wedding planning update: i already have regrets & made mistakes

Today we're switching things up and instead of vlogging, I decided to sit down and talk about where I'm at in the wedding planning process. Zac and I get married in less than 5 months (eep!) and I thought it'd be beneficial for those of you who are also planning weddings if I talked about my regrets, mistakes & decisions I still have to make!
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0:00 why/how I'm planning my own wedding
2:14 regret #:1 destination wedding?
5:10 regret #2: the weekend we picked
8:25 regret #3: the venue
9:57 a controversial decision
12:13 i made a mistake
15:28 i made another mistake lol
16:33 wedding dress regrets?!
18:34 first look decision
19:50 the facebook groups...OMG!
21:17 what will zac wear?!
22:13 the one time i got mad at zac...
23:27 spray tan?!
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Hellloooo! My name is Clancy and I'm originally from Long Island, NY, whch is about 40 minutes from NYC. My fiance, Zac, and I decided to put our things in storage and travel the country. Crazy, right? We'll be sharing all of our adventures right here on my KZbin channel, so be sure to subscribe to follow along!
I love making all kinds of videos, focusing on everything from money and finances (saving, budgeting, and being financally independent in your 20's) to health, fitness, and nutrition, to beauty and fashion. I'm getting married next summer so I also love providing wedding updates and showing you exactly how I'm planning my own wedding.
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[@betsybabf748]

My mother was a bridal designer. We started planning a huge wedding then just eloped. No regrets. Marriage is about the life, not the party. With a wedding though, no pressure or stress. The laughs and memories years later end up being in what went wrong.

[@Mayyccaa]

This made no sense haha I’m confused

[@MegaBpop]

Can I use your statement? Marriage is about the life not the party. Well said!! You need to make a stamp out of it.

[@shineinstars]

the last sentence is confusing lol

[@lauraelisee]

I really encourage you to at least have a bouquet for yourself. It really makes the pictures that much more beautiful! And you could even do greenery or fake flowers to add a little bit of color to the decor.

[@hottagirl1]

She mentioned she will have a bouquet :)

[@jackiekupper4972]

I used wildflowers!

[@crystaledwards8854]

I imagine it gives you something to do with your hands, too! I’d hate to just stand there with my hands like by my sides feeling awkward. If you’re holding a bouquet you can hide behind it a bit! Can you tell I wouldn’t want a wedding, haha

[@lauraelisee]

@@crystaledwards8854 I said the same until I started planning my wedding and Covid hit 🤣🤣🤣

[@claudiat.2662]

@@jackiekupper4972I love that idea!!! I’m also considering planting my own 😂😊

[@AmericanWoman11]

This is me a year ago. I felt that way up until my wedding day. Biggest thing I will say is MAKE SURE YOU EAT! You get so busy having fun and talking that you literally forget. Our team actually had us eat during cocktail hour and they had a nice romantic setup for just us two with the full menu. It was a nice break from the ceremony ending to being “on” all night at the reception. Both of us are introverts and it helped us with not feeling overwhelmed

[@heykiley]

We did a first look and it doesn’t take away from the magical moment. It was actually our favorite moment of the day because that’s when we did our private vows and got to spend time just the two of us. And getting all our pictures done before the ceremony was a plus!

[@rachelgrant2401]

You should have your cousin do your makeup at your wedding! It looked so good in your recent video.

[@14music123]

I came to comment the same thing!!

[@victoriacisneros17]

Agreed!

[@carochan86]

That's a good idea. Then it will take some stress off Clancy.

[@soniasoto4936]

Why are you teĺl uswhere u r having your wedding.

[@inyourdaydreams7576]

You’re not the only one who “doesn’t care” I’m a wedding photographer and I got married at my home. We bought a house rather than spend that money on a wedding. I have shot 100s of weddings and I still don’t get how people spend all that for one day lol

[@lindsayklatt272]

Small, simple ceremony over here! No regrets! You’re speaking my language. ☺️

[@emmaranzetta8461]

I love how realistic you are about your wedding. I'm only 22, and definitely not thinking about getting married anytime soon but it is nice to know the behind the sense of what it is like money-wise for a wedding. Definitely will be coming back to this video in a few years!! Thank you for telling the truth about weddings!! I am so happy for you and Zac!!!

[@janeb7795]

Ohhh Clancy I just love your videos!! You’re so relatable, I love how you try to be frugal, and not always rushing to buy the latest trend to show off to your audience. You’re just so level headed and real, I enjoy your content so much! 💕

[@elizabethkranzush5086]

I love love love how realistic, simple, and practical you are. Not just doing something because it’s the Trends or bc everyone else does it. I admire that about you!!

[@EmilyBlogs]

Idk flowers were my favorite part of my wedding and they were only $1400. We had flower columns, bouquets, 10 centerpieces, small centerpieces for hightops, flowers for the groom/best man. It was a million percent worth it.

[@EmilyBlogs]

This was in Pittsburgh (city proper) in Oct ‘22. If you do a small business owner the flowers arent expensive and they are truly pieces of art.

[@carochan86]

Clancy use to have flowers all over her house from her brother. She has a flower connection. He could give her a sister discount . He could do the fake and real flowers for the wedding.

[@gardengoddess936]

“Only” lol not being mean but $1400 is ALOT of money for alot of people

[@dantieblackbfly5443]

Flowers don’t appear to be what she’s personally passionate about. She’d rather put the money towards other aspects of her wedding 🤷🏾‍♀️ I love that she’s not falling into the wedding norm/standard.

[@heykiley]

I got married last summer and I felt the same as you. I didn’t want too much and we kept everything simple. Everybody told us it was the best wedding they’ve ever been to. You don’t need fancy things to have a good wedding!

[@joaniemedert4724]

I loved this video. Reminded me of vlogs you did back in Cincy. Just you being you, talking about something we can all relate to.

[@ravenblakley6142]

I love your sit down talking videos! I think you stance on weddings is very valid! I feel like in The simplest words you just care and more concerned with the people at the wedding not the things at the wedding!! Also the longer you’re home the more your accent is coming out 😄💗

[@user-vg9gp7dy7l]

Hi Clancy! Thanks for making this video and being honest about being different when it comes to a wedding! I totally can relate to just having a simple wedding!

[@Vrsenese1095]

I got married last august with 100 guests! My best advice for anyone is do not please other people. This is your wedding and what you want, people will figure it out to get there and have fun. ❤ you’re so close and I am sending you all the love in the last few months to wrap up planning.

[@Vrsenese1095]

During planning I did majority of coordinations but never made a decision without my husband ! It was so helpful getting his opinion

[@meghanchoate2398]

I had already sent out invitations, paid a deposit on the venue, bought my dress and decided it was making us too stressed out so we just eloped. We ended up losing the deposits but still saved so much money compared to what we would have spent by the end of the wedding, people didn’t end up having to travel, like it just worked for us. I just got too stressed!!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Good for you for making that decision and knowing what was right for YOU! 💞

[@MegaBpop]

I hope so many other brides reads your post. You are a very smart woman.

[@meghanchoate2398]

@@MegaBpop thank you! I’m sure it wouldn’t work for everyone but it worked for us!

[@emilyskinner3187]

I feel like I can relate so much!! The wedding is going to be amazing.

[@angelenaklosner4569]

We Eloped/small wedding July 2021 with just our immediate family and best man and MOH and it was the best decision ever!! We rented a big cabin in the mountains and got to really enjoy the day. I am a low maintenance girly too and I honestly didn’t want the stress and planning of a traditional wedding. You are not alone!! ❤ It will all work out, truly! 👰‍♀️🤵‍♂️

[@erinmctague7188]

I want my wedding to be a happy medium, not completely basic but not extravagant either. I think as long as couples do things that make them happy for their wedding that’s what counts. I can’t wait to see your dress it must be beautiful 💜

[@sylviawu9921]

Omg Clancy finally someone who also feels the same way as I do! It's refreshing to see another person who is not head over heels obsessed with planning their own wedding and fawning over how amazing the whole process is. It is really not fun planning the wedding, totally feel you on wishing I eloped instead. Like you, only doing this for family and friends. Cheers to us getting married in 2023!

[@StarletNikes]

You do you, Clancy Burke! You're amazing and are doing great!

[@charleneb5361]

This is enlightening wow I didn’t know how much went into weddings! Now I feel more sure of my decision to have basically a step down from an elopement…when that day comes, I’m not even engaged yet…despite pressure from my family to have a “real” wedding or else I’ll “regret it” because I am too shy and wouldn’t even enjoy a family party! Clancy, you definitely sound like the sane one in this situation!! People go crazy!

[@Megmeg123]

It’s so hard to know what you’re gonna care about until the day comes! I have things I’m so relieved I didn’t do/buy even though it seems like everyone does them (ex. “Unplugged” sign for the ceremony or misc. decor to fill spaces). And definitely a couple things I didn’t think I’d care about but ended up regretting not doing. It’s tough to know when you’ve never done it before!! Good luck Clancy!

[@dimpledarling55]

My wedding is a couple of months away and I really needed this "deinfluencing" style of wedding content 😂 It is so easy to get caught up in it and there are things I've had to just put my foot down and say this is not worth the stress.

[@SavannahRose1597]

You are so sweet to think of everyone else, but put yourself first!! It’s YOUR day!! ❤

[@denisem1093]

We were planning our wedding and realized the cost kept getting higher. I wanted a simple but beautiful wedding but didn't have the money that it came with it. Drama came while were discussing the guest list because we didn't want kids at the wedding while his sister was upset because she had a 3 year old that she felt MUST be at the wedding. While planning one night my husband stopped me and said "hey lets just go to Vegas and get married just you and I". I said when, he said "NOW". We got up, packed a small suitcase and headed out. NOT ONE REGRET!!! 10 years later, we renewed our vows with only our parents, siblings and our nieces/nephews at the same chapel we eloped. IT WAS PERFECT. We just celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary. Wishing you all the best.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Hahahaha omg that’s amazing 😂😂

[@Badfishtooo]

Definitely your wedding, your choice, but I would probably feel some type of way if my sibling didn’t want my kids at their wedding. That’s your niece or nephew.

[@denisem1093]

@@Badfishtooo my husband was the one that had said that he didn’t want them at the wedding. He & I wanted an intimate wedding. We agreed that saying our vows with a kid screaming and crying throughout the WHOLE entire wedding was not for us. However we did tell her that the kids were welcome at the reception. She disagreed.

[@SDot2385]

I’d feel some kind of way about my sibling insisting on me inviting her 3 year old who could potentially ruin things while also having no memory of them. Glad you guys did it your way!

[@thepatriotess4279]

So your sil finally got her way and her kids came to your renewal of vows ceremony 😂😂😂 older of course

[@emmaagte8600]

Flowers are so hard 😭😭😭 they cost more than anything else I swear but they bring the space together. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world and one of my besties had done some floral design so we bought the flowers in bulk and she arranged everything for a friend rate ❤ couldn’t have been more appreciative to have that- we saved thousands of dollars with how beautiful it all turned out. No matter what Clancy, you’ll be the most beautiful thing on your wedding day and that’s all anyone will notice 😊

[@AILEEN_MARTINEZ123]

That’s great that you and Zac planned the wedding that you both wanted. Without the help of a wedding planner. I’m sure your wedding will be amazing and beautiful. 😄

[@blancheperezvlogs126]

I lovee how you just say it how it is. ❤ ugh Im with you on so many things

[@lauraowens7323]

Celebrating married 13 years next month. Married before pinterest but still had a great time. Had the same mentality you do when ut came to all the fluff. We did bouquets for myself and bridesmaids with faux flowers. I still have my bouquet this many years later in our cabinet. We spent the majority of our budget on food and photography and would do it again! Enjoy and whatever decisions you all make will be perfect for you!!

[@GnosticChic888]

Sooooo happy you will do your makeup - you are the best at it!!! Same with your hair - you know what looks best for you - you can do it!!! 👍🫶💖

[@rosepetal0523]

This was all so validating. We got engaged around the same time, and it sounds like our weddings are now a month a part! I'm right here will you on almost everything....and I agree it just feels odd sometimes with the reactions I get. Don't stress, not worth it, just about you and Zach at the end of the day!

[@meaghanbell5393]

Clancy! I’m a fellow low maintenance bride. I know you get a bunch of suggestions/opinions but I only have one regret after my wedding.. I loved my bouquet (but I agree, other flowers at weddings are crazily overpriced) and I wish I had saved it and used the dried flowers in some art work. People press dried flowers or put them into a paper weight/piece of decor. I wish I had done that to have a small momento! Plenty of small business artists do really cool stuff with bouquets. Just something to check out if it sounds interesting to you

[@ZoeMiyoko]

I'm getting married in less than a month and I am so happy I had a planner to help! I did a lot of stuff myself but it's super time consuming if you are working.

[@user-xm7ho6lb5f]

Current bride here, screaming and crying at the price of flowers! I ended up choosing a garden venue and all the flowers are built in. It’s a great alternative.

[@KareyV]

I can say everyone has dress regrets. I remember crying the next day because I thought I picked the wrong dress, because it was completely opposite of the dress I had always imaged. Once you get your dress in your hands, you put it on, and you know that dress is 100% your dress, you’ll fall back in love with it! ❤ Don’t worry about having these feelings it happens to every bride!

[@christinathompson3259]

Finally someone with common sense. It’s so refreshing to see that someone else isn’t wedding obsessed! I love this!!

[@agaveparryi6280]

Thank you for your candid insights which is so aligned with mine ❤. You bring me comfort knowing my attitude and approach to wedding planning is not far fetched or unusual 😊. Wishing you and Zack all the best in your future together ❤

[@hotgirlsuffering]

i can’t believe you’re less than 5 months away from getting married. it seems like yesterday you announced he proposed. i can’t wait to see your wedding dress!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

I know!!! Time flies 🙊

[@kelsey3506]

I spent less than $200 on flowers between my bouquet and my husband’s boutonnière. One of my bridesmaids gifted us the bridal party bouquets because her mom made them for us. I never remembered any flowers from any weddings I’ve been to but I do remember watching my friend throw all of her flowers away after the wedding and all I saw were dollar signs on fire 😬. I also did my own makeup and I have zero regrets. I knew it was how I liked it and I looked like myself but “elevated”. You’re doing the right thing!

[@nicoleparker5387]

I love your view on the wedding planning. I did a "traditional" wedding which was great but my husband and I always say we would have been perfectly happy eloping too and saving that money! Also, you can totally do your makeup yourself.

[@kimkayross]

I had a "first look" and I am so glad I did! We had fun taking the pictures before the ceremony with our friends and family. One of our favorite pictures from that day is a picture of us sitting on steps in the church looking off camera and laughing. When the ceremony came we were so relaxed and I just really enjoyed the whole day. I also have done wedding coordinating for a photographer. And I would tell people that were trying to decide to do a first look or not. 1. Your hair, makeup, flowers etc. will never look as fresh as when you first put them on vs. after the ceremony. 2. Do you really want the first time that you see each other that day be with 200+ people staring at you? I love the private first look with the bride and groom and photographer capturing that sweet alone moment before the ceremony and celebration begins.

[@vickimarsh4107]

Keep it simple. Weddings are for everyone else !!! Do what you want and you’ll have no regrets!!😊

[@daniellepeterson6147]

Clancy!!!! I have never heard anyone else say they are an introverted extrovert!! I am too no wonder i like watching you!!

[@Jakerdog11]

My Fiancé and I are eloping and we are very happy and feel like for both of us it is so freeing! Also any wedding vendors or venues are so expensive that it makes more sense for us to elope. So don't feel bad if you do decide to elope in the end. You can always plan a dinner and celebration afterwards. Either way super excited for you both and I hope you enjoy the day and don't have stress or worries about everything being perfect. Just have fun!

[@kellyb7171]

your makeup skills are so good ! don’t listen to anyone , you don’t need a makeup artist! i do my makeup everyday and i feel like ik what looks good on me and what doesn’t so i wouldnt either !

[@zuleykasepulveda1873]

I was waiting for your upload like crazy!!!! 🥰❤️

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Aww thank you!!❤️❤️

[@elizabethcheung6207]

Good morning Clancy, it will all work out, it always does. You and Zac are meant for each other and i am anticipating seeing your wedding picture. 💑 thank you for sharing and see you Saturday.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Aww thank you!!💞

[@Sunnylaze]

Clancy, I love your honesty!! Good luck, everything is going to be smooth because whatever happens that day is what is meant to happen! It’s interesting to see what it’s like having a longer engagement. I had a 3 month engagement ;) and wasn’t easy but I think because it wasn’t so long I barely had time to even really think so much about if I really liked my dress etc. sometimes less time is better! And I had the best. Day. Ever!

[@jennymartinez9538]

Wish I could insert a screen shot of my son and I talking about you!! It’s been years that we have watched you and love your content as you navigate life! Love your channel more and more and more! You also have responded to my comments and not like a robotic reply, but you take the time to truly reply… You LOVE your viewers and interact with us! I’m sure I speak for all of us, THANK YOU CLANCY FOR BEING THE SWEETEST!! 🥰

[@SuperTwilightfreak20]

I am having the same exact thought process with my dress! It is not at all what I thought I’d go with and keep questioning my decision but I was so happy and comfortable in it

[@shannonography]

PPPs. Do NOT do a tanner before wedding day. It does not look good in pics. If it isn't natural, don't do it.

[@roseb6248]

I totally agree on the not caring about a big wedding!

[@alexh6244]

We did a first look and we loved it!!! We also exchanged vows during our first look and it was probably my favorite part of our wedding day. We wanted to write our own vows, but we didn’t want to say them in front of everyone, so it was really meaningful that it was just us (and our photographers haha)

[@arleneisabela31]

My cousin did candles and rose petals on tables and flowers as a backdrop for the wedding ceremony which were moved to the reception hall ... I had so much, I didn’t even notice until she told me. She saved thousands. The venue was beautiful which probably made it easier not to notice ❤️

[@CottagevilleCozies]

I would say I’m an extroverted introvert as well and agree with so much about what you’re saying 😂😂❤️ I ended up having around 130 people at my wedding, but I absolutely see the appeal of a smaller gathering as well. One thing I will say about flowers- I had flowers made from book pages- so much less expensive than real ones and Ill have them forever! We did that for bouquets and then had non flower centerpieces.

[@heatherdennis4827]

I am eloping to Italy for my wedding. Just immediate family and closest friends. I feel the exact same as you! ❤️ I never saw myself having a huge wedding, it’s just not me. AND… it has saved me way more money than you’d think!

[@chelseapritchard2117]

I got married at a courthouse in San Diego, California, outside near the water. Never knew they did outdoor weddings at a courthouse. It was simple, inexpensive, and perfect for us. We took pictures next to the boats at the harbor. Never would have guessed it was a "courthouse wedding." Only the immediate family was there. I couldn't care less about a wedding so it was perfect. I think I got my dress for $50!

[@annalamp4897]

It seems like you have appropriate expectations and are doing what you think matter the most! As long as you are happy and have a level head, the day will be great because it’s a party with all your closest people!

[@Mayyccaa]

I just got engaged last month!! Thanks for the video. Tbh I love the vibe haha you’re so chill about it, I am hoping I feel the same :)

[@racheln1374]

My advice is make sure your photographer gets pictures of the back of your dress! I know that sounds silly, but I had such a gorgeous train and open-back on my dress and I regret forgetting to ask the photographer to get a picture of it. Also, make sure you get cake! I made a point of carving out time to eat a piece of our cake before we left the reception! I’m so glad I did because it was delicious!

[@rubyrose20159]

I totally get all of this. When we were planning our wedding, my mother in law felt like she had all the say but wasn't paying for any of it. It finally got to the point where I was like THAT'S IT, WE'RE GOING TO VEGAS. Southwest had a $49 fare to Vegas (this was back in the day when flights were actually that price, friends fly free, and all those other nostalgic deals) and we got married at Paris Las Vegas with just our closest friends and family. And honestly, out of all the traditional weddings my friends and other family have had, everyone still talks about our $2000 Vegas wedding and how fun it was. Vegas weddings are not for everyone, but for us, it was one of the best decisions we ever made.

[@cynthiabrickley]

Clancy, I spent nearly nothing on my wedding flowers and I did real flowers. Much less than what you were describing so it is possible! I also did my own makeup and only paid for my hair. We did a first look and it was the best decision ever! IT WAS SO SO SPECIAL! My husband still cried and I balled my eyes out walking down the aisle because that is still THE moment and it is emotional! I recommend it because you actually spend more time together too the day of! Also I am so sorry that Taylor Swift is going to be there the same weekend!! So happy for you!

[@user-zy2ui5ds8l]

First of all THANK YOU - I feel like weddings are so fantasized and really all that matters is the people that you care about supporting you. If I could do it over again, I would do a destination or a small wedding with 50 people who are really in your life.

[@Titus2Chic]

I'm so you, Clancy. (Pause in my comment b/c I'm looking at how beautiful your nails are while you're talking about the flowers ... gorgeous nails!!). Anyway, totally agree with you about a destination wedding and NOT spending thousands on flowers. Shout out to you for making decisions based on what YOU want and not what others may expect of you. The wedding is going to be beautiful.

[@lamasfea9307]

Yay, we finally talked about the wedding 😄

[@AIIiecat]

I actually planned and catered my own wedding and my sisters did all the flowers. It was a beautiful wedding and I have no regrets. I was in culinary school at the time so I was able to hire some class mates to help serve and everything. I was literally in the kitchen cooking up until two hours before the ceremony, then did my own hair and makeup. This was many years ago, but still, it was as amazing as most weddings I’ve been to or catered over the years. My venue was in Sausalito, overlooking the San Francisco Bay. That’s the thing that people will remember.

[@cordelia8473]

Several things! My anniversary is July 6th 🥰 We barely did any flowers and what we had was fake! I did my own makeup because I wanted to look like myself and I love my pictures. I also started to second guess my dress but I ended up falling back in love with it when I put it on on my wedding day! I would 100% recommend a first look, not only for logistics but also because it was my FAVORITE part of my wedding! It really eased my nerves and made the day so much better ❤

[@laura9435]

I didn’t know what my venue looked like until I showed up. My Mom used silk flowers (fancy word for fake) and it was beautiful. I was so hands off. I didn’t care about anything but the photos. It turned out nice. Thanks, Mom!

[@Kelsey19955]

My husband and I eloped. We told all of our friends/family ahead of time and everyone was supportive though some had questions which is somewhat understandable. No regrets at all! I’d do it all over again and again.

[@sis51613]

Our wedding is end of May, and wow. This wedding vlog is so refreshing. I’m drowning. And have same thoughts as you when it comes to saving money.

[@heyMommaToni]

in the end, the wedding is for you and Zac. I planned mine in a week. We threw out the plans for a huge wedding and threw a small wedding with about 30 guests. And it was perfect for me. Only thing I would have changed is the date. We got married May 4th and live in AZ. Cinco de Mayo (May 5th) is a huge party holiday here and it's hard to go out to dinner on our anniversary weekend without there being a huge drinking crowd. LOL We usually do it the weekend after for that reason.

[@farmgirlwithcurls]

Love hearing about the wedding planning! I did a first look too for the same reason and it worked out great. My husband wore blue too. I didn’t do flowers either, I did fake flowers and they looked realistic and were way cheaper. I also did my own make up and hair and I felt myself that day.

[@emilyirby6189]

That NY accent came out during the facia story! You’re the cutest 💕 Thanks for sharing your wedding thoughts!

[@em71988]

My one advice for Zac’s suit is that you want to be really specific as to what color you are requesting. When my dad was in my uncles wedding probably in the 70s or the 80s the tux were supposed to be powder blue and when he went and picked up the suit it was canary yellow!! There was a lot of scrambling that day to find the correct one. 😂 I’m sure y’all will look perfect on your wedding day! I can’t wait to see pictures!

[@Megmeg123]

My vote for the suit: blue or grey! They’re best for warmer weather. Also black has always felt very plain and more funeral-appropriate lol My hubby did a blue suit (not a tux…plain old suit from a store lol) and his groomsmen did grey in the same suit.

[@kyairamarbury]

😂 Clancy coming in again with the relatability. For my 16th bday I went to six flags in GA (which I went pretty much every year during spring break) with my mom, dad and little sister 😂 then the next day I got my wisdom teeth removed 🤦🏾‍♀️ and my husband and I did an eloping ceremony instead of a wedding because I’ve never been into being the center of attention. It was just us and we both loved it. 💛

[@jessicameyer3875]

Love the wedding 💑 update 😍 glad you guys are setting it up so you can enjoy the day ❤️ sending you an up thumb 👍

[@lindseym329]

Getting married this august and definitely feeling the pressure about finding vendors who aren’t already booked. I totally agree about those crazy FB groups though… there’s so much negativity and I honestly don’t know how helpful they are so far

[@LoMcWil]

Four year engagement here (still finishing up school) and taking notes on how to approach planning in the coming years - this vid is greatly appreciated!

[@mo-shariellefson693]

I had a 4 year engagement. So don't be upset about waiting! totally understanding wanting a specific season! my husband and I wanted Halloween. so we waited it out!

[@Dmarie1078]

No matter what It's going to be magical and beautiful!

[@christinasantamaria565]

I was SO excited to see this video! We are doing so many of the same things! My wedding is in October and no bridal party, flowers, planner and we hate big parties so we are hoping to keep it casual. I’ll be using faux flowers or dried lavender for centerpieces/bouquet. Also need to book hair and makeup and catering still. Eeekkkk!

[@sydneychristensen2058]

I don't blame you for not feeling the need to go over the top with the wedding, I feel like it's so easy to get caught up in a million details that also end up costing a million dollars. To be honest I feel like when I get married I want to do an elopement for the actual wedding ceremony and then just have our close friends and family come for a reception/party to celebrate a little bit after. Plus you did your makeup on the news every day, you can definitely do it!

[@theawukufamily]

I did my own makeup for my wedding because I knew I like the way I do it, and I don’t know that I like the way someone else does it 😂 even a pretty makeup look just might not be MY vibe. You’ll be just fine doing your own!!!

[@SavannahRose1597]

Also, about the hair- my friend did her hair just curly/wavy like her everyday hair. She said it’s her day and she just wanted to feel like and look like herself. So I vote Clancy waves/curls!!

[@ritabarnes2440]

I agree you should do your own makeup as you do a great job! I truly think you do your hair great but understand if you don’t want the stress that day. I love your outlook as far as no bridesmaids, no crazy expensive flowers and letting Zac decide which color he wants. The amount people spend on weddings just astounds me! Would much rather save some of that money for a house!

[@VondaDriver]

You do you. Who cares what anyone else has to say about your day, your decisions? Good luck, life’s too short to stress about happy times, sit back and enjoy the journey.

[@7BillionReasons]

Feel the exact same way about sweet 16s/weddings/any events that have something to do with me!! Felt weird to not want attention, but I hate it! I want everyone to be happy so it stresses me out and during a wedding, birthday, graduation, I dont want to be stressed.

[@dianavel9989]

I think it is more common in US to have a small wedding or elope. We had a destination wedding in DR and it was one of the most amazing moments. And we had a wedding planner, which was the best decision because we didn’t know nothing there.

[@KeeleyKirkley]

I love how laid back you are with wedding planning; I'm the same way! I'm getting married this August, and my wedding planner (a family friend) asks me all these questions, and I say well, idk😂 I am so sorry about the hotel block! As for your hair, I definitely recommend half-up/half-down look for you. And for your makeup, if you feel comfortable, do your own! I felt the same way about my dress like I made a mistake, but every time I look at it, I'm so excited and fall in love with it all over again. Lastly, I'm not doing two dresses either because it's so expensive I'm wearing it all night😂

[@bonnielefkowitz-white707]

We had a destination wedding and it was one of the best decisions ever! A few close friends and family-memories to last a lifetime!

[@vanesarodriguez7575]

Truest me ALLL those feelings go away when you start walking down that isle!!! ❤

[@angelita9572]

I think your choice of blue for Zac is spot on👍

[@jacquelinemcdunnah501]

I feel everything in this video! Our wedding date is the same as yours and didn't realize how everything would be more that weekend. Also, flower costs are crazy... so we are doing silk flowers for less than $600 lol just not a priority to us. Your day will be amazing and don't worry, you 100% aren't the only one who doesn't stress or believe that you need to spend a fortune! Enjoy your day :)

[@boogsb462]

Thank you for reminding me why I got married in a courthouse ceremony. Even that had stress. Remember it is just about the two of you.

[@MitelefonoRoman]

I totally support you. Always felt the same way. Wedding planning is awful .Big weddings are a total waste of money

[@ashlyhuff8932]

I’m a may 2023 bride and the Facebook groups are insane!!! It rips people & their relationships apart. Left those groups real quick! I was also a little torn about first look, but decided to do it. I’m not paying all this money to miss any bit of my wedding! Friends & family are traveling and my priority is spending time with them & my new husband, not just taking photos to document it 😂

[@katiemann9898]

I highly recommend a “day of coordinator”! Totally agree keeping it simple and saving money, but you may not want to deal with the details on the day ❤