How to Know if You've Found "The One"

[@VictoriaDMunoz]

My boyfriend converted me. I am grateful he didn’t dismiss my potential because I wasn’t already Catholic. He brought God into my life.

[@israeliana]

That's great that you're walking with God! Gentle correction: No human can convert you, only the Holy Spirit can. God was always in your life, it's only a matter of whether you wanted to acknowledge Him and walk with Him. I hope that you are building a connection with God and Catholicism that is **separate** of your boyfriend. Because regardless if you two get married or not, God will always be there. And God wants you to choose to love Him.

[@mariettaljiljic1903]

God, please, send me the man with whom I could have the kind of relationship Jackie speaks about in this video. Amen.

[@justinjanecka3203]

Come to Texas. :P

[@faninme]

Copy, paste and amen.

[@m-hayek1985]

Check your local Latin mass parish... there are more “conservative cathloic” young men there than in your typical novus ordo church... Btw:I know what I’m talking about. Just do it

[@paulgman3531]

Say the 54 day rosary novena and ask Mary to intercede for you. I did this and have now been married 23.5 years and my wife is my best friend.

[@mariettaljiljic1903]

@@paulgman3531 What is the correct way to pray this 54 days novena? Every day all 3 rosaries or each day 1 (5 decades)... I found various sources who claim different ways.

[@aveadriana9827]

Summary : 1. You feel peace and joy 2. You have friendship with romance 3. You can be yourself 4. You can argue in a healthy way (emotionally mature adult) 5. Are they helping you (and your children) to get to heaven? Are they helping you (and your children) to be holy?

[@georgesmith364]

also pray about it

[@JMJ4444-f2n]

Awesome 👍🏻

[@Sweetie14567]

Thanks for the summary !!!💛

[@Catholism101]

Thank you plenty

[@GMAAndy333]

Totally agree… comfortable hugs and lovely kisses too!

[@asdfasdf3989]

The anxiety thing can be misleading. Especially for people who struggle with anxiety, you might have that "pit in your stomach" feeling in a relationship that is right for you.

[@WannAlana]

Exactly but how can you tell?

[@mariakurdziel7055]

I'm currently in this place. The relationship is really good, great guy but I still have anxiety moments, I'm overthinking everything and exaggerating small issues. It's my first relationship and it's really hard for me to tell if these are valid concerns or it's just me. I also struggled with anxiety in some other circumstances like starting a new job. I guess counseling would be great idea in my case

[@thatgurl277]

I had the same struggle with my current boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship. It was also my first one so I was very concerned with doing things "right". I was initially overthinking everything and anxious on and off in the beginning. I eventually figured out that my anxiety was coming from the pressure and high expectations I was placing on myself and him. Sometimes I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to have it figured out that it creates unnecessary anxiety. Especially when you hear things like "the purpose of dating is for marriage". This is good and true but can be taken to the extreme when you are trying to see if this person is the one right from the beginning. Allow yourself time to get to know this person and just enjoy the dating experience. If you enjoy their company and they make you a better person, just see where things lead. Keep praying for God to reveal His will and see if that anxiety fades. For me it did as I got to know this person more and more and now I feel mainly peace. I pray that you are able to find peace in whatever God's will may be for you! 💕

[@ellisewatson]

@@mariakurdziel7055 Hello! You are not alone. I would encourage you to research relationship anxiety/ROCD, and see if it might describe how you are feeling. Pray, and consider consulting spiritual directors or counselors if you believe you may be experiencing one of the two. I have had relationship anxiety for almost two years, and my relationship is exceedingly healthy. We fight and have differences like every couple, but our love is boundless. Anxiety does not always mean there's a problem. Remember that the enemy wishes to mislead and destroy us!

[@josephkreydt]

@@thatgurl277 Thank you for sharing this!

[@cyrilpajestka7608]

Consistently feel personally attacked by Ascension presents... videos are so on point.

[@AscensionPresents]

LOL!

[@RyanLynch1]

Same hahaha

[@detteb5540]

😀..take it seriously. Yes this video are so on point, really on points. This is a good advice to take on and will make you happier when that someone is the right one for you. Discernment is necessary in such commitment for marriage. Talk anything freely as you can until it is more comfortable has openness in arguments too. It's a good fruit for such relationship and for a healthy marriage 😇❤👍🏾

[@detteb5540]

Argue in a healthy way as mature adult 😊👍🏾The fruit of spirit of peace, joy and kindness , etc in relationship together. Blessings.❤

[@brianseals8346]

D.

[@eyesofamessenger]

4:13 "Lord, I need someone who could be a priest, but not called to be one." Perfect...

[@chrisobrien6254]

If he could be a priest then he is called. How else would you know you have a calling?

[@eyesofamessenger]

@@chrisobrien6254 I think her quote that I quoted above meant that he is a Godly man, but not a priest, who could help her get to Heaven... 🙏

[@chrisobrien6254]

@@eyesofamessenger I see. Still don’t like the way it’s phrased but I inderstand

[@cabellero1120]

1 thing i can appreciate here This woman talks in Realistic terms Not Romantic ones. Marriage isnt a Disney movie Nor is it a dysfunctional soap opera, either. Marriage should be worked on by both husband and wife.

[@imeldacaballero25]

😊

[@trevorsa6lack9uy]

Dang, I’m a guy, but when you talked about that anxiety pit in your stomach even though they’re perfect on paper hit home. I know what I have to do now but, wow this is gonna be hard. Lord help both of us.

[@chinh817]

Emotions are often reactionary. You feel fear when something threatens you. This pit in your stomach is there because something is wrong and you have to stop and figure out what it is. It could be her, but it could also be you. St. Joseph ran away from Mary because He felt this "pit" seeing Himself unworthy of participating in God's work of Salvation. Figure it out so you don't hurt people and end up rejecting God's Will.

[@TkoBallerx]

Same situation as you Trevor I need the holy spirit so I am able to do the right thing!

[@GeorgePenton-np9rh]

Is it possible to even find anybody with even half the things on this list in the post-Vatican II period?

[@gabrielalopez4606]

I was there a few years ago. I let go, and wow has God taken me on an adventure. I'm grateful God gave me the grace to get out of the relationship. I hope he's done the same for you and others in the same situation

[@minichanz]

How was the divorce?

[@Nicole11522]

I met my husband when I was 36. About 6 years after I planned in my mind that I would get married. He is absolutely the right person for me and has all of these qualities and more. Even though waiting to find the right guy can be painful at times, it is 💯 percent worth it. Trust God’s timing. He hears every single one of your prayers. 🙏🏻

[@thatsfunny2051]

That's amazing! I'm single and 32. Being single in one's thirties can be pretty distressing and anxiety inducing

[@Nicole11522]

@That's Funny definitely, but if it's meant to happen, it will!! Just keep praying for your future spouse. He might be away from the faith right now, and your prayers are helping him come back. Ya never know!;)

[@heidehho6191]

I just turned 36 and this beings me some hope. Just came back to Christ and really hoping every single person who reads your comment and feels the same ❤ God bless you 🙏

[@kirakira1212]

Turning 30 this year!! Im praying for my future husband almost every night but at the same time, i also pray for peace, contentment and happiness if im called for single blessedness. oof. still a tough pill to swallow cuz i wanna have a family but, praying!!

[@TheTruth-fully]

I'm Muslim and I can relate to that. Being on the same page spiritually is very important. All of your advice are great and realistic. Thank you.

[@faninme]

I watched this video during its first broadcast and I promised myself that I will revisit once I found someone. Four years later, I'm watching again and engaged. Thank you, Jesus Christ. Thank you, Ascencion Presents.

[@kenebbepena9831]

Peace and joy ☑️ Friendship with romance ☑️ You can be yourself.☑️ You can argue with them in a healthy way☑️ They help you go to heaven.☑️ Please Lord, let us have each other.💗

[@Eddini]

I like this a lot. I'm 43 and I'm still praying a lot that I find the right person. I'm on disability though and don't own a vehicle so I get very self conscious because I'm afraid of rejection. I've been on only like 3 dates in my whole life. Everyone who knows me says I need to learn to take more risks. Please pray for me and thank you for this great video. God Bless.

[@kassidyhaddock1024]

This definitely describes mine and my boyfriend's relationship and honestly that makes me so incredibly happy.

[@ziooob3177]

1. Experience peace and joy. Feel’s like home. 2. This is friendship with romance. It’s so easy being with them. 3. You could be yourself. They love you for you. You love being with each other. 4. You can argue with them in a healthy way and talk about tough things. Not afraid of breaking up. They’re not physically/emotionally/sexually abusive. 5. Encouraging and helping each other.

[@4everMrsB]

I married my best friend and I agree 100% with you Love and blessing from Sweden 💖🙏

[@chachieabara1635]

Sometimes we are so caught in trying to find the one that we forget to take care our selves and to really pray to God to have our hearts to be taken care of.

[@Lee-wil49]

I have been in bad relationships, even mentally abusive ones. Then I met my current boyfriend. I need some realistic advice and we meet everything she’s saying. He’s amazing in every way, has seen my ugly anxiety attacks, and loves me still. We argue in a healthy manner and just meet all this. I knew he was the right one, but after Friday anxiety attack, I knew he was the one because he helped me. This video just validates it more. It’s also the first relationship that he is same religion as me and we celebrate that together. It’s beautiful

[@fuzzywuzzyangel7646]

Lord I'm not Catholic but I totally agree with all this! 💙

[@TkoBallerx]

Catholic is the only way!

[@bradleysullivan947]

@@TkoBallerx Jesus is the only way!

[@syrinezitouni6987]

Jesus Loves you ❤️

[@CelesteLove]

I feel this way, but I just met him. So much peace & joy, friendship & romance...I finally met someone who is on the same page as me spiritually too...soooo prayers please because I feel this way “right away” that I found the one. I am exactly who I am called to be talking to this new man. It’s amazing! We are so joyful in each other’s qualities! He is exactly what I’ve been praying for, but I just met him! So is there any advice of how long you should date the man of your dreams before discerning marriage??

[@taylorlin5744]

I am definitely going through this right now! Any update on the status of your relationship? I would really like to know 😊

[@chrisobrien6254]

There is no “The One”

[@ciruwiru]

Finding a man who will be your friend as well as bf is soo difficult...

[@grumpus3046]

Don't give up, kid. Ask God and step out of His way, let Him do the work. There's one out there for you...

[@forthejoyfit]

ciruwiru I’d recommend just becoming really good friends with guys and THEN thinking about being a relationship with hem

[@georgethakur]

@@forthejoyfit This is on track, imo.

[@giannafitzgibbon1369]

it's okay i'm a good place to start ;)

[@celiaescalante]

Exactly!!!! Thank you! Becoming like friends is great. Infatuation isn't supposed to last. It isn't the goal. Being a family is the goal.

[@BillieEnglish]

Thank you for this video 💛 First of all, you have the coolest surname! I agree with everything you said but I think I would add that a lot of these things are down to us becoming healthy, functioning, mature adults. If you can't argue well it might be more down to your own inner dysfunction. So instead of searching for a better person to argue with, do a self check and make sure you are a safe and whole person with good self boundaries, a healed heart and good communication skills. Otherwise its just rise & repeat. Its important to reflect and check what is our responsibility is and where do we need to grow and heal to become better partners ourselves. Thank you for putting these videos out! ❤

[@amandamiller8189]

I was once in a group of friends and we were talking about love. I said love isn’t just an emotion it is a choice. And everyone looked at me like I had two heads lol (mind you I was the only Catholic in the group)

[@darlowmaxwell7346]

A choice - absolutely

[@wolf4811]

thank you for this i'm realizing how selfish my fantasies were about my crush haha i need to remember that finding a spouse is finding WHO GOD CALLS ME TO BE WITH

[@rosepearsun]

“I could be a nun but I’m not called to be one I need a man who could be a priest but is not called to be one” yes

[@ievatamulionyte18]

Thank you for doing this! I feel exactly like you described “I could be a nun but I don’t think I’m called to” and now I guess it’s going to be a long waiting process. This really helped!

[@pris9842]

I feel this video was meant for me. I needed this so much. Thank you

[@BUSSTISEBOOST]

Pris * same

[@faninme]

God bless to your discernment Sis.

[@An19941]

same here

[@alinagrigorjeva9942]

Wow, so many old things said in such a new way to me, I’m a Pentecostal but God is opening Christianity to me beyond barriers of one congregation. This is amazing, thank you!

[@melissafeds1344]

Maybe this is a sign to consider allowing a Catholic in ur life someday. Before that happens, He cud be molding you to be a better spouse till you meet that person.

[@jonquilgemstone]

This video was part of a calming process for me during a freak-out. Thank you, and thanks and praise be to God for everything ❤

[@singdancelady23]

Don't be afraid to wait. I had to trust in God. I wanted to be married but I didn't meet my fiancé until I turned 37!!! He's my best friend who I love to kiss :-D Wedding in two weeks and counting. Stay strong .

[@bruceallen6377]

I think another great topic for a video is not only making a list of the things that you need but making an even larger list of the things you absolutely do not want in your life and strong enough to stick to your guns and not accepting these things like I haveunfortunately have done! outstanding advice, thanks for your channel!

[@maltesefalcon92]

Well the part about needing a priest who wasn't called to be a priest rang very true. Being single has caused me to turn inwards to may faith more. But this, in turn, has made dating more difficult ha! 🙈

[@ianlilley2577]

Thought about preisthood couldn't stand the idea of being alnoe the rest of my life and the celibacy certainly was not a good perk.

[@s58786]

Flirt to convert ???? I’ve been dating this guy for over 2 years and I’ve brought him into the Catholic Church. He has been very open and willing in converting ( he was a Lutheran not actively going to church ) we were going to go through RCIA no one is perfect . Its constant work . Ever changing and evolving and growing together and closer to God.

[@emmanguyen5233]

I met someone who I know is the person I’m going to spend the rest of my life yet - but somehow, I always end up overthinking and if this is what God REALLY wants for me. So I offered up a rosary for it; and look where it brought me! All the boxes are being hit, as if He’s saying, “I want this for you, Emma. And I’ll make it as loud and as clear as you need me to.” God is good ❤️

[@EmiliaTytto]

I had a pit in my stomach in our dating time before we got married, because of my past experiences and hurt. You should always think by yourself in the end when you choose someone to marry. You know yourself best. Have trust in yourself. Even though you need to hear your closed one's opinions.

[@quiroszmelissa]

OH I NEEDED THIS COMMENT- I feel the exact same because of hurt and anxiety (diagnosed) Did you ever solved that type of feelings or were they really a warning from God? PD: Sorry if my english isn't that good

[@ellisewatson]

@@quiroszmelissa I do not believe God weaponizes anxiety to make us make a decision! God gives us clarity and freedom. Relationship anxiety/ROCD can occur in very healthy relationships due to someone's past experiences/behavioral tendencies, and God will not always work to make direct changes. I think sometimes God wants us to put the pieces together and make the decisions for ourselves! Father Mike Schmitz once said "God will never ask you to make a decision about something that you do not fully know about"; in other words, to a degree, you have to take the leap and trust yourself and your future spouse.

[@ellisewatson]

I hope that your marriage has been blessed, and that your anxieties have been healed.

[@marcdecastella3454]

Your husband is truly blessed to have found you. Your advice is invaluable and fundamentally correct. God bless.

[@SeezSantos]

“You can argue with him or her in a healthy way” 🔥❤️

[@РафаэлаХендрикс]

Absolutely this.

[@allansantaisabel2523]

Man, I didn't expect this to impact me as greatly as it did. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤

[@jefferywashpon8389]

I am a christian man, and now I know how a virtuous woman feels for a christian man. Great revealing information. Amen.🌞🌞🌞

[@ashackle01]

The fact that everything she is talking about I see in my best friend who is a guy......and he says he doesn’t see me that way completely 100% .....ooof it’s the worst feeling! But I pray maybe I can find someone like him or even better ;( Gods plan not mine.

[@monikap8777]

Don't be a close friends with him

[@lightowl4345]

Great advice. Too late for me but I hope all young unmarried people watch this. I would add to the list (which is mentioned just not in the list). 1. Do you both agree on whether you want children 2. How do you manage your finances 3. Who is going to work, who is doing chores. 4. Well, hard to know if traditional and inexperienced, but, sexual compatibility matters too.

[@g.Raider]

*This is a Christian perspective on singleness and not my words, but it is so phenomenal and consoling for when singleness gets difficult, and it needs to be shared:* "As a lifelong single woman who knows what it’s like to feel unfulfilled, undesired, and scared of a future alone, my heart breaks when I read despairing comments from others in the same boat. Not only can I relate to their pain, but I also feel so sad when I see some singles questioning God’s love for them. I think there’s a tendency to be disappointed in or even angry at God for what we perceive as His failure to provide us with the human relationships we need. So often we don’t stop to think that maybe the Lord does NOT want us to be alone and is just as heartbroken as we are that we can’t find a godly spouse. The fact of the matter is that we live in evil times. True believers who want a real relationship with Christ have always been in the minority, but they are becoming even more scarce as we close in on the end times. Single women outnumber single men in churches three to one. God is not willing that anyone should perish, but we know that He doesn’t force people to turn to Him. If so few single men in the US have chosen Him, there will necessarily be many single Christian women without husbands. Contrary to what some singles might think, I believe this situation grieves God. He clearly laid out his plan for most people, and it was the family unit-marriage and children. So He considers those things good. The fact that so many of us can’t achieve His plan must make Him very sad, I would think. The reason I’m going on at some length about all this is because I’ve seen prolonged singleness gradually ruin more than one believer’s relationship with the Lord specifically because of this false assumption that the Lord WANTS all these unhappy singles to stay single. When we view God as the cause of our suffering rather than our refuge and walk away from Him, we lose the most faithful friend we can have. And that’s even worse than being forever single. If you are struggling with singleness, please don’t assume that God isn’t on your side and doesn’t want the best for your life. Express your grief to Him, and let Him grieve with you. He has been rejected by probably 90% of the people on this earth-He certainly knows how you feel. One more thing…If you’re a single woman, try to band together with other lifelong single women, especially older women who’ve been widowed or divorced and likely won’t remarry. While friendship isn’t the same as a marriage partnership, it can fulfill a lot of the same practical and emotional needs, and when you cultivate these kinds of friendships, you can at least be sure that you won’t be left alone to fend for yourself in old age."

[@c.c6909]

G.C. Bolling This is so dope, it totally changed my perspective. Thanks!

[@g.Raider]

@@c.c6909 I am so happy that this helped you! It changed my perspective too! I grew up hearing that God would handle everything if you were called to marriage and that he wouldn't let you down. And although God certainly isn't our enemy when things don't go according to our plan, saying that He wants you to be single and is keeping you out of a loving relationship for your own good makes it sound like He's depriving you of great happiness, and that risks resentment towards Him. If I hadn't found this post, I would have probably gone down the same path. Additionally, this contributes to the decline in marriage and families: godly young people who want to fulfill God's plan for them but are unable to find a mate that satisfies them in all the necessary categories. I feel like people would take this situation much more seriously if they saw it that way. God knows me far better than I ever could, and I still have stuff to learn about relationships, but I can't see Him as responsible for my relationship status anymore. That's too controlling and too much of a gamble to take in my relationship with Him. It's not out of His ability, but it's not His responsibility either.

[@meganhenshaw1717]

Thank you for this video! My "perfect guy" on paper who I dated for nearly a year is close to engagement with one of my best friends. I'm so happy for them and not bitter... but sometimes I question my decision I made to break up with him back then. This video has helped me a lot to make peace with it.

[@WannAlana]

Did you feel happiness for them right away or were you ever insecure and sad over it?

[@JC-jb1mn]

You will know and FEEL that "PEACE & Joy," when it's the right person. You don't have to "pretend!" That's AWESOME. I believe it. Once I went on a youth camp RETREAT for young adults 20 + and I prayed before going that I would meet my future hubby on that trip. Ironically, I did meet a guy that my heart pounded LIKE crazy upon seeing HIM AND he too approached me to START a conversation as any guy who's interested in a pretty woman would do. Then AFTER the "investigating," done by my part, right? It turned out the feeling was just "lust!" He ACTUALLY had another woman he was ALREADY sleeping with. WOMEN be careful ♡

[@davidalexander5495]

I don't understand the need to find "the one". Solitude is a blessing.

[@jleemkup727]

Can bobby share his vocation story from priest to marriage ?? How did he get a call

[@maria___4448]

Yes! Seminarians are men of faith and so I always find myself attracted to them. My heart was broken by one :(

[@poetlover30]

Yes! One that could be a priest but isn't called to be one....

[@narrowisthewaytoeternity]

Jen Lee What does the Bible say about confession of sin to a priest? The concept of confession of sin to a priest is nowhere taught in Scripture. First, the New Testament does not teach that there are to be priests in the New Covenant. Instead, the New Testament teaches that all believers are priests. First Peter 2:5-9 describes believers as a “holy priesthood” and a “royal priesthood.” Revelation 1:6 and 5:10 both describe believers as “a kingdom of priests.” In the Old Covenant, the faithful had to approach God through the priests. The priests were mediators between the people and God. The priests offered sacrifices to God on behalf of the people. That is no longer necessary. Because of Jesus’ sacrifice, we can now approach God’s throne with boldness (Hebrews 4:16). The temple veil tearing in two at Jesus’ death was symbolic of the dividing wall between God and humanity being destroyed. We can approach God directly, ourselves, without the use of a human mediator. Why? Because Jesus Christ is our great High Priest (Hebrews 4:14-15; 10:21) and the only mediator between us and God (1 Timothy 2:5). The New Testament teaches that there are to be elders (1 Timothy 3), deacons (1 Timothy 3), bishops (Titus 1:6-9), and pastors (Ephesians 4:11) - but not priests. When it comes to confession of sin, believers are told in 1 John 1:9 to confess their sins to God. God is faithful and just to forgive our sins as we confess them to Him. James 5:16 speaks of confessing our trespasses “to one another,” but this is not the same as confessing sins to a priest as the Roman Catholic Church teaches. Priests / church leaders are nowhere mentioned in the context of James 5:16. Further, James 5:16 does not link forgiveness of sins with the confession of sins “to one another.” The Roman Catholic Church bases their practice of confession to a priest primarily on Catholic tradition. Catholics do point to John 20:23, “If you forgive anyone his sins, they are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.” From this verse, Catholics claim that God gave the apostles the authority to forgive sins and that authority was passed on to the successors of the apostles, i.e., the bishops and priests of the Roman Catholic Church. There are several problems with this interpretation. (1) John 20:23 nowhere mentions confession of sin. (2) John 20:23 nowhere promises or even hints that apostolic authority of any kind would be passed on to the successors of the apostles. (3) The apostles never once in the New Testament acted as if they had the authority to forgive a person’s sin. Similarly, Catholics point to Matthew 16:19 and 18:18 (binding and loosing) as evidence for the Catholic Church’s authority to forgive sins. The same three above points apply equally to these Scriptures. The ability to forgive sins is God’s and His alone (Isaiah 43:25). The better understanding of John 20:23 is that the apostles were given the responsibility of declaring with utmost certainty the terms on which God would forgive sins. As the church was being founded, the apostles declared that those who believed the gospel were forgiven (Acts 16:31) and those who did not obey the gospel faced judgment (2 Thessalonians 1:8; 1 Peter 4:17). As the apostles proclaimed salvation in Christ (Acts 10:43) and exercised church discipline (1 Corinthians 5:4-5), they were wielding the authority Christ had given them. Again, the concept of confession of sin to a priest is nowhere taught in Scripture. We are to confess our sins to God (1 John 1:9). As New Covenant believers, we do not need mediators between us and God. We can go to God directly because of Jesus’ sacrifice for us. First Timothy 2:5 says, “For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.”

[@jleemkup727]

Maya Ivy I don’t how this question can relate to do with sins

[@marysupernova]

Maya Ivy why would you are someone a question when you already have all the answers? that is not a genuine loving way to make your point or to change someone’s mind. Maybe you should jus share what is on your heart instead of surround it with a veil of unwanted response.

[@RoseBaggins]

Thank you so much for this!!! I really needed this. I really think God was speaking through you. Thank you again!!

[@marysmith4811]

I agree. Don't try to change someone. It's one thing if you are already married, but things need to for the most part be easy during dating.

[@schlymfrainkestxchieftains2623]

3:58 you know youre in a good relationship when you get excited for them to come home

[@agnesfaifua5617]

All GLORY to GOD! I have only just found you Jackie. Absolutely love everything about you and your husband. Powerful testament to our Catholic Faith. God bless! In J+M+J ❤🙏🙏🙏

[@vaughanvanderstarren832]

If he can stop bullets with his mind, he’s definitely The One.

[@fernandaherreracorrea6191]

I loved it! Thank you very much! I agreed with everything you shared. Common goal that unites both parts STRONGLY (common unchanging purpose!) is my favorite. I would add pray. Have a deep life of prayer asking for God´s intercession through this search.

[@khomotsok4068]

Thank you Jesus for this channel. I was at a spa today and saw fruits of the holy spirit on their wall, and I said that's nice and left. After Mass I had a lot of questions and found myself writing a list of what I think I need in a husband. Turns out my list is long, and I am thankful that I came across this topic. It makes sense now. A lot of sense.

[@renatojimenez9653]

In my country and city, to find a person that follows all of this tips it is impossible.... Thanks God that he is the God of impossible!🙌

[@feaokautai7354]

YES TRUELY PRAY FOR ALL CATHOLICISM MARRIAGES TO LIVE LIFE IN LOVE IN CHRIST FOR THE POWERFUL TRUTH STILL STANDING IN THE WORLD. THANK YOU JACKIE FOR TEACHING...AMEN TO THAT FOR CHRIST JESUS IN MARRIAGE.

[@bornagain8680]

I know why in marriage we cannot get along, even thought I was born again in Christ and my heart was transformed 6 months ago. It’s because we started our relationship from wrong doing, from having sex before marriage, our love wasn’t pure and delicate as should be and it’s all because of sex temptation. God, please give my husband a new heart, new thinking and set a pure fire in our love and marriage, I pray in Jesus name. Amen 🙏 Whoever read my comments please pray briefly for my marriage to become pure 🙌 God bless ❤️

[@gabbd.2795]

Amen .. I'll keep you in my prayers!!🙏❤️

[@bornagain8680]

@@gabbd.2795 thank you! My marriage is getting better and better now. God bless.

[@gabbd.2795]

Thank you and please pray for me and my bf to get his life in order and please God ... Thank you!! ❤️🙏

[@freshliving4199]

How do you know you are born again?

[@bornagain8680]

@@freshliving4199 you know that you’ve been born again when everything in your life changes, your thoughts and actions are focus on pleasing God. You think of Him every day. You conscious about your wrong doings, you realise when you do something wrong straight away, even if you’ve been tempted, you apologise and work on it. You realise that without God you are nothing. You trust Him and let Him lead you every day. In my case, during prayer when I asked God to clean my heart, I felt unbelievably huge amount of love being poured upon me and from this moment I became new. Jesus said: “I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Ezekiel 11:19 Let God to work in your heart and do beautiful things with it. Once you can’t stop thinking about about pleasing Him every day, this is when you’ve been born again. It may be a moment or process.. God bless you and wish you to find Jesus in your life and be born again in Him 🙌

[@gemmajosephs2040]

Absolutely beautiful! This video was very helpful for me with my discernment.

[@jefferywashpon8389]

I finally found hope in finding a relationship in church. Finally! Thank you.🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞

[@elle9082]

I literally experience this signs with the guy I'm dating right now but we're in a long distance relationship and hopefully gonna meet next year bcoz we just met online but my family told me not to take it seriously for now because our relationship might not work and maybe I'll meet someone else in the future, but I'm not the type who easily date... If I'm gonna date someone then I'm gonna make sure that I'll marry that person in the future as well that's why I'm really knowing the person I'm dating before I even let them enter my life. I rarely even meet guys who are still a virgin and respects the sacredness of marriage and also who haven't been in a relationship before like me and now that I met one, I really feel that God prepared the "someone" for me that I prayed for since in my first year in highschool. Even though he's Orthodox and I'm Catholic, we are still willing to know God more and have a deeper relationship with God even more. My family might not fully agree with me but I know God is guiding me in the right path. And my mom thinks we're absurd for planning ahead our future together but we can't help it, cuz we have the same goals as well. Please pray for me.

[@ginalady9067]

Thank you so much for this video I've been in a abusive marriage and because my faith I was worried but I've been praying on it

[@schlymfrainkestxchieftains2623]

6:45 if youre in a abusive relationship of any kind GET OUT. you don't need to fix the relationship, they need to fix themselves

[@anthonyfiducia]

This all sounds great! I’ve seen such relationships, but I think there rare, but possible.

[@ruthnoelmarie...9061]

At home is the feeling you should feel, exactly Dear Jackie...

[@8.11lesliemartinez]

Soulmates are destined to be in the same team. Even if they don’t work for the same company 📿📖

[@priyamartha2502]

Heyy Jackie...you are absolutely right..even I'm waiting to get married man chosen by God...sure God will bring him in my life soon...

[@EmanNagi]

I love how you put your faith and the faith of your children at the highest priority. I am a muslim and I feel the same. And you're definitely right marriage should be decided upon true observations not emotional fantasies.

[@AJanae.]

I am engaged to a wonderful man I can not wait to marry him in January!

[@IACHUA]

Do a video about “Dating or Courtship” please! I’ve been in a huge argument with someone about this subject. It got me wondering what’s your take on this? What does the Church say about courtship and dating

[@rachelannamaria]

Not sure if you've came across this but it's a talk Jackie and Bobby gave on that topic. Cheers! kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2SmqnWYqKtrprM

[@aef3875]

my gosh this woman has a very beautiful soul

[@petero5931]

This was such a good video. Sometimes it's difficult trying to find a Catholic girl nowadays, especially since I'm in college. I have a new found hope that she is out there for me.

[@leonardkorn2347]

it's not that hard to find a Catholic girl, what's hard is to find a good Catholic girl these days. And it's even harder for girls to find a good Catholic guy these days.

[@merlinsvdd]

Wonderful.. marriage is suppose to be sacred and not abused in any way. Right on point. Well, i am praying for my future spouse in a 14 day prayer journey. Wish me luck. Amen. 🥰

[@zoewaters1233]

When she gets your sense of humor and you start having giggle fits everytime you're together, when she loves the way you think about things and agrees with your morals and why you hold them, when she wants to go to the same college as you and be roommates, 99.9999% sure she the one

[@lisar5349]

Friendship IS romance ❤

[@gabriellanoel1291]

I’m so glad I’m not the only one who thinks that couples should be best friends! I’m best friends with this guy, and we tried to casually date and see where things go. We started to do coupley things like giving each other pet names and held hands. But I started to feel like I was losing that best friend side of him. One time, we hung out and a couple of days later he said that he lost feelings for me because, in her words, he lost his spark for me. In reality, I was showing him how much I liked him but in a way as both a potential girlfriend and best friend. We’re still best friends, but I feel that he’s made for someone else as am I. I'm PRAYING that God sends me the right man soon!!

[@jessicalinde8558]

Gosh this video is so helpful! As a young Christian woman out on the dating scene, the last point in particular really highlighted how I shouldn’t be wasting my time with agnostics hoping I can convert them. My home life deserves and needs to be a safe, stable Christian environment.

[@keishav6630]

I've only known this guy a week or less and I really feel like he's the one. ☺️❤ I finally feel a security I've never felt with someone.

[@michelleraginimukhia9026]

Though i am still single. But i really loved this video. Hope I'll get the right one soon

[@Adrianaaa121200]

I thought I found the one, she put me in the right path and made me feel more close to God❤️ and she did make me feel at home and so happy and I really did think we had something special but she didn’t feel that for herself at the end😔, I just pray that she can find herself again🙏✝️, cause even tho I’m gone out of her life now, I still care about her a lot and just want her to be happy.

[@Blade-Thing]

For me, i think, you can grow to love anyone. Good people are lovable. I dont really put much weight on soul mates concept. Being open, & i wish i realized this sooner, by not hiding or shying away from (wholesome) romantic advances out of insecurity helps start you on the path of finding love.

[@Talkinsen]

I love your hair

[@MSoc1op]

It's good, but unnecessary for her to dye it blonde. She should be happy with the natural hair color God gave her

[@LadyK007]

Michelle S15 it’s just hair dye. Not that serious lol

[@alexanderfrank7578]

I appreciate you talking about this. Many of the teachings are very wise, such as "this person should challenge you to be Holy," and people of faith must talk about these issues since most relationship advice out there is not the most holy. Relationship should certainly be about supporting one another's personal growth. But it is about more than that. It seems that most of what you say comes from personal experience. You should start with broader Catholic principles, and then use your personal experience to illustrate their meaning in the modern world, the first being that love is an act of self-giving as it states in the Catechism. I think this is where my specific issues come from. I do not think all husbands and wives will be "best friends." They must of course be able to maintain a basic friendship centered around some commonalities, especially in faith. Yet some people have are very different people, which is the source of their attraction. Their polarity is brought together into a beautiful unity of their divergent traits. Such people cannot expect to be best friends. Further, they will not be able to be "fully themselves" around their partner. They will have to be a good version of themselves to realize the many fruits of relationship.

[@ellisewatson]

Your comment is very realistic!

[@khatack]

How to Know if you've found "the one"? That's easy, you haven't. The one isn't found, the one is made, forged in the fires of life and tempered with sweat, blood and tears.

[@user-mv2tg8hc8c]

Very interesting point. I bet this is the case many times

[@meganking-cadett2502]

I can identify with you and I thank God I have found my ONE. Praise God.

[@Mister-Christer]

God bless, peace be with you and your family. I feel the same way about my lovely wife. 🙂 /Greetings from a Swede convert

[@neenutomi316]

From the book " To Save a Thousand of Souls " by fr Brett Brannen I believe one of the problems in the Church today is that many people are in the wrong vocation. Many people have grown up unaware that they have a vocation, much less that they should be asking God to reveal it to them. And there are many unhappy, unfulfilled, dissatisfied people. As a general rule, people flourish in their correct vocation! Flourishing does not just mean they are happy. It means they are steadily growing in holiness, they are fulfilled, and they are becoming the person God wants them to be. Fr. Brian Bashista, vocation director of the Diocese of Arlington, Virginia, underscores that vocation is less about personal choice and more about discovery.

[@AdZS848]

She is so right! Particularly about the arguing part.

[@blancagomez9920]

😍😍😍 Beautifully explained! Right on the spot! ❤❤❤ That's exactly what I felt when I married my husband. 😍❤🙏

[@MarkAsselin]

Are you related to Fr. Mike? You speak very much the same way! I hope to see more videos from you--and Fr. Mike, of course.

[@Boxed4Y]

Glad to watch this type of real-life practical videos!

[@ruthnoelmarie...9061]

Fruits of the spirit, yes best friends and the common goal, to get to heaven... I’m not called to be a nun either... I can either find the right soul through God or all bets or off... 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@stuckmannen3876]

Good stuff... that part about taking kids into consideration is so forgoten so thanks for speaking up.

[@katherine9501]

I haven’t met my “The One”. I’m still hoping, praying and waiting for him to come along. at my age (34) I keep asking myself..am I really a human being?!

[@CCCC-tq8yo]

R u?

[@thecatholiccorner]

I think you should pray about it and ask God for guidance to the right man for the right reasons. As I see from your channel, Fifty Shades of Grey isn't the right thing to follow when it comes to romance :/ not to point fingers or sound harsh, but please don't follow or give in to those horrendous films...

[@betrion7]

Maybe he's not Christian Grey but Christian White ..

[@onealryan]

Thank you for making time to share your wisdom. God bless you and your family.

[@kotchi9197]

tfw stuck on the first step to even find "one"

[@giancarlom.]

Use your emotions, my friend. pray that to God, that He'll lead you to him/her. Like find that one who's in the "same page" as said here. :)

[@poetlover30]

Yea - first think friend - then after a while think - good friend

[@poetlover30]

@@class.C some of them are "wild" but not all - you'll find someone

[@class.C]

@@poetlover30 thank u for your reassurance

[@ianlilley2577]

@@class.C Habe you had a hard time with women in the past? The Vast majority of women I meet aren't "hoes" we are simply of a different culture I believe sex is for marriage while most women I meet aren't christian and instead believe it's for the person you love. So really it's a bit of a cultural difference.

[@Valmural]

We can be happy with anyone really! As long as we choose to love them. Doesn’t sound very romantic but hey Fr. Schmitz said it.

[@ellisewatson]

This is so realistic! Thank you. There isn't just "one," there's just one at the end. Great comment

[@Emmarose1477]

Most of the time I'm not sure if its God or my anxiety, you know? I get really overwhelmed. I pray one day I will be able to tell the difference between the two.

[@Simple-Alexander]

God isnt real.. Hope that helps

[@Emmarose1477]

@@Simple-Alexander thxs

[@SolarMar]

Arjrpz Work You're in the wrong video buddy haha

[@SenseiNoyng]

I feel the exact same way. I feel like I can’t tell if it’s actually God talking to me or if it’s just anxiety? Did you ever figure out how to tell the difference?

[@armoreno10]

Thank you for sharing this video, Jackie. I appreciate your perspective on this. I find it to be relatable, insightful, well-thought-out, and also at times funny.

[@redridingsheeb1777]

Thank you Jackie for this video. I'm sure it has helped so many to make sense of their current and budding relationships. Blessings to you and your family! 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦✝️

[@Eowyn3Pride]

Thank you. I'm glad you two found this Authentic Love...but it doesn't exist for me. For others yes, not for me....