Ways to Trick Narcissists (Ethically Manipulate The Manipulator)

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@creativewaysoflife4054]

Please can you tell some tricks to deal in relationship?

[@sammylenjou4235]

I love that you always look furious in your video's, like you want to eat narcissists for breakfast 😄

[@laurafuller912]

I can do this !

[@n2datasolutions443]

Watching these videos has really helped me to understand more

[@sammylenjou4235]

@@bellaboo6195 I've been tortured by two narcissists my whole life. Now they still try to but i know their games.

[@rochelleelmore5578]

Decoy actually works. I told the narcissistic I really needed certain days with my son to accommodate my job. Of course he gave me the opposite of what I asked. Little did he know I asked for the opposite of what I wanted. So I got the days I wanted.

[@kittycasino29]

Woot woot

[@wordswordswords8203]

congrats. i have some trouble wrapping my mind around the decoy thing but i think it is brilliant if you can figure out how to apply it to your situation.

[@reesedaniel5835]

@@wordswordswords8203 The "decoy thing" used to be known as reverse psychology.

[@avinashkumar-sx9xp]

First and foremost: get detached emotionally,, get independent,, physically, emotionally and financially. Second: know the rules of the game. Third: don't worry about loosing money, job etc. Forth: start enjoying the game. Be fearless, be confident. Fifth: you will win.

[@veenaseetharaman2226]

What's the rule of game, give me some light

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

@@veenaseetharaman2226 The top things are giving them what they want, just not how they wanted it, and making sure the rules being followed are yours, not theirs. Make frustrating the hell out of them with their own rules, your game. Make their 'winning' so costly to them and so trivial of loss to you that they don't feel like it was worth it.

[@veenaseetharaman2226]

@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 Doing it slowly, their own medicine..he is Not liking it🤣

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

@@veenaseetharaman2226 They never do. 😁

[@teal1010]

When the Narcissist tried to "pull the rug from under my feet", I "wasn't" standing on it!

[@lindastruckus776]

Love that!

[@gilmourishgilmourish6205]

Good for you I did stand on it many times but at the end I was the one that left and saw him crying his crocodile tears. I feel I won cause he does not have me !!!

[@bernitacenteno1326]

@ TerrinCaldwell That's funny ! 😄 but I was. That's not so funny. 😪. Overtime I've made it. I am me !

[@jamisona.5639]

🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

[@aj1984]

Love this! 🤘💯

[@PettyPotato]

Really being single sounds easier

[@Chahlie]

Amen.

[@brittanyg2529]

She’s talking about dealing with them during divorce

[@prettypenne662]

Agree 💯

[@cerenyldz2754]

I wish the only place I deal with narcissists was dating so I could solve it that easily.

[@wisesavedone2721]

Yessss!!!💯💯💯💯💯 people are a headache!! Love my 🐕 🐶 they show unconditional love!!

[@jeffg.6310]

Keep everything "contractual" - this for that, nothing more - do NOT give away: emotions, personal power, do NOT throw yourself at their mercy any longer! Stand your ground!

[@teal1010]

Exactly! Once you see who they are, use your energy to get them out of your heart and your life!

[@pinkposey8134]

Agree! 110%

[@ExoticalT369]

This!! 👏

[@priscilla.colburn444]

USE REVERSE PSYCOLOGY ON THEM.

[@karenovalasiti3261]

They are the kids who broke your crayons in kindergarten and as adults they break every area of your life

[@tamelashafer8852]

Yes... 😣

[@carolnahigian9518]

Yes! ..I see you are aquainted with my Brat Pampered cousin, her dumb flying Monkey -and my Narcissist Relative-all 3 impossible, not honest , raging Loud TRAINwrecks! three of a Kind.

[@samahbenahmed5789]

I already did it and it worked

[@mariemcadams8408]

Bingo. Deep down they are really big bullies! They get their high from making others miserable.

[@WDBDWK]

It’s good to finally stand up for yourself. The inner foundation of the “fight” is surrender. To the attachment trauma which draws narcissists to you like sharks to blood.

[@janycebrown4071]

I just ended a 30 year relationship with a narcissist. He had no insight and he never said sorry. Thank GOODNESS it's over 😌

[@myralondon1272]

Glad you doing better, as one who stayed 20 yrs, im proud of you.

[@jenamirgholi6004]

Jeez. 30 Year coma, you also just described all of my friends.

[@Nina-vv3ev]

They don’t just try to trick you … they fool others against you!

[@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD]

Honestly, the retraumatization from the flying monkeys is sometimes even more painful than the initial abuse of the narcissist.

[@SweetShaymaa]

All the time

[@dusanaeagles9950]

That is so true

[@lisakeene1407]

Sadly, yes. My mama did this to me years ago.

[@notanne2382]

true

[@teal1010]

Off and on for 10 years trying to figure out how to "make" the relationship work with him! I learned: I spent my life "trying" to work with someone that wasn't working "with" me!

[@thipimotsoare4228]

Did you leave?

[@julietgover2832]

As Rebecca said, they'll never change. Very sad but true.

[@teal1010]

Thipi Motsoare Yes!

[@LW-wg4ny]

Same with me! 21 years trying to make out marriage work, thought I’d lead by example. I kept thinking as he matured he’d change, what I didn’t realize was that I was dealing with a Narc who was incapable of changing! What a waste of time and energy. Wish I could go no contact but we have a daughter and are now mediating our divorce. I feel like I will never be completely free of him, but the less I engage in his nonsense, the better I am.

[@michelledooley2314]

@@LW-wg4ny I'm going through this too. My daughter is 9 I wasted eleven years and keep beating myself up over it

[@teal1010]

Narcissists give excuses for their behavior, but you should never make excuses for them! It'll keep you from seeing who they are!

[@dlyteeats3868]

this is so true

[@MalikaBourne]

Isn't it someone else's fault or mistake, anyway? (Sarcastic)

[@melodyslocum2309]

It worked! Watching your videos . I finally left for good. I tried for 11 years , hed hunt me down. I got an apartment two years ago, kept it even though hed get pissy if Id go there. Then he started getting worse, verbal abuse, throwing shit. So, I eased away, no sex, sleeping. nites at apt. Got all my crap out little by little, had no car. The tow truck pulled my car to my place today! A few loose ends left but its ok, Im free !!!

[@tamelashafer8852]

When you are in a covert narcissistic marriage and have no idea, you are the one that gets disregulated and look like the crazy one... it’s so sad & sick

[@carpentertom2835]

Thats exactly what's happening to me ,33yrs of this, just figured out

[@giusyscorsone2842]

yes me for 18 years and now 6 years I have to deal with this psycho in court and outside,she is messing with our son head

[@rogerd3051]

I totally agree, I think the worst part is that they lie to everyone and most friends and relatives will not ask you .

[@WDBDWK]

We marry what we grew up with. Marrying into another fused family allows the inner child to continue to imagine a family he/she never had. The guaranteed crash in self esteem from this fantasy bond is a Wifi for narcissists. Family system to family system. The desire to protect parents (or blame one parent and idolize another) is almost hard wired. It can last through a 40 year marriage. Even with that, it’s rare that denial is broken and attachment patterns in one’s own life are acknowledged. Parents are gods to children….and traumatized adults who repeat their patterns.

[@cooperhowz2]

Drama, trauma, and chaos. That's a good description.

[@judyb2199]

Was taught in Nursing School that narcissism was rare and that we probably would never see it. I don’t think so as it’s all I’ve seen. Come to find out Empaths attract them.

[@lysafisk7123]

Empaths do not attract them. They prey on empaths. Empaths are easy victims and their favorite food, the codependent types of empaths. Not all of us are codependent, though, so an empath who is not codependent can also be quite dangerous to the narcissist. That's why I'm here. I have my covert narcissist neighbor & former friend extremely confused right now but a few more great awful ideas for dealing with it can't hurt.

[@CoachTara1111]

And nursing is filled with them.

[@DonCatherman]

That's exactly what I'm doing to my narcissistic neighbor I am destroying him.. I am an empathetic person at heart but when it comes to this crap I'm destroying this punk

[@GnosisDharma]

these people are everywhere, most of them are just not diagnosed!!! For years they have said only 1 % of people and ofcourse a definition of a psychopath is some type of head ingery, but this is kind of trickery because there is lot of people who display anti social behaviour even if they are not psychopaths. Maybe just a month ago about there was an video I watched where they even said 30 % have anti social tendencies. That could actually be much closer to the truth. I have been so unlucky with people I tend to think it's more like 90 % but also I could think some behaviours is more destructive then others think so the bar for me is lower. But I have been thinking a lot about the fact that most people say that most want peace and not war well well if that was true there would not be so much drama and bullying as there is or even victimblaming and all the nonsense people in general occopy their time. Thinking that there is just a few with these problems can set you up thinking there is something wrong when it's not. Don't be naive and be on your guard.

[@GnosisDharma]

sorry noticed some words were forgotten in my reply, but many times youtube have deleted my comment when I have corrected them so I won't but I just want to say that I meant if you don't understand that there aren't just a few people who have antisocial tendensies it can set you up for confusion, you can start wondering if something is wrong with you even if it's not. Blaiming victims is very common in our society like if someone been bullied multiple times they say it's something wrong with the victim so then you are a fair target. I know this because I'm living through it, but I think when we have trauma, it can be easily spot by abusers and they surrond you as sharks. I at least should have some training how to act if people say or do that because I have no idea. Maybe what worked at home don't work in society in general.

[@annaamalia7189]

I complimented my narc. Making her feel like she is the greatest thing since sliced bread . She fell for it. And gave up her true intentions. To want everyone to become like her. She played the pity trip but did not get far. One by one people figured her out. I learned to keep quiet about my goals and progress I made. She turned her intentions to somebody else and left me alone. Give something the want and get something in return is great advice. Thanks.

[@rheasteel5833]

These approaches really do work. Even if the narcissist knows you know about them, you can convince them that everything is OK still - for a time. These approaches are absolutely necessary if you are planning to leave without their knowledge. Great stuff!

[@kimsmith819]

I love how I have a flea and tick advertising under your video. Describes my narcissist perfectly

[@Kaycee907]

Best way to trick a narcissist?........DON'T!!!!! JUST WALK AWAY! LIFE'S TOO SHORT TO GIVE THEM YOU'RE ENERGY!!!!

[@kalintini]

Not always an option .

[@K8tAlex]

Absolutely agree!

[@randydavis7718]

Verified by Experiences. Run Forrest, RUN!

[@idaeus5949]

I have to agree. The only way I've been able to successfully deal with a narcissist has been to limit my engagement with them first and foremost, if not cutting them out of your life completely. As some people have already pointed out, unfortunately this isn't always an option (custody battles, workplace issues, etc). My heart goes out to people who are caught in situations where they have no choice but to duke it out with a narcissist. It really is an uphill battle, but you just have to believe people like Rebecca when they tell you that you can turn this around. You need to believe that you can win, because the only way they can win is by doing everything in their power to make you think otherwise.

[@narcissistwhisperer]

Mastering this & being able to overpower narcissists feels like a super power. I highly suggest getting educated on them & their tactics, as well as the other roles in codependency & how THEY help the narcissist. Education is THE key. Watch every video on KZbin, read as many books as you are able, get counselling, join Facebook groups & other social media, et cetera. Education is the key to interacting with these individuals.

[@Bootchie2023]

I read & study as many articles on narcissistic behavior as possible. So true that knowledge is power!!!

[@narcissistwhisperer]

@@Bootchie2023 Please spread the word. Others need to know this information.

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

Interestingly, a very good practice field to develop your skills with is counter-trolling online trolls. Especially the present-day over-the-top leftist ones, which are primarily full-of-themselves delusional children on false power trips over nothing real. Once you can develop a counter-strategy to their nonsense, dealing with the real-world narcissists in a real-time face-to-face situation is pretty easy, given both have near-identical childish spastic false superiority complex thought processes and gameplay in how they act/react to otherwise benign things normal functioning people never think twice about.

[@narcissistwhisperer]

@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 Can you prove any of this?

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

@@narcissistwhisperer I do the online trolling daily (Exposure conditioning of sorts) and have used it in real life a few times to shut down idi ots that were sure that if they dodged the actual questions in play and threw enough irrelevant sophistry babble at me I'd give up and let them get their way.

[@ChristophBrinkmann]

As someone who just recently got away from a narcissistic roommate, I can attest to everything Rebecca is saying here. When I tried to point out the hurtful behavior, he doubled down, then tripled down, then quadrupled and so on. The last month or month and a half of me living there I gave no indication that I was fed up with his narcissism and after I was finally all moved in, I sent him a final message via link to a Google doc explaining all the bullying nonsense. Some days later his girlfriend, who I have a solid friendship with despite him, let me know that my words shook him to his core. Hopefully he'll change. I'm not putting odds on that happening. But you never know.

[@lisakeene1407]

My life has revoled around defending myself in every conversation with them. NO MORE. Thank you Rebecca for posting these videos. Your teaching opened my eyes to what I thought I knew. It's alright that I let them go.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@GG-jiggles]

Question : Do you think certain personality disorders should be taught in school ? Do you think it would cut down on the amount of abusive relationships because people can see the red flags ? Or do you think that would help them become better at hiding it ?

[@ashchan0504]

I think there should be a course called life skills and these kind of topics discussed.

[@pinkposey8134]

No, I think parenting needs to be taught. If no parents then a parental situation (community). Narcs study this stuff and are one here getting info. seriously. I see your point, however life is about hard knocks and the line has to be drawn for personal accountabilities. I am responsible for being accountable to my self and others and ya sometimes it totally feels terrible when mistakes happen. The guy that shot up my local grocery store in Boulder CO, would not have listened to this topic in school. And we both went to school in the same county.

[@cerenyldz2754]

@Dr. SAMMY BAYA The initial part could happen but being a normal member of two narcissistic dynasties I can tell you that the second won't happen bc of the nature of the disorder. Let's say 1 out of 10 future narcissists will use it to get help, and the other 9 will use it to fly under the radars better. I wish it wasn't so, but it is. They even use therapy for that, to look normal. They fool the therapists you take them to get help bc they are supposedly suffering and abusing you bc of it, and they tell the therapist you are abusing them. The best thing we can do for (either future or present) narcissists is to accept they won't change and move from there. It's much more complex than parenting or teaching. Within the dynasties we know a narcissist when they are in the womb, and it only gets worse after that, they enter old age but their psychological ages regress as if the regular 3 y/o wasn't immature enough.

[@cerenyldz2754]

@@pinkposey8134 My mother attended parenting school and used it to appear perfect outside while abusing me callously inside. Parents of narcissists aren't in need of knowledge, they are generally narcissists themselves and the knowledge about parenting is not going to be used for the sake of anyone but the parent themselves. She knew what she should be doing, she just didn't care enough to be doing that.

[@rachelvoss5519]

I think personality disorders can be definitely be included in the curriculum of education after high school. I believe that is age appropriate, as K-12 years are developmental.

[@alexandriascott4656]

This world has a narcissist epidemic sadly. Both my parents are.

[@tnt01]

low contact or no contact is the only way. they only gets worse with age. it's sad.

[@Raw_Meows]

My parents and sister 🙆

[@christybee9457]

@@Raw_Meows me too. Both parents and my sister.

[@luckied7542]

@@Raw_Meows ... same here.

[@magalover2024]

How did they keep the relationship?

[@sheridacoppa5423]

There everywhere 🤷🏻‍♀️how will we ever overcome them and our empathy makes it harder to accept what they are! Thanks for your insight.💔

[@Strutingeagle]

When you tell a narcissist you have had a loved one pass away you are likely to hear nothing but crickets. I know one that knows he is narcissistic and has said he operates on what is socially accepted for the circumstance and will respond in some cases appropriately. There is no empathy and in fact they get somewhat annoyed that you brought your troubles to them.

[@janeskey5042]

Yeah. My father died a few months ago and I got : “ he was old - what are you gonna do ?” really cold huh

[@medievalknievel]

When I told the narc of a loved one’s passing he started crying about his own loved ones passing-it was unbelievable to watch. The empty vacant soulless turd has referred to his underlings as “ monkeys”, and yet oddly enough he has the mannerisms the walk & the appearance of one himself. Clearly I’m still working on detaching there is anger here still for these events listed but I gratefully appreciate this channel it is helping me through as well as all of your stories thank you thank you thank you

[@delorestaylor8114]

Yes, they are even annoyed with the dead, and so much more the living. They are the True Dead, decaying souls.

[@cassandrahernandez4665]

This person sounds more like a sociopath than a narcissist. Run!

[@Justdessertsforme]

Being married to someone who is a Borderline AND Narissistic is an awful double dose of hell. I am glad I got out after 29 years ( too scared due to being abused). You know it was bad but when you are finally out, you can actually FEEL how much better it is without them. Thank you for your video's.

[@queenofmylife5909]

I have tried to give to the narcissist..... They only happy with that moment. Then they ridiculous behavior comes back. Giving to a narcissist is draining.

[@dlyteeats3868]

very draining......i help and here comes the list of tasks after that one favor... never satisfied

[@DevMode951]

So so so true!

[@Maha-Shakti]

Never give up never give in, just shut them down over and over. Pandering to their egos is useless and ineffective, ot just delays the inevitable...

[@LoveformaddieN]

It’s really sad when u have to coparent with one it’s damn near impossible

[@forte_cota]

Documentation is everything with a Narc...Keep it and keep it quiet. Deflect when they catch on. Pay back is a muthaf@$×+a...

[@rajappashama6247]

Walk away not fully.possible as children are held ;greyrock is not real when children are trauma bonded w ex -narc.

[@katalynbabe]

Yes

[@Livewell-xgi]

I’m sorry you are in this horrible situation. All the best and much strength to you!

[@patriciaclark1492]

Dr les Carter SURVIVING NARCISSISM ON KZbin with LAURA WHO HELPS WITH THOSE W KIDS.

[@bunnyoncloud]

What you need starts at 7:05

[@cherrybouris845]

Thankyou Rebecca, we are grandparents and she has blocked and stopped us from seeing and talking to our grandchildren. She has done the same to our son, the boys father. Any suggestions of how to barter / trick her to allow us some time with boys?

[@suehailroman12]

Ty lol! I swear she talks n talks and doesn't get to her point🤦😂

[@EL-gu8fv]

Absolutely. A grain of information clouded in a fog of word salad.​@@suehailroman12

[@sapper043]

I can definitely do this now, thankfully due in a large part to your efforts in your content. Integrity is always the best solution they never see coming.

[@georgetw7718]

Girl, thank you thank you. I've been listening to your videos for the past few months and it has helped me to get rid of the narc I married less then a year ago. I couldn't have done it without your insight. I've learned so much about these pieces of trash they call Narcissist. If any of you out there is with one get the hell away from them cause they are pure sick evil individual's.

[@anndexter-portner9983]

My second ex narc is cover and passive aggressive. It was hell and still is! My ex husband was malignant. He taught me to learn to be two steps ahead of the narc. It was hard to put my mind in that awful mind set! I’m an empath as well. I had a hard time justifying the guilt, but it saved me a couple of times!

[@aegon9015]

I love learning HOW to just not deal or how to not let them get away with stuff.

[@saltlifegull4091]

Rebecca is so young to be so dang smart, courageous, and skilled in dealing with these weirdos! OMG, what would we do without her advice and guidance? Thank you, thank you Rebecca. The world needs more Rebeccas! "I can do this."

[@deborahocampo852]

Nice comment but it's realy not about age ..some people are born with common sence ..some are not ..we all have a subject..we are good on... our talent if its writting cooking art..to simple things...she's just knows her subject. Like a dr knows there subject or a decorated knows there.. she's very interesting but realy its not about being young..or olf ..she's made it her thing ..she has to ofcorse research..talk to many..and observe others...which she's learned..interesting video .

[@RT-lp6kk]

Sometimes you have to "trick" them to stay safe without harming anyone else

[@soniais5091]

I have been doing that. She is so transparent, I can see what she is plotting or why she is talking. She doesnt know what I am thinking anymore she can only assume which is her karma for assuming that I am submissive. I think its confusing her now.

[@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD]

I can do this in Christ Jesus’ name! Thank you Rebecca!

[@barbarawebb7185]

You are obsessed

[@anoobanoo7455]

The fluffing doesn't work. It usually backfires. For example, I'll say I'll pay for supper if he fetches me. We'll still get supper at my expense but he makes me drive myself there. But if someone else is joining he will go out of his way to fetch them

[@ashchan0504]

I find the narcisst is selective. I have the same problem. I see him bartering very well with other people but with me....he becomes greedy and wants MORE and MORE

[@teresacondon33333]

Of course to make u feel less imposed than the other person and keep control i get it ♡

[@judyb2199]

But they choose the behaviors. Other children reject the behavior and go the opposite way.

[@daviedood2503]

Using the word fetch will definitely make ANYONE not come and pick you up. People aren't DOGS to come FETCH you..

[@daviedood2503]

@@tricks2564 no. It means exactly how you said it. 😂

[@kimberlyfitz8794]

My narc (who mind u walked out on us a few months totally abandoned us n I'm about 2b homeless w/my daughter) just walked in the door as I was about 2watch this....... Rebecca ur timing is impeccable lol !!! As asshole walked in the door I get the notification about the video too much !!! Anyway idk if u have done a video about it or not but I feel like narcicissts who are drug addicts are narcs to the tenth power and I would love to know how you feel and if u have different advice for those of us who have to deal with these psychos

[@gilmourishgilmourish6205]

True! They will shut off the lights in your eyes. I remember many things when I was in such a relationship. A family dinner where I was supposed to cook. A year in advance I made the menu and looked forward to it. The night before he got “sick” and made ME cancel HIS family’s dinner.. The year after it was our turn again to make family dinner at New Year’s Eve and then he went to ask family members what they wanted to eat so I never got a chance to cook for them but he made the soup.. that was the only thing he could make with the recipe next to him. On vacation I wanted to see a waterfall but when we got to the intersection he turned right instead of left. He would call me by his exes name... After a week that I left the ex moved in his house. Thank goodness I never moved out of my house , I would have nothing now. He misjudged me.. I was way to strong for him. He couldn’t control me. Even now he shows up every single day at my parking space and I don’t care anymore..,

[@louisepflaum7629]

I can definitely do this. I'm tired of being beaten down and made the bad person like a piece of shit and his family's eyes. He's an alcoholic and he will never change change. And he chose alcohol over me. It's over.

[@Lauranuke1956]

I am in a Will contest with my brother and sister. My father had dementia and they coerced my father into taking me and another sister out of the Will completely. They are both narcissistic people. It is exhausting. We have gone no contact until court. I can not believe how evil they are. I have stage 4 lung cancer and my sister on my side is also battling breast cancer. This is affecting our health. Thank you for your videos.

[@pinkposey8134]

Thank you! When I sense the defensive mechanism in a business situation, I am easily able to ask "What do you think about this xyz situation?" They drone on and on, and then I can bring it around to basically them stating my needs. Narcs are giddy when THEY think they came UP with the solutions. Anything to get that engineer of the yr award. Meanwhile, I get a bonus for on time work. Narc doesn't know on iota. Cheap trophy trinkets work. At large companies, narcs love the cheap non useful gifts, others are insulted. Please note this does not work with people you associate on a personal basis, professional only.

[@cerenyldz2754]

Hahaha this sounds funny gonna use it in the first opportunity thanks 😂

[@reswobiandreaming3644]

I so do not like playing these games.... :/

[@pinkposey8134]

@@reswobiandreaming3644 then you will be stalked by narcs.

[@reswobiandreaming3644]

@@pinkposey8134 You only know the corporate narcs, hey? In my area there's a lot of narcs that love little kiddies way too much. If you have little children, it's inevitable your family gets stalked. Trust me, you don't want to play games with these fellows. The police won't do anything to save people from them if those games go sour.

[@wordswordswords8203]

You are do damned smart Rebecca. Yours are the best videos on narcissism I have seen. Just brilliant and so spot on and practical. Also, side bar, I really like your make-up and your strong, confident voice.

[@ania5038]

I did the first one you said before even watching this video when she came up to me declaring loudly how she feels so great that she can make someone's day and I responded by thanking her for her help and asking if she could help me with something and it totally worked!

[@delorestaylor8114]

Yes, a thank you card if It deems can get you a communication avenue.

[@jessicat584]

oh my god, my husband just came in the room told me i ate the good side of the bacon. lol

[@annelaitala15]

Hilarious

[@melanieknowles7002]

Well done. Please eat the good side of the bacon again..again....oops. 😂

[@5winder]

I think the percentage of them grows all the time... NPD is becoming as pervasive as in the days of Noah --- when all but 8 souls were infected.

[@reesedaniel5835]

💯👍

[@innervison]

You have made my life so much easier, dealing with my gf, I used you tactics and I can finally sleep, eat and relax, your playbook is by far the most useful and life changing thing out there, I thank you so much for being so clear and easy to understand with results that win hands down every time,my long time gf is a narcissist and when I started following your tactics I started having peace and was able to sleep and no living in constant hell, narcissists watch out for this girl, she is the Mike Tyson of narcissist knockouts.. thanks Rebecca

[@GG-jiggles]

I KNOW these are working because I don't come home thinking about their comments. I can legit let it go in through one ear and out the other. Without her making my heart or stomach twinge by the things she saying. (A narc coworker) thank you SO much for everything you do. It's so true , they are all the same. They all like to act like their "different and mysterious" but they are seriously CLONES. It's actually funny to see now I am on the other side. Thank you again for educating us. I know I would still be a in a fog headspace without taking your advice. I also know it's working because she made the comment "I know nothing about you. Not even your fav candy" and I even gray rocked my response "I don't really have one" THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! MRS. ZUNG I KNOW IT'S WORKING!

[@GG-jiggles]

You are a true angel on earth ❤️ helping us find the light again.Were not crazy and we CAN and WILL get through this.

[@Chahlie]

I don't think I will ever be able to actually deal with them. I can pretty much identify a narc right away now, but 50 years of conditioning means their behaviour is too triggering. All I can do is make sure they aren't in my life AT ALL.

[@kavitaarora1]

Thank you for your videos Rebecca. Information is the key that you are providing to all. Best Regards and Happy Holidays

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

[@reswobiandreaming3644]

I've already had to play this smoke and mirrors game for the formative years of my life. As soon as someone shows themselves to be a narc I just cut them out of my life. That's why I'm known to be "stubborn" and "difficult" but I don't care for what people think of me. The longer you let that narc lurk around in your life, the more opportunity they have to collect data about you they can use as leverage later on.

[@delorestaylor8114]

Yup, cut the chase.

[@michellesunnylatham4046]

9:00 Wow! Thank you for saying this! My parents, friends, etc still don't understand why I can't depend on my children's fathers to ever babysit. If they know I have plans for something fun for myself, they will pull every trick to stop me.

[@melindam4841]

Thank you Rebecca. You are so helpful!

[@christianpulisic7784]

Melinda M,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

[@teal1010]

"...moving the goal post!" I was that horse walking to get the carrot at the end of the stick!

[@teedavis7119]

I was the work mule while he dangled the carrot

[@tammyrogers2475]

So glad I found you , been dealing with my narc , married for 24 years . it’s getting ugly now that he knows I’m done , he is threatening me . I’m still in my home with him only because of his stroke , very high functioning. He has damaged me , I have ptsd . I will keep listening to you .

[@legendaryecomleads7885]

Gotta wonder what is happening with our society if we are turning out some many narcissists.

[@michaelgendre]

I can do this, ethically tricking and bartering! Thanks for the advice!

[@elizabethdunham9392]

Wow! You taught me alot. I just found you. What a blessing.

[@GreenUnicorn91]

You have helped me and I'm so grateful!!

[@veenaseetharaman2226]

Thank you Ms. Rebecca, i m from India, I am watching almost all videos related to narcissism, I am in a relationship with a narcissist for the past 15 years. As I undergo with most of the videos, in the comment section people are just wanted to dump them and run.. That's the final resolute.. In our country we throw our men too, but not this frequent and easy.. I suggest you to make more videos regarding "HOW TO HANDLE THESE PEOPLE WISELY".. SO that we can handle them effectively so that they will not became more miscreants for other ladies.. Steering a man for after 15 years will b easier if I get the proper medicine for him, 🤣😂, Thanks and God bless..

[@20ASilva]

Rebecca Zung: "So I call that narcissistic decoying, it's a really easy way that you can also trick the narcissist" Sun Tzu: "All warfare is based on deception"

[@RuthNarrativetales]

i wish i found this channel 8 months back..today i feel so much power back

[@user-id9on6pp1g]

I had a boss as well as an ex who are Diabolical Narcs. Did not learn about Nism till after both were over. The asshole boss w raging temper tantrums etc, I decided not to take it personal and the damage wasn't that bad and my payback was to open my own business ultimately leading him to have to close up shop. The Narc Ex's damage was of course personal, very severe and lasting to this day.

[@user-id9on6pp1g]

@Dr. SAMMY BAYA Thank you, I realize some or many had worse experiences than I, my experience allows me to emphatise better with them.

[@palmerconnie7197]

Boss from Hell !! That explains it

[@palmerconnie7197]

The boss withheld my paycheck

[@k.g.m.254]

Excellent. Thank you. And I can do this. ☺️👍

[@rgbosteen3944]

As much time as I spent on narcissistic content videos and audios and books and stuff and experience for decades I believe that I have a master's degree in narcissism

[@tlove6932]

I CAN DO THIS!!! 💪🏼💗💪🏼💗💪🏼

[@shebakali6]

Excellent strategies. Thank you.

[@PettyPotato]

I wish i had a support group...

[@rajappashama6247]

Let.us form one then .

[@sirrantsalott]

You are awesome. I am putting it out there in the universe I meet a strong woman like you. I can already see her and I “conquer” the world from the place of the heart and authentic intent. First: healing my mother wound so I won’t repeat finding helpless, emotionally immature, and dismissive women, just like my crazy NPD/BPD mother.

[@tamelashafer8852]

The manipulation from covert narcissism is so deeply destructive... and complex... oh my goodness.. turns my stomach

[@melanieknowles7002]

Also dealing with a covert. My ex is a coward. He can act but he knows, i know he is a fraud. I have cracked him down with his own game. I have a strong personality and put it to use in overdrive. OMG he is pathetic. He did not expect my moves, so he was off guard. He still is.

[@susansullivan7513]

Being single does sound easier, sometimes. When you're older you have a different perspective, but you also know that you are hurting and it is not OK so it's time to speak up

[@tommartin7506]

Hell yes I'll drop a comment. I live your videos. They are very informative. You have great strategy as far as outwitting the narcissist is concerned.

[@nicholasgranat2999]

You have opened my eyes and i appreciate your intelligence!

[@scottk.9331]

Beautiful, educational information. Thank you.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

[@embracing_self]

This is so informative. Thank you, Rebecca ♥️

[@lifereceiver3661]

1. Supply for supply 2. Decoy 3. Dont tell them your leverage

[@teresawaid6088]

My daughter is a Narsesst and she's hurting me not physically but every other way she breaks my heart cause i love her i can't walk away😪💔😪💔

[@sooome9294]

I have a son like that. I learn to get him speechless. I took Rebecca's advice. I just practiced today because he was in his mood. 🤷‍♀️

[@robertabraun6084]

Dealing with my oldest daughter... she yanks the grandkids around like their a playing card. The baby dads are never allowed another relationship and she uses them as pawns to keep her supply. I just told her no more fighting on the front lawn. She hated the your are not going to be doing that here. She lost her mind. And then for 4 days threatened me about a $60 pair of pants. Totally lost her mind on social media. And when people saw this. They called me so I told them the reason I said no to her. The supply is running out.

[@teresawaid6088]

My daughter is so ungrateful my cousin who i live with let her rent a room also. As of 2 wks ago Monday she received a eviction notice then as of last Friday i also got a eviction notice because she is my daughter. I have been my cousins caregiver for over 2 yrs we've never had a cross word I'm disable and 61yrs old i don't know what ill do Amanda ( my daughter) wants us to get a apartment I'd rather be hit by a mack truck unfortunately i may not have a choice! Somebody help me i haven't got nobody to talk to I'm ready to just give up

[@karishort1891]

I had to walk away from my daughter and it hurts like hell but I was out of options. Literally it came down to me or her and I wasn't about to give up on my own life. Pray for her and move on. It is the only way. I am sorry you are hurting.

[@teresawaid6088]

Well my daughter got me evicted I'm 61yrs old disable and now homeless with the hell am i suppose to do

[@michellequon1240]

I have been dealing with this covert for over 33 years and he is closes to me.

[@eileenpreste6801]

I love it when he tells me I need to be on meds everybody needs to be on meds these days. So I went into therapy when I left him the 1st 100 times and you're right he comes crawling back every time I leave him now I have the controll cause I'm not there to feed him anymore

[@lolainthestrts88]

I love you!! everything you are saying are the FACTS! you definitely know what you are talking about! I have listen to countless of others who really don't know as much as you do. I am soooo happy I found your channel, every other speaker say the only solution is to leave it alone because the narcissist always win. I do not agree only if you know what your doing. in my case its a business narcissist partner so I just cannot walk aways after what he has done, he also has confessed to me he's done damage to others who are unaware of including his own parents.... one of my favorite sayings... Its a double pleasure to deceive a deceiver.

[@darjibhogilal6507]

Treat narcissistic behaviour as a one character dramas/mono acting.

[@mariahwhite7487]

"Integrity is my love language". I love that. Me too!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

[@tamelashafer8852]

9:00 in... learning this the hard way but my nature is transparent honesty... so many tough lessons 🥺

[@erikacline5330]

I CAN DO THIS💪🙏👑a 💯!!! Thank you so much for all internationally, motivation, and inspiration you have given to many us!!! You truly change lives!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong! ❤ Join me in my free webinar - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop

[@silviamoraru138]

Thank you very much ,Rebecca! 'from Tuscany-Italy

[@lalehvint7088]

I thank you for these tips but I must say they will be super difficult to implement because it doesn't feel entirely authentic. Fluffing boy that one seems hard!!! I never realized integrity can be a love language! Now that I know I really feel that it must be part of mine. (And why my narcissistic abuser didn't like me noticing he is not with integrity) I feel it is so damaging to enable them even a little but yes you are so right when you need to get them to function in some way.

[@lindajohnson314]

I can do this and in fact did it in my divorce!! You are so right!!

[@moonmagnolia7]

I’d rather give compliments and fluff their ego than be beaten up verbally and emotionally for them to get their supply.

[@dlyteeats3868]

i like when they give the silent treatment lol that means no tasking and they don't come around

[@kathymoonier1687]

I'm to tired to play games he moved out if state so I don't have worry about him he took a lot away from me...I'm to resentful to deal with him he already has another woman I'm still trying to heal I'm still single

[@kathyhansen2820]

Maybe being single's not a bad thing. Take your time to heal.

[@valerieshearmanmusic]

I can do this! I’m living with a real Covert N I’ve known for a while but feel trapped but!! By accident I did use one of your methods about the compliment you des and it does stop them in their tracks !! Sooo well. Also the yelling at you then say stop yelling …well Im not yelling ? So also it’s then I really with these 2 things from your podcasts it confirmed this diagnosis slam dunk!! Thank you. Need more tips

[@MsPegasus1001]

Dealing with a covert narcissist turned full blown destructive narcissist is the worst.

[@katalynbabe]

Oh my these are legit. I've been in this game 16 years!! We share a child Its constant chess games and exhausting.

[@goldcicvibefel9966]

Get a carry permit and training.. ❤️

[@kywired3539]

Lolols!!! Does seem easier than all the therapy & the fg degree in psychology we end up!😏☺

[@goldcicvibefel9966]

@@kywired3539 🤣❤

[@michellesunnylatham4046]

1:15 I would bet money that the stat is more like 1 out of 4. At least that's how it's been in my life 😵

[@thebiscuitrose]

I can do this. I will do this. I have done this. I love this. Thank you.

[@nsf555]

Thanks for sharing

[@whereisyourhumanity7557]

I wish I could write enough to tell you how I tricked my narc ex husband into increasing our daughter's child support payments. All by negotiation; no lawyers or court or State. Your channel is right on, and fabulous!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Check this out - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop Keep slaying!

[@Truthster772]

Because of what they’ve done, I guess you can say they have the advantage or “upper hand.” That’s not the problem, the problem is, I am the covert narcissist now who is very passive aggressive in my correspondence. Not everytime. For the most part I submit, you know the phrase, “pick your battles.” But when I do decide to speak up, I tend to be very passive aggressive. Is this wrong? I mean, they have what they want and all that will hurt me (my children) and so they don’t really need that constant “fix” from me, until I ask for something I already know the answer to, but I do need it on record what is said. The question itself isn’t wrong, but I know which subjects I can talk about and cannot talk about with them. That’s when they get their supply. Sometimes I do not respond, and sometimes I do, intentionally will a passive aggressive undertone.