made was that I would go to Korea every year. That's it. It was fairly simple really.

[@dixienormous9845]

Sheila Laude I'm too poor to get married lol.

[@busetgadapet]

Shane Fagan your wife is from rich family then?

[@JK-lr4su]

I feel like if her family was rich, they would actually expect a lot more.

[@gitupun5565]

Sheila Laude im now adult i dont have a job and I think I can't afford korean women to marry cuz they waste money on beauty products too much ...

[@christinejayakody]

It's not just Korean. It's mostly Asian as a whole.

[@jamesgarcia7635]

Not in the philippines lolz

[@cindrelly]

Christine Jayakody not in the philippines hun

[@rayn28]

Nope

[@Kusunoky]

Agreed. However he says "mostly"

[@P0rtugueseRedM00n]

In China the males pays for everything. Not the women

[@isabelledanao90]

Their culture looks nice on dramas but when you share your stories, it appears expensive and mandatory--forceful. 😑😑😑

[@Djinner13]

...You realize we are talking about weddings here, right? In the majority of countries weddings are stressful and mandatory. I don't think you realize how expensive weddings in the west are.... And if making a list of things you want other people to buy you for your wedding isn't forceful and expensive I don't know what is. It's much easier to give cash like they do in asian countries. Also, most of the time you are giving ~$100 which is really damn cheap for a wedding gift.

[@isabelledanao90]

MambaJamba Yes, I agree with what you have said but as a girl, do you really have to be the one who gives the dowry and buy new furniture because it is in their culture? In Korean, it is indeed in their culture but for her to experience this is sudden and new to her which can cause her to react in this way

[@suryagurung7793]

@@Djinner13 lol in India, if you can't give atleast $10000 you're single for life

[@rasigadhanya8952]

Lol Wait until you hear about Indian culture when it comes to marriage 😂

[@spud.9875]

@@isabelledanao90 You're complaining woman have to buy furniture when the men have to buy the whole house...

[@simplyssol]

oops I meant receive 5000 back regarding the cash issue~ hehe :) please leave me any questions if you want me to do a part 2 video!

[@ick4]

your videos are extremely helpful thank you! Do you have instagram too?

[@limkyung964964]

oh and I heard that some Korean people are very picky for example if person isn't high class usually they don't associate with it but if person is high class they would because the money or rich family ,,, am a Korean myself and I know and I see it ,,, very sad

[@riyona6064]

Simply SSOL in India all the procedure are same ..even though most of the Indians do arranged marriage ..all of these traditions are done by girls parents

[@tiwithewondercat5479]

Hello can you do a video dating a korean?

[@andreysia19]

Simply SSOL hi... I know you're strunggling a lot with the culture shock. Hang in there, honey. You can do this, I know you can handle your disappointments very well. To make you feel better, i have the same experience with you even though I am not marrying a korean man. I think most of asian culture is like that. Well, more or less. I and my parents technically paid everything for my wedding day. The ceremony, the celebration. Guests in my country don't bring gifts. They bring cash to your wedding celebration. It's from the idea that they could "help" you more with your spending on your wedding. And yes, most of the guests are our parents' guest. We believe that this universe has the rule of take and give. Our parents "invested" a lot on other people's wedding (the guests' or the guests' family member), so they need to be paid back. I know this doesn't make any sense. The "gifted" cash from guests is usually given to the parents as an exchange of their spending on our wedding. Many modern parents nowadays give them all to the bride & groom, but this would not happen with a more moderate family. And yes, your wedding is a big celebration with usually more than 500 invitation (one invitation valid for 2 people). Bride's family usually spend more money than the groom's. But, I am okay with that. Because I can nag about it. Hahaha. I mean, when if in the future my husband doesn't get along well with my family, I can remind him about this issue and why he should respect my family more. At least he has a specific and rational reasons why he has to. The groom usually takes responsibility as the one who should provide house and income for you and your future children. And I swear I nagged a lot on this issue. I kind of asking this and that about our financial and our future plan blah blah. And i plan to do this for the rest of my life 😈. Well you know, i just want to take some revenge. Haha.. Despite of all those issues, you ARE getting married. Hey, you will be living with your man for the rest of your life, so be happy.This too shall pass.

[@mahima22jha]

I notice so much similarity between Indian & Korean Culture☺please make part 2 if U hvnt yet😁getting approval from parents(in case of love marriage) is in India also. And buying things for house & giving cash is also common in India & it is actually like dowry but few things are mandatory like buying gifts for in laws & their relatives. & about guests that's also same thing as in India, each & every member of the family can invite their friends/relatives.

[@swathilakshmi5946]

vidya b b In our culture( Indian), it's more like only the bride's family has to bear the whole burden of marriage. I think Korean situation is better than ours. Remember the number of female infanticide that used to happen previously just because girls were considered as burden to the family.

[@taeyongsscalp7168]

yhhh Asian countries all have a similar mentality but some not as bad as others (like korea ) but daughters in most Asian countries are seen as burden.. my family are like a prime example :p

[@vaishnavigupta02]

absolutely right

[@stefizhabina8240]

Mahima Jha Albania is the same aswell

[@drisyamanikkath6216]

yeah sorta

[@naghmaalam9766]

Its same in India as well......and i think its same in most of the Asian countries..... why it is like that i dont know... but i wish it will end soon.

[@sabhrestman6644]

"India conquered and dominated China culturally for 20 centuries without ever having to send a single soldier across her border."Hu Shih,ambassador of the Republic of China to the USA. in other words when india was super power it spread it's culture to other areas of asia by the spread of dharmic religions don't forget korea is a buddhist country and many countries in south east asia where either hindu or buddhist countries so yeah we have same culture and family values.

[@inderpalsingh454]

Indian marriage worse... People marry each other not of love but because of money...if you have no money or less... You are in trouble... Hope this will end soon.... But relationships is with material things more than with person.... Dark side of fake weddings....

[@ailinhernandez5004]

Ok so tbh aside from that whole "I wanna marry my favorite idol" thing , I genuinely like Koreans as a whole. This was interesting to know about. I feel like saying "well now ik I'm too broke to marry my idol" can come off kinda rude depending on the ppl, it's Korean culture so I'm trying to not sound like a koreaboo or offensive. I understand it can be frustrating when fans just base interest on ur culture cuz of K-pop or the dramas and though some fans aren't meaning it in a negative way, it can be offensive and annoying. Cuz its not considering the culture as a person who actually wants to learn for curiousity and stuff but instead ur doing it based on a dream . I understand cuz many do that with Hispanic/Latino culture . I'm not saying nothing bad but my fellow kpoppers it's funny in some vids but not every comment should be based on ur idols lol 😂 and if u respond to throw ARMY in the middle, I'm just saying I'm a full Army too so yea. I'm just speaking out of consideration for the Korean culture in case they seem annoyed by us. But if u feel offended by the kpop fan comments ,I'm sorry. Most genuinely mean no negativity or harm. In all honesty I was ignorant on the Korean (both south and north) culture, but K-pop made me interested and I started embracing ur culture and noticed ur culture and mine had some few similarities which interested me more

[@Justmylukc]

I watch alot of korean dramas and i always get mad when the kids are so submissive and need the parents approval for everything and when the family are always getting involved in everything regarding the couple.

[@jeb284]

Justmylukc it's Confucius teachings. everything has a order and for harmony one must follow it. for women: follow thy father, husband than son. younger follower the older. it is big part of Korean culture.

[@Justmylukc]

its like that in many asian cultures not just korean. Still it's 2017 , you can be respectful to your elders without being completely submissive.

[@Mimi24177]

J Bang That's called heeding to idol gods and not heeding to Jesus Christ who is God, so it isn't correct. We must do God's will not parents will. Parents should not be worship for they are men and women that can sin as well, only God gets the glory.

[@shinjid3705]

Screw confucius! He ruined the fun in asian countries. Because of him, asian parents think that education is superior to everything! Kids get incredible pressure and often they just kill themselves because of failure and losing face.

[@VietDudez]

You need money to get marry, that is why all the dramas you watched, the dude are rich, with big houses and fancy car. Never seen a unsuccessful dude get a hot girl. MONEY MONEY MOney.

[@AussieAngeS]

Your proposal was a week before you got married? Oh my goodness. I can't believe that is how it's done, good lord.

[@twinkies2511]

I think in many Asian culture, why we might ask for permission is that no matter what age we are, we are still our parents' children and their opinion still matter to us to a certain extend. I don't know how western countries view this though

[@loverofmusic3794]

Gloria Liew my parents matter to me and from the Caribbean. If my parents don't approve I am not going to marry him.

[@Johanneslol11]

My parents love my girlfriend. But they did not approve both my sister husband but they married them anyway :P

[@flyingninjameowmeow3649]

Majority of African countries too

[@Lemensonge97]

I would say in most western countries the parents role in a couple's relationship isn't major. Parents generally help the couple if needed and just out of generosity. For weddings, we don't really ask permission or approval. We expect our parents to respect our choices as individuals but of course their opinion still matters but I wouldn't say it plans a big part in the decision making.

[@MsLavenderMoon]

I’m so close to my family I couldn’t marry someone if my parents hated them sadly.

[@sakuramune_]

This will be helpful when my best friend gets married with Jin haha

[@Carmen698]

How do you know you are actually getting married if he doesn't propose first? DO you just say "Hey i am buy a dress a special dress. . . like a wedding dress today?" or "Hey I am booking a reception hall today. You know the sort of place you go after you get married." I wonder if this tradition has led to some confusion where the woman shows up in a wedding dress.

[@reginesmith6284]

can someone answer this question lols , she's saying that she's getting a proposal 1 week before the weeding but how do u know that you're getting married if someone didn't propose to you yet? or is the proposal she's talking about is NOT the proposal that I know????

[@kenzielaing4112]

She said the wedding is discussed and planned before the proposal. Thus, you will know if your getting Married .

[@roxanabalan527]

Carmen698 so they just come to you like " hey let's get married on this date,in this place" or something? This is really confusing to me 😂😂

[@ldbartsch]

I still don't get it. How do you start planning the wedding without a proposal?! Please explain further, thanks!

[@reginesmith6284]

the only thing that i understand is that they're preparing the wedding before they propose because they're VERY confident that their partner will accept their proposal lols..... let's go to korea and prepare a wedding and propose to any celebrities then hahaha

[@Mesmi92]

I loved this honest chat from you. As for me, from the very beginning,I told my bf that a western style proposal is what I want, so I'm sure he understood. The whole 'approval' thing is what bothers me the most and I will never get over it hahaha. As for the gifts, I know his parents wont expect anything. If they did, I'd never give any sort of money if my own parents don't get anything either. I'm a very stubborn person and I don't let anyone except myself to affect my love life.

[@tushargupta3481]

hiiiiiii

[@waqarzahid8307]

😎

[@shalinihs5949]

Amount u give it to them is actually "Dowry" what we cal in India..😢.. but now taking & giving Dowry is "prohibited".. but then also they ll take in different ways.. it's sad but hard truth..

[@shalinihs5949]

All 5 things wat u said similar in India too..

[@flyingninjameowmeow3649]

African countries too pay dowry Except it's the man who pays

[@whooopsiesssssssss9770]

In pakistani weddings well in pakistani kashmir u just give girl furniture and bpys side of the family gives the girl all the gold jewlery depending on how much jewlery girl wants they normally give land and house to a girl and write it down so if she gets divorced or anything it all belings to her and also we write down mehar which means like if a girl gets divorced tht is how much the husband has to pay her and mehar can b up to like 50lakh rupees soo basically in azad kashmir girls side of the family doesnt have to worry bout wedding expenses as much as boys side nd i think tht is fair bcz in our society we like to encourage ppl tht girls r not burden but blessing from Allah i actually like Kashmiri culture but i dont know much about pakistani culture to b honest

[@kaushikghosh8675]

@@whooopsiesssssssss9770 In my opinion i think no one needs to pay money, neither from girls side nor from boys side. In my opinion i said dont come at me

[@whooopsiesssssssss9770]

lala la Lool Thts what I believe too I think the girl and boy should just get married without taking money from either side of the family

[@tracyoh7727]

aww thanks for making this video! It's really helpful!

[@KathehFIT]

I am so grateful my husband family liked me, while i wasnt the "korean ideal" type. Cause i am Latina and chubby. But i think they also had no choice because my husband which was my fiance at the time, we were having a child. And it ended up being a boy. PLUS it was my husbands dad first grandchild. I was so scared honestly...But my husband told he didnt care if they didnt approved because he wanted to be with me. But i think it went semi well..his family was actually really nice. Not sure it was because i didnt know korean or maybe pregnant..

[@katy5664]

KathehFIT I'm in the same boat, I got pregnant and then got married as well. I haven't even met my husband's parents yet. I feel so scared.. Before we got married I remember my husband's mother telling him not to date a white girl .. and now he's married to one. My husband says it's okay my mother likes you now! But, I feel like it's only because I'm the mother to his child..

[@fireandsomethingsomethings8887]

Katy 케이티 so you both got pregnant before marriage? Tbh in any race.. its still marriage I'll still be scared either way 😂😂

[@user-oh5kn7qs2m]

Haha Katy, it will be okay. She will like you, I can definitely tell. Don't worry about it. I can assure you that. Trust me.

[@ikonihk]

i'm not korean but my bf is and he says the same thing about not caring bc he wants to be with me. but the culture shock still gets to me bc they really want a perfect well-made korean daughter in law and has that typical "no girl is good enough for my son" type of mind set and i know they're gonna challenge me to see if i am. and even tho my bf will always be on my side, we just can't escape this normal "korean marriage culture"

[@user-oh3bu6ld7j]

Katy you will be more than fine. You're such a lovely person she will like you as who you are.

[@snellon344]

yes part 2, please!! Love your videos.

[@zahararene1575]

Love your video! You're so laid back and honest. Love it!

[@buuguss]

Guess who isn't gonna get married? Yas my broke ass

[@AltaMenneh]

Very interesting!! Def do a part 2 and more if possible! 😘

[@eungikim68kimeungi67]

I have been married to a Korean Korean woman for 20 years. Like you said, one of the first issue I had with my wife was all the brand new furniture she wanted to buy . So I pretty much have gone through all those issues you pointed out here. After coming back to Korea to re-settle, holidays were usually difficult in the beginning because I have both sides of family and I had to do those typical Korean duties, while appeasing all the household members and relatives.

[@kishori_rj3024]

Cash given by friends and family in the reception is same in India. Korean and Indian wedding are somehow same.

[@apriljadeligo7528]

Thankyou for making this video. You opened our mind and it is very knowledgeable about the korean culture

[@zafira2166]

Luckly I'm planning on marrying Bambam 😂

[@ronja4912]

Zafira Simbala invite me :D

[@zafira2166]

Ronja i will

[@zafira2166]

Oh my god i know that bambam is from THAILAND so please stop telling me that i said luckly I'm marrying Bambam because he IS NOT KOREAN! So please stop saying that.

[@hhyunie]

invite me too :)

[@zafira2166]

just a ghost dont mind me ._. Ok

[@sarah.h.g.4522]

Wow Korean culture is so similar to Indian culture

[@noor_family3395]

yes and korean culture is similiar to bangladesh's culture too. i am happy.

[@hamtaru]

Intrestingly, Korean and Hindi also sound very similar! Though the words might have different meanings they sound very similar.

[@tajikunity487]

No Name no they don’t lmao

[@bhawnapareek2352]

blackpink shrine i agree!!

[@fariha_]

NM & Meily finally found something about Bangladesh 🇧🇩

[@journeytoart]

Just glad you sharing with us everything.some won't have the courage to do this kind of video concerning how others might diss them.thank you.

[@jiminiesprout2013]

I really love studying different cultures thank you for this informative video! :D

[@courtneyhardy8720]

I am black American and my husband proposed 3 months after or invites went out.

[@joonsup]

Here's my experience in having a wedding in Korea this past April. As a Korean born in America, my now wife's family were all in Korea and they wanted to have the wedding in Korea. Since they took care of most of the expenses we didn't object. A year before getting married my wife's parents came to meet me and set the wedding date before I had the chance to save up for a ring so the proposal was more of a formality once I had enough money saved. Fast forward to the wedding day, it was done at a hotel and the actual wedding was done within 1.5 hours including the meal. No best man, no groomsmen or bridesmaids. Just the two of you in front of the Pastor. That was the easiest part. There was another wedding reserved at the hotel a few hours after ours lol.

[@pr3ttyWaHin3]

Omg this is very helpful for those foreign girls who are in a relationship with korean (like me) but I think it's more a lot of pressure to you because your a korean too. Sometimes traditional thing can be more pressuring with parents involvement. Thanks for the tips.

[@its_layla9934]

i really enjoyed the video!!!! plz do part 2

[@panpan6222]

Yeah, in my family and a lot of our other American friend/families, you ask the woman's father for permission (or father-figure / mom / etc) to marry. It's for respect of the family and shows how much you really value the woman.

[@Kemzozo]

7lisajoyy true- the same for African culture.

[@BeingHumane173]

Sorry to disagree, but to be honest, I fail to see it as respect for the family...I think, It's more of a sexist, medieval tradition and is a vestige of the patriarchy, and is disrespect towards Legitimate adult autonomy...Which reinforces the patriarchal idea of father's authority over women and offsprings...And why only father ?? Why not both Mother and Father's permission ??

[@polaroid_people4676]

Amlan B.A. It's often the mother and father nowadays. It is to show respect because a lot of parents actually get mad when their daughters just marry any guy without approval from parents... It's and old tradition and out of all the sexist and racist or just straight up offensive traditions Americans have this is nothing.

[@Chiyo_han]

I enjoyed the video. Some things were kinda culture shock to me but there were some other things also that I can relate with. It is bit similar to my culture. Thanks for sharing your experience. Please make another video of this kind.

[@quelinda91]

I am so glad I am not the only one that feels this way haha, and its not just because I am not asian. Thank you for this video and your honesty! My husband is not Korean but a lot of what you said are things I had to go through as well.

[@saranghaebangtan9354]

*Jungkook-ssi, I just wanted you to know that I am planning our wedding already* 😂 _See you soon love_ 😘

[@kyralorene2534]

Uhm so this is for all koreaboos out there

[@mikek1635]

Kyra Lorene Like you. Lol.

[@elifelif5201]

No, if u plan on living in korea an i assume ur not going to marry a man in the usa if u live in korea, then u should probably know these things, to be prepared What if u live in korean and u think u could just marry a guy like u would do in ur home country, then you would kinda look stupid

[@JK-lr4su]

agreed elif.

[@randompersonontheinternet5877]

Just stopped by to say HEY KOREABOOS GO DO SOMETHING WITH YOUR LIFE BYEEEE

[@princedamon455]

Thank you for being honest with us and sharing these facts with us,

[@detphemale]

I'm an American, and my Son In Law asked for my daughter's hand in marriage. It was a great opportunity to discuss expectations and he was not ashamed to express his feelings for her, to her parent. It was at that moment that he became my son. Nothing wrong with that.

[@makayladay7938]

Love you part 1 and looking forward in part 2 or 3🤗 always looking forward for you video. More plz! Where is your cute baby?😊

[@faithleenlacrete4772]

Getting parent's permission is not new to me. Hahaha the rest are mindblowing 😂 especially the guests in your wedding lol anyways, it's part of their culture and we have different cultures. Great video! 👍

[@catherinewitana9674]

Your videos are very interesting. I will be visiting Seoul this year. I find myself drawn to your culture especially korean history. Thank you so much.

[@josellepulmones9226]

This is my first time seeing your channel and i liked you instantly more power to your channel ♡

[@ivan00b]

Hey ssol, i can relate to you sooo much (filipino here btw), we are like ALMOST except with the house thing and parents gift giving. It differs in some aspects. The guy gets the house OR live with ur in laws. It is compulsory not unless u have enuf savings to get you and ur spouse ur own house before getting married. Also, we dont give gifts to our mother in law but u are expected to treat them well like cook for them,chores and all. It is expected to both sides to treat each in laws kindly. I so agree with family approval! Like it is like a sin to marry the person they dont like haha..the proposal is not much of a big deal to us. I dont know but we dont do what you do hehe... And last the guests, i really envy some western people getting married. I dont hate the guests BUT HEY it is my wedding. Then the parents would decide whome shuld u invite because they need to invite their friends which sometimes u havent met!!thats crazy..i really dont follow traditions. Thats why my boyfriend hates me haha.im such a rebel..lol..but seriously, this norms needs to stop because this does not work to everyone..i love videos like this!! Do more of this!!😄😄

[@Allia90]

This all should be about you two... Reciving gifts and building everything togheter, no one else.

[@alerchoi5473]

I love your videos!

[@yejin1248]

Yes yes do a part 2 please. I agree the whole proposal thing sucks major. Wheres the fun in getting proposed knowing youre getting married!! I think its more the parents that set how your wedding will turn out in Korea...which is kinda sad. Korean weddings have the whole 스드메 which i think it also different to the western cultures. I would love to find out how youre finding being married to a korean korean where female and male roles are rather set and expectations are there, and also the frequent visits etc you are expected to do for the in-laws 🙈

[@HMP53]

I don't wanna be negative or rude to korean traditions but most of that sounds just so irrational and has no logic for me. I'm from germany and things are so different (and probably the same for most of the europeans). I would be so annoyed to get approval from my girlfriends parents or even those gifts and guests thing. Wtf ^^

[@MultiSARAHGAGA]

Benjamin Such same.. Ich respektier ja die unterschiede aber mal ganz ehrlich, was ist das fürn schwachsinn. Erstens die erlaubnis der eltern des partners haben zu müssen und dann noch so einen großen haufen an geld verbraten zu müssen, NEBEN den kosten der hochzeit. Was das alleine ja schon kostet will ich gar nicht wissen. Dann kann man ja im prinzip gleich single bleiben, kein normaler mensch hat so viel kohle lol

[@I_am_Felii]

Sarah Korkmazkurt ich verstehe dich und Benjamin einerseits, gerade weil ich auch in Deutschland lebe und diese Kultur kenne, aber andererseits verstehe ich die Koreaner. Ich selber komme aus Mazedonien und unsere Kultur ist der asiatischen Kultur in dem Punkt ähnlicher als die deutsche sag ich mal. So wie ich das wahrnehme ist die Familie bei Deutschen nicht so wichtig. Heisst wenn ich als "Deutsche" einen Freund habe geht es mir nur um ihn unf der Rest ist nebensächlich. In Korea und Mazedonien ist es so, wenn du dich dazu entscheidest eine Person zu heiraten, "heiratest" du ihre Familie gleich mit. Das hat etwas mit Respekt und Anerkennung zu tun. Respekt wird sehr groß geschrieben genau so wie Familie. Bei uns fragt man die Eltern um Erlaubnis weil es ein Zeichen von Respekt ist. Die Eltern haben die Person erschaffen die ich jetzt liebe. Sie haben sie großgezogen und sind ihr Vormund. Bei uns ist es üblich dass eine Frau vom Elternhaus in die Ehe wechselt. Bedeutet so lange sie nicht verheiratet ist lebt sie bei den Eltern und befolgt deren Regeln. Manche Eltern sind da sehr streng und manche nicht so. Aber die Eltern haben immer ein Mitspracherecht egal worum es geht. Bei den Deutschen ist es so, du bist 18 du kannst machen was du willst. Wenn du als Mann eine Frau heiraten willst dann ist es selbstverständlich dass du bei dieser großen und wichtigen Lebensentscheidung die Eltern fragst ob du sie heiraten darfst. Sie wollen dass du zeigst dass du das ernst meinst und Rückgrat hast und die Meinung der Familie berücksichtigst und nicht einfach "machst was du willst". Wenn du sie heiratest dann gehörst du auch zur Familie und bist wie ein weiterer Sohn. Heißt du nennst deine Schwiegereltern auch Mama und Papa. Sie sind Autoritätspersonen die über dir stehen. Sie haben immerhin noch eine Menge zu sagen wenn es um ihre Tochter geht. Sie wollen ausserdem auch sichergehen dass du der Richtige für sie bist und für sie euer Kind (das iwann kommen wird) sorgen kannst. Die Familie ist ein geschlossener Kreis da kommt nicht jeder einfach so rein.

[@MultiSARAHGAGA]

Feli Hast recht mit allem was du gesagt hast. Ich persönlich finds einfach ein wenig Übergriffig. Klar, man sollte jetzt die Eltern nicht voll und ganz rauslassen aus der Sache aber sie um Erlaubnis fragen find ich ein bisschen zuviel. Vielleicht liegts auch daran das ich generell ein Mensch bin der sich nicht gerne was sagen lässt.

[@martinaori794]

Well, I could say to you that it was exactly the same thing in Italy until my grandparents' generation. Man had to go to the girl's parents house and ask to their dad if he could marry her and if the father didn't approve it...they simply couldn't marry.About actually what she said about the house and forniture thing was exactly the same. In some part of south of Italy it is still like that. I think It really depends on how much a country is conservative. So, it was not that much surprising for me.

[@jeb284]

Just Another KPOP Trash it has lot to do with Confucius teaching. it's has strong influence in Korean culture.

[@kookiejeonswifesoon1007]

Woah,I'll better prepare now,wait for it.Kookie 😂 hang on 😅

[@katha4326]

Kookie Jeon's Wife Soon he is mine....

[@blkpik3323]

*Appears all of a sudden with a wedding dress* Step aside ladies, he's mine.

[@taylors3665]

Kookie Jeon's Wife Soon sorry baby lol no he's mine😂😂

[@abigail6812]

why ya arguing for WE ALL KNOW HE IS MY MAN

[@kasia7005]

He is mine lol

[@Eltargrimm]

As I was watching your video, I, step by step, came to the following realization: Your smile is as beautiful as a smile can possibly be. Keep smiling!

[@michellehuot9360]

Oh my gosh. I'm so glad I found this video. I'm so thankful that you made this video. My fiancé still hasn't told his mother and step dad (who are living in South Korea) that we are engaged. He wants to wait until he gets accepted into law school to tell them. I'm trying very hard to learn Korean because his mother and most other family members don't speak English. I'm so nervous about how his family is going to react because he's the eldest son of a very elite family that is very conservative.

[@chauminh]

yes please do a part 2

[@martafleischauer1169]

Interesting video! :)

[@user-vl7wz6pl6p]

i've recently moved back to korea after living in the US for all my life. and the counter-culture shock is hitting me back hard. trying to get adjusted but like what you said, some things are against my morals but I have to do it anyway bc it's the korean way. I am really glad to find this channel. i feel so understood.

[@rihammoussa1256]

Everything you said i mean like EVERYTHING is the same here in arab culture about getting marriage too!! and being an egyptian who want to marry a korean guy; this video makes me very happy 😍😍😍😍 CAN YOU IMAGE THAT WE ARE THE SAME IN EVERYTHING OMG I'M SOOOO HAPPY 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ KOREANS ARE SOOO GOOD PEOPLE AND THIS VIDEO JUST PROVED IT THANK YOU 😭😭😭❤❤❤❤ wish me luck 😉

[@shaloonagpal5770]

It's like second India 😂

[@pixele4321]

Yaaa

[@ruhisinha7418]

Yes yes right

[@julietaarellanocruz4967]

•Me planning my wedding for me and jimin while watching this• 😂

[@ruzav6712]

Ommo..... Me tooo.... 😁😁😁

[@lykas8359]

I love your video! Its very natural and sincere. I really agree with you - buying new appliances would be a waste of money if you already have it.

[@Dvrkennui]

I'm a new subscriber so glad I found your Channel love Korean dramas I'm going to learn so much from you also love Korean food God bless

[@vshradha22]

That permission thing is the same in indian culture too they will check up on a lot of things about ur partner 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@MrAnimaljoe]

I'm actually planning on getting married to a korean woman so this helps me see the mindset of korean marriage.

[@M.Rahman_]

I want to marry korean women. What should i do. Please comment

[@shaikmashum3158]

Giving money as gift in marriage, parents approval and lot more stuff you mentioned... exists in many parts of India as well... Nice video... Felt genuine....

[@lizc244]

I completely understand you on everything. The one thing that made me very sad was when you said you've never had the chance to buy your mom an expensive bag so it leaves you feeling very sad gifting someone else's mom a gift like that. Very normal, I would say, to feel that way in a situation like that. Especially if you're someone who loves your mom and wish to pamper her in luxurious ways.

[@lorayang9882]

You're so pretty! But Oh my goodness, that's so expensive! I guess I shall start preparing for when I marry Mingyu 😂

[@dianawellington731]

I think the only part in the story that I would object to is, inviting 50% of people I don't know to MY WEDDING. Keyword "MY". Not theirs, but MINES. Other than that, the rest seem just fine with me.

[@Djinner13]

...you do realize that youre future husband is also having the wedding too, right? That being said, the parents are paying for the wedding, do you really thing you can complain that much about it? You have 2 options, pay for your own wedding or suck it up. And weddings are usually damn expensive.

[@dianawellington731]

MambaJamba That's exactly what I plan on doing. Paying for the wedding. A simple wedding. Nothing extravagant. In my opinion, a couple goes all out when they're renewing their 5 or 10 year vowels, not for a wedding. Therefore I stand correct when I say my ( my fiancé included) wedding! You were saying? 😒

[@SD-ir1vf]

If I went to somebody’s wedding why the hell what I do it again in 5 to 10 years that’s just stupid.

[@patriciagonzalez9078]

First time seeing you and you seem such a down to earth person like it's nice to hear from someone that has experimented two cultures and it's willing to openly talk about her experience with her own weeding and I liked it a lot. Although geez this things are way too extreme for anyone like it makes no sense and it's not to disrespect any culture but like what?!!!

[@elainer8288]

I would like to see Part 02! Thank you!

[@veena-zi3fj]

I came here after watching 100’s of K-dramas. Reality VS Expectations.

[@rinitutu_162]

In my culture the man pays something called a bride price in order to marry a girl. The price is usually set to how much training ones parents give their daughter. And it can be a really hefty sum for someone who is trying to start a life.

[@MM-mc9ru]

This is so interesting!!

[@pickledpotato8567]

That's a nice glimpse of another culture's marriage traditions. Here in the Philippines, traditionally, it's the guy and his family who shoulder almost everything. To get engaged, the guy and his family will come over the girl's house bearing food and gifts to ask for the girls hand in marriage. It's called pamamanhikan. A guy has to prove to the girl's parents that he can support a family.

[@arte7896]

So far are you satisfied with your life in Korea? All the experience you had sounded so difficult xD I would have freaked out

[@sammiemarie14]

I'm engaged to a korean but thankfully was raised in Australia. He just lives in korea now! Also side note....im a kpop fan but not sure why people use their bias pic instead of their own...kinda low key creepy. 😂 i can only imagine how they feel seeing their faces on so many profiles... ps ill get to work with some idols here soon! xoxox

[@felizaruiz3126]

Very interesting. It made me understand some thoughts. Thanks for sharing.

[@leonardoaguilerahonduras2067]

Simply I love watching your videos, grettings from Honduras!

[@minricha185]

All the indian here be like: Are you talking about indian wedding culture.

[@shinystars5535]

Girl I'm arab! I can relate to everything but giving 2% of the house price to the husband parents... Here is the same as you said about Koreans! Wow~ it didn't shock me at all!

[@nasab3552]

Hi Dear, I like the ideas u gave us. Thank u so much. It was very good to know.

[@michaelthomashayden7125]

You are very pretty. I enjoyed watching this to learn about your experiences.

[@IvyTania]

omg you're so pretty and lady like, it's pleasing to watch you xD Thank you for the advice. I don;t have a boyfriend thp.. but just incase, I watched this in advance lol

[@ughhhmcrbinch5583]

In America men ask for approval too. They usually ask the father, but sometimes the mother too. So this permission thing won't be a shock for all. It's not unheard of in the United States, you probably just didn't hear about it😊

[@dianawellington731]

Taehyung Suga Kookies w/ milk I was looking in the comments to see if anyone comment on that. I notice it varies from family to family in the U.S. However it was very common place over 50 years ago.

[@BeingHumane173]

Why only father ?? it's sexist...Either it should be both mom dad's permission or non...

[@zonansg4212]

Amlan B.A. father is head of the household. gtfo feminist

[@SD-ir1vf]

You people watch too many old movies. That shit don’t happen no more.

[@meep6258]

A Concerned Indian sexist? I heard the men beat their wifes in india

[@aniyahakanini5905]

Oh my gawd....madam you went through a lot you are amazing. The part that has me shook is the giving the parents money and gifts for your wedding I'm still confused on that but I hope the wedding was amazing

[@aliceher9243]

Surprisingly, 1/2 of what you mention happens in my culture too. Pretty much everything except the buying the house and furnishing the house, we don't do. Usually its the man who gives a large amount of money to the bride. Money is usually given at the wedding and yes, depending on how close you are with the bride and groom, etc. Interesting. BTW, I'm Hmong. Thanks for sharing.

[@sweetgirl7387]

My bank account will be like pauper if I marry a korean..😂😂🤣

[@artismyname2701]

it's almost like our culture especially the house preparation

[@Cherryb0nb0ns]

Wow this is really informative, The only tradition in weddings that I was aware of was from our Country (Philippines) Probably the most foreign for me was it was a norm to buy new furniture/appliances and stuff (Mainly because that's what usually friends and family give as gift on weddings in here lol) and giving money to the parents and stuff was pretty surprising for me

[@monomundo]

Thank you for the video, you have good camera presence and I like all the info you have given. I am Turkish, and it is interesting to see the many things we have in common with the Koreans. Like; - Permission: we mostly have to get the approval of our parents (especially the mothers) - House: the man has to prepare the house (he can rent it if he can't buy one ). Then, there are some rules for each room (like the bride side has to buy the bedroom furniture) and everything has to be new (which I agree is such a waste). - Guests: as the bride family organizes the engagement and the groom family organizes the wedding, you would find a huge complement of family members/friends you would probably never see again at both receptions. There are some differences though. Our society is more matriarchal, so women have more say in family life. Also, giving cash directly to family members (including your new family) is considered rude, we deal in gold instead. Proposal has to be surprising (definitely not two days before). The gifts are given by the parents to the bride/groom - never the other way around. It is usually gold for the bride and an expensive watch for the groom. For the wedding gifts, it is usually gold (in 70/140/280$ denominations, according to your closeness to the bride/groom). Anyhow, thanks a lot and good luck in Korea :)

[@Tehreem787]

Almost the same in Pakistan but they with the in-laws in the same house