Watch out for the Wound Collector | JOE NAVARRO

Every time you read about another mass shooting or someone who returned to the workplace to harm his coworkers, ask yourself is it possible this is a “wound collector?" Take a deep dive with former FBI Agent Joe Navarro into the little understood phenomenon of the wound collector and why they are such a danger to society. Dangerous Personalities: amzn.to/2Ja42Tf
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Joe Navarro has been studying nonverbal behavior for the past 45 years. Twenty-five of these were spent in the FBI catching spies.​ Today Joe is an internationally recognized expert, consultant, author, and gifted lecturer, in the interpretation and application of nonverbal behavior. His book, What Every BODY is Saying, after more than a decade, remains the #1 bestselling body language book in the world with more than ONE MILLION copies sold.

[@_Sandra]

Thank you for a wonderful video! Growing up in former Yugoslavia, I witnessed many of these individuals emerge as leaders or criminals who appeared on TV regularly. Some probably became idols to younger generations. Last year, a 13-year-old killed 9 students and a security guard in Belgrade primary school. I wonder what we, as a society, can do to prevent these individuals from harming others.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Thank you for sharing, that it's a profound question you ask. I don't know what the solution is. All I know is that the earlier we identify these individuals easier to work with because when they reach a certain age, they seem to be even more rigid in their thinking and more, facile in their collection of wounds. Thank you.

[@Sashik]

It's so important to learn to forgive and move on

[@sylviaopriessnig2514]

move on yes, forgive no it is not important

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Thank you for your comment

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Thank you for your comment

[@user-kj1nf2ki6p]

Forgiving is releasing” its” hold on you so as you can move forward. ❤

[@servantofthelord8147]

“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” - Matthew 6:14-15 , It seems that God was onto something

[@HeWhoHath]

It’s important to differentiate between forgiving and moving on, and letting yourself become ignorant of the same circumstance occurring again. You can forgive, but you should not forget.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Good point

[@Carmen0777]

That was a deep topic that needs to be talk about, now we can pay attention to people who are experiencing that feelings Wound Collector. Thank you Joe for sharing this information. Take care.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Absolutely! Now with knowledge we can at least guid them to think differently or be aware when their thinking becomes pathological

[@truecrimereaction]

liked and subscribed!

[@simoneborgogno5370]

Hi Joe, discovering this information can change our way to see the world, thank you!

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Absolutely!

[@Pisiorek6]

A narcissistic trait too as they feel special? Thanks Joe.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Yes, indeed. Thank you.

[@grendelhvs]

I appreciate the knowledge you're sharing. I just finished John Douglas's "The Anatomy of Motive" and I'm connecting the wound collecting info, with the many individuals profiled by Douglas. James Huberty keeping records of "debts" comes to mind.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Yes, so many of these individuals were wound collectors. In fact, anytime I think of a mass shooting it seems like these individuals have always been wound collectors even as teenagers. They seem to not know how to deal with the fact that life isn't fair. Since you enjoy reading these kinds of books, you may enjoy reading Robert Hare's book without conscience.

[@grendelhvs]

@@joenavarrobehaviorexpertThank you, I'll add it to the list. I am seeking the knowledge for my own protection and well being, I suppose many of us have encountered these types. "Dangerous Personalities" and "what every body is saying" are on their way to me. ✌

[@profhscomchannel7230]

Wow, Joe. This was very deep. I truly appreciate your empathic connection while discussing such a difficult topic. I am significantly interested in your observation/opinion when this behavior (seemingly) occurs in those who are neurodivergent, with limited emotional schemas and mind-blindness. One of the most difficult explanations is deciphering the impact associated with neurological changes that could be traced to childhood trauma/abandonment wounds and how to navigate these anomalies in a relationship. I appreciate your consideration.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

This is a significant issue as you so well explain unfortunately it is well beyond my expertise, study, experience, or learning. I think that is one for a clinician who is very familiar with neurodivergent research. Sorry but great question

[@maycadelyster6829]

MARAVILLOSA explicación. Desconocía este término. Pero he conocido gente cerca de mi que son así. Mil gracias

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Muchisimas gracias!

[@julieridenhour545]

Thank you for sharing. I wonder if we see this in children how we can help change the pathway in the brain? How can we help children not to hold on things and let over take all the good.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

It takes effort but having them realize that people make mistakes that they are mostly not mad-intentioned that humans have to be perceived both for the good things they do and whatever faux pas they make

[@benturner4998]

Thank you sir!

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

You are welcome!

[@Alfsdatter]

Very interesting. As always very thankful for all the knowledge you have and share. I have an exam in psychology this Monday and this relates to many of the topics from the curriculum. I think it's interesting how some people face immense adversity and become wound collectors, while others use their experience to make a difference in the world.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Good luck with your examinations. Yes, it is amazing. Some people will wallow in their grievances and yet they achieve little and yet I have known people who have undergone so much trauma and suffering, and they have achieved much by focusing on others rather than on themselves. Every time I feel a little unhappy, I go and I do something for someone else and it always makes my day so much better. Thank you.

[@Alfsdatter]

@@joenavarrobehaviorexpert Thanks a lot!

[@2951hawkeye]

My gosh I been trying to watch out for that but every dang place where I go here comes someone telling me a bunch of stuff I didn't want to know or need to know. And it's worse now that I moved and don't have a washer and dryer at home and have to go to the laundry mat... Everyone's talking to me telling me what ever they can like let's air out the dirty laundry in more ways than one ... I don't have to say anything they just start talking to me. I tried wearing essential oils to maybe keep them from doing so that didn't help. Head phones are my best defense but they still talk to me.. 😅 I'm not collecting I'm trying to forget but my brain remembers so much in detail it's like I just want to wash my cloths and go home so I switch the days up going so I'm not being followed had one of them do that once. I didn't even know the people and they just walk right up like I have some kind of sign on my face that said hey I'm the person you need to tell all your problems to and dump them at. Glad i don't know them and glad I'm not trying to remember their stories if I was a writer I could write a novel. But I'm just a used to be house wife and now a blue colored worker that operates machines. I started listening to Joe so I could see trouble coming and try to be safer as a single woman. 😅

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Stay wise stay safe

[@2951hawkeye]

@@joenavarrobehaviorexpert thank you, trying my best.

[@DebraKeith-tx5vm]

Thanks for this. Any known comorbidity with Borderline Personality D/O?

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

In my experience, I see wound collecting with the narcissistic personality, the borderline personality, the histrionic personality, and certainly with the paranoid personality

[@HrishikeshBhardwaj-hk5xw]

Wow. This information is invaluable. Thank you, Joe! This helps us make so much sense of the atrocities happening around us.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Thank you. It really does. If you look at the terms we use for these individuals such as oh he had an asked to grind or this was building up or everybody saw it coming because he was always complaining or he never got his way then you realize you really are dealing with a wound collector.

[@HrishikeshBhardwaj-hk5xw]

@@joenavarrobehaviorexpert Precisely! Your content never ceases to add value. May God bless you with great health and well being.

[@johnathanwick2039]

Hi Joe, thankyou so so much for this lesson. I had a question, again out of syllabus, so i am very happy to say i have slowly reached that state of awareness where i can see the small behaviours like hand movements tilts or lip pulling, just with my peripheral vision without even directly looking. But i have a weird problem where when i am doing these things i start to notice how am i able to see these, i start to observe my own thoughts in the brain and that collapses the whole auto read thing and i go back to force myself to observe. It is actually just like automatic or manual breathing. Brain is so complex i sometime think if it is in auto mode all the time, how easier the multitasking would be, we can actually do alot with our brain.

[@benmahdjoubharoun1467]

Do you mean you are hypervigilent?

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Good question

[@drewcollins4533]

Hey Joe. You used to have a recommended booklist on good reads. I haven't found it on there and I don't see one anywhere else. Do you have one made up or is that something you would consider? Thank you

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

Hi there, yes I do have it, it is housed on my website here where you can sign up to get it by email: www.jnforensics.com/bibliography-request

[@drewcollins4533]

@joenavarrobehaviorexpert thank you Joe. Have a good day.

[@Theycallmesaqix]

Joe Sir bascially I'm dealing with a narcissist wound collector and I have no idea how to get rid of him can you help me?

[@benmahdjoubharoun1467]

Just go no contact and plan to leave in silence.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

That is an easy answer for me, no I don't know how you get rid of a wound collector that is beyond my area of study, expertise, or experience. What I do know is that only when we get away from those that are toxic will our lives be better. I wish I could help you, but I am not a clinician.

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

That actually might work

[@Theycallmesaqix]

@@joenavarrobehaviorexpert Thankyou sir

[@tammigissell6202]

Check out Dr. Ramani she works a lot with narcissism and methods of dealing with that personality type xx

[@graciegee6317]

Both Prince Harry & Meghan Markle are Wound Collectors. I'd be interested to understand what happens when two Wound Collectors get together. Do they amplify each other's feelings of victimhood & outrage at the smallest thing? Do they further reinforce, justify & condone the other's feelings, so that they feel it's normal to feel that way about things? Do they take on each other's 'wounds'?

[@joenavarrobehaviorexpert]

I would not know that I haven't really listened to them. I think that's for others to decide, depending on how often they look for the smallest detail, however, every event is nuanced to seem like it's a personal attack. And somebody else would have to accumulate that information to see if it fits. In fact, I know some people who will through their own presence at work at home make others become wound collectors if only to have harmony either at home or in the workplace. But again, I don't know much about the prince or the spouse.