I Got Beaten Down And Bullied All My Life But I Didn't Stay Down And Turned My Trauma Into This

[@HealthCores]

How do you cope with the pain from your trauma?

[@HealthCores]

@ItsMinkiFilms Self compassion and cutting myself some slacks are my biggest lessons this past year ❤

[@colepatterson5366]

I have to put myself around others with similar experiences since my way of coping over the years has been to isolate. That has been a counterintuitive approach for my mental health. It has taken a long time to feel safe to be vulnerable with others. I'm working on being open & honest every day.

[@venkat4167]

You didn’t choose to born in your household. You can’t change your past. You can change your future 😊

[@HealthCores]

@@venkat4167 There are so many things that we can't control so we can only focus on things that we can...our health, our family, and our future ❤

[@HealthCores]

@@colepatterson5366 Yeh we all lived isolated inside ourselves because that's what pain does to us. Thinking no one would understand. But there are more of us out there and I am hearing more stories like yourselves as people are beginning to speak up. Keep going and you no longer have to live with your pain alone in silence ❤

[@cheryldingley4546]

“Turn your pain into purpose..” that’s exactly what you have done.❤️

[@HealthCores]

We have to do that or else that pain can consume us. I have seen pain sending people to a long life of addiction and imprisonment.

[@cheryldingley4546]

@ you have a grit and a fighting spirit. So you studied hard, trained and succeeded amidst circumstances that would make most people break. Very inspiring and a lesson to all of us that we are all able to transform out of victimhood into self empowerment. Thank you

[@AlaskanInsights]

Circumstances do not define a man,, they reveal the man to himself. That's some pretty intense stuff. I ran away when I was 16, left it all behind.

[@HealthCores]

Our past do not determine where we go. It does take a lot to get started, though. I am glad that we both got out of that environment to find something better 🙏

[@Psychology-tk1zi]

I haven't experienced that torture you've been through. You endured heavy outrageous child abuse and it's a wonder you made it through and even became that reflective person that you are. You've been very hard to yourself for so long. It really makes me happy to see you becoming your own best friend, caring for your wellbeing and stopping the violence and disrespect towards yourself! You deserve a great life and I wish you all the best for you and your family! Thank you for sharing your story!

[@HealthCores]

It's easy to start believing that you are not worthy growing up when you are being told that every day. But the moment we decided that enough is enough nothing anyone do or say could break us down. ❤️

[@markj7612]

You are superb speaker and a superb counselor. We don't need more tech in the world. We need more people like you It's absolutely amazing that you came from such a horrible, abusive childhood and have accomplished what you have. Many men who went through similar experiences end up in prison. I hate violence. I even stopped eating meat long ago because of the torture that's inflicted upon animals. I was fortunate in having loving parents. There was only love and kindness in our home. The Dalai Lama said "Kindness is my religion". The entire world needs to be transformed into a place of kindness. You have certainly done your part - a kind, wise man. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@HealthCores]

You gave me goosebumps when you said "prison" I actually thought about that before and glad that my path to life could have been the complete opposite. I have seen it with my own eyes in my family. Someone up there got my back for sure. Thanks for bring here and be together on this journey as always 🙏

[@TonyWKoo]

My opinion is that trauma, whether neglect, abuse, bullying, abandonment, coercion, rejection, ostracism…trauma tends to make people feel worthless, insignificant, invisible, powerless, useless, like trash. And if we keep on telling ourselves that’s who we are, then we believe that we are worthless, insignificant, invisible, powerless, useless, trash. This is a lie. No one is like that. There’s no such thing as a worthless, useless, insignificant, invisible, powerless person. Everyone is extremely valuable, capable, significant, powerful person. That’s the truth. But the trauma makes us believe in the lie. I try to re-parent myself now. I try to be the parent to myself that I never had when I was a child. I try to talk to myself kindly now (I used to call myself stupid, useless, worthless, a failure, a loser)…now, I try to tell myself how much I love myself, how I’m sorry for being so hurtful to myself, and to appreciate myself.

[@markj7612]

First-rate comment, worth reading several times. Truth. All people are divine, powerful beings. Within oneself, that doesn't change, no matter what happens. Sometimes we have to re-connect with that awareness.

[@TonyWKoo]

@ there’s an old saying, hurt people hurt people. The people who treated us like trash, they were probably treated like trash too, by others. And so, that attitude and that behavior spreads like a virus. It’s hard to break the cycle. I’ll admit, I’m not always a saint. I lose my temper sometimes, I say and do things I shouldn’t say and do. But I know my God still loved me, and He sees me as His precious child. And He wants me to treat others like His precious children too. So I do my best to be a better person, even though I mess up a lot of times too, He still wants me to get up again, and keep trying.

[@markj7612]

@@TonyWKoo First-rate comment. It's difficult to be human in this world, but with consistent effort we can always better ourselves and make a better world. You are correct: violence is cyclic. We can break the cycle.

[@HealthCores]

Yes that is absolutely true. People want us to believe in their lies to keep us from being who we are and living the life we want. It takes lots of challenges to remove ourselves from that toxic place to rise above. Our self-worth does not depend on what they say or do to us.

[@rhskomorebi1210]

The hardest part of healing trauma is forgiving that persons and situation to feel free from that 🕊 I proud of you brother ! I proud your innerchild too🍀 Thanks for share your story, I can feel that level of deep knowing inside of you ! Keep going in your journey of healing and im sure you can see more light ✨ Stay healthy💚 Im sorry, please forgive me, thank you, i love you to your innerchild 🙏🏻

[@HealthCores]

Letting go is definitely the hardest part. I am still learning. ❤️

[@stephanl2409]

Trauma can make you a monster or the bravest and strongest walk the path of transmuting the pain so you dont pass it on in the world. You are a Hero bro!!! Much Love

[@HealthCores]

They say abuse runs in the family but we are here to break that cycle and prove them wrong ❤️

[@solgarcia5684]

The moment to say it’s not to bad, it will be better

[@HealthCores]

Yep definitely could have been worse. Happy that we could come out of bad situations alive and thriving 🙏

[@ThelmaM123]

It's incredible that you went through all that horrible stuff, esp at such a young age when you had no defenses, and still managed to find your strength. You did not let yourself become a permanent victim. Look at everything you achieved in spite of the trauma. And you did not become embittered. You managed to open your heart to love and now can give your family what you yourself did not receive for so long. Your suffering has been great. May your happiness now be even greater.❤

[@HealthCores]

I decided early on that I couldn't let the chaos turn me into a victim of an environment that I had no control over. I did have control over what I was thinking in my head, and that guided me most of my life. Thank you for listening ❤️

[@kyetran]

From my heart

[@HealthCores]

Thank you for being with me on this journey and much love for your support 🤎

[@thatShelbyMo]

You're right, brother. I kind of have the same past-with a mentally unstable father who never provided for us. My brothers each had their struggles: one was addicted to drugs, and the other drank heavily. Everyone seemed careless about the family. Luckily, I was the older brother who tried to help my family while keeping myself clean and maintaining a number one image. That helped my family stay on track. Our mother was abusive, especially toward me, bullying me since I was a kid. I thought that was normal. But my mind was strong, and i turn that to good energy to push myself forward, and even after getting high degree and diplomat and work hard i still getting bad behavior from my mother, so i decided to leave the country and seek a normal and safe life without the panic and fear and stress that made me loss my hair .

[@HealthCores]

That's right bro. The best way is to stay away from them. I tried to pretend like it didn't happen but it only made it worse. Live your life your way and without them is best ❤️

[@venkat4167]

Throughout my life, I endured bullying from various people-within my family, at school, and at work-though I wasn’t fully aware of it at the time. Now, at 32, after going through therapy for stress-related issues, I’ve come to the painful realization that I allowed others to mistreat me for far too long. This discovery left me in deep shock and trauma. I also understood that part of this was due to my parents’ negligence, which allowed others to take advantage of me. I’ve accepted that I didn’t have control over my upbringing, and that acceptance helps me move forward. Given the damage caused, I know I can only do so much to heal, but I’ve taken important steps by distancing myself from those who have bullied me over the years.

[@HealthCores]

I thought that life was "normal" but nothing about talking down and beating down on kids is close to being right or normal. I am going through the healing process as part of my journey and call it for what it is "abuse" No sugar coating makes the journey ahead easier. I wish you well on your journey ❤️

[@LifeCode360]

Thank you so much, you have no idea how much you help me. Specially, that I can relate to this.

[@RemusMihai-by9mu]

Shocking, I congratulate you for your inner power. God bless you and your family.

[@HealthCores]

Thank you. I always feel that the Spirit up there is watching over me ❤️

[@MacwinsTV]

Thanks for sharing you experience bro , keep living life with happiness you are not alone remember always. ❤

[@HealthCores]

Yes, we have to learn to live with the trauma and not let it bring us down ❤️

[@forblianonym9642]

I resonate with you, i was beaten too and relate to all your problems. Isolation, depression, rage, resentment.. hope we can heal ❤

[@HealthCores]

I know exactly how that must have felt like. I was there for many years. Things like that change our entire lives. But we still have the power to choose our own way to live moving forward. Take care and I hope you can rise above all that trauma.❤️

[@forblianonym9642]

@HealthCores thank you. And thanks for sharing your story ❤️

[@rosemaryjohnson6308]

lets do this together, i was abused as a child and ended up married to an abuser for 36 years, divorced now for 11 years and i could not be happier, be with the people that build you up not tear you down, build your own tribe, love i have been there

[@HealthCores]

It's such a drag being in a relationship that brings you down. Family or not, I chose to stay away. Thanks for sharing.

[@petelao9]

Thank you brother for sharing your story. It’s incredible what you have to overcome to escape that life!

[@HealthCores]

Sup bro. Man it was like coming out alive from a nightmare. I can't forget those days but at least they didn't completely destroyed my life. We are in control of our future, bro.

[@DKcrazy-i1z]

Subscribed to you man! Hope it helps your channel grow!

[@HealthCores]

Thanks for the sub and for your support. One new friend at a time ❤

[@hinocenciopaulo]

Beautiful!

[@HealthCores]

Thank you❤️

[@Grateful0384]

Wow ! Nicely expressed.

[@HealthCores]

Thanks for listening to another one of my not so glorious story from the past❤️

[@Grateful0384]

@@HealthCores anytime. See you on the next one.

[@NJHMhandyman]

I feel u man. I had similar issues. Joined Marines too 🫡

[@HealthCores]

Ooorah! Yeh man I am glad we chose a better path despite what happened to us. Semper Fi!

[@Austin_B97]

22:42 what is that noise? Sounds like the camera was picking up a radio frequency or something.

[@egodeathplease]

I had similar experiences when i was young. Fortunately. I got an early parole and moved away when i was 12. 😂 they say hard times make strong men. Strong men make good times. Good times make weak men. And the cycle continues i guess.

[@megaztg8881]

And yet…. Family constantly drilling the idea of family comes first, or blood thicker than water into your head

[@HealthCores]

It only makes sense when we have a family that actually protects and cares. A family that doesn't constantly make you feel like a loser.

[@megaztg8881]

@ exactly, it like you constantly keep your guard up when going out into the world, dealing with toxic and horrible people. Then going home and still keep your guard up because you don’t feel safe to be vulnerable; to be you, at home. It makes you feel like you are fighting a war on two front.

[@HealthCores]

@megaztg8881 I fought that war on both fronts for many years. It affected my ability to make any real friends or have any real relationship. But hope is out there. I now can be myself with my little family. Still fighting the war when I am outside.

[@adaburzdziute2916]

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[@robg8502]

😊😃👍💕

[@Zeronull-v3s]

Im sorry you had to go through so much as a child. And you put trauma how it is. Trauma doesn't happen to us but what happens inside of us from the traumatic event. Its a wound. I also have trauma that occurred when i was a child and it was in front of me but invincible for so many years. And thats how it is for many others. Anyone reading this, search Gabor Mate. He really is helping me understand trauma and for me to understand my own trauma. He is amazing and shows compassion. Thank you for this video❤.❤ ❤❤

[@HealthCores]

I tried to lock it away for years but it still showed up in unexpected ways in my life. It’s better that we deal with our demons head-on and recognize them for what they are ❤️

[@VirginHolyFire]

Lord Jesus Christ is the only purpose of human life. God created us to love him, and in him is the rest so many people have turned away from‼️🙂

[@KatetheSkate911]

🤍🗝️🕊️🙏🌎🪽♾️🤍

[@mr.seanster]

Do you go to church? I feel like you have a natural way of helping others. Maybe you would enjoy going to church and volunteer there. That being said, I don't go,. lol Just thought you're pretty good at it.

[@Michael-v8p8f]

Boomer generation of abusers. I was also one of their victims.