Warning! Pop The Balloon Or Find Love Reaction : Never Date This Type Of Man

[@kimaleycreese28]

He is not attractive and he knows so he compensate by working out and when he still gets rejected he responds with rudeness, very snappy and break you down. He will be emotionally abusive.

[@joyous1011]

💯

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Lolol right. Kind of funny looking.

[@Candy004]

A lot of men excessively workout in jail. There’s not a lot to do

[@MilitaryDoll314]

Honesty without compassion is brutality. Also, I will NEVER understand why people who are seeking partnership say "I'm not gonna change who I am".. everyone needs to change and compromise to be partnered. Grow up!

[@Vi_lovely]

If it’s hard for people to change for themselves … imagine changing for another person …. You can’t change people,they are who they are. If the person wants to change for you they will, if not move on!

[@chikamsoodume3601]

Wiser words have never been said

[@joyous1011]

Him calling them " queen" while disrespecting them is diabolical 😂😂😂

[@KenUbeleveit1]

A lot of contestants claim to "have a relationship with God" but their words (expression of beliefs) sometimes contradict their claim.

[@regalchic]

Its encouraging to finally see one man that called this guy out most of the reactionary videos i saw from men was celebrating him like some type of hero. I wonder how they cannot see that the man is toxic. Thanks so much for an insightful analysis 1:47:08

[@ezzygallo]

Dat part 👏🏾👏🏾

[@Candy004]

They like to see BW “ humbled “

[@priscillaakua6434]

The number of men condoing this man's behaviour is actually scary. He behaviour was off on the show, and his ex-girlfriend exposed him on tiktok. He also has a criminal past.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

Which men are defending him?

[@priscillaakua6434]

@LittleBlackBook91 On this KZbin itself, there are men making videos in support of him. I can't be the only one who has noticed this.

[@mindingmybusiness6309]

​@@LittleBlackBook91 check out Dennis spurling

[@ezzygallo]

@@priscillaakua6434there are men defending him as crazy at that is I’m relieved to see more men against his tone and behavior then for. Can’t let the exception be the rule.

[@nnena3631]

Most of them...

[@Melowdee]

Great observations and breakdown. I actually feel sorry for this man. Very wounded and has absolutely no self-awareness. Dangerous combination for any woman with him. Pray for the lady that walked away with him.

[@BreonaMcQueen]

Omg. It is disturbing and scary how a lot of the black community is praising him or thinks this is funny. His eyes look evil to me and something is clearly off with him !!

[@nnena3631]

We as a group need to practice more compassion and kindness, we can be rather harsh sometimes.

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Finally, I am so glad someone is calling out some of the underlying problematic behavior of the man featured on that Pop the Balloon episode. The moment I saw the screenshot of the man’s text message to the young lady who he picked, I said to myself what kind of enraged text message was that? Nobody even said anything about the fact that his text message responses (he shared screenshots on his IG) to her were problematic. He was literally enraged sending her paragraphs.

[@Candy004]

So many men behave this way that it’s normalized. The next episode with the older men was worst and many people commented how impressed they were with the men

[@Candy004]

Red flag! Why would your own mother be afraid to warn you about the guy you’re dating. Mom is usually the person who going to say something before anyone else.

[@YourRealtor_Marissa]

Someone needs to check on that young lady that went with him.

[@glecservices3114]

Why ? She fake and only wanted him for his money, she matched with him then took another guys number in front of his face

[@YourRealtor_Marissa]

@@glecservices3114 oh wow. She should not play those games.

[@nik-at-nite]

@@glecservices3114I think she just wanted to win the game fr. If she just wanted his money, she would not have given her number to another man right in front of his face knowing he’d be turned off and leave her in the dust. She would have tried to play the role for more than 10min to reap the benefits.

[@glecservices3114]

@@nik-at-nite she fake like alot of women these days got big mouths and big egos and got so much to say about men but a lot of them ain’t even virgins that’s the sad part all running around spreading their legs to multiple men and got dildos disgusting they can even pair bond properly yet they want to try check a man they don’t even no what it eat when they are on their period you think women in other countries do this stuff western women ain’t it trust me and it’s ashame because black women in the west are the less desirable because of their attitudes and mindsets

[@ezzygallo]

She never left the building with him come to find out

[@teelee-83]

I have dealt with this before. In my younger years I used to over think things and immediately blocked or thought they were with someone else. Now I send another text message to make sure they were okay especially after a few days and he ended up being in the hospital from a seizure. Sometimes we have to realize life happens and anything can happen, but i definitely agree our first reaction is to think negative thoughts.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

thank you...i am on that journey..

[@dahliaherrod4301]

I only know about this video because of Aba and Preach. I don't watch this content because it's depressing and anger-inducing. It's good to know men like you, Aba and Preach also see the issues by all the parties involved

[@Beesway19]

I'm of the belief that giving too many people too much of your time is SUPER unnecessary. No response is the best response for strangers.

[@sue8364]

You need to do a reaction to the one with Dr Edom ...

[@LittleBlackBook91]

He’s so annoying lol

[@aisha691]

1:32:12 what I realised from listening to the exs point of view is that she is deeply insecure and seeks male validation on a high degree. It’s very interesting that she works in a female dominated workforce but wasn’t able to find a connection.. hmm. I can guarantee you that if she had any female friends, they would advice her otherwise just like her mother, but I bet she tells them that they are hating or brushing it off as them being jealous, hence her concluding to female friendships being too much ‘drama’. She had all of these male friends but she couldn’t crash there, or reach to her male besties for support. In her own words, she goes to work, her family home or to her own apartment. She’s lonely, hence why she let a man move into her house. She tries to dress it up on a vibe of ‘oooh his stuff is already here’. This is why I advocate for women to seek sisterhood! I have both male friends and female friends and the truth is there is nothing like support from your fellow sisters and this is an example of it. Abusive men prey on women who have no support and hate on the friend who is ‘cockblocking’ or talks into their gfs ear because they HATE when a woman has an advocate. The end!

[@Candy004]

Loneliness is getting a lot of people into situations they normally wouldn’t get into.

[@koshaburnett]

I went through exactly this with my ex. I broke up with him because he gave his attention to everyone but me. A few months later, he reached back out, apologized, held himself accountable, and explained exactly where he went wrong to ensure I knew he understood why I was upset. Based on this, I cautiously gave him another chance and made it clear that he will need to show me the change. Things were okay initially, then he reached out to say that he was off the next day and would call me. The day came and went. I heard NOTHING. So the following day I texted and asked if he was okay and he said “yeah I’m fine” to which I replied “you said you were going to call me.” His reply was “sorry.” When I told him that just sorry isn’t acceptable, nothing. I called him a few hours later and he smiled as if he was happy to hear from me. I cussed his ass out and blocked him.

[@fashionwithoutlabels]

He lost his job because his ex-girlfriend exposed that he would be stalking her outside her job in the company’s truck WHILE working.

[@KenUbeleveit1]

"God said saves souls" - Lol... Did sis go there to do evangelism?? 😅

[@HopeAndrea_HFG]

Great video and analysis, as usual! Happy studying

[@nnena3631]

I wouldn't judge women with little to no female friends so harshly without understanding the story. There are women who have been hurt , betrayed, and mercilessly harmed by women. I would suggest at least learning the story first.

[@LittleBlackBook91]

But would u judge a man with no male friends all female?

[@nnena3631]

@LittleBlackBook91 That's two different things. I was speaking on a woman not having same sex friends. The direct comparison would be a man not having male friends. In which case, my response would be the same to get curious. Now to your question if he had all female friends: I would asses on a variety of factors. If hes completely straight, if he has a lot of female relatives like sister in which case sometimes the brother is grandfathered into the friend group, his level of attraction, his interactions with the friends, etc. Now, as the woman talked, it's clear her friends weren't real friends but her roster, which is VERY different. I believe aspects of her story, but I do think she's covering some aspects of the truth as well. Like him accusing her of cheating if you have a live-in boyfriend while entertaining your roster, you ARE CHEATING...smh🙄

[@adetoun702]

Yes, I found it a bit odd that he made that blanket criticism of women with no friends. Maybe it's an age thing or a lack of lived experience. Please let's not be too hasty when it comes to making some judgements about people. Women or men without friends of the same gender should not all be automatically seen as weird or be stigmatised ​@@nnena3631

[@Candy004]

She doesn’t have women friends even though she works with women who are emphatic enough to check on her during an abusive relationship.

[@leetheaarceneaux8151]

This is comedy ! He needs a podcast!

[@KenUbeleveit1]

The young lady that went with him - Their date did not even take place according to him. She said something that annoyed him so he ended. That's his story anyway. Sometimes the host has follow-ups with contestants.

[@mayabasquin]

Wow. I didn’t know there was a Reesa Teesa series to go with this edition of pop the balloon 😮‍💨 🎈 1:29:26 agreed. anyone who couldn’t immediately clock that the man is neurodivergent. (I feel okay saying this bc it takes one to know one 🙋🏾‍♀️) This is my same thing with Clay from Love is Blind. Some people are really more slow than they are diabolical. Doesn’t excuse their bad behavior. I’m sure Legion is also ND.

[@kingstrong5351]

Mam half of those chicks barely deserved respect 😂😂😂

[@bj6479]

I ain't for everybody and everybody ain't for me.

[@Candy004]

Aggression is a characteristic of institutionalization.

[@drf695]

@LittleBlackBook91 would you consider doing a British version? :)

[@shaylabrabham1334]

Listen, this guy has watched the show like all y’all lol and came prepared for the rejection. He was actually funny and I can’t be mad at him for giving them the same energy. Yes some of them didn’t deserve it. But it’s entertainment and I laughed 😂😂😂

[@bj6479]

One or two days. I moving different.

[@veevii8747]

Two of the women were actually not disrespectful. The rest were.

[@theveryplumdarcey]

"It is weird in the sense of the fact that" pure babble 😂

[@lilshine1234]

I mean the girl in blue was right about him because he didn’t have all like that. He lost his job, from the video I thought he was self employed

[@cm88__ny]

Dismissive Avoidant??? YOU??? Oh, no, Kojo!!!!

[@fitbyife]

Koj, I love your content but I do think you are guilty of over analysing. & exaggerating the link between situations and attachment style. If there are a number of people assessing you and decide they don’t want to get to know you based on your appearance. I think it’s fair to assume they don’t like you, for whatever reason.

[@BossLady0707]

Everyone was disrespectful. Him and almost all those females. If they kept their mouth shut , it would have shut him down. They chose to engage and go back n forth.

[@jusshy]

Sing na

[@Ayitifinegirl]

Ok awesome video and point of view. Now why this ninja turtle Looney tunes have to be a cancer 🦀♋. Please return to the sender.

[@togo2africa]

Why would a mental health coach instruct a potential client with unresolved issues to “sit on the bench and heal?” Their job is to keep their clients off the bench & actively engaged in planning strategies to heal & have positive outcomes in their current or future dating or marriage relationships. Handling mental health issues is not like playing a game. People may need coaches to help them develop & improve their emotional intelligence, their social, interpersonal, dating, and relationship skills with & without their partners, etc. They may be unable to set and achieve the goals that are necessary for them to heal & become mentally and emotionally fit if they are sitting alone on a bench? Some of the people in this video definitely need to participate in as many therapeutic exercises as possible including those interventions that are more intensive than mental health coaching.

[@nik-at-nite]

The problem is when you have a lot of issues that require you doing the work by yourself, but you want to date and mess up other people in the process. You’re in no position to date. Dating shouldn’t even be a thought. So go do your inner work by yourself, with God, a therapist, etc. That’s what “sit on the bench and heal” means.

[@togo2africa]

@@nik-at-nite Many people with mental health issues are already in a marriage or other types of relationships. Although their psychological issue may not be one that is the direct result of their relationship challenges, it can have a serious impact on it. There would not be as big a need for mental health professionals if people could merely sit on the bench and heal themselves. It would also be a severe threat to many of us if we led people to believe that they don’t need to seek care from a professional and can heal themselves. Many can benefit from the encouragement and support they can receive from coaches even though many of them are not formally trained, educated, certified, or licensed professionals and are not supposed to diagnose, treat, or provide therapy to clients.

[@Grace4thislife]

This is giving Ressa Tessa vibes 🤦🏾‍♀️🫤🤣

[@craze64flairs30]

It's not entertaining why u fast forward the video like that boss...

[@LittleBlackBook91]

I forgot that the video was on 1.75 speed lol

[@glecservices3114]

I respect and rate Arron he stands on business. Nothing wrong with him some men on KZbin are just goofey giving advice but ain’t even in no relationship or haven’t been in no deep relationships

[@kliegh3213]

His ex spoke out and he's dangerous so you're wrong there's something very wrong with him and his ex-wasn't black so you can't blame it on black women. He was abusive, he lied about having 100k because he lived with her and didn't pay bills and he has a criminal record.

[@nnena3631]

Standing on business is not the same as being crass, rude, or standing on foolishness is not business.

[@kingstrong5351]

​lk Women are the ones who called his job 😂😂😂

[@nnena3631]

@kingstrong5351 Dont be so quick to say that his ex is Mexican and says she comes from a large family, i saw a figure of over 500 calls (allegedly) you dont know who (men/women) called or what they said.

[@Candy004]

@@nnena3631. It was telling how fast BM jumped to accuse BW of getting him fired. He had 4 exes and he told them he didn’t like BW. Entirely possible those 4 were able to rally friends and family against him