Ways And How An Ex Tests You After Breakup

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Coach Lee

Coach Lee

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@Rob-qs3xx
@Rob-qs3xx Жыл бұрын
I was in a six year relationship. My gf left me for some dude she works with who was married with 3 kids. I have been in no contact for 4 months now it did not work. My advice to you all work on yourself move on stop thinking about the other person there are millions of people in the world. The person you thought was specal is not trust me. You built that image of them in your head. Thats not who they really are i promise. If they loved you they would not have left you and treated you like a stranger. Head up chest out move on.
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
Exactly!!! Also, unfortunately, most breakups and cheating happen with people the person works with or us in a close friends group. Sad world
@HaleBoy80
@HaleBoy80 Жыл бұрын
Best comment
@wickylopez8867
@wickylopez8867 Жыл бұрын
My did come back and she did apologize. But to your point, no one should sit and wait.. Act like they are truly gone and work on yourself, like coach says.. hope your in a better state..
@craigjefferson452
@craigjefferson452 Жыл бұрын
I’m going through the exact same thing except it was a year and 7 months it hurts but I’m pushing forward
@thebestpossiblescenario2002
@thebestpossiblescenario2002 Жыл бұрын
I mean this isn’t applicable to every situation, for you since she left you for someone else sure the best advice may be to move on. A lot of us here made mistakes on our part and hit our exes breaking point where they felt they couldn’t deal with certain things anymore. If there is a decent chance I don’t see why not to wait a bit and see what happens, either way you shouldn’t be jumping into a new relationship immediately post breakup so I don’t see the harm as long as you’re making positive changes in yourself during that time
@Alex-wt9nf
@Alex-wt9nf Жыл бұрын
“When trust is broken the history don’t mean shit” I truly believe that.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Alex007, it depends on what she did. If she cheated, I totally understand. Be good to yourself.
@rajwinderkaur7786
@rajwinderkaur7786 4 ай бұрын
He should not contact with the social media I am not feeling well in no contact.I remembers thePast memories with him when met me first time he said me about the introduction.I told him my name and residence.past memories deep down every time in break up.
@theway-hadarekh3571
@theway-hadarekh3571 Жыл бұрын
You don’t deserve someone who comes back. You deserve someone who never leaves. You don’t deserve someone who loves you only when it is convenient for them. You deserve someone who loves you no matter what. You don’t deserve someone who treats you as their backup option. You deserve someone who makes you their only option.
@angelinadenisenko7396
@angelinadenisenko7396 9 ай бұрын
Needed this!
@tyleryoung306
@tyleryoung306 7 ай бұрын
As romantic and self soothing this comment is, it doesn’t actually reflect reality. My grandparents have been married since 1958, they’re the best of friends and lived a happy fun and fulfilling life. After 2 years of dating, my grandmother broke up with my grandfather. They didn’t talk for almost 3 months. And then they both went to the same party, and they saw each other and talked and realized it was half my grandma, and half my grandpa that contributed to the break up. They reconnected, and got married a year later. I know many married couples that did this as well. They’re all still happily married. Now the couples that broke up more than 3 times, and had a lot of volatility, where they never gave one another the time to process what was going wrong, and what they were each responsible for, and still got married all ended up in divorce. For the ones who had never broken up prior to marriage, half of them divorced. Sometimes it’s because they barely knew one another before getting married, sometimes it’s because they got married too young.
@ashishmanoharsingh
@ashishmanoharsingh 2 ай бұрын
True ❤
@karndafang6632
@karndafang6632 Ай бұрын
Indeed ❤
@dhanushv9753
@dhanushv9753 Жыл бұрын
60 plus days no contact. Coach Lee you saved me from lot of things. I became stronger. went to gym .gained confidence. changed my job ,place probably everything. i am thinking now that my breakup is a blessing
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
It most likely is
@danscott2059
@danscott2059 Жыл бұрын
100%
@sorryIdontGetIt
@sorryIdontGetIt Жыл бұрын
I dont love my ex anymore. The sad thing is once there was me fighting for a dying relationship, now it’s no one so the love we once had is officially dead. when time has passed, you just dont care. No hate, no love, they are just irrelevant to you Edit: I forgot to mention that a few months ago I still longed to my ex. Coach lee helped me a lot. You will come back to yourself. That’s the really the one feeling I feel. You will recall that once you were happy without them and you will go back to that person.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
sorryidontge, I used to feel that way after my relationship broke up. I actually gave up, but I started going out with my friends, and I picked up a hobby. You will be fine. TIME is a great healer! Big hug for you..❤️💙⚘️⚘️👍
@walkertranger5746
@walkertranger5746 Жыл бұрын
I wish I could get to that point
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
Yup. Indifference. That's what happened to me. Once enough time passed and your mind rewires it self after reflection and healing you realize it's not so bad anymore and that much better can be had moving forward.
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
​@@walkertranger5746 takes time and effort. It cant be rushed
@Kmahersh01
@Kmahersh01 Жыл бұрын
I think this happened to my ex too. I waited too long to come back, I thought he moved on. We went out on one date after 3.5 months of bc but I was too open with how I missed him, but other than a breadcrumb text every 4-5 days, it feels like he’s over it and just enjoying that I came back and just here to feed his ego. Now do I send a text that I need to move on since its clear reconnecting isn’t going anywhere or do I just disappear back into no contact. I’m guessing I just need to move on and put my energy elsewhere. It’s hard not to get sucked into the crumbs. It’s confusing because technically I left him, but it was because he wasn’t sure about a future after 4.5 years together. I’m confused on my role of dumper/dumpee. In the past he put the effort in to bring us back together, this time he is not putting in the effort. He did initially with suggesting coffee and dinner, but I guess I was too eager and lost his interest. What is my best next step?
@Rambo4President
@Rambo4President 6 ай бұрын
She doesn’t have my social media, she doesn’t know my friends, she can’t even see my profile pic on WA. No stories to like, no family she could ask me about. Nothing. I always made sure she could only reach out personally and not to someone else. This is the best thing you can do in a relationship!
@kerryngai6640
@kerryngai6640 Жыл бұрын
Wow, you nailed it. My ex of 30yrs insisted (yes insist) we become friends after our divorce. I was so hurt by how he treated me the 2yrs before our divorce. He made me feel disgusted about myself and then wanting to become amicable which really confused me. In the past, we had parted and i fell back but not this time because ive come to realised he's not just a cheat but a serial cheat. It hurts but i am proud of myself by saying no this time.
@lme5010
@lme5010 Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee…you have been my go to beacon of strength since the beginning. I respect & follow your advice to this day. NC for almost 7 months. He pulled the friendship card, called/texted with nothing direct for months & still likes my posts. I just continue to just work on me. Whatever is meant to be will be. But with NC, I walked away with my head held high so that his last memory of me is one of strength & dignity as opposed to a sad, weepy begging mess. Fist bump 👊🏼
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
Why are you even still associating with an ex thriller social media? That always seems strange to me
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
LME, when my ex and I broke up, I immediately got off social media. It makes no sense to me at all for him to see/watch what I'm doing. It's over!
@RTSBone
@RTSBone Жыл бұрын
Could you please explain what you mean by "called/texted with nothing direct"?
@flaminggaming5295
@flaminggaming5295 Жыл бұрын
Hey coach lee! When I thought all was lost, and I was beginning to throw in the towel and lose hope, she reaches out. After 3 months of absolutely zero contact. It is through watching your videos daily that I found the strength to keep away no matter what, and it worked like a charm! The conversation is casual at the moment, just like you said it probably would be, but we shall see what happens! Thank you for giving me strength!
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Stay strong FlamingGaming!
@frandifrandi
@frandifrandi Жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee Hey Coach Lee, I'm in the situation where we broke up 7 months ago, we kept our communication going, I didnt know about NC yet. In the past 7 months there were times she reached out to me, showing that she needed me (mental health episode that she has), I was there for her and then breadcrumbs. Most of the time I reached out to her. The reason she broke up with me is that she wants to have her time and space to find her ownself. Just 3 days ago, i was frustrated and reached her, pleaded for chance. Do you think it will still work, knowing that the fear phase has passed for her? I feel like i've missed the chance.
@JustLIkerapunzel
@JustLIkerapunzel Жыл бұрын
@@frandifrandi Wow.. The fact that she reached out due to mental health problems just shows how selfish she is and how little she cares about your feelings as she knows you were the ome who got rejected. There is no reason for her to want you back since she still gets your attention and support on her terms. It's finally time for you to go NC! First of all IF you want her back, that's the only way as she has to first lose you to see your value because she would not have left if she saw you as someone worth sticking around for to begin with. Second of all: As someone who does have mental health issues with phases of depression - I really recommend for you to go as well NC for your own sake! You still invest your mental energy into her while you're not fine yourself obviously! You can't poor from an empty cup! You don't habe much to offer until you actually start to focus on yourself. And by the time that you invest into yourself and your well being you might start to befriend the idea of dating someone without mental health problems. You don't need to be someones rescuer. Educate yourself about a secure attachment style and make it your priority to become secure
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
​@@frandifrandi IF you want her back, I would definitely get Coach Lee's Breakup Kit. It's: myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@KirboTurbo18
@KirboTurbo18 Жыл бұрын
Any updates?
@ceeze9923
@ceeze9923 Жыл бұрын
You’re right. My ex offered my friendship. I said …” you’re out of your mind. There’s no way I’m being your friend.”
@JuliusSP1
@JuliusSP1 Жыл бұрын
what did she/he say?
@ceeze9923
@ceeze9923 Жыл бұрын
@@JuliusSP1 she didn't say anything. She just looked at me. 🤣
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
CEEZE, never be friends with an ex! It doesn't work.
@harolddasynth795
@harolddasynth795 Жыл бұрын
I won't be a friend to a woman who dump me...
@numbandintheend
@numbandintheend Жыл бұрын
I should’ve done this. Save myself so much grief.
@modernman7576
@modernman7576 Жыл бұрын
I was in a 3 year relationship and she gave me the friendship talk and I did actually see it as an insult. I simply told her I wasn't interested and went straight up no contact. If you put in the work to be in the starting line up don't accept being put on the bench.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Modern man. Good for you! 👍
@Rob-ck7td
@Rob-ck7td Жыл бұрын
How’s no contact going for you now ?
@Rob-ck7td
@Rob-ck7td Жыл бұрын
Did she ever put in the work & finally come clean?
@modernman7576
@modernman7576 Жыл бұрын
@@Rob-ck7td nope
@Rob-ck7td
@Rob-ck7td Жыл бұрын
@@modernman7576 smh, keep ya head up high man - you don’t deserve that
@reneekoffeeatwood3386
@reneekoffeeatwood3386 Жыл бұрын
My ex came over to me yesterday and asked does he have to keep making efforts to be friends😂 After dumping me we can never settle on friends! Boy Bye!!!!!!!
@jackjacky8105
@jackjacky8105 Жыл бұрын
immaturity makes me walk away forever, don't have time for little kids.
@kalvin-xp1ns
@kalvin-xp1ns Жыл бұрын
Thanks to coach lee ! You have been my rock . My wingman in my darkest days. Your videos take away my anxiety and heartbreak
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind words Kalvin! I'm sorry that you're going through this. Stay strong!
@myle6749
@myle6749 Жыл бұрын
I really like that your videos get straight to the point without a super long intro. It makes me want to watch more of your other videos and to even watch the same video multiple times.
@AreiosSeraph
@AreiosSeraph 9 ай бұрын
Coach Lee never ages.
@BoiledOctopus
@BoiledOctopus Жыл бұрын
5. Acting like nothing has changed. This is the EXACT thing that is happening with me at the moment. Broke up with me, we had an AMAZING relationship (her words), and she keeps texting, saying 'she's cracked' after only a few days. I'm responding in a timely fashion, but giving her nothing. Taking back control, irrespective of whether she decides to come back or not. Acceptance of the break up is crucial and that understanding that your ex will never want to come back to you. Go from there.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Boiled Octopus, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent! It has strategies for every situation. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@parastoofarmani6065
@parastoofarmani6065 Жыл бұрын
My ex reached me out after 9 months of NC he apologized me for every bad things he have done to me , he said he missed me and my voice, and after this conversation he didn't text again. He is just watching my stories in silence.
@voidwalker9223
@voidwalker9223 Жыл бұрын
So reply wtf
@kagamitaiga9167
@kagamitaiga9167 Жыл бұрын
So you didnt reply? He thought it was useless to pursue anymore
@1newwoman07
@1newwoman07 Жыл бұрын
This man is god sent! Trust the process
@kryptoniana9489
@kryptoniana9489 Жыл бұрын
When i moved on and decided to getting over my ex she texted me... I ignored her, but this experience showed that If i ever experience a harsh break UP... All i need to do is calm down and wait If the person is worth our love. My english is a little rusted Sorry for that
@Messyhead9teen
@Messyhead9teen 2 ай бұрын
Did she try to text you again? I ignored my exes reach out 3 months ago. I feel bad but I need him to know I have boundaries now . He hasn't messaged again, nor has he called.
@Tailionis
@Tailionis Жыл бұрын
Friends never work. Just leave. They won't chase u. Move on. It is what it is. Accept it and cry for a while until u r numb and than someone else can do it again to you
@jillransom8991
@jillransom8991 Жыл бұрын
The part you mentioned about them contacting with small talk as if nothing happened really resonated with me. Your comments on this clarified to me how to handle it better. Thank you.
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Jill, I'm glad to hear that. Do you have my Emergency Breakup Kit? If not, here is a discount code that takes 25% off the price. The code is 2A53FC. Just go to myexbackcoach.com/checkout/?level=1
@johnsmith1034
@johnsmith1034 10 ай бұрын
You don’t respond that’s how you handle it
@Yennie97
@Yennie97 Жыл бұрын
This channel has helped me so much. Not in the sense of getting my ex back after he broke up with me, but a few things: - knowing what’s going on in his head. A huge amount of my anxiety came from not knowing why, what happened or what he is thinking through this process - reinforcement of no contact!! I think I would have messaged him back if it weren’t for your emphasis on the importance of nc - knowing that one of two things will happen: my ex may come back, or he may not. Either way, it is for the best and I will be happier than being in a relationship with someone who I am wrong for & doesn’t want me in the same way These things have helped me to gain perspective and begin to detach. They have also comforted me in my darkest moments. Thank you for all you do coach lee 🙏
@gregkelly9775
@gregkelly9775 Ай бұрын
If "they don't fix it, it's gonna stay broke" - like this a lot
@shawny979
@shawny979 Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee you nailed it! I was tested. He took me around and around, before giving up and the final discard. Mine asked for Friendship and I said No.
@insaneboy1234
@insaneboy1234 Жыл бұрын
It's day 26 of no contact. The worst thing that happened to me after breakup was that there was no shoulder to cry on. My brother and sister who never loved someone in their lives laughed at me and made fun of me while I suffered in silence. I miss her like hell but I can't do anything 😔
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Elijah, you're doing a great job by staying NC. TIME is what you need. You have to get out of the house. Go out with your friends, pick up a hobby, and try to meet new people. That ALWAYS helps. Like I said, it will get better. Good luck to you..♥️🌷
@shreyansjain7905
@shreyansjain7905 Жыл бұрын
All strength to you brother. Today's my 13th day of NC. Hurts like hell, ik! But have patience she'll contact you. Stay strong. We are in this together. 🍻
@isabelfernandes1967
@isabelfernandes1967 Жыл бұрын
Day 19 of NC here !! Come on !!! We can do it !! Strenght for all of you 👏👏🌹
@DewieStewie7
@DewieStewie7 Жыл бұрын
Then get your shoulder here
@Shiprats
@Shiprats Жыл бұрын
Day 4 of NC slow but steady
@NJR1221
@NJR1221 Жыл бұрын
Just move on and work on yourself. If they come back they come back, if they don’t, just forget about them, life goes on.
@suzyben1984
@suzyben1984 Жыл бұрын
You donno how much i respect your advices, everyone is giving the narcissist devil speech and encourage us to leave without any rational explanation, you are very logic and realistic.
@aliarsenal6136
@aliarsenal6136 Жыл бұрын
I told my ex that there is no way we are going to be friends. I ignored him twice when he spoke to me. I think I hate him for the betrayal but I still like him a bit. But hopefully time will heal
@MDDR-io7nh
@MDDR-io7nh Жыл бұрын
11 months of NC after 22 years together. He's been with someone else all this while. Its definitely over.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
MD DR I would say it's over. That's a long time.
@davidpeterson9930
@davidpeterson9930 9 ай бұрын
Two weeks after the breakup and NC, my ex sent me a package of sentimental things like letters from years ago. She included a note that said "I'll always love you xoxo i'll remember our best." Also sent a text saying how she'll never need to contact me again and she wont block me in case I ever need to reach out. Recognized the bait and kept silent. Thanks coach lee.
@karlosx8
@karlosx8 Жыл бұрын
I moved to Canada from the UK for my GF of 3 years, she left me 3 days ago. I'm now alone in a studio apartment with no friends and a job I hate doing WFH for the VISA to be here. We did everything together. we played video games, watched anime, went camping, made it through covid long distance. but being here we grew apart and I pushed her away because of work stress and anxiety, I wanted to save the relationship but she didn't in the end. the day after she dumped me I had a final call to tell her I don't agree, I think we're amazing together, begged for one last chance, but I respected her decision and she said she just wanted to be friends. It's day 2 of NC and I'm in so much pain. no eating, no sleeping. everything reminds me of her. this is the hardest thing I've ever been through and I hope with everything I can get her back, but it all feels so hopeless. I appreciate your videos coach lee, I basically have them on repeat. they give me a bit of hope in this incredibly dark time
@lessthanprogaming5506
@lessthanprogaming5506 Жыл бұрын
I feel you man! 3 months into my break up now, after 10 years of what i thought was an amazing, loving relationship, then she just left me like i was a shop she was bored of being in, the pain is so hard, i went through the no eating part too, got to a point where i thought i was coping but had a really down weekend 2 weeks ago, had a bit of a break down for 2 days! I hope you heal my friend! I hope you find yourself and live your best life! Onwards and upwards
@karlosx8
@karlosx8 Жыл бұрын
@@lessthanprogaming5506 same to you bro, I'm in a slightly better place now but it's still super hard. hope you heal and move on to better things man, sorry to hear about that
@pyro.x
@pyro.x Жыл бұрын
@@karlosx8 are you doing better? I’m in the beginning stages of this
@karlosx8
@karlosx8 Жыл бұрын
@@pyro.x so much better, stick with NC. it works
@royromero5329
@royromero5329 8 ай бұрын
5 weeks and she wants me back, i told her it could be a possibility but let’s move slow and see what happens, I let the conversation die, now she’s liking all my post
@norswil8763
@norswil8763 8 ай бұрын
How’s the progress? Great news, I’m hoping to get to this stage sometime soon🤞
@Lovelylife8447
@Lovelylife8447 Жыл бұрын
Almost 2 months no contact. Short, LDR (2 hours apart)… but I had more feelings for him than anyone I’ve ever met. We had a deep connection and I was excited for our future together. He ended things abruptly and with zero/vague explanation. I’m only commenting to get it off my chest. I’ve cried everyday for the past two months (I feel so foolish for letting myself allow him to hurt me) and my emotions have yet to stabilize, but I have to keep going. I understand, that he’s probably not going to come back and I’m not even sure what I’d say to him if he did. But thankful that God is always working and has a plan for my life. He is always good, even in the storms!!
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
He either found someone else or got back with an ex. Trust me
@unkn0wnr0ckstar
@unkn0wnr0ckstar Жыл бұрын
I feel this.. we are strong. Hang on girl!!! ❤❤
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Beth, it sounds like he lost attraction for you. He probably met someone new, or is seeing an ex. Give yourself TIME, and do not contact him. Good luck to you always. ⚘️
@powerhousemethod
@powerhousemethod Жыл бұрын
Buy the kit!!! Totally saved me!!! Leveled me up hard!
@lopakadiego6358
@lopakadiego6358 Жыл бұрын
speaking facts. can't fall for any tricks. leave an EX in the past where they belong and move forward.
@salahuddinmuhammad3251
@salahuddinmuhammad3251 Жыл бұрын
often exes are exes for a good reason. There are reasons to leave, break, and move to move forward. share time with those that are good for you. If one knows their self-worth, rebuild they rebuild their lives. It is freeing.
@guillaumearnoldlewis7380
@guillaumearnoldlewis7380 Жыл бұрын
After 4 weeks no contact she messaged me, very upset. Mad because I did not reach out. I got excited and tried to rekindle. Two days later she says that she doesn't want to be with me. That hurt so bad. 😢😢 I was doing so well for the past 2 weeks.
@bruceboyer8187
@bruceboyer8187 13 күн бұрын
Coaxh Lee, your words and tone allow me to see her for who she is not who I thought she was. I went from wanrungbher back to wanting her gone unless she will totally repent andvown her actions. Reality is that she will of course not own what she did. You are able to show me the reality.
@John-lc1uq
@John-lc1uq Жыл бұрын
When someone dumps you and they give you that bs line about "still wanting to be friends" what they really want is you to be their "Emotional Tampon ". Thanks but no thanks...
@glynnellis5050
@glynnellis5050 2 ай бұрын
Thank you Coach Lee. Most definitely be careful with family and friends, who you talk to, about the break up.
@Meyouletsgo
@Meyouletsgo Жыл бұрын
5- was there I got mad when they reach out like nothing happened I had questions so we got into argument and fight !!!
@javaristurner6146
@javaristurner6146 Жыл бұрын
I knew it was best that my ex and I never spoke again after we divorced. She would have NEVER EVER stopped trying to get back with me. And/or she would have resorted to manipulative behavior when she realized I wasn't going to acquiescence to her desires for rekindling of the relationship or even friendship. She attempted to do this via text because I refused to speak with her on the phone after our divorce. Ultimately I chose to change my number altogether so she didn't even have this avenue of reaching out. Furthermore, it relieved me from even having to see her messages and efforts to continue trying to manipulate me.
@Amberhope835
@Amberhope835 Жыл бұрын
Thank you coach Lee for your knowledge and wisdom, for your time and valuable advice. I absolutely believe in no contact rule, it works, if only people are patient and believe in the healing power of time. You’re the best 🙏🏻😊
@relentlessrhythm2774
@relentlessrhythm2774 6 ай бұрын
My then ex asked me if I wanted a pair of socks and a pair of gloves back. I didn't respond because I knew he just wanted a conversation. To this day, I have not gotten the socks or gloves back, but I got him back.
@KVI580
@KVI580 Ай бұрын
Can you explain me how you did it 😢 i also want my GF back
@herenjim2849
@herenjim2849 Жыл бұрын
Iam a widow but still in school to finish my study...but my ex still disturbing me .. I live your coaching my brother... I'm a Papua new guinean
@sidd-wc3vr
@sidd-wc3vr Жыл бұрын
I've seen red flags from the beginning of the relationship but always tried to deny it and make myself believe, he just has a short temper and that's all! He is not a bad person he just gets too angry and talks shit. If I beg, everything will be fine! I was in complete denial that it was indeed a toxic relationship! Always starting arguments from a very little thing, every arguments ending on breaking up, saying everything comes in his mouth, always taking note of little things and burst them all of a sudden, everything was abnormal! He even directly told me "don't expect 50-50 rights. I have 100% and you have 0. If you want to stay you can, if you Don't, your road is open." I stayed with him so It's my fault! Now I want to get over him so badly! I just realised being with him was thousands pain but without him is only one pain! And I can't betray myself and hurt me again.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Sidd. Stay away from him. He sounds very toxic and narcissistic! I know, I've been there too!
@luismongemora2190
@luismongemora2190 Жыл бұрын
Starting the no contact method today. We broke up and she is with a guy now.. working on myself and just waiting to see what happens, but I can definitely say that I have nothing to lose now and all is to be won
@Matt-st5ty
@Matt-st5ty Жыл бұрын
I didn't know what no contact was so started the journey late, but can vouch it's worked in some way. We broke up around Christmas, I found Coach Lee a couple weeks after this and started watching his videos. She had reached out a couple times and we were talking, she offered me friendship, we met up a couple weeks after for a chat and I told her I wasn't accepting the offer. After 30 days of no contact she's reached out to me, I kept it short and light, joking around, she's said she hoped we can get back into being in each others lives/she misses me etc. I feel like it's too pressuring to ask in what way or to remind her I'm not accepting friendship and would only consider a relationship between us on some romantic level. I guess I just go back into no contact for now and see if she messages again some time.
@karenjohnson5976
@karenjohnson5976 Жыл бұрын
How's it going now?
@Matt-st5ty
@Matt-st5ty Жыл бұрын
@@karenjohnson5976 She hasn't contacted since, I'm over a lot of the hurt and although I would consider something with her in the future, for now I am now enjoying focusing on myself. I'm decorating, hitting the gym, planning a couple trips with friends, planning on learning to drive and getting some therapy sessions. I still hurt sometimes but I can feel myself healing and I'm less hopeless and lost.
@herenjim2849
@herenjim2849 Жыл бұрын
God bless you its working on no contact..a chemistry student at University of Papua New Giunea... Thanks...
@sanyahragland-oj5od
@sanyahragland-oj5od Жыл бұрын
I came here for the advice but your eyes caught my eyes and your eyes blend in with the background so well ocean eyes🌊👀😊 thank you for the advice ❤
@aewtx
@aewtx 11 ай бұрын
#5 This pisses me off. Basically what they want to do is have you boost their ego and then have you as a backup. Don't let them treat you that way. Always find someone who wants you as their #1 choice.
@dimitargeorgiev3049
@dimitargeorgiev3049 Жыл бұрын
Hi Coach Lee thank god that you are on this earth and thank you for the efforts you are making for all of us broken hearts! I have been of NC for two weeks and my case is this..she dumped me and the reason for this I think is because I left her many times because her attitude was narcissistic and selfish but every time I came back because I told myself she's young, she doesn't know what it's like to love and so on, and because I love her madly, of course. The last time we saw each other we had a fight , again because of her attitude towards me and she accused me of not understanding her and leaving me. Our relationship lasted 4 months and was very intense. My question is, will no contact work in my case, yes ,she left me, but I'm partly to blame for that too. I watch your videos every day and they definitely help me get through the situation, for which I am infinitely grateful, God bless you and courage to all!
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
Man, you basically answered your own question. You're being gas lit and used by a narcissist. Why would you want her back? Why would you want to be in that type of relationship? You're not in love, you're trauma bonded to an immature self centered vindictive narcissist. You even said shes really young so I dont even wanna know how that whole thing is working out or why you're in it in the first place. You need to run from her an never look back. Let her go. You're literally wasting your time.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Dimitar, if she left you, let her contact you. I'm not sure she is a narcissist, but if she's acting so erratically, she could just be confused. DON'T contact her, and if she keeps treating you this way, go NC...
@CoachKen
@CoachKen Жыл бұрын
Testing is a consistent part of them coming back - don't let it trigger buyers remorse or over pursuit - try to take it as confidence that NC is working and stay strong
@MissSarahGM
@MissSarahGM Жыл бұрын
Does calling for my birthday a year after the breakup, and disappear again for months, is part of dumper's testing? I decided to not wish his birthday because I don't want to signal he still has me.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
@@MissSarahGM Good for you, Sarah...👍⚘️
@MissSarahGM
@MissSarahGM Жыл бұрын
​@@jannlewandowski5540 Thank you, it'll be hard but I can't pretend we are friends as he has not reached out in months.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
​​@@MissSarahGM you're doing a great job! I am very proud of you...I was in your situation at one time, so I know it works. 👍
@kishaweatherspoon8045
@kishaweatherspoon8045 Жыл бұрын
amen doing this now💪🏽💪🏽
@Sigma2323
@Sigma2323 Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee and anyone reading this, I went out with my ex for 6 months, biggest emotional roller coaster of my life, and all of a sudden she breaks up with me out of the blue. I was confused for so long until 2 months after breakup, she posted on FB that she has BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and Bipolar 1. She posted about how she hates it and she ruins every relationship. Have you or anyone had experience with this?
@simintabriz6784
@simintabriz6784 Жыл бұрын
I have been there. Please and please for your own safety stay away from people with Bipolar and Borderline disorders.
@Sigma2323
@Sigma2323 Жыл бұрын
@Simin Tabriz I used to watch these videos about getting ex back, will she come back, why did she act this way, etc. Until I found out it was her BPD and that literally explained my entire 6 month relationship. I realized she isn't the normal type of ex gf. This is a whole different dimension of an ex
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
You're supposed to avoid those people. Also, the individual with personality disorder are usually the LAST to find out they have it. Its usually obvious to everyone else
@shawny979
@shawny979 Жыл бұрын
​@@sloanmagnum5009 You're so right. I discovered my Ex has it during the Breakup. Twisting words, lying & denying something he knew he said, Manipulation, stringing me along. Etc.. I felt like I was in a twilight zone.
@scottdavies4744
@scottdavies4744 Жыл бұрын
I feel for you. Had the same thing happen. She broke up with me 4 times. Yes I know I was stupid. At the end she admitted she was bipolar. Move on I know it's hard but you will be so much better for it.
@Therobbijamesshow
@Therobbijamesshow 10 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video - explains so much when it comes to her texting after she broke up with me.
@JenKoning-v6i
@JenKoning-v6i 8 ай бұрын
I was in no contact for 22 months. Took care of myself and created a whole new life for myself. The other day I ran into my ex and then three days after he called and suggested we be friends. I casually agreed but I won’t be calling him to talk or even hang out as friends. Time will tell if he calls again and presents a better offer. So, I guess I’m back in no contact. For those who think no contact doesn’t work because it’s been months, know that it can work after almost two years apart. But you will be a different person by then and just may be indifferent to them.
@user-hi8ig6me4t
@user-hi8ig6me4t Жыл бұрын
Why would you want ex back they cheated on you.. I wouldn't want to have anything to do with my ex ignore them block them move on so many people in the world.. why settle for less.
@AkireMaru
@AkireMaru 4 ай бұрын
Not all exes cheat. My “ex” just broke up with me because he feels my family will never accept him, which is probably true. Every case is different. Also, unfortunately there is realistically at any given time only a small fraction of people who are eligible to date you (and then those people have to find an approach you which makes it even more challenging). So breakups can be hard simply because it can be hard finding another.
@xcoachkim
@xcoachkim Жыл бұрын
This video was timely and I like the points you address Lee, very relevant for a lot of people in the FB group.
@r.maelstrom4810
@r.maelstrom4810 Жыл бұрын
Is there a Fb group?
@xcoachkim
@xcoachkim Жыл бұрын
@@r.maelstrom4810 Yeah, it's here facebook.com/groups/coachleesgroup/?ref=share
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Yes at m.facebook.com/groups/1634946860211229/
@Jus-Too-Smoove
@Jus-Too-Smoove Жыл бұрын
17:24 “A SOCK” not even a pair of socks 😂😂😂
@MsPatriot420
@MsPatriot420 22 күн бұрын
At 6 months I received a forwarded newsletter from my ex. I didn't know what to do but my gut feeling was that he was testing me to see if I was hostile territory. I received one at one month that I didn't respond to, but felt I needed to respond in some way this time. I said something very brief and polite - nothing about myself and no questions that he needed to answer. I have concern that I may have sabotaged a 6 month no-contact.
@ncfire51
@ncfire51 Жыл бұрын
I think true love and I mean really true love never completely dies, you can't turn feelings off like a light switch if they are real, patience is hard, hope is a double edged sword, I refuse to give up on the one I love even if it takes 10 years, sleep is rare, you see things differently, being broken up on your bday by text hurts, and understanding is something that I will never get, but it's the best diet ever I am down 40 pounds
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
Let me guess, this separation was recent?
@ncfire51
@ncfire51 Жыл бұрын
@@sloanmagnum5009 yeah January 1st
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
ncfire, to lose someone you love so much is very painful. A lot of people, including me, have been there. My best friend was TIME..I started going out with my friends more often, picked up a hobby, and read a lot. I noticed that I began to feel better as TIME went on. I want you to realize that doing these things will HELP you get your mind off things. Take care of YOU! GOOD LUCK ALWAYS.!⚘️
@ncfire51
@ncfire51 Жыл бұрын
@Jann Lewandowski Thank you!! And I know you're right I have been through break ups before, but this one just seems different it's like I am stuck in quick sand
@r.maelstrom4810
@r.maelstrom4810 Жыл бұрын
When coaches say that every breakup is different, not only is that true for every person experiencing them, but within each individual too. I've been in love and broken up other times before, but never felt like with this last girl (a girl i've met many years ago that i've always liked, an ex who, yes, came back).
@DanielRivera-hi3gn
@DanielRivera-hi3gn Жыл бұрын
after my ex told me she needed closure a couple weeks later she texted me and accused me of stalking her because i wasn't communicating with her and she said i was acting weird
@walkertranger5746
@walkertranger5746 Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee You are phenomenal! Coach Ken too! I’ve been listening for 2 years and you hit the nail on the head every time
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee is the best! He literally saved me years ago, and he taught me a lot. I will ALWAYS be grateful to him.
@DanielaJessup-b6q
@DanielaJessup-b6q Жыл бұрын
3 weeks no contact, been watching these videos non stop, I went no contact the day of the break up. I just found out he started contacting my friends, not to ask if I am okay, but because he wants to stay friends with them. Possible bait ? he has not returned my house key. Again bait. I starve him of my attention this time.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Daniela Jessup, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It will help you immensely. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@jakecawley9861
@jakecawley9861 4 ай бұрын
4 year relationship. We met when she was 18 and I was 23. So great but she struggles with the pressure of “freedom in her 20s”. Been broken up for 2 days now and had such a moment of weakness by calling her late night. Decent convo but trying to stay strong bc I know from experience with her NO CONTACT WORKS
@davethechosen
@davethechosen Жыл бұрын
Ex broke up with me and almost instantly slept with another guy. While I was still living there too. I blocked her on everything and went no contact for 2 weeks. She ended up calling me out of nowhere from a different number balling her eyes out. She misses me and wants me in her life but doesn’t want to get back together. I’d never take her back after everything she’s done but it’s all just so confusing
@dmil843
@dmil843 11 ай бұрын
Good for you, man. She did you dirty. She doesn’t deserve you. You should move on with your head up.
@v-feathershillvfh563
@v-feathershillvfh563 Жыл бұрын
I was broken to pieces,my good muscles fades and i turned into Bones when our love is fading..and she seems enjoying it. The best part is "Now its my turn,She cant hurt me anymore unless she hit me with Guns & Tanks"
@hilo5901
@hilo5901 Жыл бұрын
Right! The work…great point! Consider the work.
@erikhofer5285
@erikhofer5285 Жыл бұрын
I’m going to go through a few of the videos i commented in the past. But i want to start here because it’s weird how this update played out. So me and my ex split back in early October. The relationship we had was pretty good but towards the end it was rocky. She split with me because she felt as if the relationship was fake. I begged, pleaded, paragraphs all the mistakes you could think of. I broke NC a few times after and i think i called her too 😭. I had enough of sticking to something that was ghosting me and not even giving me the light of day. Left her in NC on Dec. 20th and claimed my power back. So now today i see that she’s liked a post on my social. It’s just SO weird this i just viewed this video last night and boom here we are
@amy7478
@amy7478 Жыл бұрын
Your advice is so helpful! Have you ever considered making a podcast? Would love to listen to your advice during my daily tasks 🤩
@RealCoachLee
@RealCoachLee Жыл бұрын
Amy, I have a podcast. You can find it at podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coach-lee/id1570309869 or open.spotify.com/show/1iSf252EmiGi1ER0nazkl1 or coachlee.podbean.com/
@amy7478
@amy7478 Жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee Great, thank you!
@sophiastella212
@sophiastella212 Жыл бұрын
@@RealCoachLee omg. How did I just find this out.
@donnaquinlan6530
@donnaquinlan6530 Жыл бұрын
I’m messing up so bad I have this attitude that I’ll show them they didn’t hurt me but he did I’m hurting myself by doing good
@samuraipapi
@samuraipapi Жыл бұрын
I was the dumper and realized my mistakes and wanted her back, she genuinely believes that not getting back together with me was the healthiest option which is fine and a tough pill to swallow but I hung in there. Turns out like 4 weeks after we broke up she started dating this guy (we dated for almost a year) and apparently they want to keep it a secret? I don't know because we actually reconnected like a week ago only for like 3 days and she kept telling me that she was single. She even started flirting with me again and was kind of getting jealous when I mentioned I was with another girl at the time. She also revealed how self destructive she was and that she had a "mini depression" bc of lack of confidence and that she's been drinking which was never something she did when we were together. She did all of this while she was with this guy apparently, and I'm just sitting here wondering why she would go to such great lengths to get over me and force herself to do this. I'm over the fact she doesn't want to date me again but what she is doing is not healthy and is very toxic, I still love her and seeing her like that hurt me, but at the end of the day if she doesn't care about how I feel then why should I care about how she feels?
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Cazones, when you dumped her, you obviously hurt her, and then it angered her. Give her TIME...Whatever happened between you two, hopefully could be worked out. Good luck to you.
@samuraipapi
@samuraipapi Жыл бұрын
@@jannlewandowski5540 not really much else I can do now lol she just straight up told me she was done one day and said she didn’t want anything to do with me even though she was literally flirting with me and getting jealous I was with other women like a day ago. She ended up blocking me on everything. I think her new relationship is a rebound and it’s foundation is extremely unhealthy so I’ve just been living my life, that happened a week ago. I still think about her here and there and the fact that she’s doing things with another guy just makes me sick so it’s hard for me but I’m hanging in there.
@spideymen1544
@spideymen1544 Жыл бұрын
@@samuraipapi how are y
@danielozga8436
@danielozga8436 Жыл бұрын
Lee we need more videos!!!
@sashaharvey1963
@sashaharvey1963 Жыл бұрын
Yes, @Coach Lee it brings a certain calm and peace listening to you
@danielozga8436
@danielozga8436 Жыл бұрын
Sure. U are s great man. I cant express how much u helped me.
@MsJM0923
@MsJM0923 Жыл бұрын
I told my husband whom I separated for five months now. I told him, "I am a little disappointed, but thank you for telling me the truth. What is in for me to being just friends with you? If you keep bringing up your break up with your GF and continue to remind me what I did. I guess we need to stay away from each other. This is the best for both of us." Do you think what I said to him is okay?
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Joyce's home kitchen. You were right. I would go NO Contact with him. You don't need/want him as a friend, just move on. Good luck to you! ⚘️
@whoismorenoz7111
@whoismorenoz7111 Жыл бұрын
I saw my ex when I was sitting in my car she drove by and went to a store and ik she saw me and I pretended that I didn’t see her and after she left and came back around drove really close to me to and later she texted me saying that she saw me and was thinking about stopping and taking to but that it wasn’t a good idea because she would miss me more
@sloanmagnum5009
@sloanmagnum5009 Жыл бұрын
She merely had a moment. Trust me, it means nothing in the long run. She just wants to make sure she has power over you. Do not entertain her at all
@whoismorenoz7111
@whoismorenoz7111 Жыл бұрын
@@sloanmagnum5009 yeah maybe she has a lot of moments then because sometimes she texts me randomly and then she doesn’t text me for like a week and she Come to my job one time and then 30 minutes later she texts me and it’s very confusing and annoying 🤦🏽‍♂️
@sleon2528
@sleon2528 Жыл бұрын
I started doing NC since October, and I failed twice because she would reach out and tell me she missed me and I caved in and said I miss you too. She was really emotionally intimate with me and physically too in December, but in January she told me she met someone else so I wished her well and she wished me well too and I said not to contact me for a while. Since then I’ve been doing 50 days NC. I don’t understand :/
@sleon2528
@sleon2528 Жыл бұрын
All of this is so confusing, because when she told me she met someone else she said “I haven’t been active because of my mental health and i’m just trying to find something nice. I love you always”.
@sleon2528
@sleon2528 Жыл бұрын
What does this mean ? :/
@rafaelrafael1601
@rafaelrafael1601 Жыл бұрын
I had the same experience since we broke up in October. We last met in December but she got into a new relationship last February. It's been a hard time for me. But I've been keeping NC (no contact) since we last met in december. Almost 3 months of NC. Let's keep patient e see what happens. I met another girl in January and we've been going out since then. But my ex is still on my mind. Tough days
@rafaelrafael1601
@rafaelrafael1601 Жыл бұрын
Take care of you. Go to a gym, get stronger e keep transforming your inner self . If she comes back you'll be different, otherwise you'll have a new version of you.
@SaifulIslam-xs9fx
@SaifulIslam-xs9fx Жыл бұрын
Move on you deserve better.
@concettadevincentis
@concettadevincentis 5 ай бұрын
Well, he has me blocked😂 I have no idea why, cause I haven't even remotely reached out to him. I think blocking is so immature!
@shawnsweet2349
@shawnsweet2349 Жыл бұрын
I needed this video right now Coach Lee
@lola7368
@lola7368 Жыл бұрын
My ex left about two weeks ago, but has offered friendship which I’m so upset about.😢 I’m the worst as I keep trying to talk to him, and because I live in one of his rental houses he knows I’ll always be there! I’m having such a hard time and crying everyday! When I see him I am controlling myself in some ways, but I also get angry with him. He’s telling me there’s no way he’ll come back and to hold onto the “L”. Losing him! It’s so painful and when I cry he gets more angry telling me,“there’s never one day that can be normal with you!” Yet when we talk and hangout he’ll call me “babe”, or the cute nick names he’s given me throughout our relationship. If I try and sit beside him and or hug him he’ll tell me no, you’re not aloud. And says sorry you just can’t!💔 We have been in a long term relationship over 10 plus years! Please tell me what to do, cause I don’t want to lose him 🥺😞
@LINHOSPECIAL360
@LINHOSPECIAL360 Жыл бұрын
Go no contact
@kerrymillar1267
@kerrymillar1267 Жыл бұрын
I feel so bad for you, I’ve been in a similar situation. You need to focus on yourself and let him go. He obviously wants to be around you, he’d probably regret it pretty quickly if you left him alone. But move on for real and leave him alone.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Lola, let him go! This is for YOUR own sake. Take care of YOU...Good luck. ⚘️
@LowkeyNaz
@LowkeyNaz Жыл бұрын
Help pls pls pls: so just to explain, I was his first girlfriend, and he was my first boyfriend. We dated for two months and we never cuddled, kissed or anything, except a hug at the end of the day to say goodbye at school. (Just so you can get an idea of how close/far we were) and he said he wanted a break ( he told me 379291 reasons and none of them made sense) and I just found out myself why (I wasn’t enough mature and we were both not ready for this especially me) and btw, at Christmas we decided to do a gift exchange (he bought me the most soft blanket ever and I bought him matching shirt with me) and once we broke up, he asked me if I wanted the shirt back and I said no, and I asked if it’s bc he didn’t wanted it anymore and he said no just cuz he was wondering if I wanted it yk. We broke up abt 2 months ago and he is still wearing that shirt almost everyday at school. I’m not even kidding. We blocked each other on all social media and phone and everything we don’t have access at all. The thing is, yeah he is still wearing that shirt but he stares at me in class. We never talked to each other ever again yet but he used to stare at me with just empty eyes. Like his eyes didn’t say anything. He texted me “you got to stop looking at me” and I said ok (before we blocked each other) then he kept doing it but his stare was like a demon stare. Like I was scared of it everytime o was about to cry cuz I was so scared. Recently he started to look at me with some kinda cute eyes he used to do when we were crushing on each other. And I feel like he’s tryna get closer to me cuz he find always an opportunity to get physically close to me. But we never talk. He also got friend with that girl that he darn well knows I’m jealous of her just cuz I wanna look like her (iykyk) and I wanna know what all of this means? Just pls helpppp
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Naz, it sounds like he's interested in this other girl. Also, all the back & forth arguing does NOT help. Let him go for now. Go NO Contact! Also, I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you. It's excellent! myexbackcoach.com/ebk
@gregkelly9775
@gregkelly9775 Ай бұрын
So good to hear this. He nails it.
@shivatecs
@shivatecs Жыл бұрын
Coach Lee, I love you man!
@lachlanjacques5917
@lachlanjacques5917 Жыл бұрын
Day 1 of no contact starts today. I just failed my last test tonight.
@lexlovesfood19
@lexlovesfood19 Жыл бұрын
Hi Coach Lee, I appreciate your videos. I know during no contact, you said we shouldn’t ignore our ex, but I ended up begging for him back and he got upset and said he didn’t know what he wanted. The final thing he said was that “he wanted space and would call when he was ready to talk.” I feel like he thinks I will always be there and want to get back together and doesn’t fear losing me. If I pick up when he calls then that will further prove that. Should I just ignore the call to create that fear of loss?
@mnhyti
@mnhyti Жыл бұрын
Brilliant Lee top notch.
@sidd-wc3vr
@sidd-wc3vr Жыл бұрын
Coach, I know you get a lots of comments every day. Don't know if you will notice it or not. Last year at this time he ended our 5 years old relationship and I went on no contact for 1 month. Exactly on day 30 he did came back and we started the relationship again. But to be honest instead of getting better, the relationship got worse and worse day by day. He left me 2 weeks ago! But now I don't know if I want him back or not. Maybe I Don't cause I'm realising I was in a very toxic relationship. Now I want to move on so badly but it hurts! He broke up with me saying "You are my dog and I'm your owner so you have to listen to my order". Of course after this words my self respectless gut also doesn’t wants to be with him anymore. Now I need your help to move on.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Sidd, Follow your GUT FEELING...HE'S TOXIC. GET AWAY FROM HIM ASAP!
@xtants10
@xtants10 Жыл бұрын
My ex broke up with me…..and less than 2 weeks she been out to clubs every week. I should keep up with no contact rule 💪🏻
@karlosx8
@karlosx8 Жыл бұрын
stay strong bro
@os3688
@os3688 Жыл бұрын
Not the type of girl u want anyways.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Sysensesz, stay strong 💪
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
GREAT VIDEO LEE!! 👍
@numbandintheend
@numbandintheend Жыл бұрын
I would’ve given anything to watch this 3 months ago and should’ve implemented it.
@mentor7803
@mentor7803 Жыл бұрын
sorry for my bad english but read this, please. she dump me and I was crawling to her and trying to convince her to come back 😅, after that, I went to NC for nearly a month but, today she called me over 8 calls and she was crying, I ask her what was wrong and why were you crying. and she answered that she can't handle it anymore and wanted me back and that she was sorry for the break-up but in a weird way I'm over her I don't want her so I tell her to let's talk later I'm busy right now , acutely I think it's better to move on
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Mentor, I'm sorry you're both going thru this, but if you have no feelings for her, let her go.
@williamthomas8135
@williamthomas8135 Жыл бұрын
Hey all; Coach Lee mentioned at 3:30 about ex posts "I'm sad..." on social media. So we come running to console them etc. F dumped me, then wrote poems about us on social media. Yeah, a lot of the content was about her general feelings. But let's assume for a minute the dumper writes poems on facebook about us. How does that fit in with break-up theories?
@irajessicalagua2460
@irajessicalagua2460 Жыл бұрын
I am doing NC. My ex reached out a day after the break up. Asked me how I was doing. Said I am fine and asked her the same. Told me she misses me and I take care. Told her thank you and take care too. After a day, I was left on READ and she deleted the I miss you message. After that, silence for 3 days and counting. I saw her watching my stories though. Did I blow it when I didn't say I miss you too? Thoughts? reason for break up: we both love and care for each other. the reason for our break us is her parents being against us and she is hurt and exhausted as they torment her over and over again. said they'll never approve us no matter what she says to them. We are in a gay relationship.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Ira Jessica, NO, YOU DID NOT blow anything. Parents could have a big influence on their children. Perhaps your ex is obeying by their rules so they don't disown her. Give it TIME. Hopefully someday things will be different. Go out with your friends and have fun. Let them come to you...(Keep NC going)
@irajessicalagua2460
@irajessicalagua2460 Жыл бұрын
@@jannlewandowski5540 thank you so much it's quite early on the break up and NC and my mind is like fireworks. Yes, been trying to be busy. I need to stay strong. I need to trust the process hoping it is all for our best- I appreciate this a lot. PS. We are in a gay rship and her parents just told her they will never allow it.
@G-x9w
@G-x9w 4 ай бұрын
So true.. especially about the social media and friendship..I did both lol.. wish I would’ve seen this first
@Scott-kl8qh
@Scott-kl8qh Жыл бұрын
12 year relationship 2 kids, 3 and 7 year olds. 3 weeks separated, can not do no contact for the kids sake. Bit of a challenge there CL.
@hannahdavis9560
@hannahdavis9560 Жыл бұрын
I don’t know how to not be friends while having positive interactions while co-parenting while trying to get him back
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Hannah Davis, since you're co-parenting, you both should be kind to each other, (casual), and keep it civil. It's hard when one of you is still in love, but you must show the child your attention. God bless you both.⚘️
@BlueRidgeJ79
@BlueRidgeJ79 6 ай бұрын
Same boat, Hannah. Separated about 3 months. Our relationship is friendly, we still laugh and talk about our day, etc. I don't make initial contact unless I'm sharing something about our daughter, but I don't really think I can do much else other than work on myself and fix what I contributed to our relationship failing. In truth, I'm grateful that we have the relationship we have, and I guess if it doesn't turn back towards husband/wife, I'll accept it.
@maksimilic2901
@maksimilic2901 Жыл бұрын
I accidentally clicked a video call on messenger and I cancelled right away. This happened the day she reached out with hi honey 😘 but that was it. I answered hi sweetheart 😘 how have you been. No response.... Hours later I clicked the video call on accident. What should I do?
@casa8017
@casa8017 4 ай бұрын
I made a mistake and we broke up. At first I was kinda chasing her, when I saw that she didn't want anything to do with me anymore I gave up and made it clear that im done with chasing and I will close this chapter. After that, she kept calling and reaching out to me, I responded and then she just kept responding late and ignoring me again, I again told her that im done with her beheaviour and broke the contact. Then again she reached out and did the same thing all over again. Like why would she do that?
@ReeyaAnnD
@ReeyaAnnD Жыл бұрын
This was so relatable
@Matty_th
@Matty_th Жыл бұрын
Screw the social media. Don’t react to anything, no comments, don’t even look at it. I refuse to follow her. What good would that do for you. I hid my relationship status, but made sure to be the one who switched it to single.
@jannlewandowski5540
@jannlewandowski5540 Жыл бұрын
Matty_th. I agree with you 100%. Years ago I was on fb & msgr. Never again. The first time was my ex, got out of it for a year, went back in, I ended up reporting 2 guys, my phone kept ringing...THAT DID IT!
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