Was Lance More Wrong Than Mia? | The Best Man Film Criticism

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@MhiaLee19 2 ай бұрын

Me personally I think Lance was definitely wrong for sleeping with a bunch of other people and then expecting mia and not to do it of course men are gonna say oh my God, but she picked the best friend… women don’t care if it’s her best friend or a random woman, so it hurt her the same way..

@anonspectre1796 2 ай бұрын

Definitely not the same thing, Lance didn't know those girls but Mia knew that Harper was Lance's best friend. That's even worse

@MhiaLee19 2 ай бұрын

@@anonspectre1796 but what I said at the end was it doesn’t matter for women getting cheated on feels like getting cheated on with your best friend..At least that’s my personal opinion how I feel. Being cheated on is getting cheating on.. I don’t even care who is it because it’s cheating..

@cameronbolden5064 2 ай бұрын

@@MhiaLee19 this is a damn ass lie. If you BF slept with your BF or Sister that would way more than a random stranger at the club.

@007TheLife 2 ай бұрын

Mia was more calculated. She knew sleeping with Harper would hurt more than sleeping with a random. And she knew that Harper wanted her and exploited that.

@chanellbryson3588 2 ай бұрын

Yes Lance was worse because Mia had to deal with false paternity claims, Harper mentioned that in the book. So not only did she have to deal with him cheating on left and right but the fact that some other women could've had his baby or babies. And I honestly don't think Mia was a virgin because Lance may have been a sex addict so she probably gave in just to keep him so he thought he was the only one and that was close enough to virgin in his eyes lol.

@sol1angel 2 ай бұрын

8:04 I don’t see Mia picking Harper specifically because he’s Lance’s friend. She picked him because Harper is HER friend. I don’t see her having interest in sleeping with just any man. She barely wanted to give Lance the time of day when they initially met. I see it less as an act of revenge and more so her way of wanting to be romantic with someone who she felt actually cared about her versus Lance who claimed he loved her yet couldn’t remain faithful. The real question is why didn’t miss ma’am just leave him lol? The money?

@evansevans7483 2 ай бұрын

Lance. He didn't deserve her virginity. The baby scares, groupies and the lying. Lastly, they were single both of them.

@PrinceScotticus 2 ай бұрын

I say they all wrong the power to walk away is surely missed today

@tdomonique504 2 ай бұрын

I agree

@KikiW89 2 ай бұрын

Dudes can Cheat Have a Baby on you But one time a Woman cheated it's She's for the Streets smh

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

I think this isn't the way most people feel though. Maybe the loudest people might say stuff like this, but there are plenty of people who move past infidelity regardless of whether it was the man or woman who cheated.

@keptbygrace6221 2 ай бұрын

@21. I don't think Lance thought she was a virgin at the time of the wedding, but he definitely thought he was her only partner. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@jaiessence 2 ай бұрын

This is basically asking which is more dangerous... A shoot out or a sniper... Because Mia is a sniper

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

So what's your answer? Using your analogy, a shootout situation would lend itself to innocent people being hurt... possibly. In a shootout, the target might not even get hit. However, with a sniper there's a precision strike on the target.

@jaiessence 2 ай бұрын

@@HeitCheri I'm good for analogies... Not answers...

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@jasper1949 2 ай бұрын

Interesting comparison

@ojar91 2 ай бұрын

precise shot is the most dangerous.

@DeniseNicole3 2 ай бұрын

I love this movie I really think Mia was not a virgin after Harper meaning so Harper was Mia’s “first” . I feel like that was a secret between Harper & Mia never told to anyone not even lance & she literally took that to her grave 😩

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

Yeah I kinda do think Harper might have been her first... Maybe. Oh so messy! 🤭😂🤭

@tdomonique504 2 ай бұрын

Oh my!!! I never thought about Harp being her first… oh that’s just so low

@jalynnsims6352 2 ай бұрын

10:50 i think the reason lance forgave mia and not harper is because lance knows that he did mia wrong, so I think he kinda saw it coming, because he did wrong, but with harper, i think it would’ve been different if harper went to lance as a man, and told him straight up “yo i slept with yo girl” lance would’ve been mad, but probably had a lot more grace, but not only did harper sleep with mia, he continued to smile in lance face, write a book about it, and then proceeded to still try to lie about it, harper gave nothing but snake vibes, while mia gave she was hurting and made a mistake!!

@drel.8686 2 ай бұрын

I see it has Mia had to make this hurt. Yes, she was wrong picking the best friend, but Lance would not have cared if it was just some random guy. Lance was a serial cheater and did not care who he smash. Now, they went to the same school so people know people, Lance probably smashed someone she knew and he tried to hide it or didn't care. Once Lance found out it reformed him.

@virgoanbeauty 2 ай бұрын

They were both wrong. Mia just played Lance’s game “more strategically” than he did, which truly bruised his ego (even so into the sequel). Mia was playing chess, being the devil’s advocate. Lance was playing checkers, in his arrogance thinking Mia wouldn’t or couldn’t find any better than him. In my personal, I wouldn’t even entertain someone like Lance. I DESPISE arrogance. It’s a character flaw. Neither is worse. They both are the same devious person. One is just looked at in a more “gracious” light.

@moniquebrown1884 2 ай бұрын

imo, Lance shouldn't have taken her back. Not because Harper's proximity overshadows the frequency of Lance's infidelity, but because they were toxic. Yes, who Mia was when she did it was not who she was when she married him but who she was at the time of the marriage was someone who kept that secret. I think they should've at least gone through counseling before marriage (but it's a movie so I get it) Lance was "more wrong" by opening the door to infidelity & showed no real remorse because despite her discovering it in college & him seeing how much it hurt her, he persisted. On top of that, he'd brag to his boys about how despite his cheating, she was never touched by another man. He fetishized her purity & reveled in the double standard he subjected her to. Lance choosing to maintain the relationship w Mia instead of Harper always made sense to me because of the betryal aspect. Lance cheating w randoms made it so that he was the only person hurting Mia because she didn't have any emotional ties to the other women. Lance was emotionally connected to Harper & other than Harper bringing them together & maybe being annoyed w Lance for dogging out his friend Mia, it doesn't seem Lance ever hurt Harper enough to try to justify the betrayal the way we can Mia's. Mia was tit for tat, Harper was baseless

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@HeitCheri Ай бұрын

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@Meadowsandmangoes 2 ай бұрын

Also I don't think Mia "chose harper" to take "revenge". I feel she had some feelings for harper. I don't think revenge was on the forefront of her mind. Its giving "I'm lonely. I'm sad and hurt, I want to feel good and I already know you and have a familiar feeling with you and right now you are the best comfort for me." It's not giving "I hate you ama jump on your friend!" so i wouldn't consider her evil.. more misguided lol; granted impact over intention.

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

It's interesting that Harper says in his book that Mia wanted revenge. I do wonder if this is just Harper's interpretation of how she felt... or maybe even his justification in his own mind about how he wasn't as wrong as he actually was.

@Nevaeh1 2 ай бұрын

It wasn’t revenge because she didn’t intend for him to find out. When you seek revenge, you want that person to know.

@anonspectre1796 2 ай бұрын

@@Nevaeh1that doesn't make any sense you can get revenge without telling somebody. If you go for somebody's best friend while you're hurt that's revenge

@sherrylatrice8733 2 ай бұрын

I don't think Harper was Mia's first. I think Mia and Lance slept together before she hooked up with Harper that one night. The reason I say this is because of the conversation the men had around the card table. Lance said, "I'm her first and her only." Then Q asked "So how do you know this?" Ya'll know what Lance said after that. Why would he say this if he's never slept with Mia?

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

Great point, but the question is when did they first sleep together? If Lance was in them streets and Mia was busy being a virgin... Then she gets pissed of because of his cheating, she could have let Harper smash and then finally let Lance get it. IJS 🤭

@caliBornbEauty 2 ай бұрын

Definitely #NotSleepingWithOtherPeople lolI think Lance is more wrong because of the countless number of women he could have slept with. She's walking around campus and it could be women in her classes, women in her dorm, women all around the town. They know Mia but Mia don't know them. They laugh behind her back and probably talked mess to her face about being with him.. Yes, she could have chosen anyone else but Harper was her best friend or at least really close. She probably vented to him all the time. I think the encounter was unexpected and unintended. I don't believe it was malicious. While Lance knew damn well what he was doing every time and would repent after because of the guilt he felt but never stopped doing it.

@Heal627 2 ай бұрын

I thought it was understood that Mia was not a virgin because Lance was her first. He was under the impression that he was not just the first but also only which is why he was so upset. He was living a double standard. He felt entitled to having this 'good woman' but should be allowed to still move like he was single. He expected her to be faithful

@dee-dee8718 2 ай бұрын

Not sleeping with other people I think Mia slept with Harper because she wanted to before she met lance. It was clear her and Harper had a connection already when they used to work together. Then lance came in that day and ended up charming her then eventually won her over. Lance would be able to charming her because of his status and the fact that he was already a ladies man

@terrancegallemore6864 2 ай бұрын

You can say all 3 where wrong even though Mia can try to justify what she did because lance cheated on her many times

@MrJebusboi 2 ай бұрын

I dont feel sorry for the person that knowingly stayed with a habitual cheater, redeeming themself later in life or not. The cheating with a best friend is intentionally more devious cuz it doesnt just happen. Like the one commenter said they all deserve the bed they made but you can not convince me a person knowingly staying with a cheater is self inflicting pain

@MIZZPIGGYBABY89 2 ай бұрын

The difference Nia knew who he was and accepted it Lance did not know who Nia truly was cuz Nia could have did it with anybody but she choose his best friend which let you know who vindicated she really is so naw he should have not married her for the fact it was his best friend

@BigDapPacino 2 ай бұрын

2 wrongs don't make it right...he was wrong for cheating on her repeatedly when she was loyal to him in college and she was dead wrong ( no pun intended because you know that Monica Calhoun's character Mia ultimately passed away in the Best Man sequel movie!) for cheating on Lance with Harper and Harper was a dirty MF for clapping her cheeks...apparently they were not real friends because a real friend would walk away ...no matter how fine the Female is and yes, it is a hard thing to do...( this Pun was intended) and my thang was hard too but that one of those things a real friend would never do!

@ragantate3995 2 ай бұрын

That’s a no brainer. First of all, don’t ever pose the question because you’re only deflecting from the concrete formula of motion: for every action, there is a reaction. His punk ass just thought he was never going to be found out and when she matched his sneaky bs is the only time it seemed to count who was wrong but when he was doing whatever he felt, it was just a man thing. Bullshit. Action, reaction, consequence. & you know Mia was way more vigilant and accepting of what was to come before she made a move. Her passing away was not her punishment but if anything, his because even when he was messing around behind her back he knew he couldn’t be without her.

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

😂 Aiight go off then... You said don't even pose the question 😂

@aaliyahclark823 2 ай бұрын

I think Mia found out through Lance that she slept with Harper because at some point Lance would've had to explain why they were no longer friends.

@elijahrussjr 2 ай бұрын

I still say to this day that Mia was wrong! Before anybody wants to sit there and call me all kinds of wrong myself let me explain this. We're living in a day and time where even back then we all knew what people like Lance were getting into at the time you had to be a fool not to understand that. When you get with the top echelon men such as: athletes, attorneys, bankers, businessman, entertainers, and politicians should know that they are not going to be fidelis from the jump! That is just part for the course and you start to see a lot of this in middle school when they get involved in school sports! You mean to tell me that Mia had been going to school from the age of 11 all the way through college and she didn't hear any stories from the cheerleaders and or other girls in school about how football, basketball, soccer and baseball athletes act behind closed doors?! With all that goes on between high school and college some women should be able to hear the back room talk that goes on. If you don't hear some of the stories beginning in Middle School you're either naive or incredibly sheltered! Knowing everything that she knew from the beginning of middle school all the way up into where Lance was in college she still decided to date him knowing what kind of person athletes are in general. She still decided to date one of them knowing that she can get a heart broken. She made her choice to dip into that water so she is the one to ultimately blame! None of this if she didn't decide to date a football player in the first place. The lesson to be learned here is know what pool you're about to dip in before you dive in.

@sheanpolk6224 2 ай бұрын

if i was in Lance's shoes, Id stay as well. I've built a life with Mia and her cheating once back in college wouldn't make me leave her while knowing I was a habitual cheater myself. Its an issue because of who it was but as for my friend, Harper, we cuttin ties. He was friendly with Mia before but became my best friend later. He was vocally against my philanderous ways but never stopped being friends with me during my relationship with someone he's known longer than me. Since they were that close then he should've said something to Mia but didn't. He was complicit with my cheating and turned around and slept with my girlfriend. Then years later he decided to put it in his book. So not only has he been holding on to this secret in my face between him and my fiancé but he didn't even give me a heads up when people in our friend group were catching on. Mia and I would work through our issues but i would end my friendship with Harper. Hot Take: Mia knew exactly what she was doing by getting her lick back with Harper. It was something that she wanted to keep between Harper and her. Harper was obviously hung up on the hookup as to why he put it in his book in any context. But all 3 of them were wrong and Lance just salvaged what he could because of his years in the streets doing dirt.

@marquishaile8 2 ай бұрын

I think they're equally as wrong. I'm sure there are people who say Lance is more wrong because he had sex with more women than he can count and there are people who think Mia is more wrong because she did it with the homie. Lance knew she was messin with someone. He didn't know who though

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

Would you think they were equally wrong if Mia was the serial cheater and Lance was innocent before finally deciding to cheat with her best friend?

@marquishaile8 2 ай бұрын

Messing with someone that your spouse is close friends with is like cheating 10x. So if Mia was giving away like that, then Lance would be well within his frame of mind to mess with her best friend.

@DTowns1Finest 2 ай бұрын

They were equally trash😂😂😂 Lance are 100 pencils that weigh 1lb each and mia is one bag that weighs 100lbs

@NolaFlower 2 ай бұрын

I think this poses an interesting question. But, as a Christian, I think that Lance married Mia because he knew that he had done her dirty and it was the ultimate redemption act. Because he severs hia relationship with Harper, I think that he justifies it by putting all the blame on Harper and telling himeself thay Harper took advantage of Mia. So Mia gets absolved and Harper is the scapegoat. This was a great video that gave me a lot to think about regarding one of my favorite movies. Not sleeping with other people.

@gialimes619 2 ай бұрын

Lance was in the wrong ! He started it .. I’m not saying what Mia did was right .. but she just “reacted “ .. she was hurt by what he did to her and wanted to be “Held” 🤷🏽‍♀️

@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537 2 ай бұрын

I know this may sound crazy because it's f***** up either way because they are friends. But I think it's best that is me a cheated that she was going to cheat with Harper of all people. Because she knows that Harper cares about both her and Lance and wouldn't run around with that information bringing extra embarrassment to any of them. All the while knowing that it's a chance that he may say something to Lance. But he won't be the type to run around running his mouth about it for clout or to try to get a one up on Lance and embarrass him.. Cuz a lot of other men would have definitely ran their mouth with that information and the worst way just to be able to say that they got a one up on Lance by f****** his girl

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

Hmmm.... Now that's an interesting angle that I hadn't considered. Mia may have chosen Harper because Lance would not have broadcast it. I think Mia was expecting to take that to the grave though... 😂😂😂😂

@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537 2 ай бұрын

@@HeitCheri 😂😂😂. I could believe she wanted to keep that Shihh locked tight too ! 😭🤣..

@ladyruler9585 2 ай бұрын

For Lance to be a former playboy, I think he showed great maturity to still go on with the wedding. It would have been easier to call the wedding off and revert back to his womanizing ways, rather than to realize the pain Mia made him feel was the pain he made her feel multiple times and different occasions.

@casonbrown6239 2 ай бұрын

Not Sleeping With Other People and I do think after y'all presented the evidence of the fan theory yes without the sequel and the series and could be that Harper embellished the night with Mya

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

Yeah, I really hate that that one didn't work out. It would have been really cool!

@Evenmewhy 22 күн бұрын

All of them are terrible friends. Especially the ones who read the book and knew exactly what was going on. Harper should’ve just got with Jordan. Quentin is a menace all around 😂

@theclassicgamer20 2 ай бұрын

I personally think she picked Harper due to him being her friend as well I’m sure she would have tried to get with Harper if she had never met Lance

@essieweekly9010 2 ай бұрын

Not Sleeping With other people ❤

@therealmarlonbellamy 2 ай бұрын

NOT SLEEPING WITH OTHER PEOPLE!!! 28:55

@DeniseNicole3 2 ай бұрын

Not sleeping with other people 😂😂😂

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@The_finestsocialworker 2 ай бұрын

Not sleeping with other people

@proceesdreamer 2 ай бұрын

The power is in the womans hands were ever how ever the direction flow of the relationships starts or ends with the woman mia was the good girl remember or so we all thought in the beginning she wasnt giving it up a virgin lance wasnt a good boy lance wasnt saving himself i believe mia new all that in the beginning just because hes now with you dosent mean he stops bed hopping he did eventually the mature thing the right thing would have been to leave him at first sign of cheating you want the cheating to stop leave! Lance would've stop the cheating then commmitted cuase the issue with lance was commitment and being faithful

@Meadowsandmangoes 2 ай бұрын

Man they both are wrong. I, its probably a personal thing, cannot over look the fact that Lance been cheating in college. When he found out it was tough for him, fine. But he can't forget that he was trash too. Nvm.. He was a dumpster fire. I can't say he should leave Mia cause she forgave all his fckery. I think they should have taken time to think about everything, so I feel they shouldn't have gotten married.

@proceesdreamer 2 ай бұрын

My thing is this i get with a man we fall in love he cheats i find out remains with him in a, relationship that man so now that man continues to cheat i still dont leave theres no break up with him he dosent break up with me now i becomes so fed up with my significant others infedelities i decides to cheats back and with whom the cheat back is with? his very own friend whom i know been having feelings for me been wanted to get with me honestly there both wrong but in the case of whose most wrong mia and there i said it you cheat back okay cool but your back is someone whom some would consider your future husband family member that close of a friend it was premeditated and thats not how adults mature adults who dont wont the drama neither wants do they want this mess to come back bite em the ahz it all comes out in the wash mia shouldve broke up left let that bad karma be on lance for being unfaithful especially when you know in the back of your mind you done right by that person.

@dexterngwu5278 2 ай бұрын

Are yall on instagram? I would’ve left just for the fact you slept with my best friend. That and myself and my friend’s friendship would’ve been terminated on the spot.

@quietstorm7684 2 ай бұрын

Not Sleeping with Other People Maybe it's just me, but I think Lance and Mia are "even Steven" in terms of infidelity.

@SarahSwift-sc7hk 2 ай бұрын

Dude what about Harper writing it all in the fu king book and blowing up everybody's lives! BUT OF COURSE LANCE IS THE GODAMN WORST.

@HeitCheri 2 ай бұрын

So the conversation is about who is worse between Mia and Lance, but go off then... 😆 Understanding the premise is key here 😂

@coreywalker5651 2 ай бұрын

NOT SLEEPING WITH OTHER PEOPLE

@tdomonique504 2 ай бұрын

Almost everyone in this cast worked my nerves except for Q…( he was straight forward, no bs) and that remained throughout all the other installments of the film. So they were equally as trash if you ask me.