Washing The Dead Baby: Leaning into Difficulty & Vagus Nerve (Leadership Lessons)

[@MrRoblivi]

Justin, your honesty and strength is incredible. Thank you for sharing.

[@jmk1962]

Maybe it's a maternal thing. I did this instictively when my 15 month old son passed away. We knew he was going to die so had time to accept it was going to happen and I was more prepared than when his sister had died the year before. She was our first child and was stillborn at full term and it was such a shock. Also I had a traumatic 17 hour labour and wasn't in any fit state to even think of bathing her, but when our son died I was more prepared and instinctively wanted to give him a bath, partly to keep him warm and partly to spend more time with him. I was definitely more prepared the second time. Sadly I lost my adopted daughter in May 2021 a week after her 20th birthday and I simply could not face doing it again as she was my third child to die and I was just devastated at losing her. Every circumstance is different and unexpected deaths are harder to bear than one where you know it is going to happen and you have time to prepare yourself for letting go. It is never easy when all you are left with is memories.

[@JustinCaffrey]

Thank you so much for sharing. I agree, it will vary and most people will never do it. There are still Buddhist traditions that preserve the ritual to this day. I am so sorry to hear that you had three children die. I am holding a thought for you as I read your message, and for your three children. You are incredible sharing this and I thank you so much. 🙏 If it is ok with you, I would love to know their names? Justin

[@jmk1962]

@@JustinCaffrey - Ciara and Alex were my birth children and Catherine was my daughter that we adopted after finding out that my husband was a carrier of a rare genetic condition which meant any children we made together would not survive. We only found out after 1O years of losing babies quite a few miscarriages before losing Ciara and then Alex.

[@JustinCaffrey]

@@jmk1962 incredible. You are amazing people and my prayers are with you, Ciara, Alex, and Catherine. ❤️🙏

[@nerdbamarich2063]

Blessings

[@JustinCaffrey]

Thank you. 🙏

[@spartianknight.]

Thanks

[@JustinCaffrey]

You are welcome 🙏