Against Me! - Borne On The FM Waves Of The Heart (Video)

[@Frank_Darko]

Thank you Laura and thank you Tegan and the rest of the band (at that time) - for both the song and the video. (my favorite duet- ever) Got me through.a lot of heart ache many times over..many many times indeed. No, it's not what we meant to say. We don't really love each other. What happens when the summer's over? How long before distance becomes a chore? I'm approaching with great, great trepidation. I hope you'll understand… Anxiety, Anxiety you give me no mercy. Grind my teeth smooth and flat in my sleep. We took some pills to calm us down. Then we needed help to come back up. Just trying to stay in control of the situation.… ..they fall apart so easily.

[@Anchorheart401]

Christ this takes me back to my late childhood. 16-23 years where we would do anything just for the experience and always wanted to go as hard as possible even though we all knew those years friendships and hearts were dying one day at a time. So bittersweet and precious.

[@alisonhell5993]

I had a long distance relationship for a short time from end of 2021 till mid 2022. I live in Iowa, he lived in North Carolina.. he came to me twice and stayed a good length of time each visit... Come to find out we kinda needed to go different directions in life, and that was that .. anyway we always said this was our song. We felt every word said in this. It was a feeling I couldn't explain, when we would sit and listen to it .. we lost touch of each other. Then January 17th 2023. The world took him from me... He died, going to his mother's house that was on fire, and he was going in to rescue her. He suffered 2nd and 3rd degree burns. He was on live support a few days, then was taken off and died on that cold January day. I Miss him everyday. And just wanted to share this story here, because this was one of our songs.. Miss you Cameron

[@Kerry0101]

Very sorry for your loss. Thank you for posting here. I come back to this song, this version for the music it is just a great song.

[@MF-sp5fj]

live on with a whole new purpose of life!!! life is good

[@SixStringRacer]

I am so sorry. Miss him yes but live too. Thank you for sharing. I hope the pain is getting easier to live with. ❤

[@lokialutt3445]

These lyrics remind me of a relationship with a lot of push and pull. Eventually we found our balance and found a way to love eachother well but at the time the lyrics describe how there was distance, tension, and nights I cried when she didn't call or how she would call me feeling let down that I didn't reach out after she asked for space. Thank the gods we are no longer living this song.

[@toryswanson8229]

I was one of the lucky few who were around when they were born. Gainesville days were the best when they played downtown....best years of my lifes ( Borat accent)

[@Robey1924]

Probably one of the best songs ever written. it's freakin beautiful!

[@grezbobolik1560]

its fantastic, back when Tom knew he was a dude.

[@staygold902]

​@grezbobolik1560 the voice is still there regardless of what has gone on and that's the important thing. That voice is something special

[@YouTube_can_ESAD]

@@grezbobolik1560 Calm down, your view on this doesn’t f’n matter.

[@paulaiuto3933]

Absolutely true that is 1 of best songs ever!!

[@TheEnochiancub]

@@grezbobolik1560 she was never a dude but ok.

[@christianobermeier7862]

I felt in love with this song over so many years...and the song still got it !

[@brain2372]

I hate this song because of how relatable it is and I love this song because of how relatable it is

[@dandiego2010]

Thank you my son for introducing me to these amazing artists.

[@grapejuice165]

This song came back to find me at the end of 2024 when I needed it the most.

[@Elmcitymusic]

Agreed. 100%

[@funderg8213]

In my situation its 2025😂

[@beachrights]

I stumbled upon this song a week ago and must have listened to it 20 times in a row. The energy they have together is incredible and complement each others voices perfectly. Lyrics are haunting.....Thank you for making this song!!!

[@Fluff1986]

Check out alkaline trios cover of wake up exhausted with her, similar feels for me, I love both songs, can't quite get into Tegan and Sarah but I really want to find more stuff she has done guest vocals on

[@JuriTalent]

...great voice , great artist ....

[@taylordw]

I’m an old man: I have 2 sons one Gen X the other millennial, I found this song listening to indie radio on Sirius. my sons like to test my musical taste by sending me indie metal, and punk songs; i sent them this song and scored points with both of them, deservedly so.

[@nickbrown4152]

An absolutely beautiful song. I experience alot of PTSD from my two tours of East Timor, and this band is one of my strategies to get through the PTSD.

[@thomasposlusny9687]

Is this Nick Brown of the Navy?

[@nickbrown4152]

@@thomasposlusny9687 lol

[@paulaiuto3933]

Thank u always for yr service and my prayers always to u and my brothers n sisters who have served . It's you all that are my everyday hero's 🙏🙌👊

[@PurpleBunnySlippers]

I can't begin to describe how grateful I am for this band. I am in the darkest and lowest point in my life so far. This woman's words and the incredible music backing it give me one small sliver of hope. That maybe just maybe one day shit will be okay.

[@chrisgriffiths3884]

KangarooCdub hey your perfect! Don't ever feel any different

[@patriciadavis1448]

@@jwhiteout and i can't begin to describe how much a disguising excuse for a human being you are.

[@MelancholyMegan]

@@jwhiteout I was going to say something constructive in response to your ignorance but then I read your channel description and it's clear that you have got the collective IQ of the state of Texas (around 1).

[@gregoryrobins2632]

@@jwhiteout are you gay

[@tommysolomon7759]

Malicious Megan I live in Texas. Am a liberal. And I gotta say, that remark you made about this agreeably state is ignorant. Have you ever looked into how votes are unfairly redistributed in this state? Oh, right, you don’t. Otherwise you wouldn’t of made such an ignorant statement. Votes in this state are divided into different sectors, sectors that make liberal strongholds like Dallas, Fort Worth, Houston, and maybe El Paso completely inneffective. We’re more than a state of guy ranchers whose sisters also happen to be their mothers. Don’t ask me how that stuff works out. Think they learned a few things from guys in Tenessee

[@nathanthornsbury1190]

I haven't heard this since middle school, and I felt the most inexplicable Shockwave of chills from the very first note, and I was back in that old space. Never forgot a single line, almost 9 years later. Jesus...

[@leighbeanz5805]

Going through some rough times right now, fucking awesome song!!

[@ughthissucksass]

Someone asked me who was my favorite sister, Tegan or Sara the other day and I forgot about this song until yesterday and now I remember everything

[@samiamg509]

I hope in a good space..

[@meeshiebee]

i need you to know that you have helped me through the absolute worst times of my life with THIS song. Thank you ❤

[@joejordan8146]

This song and video will stand the test of time and truly be a beacon of hope to others

[@ritchie909]

This is the best "love song" of all time. Anxiety! Anxiety! You give me no mercy! Grind my teeth smooth and flat in my sleep.

[@dontmovetomexico]

I got chills all over my body watching this, I remember singing along to this song 6-7 years ago with all my friends back in my hometown. Such passion in all of Against me's songs, great memories.

[@janaanderson4940]

Defaultaction me too 💚

[@noodlesatemybaby]

Never forget those memories! 💚

[@jeremyliebenthal9916]

My best friend-no, he was my brother-died earlier this year. It came out of nowhere, but also it didn’t. The two of us made a habit of dancing right out there on the edge, looking for those limit experiences, those outpourings of emotion, those wild moments of ineffable joy on a late night with blurry eyes. Anyways. He really loved Against Me!. We used to sing at the top of our lungs. Thrash Unreal was probably our biggest go-to, alongside Cavalier Eternal. But somehow, whenever I put on this song, it cuts me harder than almost anything. It just reminds me overwhelmingly of being up late driving with Ralph with the windows down and the radio way too loud as we screamed together into the void.

[@dbzmrpopo]

these moments will wick with us forever

[@raygedd9693]

Salute to your brother Ralph, from Delaware

[@Fiend85635]

Your brother was a bad ass person. I've had a few of my closest go that way and it kills me and really fucks me up. If you need to chat im alway here for you. Lemme know, hommie.

[@christianobermeier7862]

he must be a great person its very hard to lost your brother anyway me two!!!!

[@jaymomo8916]

✝️

[@stevemack2004]

This means more than anyone can understand

[@celebrityguest.9530]

i'm in a class where we do band sort of stuff. and i brought this song in, and can i just say, it truly is humbling doing Laura's vocals. I have truly grown a deep love of this song and even more so of this band.

[@andrewstuckey1793]

We need more!! Thank you for understanding and putting my , are feelings into such a beautiful way!!! This world needs more of y’all

[@mikhailsmith7939]

TOM, I have been a fan since your band was playing in laundry rooms. Against Me stole the show at the Next Big Thing in Tampa. The band is awesome and I don't care. Be who you are. Against Me is one of the last great true rock groups out there. I am a fan forever

[@MNDTRVLRMUSIC]

This song never gets old

[@grezbobolik1560]

Tom is so fucking good here

[@Giantandre70]

The interplay in their vocals is incredible ... The 3 times they sing "Too Much Momentum.." (around 1:30, 2:30 and 3:30) is pop perfection ... Thanks for this song Also cool af title that is never mentioned in the song

[@SusejFTW]

Tegan has such a beautiful voice.

[@Thetimeisntcomingback]

Oh man I forgot about this song. I had such a huge crush on tegan lol

[@rockstar89]

A HIGHLY underrated song indeed !

[@samsoto86]

Really we need a new collab between them

[@benjaminfrancis1403]

Man always loved this record. Seeing someone new and now I cant stop listening to this track. I'm teetering on the edge of throwing myself in to it full bore.

[@scubasteve7878]

Why does this song make me so emotional? its so powerful.

[@Kerry0101]

Because it is. In Laura Jane Grace’s book you can pic up on some of the lyrics she was going through in that time. Brought me to tears listening to that part of the book knowing this song cut to the core. I stopped listening to the book and cranked this song up before I continued the audio book.

[@slowwburn]

One of my top 5 tunes of all time. Can't watch this enough...awesome tune.

[@craigsmith3741]

You're so clever darling. I knew you'd find me here. I think about you all the time. I'll never forget that beach in jamaica. Let's go back soon

[@Mackenzieofcourse]

Against Me! is such an awesome band, I listen to their songs over and over again.

[@Retro_Beek]

I still love this song after all these years...

[@emergencyDuck]

God I love this song! Could listen to it over and over again for the rest of my life!

[@dirkluijts2339]

WHAT AN ENERGY !!! I m a bit late but this energy is lacking in a lot of music these days ... Love it !

[@grezbobolik1560]

yea, its because dudes think they are chicks

[@alexanderpanin888]

I used to listen to Against Me in the high school and I have always appreciated White Crosses for such a powerful and dramatic vibe. Now I'm in my mid twenties and somehow my life became something all these songs are written about.

[@19indecisive19]

I absolutely adore this song. It's beautifully composed and something about it makes me feel completely heartbroken. If a song gives you an emotional response like that it must mean it's a great song.

[@dorianlindberg1662]

I have been listening to this song since it came out. It blows my hair back everytime! The harmony is so perfect and the power of the music from Against me flows so wonderfully.

[@blairbear1087]

Craig this will always be one of my favorites xoxo

[@lucky5th2]

I have c-PTSD and the line, "anxiety! anxiety! You give me no mercy." Hit's close to home

[@tonydowns4223]

I always thought he said, "It's Saturday, it's Saturday, you give me no mercy!" Like, it's the weekend, let me chill. lol

[@KaliNavare]

I love it

[@brendo69rock91]

Geez! I really rate this song as a modern masterpiece! A classic that a lot of people will never hear.

[@nicholasbriggs2504]

The journey is amazing. Very guttural. Honest and without apology

[@jthom1976]

I love this band so much, Warren is one of the best drummers to ever live!!

[@SwizZLe333]

I just realized this after some Deep thought about this Song: From then to Now and after thinking about, Its a message from Himself to Herself in the future or whatnot. Essentially leaving messages in time....basically explaining the process of: ANYONE'S AWAKENING, whether its Spiritual, Spirtual-Self, True-Self....it Hints and Reminds Fear is woven into our Fabric as Humans....Its beautiful! Always Loved this Song and its even more Beautiful NOW! It Allows us to Realize we can go past the Norms and are not the Norms...We Carve the Path. (Remember this She says now looking back)

[@blingmyrims]

I only connected these dots recently as I always found myself searching for Tom's n then Laura's songs in times that were rather difficult for me to navigate. Talented muse/artist/musician who's the female vocalist? More collabs between the two?

[@nuttyfroot]

Oh. My. Goddddddd!!! How have I only just seen/heard this????? Whoah! *blown away*

[@Hank_Mardookie]

I just heard it yesterday for the first time, teared up and fell apart, then smiled as I replayed it twenty times.

[@tobiasmenough]

Fucking awesome Song. !!! Anxiety anxiety!!! You give me no mercy.!!!!

[@cobbittycavoodles712]

discovering against me in 2024 and found this gem. wow. some great songs and more... hope you can come to australia in the next few years... my mates and me will buy at least 10 tickets in sydney.. please try

[@kyleralexzander531]

Two of my all time favorite artists together... it's perfect.

[@danman6669]

I can't believe this song is ten years old now. It felt like just yesterday I was playing this on repeat when the song and album first came out. I'm getting too old lol.

[@RIDE-o-REBELLION-o-FLOATCAST]

15 now!

[@christak1833]

My God it's been so long. This was our favorite- my cousin who felt like he should've been my brother instead had got diagnosed with cancer. We grew apart, he became an alcoholic and Im addicted to fentynal.. There used to be three of us, up until my first love - my brother's best friend killed himself. This song saved us three. We were 18 and living life to the fullest. Im 26 now, Mason if youre out there, , i love and miss you. .

[@brokenboarder22]

Thank you for this song.....from a married, scared, and lonley man

[@emotardexpress]

I love the lyrics, love the vocals and this damn song makes me cry but I refuse to stop listening to it.

[@lauradeeisme]

ANXIETY ANXIETY! You give me no mercy! Gotta shout that part out wherever you are. Laura jane grace inspired me to come out as trans. Forever grateful for this band and this video

[@yesgregyes1416]

"Anxiety Anxiety You Give Me No Mercy!" I love this band so much. Funny how I found Laura Jane Grace when I needed her the most. Thanks for this beautiful song. #AgainstMe

[@MF-sp5fj]

Teagan is such an elegant touch to his tough gut wrenching vocals - both strong in emotions in their own right, great counter parts in the song... waste of a super sweet dude with a badass voice

[@rudimental9038]

Every time i'm listening to this song it gives me goosebumps. Beside the absolute great song and the awesome lyrics i really love how the two voices work together. 😍 Absolutely brilliant ❤️

[@Kerry0101]

Ever since I have stumbled across Against Me I have to admit Laura Jane Grace floored me. Like her I went through coming out as Transgender. I had to listen to more of the music before and stumbled across this video. I have been listening to this song so many times that in my head driving with my mother on my long vacation I could NOT get this song out of my head. Listening to it with my ear bugs in attached to the MacBook laptop it felt this song was a private concert. Music is powerful. I never really looked into punk rock because I was not one to crowd surf. Maybe the geeky associated because I was thin and frail growing up led to the part that I might crack easily. Now I really realize I missed the best parts of punk and forever will continue my quest for punk music and listen with anticipation of finding excellent songs. Thank you Against Me. Rock on.

[@iamjoe413]

I never knew who against me even was. someone gave me a album New Wave and i was hooked i pretty much like and respect what the band is saying. As a whole against me is a excellent band i give thx to the one who discovered them for me

[@nicowrites3862]

This is one of my favorite music videos of all time. I listen to this whenever I feel hopeless about my relationship with my love.

[@miltonhleo4355]

No (no), it's not what we meant to say (it's not what we meant to say) We don't really love each other What happens when the summer's over? (How long before distance becomes a chore?) I'm approaching with great (great) trepidation I hope you'll understand Before you speak (before you speak) Think about what you're trying to say (think about what you're trying to say) Who else is there to blame for miscommunication? You're getting caught up in the excitement (You making promises you can't keep) You need to leave all your options open Too much momentum This room feels like it's going to explode Too many angles Too many factors to cover Waiting for signal You're searching for a network You have to fight to stay in control of the situation Anxiety, anxiety, you give me no mercy Grind my teeth smooth and flat in my sleep We took some pills to calm us down (We needed help to come back up) Just trying to stay in control of the situation Too much momentum This room feels like it's going to explode Too many angles Too many factors to cover Waiting for signal You're searching for a network You have to fight to stay in control of the situation And we fall apart so easily Too much momentum This room feels like it's going to explode Too many angles Too many factors to cover Waiting for signal You're searching for a network You have to fight to stay in control You have to fight to stay in control No, you don't have to fight to stay in control of the situation.

[@axlesyple6485]

If only your generation was more like you my good lass. Some faith in humanity restored

[@Michael-gx1cg]

"Anxiety, anxiety, you give me no mercy Grind my teeth smooth and flat in my sleep..."

[@seankopa6726]

thats awsome they wrote you back, and thank you so much for serving our country. much respect.

[@jazzilynnstaats2129]

Was my top song on spotify this year . My first year of transition and Laura's been my comfort zone when it gets rough and scary . So grateful for the last 15 years or so that I've been a fan of against me.

[@markcurtis8653]

They/them

[@jazzilynnstaats2129]

@@markcurtis8653 ?

[@kurdtjohn]

@@markcurtis8653 Laura goes by she/her

[@coopsam]

Who cares what “they” go by, “they” have mental health issues and are not brave or courageous.

[@AngelBlsro]

@@kurdtjohn I'm pretty sure she knows that. No idea why the other dude needed to clarify lol

[@donbeck8835]

Tegan and Laura’s voices sound so cool together, they need to collaborate more

[@avamoore9385]

yyyyyyyyyeeeeeesssss

[@soflaav8r]

*Thomas

[@sicklillette]

@@soflaav8r * laura

[@soflaav8r]

@@sicklillette Not at that time.

[@feralgoblin92]

@@soflaav8r Referring to someone who has transitioned by the name they went by before their transition is frowned upon. It's called deadnaming, and it's the incorrect way to refer to someone, even if you are referring to something to happened before they came out or transitioned. Essentially, Laura was not publicly "out" when this song was released, but she WAS Laura.

[@canuck1994]

One of the first Against Me! songs i ever heard. a few years later and i now have them all (and i mean all) on my ipod and listen to them for hours every day. even flew from nothern canada to see them open for the cult in L.A. When i first found out about Laura i couldnt sleep for days. they went from my favourite band to my heros. not transgender or even gay myself but Laura inspires me to just be who i am and the rest of the band inspire me to stick by my friends no matter what.

[@Marrabejby]

who is laura?

[@r-drenelson6276]

I'm in the lowest point in my life right now....getting more bad bad news and that's not looking good....had to calm myself and listen to this song....gives me hope and desire to push myself for another day.....

[@toryswanson8229]

Against me has a few that can help. One of them is " Because of the shame " written about his best friend ( and probably lover) who left Gainesville cuz of an addiction problem, and move to Bradenton, only to overdose. And its because of the shame, he/she associates with vulnerability, shes numbing herself completely, can you hear me right now!?!...super powerful song.

[@daynesandelin5015]

Hope you worked through it all

[@lucasskywalker753]

Herzblut, Emotionen, sehr schön!!

[@MrNaong]

My favorite part of this video is the message it portrays. No, it's not what we meant. We don't really love each other. You don't have to fight to stay in control of the situation.

[@Forlorn79]

Love these musicians so freaking much!

[@regularnimnule9715]

They're pretty amazing :)

[@Mastrbacn]

My dad passed a little over a year ago. While he was in The ICU this song came up a lot and I hated listening to it even though I liked the song before hand. Now that he's gone this song makes me tear up every time I hear it. Stay strong friends life is a long journey

[@spiritualgiantjohn]

Two amazing women singing a powerful tune. Lifelong fan here.

[@willyoujustrelax8236]

While I support LJG, I'm pretty sure you can't retroactively have been a woman.

[@wasdnc4132]

@@willyoujustrelax8236 wtf are you on about? The whole thing with transgender people is that the outward appearance doesn't reflect who they are inside. That's literally the whole thing.

[@MelancholyMegan]

@@willyoujustrelax8236 you clearly have no idea about trans issues.

[@willyoujustrelax8236]

@@MelancholyMegan you clearly are an idiot.

[@elizajones191]

@@willyoujustrelax8236 No, YOU, my dear sir, are an idiot. Laura is and always has been a woman, just because the world didn't see her that way doesn't change anything about that.

[@bobbyjohnson5637]

You all killed it! Thank you for the GREAT song!

[@bonecollectorpro5680]

God I love how every time when Laura sings how her face looks like it has a little burst of excitement every once and a while

[@MechanicalMike]

Every now and then a song just hits me so hard. This song, every time! There's hearing music, and then there is feeling music.

[@stardust-reverie]

i love how you can tell that laura wrote this even when someone else is singing. that’s how you know you’ve made it as a songwriter.

[@Arienia]

That is Laura singing. Back when she was Tom

[@thefatcat2790]

A trans persons dream comment to recieve

[@megatonydeath]

Almost got me teared up. That's great of them and you. How awesome that some people are actually good.

[@_ADINFINITUM]

I've been reading Laura's autobiography and the lyrics to this song hoo boy...

[@andrewstuckey1793]

To be able to understand and feel these ways is a blessing!! GoodThings fucking love this shit!!!

[@88M8A8X88]

I've had anxiety nearly all my life, was listening to this with my mate, who hasn't got a care in the world and it got to the anxiety anxiety bit and he started singing, 'saturday! saturday!' . Made me laugh though, he has no idea.

[@kathleenjessop]

Ignorance really is bliss, isn't it? That misinterpretation is pretty hilarious, though.

[@brendo69rock92]

Absolute masterpiece of music and still holds up in 2022.

[@user-hr1mn4qw2j]

1:58 best part and lyric of the song hands down!

[@Ruthiie8]

Damn, this is such a great song... We need more real musicians to get big. I'm sick of hearing talentless but famous "musicians"... Great work doing it your way not the way others want you to.

[@PHarmdnb]

this song means allot for me, im in a long distance relationship and sometimes I have to fight to stay in control of the situation.

[@jya4931]

Beautiful duet!

[@alicehz2022]

This song have the revelation of some changes in my life. Never again will be the same but will be for the best.

[@firesidefun18]

I could tell by looking at the thumbnail for this that Tegan Quin was in the video. *Swoons* That hair, that face, that voice, Tegan you take my breath away.

[@prdddac8606]

Song so good it made the comment section speechles

[@kythrathesuntamer9715]

this song is totally like the exact zeitgeist of my life.... It's what it's LIKE in EVERY WAKING SECOND. It's so hard. Life is completely overwhelming -always- and my brain my Poor mind cannot stop it can't stop thinking.... there's too many factors there's too many angles to cover and OF COURSE something is going to get dropped. Especially when I ACTUALLY try to do what I REALLY WANT TO do, I don't think people really understand how hard it is to TRY and follow your heart.

[@Bellasteam00]

saw this footage in about a million tegan and sara fan vids and have been looking for it for like a year. finally found it. great song great hot girl...life is great

[@masso163]

Just the passion and emotion in each of their songs. Be what/who you are, but be proud and enjoy it.

[@dryicechamp]

one of the best bands ever. Im probably going to get a tattoo so i dont forget about them when im 80

[@miikesnow50]

brings back some crazy memories of the one I loved the most :'(

[@Googoo123450]

you have to fight to stay in control of the situation... this song seriously just got me out a slump

[@skylarlynn8006]

I can't even tell you how much I'd love to see a remake of this music video today.

[@PeepsILoveEllie]

+Skylar Lynn whew, I hadn't thought about this. :D

[@jessicarasor517]

OMG YESSSSSSS

[@toddwolfchild3307]

yes it would be cool to hear, Lauren would sing both sides.

[@RavenLady30]

OMG!!!! YESSS!!!! How amazing would that be?!!

[@groverasylum9626]

a remake? stop making me feel old kiddo

[@realelite9]

i love how their videos are so simple and good. it's refreshing

[@kateisnotdead501]

Laura's smile is so nice! You can really tell she loves her music!

[@ACompleteNerdIAm]

You guys are the best! I can't believe I'd never heard of you 3 years ago. Thank you for your great, unique sound! You're literally my favorite band right now.