Watch Out for these Red Flags in Your Relationships 🚩

[@limepiper3650]

How he or she TREATS OTHER people is a very important and telling. How they treat people is the way they are going to treat you, pay attention.

[@flowbynature]

1. Does this person abuse you physically, verbally, or emotionally? 2. Do you feel like you are being used as an object of their pleasure? 3. Are you afraid of bringing up tough issues? 4. Do you feel like you are walking in egg shells? 5. Are you afraid to show your weaknesses? 6. Do you feel anxiety when you think of marrying them? 7. Are you confused about the relationship? 8. Are you free to be your true self? 9. Is your relationship healing? Some of the questions I caught

[@mictho5302]

Im so grateful and im 100% honest: the lovely lady im in love with a d l have NONE of these.. in fact, Ive always referred to her as "having been put in my life By Mary, as answer to my prayers". Thank you, Mother.. Im madly in love and eternally grateful you brought Veronica, my way. Our relationship is completely consecrated to you. Please bless us immensely, one day at a time, with you forever at the head of relationship. We receive your blessings, and answer to this prayer, in your name, and in Your Sons name, Amen. 🙏❤️

[@rosegold799]

Sometimes I feel like that around my spouse

[@joannhacker9120]

Wow, this is an eye opener.

[@tradslnd9872]

Thank you

[@christinebutler7630]

For those in a dating relationship, I'm going to add a few: if your child turned out just like this person, would you be proud and happy? If your kid, or your younger siblings, was dating someone just like this person , would you be worried or concerned ? Is this person irresponsible or impulsive or selfish where money is concerned? How's the relationship with their family? Remember you are marrying into this family. These would be your kids grandparents. Do they quit jobs impulsively, or just because they don't like rules, standards or expectations ? Does the person have a mean temper? Can they not have a good time unless they're drinking, or staying buzzed? Do they need you to be joined at the hip at all times? Do they deliberately try to mess up your friendships, your work, or your family relationships, to get you all to themselves? Are they mean, or just irresponsible, with pets? I broke up with someone for hitting a 5 week old puppy because it cried for its mom and littermates. If he'd do it to a puppy he'd do it to a crying baby, too. I took the puppy and ran.

[@d.o.6014]

see, i never thought anything about the question if my daughter was dating same person like that (because i dont have kids and its hard to relate) but the one with- if my sister was - that got me.

[@melissarodriguez8306]

Wow, these are great!! Thank you so much for these!

[@karinabarros4183]

Well the one with family I don’t even count. My family isn’t the best and even I myself wouldn’t want my kids being super close with them. But that doesn’t reflect who i am or what kind of mom would I be

[@crohunter100]

I’m not a fan of pets but I would never kill or injure an innocent animal If I’m trying to convince my future wife to be stay at home, that shouldn’t be seen as manipulative or taking away her freedom, I’m just trying to do what’s best for raising children and the marriage

[@lillipup_tamer1148]

@@crohunter100 What is best for a future wife and kids is that she has the freedom to be the person God calls her to be. Your first priority is to getting each other to heaven and then to getting your children to heaven. That path looks different for every family, and God works in so many ways. Your wife should be given the option to stay home with children. I wish all women had this choice because for so many it is the best choice. But you have to discern that TOGETHER with open minds. I say this as someone who packed up my office today in preparation for my child to be born any day now and never plans to head back to work. Staying at home is right for me now, hopefully always, but my husband and I aren’t the plan makers. God is.

[@lauriceday5976]

Jackie, pls do this as a mini series. One episode per red flag, with examples, perspectives and solutions/ options framed in the Catholic context. Thnx

[@angelacastellarin]

I wish I would have seen some of these videos before I ended up in an awful, toxic marriage. Now I am divorced, have gone through an annulment and am still healing. All the red flags Mrs Angel spoke about were in my relationship and I can see how scared I was to get out and settled. I cannot go backwards, and moving forward slowly is what I need to do now in order to heal. I have found this beneficial with friendships too. Some just have to end.

[@d.o.6014]

bless you🤗❤‍🩹

[@mattr.1887]

Even when a marriage starts out with all the right boxes checked, a divorce can still happen. People change, become lazy, ungrateful, etc. We are all fallen creatures. Sorry you went through that. Hope you are doing better. 🙏

[@d.o.6014]

@@mattr.1887 you have name off my ex i broke up with and my birth year 😩

[@boss56679]

We all have been stained/hurt spiritually. All we can do is hope in the Lord by putting one foot in front of the other, but not reaching too far as to take steps back. Simply trust in Christ. God bless.

[@aleahhxo]

amazing to hear that you have been healing & that God blessed you with these videos & helped you gain clarity! happy for you girl! stay close to God, lean on Him. pray without ceasing. God bless you!!

[@seans.131]

“He came that we might have life and life in abundance...they point you to the Savior.” God bless, Jackie! ✝😄

[@DF-fo9bh]

Nobody ever thinks they’re the toxic one. You have to grow together by Gods principles.

[@BitsyBee]

Haha, I was just going to ask, What if we are the toxic one? 😅

[@mattr.1887]

This is true. Even if your spouse really is the baddie, there is always room for improving yourself. Balance is the key.

[@strawberrysmile2212]

This is a sign by God ❤️ I read the article "the devil wants you to settle" in November 2021. One year went by and there was no day I wasn't thinking if or better how and when I should broke up with my boyfriend of nearly 4 years (!!!) I feel soo so terrible. Once I already collected all my strength and said to him that I think we don't fit well together-actually I wanted to break up, but he was so said, told me he will change etc. He did. He is a good Guy. Sometimes I think I am not dateable. I feel so miserable by waisting soo much time - not only mine but also his, but it just feels impossible to me to tell him: I am ending our relationship. Please pray for me ❤️🙏 Thank you for all the support Jackie!

[@uikmnhj4me]

Praying for you both!

[@almamagallanes9920]

If you are not praying the rosary 📿, pray it as it helped me get out of a toxic relationship before we got married. Hardest thing I had to do but the Blessed Mother helped me through it and gave me the courage to end the relationship.

[@giarose6493]

I’ve been married 21 years God is good 👍

[@thatcatholiclawyer]

I know God put this video for me, I think I put myself in a lot of spots that I should’ve avoid in the past and currently I wanna change it. I feel I’ll make the same mistakes again tho. All in all is in God’s hands

[@100Denario]

I’m praying that you don’t make the same choices again and that yes, all is in Gods hands….including the choices we make and both their subsequent and antecedent consequent attachments to his (The Lord’s) Will. God Bless You

[@thatcatholiclawyer]

@3poundsaflax thank you for your words! God bless!

[@austin7251]

God bless you for speaking his name and keeping him in the conversation. So many influential people don’t do this.

[@enriqueklein5458]

Please do a follow up for what to do if these flags are present in marriage

[@cperisho1]

Yes. Something like, "I married despite the red flags. Now what do I do?" Priests are seldom equipped to discuss this, I fear. They either hit the separation button or tell you to suffer through it.

[@mistyviolet3825]

This is much needed information for our youth…… I am sending. This to my 24 year old daughter 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊️

[@nathanngumi8467]

Indeed. Time should not be wasted because it is a gift from God and we will have to give an account to Him on how we used the time He gave us.

[@Alexislim777]

My husband is a red flag. But now I just think I am sharing in the suffering of Christ and always praying to God for him. So, for all singles out there... only marry when you Love God above all first and that he or she loves God above all first as well. The one with a strong Christian faith. Pray for it. God knows everything.

[@kerrygornick7141]

My husband is a red flag as well. I have been married for 27 years and have 4 children. Ages 23 to 36. I found out about his secret life 5 years ago. I have no way to financially support myself or my future. I too, choose to carry my cross and offer all my sufferings up to our Lord. Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone. 😔✝️🕊️🛐

[@lavenderlatte96]

Jackie, you are always so helpful. Thank you so much for clarifying the fact that God wants us to be fulfilled! As someone who has settled in many relationships, I am starting to learn that that was a LIE!!!! Thank you for reaffirming these healthy tips for discernment ❤️‍🔥

[@davidcole333]

#1 I have experienced. Unfortunately it took 5 years of my youth to figure it out.

[@churro_gonzalez]

I was in a toxic relationship. It took me awhile to realize that I was in it because I was in denial and “in love” with my ex. Your relationship shouldn’t not be one way or the highway nor should a person depend on your for their happiness. It is just not fair for both parties. I wish this video was upload 5 years ago but hey! You live and you learn.

[@azucena.valentine]

Wow I love this lady! She's so classy and blessed with wit and charm. I love her advice. You are awesome girl! I also can't believe I needed to hear this and it was posted just 8 hours ago. Wow. Thank you so much! Love and Peace, Azucena

[@jinarose5374]

I was always believed and taught to help people, little did I know, giving everyone hope and benefit of the doubt, believing in everyone's goodness, lead me to multiple deaths. Being used and taken advantage of. Mental and emotional abuse.

[@Renee_N]

How I wish I had a friend during the beginning of a bad for me relationship. Years of sadness.i am hopeful for a greater good in the end despite everything.

[@sandralucia9146]

The focus has always been on singles and that's beautiful but why the silence on those who are married and confused, not knowing how to deal with emotional abuse, neglect and always told "Accept your partner/spouse and surrender all to God"....children grow within this framework....I would want Ascension present priests/ speakers to address these not just the commentators...

[@maritzacalle5907]

These videos always come to me at the right time. Thank you

[@marialoretoo]

Wow, this is so helpful 🙏🏻 God bless you all!

[@julietrue3428]

A video like this on setting boundaries with parents, people you live with and/or family members please. Toxic experiences come from the home too

[@mrjeffjob]

Here’s a much more objective list. 1: are they a believing PRACTICING Catholic? 2: what’s your credit score? Indicates if you are honest and financially stable. Has nothing to do with gold digging. 3: any addiction issues past or present. Even if in recovery it’s too big a risk for future children. 4: is this person going to be a good parent for children? The problem in our society is we see mates as romantic me centered relationships. What you are doing is interviewing for the position of coparent of your future kids. 5: Abusive in ANY way. 6: do they have any family members dependent on and or living with them? They aren’t free to start a family as they already have one. 7: are they emotionally joined at the hip with a parent? Every one of these are deal breakers full stop. No need to qualify these questions or squish around. If you don’t like your own company and aren’t comfortable with solitude you are a prime candidate for a miserable relationship because you’re needy and will settle. I can’t count the times I’ve heard someone say “I just don’t like to be alone.” See previous comment. If you don’t like you why would anyone else?

[@Nehara_Seraphine]

Thank you. I needed this reminder. My ex is a walking red flag! Now that we're currently 2,000 miles apart, he says all the right things (when he's most likely drunk). Unfortunately, I've grown apart from most of my friends now that I'm 39 and he is one of the only people I talk to regularly, especially about spiritual things. Most other people I know don't have the depth of knowledge and understanding like he does. He was a former ordained minister and still studies relentlessly. Other friends I talk to usually don't really understand what I'm talking about. I'm a caregiver for my mother and a caregiver for my job, so I don't have much time for meeting new people (plus, people in general kind of terrify me these days lol) ... I feel like I missed the boat on spousal/family life, if I ever was supposed to have that. I just have to trust God's plan for me.

[@mjbx33]

It is never too late Nicole. I'll pray for you. May the Lord put good persons on your path and give you new great and healthy relationships.

[@estherchan7022]

Please DO NOT settle for 2nd Best - allow the Holy Spirit to guide you in discerning this relationship. Be willing to wait as God leads. I wish I could turn back the clock rather than regret now my marriage to a toxic narcissistic Catholic Christian man. God bless you as you seek His direction for your life, my sister in Christ.

[@Nehara_Seraphine]

@@estherchan7022 Thank you so much, Esther. I'm sorry that you have regrets about your marriage. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless you!

[@Nehara_Seraphine]

@@mjbx33 Thank you and I'll pray for you as well! Much love to you.

[@mjbx33]

@@Nehara_Seraphine thank you so much! Let's pray for each other 🙏

[@ShooterPat]

Honestly, ive been out of the dating world for years just because i felt unworthy to be in a relationship. I finally feel like at a point where im proud of myself and want to share what i have with someone else. But the major thing i want before any kind of a serious relationship is a friendship that has lasted a while. I feel like that will be a good litmus test before i dive into something.

[@msgoody2shoes959]

We Christians need to work together to heal broken souls... this is why I stay....Catholic I just wish I wasn't alone. The RCC IS SUPER BROKEN.

[@msgoody2shoes959]

From pedophiles, to drug addiction, to reputation sabotage to snobbery.... so gross... and way worse, not even mentioned. The cover ups and the group think.... would blow your mind- think mafia. The church is sooooo toxic... this is why it's dying, and it's only alive bc of addiction, which is idolatry.

[@BronxCat]

Totally 😞💔🙏

[@dropocean]

"Are you afraid to show your weaknesses?" This is the one for me. I'm considering starting a new relationship, but he hurt me about a thing related to my anxiety and lost part of my trust. I felt like I can't show my weekness to him. He sincerely apologized afterwards, but I'm not sure he got the point. I don't know if it's worth trying to clarify things and see if we can communicate about this, or give up just before the start...

[@thomascunningham7164]

Definitely pray about it. Bringing the issue to the Lord is a great place to start. I'll be praying for you!

[@d.o.6014]

how about trying only friendship and nothing more until you see if he gained your trust back? but not to stick with him only, but have other friendships too. and if he will be your good friend, he will prove to be good for more too

[@user-ks3qr5fk6m]

Anxiety is tricky. As someone who has really bad anxiety, sometimes it helps when my husband and family don’t take it too seriously. If they did, I’d probably wallow in it. My husband usually tries to find what triggers it so that I can acknowledge it but not let it take over my life. Anxiety has made me feel like I’m dying/fainting, caused trembling, blurry vision, trouble breathing/swallowing and fear of being “too far” from my house etc. It can be very bad but letting it paralyze my life would be worst. It’s real but it is also caused by situations, or in some cases, seemingly possible” situations. Validation is acknowledging what I feel. Do you need someone to validate you and help you see that you are really okay? Or do you want someone to validate you and support you in staying afraid? Anxiety can be caused by legitimate fears or imaginary fears. Only you know your situation.

[@d.o.6014]

Jackie, just about the time! literally! It is funny as you have made the video like this before but now, today I really needed it so I don't go back to my ex. Thanks God and you Jackie!❤

[@LouisaSimone]

You can do it, D.O. stay strong! A book that I found helpful on this topic is “How to find your soulmate without losing your soul” by Jason Evert

[@d.o.6014]

@@LouisaSimone have read that some time ago. I did like it. Thanks!:)

[@JohnR.T.B.]

It's true that we have to protect ourselves from abuses, physical as well as psychological, and sinful lifestyle. But I also think that, as we are believers in Christ, there's no such thing as wasted love, that is what I've done in loving or caring another is a waste of time or effort because he / she turns out to be such or such. No, what we do in love we do in God and for God. "For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you salute only your brethren, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same?" (Matthew 5:46-47) "Servants, be submissive to your masters with all respect, not only to the kind and gentle but also to the overbearing. For one is approved if, mindful of God, he endures pain while suffering unjustly. For what credit is it, if when you do wrong and are beaten for it you take it patiently? But if when you do right and suffer for it you take it patiently, you have God’s approval. For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps." (1 Peter 2:18-21)

[@tormor2229]

This video helped me let someone go. Thank you. God bless 🙏🏼

[@Low.Key.Music01]

I'm going to play it safe and stay single.

[@almamagallanes9920]

I just admire her, I aspire to have her bravery in putting things out there for God and that are essentially true! I was in a toxic relationship for 6 years yet it did not start off that way. I kept falling more into sin with this man (having pre martial sex, living together …) I was giving this man husband rights he did not have a right to. The worst part was he started to change to become abusive verbally, and emotionally. Wounds that can not be seen but bleed nonetheless. I think back and I was such a different person because I was actually so blind I would justify even defend his cussing, yelling and flirting with other girls … to others and worst to myself. Things escalated, we almost got married by the church. Bottom line there were SO MANY RED FLAGS 🚩, I chose not to see many of them when they appeared. I prayed the rosary 📿 when I was getting desperate to get out but couldn’t leave. Through the Blessed Mother’s intercession and going back to mass, confession - I got the courage to leave and break up. Months later loneliness, depression got me and I almost thought of getting back with this guy. The embarrassment of being alone or being made to feel like a failure by some family members. For all those that are in a toxic relationship get the courage from the Blessed Mother, the rosary 📿, go to confession, find a priest to help you and go back to mass. - You will find the courage to end the relationship and stay away. You deserve better, God wants the best for you, especially when it involves your future spouse ❤

[@randystrong6713]

It was with every fiber of my body and soul to finish this video. The stark-truth, said in a compassionate way, from Christian woman was uplifting to me. No, I am not crazy. First, I must say that I’m not perfect and it takes to make a marriage. I was wondering if the Spirit was talking directly to me thru Ms Jackie. Maybe it was my Guardian Angle who got with his buds and pushed me to this video. Anyway, my wife and I have great times together, mixed occasionally with every (I mean every) Red Flag point in the video at some level over the past 10 years. I’ve been married for over 55 years - to the same Christian women. She helped to literally save the souls and lives of me and our children, in so many ways that I cannot list. I once told her that if she is so agitated with me, that she should get one of my pistols and do it right, so I could be in Heaven with the Lord for Eternity. I followed with, “Oh, I forgot, I locked all the guns and bullets in the weapons safe. Sorry my Dear, my bad.” I also told her if she missed, I bet I could get her in a home for the criminally insane for life, and chained to the bed rails. And, I’d visit often. Sounds nuts, but I do really care for her well being, and she knows it and admits it. She just lets her temper, her mouth, and drama get way ahead of the non-emotional, the reasoning, and the sane part of her brain. During the video, you used😢 the words of “get out of” that relationship. You forgot one though that applies to me, and that I keep leaning on daily in prayer. I married and spent a wonderful life with this woman and our family. I took my wedding vows in a church with my hand on the Bible to “be with my wife thru good and bad times.” I feel that most people do not use this gift of Devine-Courage that Jesus gave them to make this a reality. This is at the core regarding our broken nation’s people. The Evil-One lost me when my wife led me to know the Lord. I am forever (eternally) in love with her. I know that Satan was furious at everyone in his realm for letting me get away. I’ve been at battle with him since then, winning one step at a time, and knowing I will win the war when I’m with my wife and the Lord for Eternity.

[@ivebeenthere2115]

Thank you and MORE talks from you 🎉

[@cristif92]

4:26 - Do you go back and forth about whether or not this is "the one" ? -> yeah. always :)) how to find the answer about knowing which is "the one" ? Or where should I look ? Already ordered "the dating project", but I have 1 month left to await it.

[@gregoryfritz7413]

I wish I would have paid attention to the red flags before getting married and am now working on getting a divorce.

[@trauma2happiness]

I saw it as a red flag for my friend when she told me the guy she was dating called her "Miss Conservative" when she wouldn't sleep with him.

[@chriswalls5831]

My red flags are being late, one sided, going backwards, not making love everyday name few

[@cadetcheezwizard]

not making love everyday? good luck to you. no woman has the ability mentally, emotionally and/or physically to make love everyday.

[@vivicmp6018]

Thank you Jackie 🥰🙏🏻

[@nilshubinette4932]

Always with Fr. Mike are present tears - tears of joy and tears of sadness, albeit not always visible. Am amazing man! God bless!

[@waffensachverstandcom5505]

Great video and compact analysis

[@Yore297]

She’s at it again

[@cityman2312]

Everyone, do you consider these to be red flags on the part of my ex? (1) she was a divorcee (2) a big problem in her marriage was mismatched libidos. She had the stronger libido!

[@lauradahlus]

Thank you! God bless! 💞

[@marianalanz5650]

I wish I could have seen your video before my last marriage. However, idefinitely it can help me with some current "friendships'.

[@jenniferwinston7842]

Yes, I'm getting a divorce. I felt a little doubt in the beginning. I should have said no, then. I'm praying for them... but I'm out. May God help me. I've been used, manipulated, and financially drained. I have to now reinvent myself even though I retired. It's a nightmare, but staying is soul sucking.

[@NT-ih7ex]

I am watching this because I feel the need to break up my friendships with three different toxic individuals. Unfortunately, all have been in my life for at least 5 years and one for 30 years. Out of Christian love, I force myself to stay friends with them until two of them try to change the core of my being in some passive aggressive way. The other one happens to be always a taker and extremely a giver in my friendship with her.

[@giarose6493]

I’ve been with sane guy since I was 16 lol 😂 it’s called loyalty and keeping your word

[@BitsyBee]

There's such a thing as "loyal to a fault." If you're together that long since that young it's because you're having sex. I hope you're married or have a ring and a date.

[@dawnlapka3782]

I think that maybe we should think about expanding both Matt Talbot Kitchen and Outreach and I also think we should consider calling the Bishop Dudley Hospitality House Blessed Fulton Sheen House.

[@LucasDanielSantoro]

Hi, Jackie. Your list is enlightening. Can you make a video on how to set boundaries? I have a friend that wants me to be his best friend, like the brother he never had. I don't want that. I just want him to be like any other friend. How can I have a conversation with him for setting boundaries in a loving --just like Jesus would do-- way?

[@allita.a]

There is a video by the same channel (not with Jackie) which I think might help your situation. It's called 'Setting boundaries for yourself and others' .

[@LucasDanielSantoro]

@@allita.a Oh, thank you for caring! I've talked with my friend yesterday, the best I could. I've said something like "You need other friends. It is too much pressure you're putting on me". I just watched the video because of your recommendation and I've found great advice, specially that word for word script for sarcastic people (and any other behavior I'd like to put up a boundary from). What I feel is that my friend is of the resentful kind. If I say to him something like "Don't say I'm like your brother and if you do I would point out that I don't feel that way", he would (not only be hurt, but) create drama for me, mainly by playing the "It is so difficult to make friends for me" cassette. Also, with the sarcasm example, I thought of my mom. I don't see myself setting a boundary to my mom and enforcing anything. Everything I ask her to not do anymore she doubles down on and mocks me for being overly sensitive.

[@PaoloBalioVEVO]

I am the red flag. Sorry Lord. Thank you for this video.

[@meganbrennan454]

A critical question, would your partner let you/encourage raising children in your faith?

[@MegaBpop]

I wish she could have a much shorter version. Kinda written down like how AA ha their steps written down. They are shorter and to the point. Then I would ask every child of mine to go over them together as they mature. Especially before they start middle school, high school, college and after that. Good luck to all rising children and to me too.

[@ciaranclancy3296]

There are people in some relationships and I have to say "God 🙏 made them , but the devil 😈 surly matched them", because some those people are as bad as each other 😗 🇮🇪 ☘️

[@Joe-qs2bq]

Is there a link to these questions in the video to copy for oneself? Ty ♥️

[@dsc4178]

Truth.

[@kavitadeva]

Hi Jackie,I think it would have been more helpful to not just put up the red flag but to unpeal it a little and explain what it means. That's just some feedback because you were rolling through them and I was wishing that you would stop and kind of unpeal the layers of that red flag. Thanks a lot.

[@samsung8974]

Thank you

[@den.utarbaev]

Thank you so much

[@den.utarbaev]

God bless

[@charlisdad4460]

What happens if these red flags are present during marriage?

[@msgoody2shoes959]

Separate.

[@christinebutler7630]

You're screwed. The Vow is for better or worse, and you got the worse. Pray for death to part you sooner rather than later.

[@whoputyouontheplanet3345]

I'm afraid the person who commented first might be right. I hate to jump right to separation as a solution, but if this is someone, who, I'm presuming painted themselves as a completely different person before the wedding, then it may be time to at least consider separation as an option. Do you have a support system? A good priest to discuss this with? I'm sure they can give you a lot of spiritual, and practical advice🙏

[@apracity7672]

@@msgoody2shoes959 terrible advice, not biblical either

[@emrooker]

I’d be curious what the suggestions are to a marriage where you find you can’t be your total self, that you have to self censor to keep the peace, because up until 2020 you didn’t realize which political Party your values matched and it turned out not to be the same as your spouse’s. Or is that just a matter of prudence to self censor and plenty of good marriages have topics neither want to discuss because of differences? I know I started paying attention to politics in 2020. But if the “what God joined let no one put asunder” is true, how does one tackle such a big issue as political differences? Or are some marriages not joined by God?

[@metildajoseph5265]

Greetings Mrs.Angel, Thoughts : - With mentioned "Red Flags" in Romance/ Pre-engagement Concern, I have been able to Let Go of their Thoughts in every aspects. - Thanks for the Good and Valuable Insights.. - Glory be to Lord Jesus Christ.. With regards with Prayers for Everyone, RanjithJoseph (R.J)

[@christiandpaul2022]

There are a LOT of red flags. One big one is he's married.

[@Ezekiel336-16]

Jackie, this is sound advice, but you are leaving out the required component of doing what we can to address the red flags with them, and them with us, rather than just packing up and moving on. That very important component is the living difference between us as serious disciples with Christ, who aren't part of the "cancel culture" that makes little to no effort to pursue the truth and reconcile with it in their relationships with others. So, if you're willing and able, please do a follow-up on this with that important component of forgiveness and reconciliation included. In Christ, Andrew

[@BitsyBee]

I think what you're saying is important to save a failing marriage, but for people dating, isn't the point to not waste time, and not risk getting bonded to people you cannot change? The only person we might change with God's help is ourselves, so maybe her list is best used for self examination?

[@Ezekiel336-16]

​​@@BitsyBee As Christians, we are supposed to be people of change and the way we react or respond to meaningful correction that aligns with the Lord says a lot about who we are or aren't (yet?) with the Lord. Giving up on people due to unconfronted red flags is not what the Lord calls us to do as His children and disciples. Doing otherwise before marriage could very easily allow us and others to miss out on the person He has planned for us. How great is it when you can get someone to repent and reconcile without a huge fight, or have someone get you to do the same. What we need to consider is that we and others have the red flags that we do (or don't), because no one ever cared enough and had enough courage with the Lord to care and confront us (or they did, so we no longer do). Sin survives in us and others because we too often allow it, dismiss it, or don't address it at all. However, if we do the opposite of the latter diligently and honorably for the Lord and the other, and nothing seems to take place in a reasonable time frame, than distancing or removing ourselves is wise. However, if we just quit and don't do that, that doesn't say much for the strength of our love with the Lord and for the other. It just makes us quitters and runners, which is a great way to be alone and/or have no real friends with the Lord! In Christ, Andrew

[@johns1834]

If you argue with your gf or wife, before responding, ask yourself 2 questions. Do you want to be right? OR Do you want to be happy? I haven't been right in 5 years, but I am a Happy Happy Man. 😁

[@claytonhess5512]

Reminds me of that bad joke: you met Mrs Right, but you later find out her first name is Always. In all seriousness, that looks like a trick question. It's always possible for both sides to be wrong. Never let an argument become a peeing contest. (Sorry for the language, it's all I got.)

[@johns1834]

@@claytonhess5512 It was a joke. My wife is an absolutely wonderful person. She was raised Catholic, but left and I was raised in the episcopal church (which is a mess). Once I figured that out, my wife led me to the Catholic Church and I sort of dragged her back to the Catholic Church. God does have a sense of humor. Thanks Be to God.

[@Kitiwake]

Why not adjust to match the red flag and draw boundaries? What's this "get out"? Don't be too quick to drop (yourself).

[@javierdelgado2089]

Love the video what happens when the relationship is already a marriage

[@christinebutler7630]

You're well and truly screwed.

[@d.o.6014]

God's grace will help. pray as He is there with you and He can change you both and situations

[@pedrochao]

This would be even more useful to more people if the religious agenda hadn’t been pulled in

[@brandonspratt487]

I just recently got out of a relationship like this (praise God), but my ex still contacts me and I get that 'pit in the stomach' feeling because I remember what our relationship was like, how she made me feel, etc. Does anyone have any advice? She is saying some hurtful things that honestly make me feel even worse about myself. Don't get me wrong. I messed up too. The way I ended things was messy and I regret the way certain things happened. But I know it was for the best to end things she doesn't seem to see things that way...

[@LouisaSimone]

I’m sorry to hear this! Someone who says hurtful things is also hurting but probably mostly desperate for your attention by any means. Stay strong and remain loyal to your own decision. Pray for her. But be comforted you did good to both of you by your choice

[@brandonspratt487]

@@LouisaSimone God bless you and thank you for your response. I know she is hurting too, and I probably made it worse by not being true to myself and letting things go further than they should have. We just express our hurts in such different ways and that has really come out since I ended things. It does seem like she is desperate for my attention and that's what makes me very hesitant to respond to her at all.

[@steffibnh]

@Brandon Spratt hey Brandon, sorry to hear what happened to you. My best advice is to block or delete her contact, Because you will have the temptation to contact her if she's reaching out to you. And in order for you to heal and move forward, you need to spend time away from this person.

[@giarose6493]

Amen

[@michakasprzak1371]

[Q&A] Why doesn’t God annihilate the wicked?

[@tehamill1]

Remember love bombing is also a red flag and a sign of narcissism

[@Dinobot444]

Dodged an bullet

[@baseballmomof8]

All good… EXCEPT..my husband (of almost 50 years) is NOT my best friend. My bff is another long married gal who is my sister from another mister… two VERY DIFFERENT relationships.

[@rorybod]

3:11 - 3:36 .. my gf compromised to end her many platonic male friendships. She has not. Says im insecure and toxic. Then breaks up with me.

[@giarose6493]

Facts

[@wms72]

My parental family was so toxic, I was used to continually ignoring my feelings and forgiving. So I ignored red flags. A man who threatened suicide if I wouldn't date him disappeared 44 years ago, but I couldn't date him because it turned out he had been married and wouldn't get an annulment. I still feel love for him, for what he could have been.

[@crohunter100]

I hope I’m not one of these

[@mr.b9871]

2 out of 5

[@jojomcelwee1380]

❤️

[@chrisobrien6254]

What about catholic pod caster red flags??!

[@rumbie-g7u]

❤❤❤❤

[@annakareninacamara6580]

I would love to see a video on how to set boundaries if we detect some of these signs on family members/people we're obligated to deal with. Yeah I acknowledge it has toxic traits, but now what?

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

💯

[@DeepanshuNayar]

Pray the Divine mercy chaplet

[@gloriamacias2180]

Siblings are not friends or romantic, what about relationships with them.

[@e11ep]

Too late!!!

[@SBL19681]

Ditto

[@christinebutler7630]

So sorry.

[@juanortegam73]

Please slow down a bit, it’s hard to understaand completely

[@marybethfeulner3901]

This lacks any scriptural context. Certainly no one should accept abuse but some things do warrant forgiveness.

[@WhereIsSchmitty]

Ask yourself these questions, stop trying to put responsibility on others. Expectations kill relationships- expect nothing from anyone but yourself

[@juanis8219]

There are soo many red flags that hint at a tendency for infidelity too

[@mditt7]

you're trotting out basic human weaknesses that many many people have and you are saying "get out get out of the relationship." Then in the same breath you say things like "are you afraid to reveal your weaknesses? Do you feel like you have to be perfect." Everybody does all these things to some certain degree. I know I do them. You are demonising me and saying that no one should be in relationship with me. Sounds like my ex wife. What's happened to Mercy, understanding. Walking with somebody? This just sounds like dismissive exclusion.

[@BronxCat]

Where's God and the sacraments in all of this?

[@romasliv]

I was wondering the same, religion is a big part in choosing a spouse, there's Fr Mike Schmidt video about this that is better

[@wildernesswordsmith]

Nice facial expressions and finger pointing. I would work on these for future presentations, W.

[@t.f.9378]

First!!

[@Skoopyghost]

I am currently dating a communist who likes The Soviet Union National song and the flag. Big red flag?

[@romasliv]

Well communist flag are red, so...

[@Theunspokentruth77]

Do you people have any other topic other than lustful relationships? How about relationship with Jesus Christ?