Wants marriage and a baby by her 40th birthday next yr. Be tall, brown skin, no kids, at least $90K

[@imhuemankeepURcolorsforcrayons]

If you're child-free, it's ok to want a child-free spouse. Never feel bad for your standards.

[@RockyMaiviaMiami]

They are not standards if you can’t attain them. Imagine having a standard of being an NBA player as a 5’3 45yr old man. “That’s my standard” Ok 👌🏾

[@piplyf]

Kendra also needs to stop with the shaming tactics about men being gay for being responsible with their seed and good decision makers. There are a lot of attractive, stable, 6ft+ and childless men 40+ out here. I'm one of them. Does she know that almost 56% of blk men are single and childless? So I guess were all gay then? SMDH. If anything it's an indictment on the environment in which we live, that we don't see the benefit of having wives or children today.

[@spencersmith9131]

​@@piplyf 41 with no kids and straight as hell and make very good money. I honestly never wanted kids. I'm the youngest in my family and I've seen my brother struggle raising his kids and was like that is not for me.

[@BlackBeauty2023]

I agree with a childless person dating someone with no kids. I have one child, that is a teen and would only date a man with kids her age or older. Nothing is wrong with that. My daughter is about to go off to college and I wanna travel 💃🏽🤣

[@michaelwray8753]

​@@RockyMaiviaMiamigreat analogy my brother

[@itsyagirlashleytv]

Kendra is hilarious for saying “I would like to talk to you on your birthday next year for an update”😭🤣🤣😂😂 I hollered

[@MalevolentElephant]

Meaning she knows home girl is being too picky lol😂

[@chilout2496]

I wish she was more direct but she low key be dissing 😂😂

[@nmmboy]

@@chilout2496 lmao Things would so much better if she was more direct, because her shades be going over a lot of their heads 😂😂🤦🏾‍♂️

[@chilout2496]

@@nmmboy right????? Specially when she be like ‘let’s do the Kendra cam’ seconds after they be capping 😂😂

[@chilout2496]

@@nmmboyif you pause at 5:52 ‘right’ 😂😂

[@kingtchala6832]

A "God-fearing man" - there goes that line again lol She's a beautiful woman, she'll get attention however with her list I'm not sure she'll attract men with intention. She likes men with money - this is clear. At one point, in response to Kendra's question, she asks "can't I have everything" the answer is no. No you cant have it all, nobody gets everything they want - men or women. There are ALOT of good men that will give this lady everything she wants and more, however, she doesn't see men below 90k and under 6'2'. She's screwing herself over. Sidebar - Kendra is 42, beautiful, successful, unmarried and has 0 kids. Does that mean she's a lesbian? For God's sake can we please stop calling black men gay for any given reason.

[@flava1969]

I’m with you @King T’ Chala.

[@valw7422]

Well said brotha!

[@ebonneenelson2325]

Thank you for saying it especially the last paragraph

[@GegeP1804]

Ooh that last one was a good point. I kept cringing every time she man over 40 comment.

[@rogers5622]

💯agree on that toxic trait about black over a certain age

[@nmmboy]

I will always say this. Most people are their own obstacle in finding love. Y’all make it harder than it has to be smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@tacarasworld9038]

In the words of Tamar yes God

[@LynnieJ22]

She’s not asking for much 🥴 how is this an obstacle

[@JustBree716]

​@@LynnieJ22she should be married then

[@eke.D]

​@@LynnieJ22 look up statistics for all the criteria she asked for then you'll understand why.

[@R-Chillz]

Most confuse compromise for "settling"

[@qubie83]

She’s a textbook example of when women have these goals but no plan. She’s been saying she want a kid by 40 for so long she didn’t realize it was right around the corner. Either move with purpose to achieve your goals or drop these arbitrary ages to achieve goals by.

[@BigShrimpin416]

Good comment! Setting goals and do nothing to reach them and no plan to reach them is a waste of time!

[@monstar2746]

Right she might as well settle with a Pookie. Pookie's and Ray Ray's are always ready to knock a chick up!

[@Sandra.-.]

Lol you're the same people who bash women for having unplanned babies with multiple men and say choose better. Now we have one who chose better and you still bash her

[@qubie83]

@@BigShrimpin416 at some point it’s just wishful thinking and blindly waiting on the “universe”.

[@richthepup]

If you’re dating someone you’re not attracted to for their money AND they have to spend it on you 🤨 you deserve being single

[@summerrain6125]

She's very pretty and doesn't look 39. She looks better than some 20 somethings on the show

[@oladokunsamuel5923]

Down there still 40... They saying the grace already

[@millyonair9225]

her womb is 39. she's done.

[@flava1969]

I hate when she assume Black men are gay if they are good looking, have no children or not married. We don’t assume Kendra is a lesbian just because she’s beautiful, unmarried and no children. She’s penalizing men for being selective and ensuring they get what they want. The reality is that we women have chosen men who were not intentional with us and wasted a lot of our youth instead of ensuring we got a ring. We stayed with men who have toyed with us and normally men don’t as a general rule allow multiple women to play with them. It goes back to our choices. The beautiful young lady above Asheba should adjust her standards not lower them but adjust in order to ensure the widest dating pool. Money does allow comfort, however a good man making a decent living provides more comfort than money can buy.

[@LadyK007]

💯💯🎯

[@onthemarc81]

Exactly. That same tag isn't put on women who are over 40, make money and don't have kids. For her to have that kind of thought process for men but not women is baffling

[@adams8830]

Right, we need to stop promoting the idea of having kids just to have kids. I have no idea why choosing NOT to wrecklessly create children is a bad thing.

[@Scam-ish]

@@LadyK007​ladies its hyperbole for the fact that the man that meets all her criteria is a rare man to find based on statistics. Men dont have the same needs women do as we excel and build in life. So that’s why applying the same logic to a man wouldn’t be the same. We are fine with settling for someone who is average or in many categories like height, weight, career, personality while women tend to want to be mor selective as they get older and achieve more. But doing that shrinks the number of eligible alive men . When will ppl learn, its called Settling Down for a reason, you settle for the good qualities that outweighs the least desirable but it doesn’t mean that person is the total package.

[@sirenlewis2500]

I agreed until you said Asheba needs to adjust her standards. Her standards/boundaries are hers and we have no right telling ppl whose shoe's we have never walked in what to do if its not hurting us or our loved ones. Cheering for Queen Sheba to get her miracle and for me to get mine

[@pache7216]

99% of women want a nba player, but don't want him to be "a playa"

[@yulanngup]

That's BS!!!

[@brandonmoss7976]

Yes well I would say close 😆

[@卄-s5f]

99% of men want a supermodel but don't want her to be a "golddigger".

[@Yobachi2007]

@@yulanngup Yeah you're right, it's only about 93% of them.

[@TheMastermindzTV]

​@@卄-s5fThat's extra cap. 99% want to have sex with super models, but most men would rather not wife. Bad investment. Don't jus say stuff.

[@reeree5748]

Kendra knows what the issue is! 😂 She’s the issue 😒

[@darnellholland1667]

😂

[@chrisbear100]

😆😅🤣😂 more than likely!

[@ebonneenelson2325]

That’s right

[@reeree5748]

@Rhdbdjehrvsbsjw That’s kinda true.. People be looking for help from women that not even married themselves however I still love watching the shenanigans on her show 🤣

[@jermaineburgess3767]

Spot on

[@chilout2496]

When Kendra ask if they date those type of men before. I’ve never heard any of them say no 😂😂😂

[@LOSTGPS]

and all of them claim to make 6 figures... the stats don't add up lmao

[@frostnova2144]

i Believe 95% of those that say yes, simply because that's where they get their standards from. The thought process is "I can attract this kind of man > this kind of man will date me > this is what I deserve > this is what I'll get" The slight problem being... Men will date and have sex with most women and it got nothing to do with commitment or finding a long term partner...

[@meloran2571]

@@frostnova2144 if they can already attract those kind of men then they shouldn't be on the show.

[@ReactsandMore]

exactly, maybe a few.

[@HumesDeliveryService]

amazing how they find morris or idris to date but there was something wrong with them. So come on a dating show looking for them again…

[@BleuReign13]

She is setting herself up for failure trying to have a baby in such a short time line..

[@bobbym1799]

She is setting herself up in general how is that specific man suppose to magically appear and marry a woman who not loyal

[@brooklynforever1990]

She sure is

[@polesiren8516]

She can do it, I know penalty of women who have done that in that time frame

[@blaccfeather5803]

Well I can tell Girlfriends is her fav show😬

[@brielax4441]

😂😂😂😂 I mean, I love girlfriends but my mindset is opposite from hers. I didn’t agree with majority of anything she said.

[@jim3565]

😂 😂

[@Yobachi2007]

🤣🤣🤣Let's play a game; which girl friend is she? I'mma go Joan. Cause she talking all that same perfect man crap that left her lonely. And real life Joan, Tracey Ellis Ross is still talking that crap well into her 50s; alone, frigged and with her eggs scrambled. Guess whose future that is.

[@bruceleeroy8302]

80% of women want the same 5% of men! 🤣 Go on sistah, never settle! Edit: Kendra, if you're so convinced that men 40+ without kids are gay, what does that say about you?

[@otrebla8944]

I don't know why she thinks having no children is a ghey issue. Lol.

[@mackb8164]

Its Suspect

[@卄-s5f]

It seems men want that same 5% woman to marry, and we wonder why most are not married.

[@kevinlee9929]

@@卄-s5f Not true at all. Men's preferences and standards in general. Are far lighter than women's. The "List of Women" have become it's on thing. From Dating Coaches to TV Shows talking about women's long list of standards and preferences.

[@Mbaye77]

Black women hate black men that don’t feed their criteria.

[@Kimberly.T]

It’s disappointing to continue to hearing the narrative that men of a certain age and income bracket not having kids equates to be in gay. When there are women have a certain age and income bracket they don’t have kids, but have 1 million reasons as to why. This thought, perpetuates the dysfunction that exist in our community.

[@MalevolentElephant]

Ask 100 black women who don’t know each other what celebrity they would want to be with. You might get 60 to 70 Morris Chestnut/Idris Elba/Michael B Jordan. If you ask 100 black men what female celebrity they would choose, you might get 100 different answers. Women want the same men

[@melaninmonroeeee]

Definitely not true lmaoo

[@etuitivemillionaire]

I’ve had women tell me if you get a nose job and grow a goatee you would look like morris chestnut. I tell them if I leave my stuff alone and drive an old piece of junk. I’ll keep dodging them Gold Diggers 😂😂😂

[@queenkesha943]

That’s facts !

[@R.Yvette.X.]

Katt Williams for me.

[@lupavo1738]

Might want to add a few of those "Sexiest Men Alive" WM to the woman's list lol.

[@LadyCharity]

I also have no kids and would like to have all my kids sooner rather than later AFTER marriage. All the best to her!

[@bobbym1799]

What are you looking for lady charity?

[@truckinron1929]

@@bobbym1799 a simp to put on child support

[@chattingman6777]

I hope you aren't 38 looking for those things.

[@chrisaik2697]

Hit me up. I got u.

[@RichBoy-dc2dq]

American Black women are the only group who wait until they're pushing 40 to start a family. A 43 year old woman chasing after a very active toddler is a bad look and miserable experience. American black women are so backwards thinking.

[@blackslav1497]

"I lose interest fast" "Im loyal"

[@brandonmoss7976]

🙃🌚

[@LadyK007]

😂😂😂

[@omgimover4075]

💀

[@Jame6999]

For real, the nerve 🙄

[@battlerudee]

When she is still interested..she is loyal lol

[@maxxfatal]

"If a man isn't irresponsible and loose with his seed, he MUST be gay...." -HYENA Logic. 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤯

[@AAM2011]

💀💀💀💀

[@WeezyJeffersonYo]

Men have fertilizer, not seeds

[@indigobeauty1]

that pissed me off when she said tht. How disrespectful 😩

[@asha1762]

She also thinks men who make 100k plus are not faithful.

[@GegeP1804]

The way I look at is, you can’t agree with what someone has to say 💯 percent of the time. It’s vice versa too, so I just bypass her belief on that one cause it don’t make no sense.

[@najah820]

A unicorn 🦄 is what she wants.

[@genoburnett6963]

She come on here with a damn Christmas list. She doesn’t date those guys 😂

[@antoinettejohnson2188]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@woobuglauryn]

90% of her list was be a basic human being.

[@kristysmith2552]

With all these requirements, I don't think she really wants a child.

[@thankthelord4536]

I don't even think she wants a mam lol.

[@tk4l210]

She is gorgeous with a beautiful smile! Wish you lots of luck girl

[@AAM2011]

Sadly she will be a side chick or a future baby momma. I pray for her sanity

[@TheDiddlingDiddler]

@Rhdbdjehrvsbsjw lmfao

[@jermaineburgess3767]

Average

[@barryw8011]

So when asked what she is looking for in a man, she has a very long and direct list. But when asked why a guy would be lucky to be with her, she gives 3-4 generic answers (loyal, nurturing, caring, etc). Basically, the same things a dude can get from a pet dog. She put absolutely zero thought into what she really has to offer a man.

[@nextlevelrae53]

These females are funny as hell.

[@nigelstanford4]

What about her is funny tho 🤔

[@Godsbackhand7]

@@nigelstanford4 her expectations. She is looking for nearly the perfect man….while she is nearly 40…..within 20 minutes of a city with roughly 5 million men….and she is competing directly against 6 million women. The fact that she hasn’t found what she is looking for says a LOT.

[@nigelstanford4]

@@Godsbackhand7 what about what she described is perfect 🤔🤔

[@RichBoy-dc2dq]

@@nigelstanford4 6 foot, 6 pack, 6 figure men are super rare....... 0.1% of the male population that meet all those unrealistic expectations. Safe to say modern women are terrible at math and super delusional.

[@nigelstanford4]

@@RichBoy-dc2dq bs I’m 6’3 and make exactly 90k (don’t have a six pack) but half the guys at my job are in the same position and I know plenty of guys that have the six pack. She’s not being unrealistic. I ain’t even hear her say anything about six figures or a six pack 🤔🤔

[@Betterdailyy]

Men not having kids and being successful isn’t a red flag. It’s really hard to find a wife and when you have stuff to lose you don’t act reckless. We out here

[@otrebla8944]

You speak too much logic for Kendra. Stop that. Lol.

[@QDB24]

🙌🏾

[@Betterdailyy]

@@otrebla8944 lol naw Kendra has logic I think she just tries to be nice about it

[@jusbus777]

"I am chosey and I lose interest quickly but I am ready to be a wife." I envy her future husband.

[@meloran2571]

she really said that and think any man with sense would go all in with marriage and risk at least half his assets

[@thankthelord4536]

She should never be married stating that.

[@roeweathers]

My thoughts exactly

[@Ro-vW]

She doesn’t want him to have a kid because that’s time, attention, and resources she don’t want to share

[@piplyf]

that was code for I'm liable to blow up the family dynamic if I ain't happy. Even if children are involved. She's NOT a wife.

[@LadyCharity]

She kinda looks like me, she is pretty and seems sweet. I'm also in NJ and it is expensive. She can get the guy she asked for IF she relaxes 2-3 of her preferences (age, skin color, or race). I had to pause whenever anyone says they get bored easily and mentions how they overgave in relationships. Someone who is STABLE will automatically be boring to a person with an unhealthy attachment style. Someone who overgives tends to have issues with codependency/people pleasing and setting boundaries. Also, as someone who has dated the guy she described, he is usually not marriage-minded until he's older than the range she gave😅! I am all for high standards but as long as ppl present themselves for the dating/hook-up market instead of the marriage market, they miss out.

[@jrock7561]

Non BM ain’t racing to grab 40 plus BW. Not the top ones or middle of their pack. The lower end maybe. Sigh.

[@caligirl6610]

Very well said and thought out.

[@alp.9672]

Ya'll sound like typical boujee women in the tri-state area. I ain't mad at ya. I'm 37 but I don't talk to women over 35.

[@foxyboop4164]

@@jrock7561 Are you a non BM?

[@smellmyfingification]

​@@jrock7561How much experience do you have dating no BM?

[@nmmboy]

The fact she is willing to give up on dating and having children if she doesn’t find a brown skin man with no kids making 90k by 40 says a lot about how unrealistic she’s been about everything 😩🤦🏾‍♂️

[@germanehabib7345]

😂😂😂IKR🤣🤣🤣

[@nmmboy]

@@germanehabib7345 I just shook my head the whole time listening to her 😂🤦🏾‍♂️

[@sheilae.9670]

Exactly! Very unrealistic

[@bryanbeeman5256]

She struck with pretty privilege. She doesn’t want any kids because she doesn’t want to compete with a child if it’s a daughter. She wants ALL of the attention. Just another entitled brat.

[@nmmboy]

@@sheilae.9670 Very! At this point she is just shooting for the stars smh

[@JOmega2007]

I want Kendra to ask what qualities are these women willing to waiver on, because I could have all the qualities she's asking for, but because I'm 5'8, I'm no longer an option.

[@lisaoatman6244]

Go for it anyway. A lot of women don’t know what they need until you show them. Some may not be interested but the right one will.

[@ThunderKat2012]

Agreed slide into those DmS king

[@GegeP1804]

Some women just be talking. I see women dating man of average heights all the time and they get on here and all the sudden wants a mountain of a man while they are 5ft themselves. If all the women in the world kept waiting for 6ft guys, let’s just say our civilization would be less than it is now.

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

You don't understand that most women DON'T KNOW THAT 6FT ISN'T COMMON.

[@ericanderson7059]

@JOmega2007 5'7" speaking " Nope there is no hope for us and we are being done a favor for even being allowed to exist we need to take our Napoleon syndrome having , nice car driving( or nice anything or any accomplisnment for that matter ) to overcompensate for defienciences in other area's having asses and fly off to somewhere where we are valued with our extra medium. sized selves " . Did I miss anything ? Cheers !

[@dalynamaerose2675]

Unrealistic expectations. I wish her the best. Her best bet is broadening her options. The type she wants don't want her.

[@Itsavibeha]

How is that unrealistic expectations when everything she mentioned are all characteristics of a good person. Wtf. How low is your bar?? You date jail birds? Rap-it’s? Drug addicts weirdo

[@Yobachi2007]

You can't tell them that, it's not allowed. Forget her actual results proving it, modern women shall not be burdened with having to face reality. Also because she's "dealt with" a man like the one she wants in the past, and he passed on her after tiring of smashing her; that's proof in delusional world that said such man wants to marry her...though he could have...an none have to date.

[@totallyyahware6840]

It’s the Girlfriends playing in the back for me!! 😆😆😆😆 That’s my show!!! She’s beautiful! I wish her well!

[@gp9677]

Men aren’t as stupid as women may believe but it’s a reason she’s 38 and not married men can see through her especially established men

[@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938]

🎯🎯

[@millyonair9225]

yeah, she's been holding out for a guy out of her range that will never look at her. she's month's away from completely losing at life.

[@reeree5748]

🗣Can we please put on clothes and be presentable if we are truly looking for a HUSBAND not a grown boy!

[@mikenojones6861]

She's attractive with half her body showing so she will attracte men who make alot of money the problem is they will sleep with her but won't commit

[@thankthelord4536]

Right! If you selling sex, that's all you gonna get.

[@yournextguest]

Thank you for saying... When we say it we get "it's giving insecure vibes"... "men need to stop policing women's bodies!"

[@steelysam7189]

Facts! Thank you!

[@peacefaith560]

ikr..give that man something to imagine

[@steelysam7189]

Maybe the guy who met her requirements was right in front of her 20 years ago! Unfortunately she might've turned him down.

[@thelastgoodmaninjersey]

A 6'2", dark, handsome, fit, childless, successful man who wants to be married already is. Want what you want, but at some point reality needs to kick in. You can literally do the math on what she wants and there are less than 10 men in NJ who would fit all those criteria. So, unless she's planning on stealing a married man she's out of luck.

[@Godsbackhand7]

I did the math as well, and there are roughly 1600 men that meet her criteria in the entire country…not even factoring kids or sexual preference. This is the reality that Kendra needs to start her show with. Is a nearly 40 year old woman the best option for those men? I would say no.

[@TheTrulynice1412]

Y'all making too much sense, shut up because y'all disappear lol 🤣

[@cyes1156]

Or sharing a man as a hook up girl then she'll score well.....Most black women are sharing men because they're all going for the top 15% to 20% of men

[@honestinspiration]

@The Last Good Man in Jersey RIP Kevin Samuels. Both these women need you for a reality check

[@tsohobiah]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@HashtagAlkaline]

She has a whole list of superficial desires that she wants in a husband and father to her future children 🥴 she’s racing against a clock and she’ll end up with a baby in her 40s with a man who doesn’t stick around

[@keithingram8690]

Man, me and you both know this girl likes to have fun fun fun, fun, fun and the only thing she will most likely be if someone’s baby mama with quite a few dudes on the side …. Anyone care to make a wager on that

[@rogers5622]

Agree. She will have a hard time finding what she is looking for now . She is a good time girl who wants to be taken serious now .

[@imperialgrind3128]

She may not even stick around based upon her statements

[@majorenlightenment2291]

Oh, whoever that special man is... will definitely be on 👶🏾 child support... ain't the fact that he isn't sticking around... she openly admitted she loses interest quickly. So she'll be the one to leave.

[@Ashley_Magnolia]

Loving, compassionate, confident, manly, hygienic well traveled… that sounds very reasonable to me.

[@khalil_SRT]

With all these women asking for the same dude their going to have to share🤷🏽‍♂️

[@klaw1425]

Or die alone

[@chilout2496]

Might be running a playboy mention 😂😂

[@Capgpro1]

Secretly they don't care.

[@WeezyJeffersonYo]

They're not their

[@lupavo1738]

Thats the best part because it helps us weed out the trash to find the women who are gems.

[@neoho6096]

She’s GORGEOUS!!! She deserves everything that she asked for.

[@kaygee1623]

That's not what determines what she's asking for.............🙄

[@jaybrick8973]

Id smash

[@_dj_dubz_]

go simp then bro maybe you still have time lol

[@DjCotesMusik]

That's not how life works.

[@neoho6096]

@@DjCotesMusik wanna bet?

[@thetechconsultant]

I had no idea that not being born the right height would immediately take me out of the running of being marriage material when I got older lol. She’s even requiring him be a specific hex color, not just black lol. He has to be #A67B5B

[@temikajackson536]

“A67B5B” 😂🤣🤣

[@marsournexthome]

Bruh. That hex comment probably flew over people heads over here, but that has me dying....hahaha.....

[@est_la_vie_bellexo]

bahahahaha them HTML codes

[@totallyyahware6840]

@@marsournexthome me too. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@glamourinc]

Screaming 😂😂😂😂

[@bun-n-cheese1290]

Asking for the same exact thing 99% of women are looking for and she's placing a stringent timeline on him. And she wants him to be "God-fearing". Any man like this in a church has been snatched up and introduced to every Moms daughter by 30 😂

[@Sandra.-.]

Trust me there's a man with the same exact qualities she's looking for and wants to have a child by next year. Its not as farfetched as you think. Its about people being on the same page. There are multiple men whod quickly knock up a woman after weeks of meeting. A yr isn't that short a period

[@Northphilly-wu4oq]

@@Sandra.-. this is why women dont lead they are to follow.. She was talking nonsense

[@dekev7503]

​@@Sandra.-. If a man wants to have kids within a year, don't you think he'd go after a woman in her fertility prime (early-mid 20s), especially if he's handsome and makes over $100k?

[@michaele5588]

@@dekev7503 You are wasting your time. Logic don't apply to them.

[@neisci]

@@dekev7503 you need to get out KZbin. They actually do in the real world that's why in other communities you find couples at their late 30s trying for their first children. What women don't do is to extend their options to increase their chances.

[@MikeyDavis]

She’s who SZA picked at the surgeons table.

[@shean991]

Lmao bruh....

[@melaninmonroeeee]

Lmaoo whatt

[@Dani-fc1hc]

Yeah I see it

[@TheMastermindzTV]

Ayooo 🤭

[@StylezOfCole]

This is why most black women will never know what it feels like to be happily married. Our expectations are out of this world smdh. Even at 39 she still has a list this wild and all she brings to the table is realtor

[@otrebla8944]

Her career as a realtor means nothing to men.

[@alp.9672]

Right now is a terrible time to be a realtor especially in the tri-state area.

[@alp.9672]

@@kane99560 Only dumb people think being a realtor is a flex. Most have 2nd jobs also. I know more than one in the northeast.

[@StylezOfCole]

@@kane99560 I totally agree. With an economy like this, there are barely any houses to sell idk how realtors make money 🤔

[@jermaineburgess3767]

She mostly likely doesn't make a lot of money in NJ I live here ain't nobody buying no house from this woman

[@lilmotown8109]

One time I had called a lawyer for a case I had, when she reviewed it she said that I had called her to late and that I need to call her before the trial started so she could file a motion but now it was too late! I hope this story saves someone. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

[@mikec6207]

Damn, she stuck to her standards til the very end.

[@vegannn7178]

As she should

[@mikec6207]

@@vegannn7178 her standards are the equivalent to a 60 yr old man who earns $50k wanting to marry a 25 yr old supermodel 😂

[@zulu3274]

😂 makes no sense to let all that beauty and sexiness go to waste...Kendra too...smh...lol I'm starting to believe there's nothing wrong with settling... Get something before you have nothing... I bet she had a lot of decent dudes but got rid of them for petty reasons...lol

[@ABc-nu6jb]

@@mikec6207 nah that’s just weird and creepy. Her requirements are the same most women have maybe apart from one criteria

[@mikec6207]

@@ABc-nu6jb they’re the same lol both are on the outside of their prime years, yet have the expectations of someone in their prime.

[@DougRaytis]

I would need at least 2 years of exclusive dating plus a year of marriage before I even considered conceiving a child. It sounds like she wants an impulsive man. I wish her well though, hopefully it works out for her

[@Sai_92]

You're making too much sense for this clip lol

[@monstar2746]

Her clock is ticking...

[@DougRaytis]

@@Sai_92 ​ she is trying to win on a buzzer beater lol I’m not mad though. At least she hasn’t gone the sperm donor route. Maybe she can meet Kobe Bryant reincarnated lol 🤷🏾‍♂️ I’m rooting for her

[@marrrweee]

I disagree - I think she is requesting a lot of the same things that she brings to the table, and a man at that age should have a similar mindset as far as knowing exactly what he wants so I really don’t think she’s being unreasonable.

[@DougRaytis]

@@marrrweee I speak from the perspective of a man with no children. I’m pretty sure she could find a baby daddy by tonight, she is a gorgeous woman. But a man who has made it to middle-age with no children is calculated, NOT impulsive. So she is looking for a calculated man to make an impulsive decision with. I can only hope it works in her favor.

[@maddielu5286]

I hope she reads these comments and open up her options. Go where you are wanted loved and celebrated, best of luck in your search

[@bobbym1799]

I would love a girl like that she walk right past me and that's cool. The issue is then it becomes there are no good men when the truth is you walk right by me without giving me a chance

[@maddielu5286]

@@bobbym1799 true as well.

[@jermaineburgess3767]

Loved and celebrated 🤣🤡

[@maddielu5286]

@Jermaine Burgess I know you hate this for a bw. Your want to be the only one with options. You clowning yourself Sir

[@jermaineburgess3767]

@@maddielu5286 lady those men don't want black women I live close to her and you know what you don't see large numbers of other races of men with black women you know what you do see large groups of single black women 🤫

[@purplelove010]

Beautiful lady, she looks just like Alexis Fields. However the specific height and income level that she requires is too exact. She would need to expand her horizons. If a man is 5'9 makes 60k a year but is a good man that's all that should matter.

[@mrblue___]

I knew she reminded me of somebody 😅

[@philduchene7833]

Great point, but she will never see it that way until she ends up with a house full of cats 15 years later.

[@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938]

🤣 that sounds to logical for women

[@bwill7667]

Never settle is the Achilles heel for many women (regardless of race). What I find funny, is if you’re not going to settle, make the important things in a healthy relationship the focal point. Instead, it’s the superficial things that keep many of them either single or unhappy. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@DaTrillestKweenP]

Exactly

[@Yobachi2007]

Many of them aren't happy unless they're miserable, cause they get off on experiencing the emotion of the misery and anger; and playing the eternal victim. They wouldn't know what to do with happy if they got it. They're poison and broken, and want no parts of happiness and healthy relationship. I've seen it first hand.

[@pocahontas4583]

So settle and live your life miserable with someone you don’t want to be with? 🤔 Been there, I’d strongly suggest staying single and happy than marrying someone you don’t want and being miserable. My wants weren’t as superficial as hers but nonetheless I’m much happier not being tormented daily.

[@bwill7667]

@@pocahontas4583 so you self admitted your wants weren’t as superficial, but yet superficial. Probably the biggest reason for you being miserable. But even with that settling doesn’t mean settle for anything. It means there’s a hierarchy of what’s important to having a healthy relationship. But, I see the commentary went a little over your head. Enjoy not settling for things that create a healthier relationships 🤷🏾‍♂️.

[@lamonteaton3490]

To impress their friends and family.

[@Thegoodlife4me]

Go girl!!! Ask and it SHALL BE GIVEN. Do not settle for dust. She looks happy, healthy and unbothered. In order to stay that way she needs to keep these boundaries in place.

[@jermaineburgess3767]

Lady she is miserable that's why she came to this bs show

[@mano-spherered4852]

Her ovaries are dust

[@Godsbackhand7]

There are about 6 million men within 20 minutes of her immediate location. She is nearly 40 and still single. She is not unbothered. She is not happy. Not saying that she is miserable, but she feels incomplete. She has been asking for the man that meets her criteria, which she hasn’t received in the past 20 years of her dating life. It is SIGNIFICANTLY harder for her now that it would have been 10 years ago. She has backed herself into a wall and she will need to be willing to make compromises, as any man would need to do. She wants to have a kid, but any man that meets her criteria would likely want to have a child by a much younger woman who is less likely to have complications and more likely to be fertile.

[@Thegoodlife4me]

@@Godsbackhand7 That sounds like statistically appropriate rhetoric on the topic. Accurate in many aspects as well. I’m talking real life though. I agree she may have to be willing to compromise but err ugh she can mostly get what she’s looking for. Rhetoric is great on the internet but i find real life to be different. These dudes are out here but they just don’t have their ish together, a lot of them. She’ll have better outcomes if she’s willing to move beyond only “Chocolate” dudes.

[@sakpase88]

Yall say this to person yall champing up they having a problem finding that person. I lowkey think yall want rooting for the next woman to stay single 😂

[@what77und]

More late 30 year-old women who think they're in a position to negotiate terms with a HVM 😂😂😂. Go ahead baby. Make yo wish 🤞🏾 😂😂😂

[@vicljr8533]

What she wants is not bad but something has to be missing. The man she wants has all kind of options and ya gotta compete. He also not gonna pick a 38 year old when he can get a 28, 26, 24, etc year old woman.

[@bobbym1799]

I've been praying 🙏🏿 and asking God for a good woman apparently she out there she just don't want me so she can stop the b.s. and get us to reality like I have to.

[@lasportslive6813]

I take offense with Kendra saying if a man is successful but does not have children by a certain age that he is gay. How about he is just a responsible Adult who does not want children until Marriage. Is that not the natural order of things? SMH!

[@MISAO_SAO]

Kendra's saying "Okay, We see you boo," following the Kendra cam, is code for "You're mid"?

[@bruceleeroy8302]

She be gassing up overweight, out of shape women too. _We see that booty, gurl!_ Naw, you're just overweight boo.

[@SunshineKK99]

Yes lol. When Kendra says ooohhh you got booty or a bodddyyy, that's top tier ..☺️

[@GreyMann2]

How are you loyal and "pour into" somebody if you lose interest quickly?? She wants to meet someone, get married and pregnant within year and half then says "no rush." Kendra leaves a lot of good questions on the table.

[@gennibee]

I feel so sorry for people dating right now. It was never this hard to connect with someone solid, get to know each other and get married if you’re compatible. These people on the internet have lied to people, especially women. Your perfect prince is NOT out there searching for you. You need to try to find a partner with whom you have a lot in common and get married and start your life. If you keep waiting for someone better your best years are going to pass you by. A wise older person once told 19 year old me, “Don’t overlook a daisy trying to find a rose.” And I was very much in demand as a young lady, but I understood what he was telling me. It was true then and it’s still true today, maybe even more so today. Disney sure did a number on the millennials and Gen Z. They were raised by Gen Xers who made everything possible and made everything look easy. We were just built differently, growing up in the 1970s & 1980s. I have a feeling this woman is going to continue to be super picky and she’s going to stay single.

[@ColdIce99]

Sorry short kings 😢. It’s rough out here in these streets.

[@lupavo1738]

Yup, definitely agree brother lol.

[@LOSTGPS]

better get a passport, the average height of men in south east Asia is like 5'4 lol

[@A_Well_Traveled_Man]

It's okay because it was said in another video most of these women that keep calling themselves Queens are really pirates - !!!

[@bruceleeroy8302]

Naw, there are definitely decent women out there who aren't height queens. It's just all the women on this show with their delusions that there are these unicorns waiting on them when they are past their prime.

[@perdybirdie]

No its not just go out and you see short men with girlfriend all the time. These women are delusional and trying to build a man

[@indigobeauty1]

don't say responsible men are most likely gay because they're cautious 😑

[@LadyK007]

Right. It’s not uncommon to meet 40+ childless men in big cities.🤷🏾‍♀️

[@juju-gm7he]

Most women in the comment section saying she's the issue have multiple children before marriage and are mostly single mother's! At least she decides to wait till marriage this double standard is crazy a women is expected to wait till marriage to have children no matter how much she makes (even if she makes more) and wants a man without any children now she's the bad guy! So the men can have children before marriage but the women can not! I don't think it's unrealistic I think she needs to expand her options but saying she can't find him there's more men her age single hard working and without children but she must be mindful I'm sure he has no time so she will most likely feel like a single women and mother but they do exist! She looks amazing for her age! I give her that

[@KarmaTube5]

Yeah some people get married the first year and last a lifetime

[@eke.D]

Brown/ DS man + 6"2 + 90K+ + childless + 35 - 45 + willing to have a kid within 15 months. That brotha is in the top 0.5% 😂. Good luck. That's all I'm going to say.

[@patmebro2429]

The delusion 😂😂😂😂

[@Itsavibeha]

What are you talking about the average man between the ages of 35-45 make 70-90k a years. The average man in general makes 55 because that money accounts for 18-30 yr olds but the older they are the higher the average. So stop the Kevin samuels bs. Shes asking for the man to be a good person and some how it’s an issue. Usually the men who have careers are on average taller. Shorter men work bs jobs. You are probably mad because you still work a bs job. Elevate yourself

[@LOSTGPS]

more like 0.25%

[@bruceleeroy8302]

It's not that she can't get a man like that, it's that she hasn't found him yet and if he comes around, he has dozens of options.

[@6ft130k]

hopefully they’re willing to share, not enough of him to go around

[@abifilo]

Kevin Samuel talks about this situation- don’t wait, make marriage and family a priority early.

[@etuitivemillionaire]

Shiba spent her youth riding the CC and now she’s looking for triple six handsome men. You didn’t want me in your prime. I don’t want you in your decline. Real Estate market is slow. She needs help with those bills.

[@WeezyJeffersonYo]

If she wants a handsome man and you just admitted you weren't wanted (meaning you're not handsome), then you weren't an option anyway. 😏 yall are so mad.

[@branbran1287]

@@WeezyJeffersonYo 🎯🎯 sounding like a disgruntled ex 💀

[@etuitivemillionaire]

@@WeezyJeffersonYo First of all I’ve been off the market for the past 9 years. The same way y’ll get BBLs, Women used to tell me if you get your nose did you would look like Morris C. Being a triple six average looking guy keeps Gold Diggers like her away from me.

[@etuitivemillionaire]

@@branbran1287 😂😂😂a man’s Loyalty is tested when he has everything. The reason rich guys don’t value her is because she didn’t build with them. My wife has only been with me. She’s been around since I was making 65k. That’s Real Talk.

[@nellescott4899]

@@etuitivemillionaire be real. Most men that build with women don’t stay.

[@kamieyonce]

Im sorry this made me sad, shes watching girlfriends in the background too, DO NOT BE LIKE JOAN! Also adoption is beautiful i feel like ppl never consider that, u have the money so it will be easier. Do u want to be a parent or u want to be pregnant?

[@drinkwatereatmelons7048]

🤣....Joan's character had me exhausted and I'm not in a relationship with her

[@kamieyonce]

@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 thee worst!!😩🤣

[@orihellcon]

Love how her clock is ticking but wants a top tier man. She had 20 years to find a good man but at the countdown still has not lowered her standards.

[@rabrown2799]

I'm not sure lowering her standards is or was the problem versus developing herself to be desirable to be a husband's wife.

[@keithingram8690]

Man, let’s be real. This girl has had plenty and plenty in plenty and plenty and plenty and plenty and plenty and plenty of men crawling all over her, chasing her and cat calling her. .. and those two big giant obstacles on the screen… those have gotten her all of the attention she’s ever dreamed of and wanted, and they will continue to do so… anyone care to make a wager on that

[@africanbeauty7]

@@keithingram8690 Cat calling? Really? There's no quality man in the NY/NJ area that catcalls a woman. The only ones that do that are the street pharmacists and those that live with their mothers and hang out on the block. No respectable woman would respond to a catcall especially if she knows it's because of what's poking out in the front or the back.

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

@@keithingram8690 Most of the catcallers are creeps and losers. Having a bunch of zeros is not having "options".

[@keithingram8690]

@@africanbeauty7 like I see it this girl got plenty. Plenty plenty plenty plenty of men.. I noticed you never commented on any of all of those men

[@ethanm3323]

So you lose interest fast but you want a man for marriage presumably forever. 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@JustBree716]

Whew child. The reason I'm single at 43 now. I was a hot mess. Had the attention span of a poodle now I'm over here looking crazy 🤓I got my kiddos at least.

[@LadyK007]

😂😂😂

[@atlsongbyrd6084]

Take your time because if it happens next year unless it’s a person you’ve already known for a long time it probably won’t work.

[@stevenharris1460]

I'd want a few years with just my wife before we had kids.

[@warrenanderson412]

Gentlemen...Gentlemen...Let Me Call This For You......"She Belong To The Streets!!"

[@jaylentv1]

🎯🎯🎯Bingo...having the money and spending the money is two different things. You want a generous man, not just man with money.

[@KA-yk7cz]

she doesn't know the difference

[@ProspectNY11211]

Thanks for your service Kendra.

[@itsstilljoose]

Hope you got your Nike fellas. Sounds like a runner to me

[@AAM2011]

I got my Nike Zooms on 😂 because I’m going to do a drive by smash and dash

[@ebonneenelson2325]

@@AAM2011 😂😂😂😂😂

[@mathias3529]

@Kendra, research the age that men generally reach their financial stride. That may help you understand why some men have kids later on. They are building in the meantime!

[@trishmalone5639]

Yes, PLEASE stop saying that statement about men who are 45, never married and high earners are gay!! That man is Intelligent and Responsible! That man is not trying to contribute to the population by being a Baby daddy! He also is smart not to want to pay a significant part of his income out in child support for 18- 22 years

[@real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687]

Kendra, why does a man not having kids mean he's gay? Where they do that at? Here I was thinking, I'm being responsible and waiting. I don't have kids because I have trust issues with women and don't want to wind up on child support. 😒

[@ANT_justtooreal]

Thank you for calling out the irrational ideations Kendra. Sadly she’s not alone with this mindset. It’s more norm as opposed to the exception. Setting themselves up for failure.

[@myalistjourney4742]

Sheba, there are many people who have met and married in 6 months and are still married years later. At that point, it’s up to you to get pregnant or not. But the married part does not take a man long to decide.

[@Jay-ux4gm]

She should've had this mindset between 21-30, I pretty sure she could have had her husband. As a man who meets all her requirements besides being 6'2, her list isn't as crazy as most on the show. The part about wanting someone like me that's 40 who's never been married and don't have kids, to rush into doing so is the most unrealistic this she said IMO. There were others when you tally up everything. Me for instance, I make over 130k, no kids and STRAIGHT 🤣 at 40. I'm already in the top 1% of single straight black men in the world based off statistics and I'm 5'10 with out a "Sixpack ". If you factor that in with being 6'2 were talking about less than .05% of black men. Women need to understand probabilities better 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@AffectionatePart1588]

You DON'T meet her requirements... so stop talking Dr. Phil/ Hater, let the girl live and find her match... you NOT 6'2", if she messes with her list, she mine as well GO WHITE better luck with her list 🤷🏿‍♀️ BM always want someone to lower their standards to meet theirs... LEAVE HER ALONE HATER 🤣🤣🤣

[@LOSTGPS]

someone needs to sit down with black women and explain to them the statistics behind their criteria and requirements for men.... well they'll still probably ignore all the facts, Kevin Samuels proved that.

[@nellescott4899]

And yet you still haven’t picked anyone. Please….

[@liliwms508]

You need to get on the show. You sound like you’ve got your act together, can put a well written sentence together, obviously employed…it’s worth a coffee meet up at least🥰🤷🏽‍♀️

[@basbleupeaunoire]

What makes you think her mindset is recent?

[@LOSTGPS]

smh there is going to be a lot of depressed older women 10-15 years from now. No kids, no husbands, just cats and valium lol

[@nellescott4899]

Women aren’t being documented as lonely, the men are. Black men really be living in the basement ignoring facts huh?

[@marvinsmith1171]

So many ladies want a dark man but will drag a man if he said he whats a light skin ladies but would love ❤️ to have a light skin daughter

[@yoursisesthermeya]

Thats because you guys put black women down verbally while choosing your preferences. We just do it quietly.

[@yesterdayseyes]

You're demographic is the most obsessed with skin color I've ever seen, yet run around screaming racism, ridiculous.

[@patriciasmith3175]

It’s Girlfriends playing in the background for me 😂

[@misheleb.4340]

Yep😂😂😂😂😂

[@montana8779]

UNPOPULAR OPINION: we as black women have GOTS to let go of this “he gotta be black” standard. there is just not enough attractive STRAIGHT black men with these good qualities to go around. we gon have to either start considering bisexuals, or we gon have to give up on the “black and chocolate complexions.” Or we (using “we” loosely😂) can stay single and FNF…🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Gunshinzero]

It's not better anywhere else. You think women of other races are sitting idle letting their unicorns run free? I'm not saying they aren't available but I will say the people closes to then get the best shot. Being black could make you stand out but don't think it will be easier.

[@RichBoy-dc2dq]

Men are the pursuers not the women. Ask yourself why aren't other races of men pursuing black women in mass? The desire to "date out" means nothing if the energy is not matched by other races of men. Dating app statistics proof those facts.

[@tee7954]

AMEN!

[@Shalayah2010]

we as black women don't gotta do a damn thing. if we want to date our black men, then we will very much do so. just because you want to date outside your race, that's on you.

[@nikkiq5124]

Lol exactly. Statistically there just isn’t enough (especially not enough that are marriage minded because a good portion that meet the criteria aren’t even looking to settle), so expand your options to include other races or lower your standards if race is a deal breaker for you.

[@jasonhb1281]

bedroom activities only. top 10 most delusional guests

[@kse377]

I meet her qualifications and I don't have children. I decided that I would not have children without marriage. Now that I've reached my mind 40' s, I have decided not to become a father. Sometimes it just works out that way.

[@ANGL-I-DEVL]

She said jersey expensive. she doesnt want a serious relationship, all she wants is a kid and someone to support her while she saves or do nothing. Also she said she loses interest fast, means she gets around. You gotta understand most the girls that are 20+ living in expensive areas has or currently does onlyfan or some type of sex work to get by.

[@BigShrimpin416]

She’s a very attractive lady but there’s a reason she hasnt been wifed up yet. She’s 38 and no kids and single. 🧐. She’s looking for a fairy tale and fairy tales and perfect relationships don’t exist!!!

[@kennettabradford6566]

Whenever Kendra asks the women on here what's a deal breaker for you. I Rarely hear that they don't tolerate Abusive controlling narcissist dudes. Because that is definitely something I wouldn't tolerate.

[@Matthew7.7]

Young women in your 20’s take notes to where you don’t wanna be when you 30+ dating like this. I wouldn’t touch her with a stick. Can sense the underlining issues.

[@sistrenyogigal3813]

Her smile is electric. She’s a nice looking girl. She should be able to get a good relationship

[@ShoTyme]

Totally agree, however, do you think she will find a man who checks off ALL those boxes? I know plenty of 5'9" brothers who fit her criteria but not 6'2" or taller.

[@sistrenyogigal3813]

I personally think the height requirement is stupid but I’m sure I’ve had some pretty stupid requirements myself over the years lol so I’ll give her Grace.

[@ShoTyme]

@@sistrenyogigal3813 Concur

[@zulu3274]

🙂Nice looking woman...not girl... This is the results of being too picky and waiting too long... There's nothing wrong with settling.... I wish her the best tho...💯

[@dragonfly4494]

​@@zulu3274 Not sure why everyone uses a negative word like settling. It's actually called being realistic. No man has ever gone to his deathbed alone because he would only marry Halle Berry.

[@Northphilly-wu4oq]

Red flags.. She said she loose interest fast so she's a self sabatoger. No one never wifed her up so she been playing now she want to get serious with these unrealistic expectations

[@PrettyPreciousG]

Per her own logic... Kendra is gay.

[@kennyblaaq6158]

She’s basically looking for a man to retire her by 40.

[@vincentmason1137]

Sis is purely delusional 🤣 good luck with that 👍

[@amandaliscette6541]

She's a beautiful woman. I wish her the best!

[@Rob10288]

She needs a list of what she brings.........😺😺

[@sheilae.9670]

Lmao 🤣 😂 exactly...

[@danielmcmeil4067]

Nothing 😅😅😅😅😅😅 LOL 😂😆😆 LOL

[@nmmboy]

All she brings is cewchie and audacity 😂🥴

[@rvwilliams100]

Everybody in this thread must be short

[@femalebabypluto]

@@danielmcmeil4067 if you look at her surrounding and her job you can see she takes of what she has to. Stop being mad nobody wanna settle for dusties

[@christopherblake2588]

“I lose interest fast” that kind of negates any “why would men be lucky to have you” responses.

[@3questo699]

Kendra: why do you think you’re single? Her: because I’m picky, I’m choosy and I loose interest quickly… 😅😂 Ma’am, who do you think got time to waste like this? Especially at 38years old! smh. Be serious.

[@imperialgrind3128]

She hella immature

[@Godfavorsmi]

It’s July 2024 I want a year update from her. Did be find her dream man, pregnancy & marriage🤣🤣

[@thebestchannel5456]

She's freaking crazy smh

[@therealmereal2642]

Y’all need to stop all the negativity she wants what she wants she’s a beautiful woman and she’s smart also got a nice body and a head on her shoulders unlike some of y’all in the comments 😢

[@Scam-ish]

She listed roughly 20 things a man had to be to qualify for her, she listed 5 things that she brings to that man smh how is that an equivalent exchange😊

[@Firecracker876]

Stop limiting yourself to a color, your kids will be yours regardless of their color. You looking for a brown skin man there’s Hispanics, South East Asian, Pacific Islander Men that are brown. but you can expand your options further by not limiting it to brown, you can get a Asian man, Caucasian man, Ect.