I’m an early childhood educator and playing by himself, laying by himself etc is extremely important for development to eventually learn to be independent. It sounds weird to think about looking so far in the future at that age but the early years are what shapes the rest of their lives. Studies have shown how children are raised and childcare settings as babysits and toddlers had a direct link to success as an adult. Such has more absent parents and not a great childcare centre was very obvious in later years same with good parenting and a good child care centre showed them to be more successful in later life. Yes you want to be present and a great mom but having him play on his own for 15-20 mins is completely reasonable and it becomes more important as they get older

Yeah your videos definitely make newborn life look like not a good time. I think it's good if people see this and don't want to have kids. If they know they're going to be miserable or not good at it, they shouldn't do it.

You and Zak are rocking it, keep going.

I was already scared about becoming a mom I know it’s chaos. I won’t have any help when I do become a mom so I’m nervous about not showering. I don’t want to take a leisurely half hour shower or anything but I hope I can get a 10 min shower at least 😂

I am so thankful for your videos. I am a few years out from having kids, but your videos give me encouragement for that next phase of my life.

With a big decision like whether or not to have kids, it’s hard to be 100% sure, so it’s human nature to reconsider when a new viewpoint is presented. Please don’t change a thing. There’s a ton of factors in such a personal choice so if you happen to be the deciding factor for some people, it’s certainly not the only information that formed that decision.

I see why people who were on the fence that they don’t want kids. You need to talk about the good also not just the bad. All I hear about from you is the bad of motherhood. There needs to be a balance. It comes across as you are not happy about it and don’t love it even though I can tell you love Decker. This was good to hear.

Omg our coffee is so similar! I do the stok cappuccino iced drink and the fair life chocolate milk, half to half ratio!

Love your realness and authenticity!

Ugh 2 hours pushing ?! I hate when nursing / doctors make women start pushing at 10cm and that’s not how it goes / our bodies will tell us when it’s time to push - it’s why I only pushed for 5ish minutes for all 5 of my babies!!

Omg! My epidural only numbed half my body , they had to adjust something and re do it and it finally worked!!

Zac give our girl grace she truly is soooo incredible!!!

Girl we have 6 kiddos , I’m pregnant so we are a family of 8 with a big white fluffy cat 🐈 so let’s just say we have about 10 loads of laundry per week- so if I fall sick or have to be on bedrest (like now with my HighRisk pregnancy with a cerckag) I got behind like 27 loads 😢 me and my husband and both my teenage girls had to really zone in for 3 days and knock it all out. It’s been 5 days and we have 3 FULL BASKETS 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

Seriously, the l&I nurses are incredible!

I enjoy the realness of you vlogs .. this is real life.. thank you for being you !! ❤

Any person who decides they do not want to parent because they see it can be difficult on someone's video is definitely not the person who should be having children anyway. That is basically the biggest sign of low competence there is so if you are sealing that decision for them then you are doing society and potential children a wonderful service.

I love your videos Clancy. I have a 7 week old so it’s been fun following along with you on this new motherhood journey. I can relate to everything you’ve been talking about lately. And I agree, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been but it is also hard to manage my normal day to day stuff..we’ll figure it out!

Dasher did look noble. I love how much you love your family.❤

My dog goes the same thing with my couch and sideboard! Haha. I’m glad to know she’s not the only one. 😂

I can’t believe people would say that! 🤣🤣 Well then I guess it’s a good thing bc it’s so much harder at times than you’ve showed. If they can’t handle that then they will never survive the teenage years! Trust me, I’m a mom of 3 and they are all 16 and older. So don’t take it as a bad thing, they just aren’t meant to be a parent. I think everyone should start out with a puppy. If they can’t handle the puppy then it’s prob not a good idea. Parenthood is full of the best times, the hardest times but omg is it so worth it. ❤ Clancy, I appreciate you showing the real! And not grabbing a camera every time something personal and loving is happening. You really enjoy those moments and so many people don’t do that bc they are too obsessed with getting content. You’re doing great! Watching you as a mother has been a wonderful change to see. ❤

17:51 pausing the video to say, I’ve been on the fence about motherhood too, and if anything, seeing YOU do it makes me feel like I can too. We’ve been living a very similar life, a year or two off. I graduated college 2018, worked in news during college, got married 2020, bought a house, got a dog, etc. we have so much in common and I see myself in you. So when I see how you are knocking motherhood out of the park, it makes me feel like I can do it too! To be fair, people are going to make their life choices based on all kinds of things. They could literally walk past a penny, face down and be like, yep, that means I shouldn’t have kids. It’s all confirmation bias. Just keep doing you, Clancy! ❤

you aren't anti-motherhood, people are just losing respect and hard work that it takes of motherhood. We lead privileged lives, where we don't really face true struggles in every day lives, so seeing hard things feels crazy un-doable! Hard things are always relative, what's hard to you may be a cake walk to someone else because of the things they have and have not experienced in life. Just like your pain tolerance is totally skewed now that you have endured something so painful! I loooooove seeing all the good, bad, and ugly, as I will be giving birth in a week!

How are you getting through the sleep regression? Did you sleep train?

To be honest, since you came back to YT after having Decker, I've felt that your mom/newborn content has been very mild in showing the struggles of motherhood from a first-time mom perspective. I expected you to struggle a lot harder and portray that in your videos. You haven't though, and that's good for you. Glad you're having an easier go over motherhood than other moms. Every mom is different and every baby is different. It's all hard at first because you have to figure everything out extremely fast, but once that passes, it's super fun and rewarding. If people think what you've shown them so far is hard or overwhelming, then maybe they're right in their decision not to have kids, because it could be a lot harder. I think you've done a great job adjusting to motherhood and staying positive. Partly because you have a great support system.

First time mom here, just here to say I appreciate the realness sooo much! My baby is only 5 weeks old and these videos are so relatable. Motherhood is hard, but it is so beautiful! Thanks for being you and sharing the real stuff. 😊

I really really don’t think you’re turning people off from motherhood. You are showing the reality and for some people they don’t want that reality. For me, I really appreciate people showing the good, the bad and the ugly. Actually it’s made me excited for the years ahead and the challenges ❤

I had to pause the video. WHAT? Absolutely nothing Clancy has shown warrants a comment like the ones she mentioned. Clancy actually makes motherhood look easier than I found it to be. Keep doing you Clancy. ❤

Babe! I’m 7 weeks and just found your pregnancy/pp content. It is a breath of FRESH air to see you going through it and embracing the challenges. I feel inspired/empowered. Esp when I see you still prioritizing nutrition/wellness in little ways while you’re babe is so little. I also am amazed at your quick recovery. I hear so many stories of women who have many months of recovery after tough deliveries. Even though we have little control over how things go, it’s refreshing to see someone have a challenging yet rewarding and beautiful journey. LOVE YOU!

I just got my first order of AG1 and love it so far!! I appreciate your honest and raw journey with motherhood! I myself am a labor and delivery nurse and I am wanting children of my own in the next year or two really love seeing what a day in your life looks like. I don’t expect you to say it’s all sun shine and rainbows because it’s not and that’s the honest truth! I love how you worded that you’ve never been more happy in your life but you can be honest and say not every moment has been the best and that’s just what it is. You’re an amazing mom and I love seeing your journey! I know these videos will help me when I have my own❤

Don't feel bad ab those few comments. I don't think they realize what they are implying to you, I just think people get used to commenting and are always thinking of themselves. I feel like that can be a very neutral statement, realizing all the work and change parenthood brings may very well make someone on the fence realize that they don't want it. But its no secret motherhood is hard and your videos are real which positively affects many more people than not. It's your life and you're just documenting, youre not pushing anything or doing anything wrong

I don't want kids, both watching you before and after you having a kid, but I still enjoy watching your content because you're awesome! I do appreciate you not including when he's screaming or crying because some KZbinrs include that and I usually listen with headphones so it literally hurts my ears LOL

I think you are doing nothing wrong. I think more and more people are already on the fence about having kids so seeing a DITL vlog just helps them confirm their decision and that’s ok. 😊 We are all called to do different things. ❤

If something is simple as watching someone else’s video of being a new parent, decides for someone that they don’t want kids then truly I think that is the best decision for them. If one persons video “solidifies” one of most life altering decisions, then it shows where their heart really lies with it and maybe they just needed the validation of feeling the way they do 🙏🏼🙏🏼 for years and years before I became a mom I would watch people with new babies the good and the bad and I would always think “that looks so hard and I am so scared, but I cannot wait to have my own baby in my arms cause I know it’ll be worth it” And nobody’s videos ever swayed me a single percentage. Please don’t let comments like that get to you or leave you feeling any sort of responsibility 🙏🏼🩷

Ur doing a great job I find this positive

I think for us folks who don't have an inherent desire to be parents, watching any parental vlogs can serve as a reminder that if we do not already have a natural drive to raise kids, the tough and real day-to-day work that is involved would be overwhelming, frustrating, difficult, and challenging to the extent it would ultimately not be fulfilling. I don't think it's necessarily a negative indictment of you or any other parent sharing their life! It just showcases that amazing moms/parents like you have "the thing" that makes this difficult work all worth it.

Clancy: "there is no boss" Decker: "wanna bet?"

You are a natural mother. People are just over-exposed to an aesthetic ideal online that is not realistic and inauthentic. But this is your life to live as you want and those comments are clearly designed to get a reaction. You are clearly the happiest you have ever been and this life suits you. It's clear how protective you are of Decker and how much you protect those private moments you have with him.

Clancy!! Hint! STOP folding! Seriously. Get baskets. Throw socks in one. Wear only black socks or white so it doesn’t matter what two socks you grab they match. Throw onesies that Decker wears at home in another. Throw your at home T-shirt’s and pants in one. Stop folding! Hang or fold ONLY good clothes that wrinkle. I promise the laundry police will not show up and ticket you AND (insert drumroll) no one cares. 😂 this was a life changing concept for me

Hi Clancy! This is so off topic. But a few vlogs back you were telling bout this new device you were using to help fight break outs and aging. It was a wand of sort with different light options. Can not find the vlog. Thought I saved it but I guess I didn’t. I so enjoy seeing this phase in your life. You look so happy and glowing.

I do laundry everyday with 1 kid. I just feel like if I don’t put a load in every night I will get behind 😂

I love your videos and love your honesty about motherhood! It helps others be more prepared for it

I'm sorry, but I literally BURST out laughing when I heard what you wanted to chat about. I thought you were going to say people have been saying they don't want to watch the vlogs anymore, due to it being very much centred around your birth, and motherhood, as it should be :) But that is laughable, IMO, you have made it look easy. Yes its hard, and you have been sharing struggles, but you also show how rewarding it is, the love you have for that little boy is so sweet. You are showing the good, the bad and the ugly(tearing during birth) and i would think it would better prepare ppl who are thinking of having kids, and not putting them off. You are doing great - i love seeing all the things. If it has put anyone off, it may have just not been for them to begin with haha and not because of you!!

Keep being you!! Authentic

i remember watching you as i was growing up you were just a teenager, and now i’m approaching my second trimester and watching you talk about birth!!❤

15:48 omg this brought me BACK😭

This is very much a reality of being a mom. You need a support system to help you with kiddos so that you can take a shower run an errand etc. You are sleep deprived and your life revolve around a little human. It is what it is .. on the flip side the amount of unconditional love you build with the baby is amazingly beautiful and through the struggles the beautiful moments are forever precious

My son is 23 & he was my only one because it was so hard!! I appreciate your perspective on motherhood as it brings light to reality. I think you are relatable & showing anyone wanting to be a parent what life with a newborn is really like. I wish I had content like this back then because I felt so alone & isolated. Just watching makes me happy to know raising a human is hard & beautiful at the same time so thank you for allowing me to see a glimpse of your experience. You both are amazing (btw Zac saying the first 3 weeks was hell & he is correct)

One guarantee with your videos is your transparency. You give your views on life at the moment and you balance respect for your viewers with your truth. I feel that those who have messaged that comment about deciding not to become a mother is them realizing that it’s not all rainbows and sunshine. Your honesty of how you feel, your sharing of this journey is educational. For some, as you said, they’ve seen other content creators share the perfect story. But seeing what it takes to be a real mother, to truly take care of your child has given them a wake up call. So don’t take their message as a negative. If they are feeling this way it’s because you have helped them realize that they aren’t ready for that responsibility. That’s healthy for them and for any future children they would have or still may have in the future. I don’t think it’s a criticism of you but a testament to how great you are at sharing the real journey. Your truth may not be how motherhood is for every mother (as you mention when you talk about your journey) but it is truth for many. You are doing an amazing job! Going from occasional interactions with children during family events to being responsible for another life 24/7 is not easy. You can research every aspect but the clinical trial is always going to be different! lol You are amazing. Zack is amazing. Keep that in your heart! Zack knows it, Decker knows it, Asher knows it, we know it, and I hope you know it! Oh, and I didn’t get to comment last video but the shaved look is killer on Zack! Few men can. Really rock that look and he is one that can!

Just paused the video to tell you that your realness is excatly what I love about you and your channel Clancy ❤ Becoming a mom is a big decision and it's really valuable to offer a realistic and nuanced portrayal of what it's really like!